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over a year ago
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I agree my friend - but I guess it's easy to lie. I could say 'yeah I was checked last week and all clear' but unless a prospective partner wanted to see written evidence it's just my word isn't it?
That's why it pays to play as safe as you can - with the understanding that you're never going to be 100% free from sexual health risks.
Even with a clean certificate - who knows who they have been with since the test was taken!? |
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"Are you wanting people to say their experiences or if they get checked ? "
Just people's view on fab and sexual health checks, is it happening ?
I guess we just trust people when they say they get tested but maybe there should be more awareness of regular testing. Even if the site has pop up notices about being tested.
Or would that spoil the atmosphere on here?
Thoughts please |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Are you wanting people to say their experiences or if they get checked ?
Just people's view on fab and sexual health checks, is it happening ?
I guess we just trust people when they say they get tested but maybe there should be more awareness of regular testing. Even if the site has pop up notices about being tested.
Or would that spoil the atmosphere on here?
Thoughts please"
People are responsible for their own sexual health so no I don't think there should be anything on here |
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"I agree my friend - but I guess it's easy to lie. I could say 'yeah I was checked last week and all clear' but unless a prospective partner wanted to see written evidence it's just my word isn't it?
That's why it pays to play as safe as you can - with the understanding that you're never going to be 100% free from sexual health risks.
Even with a clean certificate - who knows who they have been with since the test was taken!?"
I agree and protection is important to me, but oral sex....... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well I get tested and I also have the injections to help me not catch anything , yes it makes you wonder how healthy people are , not just from this site but every place that people meet for sex as some things don't show up straight away if they have been caught |
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"Are you wanting people to say their experiences or if they get checked ?
Just people's view on fab and sexual health checks, is it happening ?
I guess we just trust people when they say they get tested but maybe there should be more awareness of regular testing. Even if the site has pop up notices about being tested.
Or would that spoil the atmosphere on here?
Thoughts please"
There are quite frequent threads about regular sexual health checks. If anybody says they don't have them or need them they're quickly told that they do.
Lots of people do get checked but I don't personally feel it's the site's responsibility anymore than they should be responsible for reminding us to get a flu vaccination. |
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"I agree my friend - but I guess it's easy to lie. I could say 'yeah I was checked last week and all clear' but unless a prospective partner wanted to see written evidence it's just my word isn't it?
That's why it pays to play as safe as you can - with the understanding that you're never going to be 100% free from sexual health risks.
Even with a clean certificate - who knows who they have been with since the test was taken!?
I agree and protection is important to me, but oral sex......."
You either take the risk or you don't. I know that sounds harsh but I'm not sure what else you can do. |
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"I get tested but if guys ask about it most of the time they are angling for bareback so i ignore it "
Do its not just me then!
I get tested regularly but always play safe and every single guy who's asked me about it here has spoken of, or attempted bareback.
I never meet anyone who asks for it
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"I get tested but if guys ask about it most of the time they are angling for bareback so i ignore it "
I don't worry about penetrative sex because I alway cover up but I do worry about oral sex although I get tested |
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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago
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"I get tested but if guys ask about it most of the time they are angling for bareback so i ignore it
I don't worry about penetrative sex because I alway cover up but I do worry about oral sex although I get tested"
you can still catch some STIs using condoms...but they don't test for them unless you get symptoms anyway.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The lack of comments is the reason I worry about fab and sexual health"
Why, because we don't want to discuss our personal buisness with you that means we probably don't get tested? 
I get tested regular but I don't see how that's anybody else's buisness, if a guy feels he needs to ask me if I get tested regular maybe he should look elsewhere
After all I could tell him anything that does not make it true and visa versa anybody can say they get tested when they do not |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I get tested but if guys ask about it most of the time they are angling for bareback so i ignore it
I don't worry about penetrative sex because I alway cover up but I do worry about oral sex although I get tested"
It is laughable the amount of females that think performing a one night stand and giving oral sex without protection causes no harm
some must be totally unaware of what can be passed on, and some of these things do not show up for many months, some require an education, there have been many threads on this topic |
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"I don't think there's many that get checked... which makes me go more often.
I've never had anything so maybe it's harder to get stuff than I think?"
What makes you think many don't get checked? X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You tell them you were recently tested and all clear. They respond with me too, we can have unprotected sex then  "
You are "all clear" until the next time you have sex, then your cover is void |
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"The lack of comments is the reason I worry about fab and sexual health
Why, because we don't want to discuss our personal buisness with you that means we probably don't get tested?
I get tested regular but I don't see how that's anybody else's buisness, if a guy feels he needs to ask me if I get tested regular maybe he should look elsewhere
After all I could tell him anything that does not make it true and visa versa anybody can say they get tested when they do not "
So you don't think a conversation about sexual health is needed before a meet? Hmmmm |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Tested every 4 to 6 weeks and always keep the results text for anyone who wants to see it. "
Same here I get tested every four weeks as a rule there has been the odd occasion I haven't been able to get one month so I've waited 8 weeks but not often, I get my results on text but I'd never show anybody, what's the chances of somebody I meet having proof to show me? So why should I show them, in fact its amazing how many guys ask to see proof who have none themself but I'm supposed to just take their word for it because 'they look after their sexual health', but my word isn't good enough, balls to that |
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"The lack of comments is the reason I worry about fab and sexual health"
I think you just need to make sure you yourself go for regular check's. The lack of comments are not a sign that no-one goes for them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Says a lot about some people....when you chats lots then the minute you ask them about their sexual health/ check ups they go quiet"
I see no point in asking anyone on here as that would mean taking them at their word.
We go about once a month. Although depends on how it falls with my regular gyne check ups for me. And I am on fortnightly blood tests for other things and knowing my history its always screened for the big nasties too.
I just use condoms for all full sex and oral without x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The lack of comments is the reason I worry about fab and sexual health
Why, because we don't want to discuss our personal buisness with you that means we probably don't get tested?
I get tested regular but I don't see how that's anybody else's buisness, if a guy feels he needs to ask me if I get tested regular maybe he should look elsewhere
After all I could tell him anything that does not make it true and visa versa anybody can say they get tested when they do not
So you don't think a conversation about sexual health is needed before a meet? Hmmmm"
No I don't, because people say what they think you want to hear in order to meet, it's easy to say you get tested when you don't so what's the point in asking
We are all adults we know the risks, we protect ourselves the best we can, either that or settle down |
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By *htcMan
over a year ago
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Same here. Like message read then 5-10mins delay in that message. Then the message yes I'm clean tested last week. Not been with anyone since. Then read the verifications and was review left just other day, or read there status last couple of days. Great meet last night .... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get tested but if guys ask about it most of the time they are angling for bareback so i ignore it
I don't worry about penetrative sex because I alway cover up but I do worry about oral sex although I get tested
It is laughable the amount of females that think performing a one night stand and giving oral sex without protection causes no harm
some must be totally unaware of what can be passed on, and some of these things do not show up for many months, some require an education, there have been many threads on this topic"
So use protection for oral then if it worry you, it's not rocket science
You do what's best for you, I have on many occasions made them bag up before performing oral sex |
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"I get tested but if guys ask about it most of the time they are angling for bareback so i ignore it
I don't worry about penetrative sex because I alway cover up but I do worry about oral sex although I get tested
It is laughable the amount of females that think performing a one night stand and giving oral sex without protection causes no harm
some must be totally unaware of what can be passed on, and some of these things do not show up for many months, some require an education, there have been many threads on this topic
So use protection for oral then if it worry you, it's not rocket science
You do what's best for you, I have on many occasions made them bag up before performing oral sex"
And what makes you decide they must bag up? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I get tested but if guys ask about it most of the time they are angling for bareback so i ignore it
I don't worry about penetrative sex because I alway cover up but I do worry about oral sex although I get tested
It is laughable the amount of females that think performing a one night stand and giving oral sex without protection causes no harm
some must be totally unaware of what can be passed on, and some of these things do not show up for many months, some require an education, there have been many threads on this topic
So use protection for oral then if it worry you, it's not rocket science
You do what's best for you, I have on many occasions made them bag up before performing oral sex
And what makes you decide they must bag up?"
Whatever I put in reply to that you'll be ready to shoot me down and tell me why I'm wrong so no point in answering that |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You tell them you were recently tested and all clear. They respond with me too, we can have unprotected sex then
You are "all clear" until the next time you have sex, then your cover is void"
You may not be "all clear" if you have recently been infected. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You tell them you were recently tested and all clear. They respond with me too, we can have unprotected sex then
You are "all clear" until the next time you have sex, then your cover is void
You may not be "all clear" if you have recently been infected. "
True my results take about 7 days to come through so I could contract something between getting texted and getting results so my all clear would be wrong
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't think there's many that get checked... which makes me go more often.
I've never had anything so maybe it's harder to get stuff than I think?
What makes you think many don't get checked? X "
When I mention it a lot don't even know where to go for things like that as an adult. I think when someone has been married for 20 odd years then join here... they've not a clue on safe sex |
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You're only as clean as you're last partner once you've had the all clear then play again you can say you clean until the next test, so there's no point in discussing it, you take care of your sexual health and leave others to do the same
And the recommended testing schedule is 3 monthly (any more frequently is advised as too excessive) as some stds, like gential warts for example, take 3 months to manifest any physical symptoms, yet the carrier is contagious during the period of contraction to symptoms appearing, and condoms don't protect against contracting that particular std
So I shall say once again you take care of your sexual health and leave others to do the same |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Theres no definitive answers to your questions really?
As most people won't admit they do bareback and don't get tested for obvious reasons.
The only answer to safety is for YOU to take care of your own personal health and safety by always having safe sex and that too would include safe oral sex.
The only way you can be sure is if YOU are the one taking the necessary precautions.
Even then nothing is a 100% safe unless you refrain from oral and penetrative sex.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I get tested but if guys ask about it most of the time they are angling for bareback so i ignore it
I don't worry about penetrative sex because I alway cover up but I do worry about oral sex although I get tested"
Most tests do not include an oral swab that has to be requested. I use condoms for oral as im not that stupid to not risk one but risk another |
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"I get tested but if guys ask about it most of the time they are angling for bareback so i ignore it
I don't worry about penetrative sex because I alway cover up but I do worry about oral sex although I get tested
Most tests do not include an oral swab that has to be requested. I use condoms for oral as im not that stupid to not risk one but risk another "
Then you are very low risk  |
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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago
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Incubation period or period to wait before a test may show the infection
Chlamydia 24 Hours - 5 Days
Gonorrhea 2-6 Days
Syphilis 3-6 Weeks
Hepatitis A (HAV)2-7 Weeks
Hepatitis B 6 Weeks
Hepatitis C 8-9 Weeks
Chancroid 12 Hours - 5 Days
HIV 1-3 months there is an earlier test 9-11 days
We get tested every 4-6 weeks for our own peace of mind
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"I agree my friend - but I guess it's easy to lie. I could say 'yeah I was checked last week and all clear' but unless a prospective partner wanted to see written evidence it's just my word isn't it?
That's why it pays to play as safe as you can - with the understanding that you're never going to be 100% free from sexual health risks.
Even with a clean certificate - who knows who they have been with since the test was taken!?"
Well here's the thing , we have the last 12 checks on our phone to show anyone who's interested .
Each is roughly 6 weeks from the last and if that's not enough evidence I don't know what is .
Anyone who thinks by supposedly playing safe and not getting regular checks is enough is crazy !
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"I never use condoms, but always use Savlon as lube.
What a great idea !
That would save a whole lot of time and effort in going to the clinic every six weeks .
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Exactly. And if you ever get sore under your foreskin, again it's the perfect wank lube. |
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"I never use condoms, but always use Savlon as lube.
What a great idea !
That would save a whole lot of time and effort in going to the clinic every six weeks .
Exactly. And if you ever get sore under your foreskin, again it's the perfect wank lube. "
It really beggars belief that no one has thought of this before .
Such a wealth of information on this site |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Says a lot about some people....when you chats lots then the minute you ask them about their sexual health/ check ups they go quiet"
Everyone on this site is a liar!
They will, have and do do bareback one off or regular
And the women who say oral for a blow job haha but hey we are expected to go down on you day after or say before period... LOL |
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"Says a lot about some people....when you chats lots then the minute you ask them about their sexual health/ check ups they go quiet
Everyone on this site is a liar!
They will, have and do do bareback one off or regular
And the women who say oral for a blow job haha but hey we are expected to go down on you day after or say before period... LOL "
I'm not a liar. |
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"Says a lot about some people....when you chats lots then the minute you ask them about their sexual health/ check ups they go quiet
Everyone on this site is a liar!
They will, have and do do bareback one off or regular
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Including you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Says a lot about some people....when you chats lots then the minute you ask them about their sexual health/ check ups they go quiet
Everyone on this site is a liar!
They will, have and do do bareback one off or regular
And the women who say oral for a blow job haha but hey we are expected to go down on you day after or say before period... LOL "
This place creases me up no end |
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"Says a lot about some people....when you chats lots then the minute you ask them about their sexual health/ check ups they go quiet
Everyone on this site is a liar!
They will, have and do do bareback one off or regular
And the women who say oral for a blow job haha but hey we are expected to go down on you day after or say before period... LOL "
There really is no need to troll me,keep your replies to here! |
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"Says a lot about some people....when you chats lots then the minute you ask them about their sexual health/ check ups they go quiet
Everyone on this site is a liar!
They will, have and do do bareback one off or regular
And the women who say oral for a blow job haha but hey we are expected to go down on you day after or say before period... LOL
There really is no need to troll me,keep your replies to here!"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I never use condoms, but always use Savlon as lube.
What a great idea !
That would save a whole lot of time and effort in going to the clinic every six weeks .
Exactly. And if you ever get sore under your foreskin, again it's the perfect wank lube.
It really beggars belief that no one has thought of this before .
Such a wealth of information on this site "
Vick's is great too |
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