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"Let's include all types of relationships - not just state sanctioned ones. I often read posts where people say their marriages ended long ago. They talk of partners sleeping in different rooms and of sexless nights, months , years. Is sex all there is to relationships ? When sex stops, what else makes relationships worth keeping ?" If you've best pals and they get older and decide 'fuck this playing 5-a-side, getting hammered in sports bars every weekend and ogling burds, I'm settling down.' Is that it, end of that friendship, or have you built up something other than 'lad shit' that make the friendship worth hiding on to? Not the best analogy perhaps, but something along those lines. | |||
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"basically he's got my back and I've got his. " . I love this, next time I'm asked I'm going to steal it  hope that's ok Mrs blue eyes | |||
"basically he's got my back and I've got his. . I love this, next time I'm asked I'm going to steal it hope that's ok Mrs blue eyes "Be my guest .
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 but will hopefully find out soon....
Until then as long as he looks at me with that glint in his eye and says "face down, ass up slut" im just going to smile and say "yes Sir" | |||
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"marriage works when you actually enjoy each other's company, laugh together and grow with each other! A great sex life is an added bonus to all that "I agree with this.^^^^^^^ | |||
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"marriage works when you actually enjoy each other's company, laugh together and grow with each other! A great sex life is an added bonus to all that
I agree with this.^^^^^^^ "yes if you have all these things leading up to marriage a (good) sex life would be sufficent for me. | |||
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"Kids are the only reason I'm still here " Ditto for me. Read all of the posts and my marriage has none of the above. | |||
"Let's include all types of relationships - not just state sanctioned ones. I often read posts where people say their marriages ended long ago. They talk of partners sleeping in different rooms and of sexless nights, months , years. Is sex all there is to relationships ? When sex stops, what else makes relationships worth keeping ?" Good point well made | |||
"What makes a marriage???? Him doing as he is told at all times . That is how a marriage is made ...he hee. " The next time will be the first and last!!! Del | |||
"Let's include all types of relationships - not just state sanctioned ones. I often read posts where people say their marriages ended long ago. They talk of partners sleeping in different rooms and of sexless nights, months , years. Is sex all there is to relationships ? When sex stops, what else makes relationships worth keeping ?" Laughter, companionship, the knowledge they have your back and you theirs. Having them in your life brightens it, the thought of not being with them "terrifies" you. | |||
"A relationship is not just about sex. My partner is my best friend and my soul mate. Sex is not the reason I love him and want to be with him. We enjoy each other's company. " Sounds about right ... | |||
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"Let's include all types of relationships - not just state sanctioned ones. I often read posts where people say their marriages ended long ago. They talk of partners sleeping in different rooms and of sexless nights, months , years. Is sex all there is to relationships ? When sex stops, what else makes relationships worth keeping ?" If I'm honest the simple answer is nothing makes a relationship worth keeping when the sex stops . It's all well and good to say the kids , the soul mate , the laughs , the company and so on , but let's be honest here . If the relationship began with a healthy sex life between the two partners , and that's gone , it's never going to be the same is it ? Unless both parties have gone celibate and have no desire to want sex again , one or the other is going to feel less loved , less wanted , and less desired . And it's inevitably only one of the couple that doesn't want it any more , not both . So the one going without feels like shit , and seeks sex elsewhere . Hardly the basis of a happy relationship . We hear about couples who claim their partner is happy for them to play away as they no longer want sex . This may well be true in some cases , but if the desire is still there for the one who has permission to play away , the relationship isn't complete is it ? How do you sacrifice sex with the one you are deeply in love with , and make do with sex with someone else instead ? Surely you would wonder why they no longer want you in a sexual way ..... | |||
"Let's include all types of relationships - not just state sanctioned ones. I often read posts where people say their marriages ended long ago. They talk of partners sleeping in different rooms and of sexless nights, months , years. Is sex all there is to relationships ? When sex stops, what else makes relationships worth keeping ? If I'm honest the simple answer is nothing makes a relationship worth keeping when the sex stops . It's all well and good to say the kids , the soul mate , the laughs , the company and so on , but let's be honest here . If the relationship began with a healthy sex life between the two partners , and that's gone , it's never going to be the same is it ? Unless both parties have gone celibate and have no desire to want sex again , one or the other is going to feel less loved , less wanted , and less desired . And it's inevitably only one of the couple that doesn't want it any more , not both . So the one going without feels like shit , and seeks sex elsewhere . Hardly the basis of a happy relationship . We hear about couples who claim their partner is happy for them to play away as they no longer want sex . This may well be true in some cases , but if the desire is still there for the one who has permission to play away , the relationship isn't complete is it ? How do you sacrifice sex with the one you are deeply in love with , and make do with sex with someone else instead ? Surely you would wonder why they no longer want you in a sexual way ....." I'm sad for your relationship. It's going to end one day because one of you can't have sex or loses their sex drive.  You won't be growing old together. | |||
"Marriage should be all about team work. I always recall (as a child) my parents doing everything together around the home. Cooking, cleaning, garden tidy, finance etc They said if they had to have "words" with each other it was when my brothers and me were not around." Ideal marriage. | |||
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 Knowing when the other wants some quiet time. The list is endless for us | |||
"Let's include all types of relationships - not just state sanctioned ones. I often read posts where people say their marriages ended long ago. They talk of partners sleeping in different rooms and of sexless nights, months , years. Is sex all there is to relationships ? When sex stops, what else makes relationships worth keeping ? If I'm honest the simple answer is nothing makes a relationship worth keeping when the sex stops . It's all well and good to say the kids , the soul mate , the laughs , the company and so on , but let's be honest here . If the relationship began with a healthy sex life between the two partners , and that's gone , it's never going to be the same is it ? Unless both parties have gone celibate and have no desire to want sex again , one or the other is going to feel less loved , less wanted , and less desired . And it's inevitably only one of the couple that doesn't want it any more , not both . So the one going without feels like shit , and seeks sex elsewhere . Hardly the basis of a happy relationship . We hear about couples who claim their partner is happy for them to play away as they no longer want sex . This may well be true in some cases , but if the desire is still there for the one who has permission to play away , the relationship isn't complete is it ? How do you sacrifice sex with the one you are deeply in love with , and make do with sex with someone else instead ? Surely you would wonder why they no longer want you in a sexual way ..... I'm sad for your relationship. It's going to end one day because one of you can't have sex or loses their sex drive. You won't be growing old together. "Don't be sad for us ! We are as happy as can be , and there's no sign of a let up in our desire for each other
If that should happen , we would feel sad for each other that the driving force behind our relationship had gone , and wouldn't want that for each other .
If you think sex is the only thing on our agenda though , you are way off . We have a very successful business , a wonderful son , family around us and some fantastic friends .
We love being together and sharing everything we have , we aren't having sex 24/7 believe it or not | |||
"Let's include all types of relationships - not just state sanctioned ones. I often read posts where people say their marriages ended long ago. They talk of partners sleeping in different rooms and of sexless nights, months , years. Is sex all there is to relationships ? When sex stops, what else makes relationships worth keeping ? If I'm honest the simple answer is nothing makes a relationship worth keeping when the sex stops . It's all well and good to say the kids , the soul mate , the laughs , the company and so on , but let's be honest here . If the relationship began with a healthy sex life between the two partners , and that's gone , it's never going to be the same is it ? Unless both parties have gone celibate and have no desire to want sex again , one or the other is going to feel less loved , less wanted , and less desired . And it's inevitably only one of the couple that doesn't want it any more , not both . So the one going without feels like shit , and seeks sex elsewhere . Hardly the basis of a happy relationship . We hear about couples who claim their partner is happy for them to play away as they no longer want sex . This may well be true in some cases , but if the desire is still there for the one who has permission to play away , the relationship isn't complete is it ? How do you sacrifice sex with the one you are deeply in love with , and make do with sex with someone else instead ? Surely you would wonder why they no longer want you in a sexual way ..... I'm sad for your relationship. It's going to end one day because one of you can't have sex or loses their sex drive. You won't be growing old together.
Don't be sad for us !
We are as happy as can be , and there's no sign of a let up in our desire for each other
If that should happen , we would feel sad for each other that the driving force behind our relationship had gone , and wouldn't want that for each other .
If you think sex is the only thing on our agenda though , you are way off . We have a very successful business , a wonderful son , family around us and some fantastic friends .
We love being together and sharing everything we have , we aren't having sex 24/7 believe it or not "I know you changed your minds about socials so maybe you'll change your mind on the sex thing too.
Desire may still be there but in older age the body might not perform for either of you. You seem happy and it would be a shame to lose that over just not having sex. | |||
"Let's include all types of relationships - not just state sanctioned ones. I often read posts where people say their marriages ended long ago. They talk of partners sleeping in different rooms and of sexless nights, months , years. Is sex all there is to relationships ? When sex stops, what else makes relationships worth keeping ? If I'm honest the simple answer is nothing makes a relationship worth keeping when the sex stops . It's all well and good to say the kids , the soul mate , the laughs , the company and so on , but let's be honest here . If the relationship began with a healthy sex life between the two partners , and that's gone , it's never going to be the same is it ? Unless both parties have gone celibate and have no desire to want sex again , one or the other is going to feel less loved , less wanted , and less desired . And it's inevitably only one of the couple that doesn't want it any more , not both . So the one going without feels like shit , and seeks sex elsewhere . Hardly the basis of a happy relationship . We hear about couples who claim their partner is happy for them to play away as they no longer want sex . This may well be true in some cases , but if the desire is still there for the one who has permission to play away , the relationship isn't complete is it ? How do you sacrifice sex with the one you are deeply in love with , and make do with sex with someone else instead ? Surely you would wonder why they no longer want you in a sexual way ..... I'm sad for your relationship. It's going to end one day because one of you can't have sex or loses their sex drive. You won't be growing old together.
Don't be sad for us !
We are as happy as can be , and there's no sign of a let up in our desire for each other
If that should happen , we would feel sad for each other that the driving force behind our relationship had gone , and wouldn't want that for each other .
If you think sex is the only thing on our agenda though , you are way off . We have a very successful business , a wonderful son , family around us and some fantastic friends .
We love being together and sharing everything we have , we aren't having sex 24/7 believe it or not
I know you changed your minds about socials so maybe you'll change your mind on the sex thing too.
Desire may still be there but in older age the body might not perform for either of you. You seem happy and it would be a shame to lose that over just not having sex. "That's the beauty of this life , we constantly change and adapt , and I guess we would | |||
"Let's include all types of relationships - not just state sanctioned ones. I often read posts where people say their marriages ended long ago. They talk of partners sleeping in different rooms and of sexless nights, months , years. Is sex all there is to relationships ? When sex stops, what else makes relationships worth keeping ? If I'm honest the simple answer is nothing makes a relationship worth keeping when the sex stops . It's all well and good to say the kids , the soul mate , the laughs , the company and so on , but let's be honest here . If the relationship began with a healthy sex life between the two partners , and that's gone , it's never going to be the same is it ? Unless both parties have gone celibate and have no desire to want sex again , one or the other is going to feel less loved , less wanted , and less desired . And it's inevitably only one of the couple that doesn't want it any more , not both . So the one going without feels like shit , and seeks sex elsewhere . Hardly the basis of a happy relationship . We hear about couples who claim their partner is happy for them to play away as they no longer want sex . This may well be true in some cases , but if the desire is still there for the one who has permission to play away , the relationship isn't complete is it ? How do you sacrifice sex with the one you are deeply in love with , and make do with sex with someone else instead ? Surely you would wonder why they no longer want you in a sexual way ....." To be honest i think you make a good point. When the sex stops (and you are of an age where it is still more important than just making it through the night alive!), then of course it impacts a relationship. Pretty badly if we are honest with ourselves. You see it on parenting sites all the time, women deluding themselves that their fellas are ok with not having sex because they don't want it much anyway as too tired, can't be bothered, lack of interest. And the thing is, women seem to accept that because they don't want sex then their fella shouldn't want it either. That that is it. They don't even consider going to the Dr's and getting checked out. Then months down the line suprise suprise they find out he's been cheating. Of course it works both ways, women cheat too and men lose their sex drives too. But sex is not just sex. It's intimacy. Bonding. Affirmation of desire. Lose that and what is left? Friendship and platonic love. I want desire and passion. I want to reach 80 and be giving gummy blowjobs to the man unfortunate enough to end up with me. As well as laugh, share good times and bad etc. | |||
"Let's include all types of relationships - not just state sanctioned ones. I often read posts where people say their marriages ended long ago. They talk of partners sleeping in different rooms and of sexless nights, months , years. Is sex all there is to relationships ? When sex stops, what else makes relationships worth keeping ? If I'm honest the simple answer is nothing makes a relationship worth keeping when the sex stops . It's all well and good to say the kids , the soul mate , the laughs , the company and so on , but let's be honest here . If the relationship began with a healthy sex life between the two partners , and that's gone , it's never going to be the same is it ? Unless both parties have gone celibate and have no desire to want sex again , one or the other is going to feel less loved , less wanted , and less desired . And it's inevitably only one of the couple that doesn't want it any more , not both . So the one going without feels like shit , and seeks sex elsewhere . Hardly the basis of a happy relationship . We hear about couples who claim their partner is happy for them to play away as they no longer want sex . This may well be true in some cases , but if the desire is still there for the one who has permission to play away , the relationship isn't complete is it ? How do you sacrifice sex with the one you are deeply in love with , and make do with sex with someone else instead ? Surely you would wonder why they no longer want you in a sexual way ..... To be honest i think you make a good point. When the sex stops (and you are of an age where it is still more important than just making it through the night alive!), then of course it impacts a relationship. Pretty badly if we are honest with ourselves. You see it on parenting sites all the time, women deluding themselves that their fellas are ok with not having sex because they don't want it much anyway as too tired, can't be bothered, lack of interest. And the thing is, women seem to accept that because they don't want sex then their fella shouldn't want it either. That that is it. They don't even consider going to the Dr's and getting checked out. Then months down the line suprise suprise they find out he's been cheating. Of course it works both ways, women cheat too and men lose their sex drives too. But sex is not just sex. It's intimacy. Bonding. Affirmation of desire. Lose that and what is left? Friendship and platonic love. I want desire and passion. I want to reach 80 and be giving gummy blowjobs to the man unfortunate enough to end up with me. As well as laugh, share good times and bad etc. " | |||
