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I've met a girl at the gym

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I've met a girl in my gym and I like her and think she likes me as well I'm nervous to ask her about possible meeting out side of the gym and have a sexual relationship with her but I don't think she would be into swinging not saying that she has to do anything like that but to respect the fact that I do how would I approach this any ideas??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ask her if she wants to go for a coffee..

Keep it light and friendly and see how it goes.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ask her if she wants to go for a coffee..

Keep it light and friendly and see how it goes.

Good luck

This

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've met a girl in my gym and I like her and think she likes me as well I'm nervous to ask her about possible meeting out side of the gym and have a sexual relationship with her but I don't think she would be into swinging not saying that she has to do anything like that but to respect the fact that I do how would I approach this any ideas??

If you're aiming to keep it purely sexual, why does she need to know that you're not interested in monogamy?

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By *ce WingerMan over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Crikey you're 31 yrs old!

Get one of your mates to say "My mate fancies you"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You're overthinking it considering you haven't even asked her out yet.

One step at a time.

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By *arlo82Couple over a year ago

the gym and random places

Man up! Approach her and ask if she fancies a coffee. Shy bairns get nowt

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By *mmaNandyCouple over a year ago

wolvo

Well if she not open to the idea of swinging you don't have a great chance with her, maybe ask her out take a break from swinging for a wee bit and if she does like you maybe after a few weeks tactfully ask the question or take her to a club

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By *awtymarkyMan over a year ago

chester

Nice one OP at least you both have one thing in common

Anyway just ask her out on a normal date to find out more about her.

You never know she might be on here already and stalking you or she might be the one!

What's the worse that could happen she says no but the rewards could be plenty

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Crikey you're 31 yrs old!

Get one of your mates to say "My mate fancies you"

Or slip a note saying 'Do you fancy me? Yes? No?' into her gym bag

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How on earth do you know whether she would or wouldn't be on to swinging?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I just don't know if she would be offended for asking for a physical relationship as I don't want anyone else to know

plus I'm not interested in anything serious

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I just don't know if she would be offended for asking for a physical relationship as I don't want anyone else to know

plus I'm not interested in anything serious

Just say "fancy a shag" then take it from there.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wonder how many get through life. ..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Put a note on her locker lol

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By *eisurepleasureMan over a year ago

belfast

Take her for an icecream and as her is she a vanilla or non vanilla girl

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I just don't know if she would be offended for asking for a physical relationship as I don't want anyone else to know

plus I'm not interested in anything serious

Just say "fancy a shag" then take it from there."

And brace myself for a slap

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I just don't know if she would be offended for asking for a physical relationship as I don't want anyone else to know

plus I'm not interested in anything serious

Just say "fancy a shag" then take it from there.

And brace myself for a slap

Could try "how's you"...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It seems a fairly simple choice. Do you want to pursue a relationship with her (or anyone else for that matter)? And if you do what compromises are you willing to make?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I just don't know if she would be offended for asking for a physical relationship as I don't want anyone else to know

plus I'm not interested in anything serious

Just say "fancy a shag" then take it from there.

And brace myself for a slap

So you are already in a relationship ?

Leave it there and walk away

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I just don't know if she would be offended for asking for a physical relationship as I don't want anyone else to know

plus I'm not interested in anything serious

"Hey I'd love to shag you but no one else can know" what womam could resist that?

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By *ubSirVient-DefinitionCouple over a year ago

dukinfield

Put as many cock pics from different angles in her locker with a note telling her exactly what you "want to do to her" scratch a massive FAF on her locker!

Many here seem to get loads of success with this method!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you're attached then leave it be, she's a civilian and could of take offence of you trying to get into her knickers without any kind of relationship.

Or you could try the direct approach and ask her if she swings

Chances are she does not

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By *londieddWoman over a year ago

fife

"I just don't know if she would be offended for asking for a physical relationship as I don't want anyone else to know

plus I'm not interested in anything serious

"Hey I'd love to shag you but no one else can know" what womam could resist that?

why has no one to know?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I just don't know if she would be offended for asking for a physical relationship as I don't want anyone else to know

plus I'm not interested in anything serious

That's not a relationship, that's a novelty bunk up. Why do you not want anyone else to know?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

As I have a X who works there

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As I have a X who works there "

And you don't want to upset your ex by anyone knowing about this new casual shag? That's so thoughtful...

I can't imagine there is a person on this planet that wouldn't be massively insulted by the suggestion of keeping shagging them secret in order not to upset an ex

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just man up and ask her for a pump fs nae point in being shy about it, worst she can do is say no in which case you swiftly move on to the next.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman over a year ago

Yorkshire

Dont even bother.

Im insulted on her behalf.

Poor lass.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This has turned into a bit of a carcrash post

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think that you are right to be cautious. I did know of female friend at a gym I trained at who was extremely flirty with other members and even slept with a few. Whilst standing there chatting to her another member approached us and handed her a note. It contained his number and an invitation to dinner.

Now, bear in mind that she had already been speaking to him on previous occasions. So it's not like this was unexpected. But because she didn't fancy him, she was furious and threatened to report him for harassment. Wow! I said. 'Why would you do that? All the guy did was ask you out on a date, all you had to do was say thanks but no thank you.'

You have to be very careful how you approach people, because you never know how they are going to react.

The best thing was is that she was trying to get into my pants at the time, even know she knew my GF worked there and was standing only a few meters a way. If anything she use to harass me every time I went to the gym.

I felt so sorry for this guy, as he came across as being really respectful. He really didn't do anything wrong.

So if I was you, maybe take the advice from the ladies above, but be very careful how you word things.

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Oh dear. Let me get this right...

You like a girl at your gym where your ex works.

You only want to have sex with her, not a relationship.

You don't want anyone to know.

Unless she's looking for the same she more than likely won't be interested. Carry on as you are, if she asks you for a coffee that's when you could mention that you're only interested in shagging her in secret!!!

If you approach her and are honest with her expect a slap round the face. FFS!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As I have a X who works there "

Have we just discovered a new fab concept "Fab ex" like "Fab straight" - i.e. not completely an ex!

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"As I have a X who works there

Have we just discovered a new fab concept "Fab ex" like "Fab straight" - i.e. not completely an ex! "

I think you're on to something there, otherwise there'd be no need for all the secrecy!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've only scan read the whole thread so apols if I cover off what others have said, but I *think* you're asking 'how can I tell this lass at the gym I want to fuck her - and other women too?'

My advice - don't. Just drop it / leave it. She might say yes, but chances are she'll think you're a twat and you'll freak her out.

If you *really* like her do as others have said, ask her out for a drink, take your time. Then see how things go.

But if it's just a sex thing whilst still sleeping with other women - tread very carefully my friend!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ask her for a coffee and tell her you think she is fab. If she doesn't get the double meaning, she probably won't appreciate a non exclusive situation.

Or ask her for a drink and see if she wants a "hook up" but be prepared for her to be pissed at you after

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By *inkySlinkyCouple over a year ago

Leeds

How are things going with the woman at the gym? Did you ask her out?

Sally

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just man up and ask her for a pump fs nae point in being shy about it, worst she can do is say no in which case you swiftly move on to the next."

Ah, the Dundee chat up line - "do you want pumped?"

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