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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Don't you love it when you send a nice thoughtful message to someone, appear to tick all their boxes, send face photos and all that jazz, which they then read, delete and block you?
I love that I do. Love it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Rejection is tough, right!
Chin up, move on  "
I'm not looking for sympathy, and I'm a big boy, I can take it.....it's really more of a point about how unfriendliness on here perpetuates a culture of further unfriendliness, and idiotic emails from men.
It's a vicious circle. I've been doing this about 12 years - I know the drill. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Don't you love it when you send a nice thoughtful message to someone, appear to tick all their boxes, send face photos and all that jazz, which they then read, delete and block you?
I love that I do. Love it."
I'm glad to know some people do, because that's mainly the way I deal with my inbox. Although blocking might be going a bit too far.
You might think you tick all their boxes. You obviously didn't. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't you love it when you send a nice thoughtful message to someone, appear to tick all their boxes, send face photos and all that jazz, which they then read, delete and block you?
I love that I do. Love it."
'Appear' being the important word.
Your message may be the most wonderful message ever sent, however if someone doesn't fancy you, nothing is going to make them reply, and rather then ping pong messages it's easier to delete , block and move on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't you love it when you send a nice thoughtful message to someone, appear to tick all their boxes, send face photos and all that jazz, which they then read, delete and block you?
I love that I do. Love it."
I've done the same to some chicks oan this, they had clingy and stalker written all over them fs |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Read FAQ. You need to accept it as a no thank you.
Saying that, if I can tell a man has put a lot of efffort into a message and made it personal to me, then I do try to reply, but sometimes they get lost in all the other messages I receive. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Don't you love it when you send a nice thoughtful message to someone, appear to tick all their boxes, send face photos and all that jazz, which they then read, delete and block you?
I love that I do. Love it.
'Appear' being the important word.
Your message may be the most wonderful message ever sent, however if someone doesn't fancy you, nothing is going to make them reply, and rather then ping pong messages it's easier to delete , block and move on."
I understand all of this - it's the blocking that I find odd. |
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"Don't you love it when you send a nice thoughtful message to someone, appear to tick all their boxes, send face photos and all that jazz, which they then read, delete and block you?
I love that I do. Love it."
They can't have thought you ticked all their boxes
Or they didn't like your face pic
Or they know you
Many reasons for it but don't let it put you off making the effort as it's appreciated by others. Personally even if it was a no I'd reply and say that if someone took the approach you did. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The blocking prevents further interaction; if you're not what they want, why does it matter?"
It doesn't matter - nothing matters - it's just something I wanted to mention. I"m over it.....no really I am......I'M FINE ABOUT IT! |
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"Don't you love it when you send a nice thoughtful message to someone, appear to tick all their boxes, send face photos and all that jazz, which they then read, delete and block you?
I love that I do. Love it."
I do appreciate that its frustrating. We sometimes get right to the point of arranging to meet someone and they just stop replying or even arrange a time and place but they fail to confirm. We accept that its all par for the course, it's a funny old world. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I delete all my sent items in a kind of 'fuck you i don't care if you respond or not' type manner 
Has it enhanced your enjoyment of the site at all?"
It has actually, every message i get now is a surprise to me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't you love it when you send a nice thoughtful message to someone, appear to tick all their boxes, send face photos and all that jazz, which they then read, delete and block you?
I love that I do. Love it."
What's the problem? They've obviously decided you're not for them and doing you a favour really. Ignore/move on.
Just because you think you tick all their boxes, doesn't mean you actually do. |
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"The blocking prevents further interaction; if you're not what they want, why does it matter?
It doesn't matter - nothing matters - it's just something I wanted to mention. I"m over it.....no really I am......I'M FINE ABOUT IT!"
I recon you are over it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Rejection is tough, right!
Chin up, move on
I'm not looking for sympathy, and I'm a big boy, I can take it.....it's really more of a point about how unfriendliness on here perpetuates a culture of further unfriendliness, and idiotic emails from men.
It's a vicious circle. I've been doing this about 12 years - I know the drill."
It's not unfriendly and it may not be due to prior unfriendliness. Would you rather have messages explaining why they're not interested? What would that achieve? I'm curious what the alternative is from your perspective. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Rejection is tough, right!
Chin up, move on
I'm not looking for sympathy, and I'm a big boy, I can take it.....it's really more of a point about how unfriendliness on here perpetuates a culture of further unfriendliness, and idiotic emails from men.
It's a vicious circle. I've been doing this about 12 years - I know the drill."
Well maybe you should've wrote that in your original post. I'll retract my sympathy. |
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
Fabville |
"The blocking prevents further interaction; if you're not what they want, why does it matter?
It doesn't matter - nothing matters - it's just something I wanted to mention. I"m over it.....no really I am......I'M FINE ABOUT IT!"
Come here and have a hug..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't you love it when you send a nice thoughtful message to someone, appear to tick all their boxes, send face photos and all that jazz, which they then read, delete and block you?
I love that I do. Love it.
'Appear' being the important word.
Your message may be the most wonderful message ever sent, however if someone doesn't fancy you, nothing is going to make them reply, and rather then ping pong messages it's easier to delete , block and move on.
I understand all of this - it's the blocking that I find odd. "
Nothing odd about it. It means you can't contact them again.
I've started doing this myself as it's getting tedious having to read repeat messages from the same people. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Rejection is tough, right!
Chin up, move on
I'm not looking for sympathy, and I'm a big boy, I can take it.....it's really more of a point about how unfriendliness on here perpetuates a culture of further unfriendliness, and idiotic emails from men.
It's a vicious circle. I've been doing this about 12 years - I know the drill.
It's not unfriendly and it may not be due to prior unfriendliness. Would you rather have messages explaining why they're not interested? What would that achieve? I'm curious what the alternative is from your perspective. "
The alternative is to simply delete my email - that I understand. It's the block bit that is unfriendly. I absolutely DO NOT EXPECT a reply from anyone. Delete me all you like, I don't care |
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
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We've sent messages of this nature too, to some forumites also and got exactly the same. We were not for them, they don't want to meet us which is totally fine, any response is welcomed, anything else is a bonus. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Rejection is tough, right!
Chin up, move on
I'm not looking for sympathy, and I'm a big boy, I can take it.....it's really more of a point about how unfriendliness on here perpetuates a culture of further unfriendliness, and idiotic emails from men.
It's a vicious circle. I've been doing this about 12 years - I know the drill.
It's not unfriendly and it may not be due to prior unfriendliness. Would you rather have messages explaining why they're not interested? What would that achieve? I'm curious what the alternative is from your perspective.
The alternative is to simply delete my email - that I understand. It's the block bit that is unfriendly. I absolutely DO NOT EXPECT a reply from anyone. Delete me all you like, I don't care "
Oh, I see, I've blocked people in the past to save them accidentally messaging me again. Some chaps send out literally dozens of messages and understandably forget they've already approached me (often with an identically worded message), simple solution is to prevent them from doing so with a block. |
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I've had it happen to me but I just move past it. I don't take it personally as they don't know me and I don't know them. I've approached them because I feel I've met their criteria but sometime you just know someone isn't for you. I'm selective on my messages as I don't feel the scattergun approach is what I use fab for. I prefer to take my time with people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Rejection is tough, right!
Chin up, move on
I'm not looking for sympathy, and I'm a big boy, I can take it.....it's really more of a point about how unfriendliness on here perpetuates a culture of further unfriendliness, and idiotic emails from men.
It's a vicious circle. I've been doing this about 12 years - I know the drill.
It's not unfriendly and it may not be due to prior unfriendliness. Would you rather have messages explaining why they're not interested? What would that achieve? I'm curious what the alternative is from your perspective.
The alternative is to simply delete my email - that I understand. It's the block bit that is unfriendly. I absolutely DO NOT EXPECT a reply from anyone. Delete me all you like, I don't care "
'Unfriendly'? They don't owe you anything, sorry.
You obviously do care or you wouldn't have created a thread about people you'll never meet? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Rejection is tough, right!
Chin up, move on
I'm not looking for sympathy, and I'm a big boy, I can take it.....it's really more of a point about how unfriendliness on here perpetuates a culture of further unfriendliness, and idiotic emails from men.
It's a vicious circle. I've been doing this about 12 years - I know the drill.
It's not unfriendly and it may not be due to prior unfriendliness. Would you rather have messages explaining why they're not interested? What would that achieve? I'm curious what the alternative is from your perspective.
The alternative is to simply delete my email - that I understand. It's the block bit that is unfriendly. I absolutely DO NOT EXPECT a reply from anyone. Delete me all you like, I don't care
Oh, I see, I've blocked people in the past to save them accidentally messaging me again. Some chaps send out literally dozens of messages and understandably forget they've already approached me (often with an identically worded message), simple solution is to prevent them from doing so with a block. "
I get that, and I agree - it's just a shame when people lump everyone in with all those people. I have to say, the vast majority of times this happens, it's couples. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't you love it when you send a nice thoughtful message to someone, appear to tick all their boxes, send face photos and all that jazz, which they then read, delete and block you?
I love that I do. Love it."
Story of my Fab Life |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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I try to reply to all messages but it's too time consuming to keep up with. If someone has clearly not read my profile or is rude, crude, meet me now types then I just delete.
I very rarely block anyone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't you love it when you send a nice thoughtful message to someone, appear to tick all their boxes, send face photos and all that jazz, which they then read, delete and block you?
I love that I do. Love it. Story of my Fab Life "
Give over, you have 6 veris in 7 months. You're obviously ticking someone's boxes. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Don't you love it when you send a nice thoughtful message to someone, appear to tick all their boxes, send face photos and all that jazz, which they then read, delete and block you?
I love that I do. Love it. Story of my Fab Life
Give over, you have 6 veris in 7 months. You're obviously ticking someone's boxes. "
Fabswingers is also not the be all & end all - I meet, know and play with WAY more people than you see on here. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"Rejection is tough, right!
Chin up, move on
I'm not looking for sympathy, and I'm a big boy, I can take it.....it's really more of a point about how unfriendliness on here perpetuates a culture of further unfriendliness, and idiotic emails from men.
It's a vicious circle. I've been doing this about 12 years - I know the drill.
It's not unfriendly and it may not be due to prior unfriendliness. Would you rather have messages explaining why they're not interested? What would that achieve? I'm curious what the alternative is from your perspective.
The alternative is to simply delete my email - that I understand. It's the block bit that is unfriendly. I absolutely DO NOT EXPECT a reply from anyone. Delete me all you like, I don't care
Oh, I see, I've blocked people in the past to save them accidentally messaging me again. Some chaps send out literally dozens of messages and understandably forget they've already approached me (often with an identically worded message), simple solution is to prevent them from doing so with a block.
I get that, and I agree - it's just a shame when people lump everyone in with all those people. I have to say, the vast majority of times this happens, it's couples."
If you get it and agree, how can you see it as being lumped in with anyone - it's just a move designed to prevent further messages being sent, regardless of how nice or nasty the sender may be. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Just delete your sent box. You'll be much happier on here."
I'm perfectly happy, and yes, I do delete the sent items and move on - this post was never designed as a sympathy post, or one about being upset or hard done by |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
"Just delete your sent box. You'll be much happier on here.
I'm perfectly happy, and yes, I do delete the sent items and move on - this post was never designed as a sympathy post, or one about being upset or hard done by "
Then what was it about? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Just delete your sent box. You'll be much happier on here.
I'm perfectly happy, and yes, I do delete the sent items and move on - this post was never designed as a sympathy post, or one about being upset or hard done by
Then what was it about?"
It was about how unfriendly the culture on here is - I know the reasons why. Not every thread is about asking for answers. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't you love it when you send a nice thoughtful message to someone, appear to tick all their boxes, send face photos and all that jazz, which they then read, delete and block you?
I love that I do. Love it. Story of my Fab Life
Give over, you have 6 veris in 7 months. You're obviously ticking someone's boxes.
Fabswingers is also not the be all & end all - I meet, know and play with WAY more people than you see on here."
Give this man a medal. |
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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago
the gym and random places |
"Don't you love it when you send a nice thoughtful message to someone, appear to tick all their boxes, send face photos and all that jazz, which they then read, delete and block you?
I love that I do. Love it."
Aww pudding! I dislike it too tbf...a polite no thanks is always appreciated |
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Problem is, if a single lady replies with a 'no thanks' and then get's a vicious foul mouthed answer back a few times, then in future, they will tend to delete and block people who don't appeal.
Block sounds harsh as it can be the place for nasty people to go. It can also just be a simple admin tool.
Don't read too much into it. Also remember the site is swelling in size, including less articulate people than you.
Sad, but the way of the world sometimes.
Have fun.
MrB
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Just delete your sent box. You'll be much happier on here.
I'm perfectly happy, and yes, I do delete the sent items and move on - this post was never designed as a sympathy post, or one about being upset or hard done by
Then what was it about?
It was about how unfriendly the culture on here is - I know the reasons why. Not every thread is about asking for answers."
It's not unfriendly to delete messages. It's not unfriendly to block. And neither of those are peculiar to Fab anyway, as I have been on other sites and used the features to make my experience go more smoothly.
You sound like you've been here for a while and are aware of the various features and the way they are used, so unless you were after some sympathy I really don't know why you are so surprised.
By the way, you are allowed to ask for sympathy, and you have received some so result, I guess. Don't let an internet site make you bitter. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Problem is, if a single lady replies with a 'no thanks' and then get's a vicious foul mouthed answer back a few times, then in future, they will tend to delete and block people who don't appeal.
Block sounds harsh as it can be the place for nasty people to go. It can also just be a simple admin tool.
Don't read too much into it. Also remember the site is swelling in size, including less articulate people than you.
Sad, but the way of the world sometimes.
Have fun.
MrB
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I'm going to block you all - especially this couple
Off out now, happy Sunday perverts xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don't you love it when you send a nice thoughtful message to someone, appear to tick all their boxes, send face photos and all that jazz, which they then read, delete and block you?
I love that I do. Love it."
Many women use the 'I get so many messages, I can't possibly reply to them all' excuse. All they need to do is use the filters but I guess most of them like being so 'popular'
I've blocked everyone and do my own searches
Delete yr sent items, if you get a response great, if not,their loss xx |
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