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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I am the only one who finds sending a opening message extremely difficult. Most profiles will read...please no 1 line messages or yes I am ok and I had a good day etc.
So how do you start a message? I wouldn't want to tell them too much about myself as it comes across as egotistical or narccatistic?
Any advice is much appreciated. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am the only one who finds sending a opening message extremely difficult. Most profiles will read...please no 1 line messages or yes I am ok and I had a good day etc.
So how do you start a message? I wouldn't want to tell them too much about myself as it comes across as egotistical or narccatistic?
Any advice is much appreciated. "
Simple, very little text....
I open with;
"This is my cock, get on it bitch."
*do NOT forget to attach a cock pic, they don't like that.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I normally go for
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It works. 
There's no set way I do though OP. People are different."
I do vary my messages and make a reference to their profile as it shows I've actually read it, rather than just looking through pics. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I have noticed the same, the poliet messages get read and not replied, i think there just so overloaded with men emailing they cant keep up most days "
Yeah I can appreciate that. I had a couples profile with my Mrs and we had so many messages. Was hard to get through |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I am the only one who finds sending a opening message extremely difficult. Most profiles will read...please no 1 line messages or yes I am ok and I had a good day etc.
So how do you start a message? I wouldn't want to tell them too much about myself as it comes across as egotistical or narccatistic?
Any advice is much appreciated.
Simple, very little text....
I open with;
"This is my cock, get on it bitch."
*do NOT forget to attach a cock pic, they don't like that.
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Ha brilliant |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have noticed the same, the poliet messages get read and not replied, i think there just so overloaded with men emailing they cant keep up most days
Yeah I can appreciate that. I had a couples profile with my Mrs and we had so many messages. Was hard to get through "
Yh thats how it is here and a lot of guys here are animals rude abusive if they say sorry not interested i think many wonem are put off by single guys |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I normally go for
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It works.
There's no set way I do though OP. People are different.
I do vary my messages and make a reference to their profile as it shows I've actually read it, rather than just looking through pics. "
No matter what you send, if your profile doesn't interest the recipient, you won't get a response. So work on making sure your profile is the best it can be; after that you can send a message saying not much or a witty reference to a status/profile text. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I have noticed the same, the poliet messages get read and not replied, i think there just so overloaded with men emailing they cant keep up most days
Yeah I can appreciate that. I had a couples profile with my Mrs and we had so many messages. Was hard to get through
Yh thats how it is here and a lot of guys here are animals rude abusive if they say sorry not interested i think many wonem are put off by single guys "
I'm sure you must struggle mate with a body like that lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I normally go for
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It works.
There's no set way I do though OP. People are different.
I do vary my messages and make a reference to their profile as it shows I've actually read it, rather than just looking through pics.
No matter what you send, if your profile doesn't interest the recipient, you won't get a response. So work on making sure your profile is the best it can be; after that you can send a message saying not much or a witty reference to a status/profile text."
That's good advice. Thank you x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am the only one who finds sending a opening message extremely difficult. Most profiles will read...please no 1 line messages or yes I am ok and I had a good day etc.
So how do you start a message? I wouldn't want to tell them too much about myself as it comes across as egotistical or narccatistic?
Any advice is much appreciated.
Simple, very little text....
I open with;
"This is my cock, get on it bitch."
*do NOT forget to attach a cock pic, they don't like that.
Ha brilliant "
Feel free to use my work, I hope it helps.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have noticed the same, the poliet messages get read and not replied, i think there just so overloaded with men emailing they cant keep up most days
Yeah I can appreciate that. I had a couples profile with my Mrs and we had so many messages. Was hard to get through
Yh thats how it is here and a lot of guys here are animals rude abusive if they say sorry not interested i think many wonem are put off by single guys
I'm sure you must struggle mate with a body like that lol "
My point exactly rude abusie for no reason ! What an absolut prick !! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I have noticed the same, the poliet messages get read and not replied, i think there just so overloaded with men emailing they cant keep up most days
Yeah I can appreciate that. I had a couples profile with my Mrs and we had so many messages. Was hard to get through
Yh thats how it is here and a lot of guys here are animals rude abusive if they say sorry not interested i think many wonem are put off by single guys
I'm sure you must struggle mate with a body like that lol
My point exactly rude abusie for no reason ! What an absolut prick !! "
It was a compliment mate... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I am the only one who finds sending a opening message extremely difficult. Most profiles will read...please no 1 line messages or yes I am ok and I had a good day etc.
So how do you start a message? I wouldn't want to tell them too much about myself as it comes across as egotistical or narccatistic?
Any advice is much appreciated.
Simple, very little text....
I open with;
"This is my cock, get on it bitch."
*do NOT forget to attach a cock pic, they don't like that.
Ha brilliant
Feel free to use my work, I hope it helps. "
I heard 60% of the time it works every time???? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have noticed the same, the poliet messages get read and not replied, i think there just so overloaded with men emailing they cant keep up most days
Yeah I can appreciate that. I had a couples profile with my Mrs and we had so many messages. Was hard to get through
Yh thats how it is here and a lot of guys here are animals rude abusive if they say sorry not interested i think many wonem are put off by single guys
I'm sure you must struggle mate with a body like that lol
My point exactly rude abusie for no reason ! What an absolut prick !!
It was a compliment mate..."
Really dont come across that way |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am the only one who finds sending a opening message extremely difficult. Most profiles will read...please no 1 line messages or yes I am ok and I had a good day etc.
So how do you start a message? I wouldn't want to tell them too much about myself as it comes across as egotistical or narccatistic?
Any advice is much appreciated. "
As _eeside said.....don't it just a waste of your time. |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"I am the only one who finds sending a opening message extremely difficult. Most profiles will read...please no 1 line messages or yes I am ok and I had a good day etc.
So how do you start a message? I wouldn't want to tell them too much about myself as it comes across as egotistical or narccatistic?
Any advice is much appreciated. "
type of message is no where near as important as your profile op in my experience .
if your profile is engaging your messages are more likely to be responded to it really is that simple in my experience ,#
hope this answer helps op . |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I have noticed the same, the poliet messages get read and not replied, i think there just so overloaded with men emailing they cant keep up most days
Yeah I can appreciate that. I had a couples profile with my Mrs and we had so many messages. Was hard to get through
Yh thats how it is here and a lot of guys here are animals rude abusive if they say sorry not interested i think many wonem are put off by single guys
I'm sure you must struggle mate with a body like that lol
My point exactly rude abusie for no reason ! What an absolut prick !!
It was a compliment mate...
Really dont come across that way "
I can't see how it can come across any other way?? You have a good body in your profile pic. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I am the only one who finds sending a opening message extremely difficult. Most profiles will read...please no 1 line messages or yes I am ok and I had a good day etc.
So how do you start a message? I wouldn't want to tell them too much about myself as it comes across as egotistical or narccatistic?
Any advice is much appreciated.
type of message is no where near as important as your profile op in my experience .
if your profile is engaging your messages are more likely to be responded to it really is that simple in my experience ,#
hope this answer helps op ."
Thanks John |
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"I am the only one who finds sending a opening message extremely difficult. Most profiles will read...please no 1 line messages or yes I am ok and I had a good day etc.
So how do you start a message? I wouldn't want to tell them too much about myself as it comes across as egotistical or narccatistic?
Any advice is much appreciated. "
Personally I don't see what is wrong with a 1 or 2 line opening message.
If you approached a stranger in a bar and burst into a shower of information about yourself with a list of questions about them then you'd be considered weird. Also, it's human nature to be attracted to looks first so why waste your energy toiling over a long message when they might not be attracted to you anyway.
We are more than happy receiving and sending a first message with a pic saying something to the effect of... "Hi, we spotted your profile and thought we'd introduce ourselves. Hopefully you'd be interested in getting to know us. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I am the only one who finds sending a opening message extremely difficult. Most profiles will read...please no 1 line messages or yes I am ok and I had a good day etc.
So how do you start a message? I wouldn't want to tell them too much about myself as it comes across as egotistical or narccatistic?
Any advice is much appreciated.
Personally I don't see what is wrong with a 1 or 2 line opening message.
If you approached a stranger in a bar and burst into a shower of information about yourself with a list of questions about them then you'd be considered weird. Also, it's human nature to be attracted to looks first so why waste your energy toiling over a long message when they might not be attracted to you anyway.
We are more than happy receiving and sending a first message with a pic saying something to the effect of... "Hi, we spotted your profile and thought we'd introduce ourselves. Hopefully you'd be interested in getting to know us."
Thanks for the great message. Yes I agree it is mainly about the looks to begin with. It's not a dating site after all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's amazing how many guys do not actually read profiles. I have certain preferences clearly stated even down to not calling me babe or hun. Any mail with either in is likely to be dumped. It's a short profile and easy to read so no excuse. Reading a profile can reduce the amount of time you waste with messages - just a thought |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am the only one who finds sending a opening message extremely difficult. Most profiles will read...please no 1 line messages or yes I am ok and I had a good day etc.
So how do you start a message? I wouldn't want to tell them too much about myself as it comes across as egotistical or narccatistic?
Any advice is much appreciated. "
Why not disregard the profiles that seem overly demanding when it comes to a first message?
Most of the time a couple will look at your profile to determine if there's an attraction and that will override everything else.
We would suggest you be brief, not rude and avoid cock pictures, keep your longer message for if they respond. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Oh no. Opening messages are fine to write in and of themselves. It's the factors that surround the recipient's receipt. Are they online, are they snowed under with messages, are they chatting with somebody they're really interested in, do they like the look of your profile, are you engaging them... you get the idea. If people like you enough they'll get in touch. And if they don't, I may have a little internal tantrum, but then I'll remember that there are no rights or wrongs and that I'm really not the only fella out there  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I agree with most posters above.
Your profile picture will be the first thing they see.
Try not to get too despondent. I've had days where I just delete messages for no other reasons other than I was too tired or just wasn't feeling it that day.
A really polite message goes a long long way in my book.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am the only one who finds sending a opening message extremely difficult. Most profiles will read...please no 1 line messages or yes I am ok and I had a good day etc.
So how do you start a message? I wouldn't want to tell them too much about myself as it comes across as egotistical or narccatistic?
Any advice is much appreciated.
type of message is no where near as important as your profile op in my experience .
if your profile is engaging your messages are more likely to be responded to it really is that simple in my experience ,#
hope this answer helps op ."
What experience is that handson  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am the only one who finds sending a opening message extremely difficult. Most profiles will read...please no 1 line messages or yes I am ok and I had a good day etc.
So how do you start a message? I wouldn't want to tell them too much about myself as it comes across as egotistical or narccatistic?
Any advice is much appreciated. "
Read the profile.
Look at the pictures.
Read the profile again, properly.
Read it again.
and then, and only then, wrote something, to them. Maybe use humour from pictures, or location, keep it lighthearted, and keep it minimal. |
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"I am the only one who finds sending a opening message extremely difficult. Most profiles will read...please no 1 line messages or yes I am ok and I had a good day etc.
So how do you start a message? I wouldn't want to tell them too much about myself as it comes across as egotistical or narccatistic?
Any advice is much appreciated.
Simple, very little text....
I open with;
"This is my cock, get on it bitch."
*do NOT forget to attach a cock pic, they don't like that.
"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's amazing how many guys do not actually read profiles. I have certain preferences clearly stated even down to not calling me babe or hun. Any mail with either in is likely to be dumped. It's a short profile and easy to read so no excuse. Reading a profile can reduce the amount of time you waste with messages - just a thought"
We couldn't agree more!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's amazing how many guys do not actually read profiles. I have certain preferences clearly stated even down to not calling me babe or hun. Any mail with either in is likely to be dumped. It's a short profile and easy to read so no excuse. Reading a profile can reduce the amount of time you waste with messages - just a thought
We couldn't agree more!! "
Oh and don't forget to look for them magic words you must put in the title.....or your message will be deleted! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Read the profile first
Check you're within the spectrum of what they're looking for.....
Then introduce yourself, mention what you like about them, what you can offer and your preferences are, be polite, don't be crude and send a face pic with it, you won't always get a response, but you're more likely to than if you send one that just says "how are you?".
Best of luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Just start it naturally?
Maybe too many people try to write what they think others wish to hear? Great for that initial attention grabber, but would you rather be yourself and act naturally or try guessing what to say to people all the time? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Ask a question that relates to their profile and requires an answer. That's your first foot in the door. If you read the profile and can't think of anything to say, hotlist them and keep an eye on status updates that may give you an opening to engage in conversation.
Don't just message for the sake of messaging, it's not a call centre, you don't have to get your quota in every time you log on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Well hello there......Hey.....Hi......
That's how I start my messages off,then tailor the rest depending on their own profile.....a lot of times I'll go with the old faithful "How's your bum for love bites?  "
You can spend hours crafting war n peace but if they don't like your pics or profile then it'll just get deleted without being read!
So I keep my opening messages pretty short....that's just me though.
In my opinion there's no point asking folk here what to write as everyone's different n what works for one will be different for others....even depending on their mood at the time different approaches will work for the same person.
So just be true to yourself n you'll have more chance of appealing to folk you might get on with.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's amazing how many guys do not actually read profiles. I have certain preferences clearly stated even down to not calling me babe or hun. Any mail with either in is likely to be dumped. It's a short profile and easy to read so no excuse. Reading a profile can reduce the amount of time you waste with messages - just a thought
We couldn't agree more!!
Oh and don't forget to look for them magic words you must put in the title.....or your message will be deleted! "
That's why you never respond |
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Re. single guys, photos are the biggest thing really. If we like the look of those (face pic essential here) and your message/profile suggests you're an easygoing person with a filthy streak, you might peak our interest depending on veri's and distance.
One or 2 lines in a message that contains a pleasant introduction and a (non filthy) compliment tend to work best with us. Hate the epic messages, too try hard. |
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"I am the only one who finds sending a opening message extremely difficult. Most profiles will read...please no 1 line messages or yes I am ok and I had a good day etc.
So how do you start a message? I wouldn't want to tell them too much about myself as it comes across as egotistical or narccatistic?
Any advice is much appreciated. "
It's easy if the profile contains info and the person has outlined what their aim is and given an idea of their personality.
If the profile is empty it's tough but I tend not to bother just a wink if they are interested let them message, messages to blank profile are just shot in the dark longshots. |
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"I have noticed the same, the poliet messages get read and not replied, i think there just so overloaded with men emailing they cant keep up most days "
Women who use filters arent overloaded and the ones i dont read is because ive looked at the profile first and said no not for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's amazing how many guys do not actually read profiles. I have certain preferences clearly stated even down to not calling me babe or hun. Any mail with either in is likely to be dumped. It's a short profile and easy to read so no excuse. Reading a profile can reduce the amount of time you waste with messages - just a thought
We couldn't agree more!!
Oh and don't forget to look for them magic words you must put in the title.....or your message will be deleted!
That's why you never respond "
Never had a mail off you....and no magic words on my profile. When it's available to view |
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Yh thats how it is here and a lot of guys here are animals, rude abusive if they say sorry not interested i think many women are put off by single guys
I'm sure you must struggle mate with a body like that lol
My point exactly rude abusie for no reason ! What an absolut prick !!
It was a compliment mate...
Really dont come across that way "
It did to me, read it as a definate compliment to you |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Yh thats how it is here and a lot of guys here are animals, rude abusive if they say sorry not interested i think many women are put off by single guys
I'm sure you must struggle mate with a body like that lol
My point exactly rude abusie for no reason ! What an absolut prick !!
It was a compliment mate...
Really dont come across that way
It did to me, read it as a definate compliment to you "
Thanks for backing me up delicious lady |
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