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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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i thought this would be an easy one to accomplish but proving more tricky than first thought as a lot of the single guys don't seem to want to do a social first. I know so many complain about not meeting but when given the opportunity to they let you down. Hmmmmm maybe I'm asking to much to have a social first? For me the social helps me relax and know I have a connection etc. What's everyone's thoughts? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Social first never play .play another time if a connection.  "
See this is how we've always worked especially with cpls and ladies and never been an issue but with the guys it seems to be  x |
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"I'm surprised to hear that you can't get one set up.
Did you try posting a meet for your social?"
Yeah why don't you post a meet and specify it's social only. Should out a good chunk? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'm surprised to hear that you can't get one set up.
Did you try posting a meet for your social?"
No, from the ones I've spoken to everything going good then I mention social and they either stop chatting, arrange and don't show or just ask for a bj lol x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We are in the same boat at the moment. And some of the guys think a social means they will get a blow at the end of the evening 
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Yup I know what you mean haha. For me it's all about chemistry and I have to connect with them mentally and physically to play x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'm surprised to hear that you can't get one set up.
Did you try posting a meet for your social?
Yeah why don't you post a meet and specify it's social only. Should out a good chunk? "
This is true but I always state it in messages anyway but yes may give that a try x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"In our experience OP, the "single" guys that don't have time for a social first, frequently have other commitments  "
Yes I did think of this, we have been swingers a long time and used to most things on here but this one had me baffled and annoyed haha x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"...Yup I know what you mean haha. For me it's all about chemistry and I have to connect with them mentally and physically to play x "
Same here. If I don't like their personality and can't have a conversation with them, I have no interest in shagging them |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i thought this would be an easy one to accomplish but proving more tricky than first thought as a lot of the single guys don't seem to want to do a social first. I know so many complain about not meeting but when given the opportunity to they let you down. Hmmmmm maybe I'm asking to much to have a social first? For me the social helps me relax and know I have a connection etc. What's everyone's thoughts? "
We think you've just been unlucky. Lots of guys are happy to do a social first. |
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If possible try find guys who have experience in a MMF environment, as it will give you some reassurance that they are comfortable in that scenario.
What your asking regarding meeting to chat first is also not asking much, should help out the messers if they aren't interested in doing that first.
Good luck with your search. |
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"Same here. If I don't like their personality and can't have a conversation with them, I have no interest in shagging them "
Whoah are you trying to say you don't like an awkward lay around after sex?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Social first never play .play another time if a connection.
See this is how we've always worked especially with cpls and ladies and never been an issue but with the guys it seems to be x "
With married men it is as time restricted.There bedtime is early. Lol |
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Interesting. We've started a thread in the 'swinging support & advice' part of the forum on the subject of delving into MMF and the best way to go about it. The overwhelming answer from single guys was do a social first.
We were (and still are) leaning toward picking a guy up in a club for soft play first but most of the single men were disagreeing with this. Whether that's because they don't want to pay into a club I'm not sure!
Not sure if you've just been unlucky on this OP. |
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I've found, from what the mrs has told me, that even when she has met a guy for a social, he still expects at the very least a blow job at the end of the evening |
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"I've found, from what the mrs has told me, that even when she has met a guy for a social, he still expects at the very least a blow job at the end of the evening "
A good indication that he's selfish. A good reason to have a social first, and discover these things. |
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"I've found, from what the mrs has told me, that even when she has met a guy for a social, he still expects at the very least a blow job at the end of the evening
A good indication that he's selfish. A good reason to have a social first, and discover these things."
Yup, there's not too many guys around that are happy to just meet for a chat and see if there's a spark, they expect sex, they won't say anything at first of course but will hope to win her over during the evening. |
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i've never had a social where the guy expects sex, but think that's because they usually let on in PM that they expect sex at that social so i don't meet them.
i've found a lot of genuinely single men are open to socials. but for 1 on 1 meets. only ever turned down one guy for sex after a social and that's coz i could tell he'd put up with the social in the hope of sex and i didn't enjoy the social because of that. |
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"i thought this would be an easy one to accomplish but proving more tricky than first thought as a lot of the single guys don't seem to want to do a social first. I know so many complain about not meeting but when given the opportunity to they let you down. Hmmmmm maybe I'm asking to much to have a social first? For me the social helps me relax and know I have a connection etc. What's everyone's thoughts? "
I've wanted mmf for years but I need to find 2 males willing but like you I'd need social first to establish attraction etc, then comes the coordinating of availability etc, not easy! Still never managed it! Maybe one day!  |
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"Interesting. We've started a thread in the 'swinging support & advice' part of the forum on the subject of delving into MMF and the best way to go about it. The overwhelming answer from single guys was do a social first.
We were (and still are) leaning toward picking a guy up in a club for soft play first but most of the single men were disagreeing with this. Whether that's because they don't want to pay into a club I'm not sure!
Not sure if you've just been unlucky on this OP."
A lot of guys find clubs difficult as we generally are discriminated against, we have to pay more to get in and being a single guy is weighed against by all the single desperate guys that give us a bad reputation. I would prefer a social first as it will show if both parties really mean what they're asking for. |
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Personally I would prefer a social drink or two to get to know the other beforehand but it certainly doesn't have to be the same day as playtime, in fact a longer buildup of anticipation is a good thing |
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