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dont get me wrong I was annoyed but did find out why first before I choose another babysitter.
however I did have a few loverly babysitters that was reliable and shared the babysitting around them ones.
one I could really rely upon the most. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh my baby sitter is my friends mum or my friend
My friend doesn't know so i made up a guy I was dating but now I've had to dump said guy and well ahhh I want a meet"
Could you say work friends? My babysitter never asked where I was going, only enquired as to whether it would be a late one! |
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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago
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Tell them anything you want to.
Out with Friends
Work do
Cinema
Evening with the Girls
Fashion launch
Hair appointment
Become a mystery shopper (for hotels and wine bars only) |
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"Oh my baby sitter is my friends mum or my friend
My friend doesn't know so i made up a guy I was dating but now I've had to dump said guy and well ahhh I want a meet"
say your going
for a meal
going to cinema
off to club or nightclub
if your going to be late then say so or at least ring them to say your going to be late is it ok with them
dosnt matter if you bring other people with you they dont know any different unless there staying over night at yours as well |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Want to vent. I'm annoyed by not getting out to meets
What do you guys say to baby sitters ect lol
I'm frustrated to hell"
Make sure your baby sitters have a cock ! Sorted  |
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over a year ago
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I've never got a sitter to go to a meet, I work it around my very limited free time. But it does mean that the meets I go on are special, and hopefully well worth the wait. A good man will keep putting in the effort until I can make it, which could be 2-3 weeks.
I have popped her to my parents to party! But i hate returning hung over. Family first, fun second
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My hubby babysits for me if I want to go out, but my 10 yr old son is worse than my dad for wanting to know who I am I going out with where I am going what time I'm going to be back. Oh and will I get him a McDonalds on my way hone!!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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shouldn't you get the meet sorted first, then worry about who will babysit and what you will tell them when the time comes...
I don't usually rehearse anything...I prefer to say something off the cuff as it sounds more genuine than something rehearsed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Do you not think that couples have this problem? But it's really none of their business. Just make some shit up. That's what my hubby and I do. ..to our parents. |
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"I've never got a sitter to go to a meet, I work it around my very limited free time. But it does mean that the meets I go on are special, and hopefully well worth the wait. A good man will keep putting in the effort until I can make it, which could be 2-3 weeks.
I have popped her to my parents to party! But i hate returning hung over. Family first, fun second
x"
Some of us really do get no free time though. I'm either at work or with family. My last meet took years to get there. .so please don't belittle other people's meets as to not being "special" just because they manage to meet more often. It's all down to circumstances. |
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over a year ago
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"I don't have any baby sitters. I live 200 miles away from friends /family ao only get 2 nights a month to meet when at her dad's. Does make it quite trying "
You get more than a lot of married couples get! Hubby and I managed twice in one year once! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Even harder when you have no one to babysit and only time you can meet is during school hours when your not working  x
If only! That sounds perfect! "
Nice ass |
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I planned meets around when the girls went to their dad/when they were at school/college/uni etc.
As an adult I've never felt the need to justify where I was going to anyone: "out!" was sufficient!
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"Want to vent. I'm annoyed by not getting out to meets
What do you guys say to baby sitters ect lol
I'm frustrated to hell"
I pretty much didn't go out when my kids needed sitting. I worked and spent time with the kids. Plenty of time for going out and fucking strangers when they are older .... |
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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago
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"Want to vent. I'm annoyed by not getting out to meets
What do you guys say to baby sitters ect lol
I'm frustrated to hell
I pretty much didn't go out when my kids needed sitting. I worked and spent time with the kids. Plenty of time for going out and fucking strangers when they are older ...."
there's actually nothing wrong with having sexual needs as a single parent. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Want to vent. I'm annoyed by not getting out to meets
What do you guys say to baby sitters ect lol
I'm frustrated to hell
I pretty much didn't go out when my kids needed sitting. I worked and spent time with the kids. Plenty of time for going out and fucking strangers when they are older ...."
If you want to go completely stir crazy then by all means spend every waking moment with your kids. Most of us need healthy release now and then. |
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By *airymagic OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Want to vent. I'm annoyed by not getting out to meets
What do you guys say to baby sitters ect lol
I'm frustrated to hell
I pretty much didn't go out when my kids needed sitting. I worked and spent time with the kids. Plenty of time for going out and fucking strangers when they are older ...."
So you think put my life on hold for a decade |
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"Want to vent. I'm annoyed by not getting out to meets
What do you guys say to baby sitters ect lol
I'm frustrated to hell
I pretty much didn't go out when my kids needed sitting. I worked and spent time with the kids. Plenty of time for going out and fucking strangers when they are older ....
If you want to go completely stir crazy then by all means spend every waking moment with your kids. Most of us need healthy release now and then. "
I didn't go stir crazy, I built my career and my family, as well as spending time with family and friends. My life was very balanced, still is .... and they are teenagers now. |
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"Want to vent. I'm annoyed by not getting out to meets
What do you guys say to baby sitters ect lol
I'm frustrated to hell
I pretty much didn't go out when my kids needed sitting. I worked and spent time with the kids. Plenty of time for going out and fucking strangers when they are older ....
there's actually nothing wrong with having sexual needs as a single parent."
Also nothing wrong with not having them? |
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"Want to vent. I'm annoyed by not getting out to meets
What do you guys say to baby sitters ect lol
I'm frustrated to hell
I pretty much didn't go out when my kids needed sitting. I worked and spent time with the kids. Plenty of time for going out and fucking strangers when they are older ....
So you think put my life on hold for a decade"
Is that what having kids is ....? Mine were and still are a central part of my life .... family first. I am just saying how I lived with three young kids and a career. I didn't have the inclination or the time at that stage of my life .. |
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"Want to vent. I'm annoyed by not getting out to meets
What do you guys say to baby sitters ect lol
I'm frustrated to hell
I pretty much didn't go out when my kids needed sitting. I worked and spent time with the kids. Plenty of time for going out and fucking strangers when they are older ...."
Maybe,but I think there needs to be a healthy balance. I remember when mine were younger and I was a single mum I had no support system close by and there were times I went stir crazy. |
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over a year ago
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My son was 18 in February.
He got ID today so he could officially go and buy alcohol, I've never seen him so excited 
He's just come home to tell me he's going back out to stay at a friend's who has a hot tub. I'm so jealous  |
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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago
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"Want to vent. I'm annoyed by not getting out to meets
What do you guys say to baby sitters ect lol
I'm frustrated to hell
I pretty much didn't go out when my kids needed sitting. I worked and spent time with the kids. Plenty of time for going out and fucking strangers when they are older ....
there's actually nothing wrong with having sexual needs as a single parent.
Also nothing wrong with not having them?"
i never said there was. you implied there is something wrong with the OP for wanting to 'fuck strangers'. and not only me picked up on that as you can see. |
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"Want to vent. I'm annoyed by not getting out to meets
What do you guys say to baby sitters ect lol
I'm frustrated to hell
I pretty much didn't go out when my kids needed sitting. I worked and spent time with the kids. Plenty of time for going out and fucking strangers when they are older ....
there's actually nothing wrong with having sexual needs as a single parent.
Also nothing wrong with not having them?
i never said there was. you implied there is something wrong with the OP for wanting to 'fuck strangers'. and not only me picked up on that as you can see."
I did not imply there was anything wrong with that in anyway. Just stated what I did and that I found plenty of time for fucking strangers when mine were older ... asked for advice/input and gave mine, as a single parent of three. Sorry its not what people want to hear, but it worked for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love my kids more than anything, but i do feel i would be a more relaxed, laid back mum if i had the arse shagged off me on a semi regular basis.
As it is, i can feel myself turning into a harpy. |
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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago
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"Want to vent. I'm annoyed by not getting out to meets
What do you guys say to baby sitters ect lol
I'm frustrated to hell
I pretty much didn't go out when my kids needed sitting. I worked and spent time with the kids. Plenty of time for going out and fucking strangers when they are older ....
there's actually nothing wrong with having sexual needs as a single parent.
Also nothing wrong with not having them?
i never said there was. you implied there is something wrong with the OP for wanting to 'fuck strangers'. and not only me picked up on that as you can see.
I did not imply there was anything wrong with that in anyway. Just stated what I did and that I found plenty of time for fucking strangers when mine were older ... asked for advice/input and gave mine, as a single parent of three. Sorry its not what people want to hear, but it worked for me"
fair enough, i read that wrong then.
i did the same and waited, just wish i hadn't and maybe projected that onto your comment, although i felt the fucking strangers bit came across a little hostile also but that basically is what swinging is so. |
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"I love my kids more than anything, but i do feel i would be a more relaxed, laid back mum if i had the arse shagged off me on a semi regular basis.
As it is, i can feel myself turning into a harpy."
Exactly this |
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"Want to vent. I'm annoyed by not getting out to meets
What do you guys say to baby sitters ect lol
I'm frustrated to hell
I pretty much didn't go out when my kids needed sitting. I worked and spent time with the kids. Plenty of time for going out and fucking strangers when they are older ....
there's actually nothing wrong with having sexual needs as a single parent.
Also nothing wrong with not having them?
i never said there was. you implied there is something wrong with the OP for wanting to 'fuck strangers'. and not only me picked up on that as you can see.
I did not imply there was anything wrong with that in anyway. Just stated what I did and that I found plenty of time for fucking strangers when mine were older ... asked for advice/input and gave mine, as a single parent of three. Sorry its not what people want to hear, but it worked for me
fair enough, i read that wrong then.
i did the same and waited, just wish i hadn't and maybe projected that onto your comment, although i felt the fucking strangers bit came across a little hostile also but that basically is what swinging is so."
Just being realistic about what swinging is ... and its what we all do. I don't sugar coat it I guess. I didn't want any type of relationship of any sort when my kids were young because I had seen so many where the kids took a back seat and the relationship didn't last long. Started swinging when my kids were teens for the same reason, but couldn't honestly have done it any time before that as my mind wouldn't have been there. Also about establishing my career. Lots going on in my life when growing kids and a career. Everyone is different I guess and does what is right for them. |
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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago
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"Want to vent. I'm annoyed by not getting out to meets
What do you guys say to baby sitters ect lol
I'm frustrated to hell
I pretty much didn't go out when my kids needed sitting. I worked and spent time with the kids. Plenty of time for going out and fucking strangers when they are older ....
there's actually nothing wrong with having sexual needs as a single parent.
Also nothing wrong with not having them?
i never said there was. you implied there is something wrong with the OP for wanting to 'fuck strangers'. and not only me picked up on that as you can see.
I did not imply there was anything wrong with that in anyway. Just stated what I did and that I found plenty of time for fucking strangers when mine were older ... asked for advice/input and gave mine, as a single parent of three. Sorry its not what people want to hear, but it worked for me
fair enough, i read that wrong then.
i did the same and waited, just wish i hadn't and maybe projected that onto your comment, although i felt the fucking strangers bit came across a little hostile also but that basically is what swinging is so.
Just being realistic about what swinging is ... and its what we all do. I don't sugar coat it I guess. I didn't want any type of relationship of any sort when my kids were young because I had seen so many where the kids took a back seat and the relationship didn't last long. Started swinging when my kids were teens for the same reason, but couldn't honestly have done it any time before that as my mind wouldn't have been there. Also about establishing my career. Lots going on in my life when growing kids and a career. Everyone is different I guess and does what is right for them."
no it's fine, like i said i read that wrong. plus i am in a bad place when it comes to swinging and saw that as a negative when, like you say, it's just stating the obvious. for me, as of now, it's a negative and i took what you said totally the wrong way.
usually i am the blunt one and shoulda got it really. |
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lets be honest here ladies
its one thing for a single lady to find a babysitter.
but for a single man to find a babysitter its totally different.
if your left looking after the children or other reasons.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Want to vent. I'm annoyed by not getting out to meets
What do you guys say to baby sitters ect lol
I'm frustrated to hell
I pretty much didn't go out when my kids needed sitting. I worked and spent time with the kids. Plenty of time for going out and fucking strangers when they are older ....
there's actually nothing wrong with having sexual needs as a single parent.
Also nothing wrong with not having them?"
But you did have them didn't you, according to various posts you've put on the forums? There's nothing wrong with it either, |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Want to vent. I'm annoyed by not getting out to meets
What do you guys say to baby sitters ect lol
I'm frustrated to hell
I pretty much didn't go out when my kids needed sitting. I worked and spent time with the kids. Plenty of time for going out and fucking strangers when they are older ....
If you want to go completely stir crazy then by all means spend every waking moment with your kids. Most of us need healthy release now and then.
I didn't go stir crazy, I built my career and my family, as well as spending time with family and friends. My life was very balanced, still is .... and they are teenagers now. "
Fine. It's great that that worked for you but many people need more than work and kids in their life. Your comment came across a bit like you thought that everyone should cut off everything from their life just because they have kids. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"lets be honest here ladies
its one thing for a single lady to find a babysitter.
but for a single man to find a babysitter its totally different.
if your left looking after the children or other reasons.
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It's no more difficult than a couple trying to find a babysitter!!!, |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My son was 18 in February.
He got ID today so he could officially go and buy alcohol, I've never seen him so excited
He's just come home to tell me he's going back out to stay at a friend's who has a hot tub. I'm so jealous "
Haha I'd be jealous of a hot tub too |
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over a year ago
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"I don't have any baby sitters. I live 200 miles away from friends /family ao only get 2 nights a month to meet when at her dad's. Does make it quite trying "
I'm the same, but get four nights a month It's hard work
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"I don't have any baby sitters. I live 200 miles away from friends /family ao only get 2 nights a month to meet when at her dad's. Does make it quite trying I'm the same, but get four nights a month It's hard work"
Completely jealous. Hubby and I get about 2 weekends a year! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm a single dad, I share custody with the ex wife and I work shifts. I have my kids on all of my days off so my free time is either before or after a shift. I'd never get a sitter in tho to go on a meet, I value my time with the kids too much. |
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I really struggle ....
When I've got the kids, it's generally for the weekend, and I'm always up to stuff with them 
I don't really know anyone well enough to sit for me either 
Big guilt factor if I were to go out then either
When I'm freer, during the week, I'm often away in Cardiff and it's more difficult to get meets.
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"Want to vent. I'm annoyed by not getting out to meets
What do you guys say to baby sitters ect lol
I'm frustrated to hell
I pretty much didn't go out when my kids needed sitting. I worked and spent time with the kids. Plenty of time for going out and fucking strangers when they are older ....
there's actually nothing wrong with having sexual needs as a single parent.
Also nothing wrong with not having them?
i never said there was. you implied there is something wrong with the OP for wanting to 'fuck strangers'. and not only me picked up on that as you can see.
I did not imply there was anything wrong with that in anyway. Just stated what I did and that I found plenty of time for fucking strangers when mine were older ... asked for advice/input and gave mine, as a single parent of three. Sorry its not what people want to hear, but it worked for me"
I'm with you. My ex-husband was an excellent father, just not a good husband in the end.
I only moved four miles away so he could still take them to school etc. My youngest developed mental health problems and my ex and I tried to ensure our kids didn't think for one moment they were a nuisance etc and continued doing things as a couple, attend hospital appointments, open days etc.
For the first couple of years I just went to work and built a home: I felt a failure and sex was the last thing on my mind. Eventually I got my groove back and started having sex with strangers when they saw their dad.
My children are now all grown with families of their own and the supply of sexy strangers hasn't dried up!
We all have differing priorities. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Tell them anything you want to.
Out with Friends
Work do
Cinema
Evening with the Girls
Fashion launch
Hair appointment
Become a mystery shopper (for hotels and wine bars only) "
Or....depending how well you know them....the truth could, indeed be on the list.
Friend of mine usually gets her eldest daughter to come round and babysit. She certainly knows what's going on! |
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By *Devil77Man
over a year ago
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"Want to vent. I'm annoyed by not getting out to meets
What do you guys say to baby sitters ect lol
I'm frustrated to hell"
Daytime meets could be your friend.
I do on my weeks off.
Other than that it's tough |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Want to vent. I'm annoyed by not getting out to meets
What do you guys say to baby sitters ect lol
I'm frustrated to hell"
I was living with my mum and children for a while so get your pain! I used to do daytime meets if I could. Now I arrange stuff when my children are with their dad if the mood takes me. I wouldn't arrange a babysitter to go out for a meet, mainly because for me to do that it would have to be someone amazing! Lol. |
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"I've never got a sitter to go to a meet, I work it around my very limited free time. But it does mean that the meets I go on are special, and hopefully well worth the wait. A good man will keep putting in the effort until I can make it, which could be 2-3 weeks.
I have popped her to my parents to party! But i hate returning hung over. Family first, fun second
x"
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"Want to vent. I'm annoyed by not getting out to meets
What do you guys say to baby sitters ect lol
I'm frustrated to hell"
Yes well I do try to get to a club when my ex takes the children. Also I arrange meets at mine when the children are sleeping... Depends how old yours are... Occasionally I'll meet during the school day at home... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I still struggle to see how single parents are so hard done by. Surely couples have an even harder job meeting as both need to be free at the same time AND have to find childcare? |
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"I still struggle to see how single parents are so hard done by. Surely couples have an even harder job meeting as both need to be free at the same time AND have to find childcare?"
Single parents have to be free and find childcare too. Why would anyone think single parents don't need child care? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Want to vent. I'm annoyed by not getting out to meets
What do you guys say to baby sitters ect lol
I'm frustrated to hell"
where is the dad maybe he can share some
Of the responsibilities? |
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By *airymagic OP Woman
over a year ago
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"the perfect solution of course is to meet during the school day, if you don't work its perfect... "
I work nights, sleep during the day. But of late Ive sacrificed a bit of sleep for a certain guy occasionally |
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By *airymagic OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I still struggle to see how single parents are so hard done by. Surely couples have an even harder job meeting as both need to be free at the same time AND have to find childcare?"
The difference is you ask grandma as your going out together for date night |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I still struggle to see how single parents are so hard done by. Surely couples have an even harder job meeting as both need to be free at the same time AND have to find childcare?
Single parents have to be free and find childcare too. Why would anyone think single parents don't need child care?"
I didn't say they didn't need to find childcare. They don't have to coordinate diaries with a partner though thus removing one aspect of the scenario. That was my point about couples having just as much of a hard time. I don't see why meeting difficulties should be specific to single parents. We all have the same issues! ! |
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"I still struggle to see how single parents are so hard done by. Surely couples have an even harder job meeting as both need to be free at the same time AND have to find childcare?
Single parents have to be free and find childcare too. Why would anyone think single parents don't need child care?
I didn't say they didn't need to find childcare. They don't have to coordinate diaries with a partner though thus removing one aspect of the scenario. That was my point about couples having just as much of a hard time. I don't see why meeting difficulties should be specific to single parents. We all have the same issues! !"
I know what you meant and agree with you. |
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
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Ooooo I am the opposite I have parents that ask where I am going, what time I will be back (sometimes I wish I can get an adult sitter for them - though usually that's my brother)
If I was playing every weekend then I am sure they would ask questions
As they know I am off to football the weekend last I tend to play, they normally don't ask to many questions
It does meen I struggle to meet during week |
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"I still struggle to see how single parents are so hard done by. Surely couples have an even harder job meeting as both need to be free at the same time AND have to find childcare?
Single parents have to be free and find childcare too. Why would anyone think single parents don't need child care?
I didn't say they didn't need to find childcare. They don't have to coordinate diaries with a partner though thus removing one aspect of the scenario. That was my point about couples having just as much of a hard time. I don't see why meeting difficulties should be specific to single parents. We all have the same issues! !"
If couples choose to play alone though, they have a free sitter at home ... I wouldn't imagine co ordinating diaries is that hard! |
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