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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've probs asked this question before. How do you know if someone's your type or not just by looking at a photo, shouldn't you at least make a little effort to get to know the person rather than dismiss out of hand based on a pic?
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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago
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i think it's hard also.
it's easy enough to know who you don't find attractive off pics though, might not even be they're physically unattractive to you but more something like their facial expression is rubbish or what they're doing in the pic puts you off. |
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It's difficult sure.. but you can tell by photos if you're not attracted to them. I usually try to go off their messages and their profile rather than their pictures but it has lead to meets where they just don't light my candle. Turns out I'm shallower than I thought. I have a couple of physical things that turn me off and if a persons pictures show these then it's an instant no. But it takes more than sexy photos to warrant a meet. What's your selection process like op? x |
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So I'm the woman without pics and I know for the purposes of this site maybe physical attraction is a massive factor!! That doesn't seem to stop my inbox filling so maybe attraction isn't always about the physical, it isn't for me. It's all in my head so it's about the connection. I was on a chat site before fab, I spent 8 weeks messaging someone before we exchanged pics. By that time there was very little that could have popped up on my screen that would have stopped the messaging. We had invested so much time and had so much enjoyment from each other that the pic was just a formality. Of all the things that exist between 2 ppl physical attraction is the first to fade, so having a connection is more important than physical attraction in my opinion. A connection is so much more fulfilling  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've probs asked this question before. How do you know if someone's your type or not just by looking at a photo, shouldn't you at least make a little effort to get to know the person rather than dismiss out of hand based on a pic?
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I'm assuming visual type. Not everyone who I find attractive externally seems click personality wise. But thats the fun in getting to know someone |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It's difficult sure.. but you can tell by photos if you're not attracted to them. I usually try to go off their messages and their profile rather than their pictures but it has lead to meets where they just don't light my candle. Turns out I'm shallower than I thought. I have a couple of physical things that turn me off and if a persons pictures show these then it's an instant no. But it takes more than sexy photos to warrant a meet. What's your selection process like op? x"
I will always try to get to know a person rather than simply go by a photo. I do find a lot of people on here really aren't very chatty, and that alone tends to put me off. |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
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"I've probs asked this question before. How do you know if someone's your type or not just by looking at a photo, shouldn't you at least make a little effort to get to know the person rather than dismiss out of hand based on a pic?
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I don't. Hence why I get to know someone a little if something they say in a message piques my interest. It would be easier if I went for visual attraction though. Having to talk to someone to know if you find them attractive means entering a conversation - that can be painful when you don't find them attractive as a result and then have to tell them when they think the fact they've got through the normal initiating conversation hurdle means they have a better chance. |
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It varies, from being intrigued through to having apparent fill list for someone. Or having no interest physically. It's in conjunction with their personality but if there's zero physical draw, exploring more is potentially wasting time. Especially when there are going to Be others who match your needs even more.
It's possible to have friends and not the lust but I'm generally here for fun and can find the great people in the lounge for non-sexual interests |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Photos is just part of the initial attraction for me. If i don't like the look of someone I won't bother finding out if the rest of them is attractive because there really is no point. I have to start my filtering process somewhere and photos seems like the logical first stage of many. I don't have copious amounts of time to go trawling through hundreds of profiles so I only really go for those that are visually stimulating to me. |
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By *orum TrollWoman
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"It's difficult sure.. but you can tell by photos if you're not attracted to them. I usually try to go off their messages and their profile rather than their pictures but it has lead to meets where they just don't light my candle. Turns out I'm shallower than I thought. I have a couple of physical things that turn me off and if a persons pictures show these then it's an instant no. But it takes more than sexy photos to warrant a meet. What's your selection process like op? x
I will always try to get to know a person rather than simply go by a photo. I do find a lot of people on here really aren't very chatty, and that alone tends to put me off. "
i used to be chatty, sort of introverted more now though and although i'd like to be able to be close to people like i used to be i find myself unwilling to due to trust issues created by men who use this site.
it's why i've gone back to an old one, i had better experiences with the guys on it and find it's a more safer environment to be myself BUT i do seem to have taken a little of my trust issues there because i find it hard to start a conversation now, but once it gets going if the guy holds my interest we do ok. and i am talking to more guys now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think you get a general feel for someone from their pics but even if theyre really attractive it all depends on the profile. If theres no personality then its a bit of a turn off. |
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By *orum TrollWoman
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"Type is all about the person for me, not the looks.
So you'd fuck a fugly would you?...
But it's ok because the person is really nice...  "
i might do.  my last ex was one and i only wanted a fuck off him, not sure how i ended up in a relationship with him tbh. |
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"Photos is just part of the initial attraction for me. If i don't like the look of someone I won't bother finding out if the rest of them is attractive because there really is no point. I have to start my filtering process somewhere and photos seems like the logical first stage of many. I don't have copious amounts of time to go trawling through hundreds of profiles so I only really go for those that are visually stimulating to me. "
Exactly! If women "got to know" everyone who wasn't physically their type.... I bet you we would be replying to messages a massive portion of the day!
I will only meet people I am initially physically attracted to.... if I meet them and there isn't a connection I won't take it further.
If I meet someone who is "my type" they have looks and personality but I won't settle for any less than that.... my free time is too rare to!
Call me shallow or whatever but this is about sex.... not dating. If I'm looking to date someone, my type is much less defined. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've probs asked this question before. How do you know if someone's your type or not just by looking at a photo, shouldn't you at least make a little effort to get to know the person rather than dismiss out of hand based on a pic?
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Yes |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I never, ever know if someone is my "type" just from a pic.
Chatting is essential to know if we have more than just an initial attraction and then take it from there. |
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"So I'm the woman without pics and I know for the purposes of this site maybe physical attraction is a massive factor!! That doesn't seem to stop my inbox filling so maybe attraction isn't always about the physical, it isn't for me. It's all in my head so it's about the connection. I was on a chat site before fab, I spent 8 weeks messaging someone before we exchanged pics. By that time there was very little that could have popped up on my screen that would have stopped the messaging. We had invested so much time and had so much enjoyment from each other that the pic was just a formality. Of all the things that exist between 2 ppl physical attraction is the first to fade, so having a connection is more important than physical attraction in my opinion. A connection is so much more fulfilling "
The opposite has happened to me. A real online connection, weeks of conversation (not here) but the face pictures were an utter shock. We met for a coffee and it was obvious within minutes it was a huge mistake and never spoke again. |
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