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By *andsonjohn OP Man
over a year ago
in the eye of the storm |
I had a straight stand up guy on fab who I could confine in and vent to ,
a guy like me who can keep a friends secrets and offer a honest opinion when its needed .
any other guys ever feel this way because of how fab is sometimes well not fab but the people who use it are ...? |
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over a year ago
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"I had a straight stand up guy on fab who I could confine in and vent to ,
a guy like me who can keep a friends secrets and offer a honest opinion when its needed .
any other guys ever feel this way because of how fab is sometimes well not fab but the people who use it are ...?"
Just find a decent female to chat too. I have a couple of trusted male friends on here  |
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By *andsonjohn OP Man
over a year ago
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"Is that not the same as people posting on threads, of why they don't get meets ? always the fault of the party that has not replied or agreed to meet ?"
no its not don't let my veries fool you
i have had 9 socials since Christmas now I'm going to say something even more shocking I've turned sex offers from them socials except last Saturdays social 
no my problems are of a totally different kind to the ones hinted at in your post don't mistake all us guys as being the kind of guy who can't get meets off of these kinds of sites please  |
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By *andsonjohn OP Man
over a year ago
in the eye of the storm |
"You can talk to me I'm a good listener.
Or I'm sure Dick will listen "
thanks red it we ever meet on a social in the future ask me about this and i will tell you a tail a very interesting tail xxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I had a straight stand up guy on fab who I could confine in and vent to ,
a guy like me who can keep a friends secrets and offer a honest opinion when its needed .
any other guys ever feel this way because of how fab is sometimes well not fab but the people who use it are ...?"
Why don't you go to clubs and chat to people? I've made a few platonic friends at clubs. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I had a straight stand up guy on fab who I could confine in and vent to ,
a guy like me who can keep a friends secrets and offer a honest opinion when its needed .
any other guys ever feel this way because of how fab is sometimes well not fab but the people who use it are ...?"
It's hard to keep this lifestyle a secret, sometimes it's nice to be able to talk to someone about the site and how you feel. So understand that men also need to talk about this as well. I hope you find some friends who you can confide in be it male or female. And you know that some of us are always here if you need to talk x |
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By *andsonjohn OP Man
over a year ago
in the eye of the storm |
"I had a straight stand up guy on fab who I could confine in and vent to ,
a guy like me who can keep a friends secrets and offer a honest opinion when its needed .
any other guys ever feel this way because of how fab is sometimes well not fab but the people who use it are ...?
Why don't you go to clubs and chat to people? I've made a few platonic friends at clubs."
clubs are not really my thing i used to have a very good buddy who i could confine in because he played in this world to so understood the crap that sometimes goes on sadly he moved away so a chat over a pint is out of the question . |
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By *andsonjohn OP Man
over a year ago
in the eye of the storm |
"I had a straight stand up guy on fab who I could confine in and vent to ,
a guy like me who can keep a friends secrets and offer a honest opinion when its needed .
any other guys ever feel this way because of how fab is sometimes well not fab but the people who use it are ...?
Just find a decent female to chat too. I have a couple of trusted male friends on here "
if your going to vent over the actions and behaviour of the opposite sex best to do it with a male friend no disrespect meant but somethings need a another males perspective . |
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"I had a straight stand up guy on fab who I could confine in and vent to ,
a guy like me who can keep a friends secrets and offer a honest opinion when its needed .
any other guys ever feel this way because of how fab is sometimes well not fab but the people who use it are ...?
Just find a decent female to chat too. I have a couple of trusted male friends on here
if your going to vent over the actions and behaviour of the opposite sex best to do it with a male friend no disrespect meant but somethings need a another males perspective . "
I could always grow a pair |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I had a straight stand up guy on fab who I could confine in and vent to ,
a guy like me who can keep a friends secrets and offer a honest opinion when its needed .
any other guys ever feel this way because of how fab is sometimes well not fab but the people who use it are ...?"
I feel like this too sometimes but it's hard to trust people. I have confided in a couple of Forumites but these days....I tend to just wing it alone and keep my feelings to myself. |
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By *andsonjohn OP Man
over a year ago
in the eye of the storm |
"I had a straight stand up guy on fab who I could confine in and vent to ,
a guy like me who can keep a friends secrets and offer a honest opinion when its needed .
any other guys ever feel this way because of how fab is sometimes well not fab but the people who use it are ...?
I feel like this too sometimes but it's hard to trust people. I have confided in a couple of Forumites but these days....I tend to just wing it alone and keep my feelings to myself."
i know that feeling all to well Diana I've been a agony aunt for so many but the reality is I'm alone with my own thoughts good and bad all the times on here because although i never betray I've often been betrayed by others sadly . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"why not arrange a manfab night - all get together and have a bitchfest -
do you really think that's a good idea it would ruin the rep of some on here for ever "
think its a brill idea - forum fodder |
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By *andsonjohn OP Man
over a year ago
in the eye of the storm |
"why not arrange a manfab night - all get together and have a bitchfest -
do you really think that's a good idea it would ruin the rep of some on here for ever
think its a brill idea - forum fodder "
i don't partly because there are two sides to every story and very few tell, the truth warts and all on these kinds of sites in my experience hence why i keep notes on people   |
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By *andsonjohn OP Man
over a year ago
in the eye of the storm |
"I had a straight stand up guy on fab who I could confine in and vent to ,
a guy like me who can keep a friends secrets and offer a honest opinion when its needed .
any other guys ever feel this way because of how fab is sometimes well not fab but the people who use it are ...?
It's hard to keep this lifestyle a secret, sometimes it's nice to be able to talk to someone about the site and how you feel. So understand that men also need to talk about this as well. I hope you find some friends who you can confide in be it male or female. And you know that some of us are always here if you need to talk x "
yes it is I'm a top a disciplinarian who will tell people off privately for there actions when i view them as a friend
but when a view than as some thing different i wont a will commenr but i will retreat from them take myself away from them forever because i don't need it and i find total disinterest once they have crossed a line is the best for me .
yes I'm all of the above but I'm also a sensitive soul at heart who is proud of the fact he feels unlike so many in this world i view that as a strength of mine not a weakness .
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By (user no longer on site)
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"why not arrange a manfab night - all get together and have a bitchfest -
do you really think that's a good idea it would ruin the rep of some on here for ever
think its a brill idea - forum fodder
i don't partly because there are two sides to every story and very few tell, the truth warts and all on these kinds of sites in my experience hence why i keep notes on people "
i was jesting - i have made a very small handful of friends here that i feel i can trust - probably only one that knows as much about me as i do - but it is good to meet up with like minded people and have a chinwag - |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
Northampton Somewhere |
I have couple of fab female friends who I can meet and chat to over coffee about 'stuff' if I need to. I have rl friends who know about this but they don't really understand.
I'm surprised you don't have anyone to confide in tbh John  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I had a straight stand up guy on fab who I could confine in and vent to ,
a guy like me who can keep a friends secrets and offer a honest opinion when its needed .
any other guys ever feel this way because of how fab is sometimes well not fab but the people who use it are ...?
It's hard to keep this lifestyle a secret, sometimes it's nice to be able to talk to someone about the site and how you feel. So understand that men also need to talk about this as well. I hope you find some friends who you can confide in be it male or female. And you know that some of us are always here if you need to talk x
yes it is I'm a top a disciplinarian who will tell people off privately for there actions when i view them as a friend
but when a view than as some thing different i wont a will commenr but i will retreat from them take myself away from them forever because i don't need it and i find total disinterest once they have crossed a line is the best for me .
yes I'm all of the above but I'm also a sensitive soul at heart who is proud of the fact he feels unlike so many in this world i view that as a strength of mine not a weakness .
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You should be proud of that side of your nature, I see you as a very caring dom with a very nurturing side. Just because you are a Dom doesn't mean you're not a sensitive person, my experience is that a lot of doms are just that and that's why the whole D/s relationship works so well because they are in touch with their feelings.
But you need to let someone in, those walls you build also keep you inside ( take that from someone who builds her own) . |
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By *andsonjohn OP Man
over a year ago
in the eye of the storm |
"shag seems like a straight, stand up kind of guy...
why not approach him with a proposition...
or did I mean proposal "
i can see your loving this post please do not insult me
shag is nothing like me as a human being and the fact you cant see that kind of rings alarm bells in my head but hay come on kick me some more I'm not going to retaliate so go for it do yourself proud , |
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By *andsonjohn OP Man
over a year ago
in the eye of the storm |
"I had a straight stand up guy on fab who I could confine in and vent to ,
a guy like me who can keep a friends secrets and offer a honest opinion when its needed .
any other guys ever feel this way because of how fab is sometimes well not fab but the people who use it are ...?
It's hard to keep this lifestyle a secret, sometimes it's nice to be able to talk to someone about the site and how you feel. So understand that men also need to talk about this as well. I hope you find some friends who you can confide in be it male or female. And you know that some of us are always here if you need to talk x
yes it is I'm a top a disciplinarian who will tell people off privately for there actions when i view them as a friend
but when a view than as some thing different i wont a will commenr but i will retreat from them take myself away from them forever because i don't need it and i find total disinterest once they have crossed a line is the best for me .
yes I'm all of the above but I'm also a sensitive soul at heart who is proud of the fact he feels unlike so many in this world i view that as a strength of mine not a weakness .
You should be proud of that side of your nature, I see you as a very caring dom with a very nurturing side. Just because you are a Dom doesn't mean you're not a sensitive person, my experience is that a lot of doms are just that and that's why the whole D/s relationship works so well because they are in touch with their feelings.
But you need to let someone in, those walls you build also keep you inside ( take that from someone who builds her own) . "
i know i have walls very think walls and for good reasons and I'm often reminded on here by the actions of others why those wall exist and why I'm so hard to get to truly know .
I don't top just anyone and for good reason and only a true sub would get the true meaning of that sentence because they are the same top and sub ying and yang . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"shag seems like a straight, stand up kind of guy...
why not approach him with a proposition...
or did I mean proposal
i can see your loving this post please do not insult me
shag is nothing like me as a human being and the fact you cant see that kind of rings alarm bells in my head but hay come on kick me some more I'm not going to retaliate so go for it do yourself proud , "
ok maybe not shag then but everyone needs someone to confide in...
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By *andsonjohn OP Man
over a year ago
in the eye of the storm |
"shag seems like a straight, stand up kind of guy...
why not approach him with a proposition...
or did I mean proposal
i can see your loving this post please do not insult me
shag is nothing like me as a human being and the fact you cant see that kind of rings alarm bells in my head but hay come on kick me some more I'm not going to retaliate so go for it do yourself proud ,
ok maybe not shag then but everyone needs someone to confide in...
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yes they do and i have no one on fab that i can confine in sadly but it is what it is .
i have been a very good friend to many on here helped loads but only a true top would understand me and sadly there are very few on here
i cant confide in a sub on this matter because they would not see it from a tops point of view they would see it totally differently sadly .
top and subs share a lot in common but when it comes to matter of dominance only another top will understand , |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"shag seems like a straight, stand up kind of guy...
why not approach him with a proposition...
or did I mean proposal
i can see your loving this post please do not insult me
shag is nothing like me as a human being and the fact you cant see that kind of rings alarm bells in my head but hay come on kick me some more I'm not going to retaliate so go for it do yourself proud ,
ok maybe not shag then but everyone needs someone to confide in...
yes they do and i have no one on fab that i can confine in sadly but it is what it is .
i have been a very good friend to many on here helped loads but only a true top would understand me and sadly there are very few on here
i cant confide in a sub on this matter because they would not see it from a tops point of view they would see it totally differently sadly .
top and subs share a lot in common but when it comes to matter of dominance only another top will understand ,"
cant write it here but maybe a forum more fitting to your wants and needs may provide more suitable chatpals |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I had a straight stand up guy on fab who I could confine in and vent to ,
a guy like me who can keep a friends secrets and offer a honest opinion when its needed .
any other guys ever feel this way because of how fab is sometimes well not fab but the people who use it are ...?
It's hard to keep this lifestyle a secret, sometimes it's nice to be able to talk to someone about the site and how you feel. So understand that men also need to talk about this as well. I hope you find some friends who you can confide in be it male or female. And you know that some of us are always here if you need to talk x
yes it is I'm a top a disciplinarian who will tell people off privately for there actions when i view them as a friend
but when a view than as some thing different i wont a will commenr but i will retreat from them take myself away from them forever because i don't need it and i find total disinterest once they have crossed a line is the best for me .
yes I'm all of the above but I'm also a sensitive soul at heart who is proud of the fact he feels unlike so many in this world i view that as a strength of mine not a weakness .
You should be proud of that side of your nature, I see you as a very caring dom with a very nurturing side. Just because you are a Dom doesn't mean you're not a sensitive person, my experience is that a lot of doms are just that and that's why the whole D/s relationship works so well because they are in touch with their feelings.
But you need to let someone in, those walls you build also keep you inside ( take that from someone who builds her own) .
i know i have walls very think walls and for good reasons and I'm often reminded on here by the actions of others why those wall exist and why I'm so hard to get to truly know .
I don't top just anyone and for good reason and only a true sub would get the true meaning of that sentence because they are the same top and sub ying and yang ."
I do get that, I wouldn't submit to just anyone. That is something that has to be earned. So would never expect a Dom to to top me without knowing the real me. |
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By *andsonjohn OP Man
over a year ago
in the eye of the storm |
"I have a trusted Fab chat mate. It's good to be able to talk freely about sexual stuff, we can't to friends or family.
I hope you find what you want."
wont happen i will do what i always do i will process on my own for a few days burn though it understand it and use it to make my walls thicker .
but its all good in the end because we learn more about ourselves through the actions of others than we ever do through our own actions sadly , |
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