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Probably but who cares. It's up to us to prove we aren't all Cocks not them to find out. I've been part of a couple on here and the msges you get off single guys I totally get where couples come from blocking us all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Reading from similar posts I'd say we are by volume going to suffer as the bad lot ,as it takes the ladies and couples so long to out the good from the bad ....but again from posts there's bad couples ,bad single fems...think it's purely down to numbers |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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No they/we are not at all - I think the only ones that actually think that are the "entitled" ones that come on here with their minimal profiles and nothing but cock pics who bemoan their lack of meets.
There are a lot of single/solo male profiles here who are well thought of, do get meets and just go about their Fab business without any expectations or sense of entitlement and are anything but lepers.
You get out of this place what you put into it at the end of the day. |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
Bristol |
"We will be rounded up and put on an island with no boat"
Never mind. Some of the single guys on here are pretty adept at sweet talking the little man in a boat so at least some of you would make it off the island. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Only the ones with Fab leprosy.
I'm here for single blokes (when I'm meeting) but it's much harder to find them than you'd think.
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I never knew leprosy was fab  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We like our single guys. Just once we have our stable of studs, then the rest of the single guys on Fab are of no use. Not enough enough hours in the day  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No they/we are not at all - I think the only ones that actually think that are the "entitled" ones that come on here with their minimal profiles and nothing but cock pics who bemoan their lack of meets.
There are a lot of single/solo male profiles here who are well thought of, do get meets and just go about their Fab business without any expectations or sense of entitlement and are anything but lepers.
You get out of this place what you put into it at the end of the day."
This  |
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You get out of this place what you put into it at the end of the day."
Not strictly true; there are many guys in here who do everything 'right', and for many reasons out of their control, don't get results/meets  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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You get out of this place what you put into it at the end of the day.
Not strictly true; there are many guys in here who do everything 'right', and for many reasons out of their control, don't get results/meets "
Completely agree. If all men put effort in and got it right there would still be some who don't get meets. That because (as I said in yesterday's thread) there are too many men for all to get a bite of the bate.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a relatively new single guy its been interesting to see how you are treated, not that I blame most for being cautious at best or hostile at worst.
I think it's a case of building a rapport and trust. I think you have to be here a while to get a reputation of being genuine, decent and relaxed.
On the face of it it's a tough scene to break into, but to be fair why wouldn't it be tough?
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"As a relatively new single guy its been interesting to see how you are treated, not that I blame most for being cautious at best or hostile at worst.
I think it's a case of building a rapport and trust. I think you have to be here a while to get a reputation of being genuine, decent and relaxed.
On the face of it it's a tough scene to break into, but to be fair why wouldn't it be tough?
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If I lived in Blackpool mate, I wouldn't be wasting my time in here. You have plenty of clubs on your doorstep that you can visit almost anytime of day or night, with a gazillion times more chances of success |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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From my experience:
Guys tend not to read profiles of the women they contact, have pictureless profiles, say 'hi' and nothing else. They don't introduce themselves or just appear a bit lechy.
The ones that make a bit of effort, look at what I'm after and take note.....are the ones I speak to the most.
Can be tricky for men when they are not helping themselves.
I'm generalising and there are some good ones. |
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"Most definitely not,I only meet single guy's
Pffft 
Where's the 'blowing a kiss' emoji 
And the 1 finger 1
and where would you like my one finger? 
Only 1 way you'll find out "
Well be warned I won't be sticking it anywhere that can't get a tan |
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"Most definitely not,I only meet single guy's
Pffft
Where's the 'blowing a kiss' emoji
And the 1 finger 1
and where would you like my one finger?
Only 1 way you'll find out
Well be warned I won't be sticking it anywhere that can't get a tan "
Hey at least that's some progress |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Most definitely not,I only meet single guy's
Pffft
Where's the 'blowing a kiss' emoji
And the 1 finger 1
and where would you like my one finger?
Only 1 way you'll find out
Well be warned I won't be sticking it anywhere that can't get a tan
Hey at least that's some progress "
for you that's bloody good |
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"Most definitely not,I only meet single guy's
Pffft
Where's the 'blowing a kiss' emoji
And the 1 finger 1
and where would you like my one finger?
Only 1 way you'll find out
Well be warned I won't be sticking it anywhere that can't get a tan
Hey at least that's some progress
for you that's bloody good "
Ftfy |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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You get out of this place what you put into it at the end of the day.
Not strictly true; there are many guys in here who do everything 'right', and for many reasons out of their control, don't get results/meets
Completely agree. If all men put effort in and got it right there would still be some who don't get meets. That because (as I said in yesterday's thread) there are too many men for all to get a bite of the bate.
Mrs"
I didn't mean to suggest that there was any guarantee of getting a meet with that statement - or that by doing things 'right' all single guys would magically get a meet. As you've rightly pointed out sheer supply and demand would mean that there would be some that don't get meets no matter how respectful, considerate and "nice" they are.
What I meant was that if, as a single/solo male profile you go into this with low expectations and no sense of entitlement then you are not going to be disappointed when things don't work out, but very well may be pleasantly surprised when they do. It may take time and patience, but with the right attitude and approach I honestly believe it's possible for anyone to get meets out of this place. It's just when people think they have a right to get them that things go awry. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Most definitely not,I only meet single guy's
Pffft
Where's the 'blowing a kiss' emoji
And the 1 finger 1
and where would you like my one finger?
Only 1 way you'll find out
Well be warned I won't be sticking it anywhere that can't get a tan
Hey at least that's some progress
for you that's bloody good
Ftfy "
eh you've done nowt for me |
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You get out of this place what you put into it at the end of the day.
Not strictly true; there are many guys in here who do everything 'right', and for many reasons out of their control, don't get results/meets
Completely agree. If all men put effort in and got it right there would still be some who don't get meets. That because (as I said in yesterday's thread) there are too many men for all to get a bite of the bate.
Mrs
I didn't mean to suggest that there was any guarantee of getting a meet with that statement - or that by doing things 'right' all single guys would magically get a meet. As you've rightly pointed out sheer supply and demand would mean that there would be some that don't get meets no matter how respectful, considerate and "nice" they are.
What I meant was that if, as a single/solo male profile you go into this with low expectations and no sense of entitlement then you are not going to be disappointed when things don't work out, but very well may be pleasantly surprised when they do. It may take time and patience, but with the right attitude and approach I honestly believe it's possible for anyone to get meets out of this place. It's just when people think they have a right to get them that things go awry."
I hear what you're saying, and actually agree completely. No guy comes in here thinking they have a 'right' to get meets though, but every bloke thinks they might just get lucky at some point. It's the frustration of the ignored messages, deleted without reply, the fake profiles, the closet gay men collecting cock pics, the women who lead you on, stand you up for meets, then post verifications from meeting another guy, all these things test the most ardent soul |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"I didn't mean to suggest that there was any guarantee of getting a meet with that statement - or that by doing things 'right' all single guys would magically get a meet. As you've rightly pointed out sheer supply and demand would mean that there would be some that don't get meets no matter how respectful, considerate and "nice" they are.
What I meant was that if, as a single/solo male profile you go into this with low expectations and no sense of entitlement then you are not going to be disappointed when things don't work out, but very well may be pleasantly surprised when they do. It may take time and patience, but with the right attitude and approach I honestly believe it's possible for anyone to get meets out of this place. It's just when people think they have a right to get them that things go awry.
I hear what you're saying, and actually agree completely. No guy comes in here thinking they have a 'right' to get meets though, but every bloke thinks they might just get lucky at some point. It's the frustration of the ignored messages, deleted without reply, the fake profiles, the closet gay men collecting cock pics, the women who lead you on, stand you up for meets, then post verifications from meeting another guy, all these things test the most ardent soul "
Oh it can be frustrating for sure and for many reasons, but the difference is accepting those frustrations as part of Fab life or bemoaning them constantly as a reason that Fab is crap - and it's those that fall into the latter category that see themselves as 'lepers' and give that up as a reason for their lack of success. Sadly there are also plenty that DO come on here that think they have a 'right' to instant sex on tap that also fall into that category.
Personally speaking on the rare occasions I've sent an unsolicited message to open a conversation with someone I do so with minimal expectation of a reply but always make sure it's polite, courteous and pays attention to the recipients profile - if it generates a response it's a nice surprise, if it gets deleted or goes unread then c'est la vie. |
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"I didn't mean to suggest that there was any guarantee of getting a meet with that statement - or that by doing things 'right' all single guys would magically get a meet. As you've rightly pointed out sheer supply and demand would mean that there would be some that don't get meets no matter how respectful, considerate and "nice" they are.
What I meant was that if, as a single/solo male profile you go into this with low expectations and no sense of entitlement then you are not going to be disappointed when things don't work out, but very well may be pleasantly surprised when they do. It may take time and patience, but with the right attitude and approach I honestly believe it's possible for anyone to get meets out of this place. It's just when people think they have a right to get them that things go awry.
I hear what you're saying, and actually agree completely. No guy comes in here thinking they have a 'right' to get meets though, but every bloke thinks they might just get lucky at some point. It's the frustration of the ignored messages, deleted without reply, the fake profiles, the closet gay men collecting cock pics, the women who lead you on, stand you up for meets, then post verifications from meeting another guy, all these things test the most ardent soul
Oh it can be frustrating for sure and for many reasons, but the difference is accepting those frustrations as part of Fab life or bemoaning them constantly as a reason that Fab is crap - and it's those that fall into the latter category that see themselves as 'lepers' and give that up as a reason for their lack of success. Sadly there are also plenty that DO come on here that think they have a 'right' to instant sex on tap that also fall into that category.
Personally speaking on the rare occasions I've sent an unsolicited message to open a conversation with someone I do so with minimal expectation of a reply but always make sure it's polite, courteous and pays attention to the recipients profile - if it generates a response it's a nice surprise, if it gets deleted or goes unread then c'est la vie. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Are single guys the lepers of this site? We are not all bad"
I do care what people think about me.
I don't care what they think about single guys in general. That's stereotyping and it's unfair, and usually wrong.
People will probably allready know, we're not all bad. Your right.
Top tip- Don't eat the finger rolls at a leper party. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Are single guys the lepers of this site? We are not all bad
Just the ones that have nothing but cock shots. That's what they think with."
Ironic that your only pic is a cock pic |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Are single guys the lepers of this site? We are not all bad"
Some are. Some aren't. Just like some are total wankers with no social skills, some are gems that I'm proud to call friends/play mates. However this applies to all groups and isn't just all about single males. If you think you are a leper then the issue lies with you. |
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Single guys aren't bad at all. They just outnumber any other demographic on the site massively. We happily talk to single guys we seek out, but we had to put incoming filters on as the volume of messages just didn't make it possible to keep up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We've spoken to quite a few guys and we've had the majority that don't see the wider picture in communication, so we constantly have to ask basic/constant questions. So messaging gets rather painful and tedious. There are moments where the other party should pop that obvious extra info in but they don't, as in, their basic reply just begs the next basic question.
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"We've spoken to quite a few guys and we've had the majority that don't see the wider picture in communication, so we constantly have to ask basic/constant questions. So messaging gets rather painful and tedious. There are moments where the other party should pop that obvious extra info in but they don't, as in, their basic reply just begs the next basic question.
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We've noticed that with guys, women and couples. That you get the one word answers that seem to want you to do the work for a chat. We give it one or two, but quickly figure they'd make more effort if they were interested. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's not really about numbers tbh. I think there's a 'greedy' element that leads people towards too many wrong ones for all groups.
Being picky and unashamedly about it actually reaps huge benefits. There are a lot of time wasters in all groups on here not just guys. Know who and what you're looking for and take your time and reap the higher rewards. |
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"We've spoken to quite a few guys and we've had the majority that don't see the wider picture in communication, so we constantly have to ask basic/constant questions. So messaging gets rather painful and tedious. There are moments where the other party should pop that obvious extra info in but they don't, as in, their basic reply just begs the next basic question.
We've noticed that with guys, women and couples. That you get the one word answers that seem to want you to do the work for a chat. We give it one or two, but quickly figure they'd make more effort if they were interested."
We find this too. |
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"As a relatively new single guy its been interesting to see how you are treated, not that I blame most for being cautious at best or hostile at worst.
I think it's a case of building a rapport and trust. I think you have to be here a while to get a reputation of being genuine, decent and relaxed.
On the face of it it's a tough scene to break into, but to be fair why wouldn't it be tough?
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I hope I don't fall into the hostile category lol  |
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"We've spoken to quite a few guys and we've had the majority that don't see the wider picture in communication, so we constantly have to ask basic/constant questions. So messaging gets rather painful and tedious. There are moments where the other party should pop that obvious extra info in but they don't, as in, their basic reply just begs the next basic question.
That's a good point but personally it's messaging on here I find difficult and fragmented, I have my blonde moments so prefer kik where I can look back at conversations. Also don't want detailed conversations initially just want to see if there is a point in continuing messaging.
We've noticed that with guys, women and couples. That you get the one word answers that seem to want you to do the work for a chat. We give it one or two, but quickly figure they'd make more effort if they were interested."
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Something for you guys to think about there are certain times when you all seem to message i.e. peak times, if you can avoid these times you may be more successful as the ladies will have fewer messages and have time to look at them properly, just a thought! |
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"Are single guys the lepers of this site? We are not all bad"
No but most will feel one 99% of the time.
Its just too many men and not enough women.
The odds are against you im afraid.
But use the sighg for all the other aspects of it and enjoy |
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"The trick is to not be a dickhead and just be nice as a single guy.
And actually single "
Totallt this and of course we all have to find the other person attractive and more to them than a quick fuck and quickly on to the next...... |
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Two meets this week, so no, single males aren't lepers.
Problem is standing out from the crowd made up of
Single males who swing.
Non single males who are cheating
Men who think this is about getting a free fuck, at the drop of an email.
Wankers who get over excited and cum over their keyboards and lose interest.
Timewasters and no-shows.
So it's hard to start, but after you have a few verifications,and show you are reliable, it gets better. |
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"Two meets this week, so no, single males aren't lepers.
Problem is standing out from the crowd made up of
Single males who swing.
Non single males who are cheating
Men who think this is about getting a free fuck, at the drop of an email.
Wankers who get over excited and cum over their keyboards and lose interest.
Timewasters and no-shows.
So it's hard to start, but after you have a few verifications,and show you are reliable, it gets better. "
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"Something for you guys to think about there are certain times when you all seem to message i.e. peak times, if you can avoid these times you may be more successful as the ladies will have fewer messages and have time to look at them properly, just a thought! "
The opposite to listing an item for sale on your favourite auction site lol |
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"Something for you guys to think about there are certain times when you all seem to message i.e. peak times, if you can avoid these times you may be more successful as the ladies will have fewer messages and have time to look at them properly, just a thought!
The opposite to listing an item for sale on your favourite auction site lol "
Yes indeed as you're not looking for the highest bidder but the best home for your prize possession lol |
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"Something for you guys to think about there are certain times when you all seem to message i.e. peak times, if you can avoid these times you may be more successful as the ladies will have fewer messages and have time to look at them properly, just a thought!
The opposite to listing an item for sale on your favourite auction site lol
Yes indeed as you're not looking for the highest bidder but the best home for your prize possession lol"
Mine's a 'buy it now' profile. |
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"Something for you guys to think about there are certain times when you all seem to message i.e. peak times, if you can avoid these times you may be more successful as the ladies will have fewer messages and have time to look at them properly, just a thought!
The opposite to listing an item for sale on your favourite auction site lol
Yes indeed as you're not looking for the highest bidder but the best home for your prize possession lol
Mine's a 'buy it now' profile. "
Mine has no reserve..... |
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"Something for you guys to think about there are certain times when you all seem to message i.e. peak times, if you can avoid these times you may be more successful as the ladies will have fewer messages and have time to look at them properly, just a thought!
The opposite to listing an item for sale on your favourite auction site lol
Yes indeed as you're not looking for the highest bidder but the best home for your prize possession lol
Mine's a 'buy it now' profile.
Mine has no reserve..... "
I'm an absolute bargain. |
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