*Warning this may be long as im just mumbling*
As individuals with individual character it takes us awhile to understand who we really are. We "think" we know who we are but i for one can honestly say i didnt truely know the "real" me until i was in my 30's. My feelings, opinions, my reactions to situations, my emotions the positive things about myself and the thing none of us want to admit to ourselves the negatives about our personality.
We often get lost in life, bringing up a family, working and general day to day existance. We always here people saying we need to have some "me" time.
Over the last six months ive been changing, some of it good some not so good. But ive definetly been changing in character. Yes i know im getting older and over the last few years i have been slowly changing but over the last six months i seem to have been changing dramatically. Ive put a lot down to the weight loss as i percieve things differently but i think somewhere the "me" had got lost and im not the "me" i thought i was anymore. I got to the stage where i was ambling through life and not seemed to be living it.
Im now looking for new challenges all the time. Sometimes things are not easy for me so i know i have limitations but i feel i want to push myself more and more. At the moment im looking for a new hobby not an exercise related one but something ive always wanted to do but felt i was unable to do.
Living in a small town has its disadvantages as we are limited to whats available.
Two ideas i have in my mind at the moment are, going on an archeological did and the other is doing amature dramatics. Both things i was intersted in when i was about 10.
Ive decided to take a six month break from swinging. Still going to use the forums and go to the beach party, but a break from meets. I want to discover the new me and my capabilities.
I guess this is what people refer to as mid-life crisis if it is i wish it had happened years ago |
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mid life crises come in many shapes and forms
mine came in the shape of a shiny little hatchback 
i didn't think it was all that flashy til i turned up at my mates and his opening remark was
'so that's what a mid-life crisis looks like'
bastard  |
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diamond.
i will make this a personal reply on your thread.
we all have moments in our lives which change us and sometimes break us. good things we feel are rare because the bad ones stand out more.
health issues can dog us and we sometimes come on here grumpy,moody and even as i have been before angry and you know this.
as a forum goes unless you speak to someone over the phone you never really know what someone is like.
words are just words, yes some are hurtful but if we listen to much to them we can ruin everything.
ive said things i regret in the past and im not proud of them but i move on from that and those that have met me recently we tell you of someone very different to what he was.
why do we change? is it age or a midlife madness.
honestly i dont know. i just one day decided i would change. it wasnt a medical thing or anything someone said, i just did it.
never liked the old me anyway, i was always pushing myself and burning inside. not good at all and instead of letting myself break down i stopped it as i was strong enough too. of course i understand some people go through hell and get lost.
not every path is straight and not every one controls the outcome.
but what i do know is that since i started listening to woman on here, understanding them better ( regardless of size,colour etc ) they have enriched my life and made me a better man.
i have met some truely lovely woman i never thought id ever get the chance too and that was because i re-invented myself.
this has also had a positive on me as im moving due to a promotion and again reached a goal i thought was obtainable.
we all have it in us to help ourselves and sometimes true friends step in and check on you as they see things you may not.
but to change yourself or make slight adjustments to improve the quality of your life is the most important thing.
you come first and your happiness is paramount.
ive taken breaks from here and the last one did me the world of good as before you stands a much happier person with good friends.
your not alone in wanting a break from it all and of course you will be welcomed back with open arms when you do.
no rush, no hurry. come back when its right to and your refreshed.
it would be good to hear from time to time that you are ok and well.
my best wishes go with you.
patrick x
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Im still going to be on the forums. Noone gets rid of me that easily lol. Have been to the library this afternoon to see whats on offer and strangley there is something on arceology on in the library during the last part of july so will definetly go to that. |
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"Im still going to be on the forums. Noone gets rid of me that easily lol. Have been to the library this afternoon to see whats on offer and strangley there is something on arceology on in the library during the last part of july so will definetly go to that."
Tis serendipity methinks.. |
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i found a book recently on focusing the mind and achieving goals.
it helped me greatly on understanding why people do and say things.
i know we havnt always seen eye to eye diamond but your a nice woman and caring.
you will be in my thoughts xx |
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Its good to take a step back and a fresh look at yourself xxxxxx
