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We love to meet single guys , and our current favourite scenario is where we meet a guy in a pub , and he and my wife get to know each other over a drink or two , before we move on to their place or a quiet spot for some naughtiness .
Strangely , there seems to be a distinct shortage of men willing to be seen out in public . We post a meet , get lots of replies , but nine out of ten don't want to meet in a local pub . Replies vary from they will accommodate , meet at a dogging site , meet at a quiet spot , split hotel costs etc ....
So when we say we like to meet in a pub , have a drink , flirt a bit it all goes quiet . Such a shame , as the meets we have always go really well , and great fun is had by all .
I wonder if the guys who go quiet are in relationships ? We never had this problem when we were into dogging ......
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"We love to meet single guys , and our current favourite scenario is where we meet a guy in a pub , and he and my wife get to know each other over a drink or two , before we move on to their place or a quiet spot for some naughtiness .
Strangely , there seems to be a distinct shortage of men willing to be seen out in public . We post a meet , get lots of replies , but nine out of ten don't want to meet in a local pub . Replies vary from they will accommodate , meet at a dogging site , meet at a quiet spot , split hotel costs etc ....
So when we say we like to meet in a pub , have a drink , flirt a bit it all goes quiet . Such a shame , as the meets we have always go really well , and great fun is had by all .
I wonder if the guys who go quiet are in relationships ? We never had this problem when we were into dogging ......
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Maybe they think your ok to empty their balls in private but not be seen in public with ?
Lots of people like that about im afraid. |
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"We love to meet single guys , and our current favourite scenario is where we meet a guy in a pub , and he and my wife get to know each other over a drink or two , before we move on to their place or a quiet spot for some naughtiness .
Strangely , there seems to be a distinct shortage of men willing to be seen out in public . We post a meet , get lots of replies , but nine out of ten don't want to meet in a local pub . Replies vary from they will accommodate , meet at a dogging site , meet at a quiet spot , split hotel costs etc ....
So when we say we like to meet in a pub , have a drink , flirt a bit it all goes quiet . Such a shame , as the meets we have always go really well , and great fun is had by all .
I wonder if the guys who go quiet are in relationships ? We never had this problem when we were into dogging ......
Maybe they think your ok to empty their balls in private but not be seen in public with ?
Lots of people like that about im afraid."
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over a year ago
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"I think there's a lot on here who claim to be single yet 90% can't accommodate, makes me wonder "
There's a lot of single men claiming to be women,but have never heard of a single female claiming to be male  |
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By *aspsMan
over a year ago
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im 100% single can accomidate yet meets are still hard to get genuine single guys get the thin end of the wedge alot of the time sometimes couples single females could get to no singles guys a bit better and longer instead of looking at a profile and deciding |
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over a year ago
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It could just be they want to avoid questions if they are seen. Maybe they are not open about swinging with their friends and would rather avoid people asking who they were meeting with rather than lie. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"We love to meet single guys , and our current favourite scenario is where we meet a guy in a pub , and he and my wife get to know each other over a drink or two , before we move on to their place or a quiet spot for some naughtiness .
Strangely , there seems to be a distinct shortage of men willing to be seen out in public . We post a meet , get lots of replies , but nine out of ten don't want to meet in a local pub . Replies vary from they will accommodate , meet at a dogging site , meet at a quiet spot , split hotel costs etc ....
So when we say we like to meet in a pub , have a drink , flirt a bit it all goes quiet . Such a shame , as the meets we have always go really well , and great fun is had by all .
I wonder if the guys who go quiet are in relationships ? We never had this problem when we were into dogging ......
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This is exactly how I suss them out as well, everything is going great until you try and make arrangements for somewhere public (and I mean any pub that is city centre)
They normally go quiet or say 'oh, I thought I would just come round to yours'
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over a year ago
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"im 100% single can accomidate yet meets are still hard to get genuine single guys get the thin end of the wedge alot of the time sometimes couples single females could get to no singles guys a bit better and longer instead of looking at a profile and deciding "
This is essentially a site for convince though. Ppl don't have the time to converse with everyone that msgs them, it's unrealistic to expect that. |
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By *aggersMan
over a year ago
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Maybe ask them to meet in a neutral pub where nobody knows any of you ? Not all guys on here are genuinely single I get that ! but some guys are but get thrown in with the rest of them because they can't accommodate or are wary of meeting where people might know them but all that been said I see your point op |
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"im 100% single can accomidate yet meets are still hard to get genuine single guys get the thin end of the wedge alot of the time sometimes couples single females could get to no singles guys a bit better and longer instead of looking at a profile and deciding "
Do you mean take one for the team just because one can accommodate  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Surely meeting a couple is less suspicious than meeting a single person. Ppl are more likely to jump to the conclusion it's some kind of date if it's just two ppl but three ppl no, well I know I wouldn't assume that. And it's easy enough to just say before hand that if you see someone you know then you're going to be introduced as some friends. |
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"Surely meeting a couple is less suspicious than meeting a single person. Ppl are more likely to jump to the conclusion it's some kind of date if it's just two ppl but three ppl no, well I know I wouldn't assume that. And it's easy enough to just say before hand that if you see someone you know then you're going to be introduced as some friends. "
Meeting a single is less £ for the round and if a guy is attached surely they would rather meet a couple as you're example then a single fem |
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"Surely meeting a couple is less suspicious than meeting a single person. Ppl are more likely to jump to the conclusion it's some kind of date if it's just two ppl but three ppl no, well I know I wouldn't assume that. And it's easy enough to just say before hand that if you see someone you know then you're going to be introduced as some friends. "
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"Surely meeting a couple is less suspicious than meeting a single person. Ppl are more likely to jump to the conclusion it's some kind of date if it's just two ppl but three ppl no, well I know I wouldn't assume that. And it's easy enough to just say before hand that if you see someone you know then you're going to be introduced as some friends.
Meeting a single is less £ for the round and if a guy is attached surely they would rather meet a couple as you're example then a single fem"
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"I think it's simply a lot of blokes are terrified about needing some social skills in the pub. Simple as that. "
Well they can't be that bad if they were in the process of arranging a meet. So that theory isn't good.
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"I think it's simply a lot of blokes are terrified about needing some social skills in the pub. Simple as that. Well they can't be that bad if they were in the process of arranging a meet. So that theory isn't good."
I get 'small talk' anxiety before every meet even though I'm chatty |
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"I think there's a lot on here who claim to be single yet 90% can't accommodate, makes me wonder
There's a lot of single men claiming to be women,but have never heard of a single female claiming to be male "
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"I think it's simply a lot of blokes are terrified about needing some social skills in the pub. Simple as that. Well they can't be that bad if they were in the process of arranging a meet. So that theory isn't good.
I get 'small talk' anxiety before every meet even though I'm chatty "
I'm sure people do I just don't think it is the case here that's all. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"I think it's simply a lot of blokes are terrified about needing some social skills in the pub. Simple as that. "
Blokes having problems meeting in a pub? Seriously? It's the most benign meet scenario ever. If people don't get on, you can just leave. |
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"I think it's simply a lot of blokes are terrified about needing some social skills in the pub. Simple as that.
Blokes having problems meeting in a pub? Seriously? It's the most benign meet scenario ever. If people don't get on, you can just leave."
I agree but I've seen it happen several times over the years |
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over a year ago
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I don't accom as I have my young daughter living with me but I don't understand why they wouldn't meet you at a pub first! I love a drink and a flirt beforehand! |
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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago
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sometimes they just want to make the minimum effort for sex. like you're a prostitute...just name a time and place and fuck.
or they don't want to be seen in public with you for other reasons.
but there are loads of cheats on here also, yes. as there are all over the internet. |
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over a year ago
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"and our current favourite scenario is where we meet a guy in a pub , and he and my wife get to know each other over a drink or two , before we move on to their place or a quiet spot for some naughtiness.
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This is mine aswell.
But you guys intimidate me.  |
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Ok I'm not single but even if I was I would not meet in my local nor would I accommodate. Being on here is hardly something I would tell my friends and neighbours about, therefore doing either of the above wouldn't happen ever!!! |
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"and our current favourite scenario is where we meet a guy in a pub , and he and my wife get to know each other over a drink or two , before we move on to their place or a quiet spot for some naughtiness.
This is mine aswell.
But you guys intimidate me. "
Really ?
We aren't at all intimidating |
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"Ok I'm not single but even if I was I would not meet in my local nor would I accommodate. Being on here is hardly something I would tell my friends and neighbours about, therefore doing either of the above wouldn't happen ever!!!"
That's cool , and is your prerogative .
While we don't actively promote the fact that we are swingers , we certainly aren't ashamed and see no reason to hide it . |
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They haven't got into the social dside of swinging. When I first started I thought "wayhey, easy sex!". But it didn't take me long to get into the social side when just speaking to people in clubs. I'm always happy to meet in a pub or club to see if there's chemistry, I never expect to just whip my nob out and get some, although it has happened at the right place and time |
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"We love to meet single guys , and our current favourite scenario is where we meet a guy in a pub , and he and my wife get to know each other over a drink or two , before we move on to their place or a quiet spot for some naughtiness .
Strangely , there seems to be a distinct shortage of men willing to be seen out in public . We post a meet , get lots of replies , but nine out of ten don't want to meet in a local pub . Replies vary from they will accommodate , meet at a dogging site , meet at a quiet spot , split hotel costs etc ....
So when we say we like to meet in a pub , have a drink , flirt a bit it all goes quiet . Such a shame , as the meets we have always go really well , and great fun is had by all .
I wonder if the guys who go quiet are in relationships ? We never had this problem when we were into dogging ......
Maybe they think your ok to empty their balls in private but not be seen in public with ?
Lots of people like that about im afraid."
I'm sure this is true too , and I'm glad anyone who thinks like this hasn't met us yet |
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"and our current favourite scenario is where we meet a guy in a pub , and he and my wife get to know each other over a drink or two , before we move on to their place or a quiet spot for some naughtiness.
This is mine aswell.
But you guys intimidate me.
Really ?
We aren't at all intimidating "
[points to wet patch]
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over a year ago
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The guys who can't accommodate can't be single thing has been covered so many times, there are loads of other totally valid reasons for not accommodating same as there are for women not accommodating.
The OP's point of guys not meeting in public is a more interesting one though as I cant think of so many reasons why you wouldn't.
I can accommodate sometimes although It's very very rare that I do and I'm very single, but I have no problem meeting anyone in public. I usually suggest meeting in a pub or somewhere equally as public as I would expect a woman to maybe feel safer that way, if I met couples I would be happy meeting them there too. |
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"and our current favourite scenario is where we meet a guy in a pub , and he and my wife get to know each other over a drink or two , before we move on to their place or a quiet spot for some naughtiness.
This is mine aswell.
But you guys intimidate me.
Really ?
We aren't at all intimidating
[points to wet patch]
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How can you see my wife's crotch from there ?
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over a year ago
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I'm not sure if it's even my thing yet as personally i wish to meet single women and then explore the club scene with her. What comes after that hasn't entered my mind yet, but you guys, if i were ever to think of going down those avenues would most certainly be going about things the way i would want them. Meet in a pub for beer and a chance to relax before any shenanigans.. sounds perfect!!! I can't even see why it would be an issue having a drink in the local... it's not as if we'd be stood around naked shouting 'we're swingers is it' ??
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"and our current favourite scenario is where we meet a guy in a pub , and he and my wife get to know each other over a drink or two , before we move on to their place or a quiet spot for some naughtiness.
This is mine aswell.
But you guys intimidate me.
Really ?
We aren't at all intimidating
[points to wet patch]
How can you see my wife's crotch from there ?
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I see everything....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The guys who can't accommodate can't be single thing has been covered so many times, there are loads of other totally valid reasons for not accommodating same as there are for women not accommodating.
The OP's point of guys not meeting in public is a more interesting one though as I cant think of so many reasons why you wouldn't.
I can accommodate sometimes although It's very very rare that I do and I'm very single, but I have no problem meeting anyone in public. I usually suggest meeting in a pub or somewhere equally as public as I would expect a woman to maybe feel safer that way, if I met couples I would be happy meeting them there too."
I do agree with completely. I am single (otherwise why would I have my face splashed on here), but living in a house share with others who do not participate in a swinging lifestyle, out of respect I don't throw it in their faces so plan accordingly.
As for meeting in public, a social meet is always fun. |
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Maybe they are married or maybe they just don't want to socialise beforehand, their preferential way to meet isn't the same as yours, who knows?
Unless you ask them as to why you ain't going to know either. |
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"I'll meet a single fem in public but a couple. Not for me "
I regularly go out for dinner with a couple I met on a similar site and don't see an issue (apart from the fact that she's my age and he's old enough to be our dad so people probably have a very different idea about our relationship than the truth, lol), am actually less at ease being seen out by someone I know with a single girl, cos if I'm seen with another meet a week later and both stories get round work or friends, people will start asking which one I'm seeing and I'll never hear the end of it, but I know the odds of this are pretty slim so it doesn't dwell on my mind for long. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't particularly like meeting in local pubs or coffee shops. Purely because I know a shit load of people who could walk past, or come in to join us. I don't want my private life public. |
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I arranged to meet a couple in a local pub last year, sat there sipping my pint and I get a call from them saying their daughter is in the pub with her family can I go to the pub down the road instead. I did and we had a drink and a flirt then back to theirs for the evening after. |
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over a year ago
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I'll freely admit I am married but play alone (I make this clear on my profile) and I would meet a couple somewhere public.
Chance would be a fine thing but there you go... |
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over a year ago
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"and our current favourite scenario is where we meet a guy in a pub , and he and my wife get to know each other over a drink or two , before we move on to their place or a quiet spot for some naughtiness.
This is mine aswell.
But you guys intimidate me. "
shhh give over, they're lovely really...don't let the hardcore exterior fool you |
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By *ander_XMan
over a year ago
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In my opinion fab just wouldn't be worth the hassle for most genuinely single men. A single man can find casual sex infinitely more easily on a dating site or app than on here.
Of course there will be a few exceptions, and men that are interested in joining the swinging scene rather than just casual sex, but the majority of men on here are probably attached.
For attached men fab offers a degree of anonymity that dating sites/apps don't and so makes the massive inequity between the sexes tolerable. The vast majority of genuine single men would very quickly get frustrated by fab and move on. |
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over a year ago
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Can accommodate but still haven't set the double bed up lol, never got the time! Only had 2 people come back to mine, usually just play at clubs. Need to get my finger out a bit. |
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over a year ago
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"In my opinion fab just wouldn't be worth the hassle for most genuinely single men. A single man can find casual sex infinitely more easily on a dating site or app than on here.
Of course there will be a few exceptions, and men that are interested in joining the swinging scene rather than just casual sex, but the majority of men on here are probably attached.
For attached men fab offers a degree of anonymity that dating sites/apps don't and so makes the massive inequity between the sexes tolerable. The vast majority of genuine single men would very quickly get frustrated by fab and move on."
I've met plenty who are really single. |
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"In my opinion fab just wouldn't be worth the hassle for most genuinely single men. A single man can find casual sex infinitely more easily on a dating site or app than on here.
Of course there will be a few exceptions, and men that are interested in joining the swinging scene rather than just casual sex, but the majority of men on here are probably attached.
For attached men fab offers a degree of anonymity that dating sites/apps don't and so makes the massive inequity between the sexes tolerable. The vast majority of genuine single men would very quickly get frustrated by fab and move on."
I genuinely wish I could find these dating sites where there is readily available NSA sex. I tried a few with little success, had far more fun from fab. |
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Dating sites are filled with Snapchat filters and attention seeking kids who couldn't be sexy if they tried, also many seriously lacking a sense of humour and up themselves. Way more laid back people on here who know how to talk and not after Instagram followers. Love the scene and won't turn back even if I ended up meeting someone (hopefully also in the scene). |
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"and our current favourite scenario is where we meet a guy in a pub , and he and my wife get to know each other over a drink or two , before we move on to their place or a quiet spot for some naughtiness.
This is mine aswell.
But you guys intimidate me.
shhh give over, they're lovely really...don't let the hardcore exterior fool you "
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"In my opinion fab just wouldn't be worth the hassle for most genuinely single men. A single man can find casual sex infinitely more easily on a dating site or app than on here.
Of course there will be a few exceptions, and men that are interested in joining the swinging scene rather than just casual sex, but the majority of men on here are probably attached.
For attached men fab offers a degree of anonymity that dating sites/apps don't and so makes the massive inequity between the sexes tolerable. The vast majority of genuine single men would very quickly get frustrated by fab and move on."
I only meet single men. I doubt the ones I've met were frustrated. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always prefer to meet somewhere public first whether it be local pub or coffee bar if no chemistry say your farewells no harm done if there is then the flirting is all part of the build up and yes I have a single and a couples profile and she knows all about my single profile so it makes no difference if I get spotted as I've nothing to hide, she even sometimes arranges the meets for me |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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I also had someone last week who has been trying to meet me for ages, he was one of the ones that thought he could just come directly round to mine. When I said somewhere public in the city centre, bearing in mind there are tonnes of pubs to choose from, he suggested a little back street café, hence I didn't feel the need to respond to that!
Now whether that was because he wasn't really single, or he really didn't want to be seen in public with a female 14 years his senior is beyond me, but again he was the one doing the chasing.....so sometimes it is just a 'fuck knows' conclusion  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My attitude as a single bloke is what I do in my spare time and who I associate with is nobody else's business so will meet whenever and wherever so don't have tp explain shit to no one; I'm meeting mates as far as anyone's concerned. |
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"I also had someone last week who has been trying to meet me for ages, he was one of the ones that thought he could just come directly round to mine. When I said somewhere public in the city centre, bearing in mind there are tonnes of pubs to choose from, he suggested a little back street café, hence I didn't feel the need to respond to that!
Now whether that was because he wasn't really single, or he really didn't want to be seen in public with a female 14 years his senior is beyond me, but again he was the one doing the chasing.....so sometimes it is just a 'fuck knows' conclusion "
Maybe the fact you have a Penis put him off ?
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"I also had someone last week who has been trying to meet me for ages, he was one of the ones that thought he could just come directly round to mine. When I said somewhere public in the city centre, bearing in mind there are tonnes of pubs to choose from, he suggested a little back street café, hence I didn't feel the need to respond to that!
Now whether that was because he wasn't really single, or he really didn't want to be seen in public with a female 14 years his senior is beyond me, but again he was the one doing the chasing.....so sometimes it is just a 'fuck knows' conclusion
Maybe the fact you have a Penis put him off ?"
Do I? And why haven't I managed to find it before now?  |
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over a year ago
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"and our current favourite scenario is where we meet a guy in a pub , and he and my wife get to know each other over a drink or two , before we move on to their place or a quiet spot for some naughtiness.
This is mine aswell.
But you guys intimidate me.
shhh give over, they're lovely really...don't let the hardcore exterior fool you "
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And im happy to meet at a bar or sumwrar public as its a social meet 1st for me 