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Was at a ckub sat night chatting to a friend of mine, who was telling me about a woman who had messaged her regarding a meet with a man she had met off here and asking questions about him and their meet.
Now We just could not understand why a woman would do this and if they wanted to know anything about the man and what the meet was like and what happened ....why would the lady message a woman and not the bloke that she had met if she wanted to know anything.
Seems only a very very insecure lady do this  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe she feels the women would answer her questions about the guy more honestly than he would himself
Most people will say what they think you want to hear to get a meet even if it's not true
It's not something I would do but from a safety point of _iew I can see why some single women will mail previous meets to see what they thought about them |
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I'm not sure it's insecurity. I've had this happen on my single fem profile from women, couples and single men asking questions about folk I'd met. It's one reason I hid my veri's from public _iew. I'd never give any information to anyone else about someone I'd met on here - not only is it bad form, it's unreliable evidence to anyone else. |
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"Some people don't trust their own judgement, apparently, others just like collecting gossip."
Can understand that in many ways...but when she looked at the womans profile she had met the bloke over galf a dozen times |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Some people don't trust their own judgement, apparently, others just like collecting gossip.
Can understand that in many ways...but when she looked at the womans profile she had met the bloke over galf a dozen times "
Then it sounds as if she had developed some kind of attachment and was sussing out the competition, or maybe he was feeding her a line about exclusivity and she didn't trust him.
Or maybe she was a stalker.
Always best steer clear of drama  |
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over a year ago
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"I had a woman message me about a guy I'd met, but not to ask questions, just to tell me she was meeting him and what she thought of how I looked.  "
Marking her territory lmfao |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I had a woman message me about a guy I'd met, but not to ask questions, just to tell me she was meeting him and what she thought of how I looked. "
Classic pissing up the lamp post. I don't get it myself. |
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"I had a woman message me about a guy I'd met, but not to ask questions, just to tell me she was meeting him and what she thought of how I looked.
Classic pissing up the lamp post. I don't get it myself. "
I kind of understand the emotion behind it, but I'd have thought logic would've taken over. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've not had that, but when I met a particular person off here I was blocked by someone he'd previously met even though I'd never even talked to her before.
People are odd. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had a woman message me once wanting to know about a man I'd met, what he was like etc...
I did ask why was she asking me and she said he had told her to, to see what I would say but mainly as he thought the meet had gone well so I would say something favourable ...,
I just said well I'm not meeting him again so there's your answer
It wasn't someone from this site either |
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"I had this last year when I had a single profile briefly. A lady messaged me to warn me off a guy that I was meeting as she said he was hers. "
Oo there's a lamppost let me go piss up it 
Some women are weird. But equality rules, so are men |
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I once had a woman I'd never met message me to try and set up a meet between me and a male friend of hers. Reason being, apparently, that there was 'more chance' of me noticing and reading her message than his, had he written. She referred me to both their veris which 'proved' they'd met and that he was a 'great fuck' (how bloody arrogant).
It was bizarre, and even if I'd been interested the whole method of contacting me would have killed it. Like, was she his pimp or something? .... and would he have run back to her to spill all the gory details after?
I'd never discuss a meet with an 'interested' party ... people need to make up their own minds and if they're so concerned about safety that they need to seek out previous playmates to provide reassurance, that really should tell them something about their gut feeling. Plus it smacks of lamppost pissing which I can't stand. |
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I've had people message me to ask what a meet was like - but only from good friends with similar taste in men who value my opinion - ie if I liked him then they're likely to like him too! I do the same with them as I value their opinion too - and when you have very limited free time you don't want to spend it with someone who isn't what it says on the tin!
Sorry if this sounds harsh in any way - it's not meant to as the majority of my meets have been great!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Filters are a wonderful thing, I met a lady on a previous profile who informed me she had messaged someone who had verified me,,,,
Apparently it was to check if I was genuine or not??
People are wonderful but odd at times |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had it a few times from women when they've seen a veri I've displayed - it's just lamp post pissing and laughable. I never respond. I'm not threatened by any other woman on here, and nor should they feel threatened by me.
I did nearly call off a meet because of one message from a female 'bragging' that she had already met the man in question. He was furious that she was sticking her nose into our business, but since he had no intention of meeting her again it was irrelevant.
I don't entertain drama queens so avoid any guys with multiple veris from the same woman or a regular FB |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Was at a ckub sat night chatting to a friend of mine, who was telling me about a woman who had messaged her regarding a meet with a man she had met off here and asking questions about him and their meet.
Now We just could not understand why a woman would do this and if they wanted to know anything about the man and what the meet was like and what happened ....why would the lady message a woman and not the bloke that she had met if she wanted to know anything.
Seems only a very very insecure lady do this "
Maybe it was because she had her doubts about the guy and wanted some reasurance that he was ok from another woman he had met to help put her mind at rest?
It was probably something as innocent as that ? |
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I'd say definitely safety and I sort of understand it because.....
There was one guy who seemed so horny but something worried me slightly about him (gut feel) and I did consider messaging his previous meets to see whether he was a psycho or not but then thought it seemed a bit OTT, plus the good psychos don't let on they are do they!
So I went with my gut and canned the meet
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd say definitely safety and I sort of understand it because.....
There was one guy who seemed so horny but something worried me slightly about him (gut feel) and I did consider messaging his previous meets to see whether he was a psycho or not but then thought it seemed a bit OTT, plus the good psychos don't let on they are do they!
So I went with my gut and canned the meet
Ruby"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Makes me immediately think of territory marking / lampost pissing.
From a safety aspect ~ If someone was that worried about their safety then they should go with their gut instinct & not meet, rather than ask another stranger for advice..... |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
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I've never had that but I have had a guy messaging the same copy and paste message to all of the verifiers on a male friend's page. It's like he went 'oh, this guy has similar taste in women to me so I'll use his veri list as a to do list'. As a result me and one of the other women involved got chatting. At no point did we discuss the mutually verified friend who was the cause of our initial contact. |
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"I once had a woman I'd never met message me to try and set up a meet between me and a male friend of hers. Reason being, apparently, that there was 'more chance' of me noticing and reading her message than his, had he written. She referred me to both their veris which 'proved' they'd met and that he was a 'great fuck' (how bloody arrogant).
It was bizarre, and even if I'd been interested the whole method of contacting me would have killed it. Like, was she his pimp or something? .... and would he have run back to her to spill all the gory details after?
I'd never discuss a meet with an 'interested' party ... people need to make up their own minds and if they're so concerned about safety that they need to seek out previous playmates to provide reassurance, that really should tell them something about their gut feeling. Plus it smacks of lamppost pissing which I can't stand. "
Exactly my thouggts and thats what I Told her.....and alas she also sent the said message to the bloke so he knew what a odd ball he was and had been meeting....so its his choice then to decide if he wants to meet somebody with such behaviour. |
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