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Are you aware this is a swingers site?

By *ink Panther. OP Woman over a year ago

Preston

Is there any need for guys to be so patronising, yes I'm well aware of the type of site it is!! I may be blonde but my IQ doesn't reflect that. Swinging site or not it is my choice if I want to meet with every guy who messages or not!!! So why is there a need to be passive aggressive and imply I should be meeting every guy that asks?

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By *BW SnowbunnyWoman over a year ago

Somewhere over the Rainbow

I know exactly what you mean. I deleted a message from a guy, he wasn't appealing to me. He then sent another saying I must be really good looking to turn him down.

. Talk about sour grapes

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By *orum TrollWoman over a year ago

•+• Access Denied •+•

ask them what they mean by swinging. if you even wanna reply, coz i wouldn't.

know what you mean though, loads of guys expect you to be on here for their needs.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is there any need for guys to be so patronising, yes I'm well aware of the type of site it is!! I may be blonde but my IQ doesn't reflect that. Swinging site or not it is my choice if I want to meet with every guy who messages or not!!! So why is there a need to be passive aggressive and imply I should be meeting every guy that asks? "

Just use the block button and filter them out

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By *ink Panther. OP Woman over a year ago

Preston

I wouldn't mind I'm never rude and always reply to messages even give profile advice!!

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I am always quoted at that I am on the wrong site and that this is a sex site, I couldn't give a shit what a bloody stranger thinks of me, they can just f**k off

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Whose getting wide fs

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

I think it's just a go to retort, when used that way, meaning you should fuck anything. Yes, it's a tad patronising and irritating but just block them - use the site how you wish and ignore those who think otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Unfortunately, some people are dumb as dogshit.

We're not all like that.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple over a year ago

Halifax

"I am always quoted at that I am on the wrong site and that this is a sex site, I couldn't give a shit what a bloody stranger thinks of me, they can just f**k off

I used to get this on my old profile when I asked for social meets,I know it's a swinging site but people can meet and do whatever feels best for them grrr.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I wouldn't mind I'm never rude and always reply to messages even give profile advice!! "

I think I see the problem here,you are too nice.toughen up butter cup .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Unfortunately, some people are dumb as dogshit.

We're not all like that. "

Bit unfair,on dog shit.

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By *norksterMan over a year ago

Darlington and beyond

Some guys just need to grow up and accept that people are allowed to make their own choices. It is a swingers site but doesn't mean that everyone has to put out to everyone. Guys need to show some decency and move on and don't try to belittle others. Being an obnoxious ass doesn't score points with anyone. I'm on your side PP.. x

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I don't see the need to reply to men I have no intention of meeting, therefore I rarely get snarky comebacks.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some people just beg if I don't get a reply its cuz thay dint fancy you so u just move on we dont wanna fuck everything in.site well some men.properly do there just begs rude people show be banned

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By *orwegian BlueMan over a year ago

Iceland, but Aldi is closer..

"Unfortunately, some people are dumb as dogshit.

We're not all like that. "

Absolutely..

In every bunch of roses you will always find a few pricks..

Ahh, perhaps that's what was in that magic eye picture...

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By *ink Panther. OP Woman over a year ago

Preston

Awwwww thank you sweetie xxx

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By *ink Panther. OP Woman over a year ago

Preston

"Unfortunately, some people are dumb as dogshit.

We're not all like that. "

Pmsl

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Unfortunately, some people are dumb as dogshit.

We're not all like that.

Bit unfair,on dog shit."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some people think swinging = free prostitutes.

*shrug*

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Keys in a bowl innit - you're not supposed to care who you shag!

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By *arvin35Man over a year ago

penrith

OP replied to my message to her with some profile,advice and the reasons why I wasn't suitable for her requirements, she was perfectly polite and lovely, the other nut jobs that give her shit should do one and stop spoiling the fun

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe there should be a name and shame thread on here ,I get they'd start a new profile but surely they'd get it in the end ...personally if I message a lady that's caught my eye I always attach a face pic and if no reply obviously I'm not what she's into ...some people can't take rejection so try to make the rejector the bad guy ...sad but true

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Some people think swinging = free prostitutes.

*shrug*"

Exactly this. They seem to expect that us women will be eager to meet them, like they are doing us a favour by asking us to meet them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Apparently the women get the same crap on dating sites if they say they arnt interested etc.

But on dating sites some women can also be just as bad as the guys if they get knocked back.

Try not to even give it a moments notice and concentrate on the positive messages you receive instead of the negative ones

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Then there are the one's who message asking for a meet and think the only thing they have to attach is their cock pic, as if we do not need to be attracted to them.

Either that or it really is their best feature

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can usually tell from the username / avatar & 1st line of message as to whether it's worth reading & replying or straight to delete.

When I go against my instinct & a do a shed load of 'no thanks' replies is when I get the arsey comebacks.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would rather block than respond..

you get a feel for those you think are going to be a pain in the arse and act accordingly

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There is another site that doesn't permit men to send a first message. The women browse the meat on offer and initiate messaging if they fancy. There might be something in this.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There is another site that doesn't permit men to send a first message. The women browse the meat on offer and initiate messaging if they fancy. There might be something in this. "

Tinder is similare. You both have to swipe right on each othet before you can communicate with each other.

But alot of women find it boring as they arnt getting enough attention from the guys???

True lol

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By *mmmMaybeCouple over a year ago

West Wales

"There is another site that doesn't permit men to send a first message. The women browse the meat on offer and initiate messaging if they fancy. There might be something in this. "

I said this months & months ago, those guys not making an effort with their profiles & pics wouldn't get messaged.

Who tend to send the shit messages? Those with little profile & shit pics.

Job done. Fab sorted..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There is another site that doesn't permit men to send a first message. The women browse the meat on offer and initiate messaging if they fancy. There might be something in this. "

Can beef talk?

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By *ink Panther. OP Woman over a year ago

Preston

"There is another site that doesn't permit men to send a first message. The women browse the meat on offer and initiate messaging if they fancy. There might be something in this.

Tinder is similare. You both have to swipe right on each othet before you can communicate with each other.

But alot of women find it boring as they arnt getting enough attention from the guys???

True lol"

Yep we certainly love attention......... the reciprocal variety lol

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By *ink Panther. OP Woman over a year ago

Preston

"Some people think swinging = free prostitutes.

*shrug*"

Well if I agreed to meet all those who wanted then in theory it would become like prostitution as I'd only be able to allocate an hour to each guy lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i used to be miss nice- not anymore - it takes too long

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There is another site that doesn't permit men to send a first message. The women browse the meat on offer and initiate messaging if they fancy. There might be something in this.

Can beef talk? "

I think an extremely rare steak goes 'moo'.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP replied to my message to her with some profile,advice and the reasons why I wasn't suitable for her requirements, she was perfectly polite and lovely, the other nut jobs that give her shit should do one and stop spoiling the fun"

Did you ask her for profile advice? I can see that could be a cause of friction.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i used to be miss nice- not anymore - it takes too long

Just fabbed one of your photos, very nice thank you, Nah don't want to meet its raining in Manchester

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By *ink Panther. OP Woman over a year ago

Preston

Did you ask her for profile advice? I can see that could be a cause of friction."

I only give advice when asked and only make reference to a profile if that is the reason I'm saying no thank you! Unsolicited advice is just inappropriate lol

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"There is another site that doesn't permit men to send a first message. The women browse the meat on offer and initiate messaging if they fancy. There might be something in this. "

No I never browse.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ignore and block.

I was called a "fat ugly fake stuck up cunt" yesterday because I didn't reply to a " hi how's you"

message lol!

I missed out on a real charmer there

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Did you ask her for profile advice? I can see that could be a cause of friction.

I only give advice when asked and only make reference to a profile if that is the reason I'm saying no thank you! Unsolicited advice is just inappropriate lol"

Your status coupled with this message made me wonder

Is it common for guys to ask how is my profile as a chat up opener? I never have, now wondering if I have missed a trick.

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By *yldstyleWoman over a year ago

A world of my own

"I am always quoted at that I am on the wrong site and that this is a sex site, I couldn't give a shit what a bloody stranger thinks of me, they can just f**k off

This!

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By *mojeeCouple over a year ago

Dunfermline

We've had hate mail from a black guy cause we deleted his message. It clearly states on our profile what we like and don't like. Just because it's a swingers site a lot of guys think they can log on and get guaranteed sex. As far as we are concerned it's no different to meeting someone for coffee or in a bar. If you don't like the look or attitude then nothing will happen.

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By *ink Panther. OP Woman over a year ago

Preston

Did you ask her for profile advice? I can see that could be a cause of friction.

I only give advice when asked and only make reference to a profile if that is the reason I'm saying no thank you! Unsolicited advice is just inappropriate lol

Your status coupled with this message made me wonder

Is it common for guys to ask how is my profile as a chat up opener? I never have, now wondering if I have missed a trick.

As a rule they don't but probably because I'm constructive and polite they ask advice. I can chat for Britain and guys clearly have difficulties on these sites so after chatting for a while they tend to ask for feedback. This is supposed to be a fun place if I can make it that way for others then great!!!

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By *uxom redCouple over a year ago

Shrewsbury

How do we know your blonde?

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

Part of the problem is that lots thing swingers site = sex site.

There is a difference

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There is another site that doesn't permit men to send a first message. The women browse the meat on offer and initiate messaging if they fancy. There might be something in this.

No I never browse.

So do you only meet from contacts outside of Fab?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How do we know your blonde?"

Well it's pretty obvious really, anyone expecting reasoned and thought full conversation from horny guys who just want their balls drained by someone else for a change... has to be blond

Or show her some cherios if she says wow doughnut seeds, true blond

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why get so hot and bothered - it's a message on a website ..... delete it and look at the next one

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By *ink Panther. OP Woman over a year ago

Preston

"How do we know your blonde?

Well it's pretty obvious really, anyone expecting reasoned and thought full conversation from horny guys who just want their balls drained by someone else for a change... has to be blond

Or show her some cherios if she says wow doughnut seeds, true blond

So who is it you want a change from lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How do we know your blonde?

Well it's pretty obvious really, anyone expecting reasoned and thought full conversation from horny guys who just want their balls drained by someone else for a change... has to be blond

Or show her some cherios if she says wow doughnut seeds, true blond

So who is it you want a change from lol"

Both my wives and both my children are blonds... blond jokes are a key part of my life

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By *arvin35Man over a year ago

penrith

Did you ask her for profile advice? I can see that could be a cause of friction."

No she was lovely and not confrontational or anything and I appreciated the advice, I'm not gonna get the arse just because someone isn't into me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Did you ask her for profile advice? I can see that could be a cause of friction.

No she was lovely and not confrontational or anything and I appreciated the advice, I'm not gonna get the arse just because someone isn't into me"

But the OP said she only gave advice when asked...

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By *innamon!Woman over a year ago

no matter

Do you have to be a Swinger to be here? Seems there are plenty of people who are not sexually active on here .Quite a few just enjoy the forums .

Think a lot of guys just come here thinking it's for easy sex ,

they soon find out that isn't true .

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By *arvin35Man over a year ago

penrith

Did you ask her for profile advice? I can see that could be a cause of friction.

No she was lovely and not confrontational or anything and I appreciated the advice, I'm not gonna get the arse just because someone isn't into me

But the OP said she only gave advice when asked...

I don't remember exactly but she replied and said not for her so I thanked her for at least replying and she then replied saying I had a good profile and good choice of pics but it was height that was the issue if I remember, which is absolutely her prerogative.

She was just very nice about it and made no reason for me to get arsey and I can't imagine any guy would have a reason to either unless they were an arse to begin with!

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By *ink Panther. OP Woman over a year ago

Preston

Thanks for all your comments I will continue to do things my way as it's what makes me happy! Seems I've become fab's agony aunt overnight but at least no more meet requests lol. It also seems guys do want help with their profiles and I'm happy to help, kindness costs nothing and makes me smile! xxx

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