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Single guys who say they have a female fuck buddy

By *inkyLondonpair OP Couple over a year ago

London

But when you say "can we speak to her to confirm she is interested" it turns out she is "not quite ready". I. E. She doesn't exist.

We have had a few of those recently and we don't know why guys do it. We assume you use a fictional female as bait but when a couple find out they have been lied to you have zero chance of a meet.

Bottom line if you genuinely have a female who plays set up a couples profile.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Bottom line if you genuinely have a female who plays set up a couples profile. "

What if they bothe (male and female) consider themselves as singles?

Can they keep their singles profiles?

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By *unandbuckCouple over a year ago

Sheffield

Bottom line if you genuinely have a female who plays set up a couples profile.

What if they bothe (male and female) consider themselves as singles?

Can they keep their singles profiles?

Yes, there are often profiles that mention their other singles or couples profile.

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By *inkyLondonpair OP Couple over a year ago

London

Bottom line if you genuinely have a female who plays set up a couples profile.

What if they bothe (male and female) consider themselves as singles?

Can they keep their singles profiles?

Yes, there are often profiles that mention their other singles or couples profile."

If you are a genuine couple who play as singles as well that's not a problem. It's where the female is nowhere to be seen on here and "needs things to be taken slowly" which means they can't communicate other than via the male

I think guys see it as bait to get them a shag in the hope that you will shag this mythical female. It's just annoying!

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By *unandbuckCouple over a year ago

Sheffield

Bottom line if you genuinely have a female who plays set up a couples profile.

What if they bothe (male and female) consider themselves as singles?

Can they keep their singles profiles?

Yes, there are often profiles that mention their other singles or couples profile.

I think guys see it as bait to get them a shag in the hope that you will shag this mythical female. It's just annoying! "

That's right, as you describe it, those guys are fake / con men. If there is a real fb wanting to join in, as a minimum they could give her username and have a 3 way chat. In reality, she doesn't exist, as you mentioned.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You clutch at more straws than a wanking scarecrow with this post and the entitlement is strong.

So...

Would you rather (based on your ASS-umptions) that he/they said:

"Sorry, she doesn't find you attractive" or "Sorry, she's not interested in you"..?

Would that be preferable to "I don't think she's ready"...because it doesn't necessarily mean or transpire the guy is full of shit does it?..

Seriously, I'm not bigging myself up, but seriously, if I was prepeared to be a "fuck & go" I'd have met quite a few couples, because all I ever get in my inbox is "now"..or "bang the wife now I want to watch".."my wife is horny" .."Dominate my wife right now" (most common).

Seriously that is it...^THAT is my inbox.

(Majority of single bi- fems think they're the only ones with this problem from couples lol..you're not believe me.)

No convo..no getting to know me,..no interest at all.

Now, I'm not asking for elaborate or enthralling conversation but just be slightly interested in the person on the other end...just a tad.

..in other words don't come across as that the only person getting anything out of it is you and your hubby.

Perhaps he sensed that with you and wasn't prepared to put his "fuck buddy" in the situation where YOU'RE the only ones getting anything out of it...because your post does reek of that if I'm honest.

Ever thought of that?...Nope thought not.

I'm chatting to a couple right now and they are EXCELLENT. So I'm not wide brush smearing ALL couples but seriously the majority are the most entitled people on fab, who thinks everyone (male or female even other couples - yes I have heard of this aswell) MUST play their game and meet without question and god help you with the BLOCK button if you turn us down.

It doesn't mean the guy/them/female/couple is full of shit and I'm not denying it doesn't happen that would be STUPID.

But what I am saying is I LOVE couples, it's who I mainly want to meet, but your post comes across as very "all single guys who have a fuckbuddy are full of shit" and sounds "entitled".

Bet you didn't expect to this from a single guy did you?...

Rant over.

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By *inkyLondonpair OP Couple over a year ago

London

"You clutch at more straws than a wanking scarecrow with this post and the entitlement is strong.

So...

Would you rather (based on your ASS-umptions) that he/they said:

"Sorry, she doesn't find you attractive" or "Sorry, she's not interested in you"..?

Would that be preferable to "I don't think she's ready"...because it doesn't necessarily mean or transpire the guy is full of shit does it?..

Seriously that is it...^THAT is my inbox.

(Majority of single bi- fems think they're the only ones with this problem from couples lol..you're not believe me.)

No convo..no getting to know me,..no interest at all.

Now, I'm not asking for elaborate or enthralling conversation but just be slightly interested in the person on the other end...just a tad.

..in other words don't come across as that the only person getting anything out of it is you and your hubby.

Perhaps he sensed that with you and wasn't prepared to put his "fuck buddy" in the situation where YOU'RE the only ones getting anything out of it...because your post does reek of that if I'm honest.

Ever thought of that?...Nope thought not.

It doesn't mean the guy/them/female/couple is full of shit and I'm not denying it doesn't happen that would be STUPID.

But what I am saying is I LOVE couples, it's who I mainly want to meet, but your post comes across as very "all single guys who have a fuckbuddy are full of shit" and sounds "entitled".

Bet you didn't expect to this from a single guy did you?...

Rant over.

There quite a few assumptions on your part there. This is how it actually goes.

1. A single guy messages us saying he has a fuck buddy

2. We say" great can we do a female to female chat "

3., he says" she's not ready for that " etc etc

All this in the space of a few Mins. So, no it's not she has looked at our profile and not liked it. In any event if he is saying his fb would like to meet us shouldn't he show her the profile before messaging. Then if she didn't like us he wouldnt message.

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By *unandbuckCouple over a year ago

Sheffield

"You clutch at more straws than a wanking scarecrow with this post and the entitlement is strong.

So...

Would you rather (based on your ASS-umptions) that he/they said:

"Sorry, she doesn't find you attractive" or "Sorry, she's not interested in you"..?

Would that be preferable to "I don't think she's ready"...because it doesn't necessarily mean or transpire the guy is full of shit does it?..

Seriously that is it...^THAT is my inbox.

(Majority of single bi- fems think they're the only ones with this problem from couples lol..you're not believe me.)

No convo..no getting to know me,..no interest at all.

Now, I'm not asking for elaborate or enthralling conversation but just be slightly interested in the person on the other end...just a tad.

..in other words don't come across as that the only person getting anything out of it is you and your hubby.

Perhaps he sensed that with you and wasn't prepared to put his "fuck buddy" in the situation where YOU'RE the only ones getting anything out of it...because your post does reek of that if I'm honest.

Ever thought of that?...Nope thought not.

It doesn't mean the guy/them/female/couple is full of shit and I'm not denying it doesn't happen that would be STUPID.

But what I am saying is I LOVE couples, it's who I mainly want to meet, but your post comes across as very "all single guys who have a fuckbuddy are full of shit" and sounds "entitled".

Bet you didn't expect to this from a single guy did you?...

Rant over.

They were contacted by a single guy who claimed to have an fb. If the fb existed, but she wasn't interested, why did he contact them in the first place?

They haven't said anything entitled, or slagged of single guys in general. They have posted about the folly of some guys pretending to have an fb.

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By *inkyLondonpair OP Couple over a year ago

London

"You clutch at more straws than a wanking scarecrow with this post and the entitlement is strong.

So...

Would you rather (based on your ASS-umptions) that he/they said:

"Sorry, she doesn't find you attractive" or "Sorry, she's not interested in you"..?

Would that be preferable to "I don't think she's ready"...because it doesn't necessarily mean or transpire the guy is full of shit does it?..

Seriously that is it...^THAT is my inbox.

(Majority of single bi- fems think they're the only ones with this problem from couples lol..you're not believe me.)

No convo..no getting to know me,..no interest at all.

Now, I'm not asking for elaborate or enthralling conversation but just be slightly interested in the person on the other end...just a tad.

..in other words don't come across as that the only person getting anything out of it is you and your hubby.

Perhaps he sensed that with you and wasn't prepared to put his "fuck buddy" in the situation where YOU'RE the only ones getting anything out of it...because your post does reek of that if I'm honest.

Ever thought of that?...Nope thought not.

It doesn't mean the guy/them/female/couple is full of shit and I'm not denying it doesn't happen that would be STUPID.

But what I am saying is I LOVE couples, it's who I mainly want to meet, but your post comes across as very "all single guys who have a fuckbuddy are full of shit" and sounds "entitled".

Bet you didn't expect to this from a single guy did you?...

Rant over.

They were contacted by a single guy who claimed to have an fb. If the fb existed, but she wasn't interested, why did he contact them in the first place?

They haven't said anything entitled, or slagged of single guys in general. They have posted about the folly of some guys pretending to have an fb."

Thanks ??. It's the stupidity of it all that gets us. We actually see more single guys than we do couples and in some ways prefer them. However if you start telling us stupid stories he will lose any chance you had.

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By *aughtyLondonGuyMan over a year ago

london

Also couples but only ever the man available

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have a lady who plays with me when available but I don't advertise as a couple as I play alone. I always make this clear and in any case I would need to check her availability and whether she fancied it before committing.

It is annoying when we make contact with a couple only to find it's a single guy.

Just be honest.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They were contacted by a single guy who claimed to have an fb. If the fb existed, but she wasn't interested, why did he contact them in the first place?

Where in the OP have they said that?...

Because I can't see it.

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By *unandbuckCouple over a year ago

Sheffield

They were contacted by a single guy who claimed to have an fb. If the fb existed, but she wasn't interested, why did he contact them in the first place?

Where in the OP have they said that?...

Because I can't see it."

The describe it in their 3 point description.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There quite a few assumptions on your part there. This is how it actually goes.

1. A single guy messages us saying he has a fuck buddy

2. We say" great can we do a female to female chat "

3., he says" she's not ready for that " etc etc

There is a hell of a lot more info/context now than there was in the OP.

That's a bit different then.

But..that still doesn't change the fact you might have said something in the short exchange that put him/her off.

It still doesn't mean he's full of shit, he could have been quite genuinely saying "I don't think she's ready yet".

It's a fair comment, especially if your expectations were beyond hers.

I don't know the conversation..but I think you should give him a break as he could have been telling you the truth.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They were contacted by a single guy who claimed to have an fb. If the fb existed, but she wasn't interested, why did he contact them in the first place?

Where in the OP have they said that?...

Because I can't see it.

The describe it in their 3 point description. "

That was AFTER I commented.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"But when you say "can we speak to her to confirm she is interested" it turns out she is "not quite ready". I. E. She doesn't exist.

We have had a few of those recently and we don't know why guys do it. We assume you use a fictional female as bait but when a couple find out they have been lied to you have zero chance of a meet.

Bottom line if you genuinely have a female who plays set up a couples profile. "

no thanks, i like keeping my single profile, works for me just fine. had couples profiles before, bunch of arse so it is and much prefer the way i do things

cheers anyhow

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By *unandbuckCouple over a year ago

Sheffield

They were contacted by a single guy who claimed to have an fb. If the fb existed, but she wasn't interested, why did he contact them in the first place?

Where in the OP have they said that?...

Because I can't see it.

The describe it in their 3 point description.

That was AFTER I commented.

It was! I commented because yours was a full-on dig, based on an assumption that they were single guy bashing.

Lots of people like single guys but also get frustrated by the bullshitter ones who come up with these stories. He 'could' have an fb who changed her mind, I agree. But if I was going to bet a shiny £1 coin, I would say he didn't

As others have said, couples do similar, where the 'wife' suddenly disappears and 'single' females who only ever meet with an fb.

The OP was a valid point, imo, and it amazing why anyone does these things.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To be fair girls do this too. Ive been talking away with a few girls when up pops a "super hot FB" she wants to arrange a 3sum with.

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By *inkyLondonpair OP Couple over a year ago

London

There quite a few assumptions on your part there. This is how it actually goes.

1. A single guy messages us saying he has a fuck buddy

2. We say" great can we do a female to female chat "

3., he says" she's not ready for that " etc etc

There is a hell of a lot more info/context now than there was in the OP.

That's a bit different then.

But..that still doesn't change the fact you might have said something in the short exchange that put him/her off.

It still doesn't mean he's full of shit, he could have been quite genuinely saying "I don't think she's ready yet".

It's a fair comment, especially if your expectations were beyond hers.

I don't know the conversation..but I think you should give him a break as he could have been telling you the truth.

He may well have a partner/friend with whom he has raised the idea of swinging and she had said she might at some vague point in the future. If that's the case he shouldn't be offering her out in his first message. When she is ready to meet is the time to mention her.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I commented because yours was a full-on dig, based on an assumption that they were single guy bashing.

You naughty boy Benjamin for ever DARING to challenge the sincerity of a couple.

**Slaps wrist**...

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