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Single past 30, must be something wrong with you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

If you're single past a certain age then there must be something wrong with you.

Discuss...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Me?..yeah. But that's not a secret.

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By *obwithkiltMan over a year ago

Belton

Oh...I'm buggered according to that criteria...nothing wrong with me though ...just an anomaly in the system

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh well that will be me then

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By *icked_tongueMan over a year ago

Bolton

Annie I've just checked your profile and pics and I have to agree with you.....over 30 and you definitely are way past it lol.

Oops what the heck am I on about.... you look absolutely amazing x

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By *unniebee1970Woman over a year ago

The Hive

Wrong like what?

I just enjoy the bed space...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nothing wrong with being single past 30, we don't live in the Victoria ages anymore

I'm 40, single and love it ..

Took me being married for 10yrs to realise your own space is the best place

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yeah, I'm batshit.

That's why, clearly!

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Single as in never had a relationship? Or single as in had a few relationships and decided never again!

Because I'm single and nearly 50, so must have loads wrong with me.

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

my god!!! i must be damaged goods......

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I'm 43, single for 11+ years, never married, so yeah there must be something wrong with me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am overqualified ... that's why I am single ....

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By *orum TrollWoman over a year ago

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there's plenty wrong with me but i've been in two actual relationships since my 30s. and one casual one.

just don't feel the need to commit to someone else right now, plus people are confusing as fuck or i have onset dementia maybe.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you're single past a certain age then there must be something wrong with you.

Discuss..."

depends if it's through choice or not

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm single because I like my own space.

I'm fine when we live in separate houses, it's when they move in with me is when it all goes to shit.

Anyway, I think they're more interested in my dog.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No. I like to be single. I can do what I want when I want it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I choose to be single, a lot of people dont get that, some people have that need to be with somebody, some don't, i know a few people who just can't be single as soon as one relationship ends they are actively on the look for a new partner, and thats fine but i just don't get why some people don't get not everybody has that need to be in a relationship

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Just something that was said in another thread.

I'm single and almost 34, been single nearly 8 years!

Think it's actually quite hard this day and age to find a partner. Lots of options available to be people makes you seem more disposable. Friends your age already in relationships so no one to go out to bars.

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By *orum TrollWoman over a year ago

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"my god!!! i must be damaged goods...... "

those were the words i was looking for. i actually am damaged, and more people are adding to that.

so yeah fuck this bullshit.

i'd rather repair myself, by myself, than take any of the crap offered to me that will make me worse.

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By *ce WingerMan over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Good job I'm only just past 30 then innit

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

well that me then too lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It'll be reyt.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Am well passed 30 yuk x

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By *4gnumprMan over a year ago

telford

"If you're single past a certain age then there must be something wrong with you.

Discuss..."

You mean 30 actually means 40 I bet ??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes that's what a lot of guys from couples say when you say no thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"my god!!! i must be damaged goods......

those were the words i was looking for. i actually am damaged, and more people are adding to that.

so yeah fuck this bullshit.

i'd rather repair myself, by myself, than take any of the crap offered to me that will make me worse."

Kind of why I'm still single.

When I split with my child's father after 9 years together I was only interested in bringing up my new baby and being a first time mum. Life and other things got in the way, few trials and tribulations and complications. Need to be happy in myself before having another person around me.

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By *ce WingerMan over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"I choose to be single, a lot of people dont get that, some people have that need to be with somebody, some don't, i know a few people who just can't be single as soon as one relationship ends they are actively on the look for a new partner, and thats fine but i just don't get why some people don't get not everybody has that need to be in a relationship "

I have tended to have a 3 yr break inbetween relationships (not intentionally), I'm on yr 4 now so look out ladies

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By *orum TrollWoman over a year ago

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"my god!!! i must be damaged goods......

those were the words i was looking for. i actually am damaged, and more people are adding to that.

so yeah fuck this bullshit.

i'd rather repair myself, by myself, than take any of the crap offered to me that will make me worse.

Kind of why I'm still single.

you have your priorities right, that has to count for something.

so we're not really that bad, at least we recognise our faults and are trying to fix them too.

also, nobody is perfect. if they were nobody would be fucked up.

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By *opsy RogersWoman over a year ago

London

I've been single *for* 30, I must be an utter freak.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"my god!!! i must be damaged goods......

those were the words i was looking for. i actually am damaged, and more people are adding to that.

so yeah fuck this bullshit.

i'd rather repair myself, by myself, than take any of the crap offered to me that will make me worse.

Kind of why I'm still single.

you have your priorities right, that has to count for something.

so we're not really that bad, at least we recognise our faults and are trying to fix them too.

also, nobody is perfect. if they were nobody would be fucked up."

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By *ikeC81Man over a year ago

harrow

Football I saw more important for me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Kind of why I'm still single.

Same situation here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nah, Fab is full of genuinely single, hot, ripped, handsome, charming, witty, articulate singles. You know, just the type that would have no problem attracting a partner if they wanted to

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Generaliations are rarely helpful or accurate.*

*warning, this may be a generalization.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"my god!!! i must be damaged goods......

those were the words i was looking for. i actually am damaged, and more people are adding to that.

so yeah fuck this bullshit.

i'd rather repair myself, by myself, than take any of the crap offered to me that will make me worse.

Kind of why I'm still single.

you have your priorities right, that has to count for something.

so we're not really that bad, at least we recognise our faults and are trying to fix them too.

also, nobody is perfect. if they were nobody would be fucked up."

Another thing is I've been on my own so long I don't know how someone would fit in my life. I know I want a guy but think it's too much to ask of someone, I want them to be totally exclusive to me but only see them on weekends!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yep true

Emotionally unavailable grumpy hermit here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Being single isnt always a choice. Met wife when I was 27 and she died when I was 52.

Having to start again as a single bloke at my age, wasnt much fun - but after giving so many of my best years, to the same person, I'm starting to enjoy some advantages of being unattached again.

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By *rishman75Man over a year ago

Chessington/epsom

I'm 41 and loving the single life x

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By *orum TrollWoman over a year ago

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"my god!!! i must be damaged goods......

those were the words i was looking for. i actually am damaged, and more people are adding to that.

so yeah fuck this bullshit.

i'd rather repair myself, by myself, than take any of the crap offered to me that will make me worse.

Kind of why I'm still single.

you have your priorities right, that has to count for something.

so we're not really that bad, at least we recognise our faults and are trying to fix them too.

also, nobody is perfect. if they were nobody would be fucked up.

you could find someone like that probably. a long distance relationship sounds ideal tbh.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Life doesn't run to a script...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"my god!!! i must be damaged goods......

those were the words i was looking for. i actually am damaged, and more people are adding to that.

so yeah fuck this bullshit.

i'd rather repair myself, by myself, than take any of the crap offered to me that will make me worse.

Kind of why I'm still single.

you have your priorities right, that has to count for something.

so we're not really that bad, at least we recognise our faults and are trying to fix them too.

also, nobody is perfect. if they were nobody would be fucked up.

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By *iSTARessWoman over a year ago

London

What a load of mouldy knob. Why should anyone feel they have to subscribe to the conventional?

Yes I'd quite like to find someone to share all these shenanigans with but it's looking highly unlikely. I'm not going to just settle for anyone because society expects you to hit certain milestones

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

30 years in a relationship -I've done my time.

I got out on good behaviour

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By *4gnumprMan over a year ago

telford

"my god!!! i must be damaged goods......

those were the words i was looking for. i actually am damaged, and more people are adding to that.

so yeah fuck this bullshit.

i'd rather repair myself, by myself, than take any of the crap offered to me that will make me worse.

Kind of why I'm still single.

you have your priorities right, that has to count for something.

so we're not really that bad, at least we recognise our faults and are trying to fix them too.

also, nobody is perfect. if they were nobody would be fucked up.

That's fucked up half the males on here then

Single claimed however more than likely not ??

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"my god!!! i must be damaged goods......

those were the words i was looking for. i actually am damaged, and more people are adding to that.

so yeah fuck this bullshit.

i'd rather repair myself, by myself, than take any of the crap offered to me that will make me worse.

Kind of why I'm still single.

you have your priorities right, that has to count for something.

so we're not really that bad, at least we recognise our faults and are trying to fix them too.

also, nobody is perfect. if they were nobody would be fucked up.

you could find someone like that probably. a long distance relationship sounds ideal tbh."

I did long distance a few years back with a guy I met off here end of 2011, was sort of seeing him got around 18 months but he was younger than me and when he wasn't down here or me up there he was always out partying. Even though he'd ring me after a night out he'd be at house parties and if hear birds in the background and I used to kick off. Long distance with someone older or my age who I knew was past all that phase of house parties and clubbing, maybe that would suit. I dunno, I just think it's hard to meet people in this technological age.

Wish single guys would wear some sort of badge that's says "available!"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have a mild personality disorder at the most but I'm fine with it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am single have been for 19 years I am totally screwed x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Naw

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nothing wrong with me, just that nobody's cool enough

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I have a mild personality disorder at the most but I'm fine with it "

One of you is handsome

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By *elvet RopeMan over a year ago

by the big field

If only there was a place for all of us to hang out together?

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By *wo4FemCouple over a year ago

Birmingham

Mr here. I was 37 when I met Mrs2. She was 22. 11 years later still together, still in love with each other, and now looking for someone who'd like to join us in sharing the pleasures that we have. There is still life after 30.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have a mild personality disorder at the most but I'm fine with it

One of you is handsome "

He says thanks and he likes your breasts

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By *orum TrollWoman over a year ago

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"my god!!! i must be damaged goods......

those were the words i was looking for. i actually am damaged, and more people are adding to that.

so yeah fuck this bullshit.

i'd rather repair myself, by myself, than take any of the crap offered to me that will make me worse.

Kind of why I'm still single.

you have your priorities right, that has to count for something.

so we're not really that bad, at least we recognise our faults and are trying to fix them too.

also, nobody is perfect. if they were nobody would be fucked up.

you could find someone like that probably. a long distance relationship sounds ideal tbh.

Wish single guys would wear some sort of badge that's says "available!"

yeah you need a lot of trust for LDR really. maybe work on that?

although i find you need other people to prove they're trustworthy for to work on that, so you can prove to yourself you're making the right choices in who you trust.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

single and glad of it

can do what I want .when I want

when I feel the need for company I have my little black book

sounds like alot of us are the same

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've been in 3 long-term relationships, my most recent ending 2 years ago. I needed to be alone for a while and gosh, I love it. Yes, I miss things about being in a relationship, but I've become self-reliant and confident. I worry I won't meet anyone in time to have children, but I'm just not prepared to rush it!

Remember, people are single for all sorts of reasons. We might find ourselves single at 70. It's life, innit...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm approaching 35. No kids. No sniff of a regular guy (does the milkman count - he does come three times a week). I got a great job, great shoes and a bijou abode all of my very own. I'm very happy thank you very much.

I do however get the disappointment of my mother to look forward to every time I show up to a gathering with a gay chap in tow. Her gaydar is well off so it's at least amusing for that first 5 minutes of her imagining the faces of her future grandkids before he compliments her Laura Ashley curtains and she's crestfallen.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I bite the heads off lovers after sex.... nothing wrong with me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If only there was a place for all of us to hang out together?

My bedrooms free and I have a large bed

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

anyone who is over thirty and single (as opposed to divorced) is a survivor, and probably looks better than their married counterparts who will have those stress wrinkles that married people have especially the ones with kids who not even the 10 years younger programme could help!

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By *assybitchWoman over a year ago

around the world

Too much choice to settle for one just yet haha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I bite the heads off lovers after sex.... nothing wrong with me.

**opens door**

(I haven't got a head)

**closes door**

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I bite the heads off lovers after sex.... nothing wrong with me.

**opens door**

(I haven't got a head)

**closes door**

Another victim then. ...

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By *yldstyleWoman over a year ago

A world of my own

I am 8 years single. I have a habit of choosing the wrong men.

As much as it saddens me I've come to realise I'll likely always be single now.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have the plague and my cock is too big.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Such a bold statement to make

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I am 8 years single. I have a habit of choosing the wrong men.

As much as it saddens me I've come to realise I'll likely always be single now."

Similar to me, why do you think you'll always be single now?

I bloody hope I'm not single for the rest of my life, sounds lonely!

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By *yldstyleWoman over a year ago

A world of my own

"I am 8 years single. I have a habit of choosing the wrong men.

As much as it saddens me I've come to realise I'll likely always be single now.

Similar to me, why do you think you'll always be single now?

I bloody hope I'm not single for the rest of my life, sounds lonely!"

For me it simply comes down to the type of man that I'd need to knock down the walls and be willing to take me and my life on doesn't exist. I'm a lot of work and most only ever seem to see me as fun as opposed to potentially anything more.

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By *orum TrollWoman over a year ago

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"I am 8 years single. I have a habit of choosing the wrong men.

As much as it saddens me I've come to realise I'll likely always be single now.

Similar to me, why do you think you'll always be single now?

I bloody hope I'm not single for the rest of my life, sounds lonely!

i've got to the point now where i don't even think most men are worthy of fucking me coz that's pretty much the only thing they see me for.

i cba with their bullshit either, just for a fuck.

i got a few trusted guys i've known for years off here and that's it now. i don't even care if i got without sex, at least i'm not devaluing myself by fucking half the douchebags i have off here.

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I'm perfectly normal, the rest of you are a bunch of fucked up puppies! !

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By *eedsmale36Man over a year ago

Leeds

"I'm 43, single for 11+ years, never married, so yeah there must be something wrong with me

You have a great collection of knickers

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By *ymph84Woman over a year ago

durham

"anyone who is over thirty and single (as opposed to divorced) is a survivor, and probably looks better than their married counterparts who will have those stress wrinkles that married people have especially the ones with kids who not even the 10 years younger programme could help!

I think I look in good shape for being divorced and a single mother compared to people my age that are still single.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

51 single and it's good don't have to moan about the toilet seat being left up. Do men never put it down ?

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

You could be right I think there is!

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

Total bollocks I'm afraid, I wasn't single at 30 but am now through choice and it's good.

Fab does help

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By *ucyfur77Woman over a year ago

Pleasuretown

"If you're single past a certain age then there must be something wrong with you.

Discuss..."

I don't let flippant comments like that bother me, I'm having a great time

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

rubbish -

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By *egasus NobMan over a year ago

Merton

Single past 30, must be something wrong with you. kind of agree with the statement to an extend I would say single past 35 if you've never been in a relationship either money problems, confident, social or unreasonably high standards. But everyone life experience is different a lot of factor to consider culture, parent-upbring, beliefs about men or women or relationship and so forth. The problem can be too much choice which in turn means you will choose none or wait for Mr perfect or Ms perfect. If you’ve been single all your life and over 35 actively looking, the problem is you and not anyone else.

Looking for Mr or Ms perfect can be a very unhealthy expectations because you too have to match what your are looking for you either compromise or stay single, so many problems rear their heads in 30s especially if you are looking to start a family.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm fucked then.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

No, there's something wrong with a system that expects conformity. There's plenty wrong with me but that's a different issue. My family are fairly similar - lots of singles, varied sexualities and gender fluidity. Single life rocks?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thoughts from the daytime members...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thoughts from the daytime members..."

You're bored ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hell, there's a lot wrong with some couples that shouldn't be together either for that matter...

I'm of the age where it's easy to get into a monogamous relationship, but logic tells me that as I work here there and everywhere it wouldn't be the wisest move. I own my house and am a father so there's no massive need to be tied to one person for this reason either.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman over a year ago

Lyndhurst

Maybe though some people dont want to marry someone who has already got kids.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe though some people dont want to marry someone who has already got kids."

Is that how you feel ?

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman over a year ago

Lyndhurst

"Maybe though some people dont want to marry someone who has already got kids.

Is that how you feel ?"

No im already married thats how some people think though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe though some people dont want to marry someone who has already got kids.

Is that how you feel ?

No im already married thats how some people think though."

Tbh I prefer to date a woman without kids. Most women I know would rather date a guy without kids too in an ideal world.

But life doesnt always work out the way you expect.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you're single past a certain age then there must be something wrong with you.

Discuss..."

this is why I failed my English exam

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Maybe though some people dont want to marry someone who has already got kids.

Is that how you feel ?

No im already married thats how some people think though.

Tbh I prefer to date a woman without kids. Most women I know would rather date a guy without kids too in an ideal world.

But life doesnt always work out the way you expect."

I used to be like that before I had my child but now I'm a mother it would be easier for me to date a guy who had a child from a previous relationship, providing his ex isn't hard work. A guy who had children himself would hopefully understand that children are the priority and if a date was made and child care arranged he would understand the effort involved.

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan over a year ago

Since my 30s people have always said why haven't you got a gf or why aren't you married, My only thought on this is, The Women I like don't like me,

I even heard my mum at a family party say to someone "I hope he finds someone and has a child before I go"

Now that did make me think what's wrong with me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Doesnt take into account people who have had a divorce -people who dont marry are all technically single too as they havent committted legally way I look at it

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Since my 30s people have always said why haven't you got a gf or why aren't you married, My only thought on this is, The Women I like don't like me,

I even heard my mum at a family party say to someone "I hope he finds someone and has a child before I go"

Now that did make me think what's wrong with me

I don't find many guys that I like and tick all my boxes but when I do I come on way too strong and end up sending them screaming running for the hills.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe though some people dont want to marry someone who has already got kids.

Is that how you feel ?

No im already married thats how some people think though.

Tbh I prefer to date a woman without kids. Most women I know would rather date a guy without kids too in an ideal world.

But life doesnt always work out the way you expect.

Yes I agree and thats cool for a date. But I was meaning a relationship with someone with kids. Its alot to take on and life changing for someone who doesnt have children themselves. Its not just the person you are taking on but also their offspring. You lose your freedom to be able to do what you want when you want and will usually have the persons ex the childs other parent and their family in the picture too.

Its a big ask.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Like a fine wine I've matured with age. Experience has made me wiser & I carry those lessons with me. It's the age old saying of youth is wasted on the young. I'm more content now in myself than I've ever been. So bollocks to that quote.

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By *ve 66Woman over a year ago

Blackwood

I became single at 49 after 25 years married. Single now 5 years.

Sex drive gone up and a lot of interest in young men after the older woman.. Def not complaining

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By *orum TrollWoman over a year ago

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"Doesnt take into account people who have had a divorce -people who dont marry are all technically single too as they havent committted legally way I look at it "

not really. the government doesn't even accept you as legally single if you live with someone you're in a relationship with.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe though some people dont want to marry someone who has already got kids.

Is that how you feel ?

No im already married thats how some people think though.

Tbh I prefer to date a woman without kids. Most women I know would rather date a guy without kids too in an ideal world.

But life doesnt always work out the way you expect.

Its a big ask.

Maybe it is, but for everyone that thinks that way there is someone crying out for a ready made family and willing to accept them into their lives.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't really put much effort into dating because i know i come with way too much baggage, two young children (one with extra needs), live with my mum due to her health...and i know that most men feel like Jesus does.

But i'd rather hear tales of hope than know i'm going to die alone, unloved and uncared for. It's too depressing to think about.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't really put much effort into dating because i know i come with way too much baggage, two young children (one with extra needs), live with my mum due to her health...and i know that most men feel like Jesus does.

But i'd rather hear tales of hope than know i'm going to die alone, unloved and uncared for. It's too depressing to think about. "

Theres someone for everyone

You will be suprised at how they can pop into your life when least expected

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh you say if past 30?! Good I have few years time to find someone

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Maybe though some people dont want to marry someone who has already got kids.

Is that how you feel ?

No im already married thats how some people think though.

Tbh I prefer to date a woman without kids. Most women I know would rather date a guy without kids too in an ideal world.

But life doesnt always work out the way you expect.

Its a big ask.

I wouldn't expect any guy to take on my offspring, my child is mine and we've got our routine already. Any man I had a relationship with I'd ask nothing more of him other than be a friend to my child. My child is my own person to take care of and the guy would have to prove himself to be some kind of special incredible person for me to share any responsibility or allow him to have any input with regards to my child.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe though some people dont want to marry someone who has already got kids.

Is that how you feel ?

No im already married thats how some people think though.

Tbh I prefer to date a woman without kids. Most women I know would rather date a guy without kids too in an ideal world.

But life doesnt always work out the way you expect.

Its a big ask.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm definitely fucked as I'm past 40 and single

It's nonsense ...

There are many reasons why someone is single past a certain age.

Being "undatable" is only one.

I think I'm far too set in my ways now to get into a relationship.

And if I did have one I definitely wouldn't want dependant children in the picture.

Most men of my age have small children and a baby momma inot the background.

Relationships are hard enough without all of that to deal with.

My idea of hell is spending my weekends at soft play

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman over a year ago

Lyndhurst

"Maybe though some people dont want to marry someone who has already got kids.

Is that how you feel ?

No im already married thats how some people think though.

Tbh I prefer to date a woman without kids. Most women I know would rather date a guy without kids too in an ideal world.

But life doesnt always work out the way you expect."

Its not that hard, once you find out they have kids dump them. People in my family who have married someone with kids have all sorts of problems with them, even when they grow up sometimes even worst when they grow up.

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By *orum TrollWoman over a year ago

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"I'm definitely fucked as I'm past 40 and single

It's nonsense ...

There are many reasons why someone is single past a certain age.

Being "undatable" is only one.

I think I'm far too set in my ways now to get into a relationship.

And if I did have one I definitely wouldn't want dependant children in the picture.

Most men of my age have small children and a baby momma inot the background.

Relationships are hard enough without all of that to deal with.

My idea of hell is spending my weekends at soft play

toddler groups are tedious as fuck.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Doesnt take into account people who have had a divorce -people who dont marry are all technically single too as they havent committted legally way I look at it

not really. the government doesn't even accept you as legally single if you live with someone you're in a relationship with."

Yes so why cant we get tax relief as a married couple then?

Government likes to take money off you if you are living together But wont give you fuck all back??

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By *londieddWoman over a year ago

fife

"If you're single past a certain age then there must be something wrong with you.

Discuss..."
not true!

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By *orum TrollWoman over a year ago

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"Doesnt take into account people who have had a divorce -people who dont marry are all technically single too as they havent committted legally way I look at it

not really. the government doesn't even accept you as legally single if you live with someone you're in a relationship with.

Yes so why cant we get tax relief as a married couple then?

Government likes to take money off you if you are living together But wont give you fuck all back?? "

that pretty much is the government, yes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Quite an insulting/annoying presumption about single parents being made by some people.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Always tell a friend when you are meeting such people...they are probably serial killers in the making.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Quite an insulting/annoying presumption about single parents being made by some people. "

Yes, not always the single parents choice. And most of us aren't looking for replacement dads. We're entitled to have a relationship and someone to love just for us.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm a happy little hermit think I'll always be single now. Got my virtual fb n he's all I need.

PTU XXX

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Quite an insulting/annoying presumption about single parents being made by some people.

Yes, not always the single parents choice. And most of us aren't looking for replacement dads. We're entitled to have a relationship and someone to love just for us. "

That's what I was thinking.

It seems that people (without children) think that single parents are just waiting for a partner to come along so they can bring up their children. The reality is single parents will have a routine already and be fully functioning families, have their own support network around them. Any new person being introduced would have to jump through hoops and prove themselves worthy of being around the child and consider it a privilege if they are able to be included in your child's life.

I work 2 jobs, my child does kickboxing, tumbling, trampolining, gymnastics, drama, Krav Maga, piano and swimming lessons over 6 days of the week. I take her to every class, I wouldn't expect anybody else to take her, I wouldn't trust anyone else to take her, that's completely my domain.

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By *orum TrollWoman over a year ago

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"Quite an insulting/annoying presumption about single parents being made by some people.

Yes, not always the single parents choice. And most of us aren't looking for replacement dads. We're entitled to have a relationship and someone to love just for us.

That's what I was thinking.

i got a lot more response on POF when i put on my profile i wasn't looking for anyone to help bring up my kids.

POF still sucks but it goes to show a lot of people maybe do think what you jut said.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just something that was said in another thread.

I'm single and almost 34, been single nearly 8 years!

Come to glasgow and we can go to bars together ... oh wait! Ive seen the men here ... maybe i better come to wales

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Wrong like what?

I just enjoy the bed space..."

I agree and your builders hear darling

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

wrong with me, no i just got fed up with the wife jokes and have decided to avoid mother in laws and dirty socks...i became sensible

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By *ENGUYMan over a year ago

Hull

To be perfectly honest, I've been Single for that long that really would I find any lady to fit into my life and the way I pass each day?

I was engaged to a lovely lady back in 1992 but we split up a few months before the wedding. It was, in hindsight, the biggest regret in my life, but you cannot dwell in the past.

I have chosen to be Single but for the OP to suggest negatively about Singletons over a certain age, that's a slight against those who choose to do so and not that there's something wrong with them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am single past 30 and that's only because split with my wife 5 month ago and the shit marriage a was in has put me off another relationship for a long time lol

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By *andybeachWoman over a year ago

In the middle

I've been relatively single for the last 10 years, I'm a nice enough woman but not the sort that men fall in love with, plus I'm happy in my own company and I have never felt the need to be in a relationship no matter who it is with just so someone else is there, some people are serial daters and just need to be in a relationship, I'm not one of those women

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By *ewrocksWoman over a year ago

button moon

I've not had sex since turning 30 so yup, appears to be true!

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By *arksMan over a year ago

in the centre

I'm 47 this year , been single for nearly 5 years after 17yr relationship , for me I'm too guarded now , have massive trust issues , do miss someone else being there occasionally but also enjoy the freedom I have now that I didn't have for so many years , the ability to just go off and do something without having to be made to feel guilty for wanting a bit of a life

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By *andybeachWoman over a year ago

In the middle

"I'm 47 this year , been single for nearly 5 years after 17yr relationship , for me I'm too guarded now , have massive trust issues , do miss someone else being there occasionally but also enjoy the freedom I have now that I didn't have for so many years , the ability to just go off and do something without having to be made to feel guilty for wanting a bit of a life "

Shall I pop round and hold your hand

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By *arksMan over a year ago

in the centre

Shall I pop round and hold your hand

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm single after having a long term relationship and a marriage I thought was fine but then was shocked and heartbroken when I was told otherwise. I then joined fab and realised that I wasn't the happiest I'd been when I was in a relationship....because I am right now. I love being single

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman over a year ago

Lyndhurst

Some men look at their friends who are married and it puts them off, not only that they dont stay married for any length of time.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Only thing wrong with me I carry a little too much weight!..

Im holding out for the right guy and not settling for second best again.

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By *ancs MinxWoman over a year ago

Burnley

"Like a fine wine I've matured with age. Experience has made me wiser & I carry those lessons with me. It's the age old saying of youth is wasted on the young. I'm more content now in myself than I've ever been. So bollocks to that quote.

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By *ediceTV/TS over a year ago

Wrexham

Single, past 30 and, oh wait, never mind!

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By *imiUKMan over a year ago

Hereford

There's definitely something wrong with me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yeah I'm single. So what, I have a good excuse, I have incurable disease,

its called getting old.

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"It seems that people (without children) think that single parents are just waiting for a partner to come along "

That's a rather unnecessary generalisation

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It seems that people (without children) think that single parents are just waiting for a partner to come along so they can bring up their children.

That's a rather unnecessary generalisation

If you're going to quote me do the full sentence so it's not out of context.

That sentence was written based on the responses shown in this thread that dating someone with a child meant they had to take on the role of a parent and that they would have all these duties and responsibilities.

I don't think I'm the only one who felt the same.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Euthanize me now, someone, please!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ruin me now, someone, please!

More appropriate

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ruin me now, someone, please!

More appropriate

Partner me now, someone, please!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ruin me now, someone, please!

More appropriate

Partner me now, someone, please!

Even more appropriate

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ruin me now, someone, please!

More appropriate

Partner me now, someone, please!

Even more appropriate "

But....there's something wrong with me!

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By *imiUKMan over a year ago

Hereford

"It seems that people (without children) think that single parents are just waiting for a partner to come along so they can bring up their children.

That's a rather unnecessary generalisation

If you're going to quote me do the full sentence so it's not out of context.

I don't think I'm the only one who felt the same. "

I've deffo had people who wanted to date me until they found out I had a kid.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ruin me now, someone, please!

More appropriate

Partner me now, someone, please!

Even more appropriate

But....there's something wrong with me!

Too perfect?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ruin me now, someone, please!

More appropriate

Partner me now, someone, please!

Even more appropriate

But....there's something wrong with me!

Too perfect?

Online only. Trust me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ruin me now, someone, please!

More appropriate

Partner me now, someone, please!

Even more appropriate

But....there's something wrong with me!

Too perfect?

Online only. Trust me."

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By *ittleWetOneWoman over a year ago

Midlands/London

We got to 30 and saw the light! Sense came to us and we decided that being single and happy was better than coupled and miserable.

30th year was a huge turning point for me personally. Best thing that happened to me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It seems that people (without children) think that single parents are just waiting for a partner to come along so they can bring up their children.

That's a rather unnecessary generalisation

If you're going to quote me do the full sentence so it's not out of context.

I don't think I'm the only one who felt the same. "

But you have to admit that being with someone with a child means you have to spend time with said child

Maybe you won't have sole responsibility but a parent and a child come as a package deal.

I'd rather not spend time with children.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think it can work both ways with the kids thing

As i got nearer to 30 ive found it really hard to find someone that doesnt want kids (or already have their own) but still ticks my other boxes

Given its been a major factor in my previous break ups i know it something i cant settle on and i will probably find it hard to meet someone the same and settle down

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It seems that people (without children) think that single parents are just waiting for a partner to come along so they can bring up their children.

That's a rather unnecessary generalisation

If you're going to quote me do the full sentence so it's not out of context.

I don't think I'm the only one who felt the same.

But you have to admit that being with someone with a child means you have to spend time with said child

Maybe you won't have sole responsibility but a parent and a child come as a package deal.

I'd rather not spend time with children.

If I got with someone that had a child or children from a previous relationship I would be kind and treat the kid exactly like a friends child. I wouldn't try and be a mother to the child, I'd know that the child has a mother already. If it got to a place where I lived with a guy and his children stayed with us I'd make sure the child left to go home with all the clothes and belongings washed and put back in their bag to take home. I've got my own child I wouldn't feel at all obliged to be a parent to that child unless the father and the child wanted me to take more of a parental role. I'd totally understand if the guy wanted to see his child or children separately and would have the sense to know that they've already got their routine set up and I'd just let them get on with it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You're missing the point ...

Most childless people don't want to spend time with children.

It's not about taking on a parental role.

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By *imiUKMan over a year ago

Hereford

"You're missing the point ...

Most childless people don't want to spend time with children.

It's not about taking on a parental role.

"Most"?

Nah, its just a few of them, I know plenty of childless people who got together with a person who has children in r/l.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You're missing the point ...

Most childless people don't want to spend time with children.

It's not about taking on a parental role.

"Most"?

Nah, its just a few of them, I know plenty of childless people who got together with a person who has children in r/l. "

OK...

I don't want to spend time with children and I know plenty of people that feel the same way

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By *imiUKMan over a year ago

Hereford

"You're missing the point ...

Most childless people don't want to spend time with children.

It's not about taking on a parental role.

"Most"?

Nah, its just a few of them, I know plenty of childless people who got together with a person who has children in r/l.

OK...

I don't want to spend time with children and I know plenty of people that feel the same way"

To be fair, its mostly fellers I knkow who have got together with women who have kids, although I can think of at least two women who have done the same.

I think, on the whole, guys are less bothered about that sort of thing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've been in two relationships with guys who have had children. My role was to support him, be a diplomat if things got tough and just try and treat the child as I would my own. It's hard because you have to understand that you can't get involved in certain things and you're always going to come second, but one good thing about it is that most of the time, you get every other weekend free depending on the ex-partner...

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"You're missing the point ...

Most childless people don't want to spend time with children.

It's not about taking on a parental role.

children may not want to spent time with an adult, that doesn't appreciate them...

my kids are often more wise that the adult i'm seeing, hence i don't date, cos, if you feel they are a 'just children' then its your loss anyway...they don't need a father figure, i know, they've told me so..and i don't need help parenting ..got it covered.

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By *imiUKMan over a year ago

Hereford

"You're missing the point ...

Most childless people don't want to spend time with children.

It's not about taking on a parental role.

children may not want to spent time with an adult, that doesn't appreciate them...

Yeah. I'd be mortified if any woman I was dating felt they had to be a mother to my daughter. She has a mother and a father, we have it covered, ta.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm not looking to date.

But it's not the presence of a kid(s) that's the problem.

Men are wary of the domestic baggage that comes with it.

That child has a father, he's going to be a presence in the relationship.

I've NEVER dated anyone who has kids for this reason alone. It wouldn't be the child that's the issue.

At least not for me.

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By *imiUKMan over a year ago

Hereford

"I'm not looking to date.

But it's not the presence of a kid(s) that's the problem.

Men are wary of the domestic baggage that comes with it.

That child has a father, he's going to be a presence in the relationship.

I've NEVER dated anyone who has kids for this reason alone. It wouldn't be the child that's the issue.

At least not for me."

Doesn't have to be an issue unless you make it one - my ex's new bloke is a decent felleer and we get on just fine. If they didn't live so far away, I'd happily have a pint with him.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've been in two relationships with guys who have had children. My role was to support him, be a diplomat if things got tough and just try and treat the child as I would my own. It's hard because you have to understand that you can't get involved in certain things and you're always going to come second, but one good thing about it is that most of the time, you get every other weekend free depending on the ex-partner... "

This is how I see it.

You don't want to take on a parental dutiesyour in a supporting one. Which may become more involved depending on their age & if you end moving in together.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm not looking to date.

But it's not the presence of a kid(s) that's the problem.

Men are wary of the domestic baggage that comes with it.

That child has a father, he's going to be a presence in the relationship.

I've NEVER dated anyone who has kids for this reason alone. It wouldn't be the child that's the issue.

At least not for me.

Doesn't have to be an issue unless you make it one - my ex's new bloke is a decent felleer and we get on just fine. If they didn't live so far away, I'd happily have a pint with him. "

He might not like me.

And that's hassle.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You're missing the point ...

Most childless people don't want to spend time with children.

It's not about taking on a parental role.

You (and others) are also missing the point that we want relationships for ourselves. We may not even want potential partners to meet our children.

I certainly wouldn't have anyone around my child until a relationship was well established and secure and even then there wouldn't really be any need for him to be around my child unless he had children the same age and we could all go somewhere child friendly together or if it got to the stage where we lived together.

Other than that it would be adult dates in the evenings, usually on weekends as most adults do (end of working week etc) I have my family support network around me like I've always had and my daughter likes to sleep over her Nans house or my mother or sister stays in my house for me to go out. There is absolutely no need for any potential partner to meet my child unless I want him to and I don't, I've got that side of things covered.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is how I see it.

You don't want to take on a parental dutiesyour in a supporting one. Which may become more involved depending on their age & if you end moving in together."

Completely!

After 6 years together, I did feel like a sort-of Mum but with less responsibility.

The most important part is being aware that you can't be jealous. There will always be a child and another woman in their life.

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By *irtyGirlWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

I've never been married. I have no kids. I've lived alone since I moved out of my parents house.

I don't consider there to be anything wrong with me. I've just never found someone I'd like to keep on a permanent basis. I like my own company and I'm quite content being single.

I'm not really bothered what other people do or whether it's not normal or if single parents are simply looking for a partner to help parent (that has never crossed my mind just for the record) so we're not all doing the judging thing.

I'm sure there's a word for people like me... I'm fairly sure if you throw in a cat in, there are a whole lot of other words that spring to mind but it really doesn't matter to me. My happiness matters to me and if I were unhappy I would change something. I'm not so I don't.

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By *indaDILFlikeMan over a year ago

wirral

Like and agree

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By *indaDILFlikeMan over a year ago

wirral

To the post above that is ha!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A parent and child come as a package.

It's not for everyone.

But some people may want that dynamic

You can dress it up as much as you like that you're an individual- but as soon as you have a child you've given up that right.

Any relationship you have from then on will include that childant the other parent.

And you have to accept that some people don't want that x

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"I'm not looking to date.

But it's not the presence of a kid(s) that's the problem.

Men are wary of the domestic baggage that comes with it.

That child has a father, he's going to be a presence in the relationship.

I've NEVER dated anyone who has kids for this reason alone. It wouldn't be the child that's the issue.

At least not for me."
same the other way round..i dont want to deal with ex's and the strife, they cause..my ex's are not in the picture at all, in other countries in fact, but im glad, i wouldnt want their interference with whatever relationships i found myself in.

i get on with other peoples children as i treat them like people, unfortunately, some don't like me getting on with them that well, they think they are being superseded, well thats their problem not mine. i wont stop being myself so i avoid the whole thing these days..too much grief.

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By *alcon43Woman over a year ago

Paisley

Divorced for 12 years and was married for 13 years.

Prefer being single and having fun.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A parent and child come as a package.

It's not for everyone.

But some people may want that dynamic

You can dress it up as much as you like that you're an individual- but as soon as you have a child you've given up that right.

Any relationship you have from then on will include that childant the other parent.

And you have to accept that some people don't want that x"

I kind of agree with this ... to the posters saying you are looking for someone to date you as an individual and not even meet or be involved with your child ... surely you mean for now? until you are ready for them to be involved? ....because if you mean never then thats unfair to the person you are dating ... you cant get into a long term relationship with someone and keep them completely excluded from part of your life ... no way that could work

So if it is the case that you more meant not straight away then I agree with marypoppins ... if i go into a dating situation hoping it has some long term potential and i know there is a road block for me further down the road im not going to carry on for the phase that suits me and get emotionally attached when i know i will never want to get to that next stage meeting the kids etc which is inevitable if it will work long term ... so i just avoid meeting people with kids full stop

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well. That's me knackered then!

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By *eanontiWoman over a year ago

Limerick

The registrar at my pre-wedding interview actually said this to my ex. "at least she was married before 30" ex was a good bit older than me

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"A parent and child come as a package.

It's not for everyone.

But some people may want that dynamic

You can dress it up as much as you like that you're an individual- but as soon as you have a child you've given up that right.

Any relationship you have from then on will include that childant the other parent.

And you have to accept that some people don't want that x

That's quite shit then. Would hate someone to use my child as a reason not to date or have a relationship with me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Thanks!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If the majority are over 30 and are attached and your single and 30 then the larger group / pack / click will single you out.... its basic cave man psychology. I love it , as it makes some couples I know uncomfortable thinking there is something wrong with me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Let's start with you what's your issue

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