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By *ikeC81 OP Man
over a year ago
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I am going to a funeral today and I must say I am breaking away from the traditional white shirt and wearing a black shirt with black tie
Now i know that some people might be offended but I don't care. My funeral I want everyone to come in football shirts but that's me
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends on the person and what the family wants
Normally black out of respect but when my friends young daughter passed away the parents wanted yellow as it was hopes favourite colour |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just something smart and dark for respect
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 black shirt and tie sounds ok provided it's smart.
The bit I was more concerned about was the "I know some people might be offended but I don't care" - I'm not sure I would be quite so blasé about causing offence at a funeral but from what the OP describes I think the attire is fine! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If its any a my .trying not to pop in to street talk here lol...friends from my miss spent youth allways break out the 1880s pimp stick n Cain ...shes a bute lovely silver bulldog all ingraved for head n handle and a cheeky test tube in top of stick its self for chosen poison of day ...and a lovely top hat from 1920\30 proper old school one ...and as they say man a wear black so just go as per say  ....black suit n tie for family or as requested for others best not to go in day glow 80s acid house get up even if that was how you remember them if not asked to ...people get all uppity  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends on the dead's wishes.
Normally it's dark colours, but been to one where she specifically didn't want black, as she wanted it to be a celebration of her life. |
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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago
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If no request were made specifically, I'd go with black.
My dad requested no black or boiler suits! He was an engineer and lived in them and had a fsirly twisted sense of humour. So, for his service, that is what I wore, along with my brother and several members of our close family. |
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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago
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"If no request were made specifically, I'd go with black.
My dad requested no black or boiler suits! He was an engineer and lived in them and had a fsirly twisted sense of humour. So, for his service, that is what I wore, along with my brother and several members of our close family."
Oh dear, that sounds like I went against my Dad's wishes. He wanted us to wear boiler suits and specified no black, bright colours only. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If no request were made specifically, I'd go with black.
My dad requested no black or boiler suits! He was an engineer and lived in them and had a fsirly twisted sense of humour. So, for his service, that is what I wore, along with my brother and several members of our close family.
Oh dear, that sounds like I went against my Dad's wishes. He wanted us to wear boiler suits and specified no black, bright colours only."
 I did wonder! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some people like you to wear a colour .when my friend died we all wore pink .Feels different when it's someone young whose funeral it is .Just look smart. |
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Seems strange to say some people might be offended but you don't care. The funeral is about the deceased person and beginning closure for friends and relatives.
I don't know the situation between you and the deceased. Please be sympathetic to what you think and what other people want from this important day. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Depends on the location. For men usually either a towel/tight boxers and women sexy lingerie or as little as they want."
.....hell yes that's how mine can go ....dirty big sound system two marquee's one for more normal one for the wrong n wonderful on edge of some big ass cliffs ...big pyre n light me up n watch me blow out across the see then carry on partying till the riot squad turns up .....just a thought lol
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"Seems strange to say some people might be offended but you don't care. The funeral is about the deceased person and beginning closure for friends and relatives.
I don't know the situation between you and the deceased. Please be sympathetic to what you think and what other people want from this important day."
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I've been to a funeral where the scruffy side of his family turned up in football tops and trackies (it wasn't requested. They just had no concept of social ettiquette and a lack of manners) nothing was said though, they obviously weren't brought up to be educated as such. At the end of the day go dressed as Mr blobby if you want, I doubt anything would be said, they'll be glad your presence was made.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dark suit or trousers& jacket with a black tie unless stated otherwise.
I've been to services where bright colours were requested and one where fancy dress was requested |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've never known anyone to be offended by a black shirt rather than a white one, my hubby wore a black shirt to our wedding!
I'm sure no one will bat an eyelid. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Black is worn at a funeral as legend goes that at a funeral the devil.looks for the person dressed in white .traditionally the deceased is dressed in white |
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By (user no longer on site)
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i think times or changing , whereas we used to mourn at funerals its changed to celebrating there life ..
id wear smart casual , as long as you dont look like the odd one out , where what your happy wearing .
ties are old hat in my opinion , dont see the point in wearing one .
suit with open neck shirt always looks smart |
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"i think times or changing , whereas we used to mourn at funerals its changed to celebrating there life ..
id wear smart casual , as long as you dont look like the odd one out , where what your happy wearing .
ties are old hat in my opinion , dont see the point in wearing one .
suit with open neck shirt always looks smart"
but I'm thinking not smart enough if everyone else is in ties. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I turned up to one with a canary yellow tie after being told the deceased wanted bright colours. Guess what i looked a pratt as nobody else honored his wishes |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am going to a funeral today and I must say I am breaking away from the traditional white shirt and wearing a black shirt with black tie
Now i know that some people might be offended but I don't care. My funeral I want everyone to come in football shirts but that's me
What would you normally wear "
I think you have to judge it on the relationship you had with the deceased |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think you have to judge it on the relationship you had with the deceased "
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Surely it's about how you wish to pay your respect and not how everyone else wants you to. If others were demanding how I should go about my mourning, I'd stay away. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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After going to two funerals in the last few weeks I was shocked at what people do wear, but then maybe I am just old school.
Black plus a white blouse for me unless they asked for something specific. I wouldn't dream of wearing something and not caring whether I offend the people who have lost loved ones though  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am going to a funeral today and I must say I am breaking away from the traditional white shirt and wearing a black shirt with black tie
Now i know that some people might be offended but I don't care. My funeral I want everyone to come in football shirts but that's me
What would you normally wear "
Why would anyone be offended if you wore a black shirt? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have a dedicated suit, shirt and tie for funerals. Annoyingly of late people are saying where x colour or dress in bright clothes. It's not good... I don't want to have lots of wear once clothing...
OP if your shirt colour is more important than your presence, that is their problem do what you want. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"After going to two funerals in the last few weeks I was shocked at what people do wear, but then maybe I am just old school.
Black plus a white blouse for me unless they asked for something specific. I wouldn't dream of wearing something and not caring whether I offend the people who have lost loved ones though "
PS I don't think you would offend them with a black shirt though |
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By *annGentMan
over a year ago
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I've never worn black to a funeral, but always looked smart.
First funeral I went to was my wife's, and I viewed it as a celebration of her and her life, and therefore, in my eyes, I don't wear black.
Folk should wear what they want to ...
Black shirt and tie sounds |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i think times or changing , whereas we used to mourn at funerals its changed to celebrating there life ..
id wear smart casual , as long as you dont look like the odd one out , where what your happy wearing .
ties are old hat in my opinion , dont see the point in wearing one .
suit with open neck shirt always looks smart
but I'm thinking not smart enough if everyone else is in ties."
If they want to wear ties thats upto them I suppose.
But nice well fitted black suit and fitted black shirt without a tie still looks very respectable.
I had lots of comments how nice I looked even though it was a funeral  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I turned up to one with a canary yellow tie after being told the deceased wanted bright colours. Guess what i looked a pratt as nobody else honored his wishes"
Wife loved bright colours, so I requested that everyone wear a splash of something cheerful. Mine was a bright yellow shirt and purple tie, under a normal smart suit.
Would usually follow wishes of the family. Otherwise, something subdued and respectful. |
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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago
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My father was an accomplished ballroom dancer and taught it at a dancing school. He was much in demand in his region of the UK as a dance partner for all the female dancers attending dinners, balls, and dances.
For his funeral, his request was for everyone to wear what they would for a dance. The ladies in the region turned out in force, over 300 of them, all in their finest dance gowns, all looking resplendent and so much colour too!
His funeral wasn't sombre. His coffin had his dancing shoes, a cane and Top Hat on top as it was carried in to a Tango being played on the music system.
Whilst a few tears, there were a lot of smiles & laughter. The Crematorium staff said it had been one the most colourful funerals in years, & had never heard so much joy at such an occasion.
My father never liked funerals; always attended them paying his respects but said they were "a load of mumbo jumbo!"
Hopefully, my brother & I got it right; if not, we've both got a helluva reception from him at the Pearly Gates! |
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"My father was an accomplished ballroom dancer and taught it at a dancing school. He was much in demand in his region of the UK as a dance partner for all the female dancers attending dinners, balls, and dances.
For his funeral, his request was for everyone to wear what they would for a dance. The ladies in the region turned out in force, over 300 of them, all in their finest dance gowns, all looking resplendent and so much colour too!
His funeral wasn't sombre. His coffin had his dancing shoes, a cane and Top Hat on top as it was carried in to a Tango being played on the music system.
Whilst a few tears, there were a lot of smiles & laughter. The Crematorium staff said it had been one the most colourful funerals in years, & had never heard so much joy at such an occasion.
My father never liked funerals; always attended them paying his respects but said they were "a load of mumbo jumbo!"
Hopefully, my brother & I got it right; if not, we've both got a helluva reception from him at the Pearly Gates!"
That sound's lovely,you'll have done him proud! |
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"I am going to a funeral today and I must say I am breaking away from the traditional white shirt and wearing a black shirt with black tie
Now i know that some people might be offended but I don't care. My funeral I want everyone to come in football shirts but that's me
What would you normally wear "
Your outfit sounds fine: you're attitude on the other hand...  |
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"Just something smart and dark for respect
Xx
black shirt and tie sounds ok provided it's smart.
The bit I was more concerned about was the "I know some people might be offended but I don't care" - I'm not sure I would be quite so blasé about causing offence at a funeral but from what the OP describes I think the attire is fine!"
Not just me then! |
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"I've never worn black to a funeral, but always looked smart.
First funeral I went to was my wife's, and I viewed it as a celebration of her and her life, and therefore, in my eyes, I don't wear black.
Folk should wear what they want to ...
Black shirt and tie sounds "
At my son's funeral bright colours : just seemed wrong black for a baby. I didn't like the undertaker walking in front of the hearse appropriate either.
However, the black clothing and the undertaker walking in front of my mothers coffin was apt.
Folk should have the decency to adhere to the wishes of the family and the acumen to dress accordingly if dress code not specified. |
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