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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Hi fellow fabbers!!

This has likely been asked hundred's of times, but it is becoming extremely annoying to me!!

Now please understand that I don't want to get on the moral highground, nor do i wish to attract any conflict..... this is after all a 'swingers' site!!...

But why are there so many married or attached men on here doing so WITHOUT their wives/partner's consent or knowledge??

I don't have any problem with couple's having fun or hotwives having fun WITH their husband's knowledge or vice versa (this is a huge turn on for a lot of people Inc me!!) but not if the men are looking for 'extra' sex behind their partner's backs!

Call me old fashioned or perhaps I'm someone with morals or some judgement, but I find cheating offensive!!!

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By *ink Panther.Woman over a year ago

Preston

Walk in their shoes first, it's lonely on the moral high ground

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By *ink Panther.Woman over a year ago

Preston

Oh by the way, yes I'm cheating!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There are loads of cheating women too here lol.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I hear you, even on normal dating sites I'm hit on by married or attached men all the time. Not my thing.

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By *ink Panther.Woman over a year ago

Preston

"There are loads of cheating women too here lol."

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Walk in their shoes first, it's lonely on the moral high ground

It's lovely whereever you are or whoever's shoes you are in, but it doesn't make it right. Can't people just be bloody honest? I do believe the vows include "I promise to be faithful" and for your info, I've been there - the high and low ground - and its not nice!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why didn't you call the thread married/attached people on Fab because there are married men and women on here going behind their other halves backs.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And only because my ex hubby did nothing but cheat.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There are loads of cheating women too here lol.

"
When hubby is watching football down the pub

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By *norksterMan over a year ago

Darlington and beyond

"Oh by the way, yes I'm cheating!"

Me too, and there's a story behind all of us, granted some a lot worse than others, but we don't all have the perfect life..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Oh by the way, yes I'm cheating!

Me too, and there's a story behind all of us, granted some a lot worse than others, but we don't all have the perfect life.."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

People have their reasons. If you don't like it, don't meet them. It's pretty simple...

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By *rNaughtyNickMan over a year ago

Birmingham

"There are loads of cheating women too here lol."

Very true Fab has opened my eyes with regards to this.

Men have in history since the dawn of time have been stigmatised as dirty dogs/ cheats etc..

Tho my experience on fab has shown me that this is quite a level playing field as the female sex is just as bad as their male counterparts.

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By *ink Panther.Woman over a year ago

Preston

"Walk in their shoes first, it's lonely on the moral high ground

Mine is a slightly different scenario I guess but I understand the reasons ppl cheat, I have no qualms about what I'm doing

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"There are loads of cheating women too here lol."

I agree..... anyone cheating is not acceptable.... however I can only comment from my experience, because being a straight female I have no experience of cheating females!! Both equally abhorrent!

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

There are as many reasons as there are profiles.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There are lots of people cheating who are not on here too. It's as high as 1 in 4 people I think I read somewhere. But yes. There are cheaters on here. And many of them will lie to you like they lie to their partners. There are lots of genuine reasons why people might cheat. And lots of spurious ones too.

I decided not to cheat. I decided to persuade my wife to join here with me. It was one of the best decisions I made. It took years of talking but in the end it was worth it

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"People have their reasons. If you don't like it, don't meet them. It's pretty simple... "

Obviously I wouldn't, but Its annoying when you make an effort to chat to someone who seems nice and then they declare they are attached, or worse, tell you during the meet!! My time is precious!!

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By *ink Panther.Woman over a year ago

Preston

"Oh by the way, yes I'm cheating!

Me too, and there's a story behind all of us, granted some a lot worse than others, but we don't all have the perfect life..

Thanks for the sympathy but really not needed we're consoling each other

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By *ink Panther.Woman over a year ago

Preston

"People have their reasons. If you don't like it, don't meet them. It's pretty simple...

Obviously I wouldn't, but Its annoying when you make an effort to chat to someone who seems nice and then they declare they are attached, or worse, tell you during the meet!! My time is precious!! "

I'm very upfront about it

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Oh by the way, yes I'm cheating!

Me too, and there's a story behind all of us, granted some a lot worse than others, but we don't all have the perfect life..

Ohhhh trust me, my life is so far from perfect you wouldn't believe, but still no excuse to be dishonest and unfaithful.

Lives are often far from perfect, but that seems like an excuse to me!!

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By *ink Panther.Woman over a year ago

Preston

"There are lots of people cheating who are not on here too. It's as high as 1 in 4 people I think I read somewhere. But yes. There are cheaters on here. And many of them will lie to you like they lie to their partners. There are lots of genuine reasons why people might cheat. And lots of spurious ones too.

I decided not to cheat. I decided to persuade my wife to join here with me. It was one of the best decisions I made. It took years of talking but in the end it was worth it "

Persuade or coerce?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Having been one of those guys I can only say there a many reasons (for me anyway) to do it. I think the main issue is when people lie about it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I decided not to cheat. I decided to persuade my wife to join here with me. It was one of the best decisions I made. It took years of talking but in the end it was worth it "

Well done..... a good, honest man. I'm sure your marriage is happy and fulfilled because of it!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"People have their reasons. If you don't like it, don't meet them. It's pretty simple...

Obviously I wouldn't, but Its annoying when you make an effort to chat to someone who seems nice and then they declare they are attached, or worse, tell you during the meet!! My time is precious!! "

I've had this too. Now I ask upfront. I used to feel like you do about attached people being on here without permission, but then I realised that people have their reasons. I'm not going to judge people who are in a situation that I know nothing about.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"People have their reasons. If you don't like it, don't meet them. It's pretty simple...

Obviously I wouldn't, but Its annoying when you make an effort to chat to someone who seems nice and then they declare they are attached, or worse, tell you during the meet!! My time is precious!!

And what if they lie when asked?!

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By *norksterMan over a year ago

Darlington and beyond

"Oh by the way, yes I'm cheating!

Me too, and there's a story behind all of us, granted some a lot worse than others, but we don't all have the perfect life..

Ohhhh trust me, my life is so far from perfect you wouldn't believe, but still no excuse to be dishonest and unfaithful.

Lives are often far from perfect, but that seems like an excuse to me!!"

So my bed is empty tonight and you know my story I see!

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

"Hi fellow fabbers!!

This has likely been asked hundred's of times, but it is becoming extremely annoying to me!!

Now please understand that I don't want to get on the moral highground, nor do i wish to attract any conflict..... this is after all a 'swingers' site!!...

But why are there so many married or attached men on here doing so WITHOUT their wives/partner's consent or knowledge??

They come for the fucking.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"People have their reasons. If you don't like it, don't meet them. It's pretty simple...

Obviously I wouldn't, but Its annoying when you make an effort to chat to someone who seems nice and then they declare they are attached, or worse, tell you during the meet!! My time is precious!!

And what if they lie when asked?! "

Some will, the majority have been open, I've found. A guy misled me when I first joined. It was frustrating but I learnt from it and moved on.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

roll up roll up for today's cheating thread....

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Oh by the way, yes I'm cheating!

Me too, and there's a story behind all of us, granted some a lot worse than others, but we don't all have the perfect life..

Ohhhh trust me, my life is so far from perfect you wouldn't believe, but still no excuse to be dishonest and unfaithful.

Lives are often far from perfect, but that seems like an excuse to me!!

So my bed is empty tonight and you know my story I see!"

So is mine, but through choice!

If you aren't happy, you could always just be honest. I do realise that it's not always easy, but nothing in life is ever easy! Far from it!

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By *ink Panther.Woman over a year ago

Preston

"Hi fellow fabbers!!

This has likely been asked hundred's of times, but it is becoming extremely annoying to me!!

Now please understand that I don't want to get on the moral highground, nor do i wish to attract any conflict..... this is after all a 'swingers' site!!...

But why are there so many married or attached men on here doing so WITHOUT their wives/partner's consent or knowledge??

They come for the fucking.

Wrong not just that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"People have their reasons. If you don't like it, don't meet them. It's pretty simple...

Obviously I wouldn't, but Its annoying when you make an effort to chat to someone who seems nice and then they declare they are attached, or worse, tell you during the meet!! My time is precious!!

And what if they lie when asked?! "

People lie about all sorts of shite, if you're that concerned about it take time to 'know' someone before meeting them, if they're attatched it's pretty easy to suss out.

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By *ink Panther.Woman over a year ago

Preston

"roll up roll up for today's cheating thread...."

Hey we've not had one for a while!! I was getting withdrawal symptoms lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've been caught out twice in the past week. I specify single but some seem to want to circumvent that which means we both end up frustrated as it always comes out in the end.

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By *ink Panther.Woman over a year ago

Preston

"People have their reasons. If you don't like it, don't meet them. It's pretty simple...

Obviously I wouldn't, but Its annoying when you make an effort to chat to someone who seems nice and then they declare they are attached, or worse, tell you during the meet!! My time is precious!!

And what if they lie when asked?!

People lie about all sorts of shite, if you're that concerned about it take time to 'know' someone before meeting them, if they're attatched it's pretty easy to suss out."

I'm happy to give spot a cheat lessons, takes one to know one

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Walk in their shoes first, it's lonely on the moral high ground

What she said.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I decided not to cheat. I decided to persuade my wife to join here with me. It was one of the best decisions I made. It took years of talking but in the end it was worth it "

There is a lot of 'I' and no 'We' in this post, is she still in need of persuading...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi fellow fabbers!!

This has likely been asked hundred's of times, but it is becoming extremely annoying to me!!

Now please understand that I don't want to get on the moral highground, nor do i wish to attract any conflict..... this is after all a 'swingers' site!!...

But why are there so many married or attached men on here doing so WITHOUT their wives/partner's consent or knowledge??

Call me old fashioned or perhaps I'm someone with morals or some judgement, but I find cheating offensive!!! "

For gods sake, let this topic go, people have their reasons, if you don't like them don't interact with them but stop keep going over and over this subject

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"roll up roll up for today's cheating thread....

Hey we've not had one for a while!! I was getting withdrawal symptoms lol"

It's been all of 24 hours I believe..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Oh by the way, yes I'm cheating!

Me too, and there's a story behind all of us, granted some a lot worse than others, but we don't all have the perfect life.."

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

Because they choose to be? They want a sex life for a myriad of reasons? If it's something you disagree with, make it clear on your profile. Ask the people you're talking with - quite often they'll be open about it.

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By *norksterMan over a year ago

Darlington and beyond

Think I'll go jump off the roof, might make things easier all round here. Good night.

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By *ink Panther.Woman over a year ago

Preston

"roll up roll up for today's cheating thread....

Hey we've not had one for a while!! I was getting withdrawal symptoms lol

It's been all of 24 hours I believe..

Do you mean I missed it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Because they choose to be? They want a sex life for a myriad of reasons? If it's something you disagree with, make it clear on your profile. Ask the people you're talking with - quite often they'll be open about it."

Yes and even when people are not cheating we all have a history and can understand other people's situations, because believe it or not marriage like life is not just black and white...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Think I'll go jump off the roof, might make things easier all round here. Good night."

Drama llama.

The day you let a random persons opinon on a sex site get to you is the day you need to have a rethink.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think it's just as bad if one person in a relationship stops being physically intimate with their partner but nobody ever berates them for that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Hi fellow fabbers!!

This has likely been asked hundred's of times, but it is becoming extremely annoying to me!!

Now please understand that I don't want to get on the moral highground, nor do i wish to attract any conflict..... this is after all a 'swingers' site!!...

But why are there so many married or attached men on here doing so WITHOUT their wives/partner's consent or knowledge??

Call me old fashioned or perhaps I'm someone with morals or some judgement, but I find cheating offensive!!!

For gods sake, let this topic go, people have their reasons, if you don't like them don't interact with them but stop keep going over and over this subject "

EXCUSE ME???? This happens to be the FIRST time I've posted on the forum so I am NOT "going on about it".... I have an opinion and a right to be annoyed as anyone else on here.... it's not as easy as you state, because people are DISHONEST strangely enough. I would obviously not meet someone who was upfront about it from the start and I appreciate it when they are and decline the chat going any further.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I decided not to cheat. I decided to persuade my wife to join here with me. It was one of the best decisions I made. It took years of talking but in the end it was worth it "

So you could cheat in front of her face!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Think I'll go jump off the roof, might make things easier all round here. Good night."
please dont joke or trivialise suicide

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By *itofamouthfullMan over a year ago

Cotswolds

"Think I'll go jump off the roof, might make things easier all round here. Good night. please dont joke or trivialise suicide "

Well said!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't think you succeeded in not getting on the moral high ground with your opening post.

If you don't want to meet married men, then don't. As someone above suggested, change/improve your selection process.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've slept with more than a couple of married women who were cheating, and married guys.

It doesn't bother me unless they decide to unload why they are doing it on me.

Dunno why it would bother me because I'm 100% sure everyone will cheat at some point, but it does.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi fellow fabbers!!

This has likely been asked hundred's of times, but it is becoming extremely annoying to me!!

Now please understand that I don't want to get on the moral highground, nor do i wish to attract any conflict..... this is after all a 'swingers' site!!...

But why are there so many married or attached men on here doing so WITHOUT their wives/partner's consent or knowledge??

Call me old fashioned or perhaps I'm someone with morals or some judgement, but I find cheating offensive!!!

For gods sake, let this topic go, people have their reasons, if you don't like them don't interact with them but stop keep going over and over this subject

I wouldn't stay on a site that made me this annoyed.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've slept with more than a couple of married women who were cheating, and married guys.

It doesn't bother me unless they decide to unload why they are doing it on me.

Dunno why it would bother me because I'm 100% sure everyone will cheat at some point, but it does.

Nice comment

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"Think I'll go jump off the roof, might make things easier all round here. Good night. please dont joke or trivialise suicide "

Even if you're one of the married ones the OP is referring to, it's a shitty joke.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Think I'll go jump off the roof, might make things easier all round here. Good night. please dont joke or trivialise suicide "

Here, Here Scarlett...

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I don't think you succeeded in not getting on the moral high ground with your opening post.

If you don't want to meet married men, then don't. As someone above suggested, change/improve your selection process."

Not as easy as that as I've already said.... as for not getting on the moral highground, I wouldn't have needed to if the cheaters had not got so defensive and tried to justify their immorality!

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

"Hi fellow fabbers!!

This has likely been asked hundred's of times, but it is becoming extremely annoying to me!!

Now please understand that I don't want to get on the moral highground, nor do i wish to attract any conflict..... this is after all a 'swingers' site!!...

But why are there so many married or attached men on here doing so WITHOUT their wives/partner's consent or knowledge??

They come for the fucking.

Wrong not just that

What else then?

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By *ink Panther.Woman over a year ago

Preston

"I don't think you succeeded in not getting on the moral high ground with your opening post.

If you don't want to meet married men, then don't. As someone above suggested, change/improve your selection process.

Not as easy as that as I've already said.... as for not getting on the moral highground, I wouldn't have needed to if the cheaters had not got so defensive and tried to justify their immorality! "

I'm far from defensive, I have no need to be my conscience is clear

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't think you succeeded in not getting on the moral high ground with your opening post.

If you don't want to meet married men, then don't. As someone above suggested, change/improve your selection process.

Not as easy as that as I've already said.... as for not getting on the moral highground, I wouldn't have needed to if the cheaters had not got so defensive and tried to justify their immorality! "

I was referring to your opening post

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Think I'll go jump off the roof, might make things easier all round here. Good night. please dont joke or trivialise suicide

Even if you're one of the married ones the OP is referring to, it's a shitty joke."

I didn't get the feeling he was joking or trivialising suicide.

These cheating threads always make out the person cheating is the bad one but it doesn't always work that way. People cheat for a reason.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't think you succeeded in not getting on the moral high ground with your opening post.

If you don't want to meet married men, then don't. As someone above suggested, change/improve your selection process.

Not as easy as that as I've already said.... as for not getting on the moral highground, I wouldn't have needed to if the cheaters had not got so defensive and tried to justify their immorality! "

I was going to be gentle in my comment but then just thought how many times I've seen comments like yours from people your age...!!!

Please just GROW up... You will end up doing yourself a favour

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If someone is dead set on having sex with some one other than their partner, they will do it, either on here, a hook up site or app, a dating site or they will pay for it.

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By *ink Panther.Woman over a year ago

Preston

"Hi fellow fabbers!!

This has likely been asked hundred's of times, but it is becoming extremely annoying to me!!

Now please understand that I don't want to get on the moral highground, nor do i wish to attract any conflict..... this is after all a 'swingers' site!!...

But why are there so many married or attached men on here doing so WITHOUT their wives/partner's consent or knowledge??

They come for the fucking.

Wrong not just that

What else then?

Can't speak for every cheat on the site and I'm not prepared to expand further on a thread, feel free to pm, I'd be happy to discuss

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"this is after all a 'swingers' site!!... "

You think?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't think you succeeded in not getting on the moral high ground with your opening post.

If you don't want to meet married men, then don't. As someone above suggested, change/improve your selection process.

Not as easy as that as I've already said.... as for not getting on the moral highground, I wouldn't have needed to if the cheaters had not got so defensive and tried to justify their immorality! "

Oh FFS, just because someone tries to explain their own situation doesn't mean they are justifying it or being defensive.

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"Think I'll go jump off the roof, might make things easier all round here. Good night. please dont joke or trivialise suicide

Even if you're one of the married ones the OP is referring to, it's a shitty joke.

I didn't get the feeling he was joking or trivialising suicide.

These cheating threads always make out the person cheating is the bad one but it doesn't always work that way. People cheat for a reason."

So by suggesting he would go jump off a roof he was? Making a serious comment?

Like cool, we get it. Cheaters get a hard time on here. Lots of people in this thread have said people cheat for different reasons. I think often the villain role is given to cheaters but still?

I don't think it was an appropriate comment in the slightest ergo, shitty joke.

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By *edzyWoman over a year ago

Aberdeen

"I'm 100% sure everyone will cheat at some point

You're wrong there - I haven't and I won't

If people are unhappy in their marriage they should leave

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I don't think you succeeded in not getting on the moral high ground with your opening post.

If you don't want to meet married men, then don't. As someone above suggested, change/improve your selection process.

Not as easy as that as I've already said.... as for not getting on the moral highground, I wouldn't have needed to if the cheaters had not got so defensive and tried to justify their immorality!

I was going to be gentle in my comment but then just thought how many times I've seen comments like yours from people your age...!!!

Please just GROW up... You will end up doing yourself a favour

If you LOOK at my age, you will see that I am just a few years younger than you so your ridiculous post has no bearing!! As for "growing up"... I'm not the dishonest one. I'd rather be immature (which I'm not) than dishonest. You don't need to be "gentle" with me lol!

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By *ink Panther.Woman over a year ago

Preston

"I'm 100% sure everyone will cheat at some point

You're wrong there - I haven't and I won't

If people are unhappy in their marriage they should leave

Yeah and back in the real world

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

"Hi fellow fabbers!!

This has likely been asked hundred's of times, but it is becoming extremely annoying to me!!

Now please understand that I don't want to get on the moral highground, nor do i wish to attract any conflict..... this is after all a 'swingers' site!!...

But why are there so many married or attached men on here doing so WITHOUT their wives/partner's consent or knowledge??

They come for the fucking.

Wrong not just that

What else then?

Can't speak for every cheat on the site and I'm not prepared to expand further on a thread, feel free to pm, I'd be happy to discuss

But you're not a man? This thread is specifically about married men on fab, it's right there in the OP.

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By *itofamouthfullMan over a year ago

Cotswolds

Woah chill out everyone! It's sat night! No work tomorrow for most of us, have a drink and relax!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm 100% sure everyone will cheat at some point

You're wrong there - I haven't and I won't

If people are unhappy in their marriage they should leave

Absolutely agreed! (Or at least be honest with their partner)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't think you succeeded in not getting on the moral high ground with your opening post.

If you don't want to meet married men, then don't. As someone above suggested, change/improve your selection process.

Not as easy as that as I've already said.... as for not getting on the moral highground, I wouldn't have needed to if the cheaters had not got so defensive and tried to justify their immorality!

I was going to be gentle in my comment but then just thought how many times I've seen comments like yours from people your age...!!!

Please just GROW up... You will end up doing yourself a favour

I ain't going to argue with you... my point 'age wise' was exactly what u replied with, so you should be old and experienced enough to fully understand people, relationships etc., by now...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP, why don't you put in your profile you're not interested in meeting attached men.

It won't deter all married men on here but some will pass you by.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi fellow fabbers!!

This has likely been asked hundred's of times, but it is becoming extremely annoying to me!!

Now please understand that I don't want to get on the moral highground, nor do i wish to attract any conflict..... this is after all a 'swingers' site!!...

But why are there so many married or attached men on here doing so WITHOUT their wives/partner's consent or knowledge??

Call me old fashioned or perhaps I'm someone with morals or some judgement, but I find cheating offensive!!!

For gods sake, let this topic go, people have their reasons, if you don't like them don't interact with them but stop keep going over and over this subject

You can write in as many capitals with as many question marks as you like, your perogative, but this topic has been gone over again and again and again in the forums, slightly different word's each time but with the same underlying theme

Again, don't like people cheating?, fine,your own opinion and its as valid as anyone's, but after how many now of these posts on this topic by various members?, people who do have reason to seek others whilst attached are going to get fed up being judged and not put up with it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm 100% sure everyone will cheat at some point

You're wrong there - I haven't and I won't

If people are unhappy in their marriage they should leave

Absolutely agreed! (Or at least be honest with their partner) "

Sorry everyone cheats.

By thought or action everyone strays.

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By *ink Panther.Woman over a year ago

Preston

"Hi fellow fabbers!!

This has likely been asked hundred's of times, but it is becoming extremely annoying to me!!

Now please understand that I don't want to get on the moral highground, nor do i wish to attract any conflict..... this is after all a 'swingers' site!!...

But why are there so many married or attached men on here doing so WITHOUT their wives/partner's consent or knowledge??

They come for the fucking.

Wrong not just that

What else then?

Can't speak for every cheat on the site and I'm not prepared to expand further on a thread, feel free to pm, I'd be happy to discuss

But you're not a man? This thread is specifically about married men on fab, it's right there in the OP. "

Do you think I don't chat with men who cheat. I'm not a hypocrite, I have a lot of insight on the subject. I spent a year on a chat site which was full of married/attached men. Listening is the key and it isn't just about sex for the majority

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

"Hi fellow fabbers!!

This has likely been asked hundred's of times, but it is becoming extremely annoying to me!!

Now please understand that I don't want to get on the moral highground, nor do i wish to attract any conflict..... this is after all a 'swingers' site!!...

But why are there so many married or attached men on here doing so WITHOUT their wives/partner's consent or knowledge??

They come for the fucking.

Wrong not just that

What else then?

Can't speak for every cheat on the site and I'm not prepared to expand further on a thread, feel free to pm, I'd be happy to discuss

But you're not a man? This thread is specifically about married men on fab, it's right there in the OP.

See that is a worry. I can understand a guy looking elsewhere for sex. But if he's looking for more than that then he really should consider changing things at home. Mind you never forget, guys will tell you anything to get use your vagina for an hour.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If I had a quid for every married 'straight' man I've had sex with I'd have at least £50.

And you know what? They are almost always the ones who ask if we can not use protection!

I'm clean they say, I've only been sleeping with my wife they say.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I don't think you succeeded in not getting on the moral high ground with your opening post.

If you don't want to meet married men, then don't. As someone above suggested, change/improve your selection process.

Not as easy as that as I've already said.... as for not getting on the moral highground, I wouldn't have needed to if the cheaters had not got so defensive and tried to justify their immorality!

I was going to be gentle in my comment but then just thought how many times I've seen comments like yours from people your age...!!!

Please just GROW up... You will end up doing yourself a favour

I ain't going to argue with you... my point 'age wise' was exactly what u replied with, so you should be old and experienced enough to fully understand people, relationships etc., by now...

I "understand people/relationships" etc perfectly, what I don't understand is dishonest people or those who choose to cheat on someone they may share a bed with, someone who likely cooks/cleans/irons etc for them, someone they may say they care about and may even say "I love you" to on a regular basis?! I'm guessing that at least one or two of the above options apply to some of the people who are cheating?!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have been seeing a girl for a short while.. Decided to get the snip.. Both have kids and 'not youngish anymore' total mutual agreement.

A week later she says I didn't want kids not her. Things obviously turn sour.

Sex becomes non existent

What else can I do when she is totally incomprehensible?

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

"I have been seeing a girl for a short while.. Decided to get the snip.. Both have kids and 'not youngish anymore' total mutual agreement.

A week later she says I didn't want kids not her. Things obviously turn sour.

Sex becomes non existent

What else can I do when she is totally incomprehensible? "

Leave.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Oh by the way, yes I'm cheating!

Me too, and there's a story behind all of us, granted some a lot worse than others, but we don't all have the perfect life.."

There is a story behind every "single" profile (m or f). But what the OP is asking is that she be made aware, simply, if the OH exists or is in the know.

Myself, I'm genuinely single. I have, however played with several married women, on their own. Some with and some without their hubbys knowledge (I take the moral low ground).

I've also probably played with a few that I didn't know were married ( make that I MUST have) over the past several years..... but it would have been nice to know.

There are, quite obviously, plenty others on here who are just plain cheating.....with no "story" whatsoever.

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By *ink Panther.Woman over a year ago

Preston

"Hi fellow fabbers!!

This has likely been asked hundred's of times, but it is becoming extremely annoying to me!!

Now please understand that I don't want to get on the moral highground, nor do i wish to attract any conflict..... this is after all a 'swingers' site!!...

But why are there so many married or attached men on here doing so WITHOUT their wives/partner's consent or knowledge??

They come for the fucking.

Wrong not just that

What else then?

Can't speak for every cheat on the site and I'm not prepared to expand further on a thread, feel free to pm, I'd be happy to discuss

But you're not a man? This thread is specifically about married men on fab, it's right there in the OP.

If that's the case it was wasted on me as the majority lived on a different continent and I wasn't meeting any of them! Can't believe you're tarring all guys with the same brush, yourself included I hope

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just let them get on with it I say.

You have the option not to meet or interact with them if n when you find out.

Can only see it being an issue if they don't disclose it.....which I'm sure happens a lot.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi fellow fabbers!!

This has likely been asked hundred's of times, but it is becoming extremely annoying to me!!

Now please understand that I don't want to get on the moral highground, nor do i wish to attract any conflict..... this is after all a 'swingers' site!!...

But why are there so many married or attached men on here doing so WITHOUT their wives/partner's consent or knowledge??

Call me old fashioned or perhaps I'm someone with morals or some judgement, but I find cheating offensive!!! "

Just down to morales.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm married, but divorcing, so in my eyes I'm not cheating. In the last 4 years that the wife and I weren't intimate in any way, I didn't seek solace elsewhere. When she petitioned for divorce I took that as my cue.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't think you succeeded in not getting on the moral high ground with your opening post.

If you don't want to meet married men, then don't. As someone above suggested, change/improve your selection process.

Not as easy as that as I've already said.... as for not getting on the moral highground, I wouldn't have needed to if the cheaters had not got so defensive and tried to justify their immorality!

I was going to be gentle in my comment but then just thought how many times I've seen comments like yours from people your age...!!!

Please just GROW up... You will end up doing yourself a favour

I ain't going to argue with you... my point 'age wise' was exactly what u replied with, so you should be old and experienced enough to fully understand people, relationships etc., by now...

Exactly, you don't understand

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't think you succeeded in not getting on the moral high ground with your opening post.

If you don't want to meet married men, then don't. As someone above suggested, change/improve your selection process.

Not as easy as that as I've already said.... as for not getting on the moral highground, I wouldn't have needed to if the cheaters had not got so defensive and tried to justify their immorality!

I was going to be gentle in my comment but then just thought how many times I've seen comments like yours from people your age...!!!

Please just GROW up... You will end up doing yourself a favour

I ain't going to argue with you... my point 'age wise' was exactly what u replied with, so you should be old and experienced enough to fully understand people, relationships etc., by now...

Yes, I understand that but there can be / are / will be so many other variables as well it is very difficult to be able to judge anyone either dispassionately or indeed honestly.. I feel for your point but can also get other situations people end up in..

At the end of the day... life is to short to be miserable x

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By *ink Panther.Woman over a year ago

Preston

"I don't think you succeeded in not getting on the moral high ground with your opening post.

If you don't want to meet married men, then don't. As someone above suggested, change/improve your selection process.

Not as easy as that as I've already said.... as for not getting on the moral highground, I wouldn't have needed to if the cheaters had not got so defensive and tried to justify their immorality!

I was going to be gentle in my comment but then just thought how many times I've seen comments like yours from people your age...!!!

Please just GROW up... You will end up doing yourself a favour

I ain't going to argue with you... my point 'age wise' was exactly what u replied with, so you should be old and experienced enough to fully understand people, relationships etc., by now...

If ANY of that was happening in my home I wouldn't be here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't think you succeeded in not getting on the moral high ground with your opening post.

If you don't want to meet married men, then don't. As someone above suggested, change/improve your selection process.

Not as easy as that as I've already said.... as for not getting on the moral highground, I wouldn't have needed to if the cheaters had not got so defensive and tried to justify their immorality!

I was going to be gentle in my comment but then just thought how many times I've seen comments like yours from people your age...!!!

Please just GROW up... You will end up doing yourself a favour

I ain't going to argue with you... my point 'age wise' was exactly what u replied with, so you should be old and experienced enough to fully understand people, relationships etc., by now...

But you can't possibly understand anyone else's relationship dynamics apart from the one you are in, no one can, only those 2 people know.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi fellow fabbers!!

This has likely been asked hundred's of times, but it is becoming extremely annoying to me!!

Now please understand that I don't want to get on the moral highground, nor do i wish to attract any conflict..... this is after all a 'swingers' site!!...

But why are there so many married or attached men on here doing so WITHOUT their wives/partner's consent or knowledge??

Call me old fashioned or perhaps I'm someone with morals or some judgement, but I find cheating offensive!!!

Just down to morales."

Yes her own morals, not mine as everyone lives by their own moral code.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't think you succeeded in not getting on the moral high ground with your opening post.

If you don't want to meet married men, then don't. As someone above suggested, change/improve your selection process.

Not as easy as that as I've already said.... as for not getting on the moral highground, I wouldn't have needed to if the cheaters had not got so defensive and tried to justify their immorality!

I was going to be gentle in my comment but then just thought how many times I've seen comments like yours from people your age...!!!

Please just GROW up... You will end up doing yourself a favour

I ain't going to argue with you... my point 'age wise' was exactly what u replied with, so you should be old and experienced enough to fully understand people, relationships etc., by now...

But you can't possibly understand anyone else's relationship dynamics apart from the one you are in, no one can, only those 2 people know.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I don't think you succeeded in not getting on the moral high ground with your opening post.

If you don't want to meet married men, then don't. As someone above suggested, change/improve your selection process.

Not as easy as that as I've already said.... as for not getting on the moral highground, I wouldn't have needed to if the cheaters had not got so defensive and tried to justify their immorality!

I was going to be gentle in my comment but then just thought how many times I've seen comments like yours from people your age...!!!

Please just GROW up... You will end up doing yourself a favour

I ain't going to argue with you... my point 'age wise' was exactly what u replied with, so you should be old and experienced enough to fully understand people, relationships etc., by now...

If ANY of that was happening in my home I wouldn't be here

If it's that bad and you don't want to be there, leave.

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By *ink Panther.Woman over a year ago

Preston

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By *ink Panther.Woman over a year ago

Preston

"I don't think you succeeded in not getting on the moral high ground with your opening post.

If you don't want to meet married men, then don't. As someone above suggested, change/improve your selection process.

Not as easy as that as I've already said.... as for not getting on the moral highground, I wouldn't have needed to if the cheaters had not got so defensive and tried to justify their immorality!

I was going to be gentle in my comment but then just thought how many times I've seen comments like yours from people your age...!!!

Please just GROW up... You will end up doing yourself a favour

I ain't going to argue with you... my point 'age wise' was exactly what u replied with, so you should be old and experienced enough to fully understand people, relationships etc., by now...

If ANY of that was happening in my home I wouldn't be here

If it's that bad and you don't want to be there, leave. "

And don't you think I would if it was so simple, it's attitudes like yours that make ppl lie about cheating! You can't even get your age straight on your profile!!!

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By *eanontiWoman over a year ago

Limerick

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By *eanontiWoman over a year ago

Limerick

I've been in the bad marriage. I never cheated. He definitely did. Espeicially when the kids were younger. I even found out years later of course, when I was pregnant with our first he went with a prostitute on a lads weekend in Amsterdam and came home and had unprotected sex with me. Did I have the opportunities to cheat yes I did. Especially with one of his work mates.

Is cheating black and white It might be to someone who has never been in a bad relationship.

I choose not to meet attached people. Doesn't mean I haven't because I can understand their situations

That's not saying some guys are just total and other creeps who their wives think have good marriages.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I find the judgy folk on their high horses about infidelity far more irritating than the cheaters here. Unless you're somehow able to do a full background check on these strangers, just accept that you're probably going to fuck some married people here.

Thanks for adding to the thousands of other cheating threads though, I never fail to be amused by the exact same views being expressed every time, with such vitriol!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi fellow fabbers!!

This has likely been asked hundred's of times, but it is becoming extremely annoying to me!!

Now please understand that I don't want to get on the moral highground, nor do i wish to attract any conflict..... this is after all a 'swingers' site!!...

But why are there so many married or attached men on here doing so WITHOUT their wives/partner's consent or knowledge??

They come for the fucking.

Wrong not just that

What else then?

Can't speak for every cheat on the site and I'm not prepared to expand further on a thread, feel free to pm, I'd be happy to discuss

But you're not a man? This thread is specifically about married men on fab, it's right there in the OP.

Can you rent them by the hour?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Oh by the way, yes I'm cheating!

Me too, and there's a story behind all of us, granted some a lot worse than others, but we don't all have the perfect life.."

This....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Walk in their shoes first, it's lonely on the moral high ground

Mine is a slightly different scenario I guess but I understand the reasons ppl cheat, I have no qualms about what I'm doing

Same here...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't think you succeeded in not getting on the moral high ground with your opening post.

If you don't want to meet married men, then don't. As someone above suggested, change/improve your selection process.

Not as easy as that as I've already said.... as for not getting on the moral highground, I wouldn't have needed to if the cheaters had not got so defensive and tried to justify their immorality!

I was going to be gentle in my comment but then just thought how many times I've seen comments like yours from people your age...!!!

Please just GROW up... You will end up doing yourself a favour

I ain't going to argue with you... my point 'age wise' was exactly what u replied with, so you should be old and experienced enough to fully understand people, relationships etc., by now...

If ANY of that was happening in my home I wouldn't be here

If it's that bad and you don't want to be there, leave. "

While I see what you're saying, I think you're daft to not realise life is not as clear cut as that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm 100% sure everyone will cheat at some point

You're wrong there - I haven't and I won't

If people are unhappy in their marriage they should leave

There are many reasons why i cant leave...none that i want to discuss here, but as has been said we all have our reasons..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm 100% sure everyone will cheat at some point

You're wrong there - I haven't and I won't

If people are unhappy in their marriage they should leave

There are many reasons why i cant leave...none that i want to discuss here, but as has been said we all have our reasons..

It's very easy to see things in black and white but we are all adults with needs.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Cheaters will always find a reason to cheat

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm 100% sure everyone will cheat at some point

You're wrong there - I haven't and I won't

If people are unhappy in their marriage they should leave

There are many reasons why i cant leave...none that i want to discuss here, but as has been said we all have our reasons..

It's very easy to see things in black and white but we are all adults with needs."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Cheaters will always find a reason to cheat

And haters will always hate..the easy way is to ask if those you plan to meet are married

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If some one is married/attached and is here for extra kicks, it's really none of my business and I really couldn't care.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Cheaters will always find a reason to cheat

And haters will always hate..the easy way is to ask if those you plan to meet are married"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

there's probably the odd sob story that would have you scratching your head but 99.9% will be bogus

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As someone who has been hurt by cheating I do my best not to play with married guys but I'm not stupid enough to think that some I've played with haven't just lied .

I also don't judge those on here who do cheat . There are many many reasons why it happens and as I don't know people's individual circumstances I'll keep my nose and opinions out of their business .

Oh and I won't start one of the 100 bloody threads a week on the subject . Pointless

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By *lwaysdiscreetMan over a year ago

Ashford Kent and Dartford

Like me because someone see your single and can't accommodate they think your married.

Well there can be loads of other reasons why your like this.

So why do people always think married first.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman over a year ago

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It never fails to amaze me how people on a site, who show their most private parts to a world of strangers, who throw themselves out there to meet strangers for sex can be so bloody judgemental.

At the end of the day, as has been mentioned many times above you cannot possibly know the dynamics of someones relationship. No one needs to explain why they are here and it is pretty easy to jusy say "no I don't want to meet attatched people"

Some will be honest and some won't

Why should it matter to anyone else what someone does away from their 'real life'

Everyone has stuff, reasons for needing that little bit more.

People say leave....sometimes it just isn't that easy.

Until you are in the situation yourself you couldn't possibly know.

Stop trying to make sense or get people to justify their purpose on here and just enjoy your own journey.

And yes I've cheated, no I don't feel guilty and I happily meet attached people.

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By *duk70Man over a year ago

langley

"It never fails to amaze me how people on a site, who show their most private parts to a world of strangers, who throw themselves out there to meet strangers for sex can be so bloody judgemental.

Some will be honest and some won't

Why should it matter to anyone else what someone does away from their 'real life'

Everyone has stuff, reasons for needing that little bit more.

People say leave....sometimes it just isn't that easy.

Until you are in the situation yourself you couldn't possibly know.

Stop trying to make sense or get people to justify their purpose on here and just enjoy your own journey.

And yes I've cheated, no I don't feel guilty and I happily meet attached people.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It never fails to amaze me how people on a site, who show their most private parts to a world of strangers, who throw themselves out there to meet strangers for sex can be so bloody judgemental.

Some will be honest and some won't

Why should it matter to anyone else what someone does away from their 'real life'

Everyone has stuff, reasons for needing that little bit more.

People say leave....sometimes it just isn't that easy.

Until you are in the situation yourself you couldn't possibly know.

Stop trying to make sense or get people to justify their purpose on here and just enjoy your own journey.

And yes I've cheated, no I don't feel guilty and I happily meet attached people.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It never fails to amaze me how people on a site, who show their most private parts to a world of strangers, who throw themselves out there to meet strangers for sex can be so bloody judgemental.

Some will be honest and some won't

Why should it matter to anyone else what someone does away from their 'real life'

Everyone has stuff, reasons for needing that little bit more.

People say leave....sometimes it just isn't that easy.

Until you are in the situation yourself you couldn't possibly know.

Stop trying to make sense or get people to justify their purpose on here and just enjoy your own journey.

And yes I've cheated, no I don't feel guilty and I happily meet attached people.

THIS!

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By *hickennchipsWoman over a year ago

up above the streets and houses

I don't care if ur married as it ain't my business

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And the haters gonna, hate, hate, hate, hate, hate and I just wanna slake, shake, shake, shake, shake, shake it off, shake it off.

Well I don't actually want to shake it off but I think you get my gist

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By *ink Panther.Woman over a year ago

Preston

"And the haters gonna, hate, hate, hate, hate, hate and I just wanna slake, shake, shake, shake, shake, shake it off, shake it off.

Well I don't actually want to shake it off but I think you get my gist

I get it lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Who gives a fuck

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I decided not to cheat. I decided to persuade my wife to join here with me. It was one of the best decisions I made. It took years of talking but in the end it was worth it "

It's rare for couples to admit this. You're lucky you persuaded her after so many years of talking her into it

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By *iss.HoneyWoman over a year ago

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"Who gives a fuck"

Basically what I was trying to say

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm a cheater, I always slip myself an extra £500 when playing banker in monopoly.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman over a year ago

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"I'm a cheater, I always slip myself an extra £500 when playing banker in monopoly.

Just the one? I never pay the full amount for things when I am banker

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm a cheater, I always slip myself an extra £500 when playing banker in monopoly.

Just the one? I never pay the full amount for things when I am banker

Bet you nick hotels too? Ya big cheater

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By *iss.HoneyWoman over a year ago

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"I'm a cheater, I always slip myself an extra £500 when playing banker in monopoly.

Just the one? I never pay the full amount for things when I am banker

Bet you nick hotels too? Ya big cheater"

I am a cheat I confess.

I don't steal hotels though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It never fails to amaze me how people on a site, who show their most private parts to a world of strangers, who throw themselves out there to meet strangers for sex can be so bloody judgemental.

Some will be honest and some won't

Why should it matter to anyone else what someone does away from their 'real life'

Everyone has stuff, reasons for needing that little bit more.

People say leave....sometimes it just isn't that easy.

Until you are in the situation yourself you couldn't possibly know.

Stop trying to make sense or get people to justify their purpose on here and just enjoy your own journey.

And yes I've cheated, no I don't feel guilty and I happily meet attached people.

No harm in asking questions. How can people learn new things if they don't ask?

It's a Swinging site. Couples have to put a lot of trust in their relationship and partner to Swing. It's not cheating. Unless one or both has secret ulterior motives and then it is cheating labelled as Swinging.

Their relationship is the most important thing to them. So who they meet is also important. They can use whatever criteria they wish when choosing who to meet. If they choose not to meet liars or cheaters that is their prerogative.

Seems to be the liars and cheaters and people that get turned down that whine the most about it. Entitled.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Always wonder why people get so uptight about married guys. For me, that's their burden to carry as long as their wife isn't in MI5 or a Private Investigator with a firearms license and a jiu jitsu master...

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By *iss.HoneyWoman over a year ago

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"It never fails to amaze me how people on a site, who show their most private parts to a world of strangers, who throw themselves out there to meet strangers for sex can be so bloody judgemental.

Some will be honest and some won't

Why should it matter to anyone else what someone does away from their 'real life'

Everyone has stuff, reasons for needing that little bit more.

People say leave....sometimes it just isn't that easy.

Until you are in the situation yourself you couldn't possibly know.

Stop trying to make sense or get people to justify their purpose on here and just enjoy your own journey.

And yes I've cheated, no I don't feel guilty and I happily meet attached people.

No harm in asking questions. How can people learn new things if they don't ask?

Seems to be the liars and cheaters and people that get turned down that whine the most about it. Entitled.

Who is entitled?

No one is saying not to ask but why be so negative about 'cheats'

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By *lik and PaulCouple over a year ago

cahoots

"Having been one of those guys I can only say there a many reasons (for me anyway) to do it. I think the main issue is when people lie about it.

To their wives?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Empathy is the best cure for feeling the need to shame others and the shame others may feel. Shaming does no good to the shamer or shamed.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Who gives a fuck"

Lots of people apparently

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By *onny-2008Man over a year ago

Manchester/ Lancaster

Thank u , nice to know some women understand xxx

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By *ink Panther.Woman over a year ago

Preston

"Always wonder why people get so uptight about married guys. For me, that's their burden to carry as long as their wife isn't in MI5 or a Private Investigator with a firearms license and a jiu jitsu master...

Yeah that should be more of a concern

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Love this reply!! Really made me laugh

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Even if they explained why they are here, you wouldn't understand or want to understand.

I can empathise with your abhorrence of them, even though I sympathise with some, because I know life isn't as simple as some people think. It must be frustrating for you to find the man you just fucked, or are talking to is attached, because you have to let him go, after investing time in him.

There are a huge amount of men on here who are single still. Let the taken ones go and focus your energy on them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Having been on the side of " cheated wife" I can tell you it is horrific when you find out. It can destroy one.Now he is married to the woman he cheated on me with. If he'd been honest then I wouldn't have been put through pain and suffering for 10 years.

I believe humans are not made to be monogamous. Be a couple. Swing when you want. Together. Everyone cheats at one stage. Even just with thoughts. If you think about someone while you are already with someone else that is emotional cheating. Nothing wrong with it. Human nature. Personally I don't meet with attached/married men. Hits too close to sore spots for me. Everyone does what they want at the end of the day. Don't judge till you walk in their shoes.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP, why don't you put in your profile you're not interested in meeting attached men.

It won't deter all married men on here but some will pass you by."

If you also say you won't lie for them if they get found out that will put more off lying too.

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By *onny-2008Man over a year ago

Manchester/ Lancaster

Pity flammingStarr does not understand

AND

Its not always about sex

I've been on here since 2008 and never made love to anyone other than my wife !!!!

I love the banter with like minded friends and chatting and flirting ( its a moral booster x)

Jonny

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Amazing how many start a vitriol post with "don't get me wrong" or "not taking the moral high ground". Sorry OP but if you are what you describe, " old fashioned, morals, judgement" then what are you doing on this type of site because to some, probably most, "old fashioned" means not having sex outside of marriage. All of a sudden it's not quite black and white is it?

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Pity flammingStarr does not understand

AND

Its not always about sex

I've been on here since 2008 and never made love to anyone other than my wife !!!!

I love the banter with like minded friends and chatting and flirting ( its a moral booster x)

Jonny"

Yes but how many have you had sex with?

And tbh I've just read your profile twice and nowhere does it say you are married..

I think that's part of what the OP was getting at..

If you are honest and open about it it then it gives others an informed choice as to whether they will meet you or not ..

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By *amo2121Man over a year ago

swansea

"There are loads of cheating women too here lol.

I agree..... anyone cheating is not acceptable.... however I can only comment from my experience, because being a straight female I have no experience of cheating females!! Both equally abhorrent! "

That's a poor excuse...do you think that only men in this world Cheat lol?! Sounds to me like you've been strung along by a married bloke and now you've got ...ermmmmmm...sour grapes? It's life people cheat..you say I don't judge but you've opened a full forum post just to ...well...do exactly that. Lol

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By *ink Panther.Woman over a year ago

Preston

I decided not to cheat. I decided to persuade my wife to join here with me. It was one of the best decisions I made. It took years of talking but in the end it was worth it

Persuade or coerce?"

Please accept my apology for this post, completely uncalled for and extremely judgmental, I'm glad you've found happiness swinging and I wish you many more wonderful years together

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi fellow fabbers!!

This has likely been asked hundred's of times, but it is becoming extremely annoying to me!!

Now please understand that I don't want to get on the moral highground, nor do i wish to attract any conflict..... this is after all a 'swingers' site!!...

But why are there so many married or attached men on here doing so WITHOUT their wives/partner's consent or knowledge??

Call me old fashioned or perhaps I'm someone with morals or some judgement, but I find cheating offensive!!! "

There are many reasons why men and women cheat and unless you have lived their life you can't understand their reasons, yes they made the promise to be faithful but then maybe they didn't expect to be in an abusive relationship ! It's not easy to leave when you have children and a mortgage etc and you are emotionally abused ... yes that was my life with my first husband. I turned to swinging and it saved my life. I did always make it clear i was already married though with guys i met.

Thankfully though it ended well and G is wonderful

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By *j47Man over a year ago

limerick

"I don't think you succeeded in not getting on the moral high ground with your opening post.

If you don't want to meet married men, then don't. As someone above suggested, change/improve your selection process.

Not as easy as that as I've already said.... as for not getting on the moral highground, I wouldn't have needed to if the cheaters had not got so defensive and tried to justify their immorality! "

There are different levels of morality why there's even people that believe ur morals are in the gutter for just being here but then ud not like them imposing their morals on u so don't impose urs on others block and move on there's plenty here for every one

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This debate will never be resolved to the satisfaction of all perspectives...end of.

So as a consequence, surely,the sensible thing is for those who are opposed to it happening, have no contact with people involved in extra marital sex, and those advocating it simply carry on without feeling the need to publicly justify their actions?

The world is full of polar opposites...just learn to accept that other people's lives are their own to either make or destroy in their own fashion.

I'm sure a lot of married people come on here to indulge then have that moment of epiphany about what's happening to them and where they're going in life. Others just carry on blindly.

That's life...you get the exam first then the lesson after.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" This debate will never be resolved to the satisfaction of all perspectives...end of.

The world is full of polar opposites...just learn to accept that other people's lives are their own to either make or destroy in their own fashion.

I'm sure a lot of married people come on here to indulge then have that moment of epiphany about what's happening to them and where they're going in life. Others just carry on blindly.

That's life...you get the exam first then the lesson after."

When someone lies about being single there is no option to have no contact with married people. It takes away their choice.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" This debate will never be resolved to the satisfaction of all perspectives...end of.

The world is full of polar opposites...just learn to accept that other people's lives are their own to either make or destroy in their own fashion.

I'm sure a lot of married people come on here to indulge then have that moment of epiphany about what's happening to them and where they're going in life. Others just carry on blindly.

That's life...you get the exam first then the lesson after."

I try to avoid the married/attached ones but lots don't advertise it until you've been chatting for a while, always frustrating!! It doesn't bother me why people are on here but being open about it from the word go would be helpful.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Walk in their shoes first, it's lonely on the moral high ground

xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Valid points. Maybe there should be a box to tick saying attached. It could be a filter tool for those wishing to avoid?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" Valid points. Maybe there should be a box to tick saying attached. It could be a filter tool for those wishing to avoid?"

I'd agree with that

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By *ink Panther.Woman over a year ago

Preston

" Valid points. Maybe there should be a box to tick saying attached. It could be a filter tool for those wishing to avoid?

I'd agree with that

Can you imagine their inboxes, they'd be full of hate mail!!

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

"Hi fellow fabbers!!

This has likely been asked hundred's of times, but it is becoming extremely annoying to me!!

Now please understand that I don't want to get on the moral highground, nor do i wish to attract any conflict..... this is after all a 'swingers' site!!...

But why are there so many married or attached men on here doing so WITHOUT their wives/partner's consent or knowledge??

They come for the fucking.

Wrong not just that

What else then?

Can't speak for every cheat on the site and I'm not prepared to expand further on a thread, feel free to pm, I'd be happy to discuss

But you're not a man? This thread is specifically about married men on fab, it's right there in the OP.

Why me as well?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Love this reply!! Really made me laugh

I find married guys have loads of pent-up wanton frustrated desire - feel free to unleash all that on me please

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

Love this reply!! Really made me laugh

I find married guys have loads of pent-up wanton frustrated desire - "

Yeah, that finishes in thirty seconds.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yeah that should be more of a concern

Married = more discreet = happy Jess

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" Valid points. Maybe there should be a box to tick saying attached. It could be a filter tool for those wishing to avoid?

I'd agree with that

Can you imagine their inboxes, they'd be full of hate mail!!

...then there's evidence that individuals who oppose are acting with prejudice.

Look there's valid points for both arguments, and those choosing to act out of wedlock should ensure others are aware, otherwise they may innocently become embroiled in an awkward situation.

HOWEVER. Let's be honest it's annoying to those not involved at the very most. Things to get trully wound up about are children subject to abuse, innocent civilians being shot up in war zones, global warming and destruction of animal species etc. Get things in context people?

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By *ink Panther.Woman over a year ago

Preston

Yeah that should be more of a concern

Married = more discreet = happy Jess

Oh oh I feel another thread needed here!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yeah that should be more of a concern

Married = more discreet = happy Jess

Oh oh I feel another thread needed here!!

No more, please!!

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By *ink Panther.Woman over a year ago

Preston

Yeah that should be more of a concern

Married = more discreet = happy Jess

Oh oh I feel another thread needed here!!

No more, please!!"

Wash your mouth out

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yeah that should be more of a concern

Married = more discreet = happy Jess

Oh oh I feel another thread needed here!!

No more, please!!

Wash your mouth out

'Married men whose wives AREN'T in the secret services' thread... roll up, roll up

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By *ink Panther.Woman over a year ago

Preston

Yeah that should be more of a concern

Married = more discreet = happy Jess

Oh oh I feel another thread needed here!!

No more, please!!

Wash your mouth out

'Married men whose wives AREN'T in the secret services' thread... roll up, roll up

I was thinking more like married/attached for married/attached, we are regular little matchmakers lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There are lots of women who are married or attached here too and who's other half doesn't know.

I don't have an issue with it as long as people are honest so those meeting them can make informed choices. I'm not living their life so it's not down to me to judge.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Reading through with interest.

Many saying don't judge till you walk in their shoes.....as if that makes it right?

A question struck me.... many give defence for whatever reason and I'm not judging in any way.... but how many of you hate it if someone on fab lies to you...their age, old photo, bad excuse for a no show, not who they say they are ( man on a woman's profile or couples profile)?

Just a thought as I've read so many comments over the months about people not being honest and wondered how many were by those who are on here without their partners knowledge.

This is a genuine question not to be judging in any way.

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By *ink Panther.Woman over a year ago

Preston

"There are lots of women who are married or attached here too and who's other half doesn't know.

I don't have an issue with it as long as people are honest so those meeting them can make informed choices. I'm not living their life so it's not down to me to judge. "

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By *ikeC81Man over a year ago

harrow

I am single

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By *lik and PaulCouple over a year ago

cahoots

"There are lots of women who are married or attached here too and who's other half doesn't know.

I don't have an issue with it as long as people are honest so those meeting them can make informed choices. I'm not living their life so it's not down to me to judge. "

I agree with this, however I struggle with the term "honest" as surely they can't be honest people if they are in that situation.

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By *ink Panther.Woman over a year ago

Preston

"I am single

Bless you're hated equally as much x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There are lots of women who are married or attached here too and who's other half doesn't know.

I don't have an issue with it as long as people are honest so those meeting them can make informed choices. I'm not living their life so it's not down to me to judge.

I agree with this, however I struggle with the term "honest" as surely they can't be honest people if they are in that situation."

I get what you're saying too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't have an issue meeting married fabbers

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yeah that should be more of a concern

Married = more discreet = happy Jess

Oh oh I feel another thread needed here!!

No more, please!!

Wash your mouth out

'Married men whose wives AREN'T in the secret services' thread... roll up, roll up

I was thinking more like married/attached for married/attached, we are regular little matchmakers lol

Sounds good - hopefully us singles who like a good married/attached can play too sometimes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They love their wives but not getting the sex they need. It's the most natural thing in the world. And be honest, those men who are cheating don't really know if their wives are too!!. Keep him happy and he won't stray.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There are lots of women who are married or attached here too and who's other half doesn't know.

I don't have an issue with it as long as people are honest so those meeting them can make informed choices. I'm not living their life so it's not down to me to judge. "

Sound a bit of a contradition there. You don't have an issue with them lying to their partner just as long as they're not lying on heret? I'm not sure how they are being 'honest' about anything like that.

One thing I see often on thread is that people are ok if they are not lied to.... ie. It's not personal to them, yet many will soon try to name and shame. I just find this behaviour strange....don't understand it.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman over a year ago

Yorkshire

"I don't think you succeeded in not getting on the moral high ground with your opening post.

If you don't want to meet married men, then don't. As someone above suggested, change/improve your selection process."

Its alright us all saying 'if you dont wanna meet M/A men then don't' this is exactly her point.... shes trying not to but the swines still lie to get her in the sack xx

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

What I do dislike is those who can't seem to understand why others don't want to meet married people and make it into 'we're so hated' crap.Honestly, get over yourselves. People are allowed to not want to meet married people.

This whole idea of a moral high ground?

Fuck that patronising fallacy. Everyone has different morals, everyone judges to a certain extent. Boohoo. If it's not in your favour or you disagree with it , move on.

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