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Single guys, what's the issue?

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Hi, so don't panic this is not a whinge fest.

Just would like to get some clarity for myself and the other single guys here, why single guys seem to be so demonised and what makes a good single guy profile (not all of us are loonies/weirdos! Lol)

Keep it honest and keep it polite.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't demonise single guys, single guys are what I'm looking for (I look and do my own messaging)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't demonise single guys, single guys are what I'm looking for (I look and do my own messaging) "

Your profile says you are not looking for single guys???

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thankyou for your response x can you say what you think makes for a good single guy profile?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Exactly wolf, Thankyou x

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I don't think single guys are demonised at all, at least not the decent ones who go about their Fab business with respect and consideration, and don't have their expectations set too high.

The thing is single male profiles outweigh all others by at least ten fold and supply and demand dictates that not everyone is going to have success all the time - unfortunately there are some single guys that don't get that, and who sign up to the site with expectations of it being instashag and become disillusioned and whingy when it proves to be quite the opposite.

The key is having a decent profile and pics (do a forum search for "Profile Advice" for some great tips on how to address that), being active in the forums, sending well thought out tailored messages and more, whilst being respectful and considerate, having patience etc.

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By *orum TrollWoman over a year ago

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*brings out my cross so i'm safe before i reply to a man*

idk, a lot of men are shit, or have a shit approach to women at least.

burn them.

and, according to psychology, we remember the bad things easier than the good things. i have cPTSD and when it's functioning well i don't remember the shit things, so do like men sometimes.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

Many of is love the right single guys. If our energy and time is depleted by half-arsed tossers, then it reduces our potential to have a better life.

Profiles that say they're looking for sex but without much finer detail about themselves are just hopeless.

A piled up inbox full of fancy a fuck messages are similarly a pain.

Some of this suggests stupidity or lack of empathy towards us, which aren't good starting points.

Profile tips etc reveal tons that they can do. But don't bother.

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"I don't demonise single guys, single guys are what I'm looking for (I look and do my own messaging)

Your profile says you are not looking for single guys???"

I think you'll find that's as a means to block single guys from messaging her nothing more.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thankyou for your response 3sumqueen.

I think the same goes for a lot of women. Nuff said.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Patience is the key lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Sophie and Gemini Thankyou for your input x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't feel demonised on here everyone is very friendly, there is a lot of competition and the more effort you put in the more luck you have.

A positive attitude helps when writing your profile and chatting with people

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By *orum TrollWoman over a year ago

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yeah women can do too.

mostly men tend to pester, i find that anyway, and a lot seem to be clueless about how to act towards a woman.

don't forget this is a swingers site also so the elusive single female is often sought out for that fmf 3sum more than a man would be.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

P.s. 3sum I live with a lot of guys who have PTSD so I have an understanding of where you are coming from regarding that. All the best.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I love single guys

Nice profile to me is ..

Face / body pics

Wee bit about yourself and what your looking for

Cpl of meet veris and absolutely no knobshots

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nothing bad to say about single guys at all.

We don't get many messages from them but I guess our profile and requirements put them off.

I'll always treat everyone the same, with politeness and respect if they show the same to me.

It's that simple.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I hope I haven't come across that way in any of the forums

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Boldie thanks for your response. One does ones best to remain positive

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't demonise single guys, single guys are what I'm looking for (I look and do my own messaging)

Your profile says you are not looking for single guys???"

I know and it's something that has been discussed for years, it shouldn't say "not looking for single guys" just because someone has every filter turned on. It should state my preference which is looking for single guys, it should simply say "not accepting inbound messages"

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Goody, thanks for your response. Seems to be a lot of emphasis on face photos on men's profiles but not on women's. Bit of a double standard? Great list, I'm sure that will help a lot of guys out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

sweet n salty Thankyou for your input x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Shagtonight Thankyou for your patience comment.

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By *orum TrollWoman over a year ago

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"P.s. 3sum I live with a lot of guys who have PTSD so I have an understanding of where you are coming from regarding that. All the best. "

thanks. it's getting better sometimes and i love how i get my memory back and life improves for that time as i can be a lot more organisied, otherwise i'm quite reliant on others to remember things for me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Gooner Thankyou for joining, can you explain better what you mean? Come across in what way?

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By *he Naked HandymanMan over a year ago

Holcombe

It does get frustrating, but as others have said be patient. Some of The ladys get literally hundreds of messages a day, so of course they cant consider them all in depth.

Try adding in being over 45 to the equation like me and see how many more women are off your short list! I still get a few new meets a year andvtry to stay in touch with those I meet. I think theres only one lady whom I only met once.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Goody, thanks for your response. Seems to be a lot of emphasis on face photos on men's profiles but not on women's. Bit of a double standard? Great list, I'm sure that will help a lot of guys out. "
yip that's what makes a single guy profile stand out of 100s to me anyway

Chicks on here can afford to be picky...given the ratio your always gonna be another faceless profile

Harsh...but true I'm afraid

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What makes a good single guy profile (not all of us are loonies/weirdos! Lol)

Keep it honest and keep it polite. "

I should actually answer the original question!

A good male profile for me is one that had pictures of a guys full body, a picture of his erect penis (standing sideways to camera, hands by the side of the body and penis hanging free) a picture of the guys face (if he's happy to have one public) if not he should send it with the first message.

A profile showing a bit of humour is what I like, also everything spelt correctly. No legal warnings or any other bull shit.

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan over a year ago

With single men being the most common on fab its just about women and couples having a more of a choice on who they want to play with,

Apart from having some decent pictures and something written about yourself I don't think you can do that much to improve your profile, If they find you attractive and when chatting they like your personality your chances on meeting will improve

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Gooner Thankyou for joining, can you explain better what you mean? Come across in what way? "

If you hit the "Reply + Quote" button when responding to individual posts it helps us know who you're responding to and saves you having to type out their name each time.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Can I ask what the Penis pics are for...apart from the obvious size?

They all look the same to me lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Personally i dont tend to face any real issues, ive been very sociable during my time on fab, make a point of going to socials so ive met many people face to face. That seems to eliminate any real issues

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think an essential part of enjoying the opportunities that come from being a member of a site like this, is drop any sense of entitlement and don't play the victim card when your expectations fail to match the reality....

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

3sum. Having others to help is great, glad you are getting better and enjoying life best you can. Important to keep thinking forward. I my experience people with PTSD tend to struggle with going in the right direction, but facing the wrong way. It's difficult to see my friends struggle with it, as it is so challenging to shake off/overcome. Medication helps too of course. I suffer with (diagnosed) bi Polar disorder, Tourette's and I have some of the symptoms of PTS (anxiety based things) which I take medication for. Difficult because these things have very little to do with my vibrant and people living character.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

its all about trust i suppose having the same issue myself only advise i can give is just be yourself be polite and dont give up

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Gooner Thankyou for joining, can you explain better what you mean? Come across in what way?

If you hit the "Reply + Quote" button when responding to individual posts it helps us know who you're responding to and saves you having to type out their name each time.

Ah wicked thanks lol

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By *ikeC81Man over a year ago

harrow

"Nothing bad to say about single guys at all.

We don't get many messages from them but I guess our profile and requirements put them off.

I'll always treat everyone the same, with politeness and respect if they show the same to me.

It's that simple.

For me I wouldn't email you on that reason as your profile says no single men.

I know people won't meet me possibly on number of veris and I am not biggest of guys in terms of muscle also I don't accommodate.

My veris clearly state I am a rounded indervidual who is genuine, polite and does play.

It is up to the people that I talk to decide if they want to meet me or not some will some won't

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I think an essential part of enjoying the opportunities that come from being a member of a site like this, is drop any sense of entitlement and don't play the victim card when your expectations fail to match the reality....

Good advice Thankyou. I certainly don't have any 'entitlement' issues myself but it can be a little demoralising for anyone to be constantly knocked back. That's not a whinge, just an observation. I think maybe it's just unfortunate that numbers of men so heavily outweigh the rest (or so it seems) great post

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

Single people in general on a swinging site....i'm always wondering. "What's wrong with them? Why are they single at their age?". Then you realise most of them are cheating and its like "right! Why didn't you say so?! Let's fuck!"

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Personally i dont tend to face any real issues, ive been very sociable during my time on fab, make a point of going to socials so ive met many people face to face. That seems to eliminate any real issues

Thanks for your input. I'd be up for going to a few socials I think maybe. Best place to find those?

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

Thanks for your input. I'd be up for going to a few socials I think maybe. Best place to find those? "

There's a swinging club near you i think.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Can I ask what the Penis pics are for...apart from the obvious size?

They all look the same to me lol

Dick pics...partly because guys see that as their sexiest assets and also because they are making sure you won't be disappointed by their size. A lot of people are quite specific about that.

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By *ondon-guy68Man over a year ago

London

I have no idea what constitutes a decent profile to others, everyone wants different things within it and as often said here you can't please everyone so all I would say is please yourself and have your profile your way rather than what you think it should be.

Decent pictures are a good start but to me a person has more of a chance putting their personality across through the forums or if you can stick it out the chat rooms also.

(This from the person with the shittest profile text ever)

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

"I have no idea what constitutes a decent profile to others, everyone wants different things within it and as often said here you can't please everyone so all I would say is please yourself and have your profile your way rather than what you think it should be.

Decent pictures are a good start but to me a person has more of a chance putting their personality across through the forums or if you can stick it out the chat rooms also.

(This from the person with the shittest profile text ever)

This isn't about profiles...

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I don't demonise single guys, single guys are what I'm looking for (I look and do my own messaging)

Your profile says you are not looking for single guys???

Fair comment. Worth raising to the site managers maybe?

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By *ondon-guy68Man over a year ago

London

Decent pictures are a good start but to me a person has more of a chance putting their personality across through the forums or if you can stick it out the chat rooms also.

(This from the person with the shittest profile text ever)

This isn't about profiles..."

Ok, I must have read the line in the op, what makes a good profile incorrectly then.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

" This isn't about profiles..."

Ok...not very helpful...what IS it about then?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Single people in general on a swinging site....i'm always wondering. "What's wrong with them? Why are they single at their age?". Then you realise most of them are cheating and its like "right! Why didn't you say so?! Let's fuck!"

So if someone is genuinely single then they must have something wrong with them?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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I'm on here as a single fem playing alone...hubby knows so...I'm not cheating??

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By *andsonjohnMan over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"I don't think single guys are demonised at all, at least not the decent ones who go about their Fab business with respect and consideration, and don't have their expectations set too high.

this sums it up perfectly

i happen to think this site is a great laugh and there are some truly wonderful people on here

despite what you may think op its a game of you get out what you put in like it is on any similar site on the web

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By *ikeC81Man over a year ago

harrow

I am a single guy who is not cheating and plays a couple of times a month

I enjoy watching people have sex

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

So if someone is genuinely single then they must have something wrong with them?"

My point exactly...

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By *aroleBaskinWoman over a year ago

somewhere down the rabbit hole, Aberdeen

Oi!!!!!

I'm single.....I'm here because I want to stay single for now. I'm not dead though and would like to still have amazing encounters without leading anyone on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

" Ok, I must have read the line in the op, what makes a good profile incorrectly then. "

Well said

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't demonise single guys, single guys are what I'm looking for (I look and do my own messaging) "

Wowww your pics are amazing and you're local to me. Sliding in to your dm now z

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Since taking part in the forums one of the main complaints from women with regards to single men is having cock pics on public display or not bothering to articulate themselves when writing a message. As for what a good profile is...... if you find out let me know

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By *ikeC81Man over a year ago

harrow

Oi!!!!!

I'm single.....I'm here because I want to stay single for now. I'm not dead though and would like to still have amazing encounters without leading anyone on.

This is kinda wear I sit.i like sex but don't want relationship

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Since taking part in the forums one of the main complaints from women with regards to single men is having cock pics on public display or not bothering to articulate themselves when writing a message. As for what a good profile is...... if you find out let me know

Good to know. Again...kind of a double standard there....p.s. Lol will do

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *xyzptlk088Man over a year ago

Galway

"Hi, so don't panic this is not a whinge fest.

Keep it honest and keep it polite. "

1. be genuine

2. be polite

3. make sure you treat your stableboy like shit

4. make sure your horse is white

5. make sure you agree with everything females and couples say

6. make sure you acknowledge all single guys are the spawn of satan

7. make sure you bow down to the cliques

8. make sure you know you are only good for boot licking and chastising

This is how you ensure you have a good single guy profile

P.S. I may be a tad sarcastic on my reply

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

I'm on here as a single fem playing alone...hubby knows so...I'm not cheating??"

So you're not single...

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By *iSTARessWoman over a year ago

London

I love single guys. Alas you have to wade through a lot of members of the Zombie Wanking Squad to find the good ones. Which takes a lot of time. And can be exhaustive. So you kinda go off single guys from time to time.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

Decent pictures are a good start but to me a person has more of a chance putting their personality across through the forums or if you can stick it out the chat rooms also.

(This from the person with the shittest profile text ever)

This isn't about profiles...

Ok, I must have read the line in the op, what makes a good profile incorrectly then. "

I stand corrected! Sorry i was sort of reading and wiping my ass at the same time, you know?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm looking to meet single guys and I do message them as well

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Exactly wolf, Thankyou x"

sounds very formal for an informal forum thread

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don't worry about people who don't find your profile appealing .....

Focus your attention on those who do...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm on here as a single fem playing alone...hubby knows so...I'm not cheating??

So you're not single..."
nope...but I ain't cheating either

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

single guys are the pits!!

I got blocked the other day for not wanting to discus watersports with someone who clearly hadn't read my profile...well obviously they had only read that bit

* kinda think I dodged a bullet though

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

Oi!!!!!

I'm single.....I'm here because I want to stay single for now. I'm not dead though and would like to still have amazing encounters without leading anyone on.

Hmmm. I see anger issues. And maybe you don't realise when you're being played...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So women genrally dont like dick pics but put tit ass pussy pics on theirs! Haha i did a similar thread and i was told by aboit 4 women i should put face pics on but none of them had face pics

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nothing bad to say about single guys at all.

We don't get many messages from them but I guess our profile and requirements put them off.

I'll always treat everyone the same, with politeness and respect if they show the same to me.

It's that simple.

For me I wouldn't email you on that reason as your profile says no single men.

I know people won't meet me possibly on number of veris and I am not biggest of guys in terms of muscle also I don't accommodate.

My veris clearly state I am a rounded indervidual who is genuine, polite and does play.

It is up to the people that I talk to decide if they want to meet me or not some will some won't "

It doesn't explicity say no single men.

Just says we're looking for couples and females.

I wouldn't intentionally leave them out.

Not gonna freak out just because a single guy messages us!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Being buff helps women are shallow in general

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

I'm on here as a single fem playing alone...hubby knows so...I'm not cheating??

So you're not single...nope...but I ain't cheating either "

Could i possibly draw your attention to the word "most". This word never means "all". You're welcome x

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By *aroleBaskinWoman over a year ago

somewhere down the rabbit hole, Aberdeen

Oi!!!!!

I'm single.....I'm here because I want to stay single for now. I'm not dead though and would like to still have amazing encounters without leading anyone on.

Hmmm. I see anger issues. And maybe you don't realise when you're being played..."

Not at all! I really did take it in good jest. My comment was tongue in cheek

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By *xyzptlk088Man over a year ago

Galway

"single guys are the pits!!

I got blocked the other day for not wanting to discus watersports with someone who clearly hadn't read my profile...well obviously they had only read that bit

* kinda think I dodged a bullet though

Read your profile there you sure it was YOU that dodged the bullet?

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By *ondon-guy68Man over a year ago

London

Decent pictures are a good start but to me a person has more of a chance putting their personality across through the forums or if you can stick it out the chat rooms also.

(This from the person with the shittest profile text ever)

This isn't about profiles...

Ok, I must have read the line in the op, what makes a good profile incorrectly then.

I stand corrected! Sorry i was sort of reading and wiping my ass at the same time, you know?

Don't admit to that, you're practically saying men can't multi task ffs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"single guys are the pits!!

I got blocked the other day for not wanting to discus watersports with someone who clearly hadn't read my profile...well obviously they had only read that bit

* kinda think I dodged a bullet though

Read your profile there you sure it was YOU that dodged the bullet?

definitely

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Let's be honest... most guys on here are complete morons.

Unfortunately... after I've read 100 messages from idiots.. if the 101st one is off a nice guy then I'm already too annoyed by then to try to be nice.

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By *ucyfur77Woman over a year ago

Pleasuretown

So if someone is genuinely single then they must have something wrong with them?"

I wouldnt take that one seriously

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By *xyzptlk088Man over a year ago

Galway

"Let's be honest... most guys on here are complete morons.

Unfortunately... after I've read 100 messages from idiots.. if the 101st one is off a nice guy then I'm already too annoyed by then to try to be nice.

na all the dudes on here are class acts it's the females that have the issues

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi, so don't panic this is not a whinge fest.

Keep it honest and keep it polite. "

Demonised? Try saying you're married, that's a proper way to be Demonised dude....lol

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By *xyzptlk088Man over a year ago

Galway

"single guys are the pits!!

I got blocked the other day for not wanting to discus watersports with someone who clearly hadn't read my profile...well obviously they had only read that bit

* kinda think I dodged a bullet though

Read your profile there you sure it was YOU that dodged the bullet?

definitely

I love reading but dayummm war and peace isn't a great profiler

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

"Hi, so don't panic this is not a whinge fest.

Keep it honest and keep it polite.

Demonised? Try saying you're married, that's a proper way to be Demonised dude....lol

Don't tell them....

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

So if someone is genuinely single then they must have something wrong with them?

I wouldnt take that one seriously

What is "genuinely" single? Even nutters can be "genuinely" single..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Let's be honest... most guys on here are complete morons.

Unfortunately... after I've read 100 messages from idiots.. if the 101st one is off a nice guy then I'm already too annoyed by then to try to be nice.

This!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"single guys are the pits!!

I got blocked the other day for not wanting to discus watersports with someone who clearly hadn't read my profile...well obviously they had only read that bit

* kinda think I dodged a bullet though

Read your profile there you sure it was YOU that dodged the bullet?

definitely

I love reading but dayummm war and peace isn't a great profiler"

good job you're not the type of person I wish to attract then

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You only have control of your actions. So, if other guys want to be a twat then there isn't much you can do.

I don't feel demonised.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi, so don't panic this is not a whinge fest.

Keep it honest and keep it polite. "

I only meet single guys and I don't have any problem with them whatsoever. I rarely get bullshit or hassle from them, and the men I've met on the whole have become regular playmates.

I like to see face, body and tasteful cock pics - either on the profile or with the first message - but not action shots.

A literate profile text, with a bit of humour...general info, what he wants, what he has to offer. Veris on display because I will check them back. Coherent messages tailored to me.

I don't discriminate against married or cheating guys, because that would be hypocritical...if I like a man I'll meet him regardless

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By *xyzptlk088Man over a year ago

Galway

"single guys are the pits!!

I got blocked the other day for not wanting to discus watersports with someone who clearly hadn't read my profile...well obviously they had only read that bit

* kinda think I dodged a bullet though

Read your profile there you sure it was YOU that dodged the bullet?

definitely

I love reading but dayummm war and peace isn't a great profiler

good job you're not the type of person I wish to attract then

Guess I will have to live the rest of my days in solitude then regretting what could have been and yearning for the day you change your mind. well that of I could just go and shag someone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"single guys are the pits!!

I got blocked the other day for not wanting to discus watersports with someone who clearly hadn't read my profile...well obviously they had only read that bit

* kinda think I dodged a bullet though

Read your profile there you sure it was YOU that dodged the bullet?

definitely

I love reading but dayummm war and peace isn't a great profiler

good job you're not the type of person I wish to attract then

Guess I will have to live the rest of my days in solitude then regretting what could have been and yearning for the day you change your mind. well that of I could just go and shag someone

MYA

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So if someone is genuinely single then they must have something wrong with them?

I wouldnt take that one seriously

What is "genuinely" single? Even nutters can be "genuinely" single.."

Genuinely single is someone that is single by every single definition, no husband no boyfriend no significant other, as opposed to the people that say they're single but have a significant other who is unaware. Genuine single people of a certain age, in your words, must have something wrong with them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've never felt demonised on here as a 'Single Guy'. Maybe it is a Club thing?

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By *londieddWoman over a year ago

fife

"Hi, so don't panic this is not a whinge fest.

Keep it honest and keep it polite. "
never demonised one! Single guys are why I'm here!

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

"I don't think single guys are demonised at all, at least not the decent ones who go about their Fab business with respect and consideration, and don't have their expectations set too high.

Couldn't put it any better.

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By *xyzptlk088Man over a year ago

Galway

Wow my views have skyrocketed

but dayummmm so has the number of blocks I've received haha,didn't wana see them sad ass profiles anyway

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Are they demonised? I've never been aware of it. It's very hard here for single men, but I wouldn't be having as much fun as I am if they weren't here. There's a disproportionate amount of men here, so it'll be hard to get anywhere but some manage quite nicely. It is a minefield though, a lot of messages I get are from blatantly fake profiles, or fellas who are far away, passing through or who want to Skype or kik me! I don't tar all single men the same though, as there's a kernel of perfectly sane fun fellas in there too.

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I don't demonise single men, I love 'em....'cept for the odd demonised one.....

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By *thwalescplCouple over a year ago

brecon

"Hi, so don't panic this is not a whinge fest.

Keep it honest and keep it polite. "

Our problem with single guys is two-fold.

firstly, many of them aren't single, the numbers of "attached" but claiming to be single has risen a lot over the last couple of years.

Secondly, as the numbers of single guys has risen, so it seems has the idea of this being some form of "instashag" site, which generates an attitude of expectation.

Not all (genuine) single guys are bad, but the swarms of numpties means its harder to find the good guys.

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By *thwalescplCouple over a year ago

brecon

"I don't demonise single guys, single guys are what I'm looking for (I look and do my own messaging)

Your profile says you are not looking for single guys???"

This is a way of stopping guys swamping her with messages.

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By *xyzptlk088Man over a year ago

Galway

"I don't demonise single guys, single guys are what I'm looking for (I look and do my own messaging)

Your profile says you are not looking for single guys???

This is a way of stopping guys swamping her with messages."

yup like that'll work

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't demonise single guys, single guys are what I'm looking for (I look and do my own messaging)

Your profile says you are not looking for single guys???

This is a way of stopping guys swamping her with messages.

yup like that'll work

Works great

You simply block all guys and then do your own hunting

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Wow my views have skyrocketed

but dayummmm so has the number of blocks I've received haha,didn't wana see them sad ass profiles anyway

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What is as a couple would look for in a single man is not necessarily the same as what a single lady would look. There are single male profiles that I might go for if I were single and looking for a one-to-one NSA relationship, but we wouldn't touch them with a barge pole as a couple. Reason being, is because their profile reads that they are focusing on single ladies. As a couple we are very aware that we are only afterthoughts for many single men because there aren't enough single ladies to go round. So for us to take an interest in a male profile, it has to be suggested that the man in question is genuinely interested in swinging and understands the dynamics of playing with an MF couple. We also look for a man who demonstrates sex appeal in his profile pictures, and we look for a man that we think we can get on with socially.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi, so don't panic this is not a whinge fest.

Keep it honest and keep it polite. "

No ones demonising anyone.

Think how many people do the lottery each week. Most win nothing, but they keep trying week in week out. They don't complain that the lottery is demonising them.

They have optimistic hope and patience.

This Fabs thing, is heavily biased in numbers in favour of ladies.

So the men here have to make their own way to stand out or become interesting to others, and increase your odds.

You won't do that with;

cock pictures;

sentences of 3 words or less;

profile that's the same as others;

Say something of yourself, what you're looking for, and keep it interesting or relevant to you.

If you've got an imagination, use it.

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I love single men, and to be honest the profile isn't what draws me in. Its a decent message and a pic or two that does that.

However there are certainly some men on the Fab forums, even on this very thread, that don't help the image of single men at all. You know the ones: 'all women on Fab are up their own arses', 'the women on here are ugly and don't deserve the types of men they're after', 'if women won't meet me then they're all fake, or ugly munters'.

Seriously fellas, how is that supposed to help your cause in getting women to be attracted to you? You'll get noticed, sure, but not for what you were hoping for.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't demonise single guys, single guys are what I'm looking for (I look and do my own messaging)

Your profile says you are not looking for single guys???

This is a way of stopping guys swamping her with messages.

yup like that'll work

Works great

You simply block all guys and then do your own hunting

I wish more women would do this.

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By *thwalescplCouple over a year ago

brecon

"single guys are the pits!!

I got blocked the other day for not wanting to discus watersports with someone who clearly hadn't read my profile...well obviously they had only read that bit

* kinda think I dodged a bullet though

Read your profile there you sure it was YOU that dodged the bullet?

Oh dear oh dear

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't demonise single guys, single guys are what I'm looking for (I look and do my own messaging)

Your profile says you are not looking for single guys???

This is a way of stopping guys swamping her with messages.

yup like that'll work

Works great

You simply block all guys and then do your own hunting

We once blocked single guys from messaging us, because we don't need to meet any more. However that action also blocked single men, including our own friends, showing up on 'who's looked at me'. We concluded it was important to us to know who's looked at us. Also every now and then a gem comes along who we might have missed.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi, so don't panic this is not a whinge fest.

Keep it honest and keep it polite.

No ones demonising anyone.

Think how many people do the lottery each week. Most win nothing, but they keep trying week in week out. They don't complain that the lottery is demonising them.

They have optimistic hope and patience.

This Fabs thing, is heavily biased in numbers in favour of ladies.

So the men here have to make their own way to stand out or become interesting to others, and increase your odds.

You won't do that with;

cock pictures;

sentences of 3 words or less;

profile that's the same as others;

Say something of yourself, what you're looking for, and keep it interesting or relevant to you.

If you've got an imagination, use it.

It's not really like the lottery. Some men get meets all the time, some men will never get a meet. It's probably a lottery for the men that fall in that middle ground.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

So if someone is genuinely single then they must have something wrong with them?

I wouldnt take that one seriously

What is "genuinely" single? Even nutters can be "genuinely" single..

Yes.

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple over a year ago

Bristol

Honest answer

The simple abundance of single guys, results in for every 1 who reads a profile and makes an effort there are far more who do neither just spam one line messages to couples with no intrest.

For every one, who shows up, there are tons motpre who pm ping pong till they bust a nut and then fail to turn up.

As such we only meet single guys at clubs, where profiles don't matter.

Tried to find single on wiggles birthday.. 10 pluss pm latter the guys answer was "ohh you to far away" he was on other side of town centre.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I take everyone as an individual. So tbh it's up to the single guy to sell themselves to me if they want me. I hope I'm treated in this manner too As I only message guys I'm really interested in or who have made the effort. Although I'm not put off a FaF message if I can see a twinkle in the sender's eye.

PTU xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't demonise single guys, single guys are what I'm looking for (I look and do my own messaging) "

Can't imagine you have any problems what so ever!

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By *andsonjohnMan over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"Hi, so don't panic this is not a whinge fest.

Keep it honest and keep it polite.

No ones demonising anyone.

Think how many people do the lottery each week. Most win nothing, but they keep trying week in week out. They don't complain that the lottery is demonising them.

They have optimistic hope and patience.

This Fabs thing, is heavily biased in numbers in favour of ladies.

So the men here have to make their own way to stand out or become interesting to others, and increase your odds.

You won't do that with;

cock pictures;

sentences of 3 words or less;

profile that's the same as others;

Say something of yourself, what you're looking for, and keep it interesting or relevant to you.

If you've got an imagination, use it.

It's not really like the lottery. Some men get meets all the time, some men will never get a meet. It's probably a lottery for the men that fall in that middle ground. "

this is so true sadly guys you may not like to here it but it is.

if you cant entice through you personality through messages you will struggle more than those that can,

but there is a answer to that problem its called the club scene but once again that will only work for you to if your the kind of guy that can hold a conversation in the flesh .

i feel to many guys see sites like this as a easy option dare i say a lazy option even and then start throwing there dummies about when that belief is proven untrue ,

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So if someone is genuinely single then they must have something wrong with them?

I wouldnt take that one seriously

What is "genuinely" single? Even nutters can be "genuinely" single..

Yes.

Why?

Actually I'm gonna do a seperate thread as it's interesting.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Thanks for your input. I'd be up for going to a few socials I think maybe. Best place to find those? "

Quick search of the forums for socials ! Then look for local ones, amble along to local clubs and chat to people.

Every single meet i go on i have zero expectation of playing. I go on socials and meets to be social and meet new people. If anything does happen thats a bonus

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't think single men are demonised, there are some men who act like twats but then so do some women and couples. I have a great time on here I've never felt demonised. I do feel embarrassed sometimes when I see or hear about the behaviour of some other guys but the more men who act like doofuses the less competition there is

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