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vanilla = normal = vanilla ???????
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By *eeside OP Man
over a year ago
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Wots rong with just saying normal ???
I just don't get it.
Y use a spice name to describe sumthing as normal ???
It just don't make sence. 
Wots your thorts on it
This is NOT a debate its just a quesjon.
And to those hoo use vanilla as the word normal.... Y make things confusing ??? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Because everyone's version of normal is different and how would somebody feel if they were told they weren't normal because of their sexual likes.
Vanilla is nice, vanilla is one of the most popular flavours and is a great Base for adding a few extra sprinkles  |
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I don't use the word vanilla,it seems it's a bad thing when someone does or that you're dull. It's like ooh look at me I'm kinky and I belong to some superior group and you vanilla peoples can just go and do your missionary position stuff and don't darken my door  |
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"I think it's because vanilla is the base level so to speak.
Normal is relative."
So is 'vanilla'. We might call a non swinging party vanilla. Hardcore bdsm people might call a swingers party 'vanilla'.
It's just a handy phrase, useful if the people are into the same kind of things as you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think it's because vanilla is the base level so to speak.
Normal is relative.
So is 'vanilla'. We might call a non swinging party vanilla. Hardcore bdsm people might call a swingers party 'vanilla'.
It's just a handy phrase, useful if the people are into the same kind of things as you."
Yeah, I suppose you're right. Vanilla is often described as somewhat conventional without any aspect of kink or fetishism. But again, it's all relative  |
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"I don't use the word vanilla,it seems it's a bad thing when someone does or that you're dull. It's like ooh look at me I'm kinky and I belong to some superior group and you vanilla peoples can just go and do your missionary position stuff and don't darken my door "
We do, but not in a snooty way. If we were talking to a swinger friend we might say we were going to a Vanilla Party, so they didn't think we were going to a swinging party. |
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Normal is a judgemental word.
Vanilla is just another flavour.
It may be standard, bland, most popular or default
If I want a different flavour, that is just my choice, not being abnormal. If I want a two scoops of different flavours and a flake, I'm greedy, not wrong |
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"Normal is a judgemental word.
Vanilla is just another flavour.
It may be standard, bland, most popular or default
If I want a different flavour, that is just my choice, not being abnormal. If I want a two scoops of different flavours and a flake, I'm greedy, not wrong "
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Language changes and social groups develop their own languages. I wouldn't choose it but it's widely known and reinventing the wheel isn't happening. Normal has undertones that are unpleasant too, so I avoid it |
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