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Do you have what it takes?

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

OK, this thread is aimed at those of you who are single or a couple and have never been swinging with someone you're in love with.

But the rest of you are obviously free to comment.

I think it's what I was born to do, I've just got to meet the right person. Not I'm older and else, falling in love takes longer for me.

But honestly.. Am I sure I've got whatever is needed to make it work? No, i'm not sure. I know to boast about how I'd react in a situation I've never been in.

I think if it happened early on in the relationship I'd be fine. If it was later, I'd be much more scared of destroying something very special in my life. So respect to everyone who has tried it and more respect to those of you who are clearly in love and continue to live a very fulfilling sex life.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think I could do it. I wouldn't automatically think I should, just because I'm on here and meet strangers for sex, who I'm not in a relationship with.

I do quite like a monogamous relationship, but I've done that and I might meet someone to swing with.

He would probably have to be bi and we would only meet couples with a bi man. The woman wouldn't have to be bi.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"OK, this thread is aimed at those of you who are single or a couple and have never been swinging with someone you're in love with.

But the rest of you are obviously free to comment.

I think it's what I was born to do, I've just got to meet the right person. Not I'm older and else, falling in love takes longer for me.

But honestly.. Am I sure I've got whatever is needed to make it work? No, i'm not sure. I know to boast about how I'd react in a situation I've never been in.

Excuse the strange typos.. My phone thinks it knows what I'm trying to say better than I do

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By *icketysplitsWoman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

It's that elusive right person.

I'm sure I could do it but it would have to be someone who understands it is extra not instead of.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I dont really know what your trying to say to be honest.

Are you talking about falling in love with someone you meet while swinging?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I'm talking about.. Once you fell in love.. Do you think you could watch them be pleasured by someone else and vice versa?

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I'm incredibly envious of couples who enjoy this lifestyle together.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It's that elusive right person.

I'm sure I could do it but it would have to be someone who understands it is extra not instead of.

I'm the same, it also have to be together, not free to do what we want, when we want.

So long as I felt loved and I trusted her, I'm pretty sure Id cope easily either swinging. But apart.. I'm sure that would breed doubt, jealousy, confusion and upset in me personally.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm incredibly envious of couples who enjoy this lifestyle together. "

ME too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We do, it's about adding extra to our sex life and not instead of. We have a very healthy sex life but without each other swinging wouldn't hold any appeal.

We love watching each other and get off on seeing the other get so much pleasure. Does it hurt our relationship, no I don't think it does. If either of us said we want to stop it wouldn't bother us as we still want each other.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

"I'm talking about.. Once you fell in love.. Do you think you could watch them be pleasured by someone else and vice versa? "

We've been together nearly 37 years. Started swing about 8 years ago.

We both understand that love doesn't equal sex or ownership. It really is (in our opinion) as basic as that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd love to have the opportunity of doing this.

Couples who have this special bond are extremely lucky, but then I've spoken and met with couples who clearly have jealousy and insecurity issues, so it's clearly not easy for everyone.

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By *igJandTheBlondeCouple over a year ago

Kings Hill

It's about separating the emotional and physical side for us. I have no issues with seeing him with anyone else (although we don't full swap..yet..rules can change) because it's a basic animal need for us. If he dated somebody else and entered into an emotional relationship with anybody else then I would have an issue with that. X

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

"I'd love to have the opportunity of doing this.

Couples who have this special bond are extremely lucky, but then I've spoken and met with couples who clearly have jealousy and insecurity issues, so it's clearly not easy for everyone."

That's often but not always because one of them doesn't want to be doing it or one or the other oversteps agreed boundaries.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm talking about.. Once you fell in love.. Do you think you could watch them be pleasured by someone else and vice versa? "

I could. If I didn't trust the person I wouldn't be with them in a committed relationship.

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By *ecretpassion100Couple over a year ago

Walsall

We met on the scene through a mutual freind ever since the first time we met we never slept with anyone else we are totally in love but do remain on the scene as all our freinds are here we love the social side to swinging and we love to watch be watched and yes both bi. ...so we get to keep love kissing sex ect sacred between us and still have an awesome sex life and variety through our bi play and the turn on we get being watched .....we love what we have and would never change that xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I like being single. I find it boring to be with just one

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There wouldn't be rules for me either. He could do anything he wanted with other men and women.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm talking about.. Once you fell in love.. Do you think you could watch them be pleasured by someone else and vice versa? "
yes. It actually has made swinging sooooo much better for me x

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By *wo4FemCouple over a year ago

Birmingham

We're very much in love and looking for a lady to join us in sharing the sexual passion and pleasure we have for each other with them.

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By *acavityMan over a year ago

Redditch

Currently single.

If I met someone, I would be honest about my past, and leave it up to her whether she is interested in sharing our sex life with others. I hope she would, but wouldn't choose swinging over a relationship

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By *yldstyleWoman over a year ago

A world of my own

I'm single and happy to admit I'm a hypocrite. I couldn't swing with a partner I love. When or if my happy ever after happens, I'd want no one else involved. I want to be enough for him.

I have a lot of respect for couples who are secure enough in their relationship for this lifestyle. I just can't see that ever being me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm talking about.. Once you fell in love.. Do you think you could watch them be pleasured by someone else and vice versa? "

Hubby and i met while swinging as singles. We both enjoy watching each other with other guys

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've been in a loving committed relationship that was mostly monogamous (I say mostly because we had a couple profile but would only play together, and never found anyone we were comfortable playing with) until very recently when we started exploring the idea of an open relationship.

It's a scary concept that it could go horribly wrong and that could ruin the relationship, but for us it's added to it. It's resolved an issue that we argued about a lot and it's eased a lot of resentment.

I find myself having an amazing time with people I meet on here and he's still the one that I want to go home to and tell all about it, and however much emotional connection I have with someone else, that's the bit that makes it work. I know that I want to come home to him for the rest of my life.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

I'm single,I know what I would like from a relationship,but how it would be in reality is a whole different ball game.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In my past I would say a defo no. Now I'm a single woman I would be more inclined to seek out a playmate asaposed to a full on relationship.

PTU xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Personally I think it would be very difficult but not impossible as there are plenty on this site that have a very healthy sex life and are in love but love swinging. I can only assume they do not get emotionally involved with other couples and maybe its easier with different couples rather than swinging with the same couple. I have no experience so I am only speculating.

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By *cjoyCouple over a year ago

Galway

Mr Mcjoy and I started swinging just 6 months into our relationship after a conversation about fantasies etc.

I did have the initial 'oh s*** this could ruin our very new relationship' thoughts, but luckily we only became stronger.

4 years on and we are still here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm talking about.. Once you fell in love.. Do you think you could watch them be pleasured by someone else and vice versa? "

Yes. We are doing it. What I see it is, we are have a bit of fun, it doesnt mean anything other than its sex to us, and it lets us live out fantasies we mightn't otherwise be able to do.

We love the bones of each other but we understand there are times where you just need to be naughty, and there is nothing more sexy to me than when he's doing the deed, and he winks and smiles at me, then once we are done and washed he kisses me on the neck. We get it. And that's why it works for us.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Makes me happy that there is clearly a lot of love going around.

Also nice to see everyone is allowed their own take on this subject - without comeback.

I've met couples who are clearly very much in love and nothing puts me more at ease than that. I've also met couples I'm not quite so sure about. Women who are allowed to play alone, yet give off an impression it's not just the sex they want. Again we're all different and it's not my place to judge their relationship.

I hope this thread helps a couple who are considering getting into swinging. That whatever they decide between them is perfectly acceptable so long as they are both happy with it.

We only have one shot at life, let's make the most of it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Monogamy is unnatural to me. I've never cheated in my life and for years I fought against my desires for multiple partners. Ironically it was my husband's idea to do this. We don't totally separate emotion from sex. I, in particular, get off on what is known as 'new relationship europhoria'. In fact I'm probably addicted to it. My frequent and changing 'school-girl' style infatuations don't worry my husband, as it doesn't have any bearing on our love for each other and the life we've built together. it was wonderful when I finally accepted the way I am, and realised I didn't have to fight it any more.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Monogamy is unnatural to me. I've never cheated in my life and for years I fought against my desires for multiple partners. Ironically it was my husband's idea to do this. We don't totally separate emotion from sex. I, in particular, get off on what is known as 'new relationship europhoria'. In fact I'm probably addicted to it. My frequent and changing 'school-girl' style infatuations don't worry my husband, as it doesn't have any bearing on our love for each other and the life we've built together. it was wonderful when I finally accepted the way I am, and realised I didn't have to fight it any more.

Mrs"

I know a couple where the woman is exactly the same way you described yourself.

I was very unsure to begin with. I do not feel the same. I see her as my friend I can have sex with and she knows it.

I'm still a little unsure about the whole situation as I don't want to hurt her or him. But the sex is pretty damn good lol...

Fuck it, I've been totally honest.

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By *orum TrollWoman over a year ago

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don't think i could do it. i'm not voyeuristic and don't get off on someone else fucking someone i'm fucking.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mrs"

I get that exact same feeling! I love the new infatuation feeling!

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By *orum TrollWoman over a year ago

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i could actually see this lifestyle causing problems for me and a partner.

not only do i not get off on the idea of someone else fucking others, if they choose someone unsavoury (to my taste) as someone they wanna fuck it would make me lose respect for them as a person.

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