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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I confided in my female close friend about me being bi and showed her my Fab profile.
She never batted an eyelid, wasnt even shocked or surprised and didn't judge at all.
That is how a true friend should react. I'm very lucky to have her in life.
Everyone needs a best friend.
Hope you all have one. |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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I told my best friends fairly recently. One was shocked, one was very worried about the safety aspect and the other one was intrigued. The one who was shocked understood a little more by the end of the conversation. Not one of them has fallen out with me or judged me in anyway.
I love my friends  |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
Northampton Somewhere |
Another of my friends actually joined fab after she told me something then I told her about this. She's been frightened off already by the tone of some of the messages she was getting, particularly off guys she rejected. Shame, isn't it?  |
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Quite a few of my friends know. Some were surprised as I'd spent 20 yrs with 1 man but understood I needed to live a little. I had to check in with them after a meet.
My parents also know as my ex-husband & his partner have since created a profile on here & I'd rather they heard it from me & not him. I did say I used it as a dating site though..... Then I met Frank on here & they think I stopped
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My best friend introduced us to this kind of thing, we were intrigued, at first we were sceptical but it's grown and grown and now we love it.
About 6 months after she told me we ended up doing some very naughty stuff in my garden one hot summers night, it only happened a handful of times and didn't interfere with our friendship and Sam rather enjoyed himself with us both  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Most of the people closest to me know I'm in this lifestyle and are all very respectful about it
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We're the same, they don't need to know specific as its still our private life but we are open about our proclivities |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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i have one normal friend who know stuff but the truth is playful its hard enough for a guy with my sexuality on sites like this where people are meant to be more liberal.
I hate to think what kind of looks and question I'd have asked if my normal friends got a sniff of my sexuality .
some thing are best kept to yourself unless you want everyone talking about you behind your back because suddenly your the different one. been there before as a young man never want to go back there ,so I think its best to keep my sexuality under wraps around my normal world friends . |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
West Wales |
Most of our friends know, the only issues we have had is with a couple of younger married males who heard "Swinging" rather than "We are after a female play friend" so started with the immature innuendo & hitting on H.
A word from me with one & H threatening to take the others wife away (she's hot) shut the other one up.
We are still friends though..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've told a few friends a few things and they didn't really give a shit (in a judgemental way).
I prefer to keep my business to myself for the most part though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have lots of really loyal, lovely friends, but I'm not sure I'd tell any of them that I have a profile on here.  "
It's something that doesn't really need to be common knowledge, to be totally honest I'm not sure we would be as open if we had kids. As it is our lives are our own and the choices we make don't impact on anyone else so we don't hide our open status
Your profile is great btw, I'm sure you and the Mr would get on. |
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By *ed wineMan
over a year ago
Where the streets have no name |
I confessed my bi side to my all-life friend some days ago. We went out looking for girls in our youth, we have shared our best and worst experiences, we have laughed and cried together for more than 35 years...
His answer was:
"Your happiness is my happiness. If I don't deserve your confidence, who else then?"
That is a FRIEND. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Another of my friends actually joined fab after she told me something then I told her about this. She's been frightened off already by the tone of some of the messages she was getting, particularly off guys she rejected. Shame, isn't it? "
Blimey she scares easily, need to toughen up to stay on here & be filtered upto to the max for the first few weeks, |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've told a friend of mine and she wasn't judgemental, although she did have lots of questions.
To be honest, though, I like friends who will call me out when they see fit. If one of my friends thinks I'm acting wrongly, then I respect them more if they tell me and we can talk it out. The best kind of friend for me is one who tells me an opposing viewpoint when it's warranted, but doesn't let that opposing viewpoint impact our friendship at all. And I've surrounded myself with those people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have a bestie & a couple of close friends. However, I have no inclination to share this part of my life with them.
I don't want to ever put them in the situation where they feel the need to lie / cover for me. |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"Another of my friends actually joined fab after she told me something then I told her about this. She's been frightened off already by the tone of some of the messages she was getting, particularly off guys she rejected. Shame, isn't it?
Blimey she scares easily, need to toughen up to stay on here & be filtered upto to the max for the first few weeks, "
oh filtered I thought I read something else there for a minute  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most of my friends know...some know more than others. My family are the only people who have no idea...and that's purely cos I don't discuss sex with them anyway...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"One of my closest female friends knows. She even joined for a day but got overwhelmed and left. She's also my safety person. "
Did it scare the life out of her ?
I know some females who tried it then ran away as they couldnt handle the disrespectful messages from the perverts.
I think its scarred them for life  |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
West Wales |
I think the difference for us is that H has always been bi & open about it with family, Also because of this our friends from her side tend to be more open with their sexuality & less judgemental. My friends are mainly bikers who are pretty laidback about most things.
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
Northampton Somewhere |
"Another of my friends actually joined fab after she told me something then I told her about this. She's been frightened off already by the tone of some of the messages she was getting, particularly off guys she rejected. Shame, isn't it?
Blimey she scares easily, need to toughen up to stay on here & be filtered upto to the max for the first few weeks, "
I did tell her all that. She's very naive but that doesn't excuse some behaviour from the 'gents' off fab x |
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I've told my best mate we swing but I don't really share the details , he's intrigued but he knows it's not the sort of thing he'd like.
We have told any of our friends though as Hilary has taught and will be teaching some of their kids and the last thing we need is gossip at the school gate. |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
in the eye of the storm |
"Another of my friends actually joined fab after she told me something then I told her about this. She's been frightened off already by the tone of some of the messages she was getting, particularly off guys she rejected. Shame, isn't it?
Blimey she scares easily, need to toughen up to stay on here & be filtered upto to the max for the first few weeks,
I did tell her all that. She's very naive but that doesn't excuse some behaviour from the 'gents' off fab x"
no it doesn't I defy anyone to laugh off going from being respected one minute to being totally shit upon in the next and then not think you know what this is meant to be fun and you know what it isn't so I'm out of here . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Another of my friends actually joined fab after she told me something then I told her about this. She's been frightened off already by the tone of some of the messages she was getting, particularly off guys she rejected. Shame, isn't it? "
Yes!!
People always say the crappy men don't spoil it for the rest of the men... but they do!! |
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"Another of my friends actually joined fab after she told me something then I told her about this. She's been frightened off already by the tone of some of the messages she was getting, particularly off guys she rejected. Shame, isn't it?
Blimey she scares easily, need to toughen up to stay on here & be filtered upto to the max for the first few weeks,
I did tell her all that. She's very naive but that doesn't excuse some behaviour from the 'gents' off fab x
no it doesn't I defy anyone to laugh off going from being respected one minute to being totally shit upon in the next and then not think you know what this is meant to be fun and you know what it isn't so I'm out of here ."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Another of my friends actually joined fab after she told me something then I told her about this. She's been frightened off already by the tone of some of the messages she was getting, particularly off guys she rejected. Shame, isn't it?
Blimey she scares easily, need to toughen up to stay on here & be filtered upto to the max for the first few weeks,
I did tell her all that. She's very naive but that doesn't excuse some behaviour from the 'gents' off fab x
no it doesn't I defy anyone to laugh off going from being respected one minute to being totally shit upon in the next and then not think you know what this is meant to be fun and you know what it isn't so I'm out of here .
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Stick with us forum peeps Blue we will look after you |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"One of my closest female friends knows. She even joined for a day but got overwhelmed and left. She's also my safety person.
Did it scare the life out of her ?
I know some females who tried it then ran away as they couldnt handle the disrespectful messages from the perverts.
I think its scarred them for life "
It's such a shame people are scared away by some disrespectful idiots on here. Personally I don't let anything anyone says that is negative, derogatory, disrespectful, get to me. Nor do I take any notice of those who judge me for my circumstances. A lot of it stems from jealousy and it says more about them as a person than it does me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Another of my friends actually joined fab after she told me something then I told her about this. She's been frightened off already by the tone of some of the messages she was getting, particularly off guys she rejected. Shame, isn't it?
Blimey she scares easily, need to toughen up to stay on here & be filtered upto to the max for the first few weeks,
I did tell her all that. She's very naive but that doesn't excuse some behaviour from the 'gents' off fab x
no it doesn't I defy anyone to laugh off going from being respected one minute to being totally shit upon in the next and then not think you know what this is meant to be fun and you know what it isn't so I'm out of here ."
No excuses from me re bad behaviour off anyone on Fabs but there is a viscous circle when it comes to messging re supply & demand.
If you filter up, take everything said with a pinch of salt including the compliments, think carefully about what you are looking for then I don't really see what the problem is.
I'll never allow anyone who messages me to make me feel like shit of scare me off.
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"I confided in my female close friend about me being bi and showed her my Fab profile.
She never batted an eyelid, wasnt even shocked or surprised and didn't judge at all.
That is how a true friend should react. I'm very lucky to have her in life.
Everyone needs a best friend.
Hope you all have one."
I can keep a poker face too. Doesn't change what i'm thinking though.
What made you confide ?
How do you know she can be trusted ? |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"Another of my friends actually joined fab after she told me something then I told her about this. She's been frightened off already by the tone of some of the messages she was getting, particularly off guys she rejected. Shame, isn't it?
Blimey she scares easily, need to toughen up to stay on here & be filtered upto to the max for the first few weeks,
I did tell her all that. She's very naive but that doesn't excuse some behaviour from the 'gents' off fab x
no it doesn't I defy anyone to laugh off going from being respected one minute to being totally shit upon in the next and then not think you know what this is meant to be fun and you know what it isn't so I'm out of here .
No excuses from me re bad behaviour off anyone on Fabs but there is a viscous circle when it comes to messging re supply & demand.
If you filter up, take everything said with a pinch of salt including the compliments, think carefully about what you are looking for then I don't really see what the problem is.
I'll never allow anyone who messages me to make me feel like shit of scare me off.
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but not everyone can think like that Roxi the world is made up of all different personality types and I for one rejoice at the fact we are all different in our sensibility levels .
the truth is whether your tough enough to handle it or not it shouldn't be happening ever . we are all adults on here the last time I looked so we should act as such and except another persons choice when it comes to there choice about play or not .
sorry I feel strongly about this as such behave ruins the fun factor for a lot of people its the number one reason people take regular brakes from this sort of thing because you can only put up with so much shit before you need a rest from it draining your naturally happy vibe . |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I confided in my female close friend about me being bi and showed her my Fab profile.
She never batted an eyelid, wasnt even shocked or surprised and didn't judge at all.
That is how a true friend should react. I'm very lucky to have her in life.
Everyone needs a best friend.
Hope you all have one.
I can keep a poker face too. Doesn't change what i'm thinking though.
What made you confide ?
How do you know she can be trusted ?"
She's my best friend. I trust her more than anyone. She confides in me too so the relationship is on equal dynamics. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I confided in my female close friend about me being bi and showed her my Fab profile.
She never batted an eyelid, wasnt even shocked or surprised and didn't judge at all.
That is how a true friend should react. I'm very lucky to have her in life.
Everyone needs a best friend.
Hope you all have one."
We all need a good friend 
Took my best mate along to a meet once (ask by reg couple play with to bring a friend)
he thought I was joking about swinging & what its about. Till we arrived knocked on door greeted by this smoking hot beauty in red suspenders hmm  & I started french kissing her, as mate stood there in disbelief (look on his face was priceless) we still have a giggle about that night everytime we meet for a catch up |
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"I confided in my female close friend about me being bi and showed her my Fab profile.
She never batted an eyelid, wasnt even shocked or surprised and didn't judge at all.
That is how a true friend should react. I'm very lucky to have her in life.
Everyone needs a best friend.
Hope you all have one.
We all need a good friend
Took my best mate along to a meet once (ask by reg couple play with to bring a friend)
he thought I was joking about swinging & what its about. Till we arrived knocked on door greeted by this smoking hot beauty in red suspenders hmm & I started french kissing her, as mate stood there in disbelief (look on his face was priceless) we still have a giggle about that night everytime we meet for a catch up "
In the USA ? |
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"I confided in my female close friend about me being bi and showed her my Fab profile.
She never batted an eyelid, wasnt even shocked or surprised and didn't judge at all.
That is how a true friend should react. I'm very lucky to have her in life.
Everyone needs a best friend.
Hope you all have one.
We all need a good friend
Took my best mate along to a meet once (ask by reg couple play with to bring a friend)
he thought I was joking about swinging & what its about. Till we arrived knocked on door greeted by this smoking hot beauty in red suspenders hmm & I started french kissing her, as mate stood there in disbelief (look on his face was priceless) we still have a giggle about that night everytime we meet for a catch up
In the USA ?"
Lol i wish buddy down here in UK Basildon |
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"I confided in my female close friend about me being bi and showed her my Fab profile.
She never batted an eyelid, wasnt even shocked or surprised and didn't judge at all.
That is how a true friend should react. I'm very lucky to have her in life.
Everyone needs a best friend.
Hope you all have one.
We all need a good friend
Took my best mate along to a meet once (ask by reg couple play with to bring a friend)
he thought I was joking about swinging & what its about. Till we arrived knocked on door greeted by this smoking hot beauty in red suspenders hmm & I started french kissing her, as mate stood there in disbelief (look on his face was priceless) we still have a giggle about that night everytime we meet for a catch up
In the USA ?
Lol i wish buddy down here in UK Basildon "
French kissing in the USA sounds better? Lol
Ask Debbie Harry  |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"Lucky to have someone to confide in. Wish I did.
Anyone I know would be horrified to know I was here.  "
I was like that in the beginning but then I found a few fwbs and I no longer feel like that ever, you can make some great real friendships in this world some you sleep with some you don't xx |
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"Another of my friends actually joined fab after she told me something then I told her about this. She's been frightened off already by the tone of some of the messages she was getting, particularly off guys she rejected. Shame, isn't it?
Blimey she scares easily, need to toughen up to stay on here & be filtered upto to the max for the first few weeks,
I did tell her all that. She's very naive but that doesn't excuse some behaviour from the 'gents' off fab x
no it doesn't I defy anyone to laugh off going from being respected one minute to being totally shit upon in the next and then not think you know what this is meant to be fun and you know what it isn't so I'm out of here .
Stick with us forum peeps Blue we will look after you "
That's not been my experience.  |
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"Another of my friends actually joined fab after she told me something then I told her about this. She's been frightened off already by the tone of some of the messages she was getting, particularly off guys she rejected. Shame, isn't it?
Blimey she scares easily, need to toughen up to stay on here & be filtered upto to the max for the first few weeks,
I did tell her all that. She's very naive but that doesn't excuse some behaviour from the 'gents' off fab x
no it doesn't I defy anyone to laugh off going from being respected one minute to being totally shit upon in the next and then not think you know what this is meant to be fun and you know what it isn't so I'm out of here .
No excuses from me re bad behaviour off anyone on Fabs but there is a viscous circle when it comes to messging re supply & demand.
If you filter up, take everything said with a pinch of salt including the compliments, think carefully about what you are looking for then I don't really see what the problem is.
I'll never allow anyone who messages me to make me feel like shit of scare me off.
but not everyone can think like that Roxi the world is made up of all different personality types and I for one rejoice at the fact we are all different in our sensibility levels .
the truth is whether your tough enough to handle it or not it shouldn't be happening ever . we are all adults on here the last time I looked so we should act as such and except another persons choice when it comes to there choice about play or not .
sorry I feel strongly about this as such behave ruins the fun factor for a lot of people its the number one reason people take regular brakes from this sort of thing because you can only put up with so much shit before you need a rest from it draining your naturally happy vibe . "
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"Another of my friends actually joined fab after she told me something then I told her about this. She's been frightened off already by the tone of some of the messages she was getting, particularly off guys she rejected. Shame, isn't it?
Blimey she scares easily, need to toughen up to stay on here & be filtered upto to the max for the first few weeks,
I did tell her all that. She's very naive but that doesn't excuse some behaviour from the 'gents' off fab x
no it doesn't I defy anyone to laugh off going from being respected one minute to being totally shit upon in the next and then not think you know what this is meant to be fun and you know what it isn't so I'm out of here .
Stick with us forum peeps Blue we will look after you
That's not been my experience. "
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"Another of my friends actually joined fab after she told me something then I told her about this. She's been frightened off already by the tone of some of the messages she was getting, particularly off guys she rejected. Shame, isn't it?
Blimey she scares easily, need to toughen up to stay on here & be filtered upto to the max for the first few weeks,
I did tell her all that. She's very naive but that doesn't excuse some behaviour from the 'gents' off fab x
no it doesn't I defy anyone to laugh off going from being respected one minute to being totally shit upon in the next and then not think you know what this is meant to be fun and you know what it isn't so I'm out of here .
Stick with us forum peeps Blue we will look after you
That's not been my experience.
Stick with me then Ill take you under my wing "
But I was mean to you this morning. I'm sorry. |
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"Another of my friends actually joined fab after she told me something then I told her about this. She's been frightened off already by the tone of some of the messages she was getting, particularly off guys she rejected. Shame, isn't it?
Blimey she scares easily, need to toughen up to stay on here & be filtered upto to the max for the first few weeks,
I did tell her all that. She's very naive but that doesn't excuse some behaviour from the 'gents' off fab x
no it doesn't I defy anyone to laugh off going from being respected one minute to being totally shit upon in the next and then not think you know what this is meant to be fun and you know what it isn't so I'm out of here .
Stick with us forum peeps Blue we will look after you
That's not been my experience.
Stick with me then Ill take you under my wing
But I was mean to you this morning. I'm sorry."
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