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over a year ago
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I made a concerted effort after Xmas to date again as got lonely over the festive period.
I started seeing a girl and I've not long called it a day as hated having to consider/answer to someone else when planning my life...
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over a year ago
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I love it  can't see me ever having another relationship either,mainly due to the fact I have very specific criteria for any future partners and I'm not sure if a lass who ticks all my boxes even exists  |
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yes and no. miss the going back into bed in the middle of the night and the other person hugs whilst still half asleep kind of thing.
don't miss feeling lonely with someone else around, having to think about what to say or not to say... you get the point... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm happy single at the moment.
I tend to go for volatile/strong high maintenence types.
It's ok, then they move in with me and it all goes to shit, because I spend the whole time wishing I was single and had my house back.
that's the honest truth of me dating. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Add to say I wouldn't date anyone off here though.
I'd prefer to meet her outside of here and bring them on.
My last Ex wasn't that interested although she did briefly entertain the idea. |
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Being single has it pluses and negatives
Plus side is I can do what ever I want when I want the won't effect anyone but me.
Negative not having intimate moments and possibilities of lots of sex on tap |
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"Nights are the worse when you just want to get home from work and spend time with somone"
Some times yes. Just find a lady in a similar situation to hangout.
Take away and DVD night in works for me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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love the single life
go out when i want
house always tidy
no longer have to tidy up her crap
dont have to waste 20mins a week of my life asking her if shes ok
Im as happy as larry! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No. I like doing my own thing. I don't miss compromising or checking with anyone. I buy what I want, go out when I want. Dates are available if u want them. Had a few flings but nothing serious.
Personally I think the day to day mundane kills the passion. The cleaning, the bills, the boring stuff. |
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"Wish I was bloody single 
If your kids are older then ger rid of him then ?
Lifes too short to be with someone who doesnt make you happy "
Kids aren't older, separate rooms so we're edging closer to the split!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Wish I was bloody single "
It's relative. I would certainly rather be single than married to my ex any more. I miss the closeness of sexual contact....not with him though lol.....# need a good man xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Wish I was bloody single
If your kids are older then ger rid of him then ?
Lifes too short to be with someone who doesnt make you happy "
you are so right!! |
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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago
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From my perspective, also Yes and No.
I've always thought I'd always have someone in my life as I grew older, and certainly by the time I got to 50.
Now at almost 62, I'm still following that somewhat elusive dream but now feeling I've missed my chance of settling down with someone.
For all my skills in business, especially in Customer and Public handling & Sales, in some aspects of my Social Life, I'm still so tongue tied and shy as I was when in my teens! That impacts at times when I do feel so alone, but I have got used to it and just get on with life. Hard, especially at Xmas, Valentines Day & other traditional "Couple" times, plus my Birthday when I don't get cards except from two friends of mine. No not even brother sends me a card.
But on the other hand, I've been alone so long, would I fit in around someone in my life and would they fit in around me and the style of living I've got used to?? |
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The more I think about things the more Im certain that in an ideal world I'd love a hotwife/cuckold relationship ... all the benefits of a relationship with enough kinkiness to keep it alive always |
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"From my perspective, also Yes and No.
I've always thought I'd always have someone in my life as I grew older, and certainly by the time I got to 50.
Now at almost 62, I'm still following that somewhat elusive dream but now feeling I've missed my chance of settling down with someone.
For all my skills in business, especially in Customer and Public handling & Sales, in some aspects of my Social Life, I'm still so tongue tied and shy as I was when in my teens! That impacts at times when I do feel so alone, but I have got used to it and just get on with life. Hard, especially at Xmas, Valentines Day & other traditional "Couple" times, plus my Birthday when I don't get cards except from two friends of mine. No not even brother sends me a card.
But on the other hand, I've been alone so long, would I fit in around someone in my life and would they fit in around me and the style of living I've got used to??"
I'm very used to being alone and wonder if I could adapt to someone else but I'd like to think if it was meant to be it'd be easy enough  |
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"From my perspective, also Yes and No.
I've always thought I'd always have someone in my life as I grew older, and certainly by the time I got to 50.
Now at almost 62, I'm still following that somewhat elusive dream but now feeling I've missed my chance of settling down with someone.
For all my skills in business, especially in Customer and Public handling & Sales, in some aspects of my Social Life, I'm still so tongue tied and shy as I was when in my teens! That impacts at times when I do feel so alone, but I have got used to it and just get on with life. Hard, especially at Xmas, Valentines Day & other traditional "Couple" times, plus my Birthday when I don't get cards except from two friends of mine. No not even brother sends me a card.
But on the other hand, I've been alone so long, would I fit in around someone in my life and would they fit in around me and the style of living I've got used to??
I'm very used to being alone and wonder if I could adapt to someone else but I'd like to think if it was meant to be it'd be easy enough "
If its meant to be, its easy enough for sure. I was single for seven years and when we got together, nothing was more natural |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes and no.
Whilst I do enjoy my own company, I adore cuddles and intimacy.
Cooking for one from scratch is a joyless task but I like to eat healthily.
It's the silly stuff I miss, like going for walks, sharing your thoughts with someone who's opinion you value, holding hands; that sort of thing
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am pretty happy being single but am rather lucky that I have a very regular fwb too, so am kinda part of a couple but we don't answer to eachother and can still do as we please |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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im pretty happy being single...and after recently spending the first whole night ever with my FB of 4 years, practically clutching the side of the bed so as not to get pushed off,wide awake all night, listening to snoring like a steam train,bless 'im, reminded me of the benefits of singledom! |
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"Wish I was bloody single
It's relative. I would certainly rather be single than married to my ex any more. I miss the closeness of sexual contact....not with him though lol.....# need a good man xxx"
Plenty in these parts |
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"I am pretty happy being single but am rather lucky that I have a very regular fwb too, so am kinda part of a couple but we don't answer to eachother and can still do as we please "
I do find it weird that people have relationships where there is so much resentment about answering to each other and not being able to do as you please ... maybe we are just chilled about everything, but neither of us feel that .... |
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"im pretty happy being single...and after recently spending the first whole night ever with my FB of 4 years, practically clutching the side of the bed so as not to get pushed off,wide awake all night, listening to snoring like a steam train,bless 'im, reminded me of the benefits of singledom!"
Haha yeah there is that! |
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"im pretty happy being single...and after recently spending the first whole night ever with my FB of 4 years, practically clutching the side of the bed so as not to get pushed off,wide awake all night, listening to snoring like a steam train,bless 'im, reminded me of the benefits of singledom!
Haha yeah there is that! "
Awake all night = being a parent. I still wake up if my kids turn over in the night. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes and no.
Whilst I do enjoy my own company, I adore cuddles and intimacy.
Cooking for one from scratch is a joyless task but I like to eat healthily.
It's the silly stuff I miss, like going for walks, sharing your thoughts with someone who's opinion you value, holding hands; that sort of thing
Sharing is caring "
This.
(I don't want to live in someone's back pocket 24/7; just someone to spend special moments with. And hugs. And still have my autonomy.) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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After spending a long time with the wrong person I'm happy to be single. Being single is so much better than being in a relationship with someone that isn't right for you.
I have my friends and family that matter. I will finally be able to return to uni and do my pgce without answering to him - he didn't want me to go. My finances are starting to build up (although taking much longer than I'd hoped). But most importantly of all, after years of him destroying it, my confidence is slowly but surely growing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"After spending a long time with the wrong person I'm happy to be single. Being single is so much better than being in a relationship with someone that isn't right for you.
I have my friends and family that matter. I will finally be able to return to uni and do my pgce without answering to him - he didn't want me to go. My finances are starting to build up (although taking much longer than I'd hoped). But most importantly of all, after years of him destroying it, my confidence is slowly but surely growing."
So pleased to hear your confidence is getting there |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"After spending a long time with the wrong person I'm happy to be single. Being single is so much better than being in a relationship with someone that isn't right for you.
I have my friends and family that matter. I will finally be able to return to uni and do my pgce without answering to him - he didn't want me to go. My finances are starting to build up (although taking much longer than I'd hoped). But most importantly of all, after years of him destroying it, my confidence is slowly but surely growing."
Wishing you all the best. Especially with the PGCE - I've got teachers in the family, so I know what a tough job it is. Hope your confidence continues to build! |
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"Yes and no.
Whilst I do enjoy my own company, I adore cuddles and intimacy.
Cooking for one from scratch is a joyless task but I like to eat healthily.
It's the silly stuff I miss, like going for walks, sharing your thoughts with someone who's opinion you value, holding hands; that sort of thing
Sharing is caring
This.
(I don't want to live in someone's back pocket 24/7; just someone to spend special moments with. And hugs. And still have my autonomy.)"
Does everyone in a relationship live in the back pocket 24/7? |
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"Yes and no.
Whilst I do enjoy my own company, I adore cuddles and intimacy.
Cooking for one from scratch is a joyless task but I like to eat healthily.
It's the silly stuff I miss, like going for walks, sharing your thoughts with someone who's opinion you value, holding hands; that sort of thing
Sharing is caring
This.
(I don't want to live in someone's back pocket 24/7; just someone to spend special moments with. And hugs. And still have my autonomy.)
Does everyone in a relationship live in the back pocket 24/7?"
I here ya ???? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I miss having cuddles, and having someone to just chat to whenever as well as the obvious stuff but I've become used to my own company after all these years |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like being single and I like my own company. I can do what I want when I want it. I spend most of my time in the gym and meal prepping, the gym is my social club  |
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By *wentMan
over a year ago
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"I actually love being single. I wouldn't necessarily rule out future relationships but I am enjoying my freedom too much at the moment."
Not all that freedom when your tied up though. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"yes and no. miss the going back into bed in the middle of the night and the other person hugs whilst still half asleep kind of thing.
don't miss feeling lonely with someone else around, having to think about what to say or not to say... you get the point..."
Yeah the nights are the worse |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yes and no.
Whilst I do enjoy my own company, I adore cuddles and intimacy.
Cooking for one from scratch is a joyless task but I like to eat healthily.
It's the silly stuff I miss, like going for walks, sharing your thoughts with someone who's opinion you value, holding hands; that sort of thing
Sharing is caring "
Now than sounds nice |
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At times when I've been single for a while, but then six months is about how long i can take being in a relationship before I want freedom.
Maybe it's the wrong people or the wrong time, but I think the grass is always greener in every perspective. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"After spending a long time with the wrong person I'm happy to be single. Being single is so much better than being in a relationship with someone that isn't right for you.
I have my friends and family that matter. I will finally be able to return to uni and do my pgce without answering to him - he didn't want me to go. My finances are starting to build up (although taking much longer than I'd hoped). But most importantly of all, after years of him destroying it, my confidence is slowly but surely growing."
Thats brilliant hope all goes well at uni |
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I miss cuddles and holding hands I guess oh and not having to wear a condom but I can't remember the last time I thought oh I wish I had a partner but if/when I do have a relationship i still won't be answering to him, I'll still be going out when I want and spending my money how I see fit.
If your partner is taking your freedom away it's not a relationship. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm happily single. 4 years now.
I learned to accept and be happy single. Now single or relationship I'd be happy either path my life steers in. Being satisfied with your own company is the only way you can ever be ready for the right relationship really. If you're unhappy single, don't expect that a relationship will fill the hole. You'll have a different set of problems.
Don't sit at home. Get out. Do stuff. Get hobbies. Fill your life with good things and don't be scared to do stuff on your own. I go out to gigs alone, don't care. Smile. X
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Add to say I wouldn't date anyone off here though.
I'd prefer to meet her outside of here and bring them on.
My last Ex wasn't that interested although she did briefly entertain the idea."
I probably would date someone from here because you know you like similar things sexually and I would think I'm more likely to get on with someone from here who wants to experiment and has a high sex drive. Not saying I wouldn't turn down anyone not on fabs though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Add to say I wouldn't date anyone off here though.
I'd prefer to meet her outside of here and bring them on.
My last Ex wasn't that interested although she did briefly entertain the idea.
I probably would date someone from here because you know you like similar things sexually and I would think I'm more likely to get on with someone from here who wants to experiment and has a high sex drive. Not saying I wouldn't turn down anyone not on fabs though. "
Very tricky proposition. We are quite broken on here lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been single for so long now that I'm not sure I want to live with anyone again.
I'd love a relationship where we live in separate houses and "date"
I want all of the sex, romance and fun but none of the mundane please
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've been single for so long now that I'm not sure I want to live with anyone again.
I'd love a relationship where we live in separate houses and "date"
I want all of the sex, romance and fun but none of the mundane please
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I hear ya. To keep the passion alive and not ending up in pjs in the evening or daytime.
I dont want to live with anyone I dont think but to spend Naughty weekends away and making an effort everytime we meet |
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"I miss cuddles and holding hands I guess oh and not having to wear a condom but I can't remember the last time I thought oh I wish I had a partner but if/when I do have a relationship i still won't be answering to him, I'll still be going out when I want and spending my money how I see fit.
If your partner is taking your freedom away it's not a relationship. "
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"I love it can't see me ever having another relationship either,mainly due to the fact I have very specific criteria for any future partners and I'm not sure if a lass who ticks all my boxes even exists "
I have a friend like you: twenty years I've known him, never had a girlfriend as he has a "fantasy list" even down to what side of the river she must live on! 
Cute and funny in your thirties, he's now approaching sixty...never married, have kids etc because he wouldn't compromise. Oh well...Each to their own! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends on my frame of mind
If I'm in good spirits it doesn't bother me
If I'm because of a stressful day at work or the kids are playing me up etc then I can feel lonely as Ive no one to cuddle me and say " everything is okay "
Other times when I'm at work and listening to the girls complaining about their partners, I just think thank god I'm single, so for me it's yes and no about feeling lonely |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't sit at home. Get out. Do stuff. Get hobbies. Fill your life with good things and don't be scared to do stuff on your own. I go out to gigs alone, don't care. Smile. X
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Genuinely quite sad to read that. |
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Don't sit at home. Get out. Do stuff. Get hobbies. Fill your life with good things and don't be scared to do stuff on your own. I go out to gigs alone, don't care. Smile. X
Genuinely quite sad to read that. "
Why are you sad? I'm not. Life is for fricken' living, not waiting for a partner so you can start living? |
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"I've been single for so long now that I'm not sure I want to live with anyone again.
I'd love a relationship where we live in separate houses and "date"
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Ooh I can think of nothing worse lol, to be committed, and still not 'with' that person! I always remember part of my natal chart said "The first of the earth signs, Venus in Taurus is very physical. You are sensually inclined......Satisfaction is important to you, and your lover's physical presence is demanded!!"
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By (user no longer on site)
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" we live in separate houses and "date"
I want all of the sex, romance and fun but none of the mundane please
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^ this this this this this this this this....... ^^^ this |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Don't sit at home. Get out. Do stuff. Get hobbies. Fill your life with good things and don't be scared to do stuff on your own. I go out to gigs alone, don't care. Smile. X
Genuinely quite sad to read that.
Why are you sad? I'm not. Life is for fricken' living, not waiting for a partner so you can start living? "
You go to gigs alone...that fucking sucks.
But if you're happy too then ..that's you.
but to me I read that and think "well that sucks". |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Don't sit at home. Get out. Do stuff. Get hobbies. Fill your life with good things and don't be scared to do stuff on your own. I go out to gigs alone, don't care. Smile. X
Genuinely quite sad to read that.
Why are you sad? I'm not. Life is for fricken' living, not waiting for a partner so you can start living?
You go to gigs alone...that fucking sucks.
But if you're happy too then ..that's you.
but to me I read that and think "well that sucks"."
The world you experience is a direct reflection of your attitude towards it. |
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Don't sit at home. Get out. Do stuff. Get hobbies. Fill your life with good things and don't be scared to do stuff on your own. I go out to gigs alone, don't care. Smile. X
Genuinely quite sad to read that.
Why are you sad? I'm not. Life is for fricken' living, not waiting for a partner so you can start living?
You go to gigs alone...that fucking sucks.
But if you're happy too then ..that's you.
but to me I read that and think "well that sucks"."
I read that and thought good on ya! I wouldn't go alone and that sucks! |
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The world you experience is a direct reflection of your attitude towards it.
Oooh I like that x "
Not sure I entirely agree though,some thing's are out of our control aren't they,which make's it hard to stay positive  |
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The world you experience is a direct reflection of your attitude towards it.
Oooh I like that x
Not sure I entirely agree though,some thing's are out of our control aren't they,which make's it hard to stay positive "
You can't control suddenly waking up with a severe disability or something drastic happening, but you're always in control of your attitude. |
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By *issVeryWoman
over a year ago
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I would love to be in a relationship, so much love to give. However, I am living my life and building my future assuming that I will be single forever and Be ok with that. If it happens, then great.
Feel free to set me up! |
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The world you experience is a direct reflection of your attitude towards it.
Oooh I like that x
Not sure I entirely agree though,some thing's are out of our control aren't they,which make's it hard to stay positive
You can't control suddenly waking up with a severe disability or something drastic happening, but you're always in control of your attitude. "
Hmmm I'm not sure we alway's are,well I'm not anyway talking from a recent event. I wanted to stay calm and collected,I failed... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sometimes ...but then I think ,no one to answer to ,no one making a noise when I want peace ,no moaning my musics shit (it's not )...so no not really "
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The world you experience is a direct reflection of your attitude towards it.
Oooh I like that x
Not sure I entirely agree though,some thing's are out of our control aren't they,which make's it hard to stay positive
You can't control suddenly waking up with a severe disability or something drastic happening, but you're always in control of your attitude.
Hmmm I'm not sure we alway's are,well I'm not anyway talking from a recent event. I wanted to stay calm and collected,I failed..."
lifes a learning process for all of us, I think. To me, I feel like to achieve more contentment and thus more people drawn to me, a satisfaction with what you have has been necessary. |
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Hmmm I'm not sure we alway's are,well I'm not anyway talking from a recent event. I wanted to stay calm and collected,I failed...lifes a learning process for all of us, I think. To me, I feel like to achieve more contentment and thus more people drawn to me, a satisfaction with what you have has been necessary. "
Yes I understand what you're saying,but certain events/people test us at time's don't they making that contentment hard to achieve. Anyway I'm waffling |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Being single has its benefits and so does being in a relationship I've done both and getting very used to being single not sure I would like to be in a relationship now |
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