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The 'connection' thing
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"I think it depends on if they are fuck'n'go merchants or not"
I think there may even be room for both approaches.
9 times out of 10 I would want to have quite a "warm up". Chatting, social meet etc.
But there is that one time, every once in a while where it's basically I want to empty my balls!
Browsing around there appears to be people available for either. So that's good. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How many men think it makes sex better or aren't bothered? "
Theres this moment that can be shared, when you feel something. You feel the intimacy of each other.
I prefer to connect with someone. It feels more personal and natural.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How many men think it makes sex better or aren't bothered? "
It's absolutely shite if I don't connect with someone.
If there is no connection I'm not really feeling that horny. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On a one to one meet I need a connection.
At a club when I'm in slutty mode, then no, I don't need a connection.
The sex is just different not better or worse. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do women (generally) BELIEVE that men don't need a connection?...
They do...some just hide it.
Maybe cos they hide it "
Men are complicated aren't we? |
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"Why do women (generally) BELIEVE that men don't need a connection?...
They do...some just hide it.
Maybe cos they hide it
Men are complicated aren't we? "
You can say that again. I still haven't figured them out |
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"I need it. I've realised as I've got older anything else just don't do it the same. I know I'm weird "
This may be a bit of a generalisation but I think a lot of men feel like that as they mature |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do women (generally) BELIEVE that men don't need a connection?...
They do...some just hide it."
Because some women mean "relationship" when they say "connection"? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do women (generally) BELIEVE that men don't need a connection?...
They do...some just hide it.
Maybe cos they hide it
Men are complicated aren't we?
You think? Lol"
Even more so when someone has turned up with percentages |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Very much so. Much more passionate, which is what I seek. I temporarily fall in love. Then reality strikes! "
I like that quote, temporarily fall in love. I rarely feel that kind of emotion unless its someone i have been seeing regularly but even then .. something just stops me from crossing that line. Im now worried that I wont be able to fall in love ever again because I have stopped myself for the last 4 years.
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"Why do women (generally) BELIEVE that men don't need a connection?...
They do...some just hide it.
Maybe cos they hide it
Men are complicated aren't we?
You think? Lol
Even more so when someone has turned up with percentages "
I just rolled my eyes when I saw that wtf lol |
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"I need it. I've realised as I've got older anything else just don't do it the same. I know I'm weird
This may be a bit of a generalisation but I think a lot of men feel like that as they mature "
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I think for a lot of blokes, there may be a need for that connection, but they are "scared" to want it from someone.
It smacks of "relationship". It might seem like "strings".
But as long as everyone is on the same page, and this is FAB so we really should be...
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think for a lot of blokes, there may be a need for that connection, but they are "scared" to want it from someone.
It smacks of "relationship". It might seem like "strings".
But as long as everyone is on the same page, and this is FAB so we really should be...
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Very good point. I think its easy to get very anti emotion when you meet and its just fun and nothing else. Shame really. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think for a lot of blokes, there may be a need for that connection, but they are "scared" to want it from someone.
It smacks of "relationship". It might seem like "strings".
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To me it doesn't. It means they don't think of me as 'ring an orgasm'.
Instead they understand my own feelings and I'm also wanting something.
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"I've realised I need it. I just don't enjoy sex otherwise "
This is the same for me too. I love the connection that's first made through the texting & then the coffee meet & then anticipating the playtime. I think the chemistry matters a lot. My best meets have been with people who I've had a very strong connection.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh dont get me wrong.. i dont fuck guys that i dont find attractive .. but if youre saying to go that bit further and develop an emotion towards them.. then that doesnt happen with me. It has in the past and i backed off. |
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sec without connection can easely get boring in my oppinion. I don't need to fall in love, not even temporarily but I need to want the same thing and feel at ease, relaxed and excited. chances are if he doesn't get my humour or we can not have a chat we are not going to connect on a sexual level either. |
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"Why do women (generally) BELIEVE that men don't need a connection?...
They do...some just hide it.
Maybe cos they hide it
Men are complicated aren't we? "
Some would evaluate that it's the opposite |
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"Why do women (generally) BELIEVE that men don't need a connection?...
They do...some just hide it."
Because prostitution....
The sex industry is the second largest in the world after arms trade. Majority of its consumers are male.
I don't wish to generalise that all will put their dick into anything but thems the facts. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah it's important to me, definitely. I couldn't just walk into a room and get down and dirty with a total stranger and nor could I if I didn't gel with that person. I know a lot of people can do that but I'm not one of them. Each to their own. |
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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago
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why do you mean by connection?
i need to be fairly sure he's not a douche to want to fuck someone. do i need that 'click' or need to feel like i've known him for years...not really, i just like sex.
this does make a guy somewhat disposable and i'm fine with that.
but if he wants repeat meets then he's gonna have to be at least one of these things:
consistent, then i know where i am.
honest, then i know where i am.
a friend, who will probably be both of the above anyway, then i know where i am.
just don't dick me about and all is good basically.
fuck and go suits me just fine under those conditions and not many men can do any of them well. |
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By *norksterMan
over a year ago
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"How many men think it makes sex better or aren't bothered? "
Connection definitely makes a difference for me, yes you can have a 'shag' with anyone but a connection for me makes a massive difference and makes the moment more intense xx
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