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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Does having "don't drink" on your profile a turn off and act against you getting a meet? I don't drink but flit between putting that and "social drinker" because I wonder if people still think you're "odd" if you don't drink and because I surmise most first meets are normally arranged to occur in a pub.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Does having "don't drink" on your profile a turn off and act against you getting a meet? I don't drink but flit between putting that and "social drinker" because I wonder if people still think you're "odd" if you don't drink and because I surmise most first meets are normally arranged to occur in a pub.
What do people think? "
Im on dating sites and i dont drink alcohol either or smoke.
I have had some women (not many) say that we wouldnt be suitable once I told them I dont drink.
They presumed Id be no fun and they wanted someone to get pissed with a drinking buddy etc.
That to me says more about them and their relationship with alcohol  |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"Does having "don't drink" on your profile a turn off and act against you getting a meet? I don't drink but flit between putting that and "social drinker" because I wonder if people still think you're "odd" if you don't drink and because I surmise most first meets are normally arranged to occur in a pub.
What do people think?
Im on dating sites and i dont drink alcohol either or smoke.
I have had some women (not many) say that we wouldnt be suitable once I told them I dont drink.
They presumed Id be no fun and they wanted someone to get pissed with a drinking buddy etc.
That to me says more about them and their relationship with alcohol "
Why do people assume that being teetotal makes you dull? When I was teetotal for over 20 years everyone assumed I was a drinker because I was still quite gregarious.
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By (user no longer on site)
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I usual meet in the day so no drink only coffee but if I was meeting someone and they wanted a drink it wouldn't bother me and likewise if I wanted a drink I would hope it wouldn't bother them either |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Does having "don't drink" on your profile a turn off and act against you getting a meet? I don't drink but flit between putting that and "social drinker" because I wonder if people still think you're "odd" if you don't drink and because I surmise most first meets are normally arranged to occur in a pub.
What do people think?
Im on dating sites and i dont drink alcohol either or smoke.
I have had some women (not many) say that we wouldnt be suitable once I told them I dont drink.
They presumed Id be no fun and they wanted someone to get pissed with a drinking buddy etc.
That to me says more about them and their relationship with alcohol
Why do people assume that being teetotal makes you dull? When I was teetotal for over 20 years everyone assumed I was a drinker because I was still quite gregarious.
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Exactly.
Im crazy enough without alcohol.
But like I said previously I think it says more about them and their relationship with alcohol.
Lots of people have an alcohol problem and to hide that fact and to blend in socially rather than stand out? They associate with other big drinkers.
Bids of a feather really do flock together.
Bit like people who use recreational drugs too.
They tend to associate with other drug users. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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There is another reason I ask because I'm going to an evening social in a Hull pub shortly and apart from one afternoon social in one last year, where I drank coffee, haven't been in a pub for for nearly ten years. Sorry, I know this sounds prattish but I'm quite nervous and anxious about it.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There is another reason I ask because I'm going to an evening social in a Hull pub shortly and apart from one afternoon social in one last year, where I drank coffee, haven't been in a pub for for nearly ten years. Sorry, I know this sounds prattish but I'm quite nervous and anxious about it. "
If youre going in the pub where I think your going its very rough so if your shy or timid I doubt you would enjoy it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't mind people who don't drink. ..but mostly they seem a bit weird about it. ...a bit like vegans. ..  "
Not me I dont mind people who like a drink. All my friends drink and exes too.
Never bothered me.
Only time it would bother me us if it turned them into a Bell End while d*unk. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"There is another reason I ask because I'm going to an evening social in a Hull pub shortly and apart from one afternoon social in one last year, where I drank coffee, haven't been in a pub for for nearly ten years. Sorry, I know this sounds prattish but I'm quite nervous and anxious about it.
If youre going in the pub where I think your going its very rough so if your shy or timid I doubt you would enjoy it?"
You're right, it's way outside my comfort zone but can't mope on the Forum all the time hoping to get a meet can you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There is another reason I ask because I'm going to an evening social in a Hull pub shortly and apart from one afternoon social in one last year, where I drank coffee, haven't been in a pub for for nearly ten years. Sorry, I know this sounds prattish but I'm quite nervous and anxious about it.
If youre going in the pub where I think your going its very rough so if your shy or timid I doubt you would enjoy it?
You're right, it's way outside my comfort zone but can't mope on the Forum all the time hoping to get a meet can you?"
No you cant. Get yourself there and if you dont like it you can always leave cant you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't mind people who don't drink. ..but mostly they seem a bit weird about it. ...a bit like vegans. .. "
I stopped for the good of my health....always liked a drink but I'm healthier and better without...so if that make me weird so be it.
And I know your comment was must likely not aimed at anyone in perticular...but I felt I had to reply to it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i have social drinker ticked on mine i think...i'll need to check, but haven't had a drink in well over a year so might change to don't drink.
and i don't really care what my drinking status matters to potential meets |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't think it's odd at all and it wouldn't bother me. I wouldn't be impressed if they got wankered though!!!!
Re your social OP, can you drive to it?"
Yes that's how intend to get there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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and i don't think it' odd at all to have don't drink ticked...it's a drug like any other, nobody would think you odd if you stated no 420, or no extacy or whatever. it's a thing you don't enjoy |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Does having "don't drink" on your profile a turn off and act against you getting a meet? I don't drink but flit between putting that and "social drinker" because I wonder if people still think you're "odd" if you don't drink and because I surmise most first meets are normally arranged to occur in a pub.
What do people think?
Im on dating sites and i dont drink alcohol either or smoke.
I have had some women (not many) say that we wouldnt be suitable once I told them I dont drink.
They presumed Id be no fun and they wanted someone to get pissed with a drinking buddy etc.
That to me says more about them and their relationship with alcohol
Why do people assume that being teetotal makes you dull? When I was teetotal for over 20 years everyone assumed I was a drinker because I was still quite gregarious.
Exactly.
Im crazy enough without alcohol.
But like I said previously I think it says more about them and their relationship with alcohol.
Lots of people have an alcohol problem and to hide that fact and to blend in socially rather than stand out? They associate with other big drinkers.
Bids of a feather really do flock together.
Bit like people who use recreational drugs too.
They tend to associate with other drug users. "
 quite a statement. |
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It wouldn't put us off. But you only have 3 choices is it? So i only use these things as a basic guide.
I think i put social drinker but i hardly ever drink. But I'm not tea total. I'm not losing sleep over it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Does having "don't drink" on your profile a turn off and act against you getting a meet? I don't drink but flit between putting that and "social drinker" because I wonder if people still think you're "odd" if you don't drink and because I surmise most first meets are normally arranged to occur in a pub.
What do people think?
Im on dating sites and i dont drink alcohol either or smoke.
I have had some women (not many) say that we wouldnt be suitable once I told them I dont drink.
They presumed Id be no fun and they wanted someone to get pissed with a drinking buddy etc.
That to me says more about them and their relationship with alcohol
Why do people assume that being teetotal makes you dull? When I was teetotal for over 20 years everyone assumed I was a drinker because I was still quite gregarious.
Exactly.
Im crazy enough without alcohol.
But like I said previously I think it says more about them and their relationship with alcohol.
Lots of people have an alcohol problem and to hide that fact and to blend in socially rather than stand out? They associate with other big drinkers.
Bids of a feather really do flock together.
Bit like people who use recreational drugs too.
They tend to associate with other drug users.
quite a statement. "
Its a statement from my own experience.
Im sure you'll agree its not often you get big boozers going out on the piss with a group of none drinkers or someone whos a frequent user of recreational drugs socialising with none users while they skin up up etc ?
Most people tend to associate with people they have the same interests in dont they? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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But like I said previously I think it says more about them and their relationship with alcohol. Your sentence.
Relationship with alcohol? We aren't talking about alocoholics here. Your literally branding anyone (including myself who may drink sparingly on a weekend after work) as having relationships with liquor merely because you don't drink?
Lots of people have an alcohol problem and to hide that fact and to blend in socially rather than stand out? They associate with other big drinkers. Your sentence.
Right so the next Time I see a group of , 'drinkers' in the pub I'll label them as alcohol enablers and secret alcoholics covering for each other.
Bids of a feather really do flock together. Your sentence.
That pedestal your on may have a big drop. Flock together. Cheek of it!
Bit like people who use recreational drugs too. Your sentence.
You obviously have a problem with alcohol and your tarnishing people who drink with drug users? You'll probably be asking for us to be shipped off to a asylum next!
They tend to associate with other drug users. Your sentence.
people on perscription drugs, that apply to them as well? Probably in your book.
quite a statement.
Its a statement from my own experience. 
Im sure you'll agree its not often you get big boozers going out on the piss with a group of none drinkers or someone whos a frequent user of recreational drugs socialising with none users while they skin up up etc ? Your sentence.
You'll find people general socialise with all types of people in the real world. The drinkers will associate with the non drinkers and go out together, they'll even communicate!
Most people tend to associate with people they have the same interests in dont they? Your sentence.
that can be applied to any situation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I usual meet in the day so no drink only coffee but if I was meeting someone and they wanted a drink it wouldn't bother me and likewise if I wanted a drink I would hope it wouldn't bother them either "
Did you say coffee lol my life ha ha |
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By (user no longer on site)
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But like I said previously I think it says more about them and their relationship with alcohol. Your sentence.
Relationship with alcohol? We aren't talking about alocoholics here. Your literally branding anyone (including myself who may drink sparingly on a weekend after work) as having relationships with liquor merely because you don't drink?
Lots of people have an alcohol problem and to hide that fact and to blend in socially rather than stand out? They associate with other big drinkers. Your sentence.
Right so the next Time I see a group of , 'drinkers' in the pub I'll label them as alcohol enablers and secret alcoholics covering for each other.
Bids of a feather really do flock together. Your sentence.
That pedestal your on may have a big drop. Flock together. Cheek of it!
Bit like people who use recreational drugs too. Your sentence.
You obviously have a problem with alcohol and your tarnishing people who drink with drug users? You'll probably be asking for us to be shipped off to a asylum next!
They tend to associate with other drug users. Your sentence.
people on perscription drugs, that apply to them as well? Probably in your book.
quite a statement.
Its a statement from my own experience.
Im sure you'll agree its not often you get big boozers going out on the piss with a group of none drinkers or someone whos a frequent user of recreational drugs socialising with none users while they skin up up etc ? Your sentence.
You'll find people general socialise with all types of people in the real world. The drinkers will associate with the non drinkers and go out together, they'll even communicate!
Most people tend to associate with people they have the same interests in dont they? Your sentence.
that can be applied to any situation."
Like I said big drinkers and drug users usually associate with other big drinkers and drug users .
Very rarely will see big drinkers drug users and tea total people non users hanging out together.
And if someone whos a drinker or drug user doesnt want to socialise with none users then that says more about them and their relationship with alcohol and drugs.
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"I usual meet in the day so no drink only coffee but if I was meeting someone and they wanted a drink it wouldn't bother me and likewise if I wanted a drink I would hope it wouldn't bother them either
Did you say coffee lol my life ha ha "
why is coffee funny? i don't understand? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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But like I said previously I think it says more about them and their relationship with alcohol. Your sentence.
Relationship with alcohol? We aren't talking about alocoholics here. Your literally branding anyone (including myself who may drink sparingly on a weekend after work) as having relationships with liquor merely because you don't drink?
Lots of people have an alcohol problem and to hide that fact and to blend in socially rather than stand out? They associate with other big drinkers. Your sentence.
Right so the next Time I see a group of , 'drinkers' in the pub I'll label them as alcohol enablers and secret alcoholics covering for each other.
Bids of a feather really do flock together. Your sentence.
That pedestal your on may have a big drop. Flock together. Cheek of it!
Bit like people who use recreational drugs too. Your sentence.
You obviously have a problem with alcohol and your tarnishing people who drink with drug users? You'll probably be asking for us to be shipped off to a asylum next!
They tend to associate with other drug users. Your sentence.
people on perscription drugs, that apply to them as well? Probably in your book.
quite a statement.
Its a statement from my own experience.
Im sure you'll agree its not often you get big boozers going out on the piss with a group of none drinkers or someone whos a frequent user of recreational drugs socialising with none users while they skin up up etc ? Your sentence.
You'll find people general socialise with all types of people in the real world. The drinkers will associate with the non drinkers and go out together, they'll even communicate!
Most people tend to associate with people they have the same interests in dont they? Your sentence.
that can be applied to any situation.
Like I said big drinkers and drug users usually associate with other big drinkers and drug users .
Very rarely will see big drinkers drug users and tea total people non users hanging out together.
And if someone whos a drinker or drug user doesnt want to socialise with none users then that says more about them and their relationship with alcohol and drugs.
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What are you classing as a big drinker? What's.m a drug user? It's funny really because I'm the most laid back carefree guy who just doesn't care about forums but your drastically stereotyping a lot of people lol
Right I'm off, would you like a slice of humble pie as your second serving? Niiiight! |
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"Doesn't bother me in the slightest. Would the same question be asked if we were talking about someone not smoking?"
This. I once got asked by a now unlos lady from Jawdee Land, who said on her profile that she wouldn't meet smokers and couldn't travel (I'm in Derby), why I had not asked her down to meet me 
I suppose all blokes should ignore a lady's preferences on her profile and just chance our arm then |
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