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People who are on line but don't read your message

By *hubaysi OP Woman over a year ago

Leeds

How annoying is this? Not that I'm checking on them or anything but if it's a long term contact who has branded the phrase 'we are friends' about then ignores your message its so infuriating.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I assume they are busy doing something else.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well I don't know about your friend but sometimes I'll have read a message and then real life comes calling before I can reply. I'll reply when I can, unless I don't want to, then I won't

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By *icketysplitsWoman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Why is it infuriating?

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By *hubaysi OP Woman over a year ago

Leeds

Yeah probably.....telling someone else they are a friend. I just think manners are less than average on here

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

I think of it as similar to being at a party. My friends might be there but I don't expect them to interact with me all evening or stop a conversation with someone else because I have something to say.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

"Yeah probably.....telling someone else they are a friend. I just think manners are less than average on here

I think its reasonable for people to have more than one friend on here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Probably doing something worthwhile

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How annoying is this? Not that I'm checking on them or anything but if it's a long term contact who has branded the phrase 'we are friends' about then ignores your message its so infuriating....."

This is why I periodically clear my friends list of people who haven't messaged me in the last X months.

Why do you want to be friends with me if you are going to make no effort to keep in touch?

Maybe I'm out of touch with social media, but I fail to see the point of having a list of 'friends' stretching into the thousands...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I just assume they are doing something else. Just like I am sometimes.

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By *icketysplitsWoman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Are these 'friends' people you have met (not just the OP but others posting about 'friends')?

Lots of people send friend requests on here just to see your photo gallery. That's not a friend.

Some are people who are on your list to make it easier to find them to message them. That's a penpal.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You're definitely checking on them OP

I'm terrible for doing this.

The main reason is i can't quite be arsed getting into conversations at that point.

I'd rather reply when I'm going to be interested in actually talking to people.

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By *orwegian BlueMan over a year ago

Iceland, but Aldi is closer..

Probably got so many messages yours has disappeared into oblivion never to be seen again..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I thought the friend zone was always had good communications

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I just assume they are doing someone else. Just like I am sometimes. "

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By *weetChariotMan over a year ago

High Wycombe

If you are busy watching cams in the chat room you don't see messages coming in ... Then if you have to run I just close and run ... Told off already.

It's worse on mobile interface in fact. Plus that is really strange as the videos appear in more than one chat room ???

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By *wo4FemCouple over a year ago

Birmingham

Maybe they have lost interest in you.

As in - read message, no reply, not interested.

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By *aroleBaskinWoman over a year ago

somewhere down the rabbit hole, Aberdeen

I'm pretty much logged in all the time but not active all the time. I might show online but I'm at work, talking on the phone, walking the dog, cooking, shopping, washing my car, in the pub.... when I am on here I use the forums also so not always checking my inbox.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

I don't expect people to reply to me just because they're online.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There is a time lag on this site. Often people I message appear online but when I check they were on line minutes before I sent the message. Yes that can be frustrating but it just IS.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lol walk a day in my shoes on here when you get 1200 messages then complain.

Just saying.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lol walk a day in my shoes on here when you get 1200 messages then complain.

Just saying. "

Anyone who complains about getting a tonne of messages can always turn filters on if it annoys them that much

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan over a year ago

Friends on the internet are not the same as friends in real life, Just treat them like someone you know through work or someone down the pub, Some days you talk to them some days you don't

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By *ed wineMan over a year ago

Where the streets have no name

I usually don't remember to close my session for hours

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By *icketysplitsWoman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Lol walk a day in my shoes on here when you get 1200 messages then complain.

Just saying. "

As has been said before, set your filters then if you truly think it's something to complain about.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lol walk a day in my shoes on here when you get 1200 messages then complain.

Just saying.

Anyone who complains about getting a tonne of messages can always turn filters on if it annoys them that much

Oh i do quite often why my profile is hidden.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

I get people stressing when I don't reply - usually those who I don't know.

But there's no guarantee I'm around when it looks like I am and I give no set response time. People wait 4 hours for a bed in hospital, so that's a bigger priority Imo.

Friends and family can contact me more quickly but it won't be on fab

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I log into the forums then go do stuff, then come back do a refresh see if anything has happened then wander off. Think that fab shows me as online all the time even when I am not in the same room.

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By *icketysplitsWoman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I log into the forums then go do stuff, then come back do a refresh see if anything has happened then wander off. Think that fab shows me as online all the time even when I am not in the same room.

I thought you were just ignoring me.

I'm the same. Perhaps we should set response times?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I log into the forums then go do stuff, then come back do a refresh see if anything has happened then wander off. Think that fab shows me as online all the time even when I am not in the same room.

I thought you were just ignoring me.

I'm the same. Perhaps we should set response times?

But dahling I could never ignore you xxx

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