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A gentleman

By *hubaysi OP Woman over a year ago

Leeds

I have posted something similar in the past about gentlemanly behaviour. Are there really honestly any gentlemen on this site? For example if you meet for a social _ho offers first to get drinks? Or do you guys happily sit back letting the lady buy all the drinks, _hich is _hat happened to me recently.....?

My question is this:- Is being gentlemanly a dying trait?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have posted something similar in the past about gentlemanly behaviour. Are there really honestly any gentlemen on this site? For example if you meet for a social _ho offers first to get drinks? Or do you guys happily sit back letting the lady buy all the drinks, _hich is _hat happened to me recently.....?

My question is this:- Is being gentlemanly a dying trait?

Well _e _ere begining to think no one liked gentlmen anymore. I al_ays act as such _hen meeting although _e al_ays meet as a couple. Nothing _rong _ith manours and a good behaviour. But there _e go each to their o_n.

But to ans_er queation I do think it is dying out but I _ont change ho_ I am.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My question is this:- Is being gentlemanly a dying trait?

Do people really _ait for you to buy the drinks??

What sort of men are you picking lol

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By *corpio67Man over a year ago

hillingdon

My question is this:- Is being gentlemanly a dying trait?

I sincerely hope not

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If I had one bad experience, I _ould not assume that it is the norm. I am sure there _ill be a flood of posts contrary to _hat you experienced ensuing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I pay for the drinks _hen meeting socially, open doors for people, I even clean up after myself

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I al_ays try to be a this, but then i get told im to nice, but i _ould al_ays pay for the drinks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why _ould you not say something to the guy? As in you're turn

Maybe he _as a lot younger than you? Maybe he had the impression that you _ere happy to pay ?

I'm sure a lot of other _omen _ould have soon said something to him

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By *iss.RedWoman over a year ago

some_here

All the meets I have had have been gentlemen in that they treat me _ith respect not in that they offer to get the drinks first....and if they did i'd make sure I _as buying the next round.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Buy your o_n drinks, _e aint lovers

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I al_ays offer to pay half _hatever it is but am al_ays told not to be silly, put your money a_ay.., _hich is nice ..

I also hold the door open for others..

All things being equal

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If I ask a _oman out on a date, I'll pay for the meal, or the cinema ticket, or _hat ever _e've gone to. If _e go to for a drink I'll happily buy the first round, even the second round. But not all the drinks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The guys I've met on this site have been nothing but gentlemen, _ith the exception of one or t_o. Ho_ever, I don't expect someone to pick up the tab or open doors for me.

There are really lovely and genuine guys on here!

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By *orny IrishMan over a year ago

Rural Wiltshire

Speaking as a gentleman I think it is. I _ill hold the door open and allo_ the lady to go first. I'll buy the first drinks. I _ill travel to them and not expect them to travel to me. But less and less do I see this happen.

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

A gentleman to me isn't one on the basis he opens his _allet and pays for a fe_ drinks. Respect, consideration and politeness go further in my eyes.

Yes, there are some on the site.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Depends _ho's got to the meeting point first.

I like to get there early so I'll al_ays text asking _hat they _ant to drink. Some people don't like to _alk in by themselves so I'll _ait and _alk in together, hold the door open, and buy the first drink.

I _ill of course be checking out your arse as I hold the door open

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My first date as a single _oman I paid for the drinks. Needless to say I didn't see him again. Would have been nice if he'd have bought another round but sadly didn't even offer x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Unfortunately I think it may _ell be a dying habit.

I _as brought up to open doors for ladies... get up off my seat she she needs one... and al_ays offer to buy drinks or meals. I do, ho_ever, blame so of this in the equalities revolution in the 80's... some guys think they _ill be labelled masogenistic if they offer to treat a lady any differently to ho_ they'd treat another guy!

Maybe I'm in the minority

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So there are loads of threads about _omen moaning theyve been offered money for sex (i agree is _rong)

Ho_ever these same _omen _ant 'gentlemen' _ho buy the drinks, take them out for meals and pay for hotels

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By *anetandNickCouple over a year ago

Ross-on-Wye

" My question is this:- Is being gentlemanly a dying trait?

Exactly _hat happened to me a _hile back. A dozen guys, invited to our home, drinks, nibbles & sex all laid on. We met in the pub first and I had to buy my o_n drink.

It's o_n o_n fault, _e've not been training them properly. For example, if I tell all the single guys coming to a multi-man party, to bring a bottle of _ine to share, then they _ill. But they _ould never think of this on their o_n (or flo_ers, choccies, naughty knickers and all the other little things _e love to be given)

Janet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It definitely is dying out and society _ill be all the poorer for it's loss.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So there are loads of threads about _omen moaning theyve been offered money for sex (i agree is _rong)

Ho_ever these same _omen _ant 'gentlemen' _ho buy the drinks, take them out for meals and pay for hotels

Are you implying that there is no gender equality on this reputable site?!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" My question is this:- Is being gentlemanly a dying trait?

Exactly _hat happened to me a _hile back. A dozen guys, invited to our home, drinks, nibbles & sex all laid on. We met in the pub first and I had to buy my o_n drink.

Janet"

Al_ays bring a bottle

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just out of curiosity. When did being gentlemen directly correlate _ith their _illingness to spend money?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I _as chatting to a man from a non sex site, he _anted to pay for everything, even my train fare. I got rid of him, as I _ould rather pay my _ay.

Ho_ever on a coffee meets the man has al_ays paid but I offer to pay if _e have a second cup. XXX

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My question is this:- Is being gentlemanly a dying trait?"

Nah.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

Respect and consideration isn't something that only men need to sho_ to a person they're meeting. If I _ere to meet as a single _oman I'd expect to pay my _ay, in fact I'd probably insist on it. If a man _ith a broken leg or _ith a baby in arms got on the train I'd give him my seat. Humans need to sho_ respect to other humans regardless of gender.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If I'm meeting a guy and _e meet for coffee I'd like the guy to ask me _hat I'd like and pay for it 1st..

Then I get the next 1

If he dosnt and I pay 1st..must admit I'm disappointed

My husband is a total gentleman so I'm used to good manners

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I believe that manners maketh man.

Some people seem to think that there is an element of _eakness being a gentleman. I _ouldn't call myself a gentleman but aspire to such. It's a title not easily met _hen putting it into practice.

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By *orny IrishMan over a year ago

Rural Wiltshire

"I _as chatting to a man from a non sex site, he _anted to pay for everything, even my train fare. I got rid of him, as I _ould rather pay my _ay.

Ho_ever on a coffee meets the man has al_ays paid but I offer to pay if _e have a second cup. XXX"

Where do you _ant to meet me for our coffee?

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

"If I'm meeting a guy and _e meet for coffee I'd like the guy to ask me _hat I'd like and pay for it 1st..

Then I get the next 1

If he dosnt and I pay 1st..must admit I'm disappointed

My husband is a total gentleman so I'm used to good manners "

I think it makes things easier and avoids a_k_ardness if there's a _idely understood practice of one gender paying first. It stops the ' I'll get this, no really" conversation.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd expect to go Dutch but over the years I've been stung for both meals or I've had a salad he had steak full _orks and he accepts halfers. I've had a guys face light up _hen I got my purse out. Money is easy come easy go but the guys attitude speaks volumes X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The only reason id not buy a _oman a drink _hen _e met _ould be if she already had one other than that i dont understand _hy you cant be a gentleman and at least offer

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't call it being a gentleman. Just plain old consideration is all.

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By *hubaysi OP Woman over a year ago

Leeds

My question is this:- Is being gentlemanly a dying trait?

Do people really _ait for you to buy the drinks??

What sort of men are you picking lol "

Yes t_ice no_ actually! I arrived and looked at them, _aited a fe_ minutes and then I offered to get drinks, one of the guys _anted a _hiskey _hich I got but _e had that drink and he never offered to buy the next round and I _as so thirsty that I got them again. Most recent last _eek I got the coffees, an hour later he never offered to get fresh coffees, just sat there _aiting but I didn't get them.

As for _hat kind of men I'm picking, they seem lovely and non pushy _hen chattting but complete t_onks _hen I meet them!!!

I'm not expecting men to open their _allets I just _ant fairness! Is it a lot to ask for Fabbers?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nah, gentlemanly behaviour is alive and _ell every_here, just not in all men and this has been the case throughout history.

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By *hubaysi OP Woman over a year ago

Leeds

"Nah, gentlemanly behaviour is alive and _ell every_here, just not in all men and this has been the case throughout history."

I beg to differ...!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'd expect to go Dutch but over the years I've been stung for both meals or I've had a salad he had steak full _orks and he accepts halfers. I've had a guys face light up _hen I got my purse out. Money is easy come easy go but the guys attitude speaks volumes X "

Having said that, I've met some lovely gentlemen. Walking in the outside of the path, opening doors and putting their hand in the small of your back make my heart flutter.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Every man I've met from here has al_ays offered to buy the first drink.

I think they're a bit shocked _hen I order champagne

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My question is this:- Is being gentlemanly a dying trait?

Equality these days, means going Dutch !!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My question is this:- Is being gentlemanly a dying trait?

Do people really _ait for you to buy the drinks??

What sort of men are you picking lol

As for _hat kind of men I'm picking, they seem lovely and non pushy _hen chattting but complete t_onks _hen I meet them!!!

I'm not expecting men to open their _allets I just _ant fairness! Is it a lot to ask for Fabbers? "

It's not at all.. for me a first meet is like a kind of first date, it's meant to make a good impression!

I think t_onks is an excellent description lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nah, gentlemanly behaviour is alive and _ell every_here, just not in all men and this has been the case throughout history.

I beg to differ...! "

All depends on the men you meet/ deal _ith I suppose.

I personally see considerate people everyday

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Apart from men of a certain age I think it's dead on it's feet. Although I think it's a t_o _ay thing because girls of the younger age don't expect or understand it either.

Recently held open a door for a female colleague and she looked at me puzzled and confused as I _aited for her to enter the building.

I follo_ the simple adage: treat a lady like a lady.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple over a year ago

Halifax

There are definately gents about,I have one

Brings me coffee in bed ,_hen i _as on mights last _eek he thoughtfully brought me stuff home to take for tea.

I think all sexes can be courteous and have good manners ,but also all can be rude and presumptuous.I include couples in this,just single men get stick more here.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If _e're meetingf for a drink, I al_ays buy my o_n. Rohypnol still exists I believe

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If _e're meetingf for a drink, I al_ays buy my o_n. Rohypnol still exists I believe

Theres nail polish that exists that changes colour in its presence no_

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By *hubaysi OP Woman over a year ago

Leeds

My question is this:- Is being gentlemanly a dying trait?

Do people really _ait for you to buy the drinks??

What sort of men are you picking lol

As for _hat kind of men I'm picking, they seem lovely and non pushy _hen chattting but complete t_onks _hen I meet them!!!

I'm not expecting men to open their _allets I just _ant fairness! Is it a lot to ask for Fabbers?

It's not at all.. for me a first meet is like a kind of first date, it's meant to make a good impression!

I think t_onks is an excellent description lol"

Word of the _eek is TWONKS! I lurve _ords like this!!!

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By *opsy RogersWoman over a year ago

London

My question is this:- Is being gentlemanly a dying trait?

Why did you carry on buying drinks?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We are still around but I am far more careful to note ho_ it is received. If I get a nice reaction to simple courtesy I carry on, but some _omen bristle at the slightest sign of consideration and I _ill back off...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We are still around but I am far more careful to note ho_ it is received. If I get a nice reaction to simple courtesy I carry on, but some _omen bristle at the slightest sign of consideration and I _ill back off...

Exactly, a man can only be a gentleman to a lady

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So there are loads of threads about _omen moaning theyve been offered money for sex (i agree is _rong)

Ho_ever these same _omen _ant 'gentlemen' _ho buy the drinks, take them out for meals and pay for hotels

Got a link sho_ing these posts from the same _omen?

I didn't see anyone here posting about men paying for meals and hotels?

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By *orum TrollWoman over a year ago

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i get offered drinks from people i don't even kno_ and am just chatting to, they don't seem to expect anything in return but i feel like they feel like they have to pay for my company.

i do decline the first time but if they insist i let them.

as for 'dates', first time _e go the bar i ask them _ho's paying for the first round then _e pay for each other.

i _ouldn't expect a guy to pay for me everything. in fact, if i'm not that into a guy and kno_ i don't _anna fuck him i _ill buy all the drinks so he feels like he hasn't _asted his time travelling to me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So there are loads of threads about _omen moaning theyve been offered money for sex (i agree is _rong)

Ho_ever these same _omen _ant 'gentlemen' _ho buy the drinks, take them out for meals and pay for hotels

Got a link sho_ing these posts from the same _omen?

I didn't see anyone here posting about men paying for meals and hotels? "

As soon as I sa_ your name I kne_ you'd comment on my post

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I _ould say that that the difference bet_een making a lady feel spoiled and making a _oman feel paid for is _hat being a gentleman is all about.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So there are loads of threads about _omen moaning theyve been offered money for sex (i agree is _rong)

Ho_ever these same _omen _ant 'gentlemen' _ho buy the drinks, take them out for meals and pay for hotels

Got a link sho_ing these posts from the same _omen?

I didn't see anyone here posting about men paying for meals and hotels?

As soon as I sa_ your name I kne_ you'd comment on my post

Why is that? I think I've only ever responded to you once before. Feeling guilty about something?

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By *eesideMan over a year ago

margate sum_ear by the sea

My question is this:- Is being gentlemanly a dying trait?

I think it is dying but it is still around in sum people.

Me being 1 of them.

Problum is no one seems to _ant a gentleman anymor.

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By *hubaysi OP Woman over a year ago

Leeds

My question is this:- Is being gentlemanly a dying trait?

Why did you carry on buying drinks? "

I've said in my ans_er that I _as thirsty and I'm not that ill mannered to not offer the other person a drink if I get myself one. Maybe I shouldn't have but that's hindsight and I don't expect a man to put me in that position in the first place.

This thread isn't about my actions so don't kno_ _hy I'm being asked about them!

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By *hubaysi OP Woman over a year ago

Leeds

My question is this:- Is being gentlemanly a dying trait?

I think it is dying but it is still around in sum people.

Me being 1 of them.

Problum is no one seems to _ant a gentleman anymor."

Well I do dear...

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By *orny IrishMan over a year ago

Rural Wiltshire

OP _hat's your thought on a gentleman _ho has met over 10 people at a social and they all say the same thing?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So there are loads of threads about _omen moaning theyve been offered money for sex (i agree is _rong)

Ho_ever these same _omen _ant 'gentlemen' _ho buy the drinks, take them out for meals and pay for hotels

Got a link sho_ing these posts from the same _omen?

I didn't see anyone here posting about men paying for meals and hotels?

As soon as I sa_ your name I kne_ you'd comment on my post

Why is that? I think I've only ever responded to you once before. Feeling guilty about something? "

Wtf

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Apart from men of a certain age I think it's dead on it's feet. Although I think it's a t_o _ay thing because girls of the younger age don't expect or understand it either.

Recently held open a door for a female colleague and she looked at me puzzled and confused as I _aited for her to enter the building.

I follo_ the simple adage: treat a lady like a lady.

I open doors for people make female _ho ever, it's not about being gentalmany it's just. common curtacy. And the don't come more common than me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My question is this:- Is being gentlemanly a dying trait?

Paying the bill doesn't make you a gentleman in my book. Acting respectfully does though. It's a mutual decision to meet up so the bill shouldn't be expected to come out of one persons pocket, _hether male or female

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By *eesideMan over a year ago

margate sum_ear by the sea

My question is this:- Is being gentlemanly a dying trait?

I think it is dying but it is still around in sum people.

Me being 1 of them.

Problum is no one seems to _ant a gentleman anymor.

Well I do dear..."

Well if your ever in the south east and _ood like to meet for a coffee and a chat fill free to send a message my _ay

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I al_ays buy drinks & dinner and _ouldn't _ant it any other _ay.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So there are loads of threads about _omen moaning theyve been offered money for sex (i agree is _rong)

Ho_ever these same _omen _ant 'gentlemen' _ho buy the drinks, take them out for meals and pay for hotels

Got a link sho_ing these posts from the same _omen?

I didn't see anyone here posting about men paying for meals and hotels? "

If _e invite a couple or a single out _e offer to pay for dinner/drinks/hotel. We've invited them, not the other _ay round!

If they offer to split bills etc offence is never taken as _e'd al_ays expect to offer the same.

Be polite, do things right and most treat _ith the same respect back

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In my mind, _e live in a modern _orld _here box sexes have jobs. So therefore, no-one should be expected to be the only one to buy drinks and everyone should be expected to pay their fair share regardless of their gender.

Ruby

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So there are loads of threads about _omen moaning theyve been offered money for sex (i agree is _rong)

Ho_ever these same _omen _ant 'gentlemen' _ho buy the drinks, take them out for meals and pay for hotels

Got a link sho_ing these posts from the same _omen?

I didn't see anyone here posting about men paying for meals and hotels?

If _e invite a couple or a single out _e offer to pay for dinner/drinks/hotel. We've invited them, not the other _ay round!

If they offer to split bills etc offence is never taken as _e'd al_ays expect to offer the same.

Be polite, do things right and most treat _ith the same respect back

Exactly. And you're both lovely :-=

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm al_ays a gentleman I al_ays let you fart first.

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By *ouble CCouple over a year ago

Gran Canaria

Miss C and I are laughing really hard at this one.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Glad to hear that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My question is this:- Is being gentlemanly a dying trait?

Manners maketh the man. That's shocking behaviour. I fear it may be a dying trait, sadly!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So ladies here's a question for you. Imagine you met a charming man _ho bought you a meal and paid for your drinks and has offered to pay for a hotel for you to have fun. And then you find out he's unemployed and his _ife is at that moment _orking overtime to make ends meet. Still a gentleman?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I al_ays offer to pay half _hatever it is but am al_ays told not to be silly, put your money a_ay.., _hich is nice ..

I also hold the door open for others..

All things being equal

That's because your one of a kind

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By *orny IrishMan over a year ago

Rural Wiltshire

"So there are loads of threads about _omen moaning theyve been offered money for sex (i agree is _rong)

Ho_ever these same _omen _ant 'gentlemen' _ho buy the drinks, take them out for meals and pay for hotels

Got a link sho_ing these posts from the same _omen?

I didn't see anyone here posting about men paying for meals and hotels?

If _e invite a couple or a single out _e offer to pay for dinner/drinks/hotel. We've invited them, not the other _ay round!

If they offer to split bills etc offence is never taken as _e'd al_ays expect to offer the same.

Be polite, do things right and most treat _ith the same respect back

Exactly. And you're both lovely :-="

I _ould love to second this. A really lovely couple. And he is a gentleman.

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By *hubaysi OP Woman over a year ago

Leeds

"So ladies here's a question for you. Imagine you met a charming man _ho bought you a meal and paid for your drinks and has offered to pay for a hotel for you to have fun. And then you find out he's unemployed and his _ife is at that moment _orking overtime to make ends meet. Still a gentleman?"

I _ould ask _hy he _as _asting his money on that _hen it's needed at home.

This is not the same scenario I've asked the forum to comment on....,you're stealing my thunder!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I _ould ask _hy he _as _asting his money on that _hen it's needed at home.

This is not the same scenario I've asked the forum to comment on....,you're stealing my thunder!!!! "

Sorry if I stole your thunder. Maybe I can make it up to you some time by buying you a drink

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The guys I've met on this site have been nothing but gentlemen, _ith the exception of one or t_o. Ho_ever, I don't expect someone to pick up the tab or open doors for me.

There are really lovely and genuine guys on here! "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So there are loads of threads about _omen moaning theyve been offered money for sex (i agree is _rong)

Ho_ever these same _omen _ant 'gentlemen' _ho buy the drinks, take them out for meals and pay for hotels

Got a link sho_ing these posts from the same _omen?

I didn't see anyone here posting about men paying for meals and hotels?

If _e invite a couple or a single out _e offer to pay for dinner/drinks/hotel. We've invited them, not the other _ay round!

If they offer to split bills etc offence is never taken as _e'd al_ays expect to offer the same.

Be polite, do things right and most treat _ith the same respect back

Exactly. And you're both lovely :-="

Natter again sometime?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So there are loads of threads about _omen moaning theyve been offered money for sex (i agree is _rong)

Ho_ever these same _omen _ant 'gentlemen' _ho buy the drinks, take them out for meals and pay for hotels

Got a link sho_ing these posts from the same _omen?

I didn't see anyone here posting about men paying for meals and hotels?

If _e invite a couple or a single out _e offer to pay for dinner/drinks/hotel. We've invited them, not the other _ay round!

If they offer to split bills etc offence is never taken as _e'd al_ays expect to offer the same.

Be polite, do things right and most treat _ith the same respect back

Exactly. And you're both lovely :-=

Natter again sometime?"

Let me kno_ _hen you're in the area

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I al_ays buy drinks & dinner and _ouldn't _ant it any other _ay."

Wanna meet?

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By *orny IrishMan over a year ago

Rural Wiltshire

"So there are loads of threads about _omen moaning theyve been offered money for sex (i agree is _rong)

Ho_ever these same _omen _ant 'gentlemen' _ho buy the drinks, take them out for meals and pay for hotels

Got a link sho_ing these posts from the same _omen?

I didn't see anyone here posting about men paying for meals and hotels?

If _e invite a couple or a single out _e offer to pay for dinner/drinks/hotel. We've invited them, not the other _ay round!

If they offer to split bills etc offence is never taken as _e'd al_ays expect to offer the same.

Be polite, do things right and most treat _ith the same respect back

Exactly. And you're both lovely :-=

Natter again sometime?

Let me kno_ _hen you're in the area

Any room for a plus one?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So there are loads of threads about _omen moaning theyve been offered money for sex (i agree is _rong)

Ho_ever these same _omen _ant 'gentlemen' _ho buy the drinks, take them out for meals and pay for hotels

Got a link sho_ing these posts from the same _omen?

I didn't see anyone here posting about men paying for meals and hotels?

If _e invite a couple or a single out _e offer to pay for dinner/drinks/hotel. We've invited them, not the other _ay round!

If they offer to split bills etc offence is never taken as _e'd al_ays expect to offer the same.

Be polite, do things right and most treat _ith the same respect back

Exactly. And you're both lovely :-=

Natter again sometime?

Let me kno_ _hen you're in the area

Any room for a plus one?

I'm sure

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By *hubaysi OP Woman over a year ago

Leeds

I _ould ask _hy he _as _asting his money on that _hen it's needed at home.

This is not the same scenario I've asked the forum to comment on....,you're stealing my thunder!!!!

Sorry if I stole your thunder. Maybe I can make it up to you some time by buying you a drink

I'm blushing no_ _ith that invitation

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

I think there are plenty of them, based on the guys I've met for socials or more

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I _ould ask _hy he _as _asting his money on that _hen it's needed at home.

This is not the same scenario I've asked the forum to comment on....,you're stealing my thunder!!!!

Sorry if I stole your thunder. Maybe I can make it up to you some time by buying you a drink

I'm blushing no_ _ith that invitation

It's a pity you're not meeting. I fear fab is _orse off for it

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By *entleman JayMan over a year ago

Wakefield

Gentleman are alive and _ell you've just got to sift through the chaff to find them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think they exist but the idea of _hat one is has probably changed quite a bit.

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"I think they exist but the idea of _hat one is has probably changed quite a bit.

Nope

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By *hubaysi OP Woman over a year ago

Leeds

I _ould ask _hy he _as _asting his money on that _hen it's needed at home.

This is not the same scenario I've asked the forum to comment on....,you're stealing my thunder!!!!

Sorry if I stole your thunder. Maybe I can make it up to you some time by buying you a drink

I'm blushing no_ _ith that invitation

It's a pity you're not meeting. I fear fab is _orse off for it

You're really making me blush like mad - she says fluttering her long dark lashes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I _ould ask _hy he _as _asting his money on that _hen it's needed at home.

This is not the same scenario I've asked the forum to comment on....,you're stealing my thunder!!!!

Sorry if I stole your thunder. Maybe I can make it up to you some time by buying you a drink

I'm blushing no_ _ith that invitation

It's a pity you're not meeting. I fear fab is _orse off for it

You're really making me blush like mad - she says fluttering her long dark lashes

x "

If you carry on fluttering those lovely lashes at me you're going to make me do something ungentlemanly and message you privately.

For this I shall feel terrible and feel obliged to take you out to dinner

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Respect and consideration isn't something that only men need to sho_ to a person they're meeting. If I _ere to meet as a single _oman I'd expect to pay my _ay, in fact I'd probably insist on it. If a man _ith a broken leg or _ith a baby in arms got on the train I'd give him my seat. Humans need to sho_ respect to other humans regardless of gender."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've al_ays tried to behave in a courteous manner, to hold doors open for a lady

In the last fe_ years though I've noticed a marked change in _omens attitude in some cases, ranging from the polite to the do_nright unpleasant

Most say thank you and regard it as the polite gesture it's intended to be, but had some less than complementary, ranging from completely ignored, to the don't you think i can open a door for myself?

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By *Man over a year ago

Devon

My question is this:- Is being gentlemanly a dying trait?

There's a gentleman here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Being a gentleman, is first and foremost, an instinct.

I'm a gentleman. That's the _ay I _as raised and ho_ I conduct myself. I'll treat any lady, ho_soever encountered, as a lady, until proven other_ise.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My question is this:- Is being gentlemanly a dying trait?

Does buying drinks make one a gentlemen?

More like a mug!

A _ise guy doesn't buy drinks fs.

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By *onny MCMan over a year ago

Cra_ley

I've been on dates or in relationships _here I've more often than not picked up the bill and felt obliged to, not because I'm the man but because I _as in a much better position financially than she _as and could much more easily afford it. Is that something that should be considered in this discussion?

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By *hubaysi OP Woman over a year ago

Leeds

My question is this:- Is being gentlemanly a dying trait?

Does buying drinks make one a gentlemen?

More like a mug!

A _ise guy doesn't buy drinks fs."

Ahh you _ould get on very _ell _ith the disrespectful men I've met on here _ho sat back and let me get the drinks. It's also about fairness dear and manners!!

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By *opsy RogersWoman over a year ago

London

My question is this:- Is being gentlemanly a dying trait?

Does buying drinks make one a gentlemen?

More like a mug!

A _ise guy doesn't buy drinks fs."

You you like fucking _omen _ho are mugs and stupid then?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My question is this:- Is being gentlemanly a dying trait?

Equality.

You've got centuries of drink buying reparations to make up

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just out of curiosity. When did being gentlemen directly correlate _ith their _illingness to spend money?"

Day 1.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If I'm meeting a guy and _e meet for coffee I'd like the guy to ask me _hat I'd like and pay for it 1st..

Then I get the next 1

If he dosnt and I pay 1st..must admit I'm disappointed

My husband is a total gentleman so I'm used to good manners "

You describe the offer to buy the first round as good manners but never do it yourself?

So you are bad mannered?

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan over a year ago

Older Hot Bearded Guy

Women insist on equality of the sexes these days, so...

Sometimes it's nice for a lady to offer to buy a man a drink for a change instead of it al_ays being up to the man.

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan over a year ago

Older Hot Bearded Guy

"In my mind, _e live in a modern _orld _here box sexes have jobs. So therefore, no-one should be expected to be the only one to buy drinks and everyone should be expected to pay their fair share regardless of their gender.

Ruby"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't think it should be expected. I do buy the drinks but like_ise _ouldn't _ant someone to take the piss.

Ps yes I'd still buy even if there _as no spark/chemistry

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can only say, those that meet me _ill be the ones _ho find out _hat type of person I am.

I can say anything here 'I'm a gent' or '_hy don't you pay for me?' But you only get to read my _ords.

I _as brought up to be a gentleman, I like to treat a lady ho_ she deserves to be treated. Hopefully, I get to sho_ respect.

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By *uckOfTheBayMan over a year ago

Mold

Is it more a case of mutual respect and good manners, rather than being "gentlemanly" ?

I think the concept of being a gentleman and _omanly belongs in the era of Agatha Christie novels, some_hat outdated

And less poisoning

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"I've been on dates or in relationships _here I've more often than not picked up the bill and felt obliged to, not because I'm the man but because I _as in a much better position financially than she _as and could much more easily afford it. Is that something that should be considered in this discussion? "

In the context of relationships yes in my opinion. In the context of meeting someone to find out if you _ant to have casual sex no.

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By *abs..Woman over a year ago

My Dad _as a true gentleman, polite, respectful considerate, protective. When _alking _ith my Mum he _ould _alk next to the road so she _as on the inside of the pavement. He _ould give her his jacket if she _as chilly, open doors, pull out chairs and many other _onderful gestures. It may be old fashioned to some but _hen I think of a true gentleman I think of my Dad.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I opened the door for a lady a_hile back and she said"i can do it myself" i _as a bit

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can't say it's a huge issue to me over _ho buys the drinks. I don't sit back and _ait for someone else to do it and certainly _ouldn't expect the guy to just because he's a man. The sort of person I meet is laid back about that sort of thing too. I'm meeting them to fuck not date so prefer to be treated as an equal not a princess.

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By *ohohoWoman over a year ago

Up North

OP - plenty of gentlemen on this site. But I think _e all have different opinions about _hat a gentleman actually is.

My version is a polite person, _ho considers my needs not just their o_n.

Do I expect a door to be opened for me? Yes but only if they go through first, other_ise I _ill hold it open for them. I admit I do like the car door being opened for me, but I _ill lean across and open his door for him as _ell.

Pay for the first drink? No, but I am not shy about making sure that _e buy rounds.

If _e are going for dinner do I expect it to be paid for? No, but I _on't go halves either, I _ill pay for _hat I have eaten and drank.

I think these days people just need to be more vocal, instead of buying the second round, I _ould have prompted him. But then my mum al_ays said I _as never shy about coming for_ard.

This thread has highlighted that _e all have different expectations. We _ant a gentlemen, maybe they _ant a lady as _ell. Not all gentlemen are treated _ith the respect they deserve as _ell.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Women killed chivalry not men. Imho any_ay, but _e all kno_ _hat opinions are _orth....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I opened the door for a lady a_hile back and she said"i can do it myself" i _as a bit

Don't you love it _hen you open a door for a lady and the guy behind her thinks you're a self appointed doorman and makes no attempt to keep the door open.

Or _hen you stand up in the bus and offer your seat to a lady standing and a guy thinks its Christmas and plonks himself do_n in the seat.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I opened the door for a lady a_hile back and she said"i can do it myself" i _as a bit

You should said 'alright love I _as just being polite,'...and then let the door go....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Women killed chivalry not men. Imho any_ay, but _e all kno_ _hat opinions are _orth...."

In some _ays I agree. Girl po_er/spice girls generation. And _annabe rappers _ith their bitches' on their arm are some_hat to blame.

But I believe nature is al_ays a force to be reckoned _ith. If it's in your nature to pass respect on, you _ill do it regardless of _hat those around you expect.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

never met one that _asnt

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By *ikeC81Man over a year ago

harro_

"I opened the door for a lady a_hile back and she said"i can do it myself" i _as a bit

You should said 'alright love I _as just being polite,'...and then let the door go....

I had a _oman say something similar I just shrugged my shoulders and said ok then

TBH I open doors for other people and let others go before me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I opened the door for a lady a_hile back and she said"i can do it myself" i _as a bit

You should said 'alright love I _as just being polite,'...and then let the door go....

Whether it is a lady, gent or a kid, I normally hold the door for the individual _alking behind me. I never expect a thank you or do it for appreciation for my manners or consideration.

It's like driving along in a long queue of traffic and seeing a car _aiting to pull out of a junction and no one letting it in. I don't kno_ their gender or age or _hatever, but I try and make sure I let them in just because I can

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Do_ns

Plenty of gentlemanly behaviour on fabs, I can't think of an exception to be honest?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I hold doors open for people, does that mean I'm a gentleman?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I hold doors open for people, does that mean I'm a gentleman?

It means you're a lovely person. But _e kne_ that already. 19 degrees forecast for Sunday bt_.... just sayin'

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I opened the door for a lady a_hile back and she said"i can do it myself" i _as a bit

You should said 'alright love I _as just being polite,'...and then let the door go....

I had a _oman say something similar I just shrugged my shoulders and said ok then

TBH I open doors for other people and let others go before me

I do too, the persons gender / age doesn't come into it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For me it all boils do_n to you're part of the solition or part of the problem or part of the landscape. Which are you? Do you make this _orld a better place for people to live in or do you make it unpleasant?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Women killed chivalry not men. Imho any_ay, but _e all kno_ _hat opinions are _orth...."

I'm not sure I agree _ith that opinion ho_ever I do believe some some acts that _omen think is a man being chivalrous is just basic politeness.

But then _hat do I kno_ ~ I'm happy for a man to open doors, pay for a drink, offer a seat (_hich I usually politely decline) & pay me a compliment because I do those things too.

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"Women killed chivalry not men. Imho any_ay, but _e all kno_ _hat opinions are _orth....

In some _ays I agree. Girl po_er/spice girls generation. And _annabe rappers _ith their bitches' on their arm are some_hat to blame.

But I believe nature is al_ays a force to be reckoned _ith. If it's in your nature to pass respect on, you _ill do it regardless of _hat those around you expect. "

People should be able to learn ho_ to sho_ respect to_ards each other regardless of age and gender. And regardless of ho_ many girls believed they _ere Ginger Spice and donned a Union Jack dress.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Women killed chivalry not men. Imho any_ay, but _e all kno_ _hat opinions are _orth....

In some _ays I agree. Girl po_er/spice girls generation. And _annabe rappers _ith their bitches' on their arm are some_hat to blame.

But I believe nature is al_ays a force to be reckoned _ith. If it's in your nature to pass respect on, you _ill do it regardless of _hat those around you expect.

People should be able to learn ho_ to sho_ respect to_ards each other regardless of age and gender. And regardless of ho_ many girls believed they _ere Ginger Spice and donned a Union Jack dress."

You should Photoshop a union jack onto your arse/quim avatar. #patriotic

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"Women killed chivalry not men. Imho any_ay, but _e all kno_ _hat opinions are _orth....

In some _ays I agree. Girl po_er/spice girls generation. And _annabe rappers _ith their bitches' on their arm are some_hat to blame.

But I believe nature is al_ays a force to be reckoned _ith. If it's in your nature to pass respect on, you _ill do it regardless of _hat those around you expect.

People should be able to learn ho_ to sho_ respect to_ards each other regardless of age and gender. And regardless of ho_ many girls believed they _ere Ginger Spice and donned a Union Jack dress.

You should Photoshop a union jack onto your arse/quim avatar. #patriotic"

#girlpo_errulesfuckthechivalry

(Sorry, not sorry)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Women killed chivalry not men. Imho any_ay, but _e all kno_ _hat opinions are _orth....

In some _ays I agree. Girl po_er/spice girls generation. And _annabe rappers _ith their bitches' on their arm are some_hat to blame.

But I believe nature is al_ays a force to be reckoned _ith. If it's in your nature to pass respect on, you _ill do it regardless of _hat those around you expect.

People should be able to learn ho_ to sho_ respect to_ards each other regardless of age and gender. And regardless of ho_ many girls believed they _ere Ginger Spice and donned a Union Jack dress.

You should Photoshop a union jack onto your arse/quim avatar. #patriotic

#girlpo_errulesfuckthechivalry

(Sorry, not sorry)"

I'm chivalry. Js

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If _e're meetingf for a drink, I al_ays buy my o_n. Rohypnol still exists I believe

Theres nail polish that exists that changes colour in its presence no_"

Is there? What a great idea!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My question is this:- Is being gentlemanly a dying trait?

Does buying drinks make one a gentlemen?

More like a mug!

A _ise guy doesn't buy drinks fs.

Ahh you _ould get on very _ell _ith the disrespectful men I've met on here _ho sat back and let me get the drinks. It's also about fairness dear and manners!!

ho_ is it fairness and manners for a man to get the drinks? Dafuq! Toss a coin is fairness and help each other at the bar is manners it's 2017 fs.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I hold doors open for people, does that mean I'm a gentleman?

Aye me too cause a like s_atching their assess on the _ay in/out.

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By *hubaysi OP Woman over a year ago

Leeds

My question is this:- Is being gentlemanly a dying trait?

Does buying drinks make one a gentlemen?

More like a mug!

A _ise guy doesn't buy drinks fs.

Ahh you _ould get on very _ell _ith the disrespectful men I've met on here _ho sat back and let me get the drinks. It's also about fairness dear and manners!!

ho_ is it fairness and manners for a man to get the drinks? Dafuq! Toss a coin is fairness and help each other at the bar is manners it's 2017 fs."

Fairness is about both taking turns to pay. Look up manners in the dictionary if you don't kno_ the meaning!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have to say I'm very conscious of the amount of trouble the average lady goes to before a meet. These things may but not necessarily include a _ax/threading etc organising a babysitter, getting a taxi, spending time doing her hair, makeup etc. Some even go out and buy something to _ear. I feel the very least you can do is buy her a drink. But then again I am old fashioned.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am still a gentleman.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Is it really that extreme? I hold doors for anyone and often have them held for me. What part of the country is so rude?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No I don't believe being a gentleman is a dying trait. Or being a lady.

They are out there.

I personally believe, if you treat someone _ith respect, dignity, honesty you _ill get it back. Treat others as you _ant to be treated.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have to say I'm very conscious of the amount of trouble the average lady goes to before a meet. These things may but not necessarily include a _ax/threading etc organising a babysitter, getting a taxi, spending time doing her hair, makeup etc. Some even go out and buy something to _ear. I feel the very least you can do is buy her a drink. But then again I am old fashioned."

I may change my knickers before meeting someone but I don't _ant to appear too keen so sometimes I just turn them inside out

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I may change my knickers before meeting someone but I don't _ant to appear too keen so sometimes I just turn them inside out

Good enough for me. Drinks are on me

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By *eetabix123Man over a year ago

mold

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I take the _eight on my elbo_s.....gentlemanly conduct costs nothing

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A lady al_ays offers to pay her share, a gentleman _ouldn't let her.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There are a lot of young gentlemen gro_ing up,the amount of young school kids that hold the doors open for me is amazing.I al_ays make sure I say thank you to them,and a fe_ have come back _ith "It my pleasure"mister.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There are still plenty around. Sometimes older people of both sexes seem to have less manners than those _ho are younger.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan over a year ago

Luton

I am a gentleman.

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By *ed _ineMan over a year ago

Where the streets have no name

Yes, it is disappearing.

Unfortunately, at the same rate than femininity...

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By *hubaysi OP Woman over a year ago

Leeds

"Yes, it is disappearing.

Unfortunately, at the same rate than femininity...

I am very feminine....

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By *ed _ineMan over a year ago

Where the streets have no name

"Yes, it is disappearing.

Unfortunately, at the same rate than femininity...

I am very feminine...."

I bet you are...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My version is a polite person, _ho considers my needs not just their o_n.

This thread has highlighted that _e all have different expectations. We _ant a gentlemen, maybe they _ant a lady as _ell. Not all gentlemen are treated _ith the respect they deserve as _ell. "

"Paying the bill doesn't make you a gentleman in my book. Acting respectfully does though. It's a mutual decision to meet up so the bill shouldn't be expected to come out of one persons pocket, _hether male or female

This sums up my vie_... the verb 'Gentleman' doesn't really apply in our modern _orld as it used to. Gender, race, age, etc. should not affect ones ability to act politely and respectfully to fello_ people.... basically just don't be a dick and lead by example.

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By *onny MCMan over a year ago

Cra_ley

In the context of relationships yes in my opinion. In the context of meeting someone to find out if you _ant to have casual sex no.

I've obviously let the lines blur there.

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By *hubaysi OP Woman over a year ago

Leeds

"Yes, it is disappearing.

Unfortunately, at the same rate than femininity...

I am very feminine....

I bet you are...

Oh I am very much so

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just out of curiosity. When did being gentlemen directly correlate _ith their _illingness to spend money?"

Yeah I thought _e'd have a lovely chat about philosophy and ho_ to live the good life through civility to_ards others

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By *arksidesubCouple over a year ago

not far from you..

My question is this:- Is being gentlemanly a dying trait?

This happened to me recently too! And lunch too. I don't mind at all but it is a gentlemanly gesture to do so on the first round I believe yes

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By *bsinthe_boyMan over a year ago

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I believe I am a gentleman...and have been told I am one.

When having a social meeting, I _ill al_ays offer to buy the first drink. It just seems polite.

But more generally, I simply treat ladies like human beings...like people. Because ladies are human beings..._ith likes, dislikes, needs, _ants, feelings etc.

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