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By *antescarlet OP   Couple  over a year ago

newbury

Quote Shakespear, tell a joke, change our profile or just accept that most ladies on here are just bored ?Since we have been on this site must of messaged at least 100 ladies to maybe get a 5 reply's and 1 possible meet...I mean c'mon it is a site that is designed for horny fuckers that want to have sex...

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Boring me into bed is definitely the way to go

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Chocolate or cake. Or bondage tape.

Probably.

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By *antescarlet OP   Couple  over a year ago

newbury

Sarcasm detected....

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Chocolate or cake."

Leave a trail like Hansel & Gretel?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Sarcasm detected.... "

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Rhohypnol

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By *antescarlet OP   Couple  over a year ago

newbury


"Chocolate or cake. Or bondage tape.

Probably."

You are funny

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Quote Shakespear, tell a joke, change our profile or just accept that most ladies on here are just bored ?Since we have been on this site must of messaged at least 100 ladies to maybe timing as far as messaging goes.5 reply's and 1 possible meet...I mean c'mon it is a site that is designed for horny fuckers that want to have sex... "

That's actually pretty good stats as far as messaging Fab ladies go so I'm not sure what you're gripping about?

At the end of the day... apparently according to another post today it's about the profile...and not messaging one of the many that just block deletes and starts again. Luck of the draw with messaging as timing goes.

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By *antescarlet OP   Couple  over a year ago

newbury


"Rhohypnol "

Probably more successful than a compliment and a good word lol

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Chocolate or cake. Or bondage tape.

Probably.

You are funny "

I was being serious! I come for the sweet stuff, stay for the bondage tape.

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By *antescarlet OP   Couple  over a year ago

newbury


"Quote Shakespear, tell a joke, change our profile or just accept that most ladies on here are just bored ?Since we have been on this site must of messaged at least 100 ladies to maybe timing as far as messaging goes.5 reply's and 1 possible meet...I mean c'mon it is a site that is designed for horny fuckers that want to have sex...

That's actually pretty good stats as far as messaging Fab ladies go so I'm not sure what you're gripping about?

At the end of the day... apparently according to another post today it's about the profile...and not messaging one of the many that just block deletes and starts again. Luck of the draw with messaging as timing goes."

"pretty good stats" lol.in regards to our profile we probably need some tweaks and if anyone has genuine advice please trow it at us.Considering our circumstances we should probablu try other sites aswell.Know any decent ones ?

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By *arlo82Couple  over a year ago

the gym and random places

I don't know but I wouldn't mind one or two women in my bed !

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By *antescarlet OP   Couple  over a year ago

newbury


"Chocolate or cake. Or bondage tape.

Probably.

You are funny

I was being serious! I come for the sweet stuff, stay for the bondage tape."

Oh ok, actually thought you were joking.Sweet toth and tape hmmmm

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

it is possible - we have had some - they dont queue up though you have to search and chat

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By *layfulCouple86Couple  over a year ago

Lancashire


"Chocolate or cake. Or bondage tape.

Probably.

You are funny

I was being serious! I come for the sweet stuff, stay for the bondage tape."

This made me chuckle

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By *eardsandboobsCouple  over a year ago

north of lincoln

There is nothing on your profile that would make me message you. One generic photo . If you want a girl you gotta tempt her over.

Boobs

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By *antescarlet OP   Couple  over a year ago

newbury


"I don't know but I wouldn't mind one or two women in my bed !"

Amen!Gorgeous lady with a lovely profile we seem to want to much...

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By *antescarlet OP   Couple  over a year ago

newbury


"Chocolate or cake.

Leave a trail like Hansel & Gretel? "

Good shout ))

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By *antescarlet OP   Couple  over a year ago

newbury


"There is nothing on your profile that would make me message you. One generic photo . If you want a girl you gotta tempt her over.

Boobs "

Would you mind suggesting some tips from a lady's point of view,please ?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I don't have time to be bored; I'm too busy fucking

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By *mmmMaybeCouple  over a year ago

West Wales

Its all about the profile & Haribos (we've been asked to take Haribos & popcorn to our next meet).

Not allowed to give profile advise but just look at your own as a single fem & say would I want to meet them based on the pics & info supplied?

S

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By *ngeluk69Woman  over a year ago

Near enough

There's nothing in your profile that jumps out at me and would make me want to message you... why not attend clubs/socials

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"There is nothing on your profile that would make me message you. One generic photo . If you want a girl you gotta tempt her over.

Boobs

Would you mind suggesting some tips from a lady's point of view,please ? "

Does your partner not have a girls point of view then?

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By *antescarlet OP   Couple  over a year ago

newbury


"Its all about the profile & Haribos (we've been asked to take Haribos & popcorn to our next meet).

Not allowed to give profile advise but just look at your own as a single fem & say would I want to meet them based on the pics & info supplied?

S

"

Popcorn and haribos...interesting choice.

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"There is nothing on your profile that would make me message you. One generic photo . If you want a girl you gotta tempt her over.

Boobs

Would you mind suggesting some tips from a lady's point of view,please ?

Does your partner not have a girls point of view then? "

Valid point.

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By *antescarlet OP   Couple  over a year ago

newbury


"There's nothing in your profile that jumps out at me and would make me want to message you... why not attend clubs/socials"

I understand, will have to tweak it.Not attending clubs and socials mainly because Scarlet is a little shy.We were going to one in southampton until our work rota got changed....

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By *antescarlet OP   Couple  over a year ago

newbury


"There is nothing on your profile that would make me message you. One generic photo . If you want a girl you gotta tempt her over.

Boobs

Would you mind suggesting some tips from a lady's point of view,please ?

Does your partner not have a girls point of view then?

Valid point. "

Very true!She does but she thought the one we have is good,obvs not....And we kinda new at how online whatever this is works.Hence the questions and the seek for help.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Pies, Chips, Sandwhiches - oh wait that is me!

In all seriousness, they key is to just be yourself. Treat people with the same respect that you would expect to be treated with in a message. Just because it is a sex site it doesnt mean you should have less respect for someone when messaging. Some of the messages I have receieved over the years have been horrific. They was far worse when had a couples profile. It was an instant turn off. The people who got replies seemed genuine, honest and talkative. They had read the profile and spoke about something within it. Not just a generic message regarding their own needs.

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By *antescarlet OP   Couple  over a year ago

newbury


"Pies, Chips, Sandwhiches - oh wait that is me!

In all seriousness, they key is to just be yourself. Treat people with the same respect that you would expect to be treated with in a message. Just because it is a sex site it doesnt mean you should have less respect for someone when messaging. Some of the messages I have receieved over the years have been horrific. They was far worse when had a couples profile. It was an instant turn off. The people who got replies seemed genuine, honest and talkative. They had read the profile and spoke about something within it. Not just a generic message regarding their own needs. "

in all fairness we have shown respect and good will, we are not animals.we know how people nowadays are atitude wise and all because people rely on social media to do everything ans it becomes all a bit silly and impersonal and as a result people do not have time to say "not interested,thank you".Anyways,if you have been on here for years, you know what I am talking about.thank you

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Quote Shakespear, tell a joke, change our profile or just accept that most ladies on here are just bored ?Since we have been on this site must of messaged at least 100 ladies to maybe timing as far as messaging goes.5 reply's and 1 possible meet...I mean c'mon it is a site that is designed for horny fuckers that want to have sex...

That's actually pretty good stats as far as messaging Fab ladies go so I'm not sure what you're gripping about?

At the end of the day... apparently according to another post today it's about the profile...and not messaging one of the many that just block deletes and starts again. Luck of the draw with messaging as timing goes.

"pretty good stats" lol.in regards to our profile we probably need some tweaks and if anyone has genuine advice please trow it at us.Considering our circumstances we should probablu try other sites aswell.Know any decent ones ? "

Yes I do and use them for meets....a good profiler which givers quite accurate matches if you answer the questions honestly. Lot less filtering and time consuming hoops to jump through too. It's a mixed bag of people but if you're clear your only looking for nsa sex then they are the ones that find you too. A lot of people from here are on there too. Current regulars bar two are not from fab.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Im a girl on the other side! Hardly any couples approach me and theyre always far away! I know I could approach them but Im shy

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By *antescarlet OP   Couple  over a year ago

newbury


"Im a girl on the other side! Hardly any couples approach me and theyre always far away! I know I could approach them but Im shy "
we would love a weekend with such a stunning lady like yourself.Don't be shy! X

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By *rincess peachWoman  over a year ago

shits creek

I'm all confused.. You have 2 verifications from 2 different ladies.

I'd say more pics, of both of you.

Jaffa cakes are also a winner.

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By *antescarlet OP   Couple  over a year ago

newbury


"I'm all confused.. You have 2 verifications from 2 different ladies.

I'd say more pics, of both of you.

Jaffa cakes are also a winner."

What is confusing you,hun ? I guess we are horny greedy peeps haha

Will have to get a few more pics up I guess.

Is that how people convince you, jaffa cakes ? I personally love them hehe

Thank you for the advice.

Happy Hump Day !

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

If you get a definitive answer. Can you please share it Op. we'd all love to get someone (or 2) people in our beds.

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By *uckOfTheBayMan  over a year ago

Mold


"I'm all confused.. You have 2 verifications from 2 different ladies.

I'd say more pics, of both of you.

Jaffa cakes are also a winner.What is confusing you,hun ? I guess we are horny greedy peeps haha

Will have to get a few more pics up I guess.

Is that how people convince you, jaffa cakes ? I personally love them hehe

Thank you for the advice.

Happy Hump Day !"

Along with all of the other advice, apart from the cakes .... pie is much better

You've also got to consider your profile.

There's one photo of Mr.

You're trying to invite a woman to join you both. She's got to be interested in you both.

Your profile is your shop window, the big advertisement.

It's got to speak about you and what you want.

I'm not talking about the complete works of Shakespeare. But a bit more info would go a long way

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I'm all confused.. You have 2 verifications from 2 different ladies.

I'd say more pics, of both of you.

Jaffa cakes are also a winner.What is confusing you,hun ? I guess we are horny greedy peeps haha

Will have to get a few more pics up I guess.

Is that how people convince you, jaffa cakes ? I personally love them hehe

Thank you for the advice.

Happy Hump Day !

Along with all of the other advice, apart from the cakes .... pie is much better

You've also got to consider your profile.

There's one photo of Mr.

You're trying to invite a woman to join you both. She's got to be interested in you both.

Your profile is your shop window, the big advertisement.

It's got to speak about you and what you want.

I'm not talking about the complete works of Shakespeare. But a bit more info would go a long way "

Exactly this, oh and chocolate

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By *uckOfTheBayMan  over a year ago

Mold


"I'm all confused.. You have 2 verifications from 2 different ladies.

I'd say more pics, of both of you.

Jaffa cakes are also a winner.What is confusing you,hun ? I guess we are horny greedy peeps haha

Will have to get a few more pics up I guess.

Is that how people convince you, jaffa cakes ? I personally love them hehe

Thank you for the advice.

Happy Hump Day !

Along with all of the other advice, apart from the cakes .... pie is much better

You've also got to consider your profile.

There's one photo of Mr.

You're trying to invite a woman to join you both. She's got to be interested in you both.

Your profile is your shop window, the big advertisement.

It's got to speak about you and what you want.

I'm not talking about the complete works of Shakespeare. But a bit more info would go a long way

Exactly this, oh and chocolate"

Chocolate pie ?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Quote Shakespear, tell a joke, change our profile or just accept that most ladies on here are just bored ?Since we have been on this site must of messaged at least 100 ladies to maybe get a 5 reply's and 1 possible meet...I mean c'mon it is a site that is designed for horny fuckers that want to have sex... "

I go to my default chat up line;

"does this hanky smell of chloroform?"

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I'm all confused.. You have 2 verifications from 2 different ladies.

I'd say more pics, of both of you.

Jaffa cakes are also a winner."

Some are just never satisfied

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By *inkySlinkyCouple  over a year ago

Leeds

I think you should make your profile less negative and delete the references to "silly profiles" and "a lot of useless people on here".If you get so few replies why do you add another hurdle for unicorns to leap over by saying quote "legendary" in your message ?

There was delicious chocolate cake at Cupids last Saturday and we played with a very sexy woman. I think you should pluck up your courage and give a club a go.

Sally

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By *issVeryWoman  over a year ago

streatham

Not all single females on here have plenty of experience meeting couples. Sometimes it can be a bit daunting, you're on your own, approaching 2 in a union..the more you appear approachable and easy going the better. So yes, I would make your profile more open..more pictures and a description of what you're about, what you like, what you're looking for in a woman etc. Can she play with you both? Just the fem? Etc etc..

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By *ink Panther.Woman  over a year ago

Preston

Ok I'm no shrinking violet, however I find some couples to be extremely intimidating, the whole tag team trying to engineer a meet is a tad off putting. If couples want a female to join them you need to make it appealing, becoming a play thing for your amusement really doesn't do it for me. The other issue is they come as a pair and usually one or the other is a massive turn off. So why would a single female choose this arrangement when they are in the enviable position of being able to choose 2 ppl they want to have fun with? 3 individuals all choosing to be together is far more satisfying and spontaneous than joining a double act with their already established idea of fun

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"The other issue is they come as a pair and usually one or the other is a massive turn off."

I find this when looking at couples (either alone or as a couple)... usually the woman looks alluring but the guy is a big turn off! (That's if you're lucky enough to find a pic of the guy on a couples profile in the first place )

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By *ink Panther.Woman  over a year ago

Preston


"The other issue is they come as a pair and usually one or the other is a massive turn off.

I find this when looking at couples (either alone or as a couple)... usually the woman looks alluring but the guy is a big turn off! (That's if you're lucky enough to find a pic of the guy on a couples profile in the first place )"

Hey then try getting a pic of the guy, that's another tall order lol

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Stop looking for unicorns, start looking for people.

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By *ngel n tedCouple  over a year ago

maidstone

Ask politely....please may we.....

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By *antescarlet OP   Couple  over a year ago

newbury


"Ask politely....please may we....."
although our profile may not give you the impression that we are impolite but we assure you, we are as polite as they come.Thank you for the advice.

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By *antescarlet OP   Couple  over a year ago

newbury


"Stop looking for unicorns, start looking for people."

Good point haha

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By *antescarlet OP   Couple  over a year ago

newbury


"The other issue is they come as a pair and usually one or the other is a massive turn off.

I find this when looking at couples (either alone or as a couple)... usually the woman looks alluring but the guy is a big turn off! (That's if you're lucky enough to find a pic of the guy on a couples profile in the first place )

Hey then try getting a pic of the guy, that's another tall order lol "

will have to add a pic , for sure.thank you

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By *antescarlet OP   Couple  over a year ago

newbury


"There's nothing in your profile that jumps out at me and would make me want to message you... why not attend clubs/socials"
i see what you all mean....will reconstruct our profile and actually attend a social on saturday in southampton.our very first one.thank you

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

So weird that people assume that because this is a swingers site that women should be willing to jump into bed with just anybody whether they find them appealing or not.

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By *ngel n tedCouple  over a year ago

maidstone


"So weird that people assume that because this is a swingers site that women should be willing to jump into bed with just anybody whether they find them appealing or not.

"

Not even if they ask politely

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"So weird that people assume that because this is a swingers site that women should be willing to jump into bed with just anybody whether they find them appealing or not.

Not even if they ask politely "

Lol, This comment was really worth blocking me over

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I can tell you EXACTLY what your problem is. If you walked up to a woman at a bar and your opening line was "would you like to join us in bed" you would get the same response. If you are suggesting a meet in your first message then you are trying to arrange a threesome the way you order pizza. I have seen hundreds of single females here with MF in their 'looking for' but none that say "want to be treated like a free prostitue".

You are saying you expect a lady to join you in bed but don't think it's worth the effort of getting to know her as a person first? How can a girl say no?

If you are friendly and polite and more intetested in establishing a friendship than using a girl to fullfill your fantasy then that single girl will WANT to join you.

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By *antescarlet OP   Couple  over a year ago

newbury


"So weird that people assume that because this is a swingers site that women should be willing to jump into bed with just anybody whether they find them appealing or not.

"

Most time we exchange pics and go from there but as the conversations progressed to a meet most times no reply last minute or not even bothering to answer.I mean one minute you are all turned on and ready to go and next second nada....

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By *antescarlet OP   Couple  over a year ago

newbury


"I can tell you EXACTLY what your problem is. If you walked up to a woman at a bar and your opening line was "would you like to join us in bed" you would get the same response. If you are suggesting a meet in your first message then you are trying to arrange a threesome the way you order pizza. I have seen hundreds of single females here with MF in their 'looking for' but none that say "want to be treated like a free prostitue".

You are saying you expect a lady to join you in bed but don't think it's worth the effort of getting to know her as a person first? How can a girl say no?

If you are friendly and polite and more intetested in establishing a friendship than using a girl to fullfill your fantasy then that single girl will WANT to join you."

you my friend are very hasty on taking conclusions based on a few words on a profile and some of your intuition I believe.Never the less, we always try to find out as much as possible about the ladies we take interest in, as much as how are they feeling and down to sexual fantasies,preferences and pretty much anything they wish to talk about.To be honest your assumptions are a tad offending.

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By *iSTARessWoman  over a year ago

London

Entitled couples who assume I'm gonna run knickerless as soon as they message is as annoying as knob pics.

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By *thwalescplCouple  over a year ago

brecon

Well, your profile does you no favours, I'd do a complete re-think, its very rude and demanding.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I can tell you EXACTLY what your problem is. If you walked up to a woman at a bar and your opening line was "would you like to join us in bed" you would get the same response. If you are suggesting a meet in your first message then you are trying to arrange a threesome the way you order pizza. I have seen hundreds of single females here with MF in their 'looking for' but none that say "want to be treated like a free prostitue".

You are saying you expect a lady to join you in bed but don't think it's worth the effort of getting to know her as a person first? How can a girl say no?

If you are friendly and polite and more intetested in establishing a friendship than using a girl to fullfill your fantasy then that single girl will WANT to join you.you my friend are very hasty on taking conclusions based on a few words on a profile and some of your intuition I believe.Never the less, we always try to find out as much as possible about the ladies we take interest in, as much as how are they feeling and down to sexual fantasies,preferences and pretty much anything they wish to talk about.To be honest your assumptions are a tad offending."

Sorry you found my advice offensive. Go back to your approach that doesn't work. Maybe print out some flyers and put them on car windows.

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By *ngel n tedCouple  over a year ago

maidstone


"So weird that people assume that because this is a swingers site that women should be willing to jump into bed with just anybody whether they find them appealing or not.

Not even if they ask politely

Lol, This comment was really worth blocking me over "

Didn't realise we had

Blockage removed

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By *antescarlet OP   Couple  over a year ago

newbury


"Entitled couples who assume I'm gonna run knickerless as soon as they message is as annoying as knob pics. "

I am sure they are couples like that but we are not one of them, unless you believe the guy above you on his comments.

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By *antescarlet OP   Couple  over a year ago

newbury


"I can tell you EXACTLY what your problem is. If you walked up to a woman at a bar and your opening line was "would you like to join us in bed" you would get the same response. If you are suggesting a meet in your first message then you are trying to arrange a threesome the way you order pizza. I have seen hundreds of single females here with MF in their 'looking for' but none that say "want to be treated like a free prostitue".

You are saying you expect a lady to join you in bed but don't think it's worth the effort of getting to know her as a person first? How can a girl say no?

If you are friendly and polite and more intetested in establishing a friendship than using a girl to fullfill your fantasy then that single girl will WANT to join you.you my friend are very hasty on taking conclusions based on a few words on a profile and some of your intuition I believe.Never the less, we always try to find out as much as possible about the ladies we take interest in, as much as how are they feeling and down to sexual fantasies,preferences and pretty much anything they wish to talk about.To be honest your assumptions are a tad offending.

Sorry you found my advice offensive. Go back to your approach that doesn't work. Maybe print out some flyers and put them on car windows."

Haha, hilarious.Hope you enjoyed trolling.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Entitled couples who assume I'm gonna run knickerless as soon as they message is as annoying as knob pics.

I am sure they are couples like that but we are not one of them, unless you believe the guy above you on his comments.

"

That is a bit how your profile comes across though. I'd start from scratch.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I can tell you EXACTLY what your problem is. If you walked up to a woman at a bar and your opening line was "would you like to join us in bed" you would get the same response. If you are suggesting a meet in your first message then you are trying to arrange a threesome the way you order pizza. I have seen hundreds of single females here with MF in their 'looking for' but none that say "want to be treated like a free prostitue".

You are saying you expect a lady to join you in bed but don't think it's worth the effort of getting to know her as a person first? How can a girl say no?

If you are friendly and polite and more intetested in establishing a friendship than using a girl to fullfill your fantasy then that single girl will WANT to join you.you my friend are very hasty on taking conclusions based on a few words on a profile and some of your intuition I believe.Never the less, we always try to find out as much as possible about the ladies we take interest in, as much as how are they feeling and down to sexual fantasies,preferences and pretty much anything they wish to talk about.To be honest your assumptions are a tad offending.

Sorry you found my advice offensive. Go back to your approach that doesn't work. Maybe print out some flyers and put them on car windows.

Haha, hilarious.Hope you enjoyed trolling. "

Sorry you think I'm trolling by giving you sound advice. Why don't you prove me wrong by taking it. Try this: Take sex totally off the table when you converse with single ladies. Wait for them to bring it up.

Most of the single ladies I know resent being called unicorns as it objectifies them. The first line of your profile makes your attitude clear.

Tell me what's in it for these single ladies? They get to perform the same function as a sex worker, just not get paid for it? Your offer is not unique. They probably get several just like it every day.

If you look at the verifications on our couples profile you will see an abnormally high percentage of them come from single women. We have never set out to find a single woman but after developing friendships they have come about as a matter of course, usually suggested by the lady in question.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I am an old fart, I have virtually no words on my profile, and half isn't in English, I don't message to set up meets, but still get quite a few messages trying to coax me out of retirement. I'm guessing you may need to rethink how you present yourself as a couple.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Op. This morning I'd be happy for anyone to get me back in bed.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Op. This morning I'd be happy for anyone to get me back in bed. "

Yeah I've got to admit, I don't want to be up and sitting at my desk.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Op. This morning I'd be happy for anyone to get me back in bed.

Yeah I've got to admit, I don't want to be up and sitting at my desk."

I know people called Wednesday a hump day. But Jeez' this is going to be tough to get through.

Your desk should have one of those holes they have in massage beds, you just slouch forward in your chair, you could work that way. .

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Op. This morning I'd be happy for anyone to get me back in bed.

Yeah I've got to admit, I don't want to be up and sitting at my desk.

I know people called Wednesday a hump day. But Jeez' this is going to be tough to get through.

Your desk should have one of those holes they have in massage beds, you just slouch forward in your chair, you could work that way. . "

Don't give me ideas. I can modify my desk - I own it.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

"1 possible meet"...

But you have 2 verifications?

Meeting on fab is easy, you just have to stop trying too hard.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple  over a year ago

London


"I can tell you EXACTLY what your problem is. If you walked up to a woman at a bar and your opening line was "would you like to join us in bed" you would get the same response. If you are suggesting a meet in your first message then you are trying to arrange a threesome the way you order pizza. I have seen hundreds of single females here with MF in their 'looking for' but none that say "want to be treated like a free prostitue".

You are saying you expect a lady to join you in bed but don't think it's worth the effort of getting to know her as a person first? How can a girl say no?

If you are friendly and polite and more intetested in establishing a friendship than using a girl to fullfill your fantasy then that single girl will WANT to join you.you my friend are very hasty on taking conclusions based on a few words on a profile and some of your intuition I believe.Never the less, we always try to find out as much as possible about the ladies we take interest in, as much as how are they feeling and down to sexual fantasies,preferences and pretty much anything they wish to talk about.To be honest your assumptions are a tad offending.

Sorry you found my advice offensive. Go back to your approach that doesn't work. Maybe print out some flyers and put them on car windows.

Haha, hilarious.Hope you enjoyed trolling.

Sorry you think I'm trolling by giving you sound advice. Why don't you prove me wrong by taking it. Try this: Take sex totally off the table when you converse with single ladies. Wait for them to bring it up.

Most of the single ladies I know resent being called unicorns as it objectifies them. The first line of your profile makes your attitude clear.

Tell me what's in it for these single ladies? They get to perform the same function as a sex worker, just not get paid for it? Your offer is not unique. They probably get several just like it every day.

If you look at the verifications on our couples profile you will see an abnormally high percentage of them come from single women. We have never set out to find a single woman but after developing friendships they have come about as a matter of course, usually suggested by the lady in question."

Exactly. People, even people who like casual sex, want to be treated like human beings. Not sex aids.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Op. This morning I'd be happy for anyone to get me back in bed.

Yeah I've got to admit, I don't want to be up and sitting at my desk.

I know people called Wednesday a hump day. But Jeez' this is going to be tough to get through.

Your desk should have one of those holes they have in massage beds, you just slouch forward in your chair, you could work that way. .

Don't give me ideas. I can modify my desk - I own it."

All you need is a jigsaw, and some foam padding......it could be the future of a relaxed working mantra.

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By *unandbuckCouple  over a year ago

Sheffield

Op you have asked for profile advice. We'd say it needs work. Negatives are:

Only 1 pic, and that's of the guy

Unicorn comment.

The comment about not chatting online.

The requirement to put you key word doesn't look good.

In general doesn't come across as fun and easy going.

Have fun x

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By *uxom redCouple  over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Sorry but it's negative profile.

What would your unicorn get out of meeting you?

The word legendary well I've read the profile but I wouldn't message

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By *D835Man  over a year ago

London


"Not all single females on here have plenty of experience meeting couples. Sometimes it can be a bit daunting, you're on your own, approaching 2 in a union..the more you appear approachable and easy going the better. So yes, I would make your profile more open..more pictures and a description of what you're about, what you like, what you're looking for in a woman etc. Can she play with you both? Just the fem? Etc etc..

"

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By *antescarlet OP   Couple  over a year ago

newbury


"I can tell you EXACTLY what your problem is. If you walked up to a woman at a bar and your opening line was "would you like to join us in bed" you would get the same response. If you are suggesting a meet in your first message then you are trying to arrange a threesome the way you order pizza. I have seen hundreds of single females here with MF in their 'looking for' but none that say "want to be treated like a free prostitue".

You are saying you expect a lady to join you in bed but don't think it's worth the effort of getting to know her as a person first? How can a girl say no?

If you are friendly and polite and more intetested in establishing a friendship than using a girl to fullfill your fantasy then that single girl will WANT to join you.you my friend are very hasty on taking conclusions based on a few words on a profile and some of your intuition I believe.Never the less, we always try to find out as much as possible about the ladies we take interest in, as much as how are they feeling and down to sexual fantasies,preferences and pretty much anything they wish to talk about.To be honest your assumptions are a tad offending.

Sorry you found my advice offensive. Go back to your approach that doesn't work. Maybe print out some flyers and put them on car windows.

Haha, hilarious.Hope you enjoyed trolling.

Sorry you think I'm trolling by giving you sound advice. Why don't you prove me wrong by taking it. Try this: Take sex totally off the table when you converse with single ladies. Wait for them to bring it up.

Most of the single ladies I know resent being called unicorns as it objectifies them. The first line of your profile makes your attitude clear.

Tell me what's in it for these single ladies? They get to perform the same function as a sex worker, just not get paid for it? Your offer is not unique. They probably get several just like it every day.

If you look at the verifications on our couples profile you will see an abnormally high percentage of them come from single women. We have never set out to find a single woman but after developing friendships they have come about as a matter of course, usually suggested by the lady in question.

Exactly. People, even people who like casual sex, want to be treated like human beings. Not sex aids. "

Now we went from treating ladies like prostitutes to sex aids...lol

And the funniest question of all...what do the ladies get out of it? How about sexual experiences??? The thing most og us are looking for...Ask a simple question and you get crucified...jeez

Anyway, have a nice day

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By *antescarlet OP   Couple  over a year ago

newbury

And those who think that by denigrating someone based on a virtual profile and assumptions believes that it proves intelligence ,well my lovely fabsters you are wrong.have a nice day

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple  over a year ago

London


"And those who think that by denigrating someone based on a virtual profile and assumptions believes that it proves intelligence ,well my lovely fabsters you are wrong.have a nice day"

Seriously. Everyone wants single women on here, so they can pick and choose. There is virtually nothing in your profile that would make them want to choose you. You might not intend it but your profile comes across as very objectifying and most women hate that. It also reeks of selfishness. That you want a woman and are not concerned with what you can offer a woman. That may not be what you think but it's how it sounds

Obviously you can ignore the virtually unanimous opinion of people on here., but you would have much more chance if you rethought the profile.

Oh and drop the unicorn reference in the heading. That alone will put off most women.

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By *thwalescplCouple  over a year ago

brecon

I don't think they are listening, its been two days and no change, well, you can only help those that want to be helped I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I don't think this is a thread that is genuinely looking for advice. I think it's advertising.

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By *loswingersCouple  over a year ago

Gloucester


"I don't think this is a thread that is genuinely looking for advice. I think it's advertising."

Like so many other posts .....

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"And those who think that by denigrating someone based on a virtual profile and assumptions believes that it proves intelligence ,well my lovely fabsters you are wrong.have a nice day"

A virtual profile is all that people have to go on on here. Yours comes across as 'entitled' and as someone above has said nothing in it for the lady, which translates to being a glorified fuck toy or if you prefer unpaid escort. Take on board some of the good advice that has been given. As someone who meets couples the clubbing a single fem and dragging her back to your cave approach is a major turn off.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I don't think this is a thread that is genuinely looking for advice. I think it's advertising.

Like so many other posts ..... "

What are they selling though? Cleaning products, flights abroad? We're on fab, it's definitely not for a meet.

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"I don't think this is a thread that is genuinely looking for advice. I think it's advertising.

Like so many other posts .....

What are they selling though? Cleaning products, flights abroad? We're on fab, it's definitely not for a meet. "

I've seen threads where OP is just using a pretence of seeking advice to get attention and I've seen threads where OP is genuinely interested in the opinion of others. This is more of the former than the latter.

Sorry guys. No hoards of single girls screaming pick me pick me!

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By *antescarlet OP   Couple  over a year ago

newbury


"I don't think this is a thread that is genuinely looking for advice. I think it's advertising.

Like so many other posts .....

What are they selling though? Cleaning products, flights abroad? We're on fab, it's definitely not for a meet.

I've seen threads where OP is just using a pretence of seeking advice to get attention and I've seen threads where OP is genuinely interested in the opinion of others. This is more of the former than the latter.

Sorry guys. No hoards of single girls screaming pick me pick me!

"

You make me laugh.some people have a other things to do sometimes....will attent your lovely positive comments when I have a little time.

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