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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

Heres an interesting thought.

Well I thought it was interesting anyway?

Do you think attractive people are treated differently?

Even from birth to adulthood?

Heres an extract I pulled regarding a few points...

Our genes cause genetic mutations forming a 'draft' personality.

During our early upbringing, our parents, teachers and friends treat us differently based on our looks and draft personality.

Once we are older we then form a narrative of our lives based on our experiences growing up, and make decisions consistent with the character we have created.

What do you think?

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By *orum TrollWoman  over a year ago

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definitely.

just the way you present yourself, whether attractive or not, will also change the way people act with you. and there have been loads of studies about that.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"definitely.

just the way you present yourself, whether attractive or not, will also change the way people act with you. and there have been loads of studies about that.

"

This.

Joggers or a suit.

Hot or not.

It all matters.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"definitely.

just the way you present yourself, whether attractive or not, will also change the way people act with you. and there have been loads of studies about that.

"

Yes I thought the way people are said to treat an attractive child from birth and which apparently continued through to adulthood interesting though?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Yes...though I don't think it should make a difference, it does to many

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

It doesn't wholly shape who I am but it does shape how people react to it.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Avoid.

Yes. I think it does.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

flowers thrown at me as I walk down the street tells me yes

of course attractive people are treated differently

we can be very shallow people here on Earth

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I have always considered myself to be average, so i act average.

I am shy in real life so i suppose it has effected my confidence levels.

Of course my personality is as beautiful as a mental butterfly.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Yes. Should it matter? Probably not.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I have always considered myself to be average, so i act average.

I am shy in real life so i suppose it has effected my confidence levels.

Of course my personality is as beautiful as a mental butterfly.

"

mental butterfly

I like that

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By *icecouple561Couple  over a year ago
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East Sussex

Definitely. We notice that we're treated very differently based on our appearance as far as age and dress is concerned so assume perceived attractiveness plays a part too.

When I was 18 a gorgeous blonde friend gave me a lift in her sports car which broke down by the clock tower in Brighton. All she had to do was jump out of the car and about 10 men appeared as if by magic. Obviously I didn't do a control experiment but I'm willing to bet fewer men would have offered help to a middle aged man.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


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flowers thrown at me as I walk down the street tells me yes

of course attractive people are treated differently

we can be very shallow people here on Earth"

Yes I agree.

For all the political correctness and trying to do and say the right thing ?

We are a bunch of shallow twats underneath it all really arnt we ?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I think it definitely does.

For example, a lot think some women get big headed on here because they get attention when they wouldn't get it in the real world. That's what's said by some men, I'm not saying it's true.

For me, it works the opposite.

Because I don't get attention in the real world because I'm not one of life's attractive women, I tend not to believe that men on here are really attracted to me. I'm just a pair of tits and a fanny and that's it.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


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flowers thrown at me as I walk down the street tells me yes

of course attractive people are treated differently

we can be very shallow people here on Earth

Yes I agree.

For all the political correctness and trying to do and say the right thing ?

We are a bunch of shallow twats underneath it all really arnt we ? "

not all of us, no

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By *orum TrollWoman  over a year ago

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"definitely.

just the way you present yourself, whether attractive or not, will also change the way people act with you. and there have been loads of studies about that.

Yes I thought the way people are said to treat an attractive child from birth and which apparently continued through to adulthood interesting though?"

same for intelligence though and everything else that shapes you. if people tell you you're something (and the more they tell you this) it does make you believe it somewhat.

and this can boost you or not, depends what they're saying and what their intent is for that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


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flowers thrown at me as I walk down the street tells me yes

of course attractive people are treated differently

we can be very shallow people here on Earth

Yes I agree.

For all the political correctness and trying to do and say the right thing ?

We are a bunch of shallow twats underneath it all really arnt we ?

not all of us, no

"

Figuratively speaking as a race I meant

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I have always considered myself to be average, so i act average.

I am shy in real life so i suppose it has effected my confidence levels.

Of course my personality is as beautiful as a mental butterfly.

mental butterfly

I like that "

its the mental bit you have to watch out for, meep meep.

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By *alcon43Woman  over a year ago

Paisley

Interesting topic. Women are treated differently based on their hair colour living up to the 'dumb blonde' stereotype. Or if they have big breasts guys don't talk to their face.

Attractiveness is in the eye of the beholder. No two people will find the same people attractive both in looks and personality. Looks can be deceiving so until you get to know someone you may have the wrong idea about them.

People have always chosen the best looking, fastest, cleverest first to be in teams at school, work, etc. Some of my closest friends are my friends because of their honesty, integrity and personality and not because of their looks. I had a so called good friend of 10 years who turned out to be shallow, deceitful and manipulative.

I'd rather my children chose their friends because of their personality and loyalty rather than based on their looks. Then I'll know I've brought them up to accept everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I think it definitely does.

For example, a lot think some women get big headed on here because they get attention when they wouldn't get it in the real world. That's what's said by some men, I'm not saying it's true.

For me, it works the opposite.

Because I don't get attention in the real world because I'm not one of life's attractive women, I tend not to believe that men on here are really attracted to me. I'm just a pair of tits and a fanny and that's it. "

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By *yldstyleWoman  over a year ago

A world of my own

Yes.. classically pretty girls get further in terms of friends and opportunities throughout school. Normally not the ones who get bullied.

As you grow up sometimes it levels out but I do think its never a level playing field. Attractive women are always likely to get further in their careers than a woman with the same credentials who is deemed less attractive.

However that said confidence plays a big part. Its got me far in work situations however I completely lack it on a personal level.

If I look at my friends who are all better looking than me, none of them remain single. The one who also divorced had no issues finding someone else.

If I was in a bar and fell over and one of my friends also did, I can guarantee they would be helped first.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"definitely.

just the way you present yourself, whether attractive or not, will also change the way people act with you. and there have been loads of studies about that.

Yes I thought the way people are said to treat an attractive child from birth and which apparently continued through to adulthood interesting though?"

i was an ugly baby.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"definitely.

just the way you present yourself, whether attractive or not, will also change the way people act with you. and there have been loads of studies about that.

Yes I thought the way people are said to treat an attractive child from birth and which apparently continued through to adulthood interesting though?

same for intelligence though and everything else that shapes you. if people tell you you're something (and the more they tell you this) it does make you believe it somewhat.

and this can boost you or not, depends what they're saying and what their intent is for that."

Gaslighting.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"definitely.

just the way you present yourself, whether attractive or not, will also change the way people act with you. and there have been loads of studies about that.

Yes I thought the way people are said to treat an attractive child from birth and which apparently continued through to adulthood interesting though?

i was an ugly baby.

"

Me too and its carried on to my adulthood unfortunately lol

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"definitely.

just the way you present yourself, whether attractive or not, will also change the way people act with you. and there have been loads of studies about that.

"

I AGREE

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By *orum TrollWoman  over a year ago

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"definitely.

just the way you present yourself, whether attractive or not, will also change the way people act with you. and there have been loads of studies about that.

Yes I thought the way people are said to treat an attractive child from birth and which apparently continued through to adulthood interesting though?

same for intelligence though and everything else that shapes you. if people tell you you're something (and the more they tell you this) it does make you believe it somewhat.

and this can boost you or not, depends what they're saying and what their intent is for that.

Gaslighting. "

or just putting you down to big themselves up as well.

i was brought up by a narcissist, that was hard, then had a relationship with a sociopath. it was the sociopath that made me realise to never listen to abusive people again.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Being conventionally attractive does open doors for people, but that person still has to work for it and prove themselves whether in the workplace or with friends.

It doesn't make someone more interesting or a better person.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"Yes.. classically pretty girls get further in terms of friends and opportunities throughout school. Normally not the ones who get bullied.

As you grow up sometimes it levels out but I do think its never a level playing field. Attractive women are always likely to get further in their careers than a woman with the same credentials who is deemed less attractive.

However that said confidence plays a big part. Its got me far in work situations however I completely lack it on a personal level.

If I look at my friends who are all better looking than me, none of them remain single. The one who also divorced had no issues finding someone else.

If I was in a bar and fell over and one of my friends also did, I can guarantee they would be helped first. "

Crazy really isnt it ?

Its made me think for sure.

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By *icecouple561Couple  over a year ago
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"Interesting topic. Women are treated differently based on their hair colour living up to the 'dumb blonde' stereotype. Or if they have big breasts guys don't talk to their face.

Attractiveness is in the eye of the beholder. No two people will find the same people attractive both in looks and personality. Looks can be deceiving so until you get to know someone you may have the wrong idea about them.

People have always chosen the best looking, fastest, cleverest first to be in teams at school, work, etc. Some of my closest friends are my friends because of their honesty, integrity and personality and not because of their looks. I had a so called good friend of 10 years who turned out to be shallow, deceitful and manipulative.

I'd rather my children chose their friends because of their personality and loyalty rather than based on their looks. Then I'll know I've brought them up to accept everyone. "

I think it quickly becomes obvious when people aren't very nice whatever they look like. We can't help forming an impression when we first meet or see someone, it's instinctive and designed to keep us alive. Now we no longer need to decide if the person in front of us is likely to kill us (often) we still use it to decide how to treat them in the short term. Long term is different and I don't think many of us choose our long term friends based on their attractiveness.

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By *igeiaWoman  over a year ago

Bristol

I think our own measure of whether or not we consider ourselves attractive has more of a part to play. I have always been professionally and academically confident but I have never been a gregarious social animal since I am naturally fairly shy. I have never not considered myself attractive but it doesn't make a difference to who I am since I am also fully aware I am in the minority with that opinion. I have never been seen or treated as one of the pretty girls and therefore 'other' by the people around me so I have been free to just be me without having to deal with visual preconceptions.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Rich people can make themselves look more attractive by better grooming and possessions.

Intelligence can make some people more attractive to others too.

Some people with unconventional faces can be attractive because of their personality.

If you take both ends of the attractiveness spectrum and gave the bottom end money and the high end were poor, I'm betting the bottom people would get more respect from the general public.

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By *icecouple561Couple  over a year ago
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"Rich people can make themselves look more attractive by better grooming and possessions.

Intelligence can make some people more attractive to others too.

Some people with unconventional faces can be attractive because of their personality.

If you take both ends of the attractiveness spectrum and gave the bottom end money and the high end were poor, I'm betting the bottom people would get more respect from the general public. "

I think Bernie Ecclestone illustrates that point. He isn't conventionally physically attractive but power and money is a strong magnet.

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By *londie8399Couple  over a year ago

blackpool

I do agree at school i was not popular had a select few friends i had which im still friends with today,but when i moved back to my home town people spoke to me who wouldent have give me the light of day years ago or bullied me when i was at school i just say a polite hi and move on if they cnt accept you for your personality and not your looks then i dont bother with them

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I think our own measure of whether or not we consider ourselves attractive has more of a part to play. I have always been professionally and academically confident but I have never been a gregarious social animal since I am naturally fairly shy. I have never not considered myself attractive but it doesn't make a difference to who I am since I am also fully aware I am in the minority with that opinion. I have never been seen or treated as one of the pretty girls and therefore 'other' by the people around me so I have been free to just be me without having to deal with visual preconceptions. "

I'm very similar. As a teenager I didn't have boys throwing themselves at me. I shied away from most until I met my husband.

I never considered myself attractive, not even when a man turned his head to me in a club, proclaimed "God, you're beautiful" and walked into a glass door.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"I do agree at school i was not popular had a select few friends i had which im still friends with today,but when i moved back to my home town people spoke to me who wouldent have give me the light of day years ago or bullied me when i was at school i just say a polite hi and move on if they cnt accept you for your personality and not your looks then i dont bother with them"

I can understand that as Ive had same experience .

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Rich people can make themselves look more attractive by better grooming and possessions.

Intelligence can make some people more attractive to others too.

Some people with unconventional faces can be attractive because of their personality.

If you take both ends of the attractiveness spectrum and gave the bottom end money and the high end were poor, I'm betting the bottom people would get more respect from the general public.

I think Bernie Ecclestone illustrates that point. He isn't conventionally physically attractive but power and money is a strong magnet."

If he was a bank manager or teacher, he probably wouldn't have pretty young things after him.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Im Attracted to quirky and none so amazing as Eirenikos

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By *igeiaWoman  over a year ago

Bristol


"I think our own measure of whether or not we consider ourselves attractive has more of a part to play. I have always been professionally and academically confident but I have never been a gregarious social animal since I am naturally fairly shy. I have never not considered myself attractive but it doesn't make a difference to who I am since I am also fully aware I am in the minority with that opinion. I have never been seen or treated as one of the pretty girls and therefore 'other' by the people around me so I have been free to just be me without having to deal with visual preconceptions.

I'm very similar. As a teenager I didn't have boys throwing themselves at me. I shied away from most until I met my husband.

I never considered myself attractive, not even when a man turned his head to me in a club, proclaimed "God, you're beautiful" and walked into a glass door.

"

See, I am slightly different in that I have always considered myself attractive. But that's tempered by common sense and knowing I have a weird sense of aesthetics so I never assume other people agree (and evidence tells me the majority don't). As one of the previous posters has said, messages or comments from people on here telling me I am attractive doesn't really affect me at all. It's always been what I think that really matters to me.

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By *orum TrollWoman  over a year ago

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"Im Attracted to quirky and none so amazing as Eirenikos "

thanks.

i don't mind being quirky.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Rich people can make themselves look more attractive by better grooming and possessions.

Intelligence can make some people more attractive to others too.

Some people with unconventional faces can be attractive because of their personality.

If you take both ends of the attractiveness spectrum and gave the bottom end money and the high end were poor, I'm betting the bottom people would get more respect from the general public.

I think Bernie Ecclestone illustrates that point. He isn't conventionally physically attractive but power and money is a strong magnet.

If he was a bank manager or teacher, he probably wouldn't have pretty young things after him. "

I think Peter Crouch summed it up very well when asked what he would have been if he wasn't a footballer and he replied "A virgin"

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Im Attracted to quirky and none so amazing as Eirenikos

thanks.

i don't mind being quirky. "

Shucks.....youre on my hot list

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I think our own measure of whether or not we consider ourselves attractive has more of a part to play. I have always been professionally and academically confident but I have never been a gregarious social animal since I am naturally fairly shy. I have never not considered myself attractive but it doesn't make a difference to who I am since I am also fully aware I am in the minority with that opinion. I have never been seen or treated as one of the pretty girls and therefore 'other' by the people around me so I have been free to just be me without having to deal with visual preconceptions.

I'm very similar. As a teenager I didn't have boys throwing themselves at me. I shied away from most until I met my husband.

I never considered myself attractive, not even when a man turned his head to me in a club, proclaimed "God, you're beautiful" and walked into a glass door.

See, I am slightly different in that I have always considered myself attractive. But that's tempered by common sense and knowing I have a weird sense of aesthetics so I never assume other people agree (and evidence tells me the majority don't). As one of the previous posters has said, messages or comments from people on here telling me I am attractive doesn't really affect me at all. It's always been what I think that really matters to me."

I don't take much notice of compliments, they don't make me feel better about myself. I really don't think I have that kind of ego. If someone likes me they like me, I'm not really concerned as to why. I've met men who went on about how beautiful I am. It's ok, but doesn't make my head or chest swell. They are just people who find how I look attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Rich people can make themselves look more attractive by better grooming and possessions.

Intelligence can make some people more attractive to others too.

Some people with unconventional faces can be attractive because of their personality.

If you take both ends of the attractiveness spectrum and gave the bottom end money and the high end were poor, I'm betting the bottom people would get more respect from the general public.

I think Bernie Ecclestone illustrates that point. He isn't conventionally physically attractive but power and money is a strong magnet.

If he was a bank manager or teacher, he probably wouldn't have pretty young things after him.

I think Peter Crouch summed it up very well when asked what he would have been if he wasn't a footballer and he replied "A virgin" "

Funny, but sad at the same time.

I'm not saying I don't find rich men attractive, but for me it's how they became rich I find is the attraction.

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By *londie8399Couple  over a year ago

blackpool


"I do agree at school i was not popular had a select few friends i had which im still friends with today,but when i moved back to my home town people spoke to me who wouldent have give me the light of day years ago or bullied me when i was at school i just say a polite hi and move on if they cnt accept you for your personality and not your looks then i dont bother with them

I can understand that as Ive had same experience . "

Kids can be cruel, i am a mother of 2 my daughter is popular at school my son has had difficlties at school to the point he dosent want to go. Which is very had i try to exlain to my daughter that looks and popularity dosent matter which she gets with seeing her brother struggle, but i dont think it totally about who brought u up your surrondings and your life experiences have a part in it as well.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I have always considered myself to be average, so i act average.

I am shy in real life so i suppose it has effected my confidence levels.

Of course my personality is as beautiful as a mental butterfly.

"

i find inner beauty more appealing than physical looks due to the fact that some of the most beautiful people i know are shallow and vain

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

Ive been called ugly handsome and average looking by people in various situations and tbh I haven't given any of their comments a moments notice?

I hopefully haven't let their opinion of how Attractive or not they think I am define who I am ?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Yes it does. Physical appearance, the way a person carries themselves, the way they speak, all is relative.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Some people don't realise how attractive they are.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"Some people don't realise how attractive they are."

Yes and I find people like that even more attractive because of it

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Im Attracted to quirky and none so amazing as Eirenikos

thanks.

i don't mind being quirky. "

you are one of the loves women on here in my eyes

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Some people don't realise how attractive they are."
you are very pretty pretty woman

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I'm not sure I agree with this. I treat people differently depending on how they behave... looks do not come into the equation

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Some people don't realise how attractive they are."

Those are the best type of people

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By *urvymamaWoman  over a year ago

Doncaster

Attractiveness goes far beyond the physical

However your physicality's are a part of who you are so yes they do shape you as a person. I find its How you perceive those Physicality's that shape how other respond to you.

People that are truely comfortable with themselves have a natural confidence will be attractive to most people you'll encounter

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Ive been called ugly handsome and average looking by people in various situations and tbh I haven't given any of their comments a moments notice?

I hopefully haven't let their opinion of how Attractive or not they think I am define who I am ?"

I see that's cool well I've been called everything but not handsome or sexy lol

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By *iss_tressWoman  over a year ago

London

I don't think it's only about looks: clothes and self confidence plays a major part too in how people treat you.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Yes it does, people are more receptive to a pretty woman or handsome man. My experience is that I was always overshadowed by my pretty friends even though they had nothing more than their looks to offer different from me. Lots of people are very shallow as youngsters, it's only as we get older that we put store in a different set of priorities and want different from what we thought was important.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I was made to feel unattractive and substandard by various people right up until my mid 20s. So I tried to be invisible, hid my personality and tried to be very mediocre at everything, even subjects I could have excelled at rather than be subject to unwanted attention.

I think it's very easy for people to believe what they are told repeatedly,and that in turn can shape their personality and their success in a good way or in a bad way.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


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I think it's very easy for people to believe what they are told repeatedly,and that in turn can shape their personality and their success in a good way or in a bad way."

Exactly this.

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By *yldstyleWoman  over a year ago

A world of my own

Sadly it's far easier to believe bad things rather than good ones. Especially if that is what you're more used to hearing

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Sadly it's far easier to believe bad things rather than good ones. Especially if that is what you're more used to hearing "

It is but I've learned to ignore the negative comments I receive. People often say negative things to others to make themselves feel better, which is sad.

I am proud of the person I am, how I live my life, and have learned to be content with how I look.

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By *risky_MareWoman  over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Heres an interesting thought.

Well I thought it was interesting anyway?

Do you think attractive people are treated differently?

Even from birth to adulthood?

Heres an extract I pulled regarding a few points...

Our genes cause genetic mutations forming a 'draft' personality.

During our early upbringing, our parents, teachers and friends treat us differently based on our looks and draft personality.

Once we are older we then form a narrative of our lives based on our experiences growing up, and make decisions consistent with the character we have created.

What do you think?

"

Of course, yes, people are shaped by all their interactions with other people, their parents firstly, and then 'the world', and they do both treat people differently according to many factors, attractiveness being one of them, it is inseparable. Each have an upside and a downside too - excessive praise aka 'spoiling' causing arrogance, or too little causing low self-esteem etc.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I was made to feel unattractive and substandard by various people right up until my mid 20s. So I tried to be invisible, hid my personality and tried to be very mediocre at everything, even subjects I could have excelled at rather than be subject to unwanted attention.

I think it's very easy for people to believe what they are told repeatedly,and that in turn can shape their personality and their success in a good way or in a bad way."

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Sadly it's far easier to believe bad things rather than good ones. Especially if that is what you're more used to hearing

It is but I've learned to ignore the negative comments I receive. People often say negative things to others to make themselves feel better, which is sad.

I am proud of the person I am, how I live my life, and have learned to be content with how I look."

I think this is it, some have to put others down to cover their own shortcomings. Those who judge everything on looks alone are shallow from my viewpoint.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I think some of the most attractive people are pretty empty headed and dull because they've never had to develop a character to gain attention.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman  over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Without a doubt.

If I had a sexual name and an attractive picture you can bet your bottom dollar there wouldn't be one rude word what ever I did or said on here.

Pretty women get more sympathy too even if they are not particularly pleasant or reasonable.

I've seen the nastiest of women pandered to. All to do with looks and likelihood.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman  over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Same applies to men.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I think some of the most attractive people are pretty empty headed and dull because they've never had to develop a character to gain attention. "

Oh yes, I do agree with this. Also they aren't always the best in bed as they think because they have the looks they don't have to bother putting in the effort.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


" Same applies to men."

Mad isnt it.

Its not rational is it but it happens from as early as birth apparently ?

Maybe Just the way we are wired as a species?

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By *orum TrollWoman  over a year ago

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"Im Attracted to quirky and none so amazing as Eirenikos

thanks.

i don't mind being quirky. you are one of the loves women on here in my eyes "

only in your eyes though, hehe. and you're a nice guy.

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By *orum TrollWoman  over a year ago

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"Sadly it's far easier to believe bad things rather than good ones. Especially if that is what you're more used to hearing

It is but I've learned to ignore the negative comments I receive. People often say negative things to others to make themselves feel better, which is sad.

I am proud of the person I am, how I live my life, and have learned to be content with how I look."

if someone truly cared about me i listen to the negative, sometimes we need a reality check. but mostly i do get what you mean and sometimes people are just being horrible because of their own issues.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman  over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


" Same applies to men.

Mad isnt it.

Its not rational is it but it happens from as early as birth apparently ?

Maybe Just the way we are wired as a species?"

There's a lot of sense in it to be fair.

We ( as a species ) are attracted to symmetrical images. We find Asymmetry ugly. So it's all about balance and health.

It helps us to pick healthy partners to pro create. And to stay away from the unhealthy folk that would harm us especially as a species.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I fine attractive people, both men and women tend to be shallow and arrogant, and expect special treatment the more attractive they are.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"I fine attractive people, both men and women tend to be shallow and arrogant, and expect special treatment the more attractive they are."

Bit of an unfair sweeping judgement their if you dont mind me saying?

All because someone is attractive doesnt mean they are shallow and arrogant.

The same as all unattractive people arnt all lovely either ?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I think some of the most attractive people are pretty empty headed and dull because they've never had to develop a character to gain attention.

Oh yes, I do agree with this. Also they aren't always the best in bed as they think because they have the looks they don't have to bother putting in the effort. "

Taking of effort, nice photos, fabbed a few.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


" Same applies to men.

Mad isnt it.

Its not rational is it but it happens from as early as birth apparently ?

Maybe Just the way we are wired as a species?

There's a lot of sense in it to be fair.

We ( as a species ) are attracted to symmetrical images. We find Asymmetry ugly. So it's all about balance and health.

It helps us to pick healthy partners to pro create. And to stay away from the unhealthy folk that would harm us especially as a species.

"

Sounds feasible Granny

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Am sure there was some research done that suggested taller men were more likely to be offered managerial roles over shorter guys.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"Am sure there was some research done that suggested taller men were more likely to be offered managerial roles over shorter guys."

Wouldnt suprise me

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Is that why I'm treated like a terrorist who's a threat to your marriages and manhoods ??

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Sadly it's far easier to believe bad things rather than good ones. Especially if that is what you're more used to hearing "

That's so true. And when you're told pretty much every day that you're not worthy of being treated like everyone else, is pretty hard to keep it in perspective.

I read once that every negative thing that said to you, needs four positive to counter act it. I can believe it.

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By *ddit...Man  over a year ago

Land of the giants... ;-)

I believe it does... to a shallow degree... it can build confidence and so opening new opportunities. .. I have first hand knowledge of this... x

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

People certinly treat e better now that i look more in shape dress better and style my hair beard etc.

Rather than ehen i was back at school

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Am sure there was some research done that suggested taller men were more likely to be offered managerial roles over shorter guys."

It seems the biggest correlating factor for ceos is they are over 6ft.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Sadly it's far easier to believe bad things rather than good ones. Especially if that is what you're more used to hearing

That's so true. And when you're told pretty much every day that you're not worthy of being treated like everyone else, is pretty hard to keep it in perspective.

I read once that every negative thing that said to you, needs four positive to counter act it. I can believe it. "

I think it's in our culture, that is easier to tear down than build up.

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By *mber GamblerCouple  over a year ago

rugby

I would say. I've had on and off attractiveness. When i was a kid i wore second hand clothes, was extremely slim, horrible national health glasses, too pale and really thick wavy hair. I was bullied because of it. It made me anxious, insecure and paranoid. Then when i hit around 17. I got contacts, filled out, my hair went really curly and long and i got quite pretty according to everyone. I went from being bullied to being approached by some modelling agencies, having tons of men fancying me and so on. But i never think of myself as attractive because of my past. It's just something that sticks.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"I would say. I've had on and off attractiveness. When i was a kid i wore second hand clothes, was extremely slim, horrible national health glasses, too pale and really thick wavy hair. I was bullied because of it. It made me anxious, insecure and paranoid. Then when i hit around 17. I got contacts, filled out, my hair went really curly and long and i got quite pretty according to everyone. I went from being bullied to being approached by some modelling agencies, having tons of men fancying me and so on. But i never think of myself as attractive because of my past. It's just something that sticks. "

Yes i can relate to what youve said.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Sadly it's far easier to believe bad things rather than good ones. Especially if that is what you're more used to hearing

That's so true. And when you're told pretty much every day that you're not worthy of being treated like everyone else, is pretty hard to keep it in perspective.

I read once that every negative thing that said to you, needs four positive to counter act it. I can believe it.

I think it's in our culture, that is easier to tear down than build up. "

Attractive people therefore will get a harder time of it than people can suspect.

Which contradicts what you said before.

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By *irestorm 500Couple  over a year ago

coventry

We all have something that is attractive about us...focus on that .xx

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Sadly it's far easier to believe bad things rather than good ones. Especially if that is what you're more used to hearing

That's so true. And when you're told pretty much every day that you're not worthy of being treated like everyone else, is pretty hard to keep it in perspective.

I read once that every negative thing that said to you, needs four positive to counter act it. I can believe it.

I think it's in our culture, that is easier to tear down than build up.

Attractive people therefore will get a harder time of it than people can suspect.

Which contradicts what you said before. "

I'm complicated and hormonal

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By *inky-MinxWoman  over a year ago

Grantham


"Do you think attractive people are treated differently?"

Yes we are

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I fine attractive people, both men and women tend to be shallow and arrogant, and expect special treatment the more attractive they are.

Bit of an unfair sweeping judgement their if you dont mind me saying? Some truth in that but most attractive people are vain and shallow a lot of inbred weirdos are terribly stupid and ugly. So give me average people any day of the week

All because someone is attractive doesnt mean they are shallow and arrogant.

The same as all unattractive people arnt all lovely either ?"

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Dunno what happened to my comment there but it was along the lines of give me average any day both in friends and lovers

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By *ophieslutTV/TS  over a year ago

Central

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


" Same applies to men.

Mad isnt it.

Its not rational is it but it happens from as early as birth apparently ?

Maybe Just the way we are wired as a species?

There's a lot of sense in it to be fair.

We ( as a species ) are attracted to symmetrical images. We find Asymmetry ugly. So it's all about balance and health.

It helps us to pick healthy partners to pro create. And to stay away from the unhealthy folk that would harm us especially as a species.

"

Exactly, just as it's no coincidence that the hourglass female figure is deemed the most attractive - it indicates health and peak fertility.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


" Same applies to men.

Mad isnt it.

Its not rational is it but it happens from as early as birth apparently ?

Maybe Just the way we are wired as a species?

There's a lot of sense in it to be fair.

We ( as a species ) are attracted to symmetrical images. We find Asymmetry ugly. So it's all about balance and health.

It helps us to pick healthy partners to pro create. And to stay away from the unhealthy folk that would harm us especially as a species.

Exactly, just as it's no coincidence that the hourglass female figure is deemed the most attractive - it indicates health and peak fertility."

The slim or bigger women who havent got an hour glass figure are doomed then ??

Just out of curiosity?

Have you got an hour glass figure by any chance?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


" Same applies to men.

Mad isnt it.

Its not rational is it but it happens from as early as birth apparently ?

Maybe Just the way we are wired as a species?

There's a lot of sense in it to be fair.

We ( as a species ) are attracted to symmetrical images. We find Asymmetry ugly. So it's all about balance and health.

It helps us to pick healthy partners to pro create. And to stay away from the unhealthy folk that would harm us especially as a species.

Exactly, just as it's no coincidence that the hourglass female figure is deemed the most attractive - it indicates health and peak fertility.

The slim or bigger women who havent got an hour glass figure are doomed then ??

Just out of curiosity?

Have you got an hour glass figure by any chance? "

I was merely pointing out the reality of human preferences - and the science behind it - no different to taller men being the "ideal".

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Agree, think that's why iv got good personality because my school days I didn't look like how I do now, thank God lol

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I think it's somewhat unfair to attractive people to assume they are all arrogant and entitled. And conversely, not all people less blessed by an accident of birth in the looks department have great personalities either. But there is no doubt in my mind that people react differently to others depending on how they look.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Beauty is in the eye if the beholder,

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


" Same applies to men.

Mad isnt it.

Its not rational is it but it happens from as early as birth apparently ?

Maybe Just the way we are wired as a species?

There's a lot of sense in it to be fair.

We ( as a species ) are attracted to symmetrical images. We find Asymmetry ugly. So it's all about balance and health.

It helps us to pick healthy partners to pro create. And to stay away from the unhealthy folk that would harm us especially as a species.

Exactly, just as it's no coincidence that the hourglass female figure is deemed the most attractive - it indicates health and peak fertility.

The slim or bigger women who havent got an hour glass figure are doomed then ??

Just out of curiosity?

Have you got an hour glass figure by any chance?

I was merely pointing out the reality of human preferences - and the science behind it - no different to taller men being the "ideal"."

Would you say you have an hourglass figure?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


" Same applies to men.

Mad isnt it.

Its not rational is it but it happens from as early as birth apparently ?

Maybe Just the way we are wired as a species?

There's a lot of sense in it to be fair.

We ( as a species ) are attracted to symmetrical images. We find Asymmetry ugly. So it's all about balance and health.

It helps us to pick healthy partners to pro create. And to stay away from the unhealthy folk that would harm us especially as a species.

Exactly, just as it's no coincidence that the hourglass female figure is deemed the most attractive - it indicates health and peak fertility.

The slim or bigger women who havent got an hour glass figure are doomed then ??

Just out of curiosity?

Have you got an hour glass figure by any chance?

I was merely pointing out the reality of human preferences - and the science behind it - no different to taller men being the "ideal".

Would you say you have an hourglass figure?"

No, my hips are proportionately smaller than my top half.

Would you say that if I did it would render me incapable of accurate perception as to what is the most desired female body shape?

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


" Same applies to men.

Mad isnt it.

Its not rational is it but it happens from as early as birth apparently ?

Maybe Just the way we are wired as a species?

There's a lot of sense in it to be fair.

We ( as a species ) are attracted to symmetrical images. We find Asymmetry ugly. So it's all about balance and health.

It helps us to pick healthy partners to pro create. And to stay away from the unhealthy folk that would harm us especially as a species.

Exactly, just as it's no coincidence that the hourglass female figure is deemed the most attractive - it indicates health and peak fertility.

The slim or bigger women who havent got an hour glass figure are doomed then ??

Just out of curiosity?

Have you got an hour glass figure by any chance?

I was merely pointing out the reality of human preferences - and the science behind it - no different to taller men being the "ideal".

Would you say you have an hourglass figure?

No, my hips are proportionately smaller than my top half.

Would you say that if I did it would render me incapable of accurate perception as to what is the most desired female body shape?"

Its because I personally dont agree with the hourglass figure you say is seen as the most attractive?

And wonder how you came up with your conclusion?

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By *erdita Von TeaseWoman  over a year ago

nottingham

Hmmm I can't say I've honestly thought of this before, it's got me thinking now

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


" Same applies to men.

Mad isnt it.

Its not rational is it but it happens from as early as birth apparently ?

Maybe Just the way we are wired as a species?

There's a lot of sense in it to be fair.

We ( as a species ) are attracted to symmetrical images. We find Asymmetry ugly. So it's all about balance and health.

It helps us to pick healthy partners to pro create. And to stay away from the unhealthy folk that would harm us especially as a species.

Exactly, just as it's no coincidence that the hourglass female figure is deemed the most attractive - it indicates health and peak fertility.

The slim or bigger women who havent got an hour glass figure are doomed then ??

Just out of curiosity?

Have you got an hour glass figure by any chance?

I was merely pointing out the reality of human preferences - and the science behind it - no different to taller men being the "ideal".

Would you say you have an hourglass figure?

No, my hips are proportionately smaller than my top half.

Would you say that if I did it would render me incapable of accurate perception as to what is the most desired female body shape?

Its because I personally dont agree with the hourglass figure you say is seen as the most attractive?

And wonder how you came up with your conclusion?"

Take a look at the women who are regarded as "sexy" ideals. Proportionate curves are the key. Apparently the waist-hip ratio of .8 is the most favoured. Which as I said is indicative of fertility. Google will help you if you want to research it further.

You personally not finding this type attractive neither negates this nor gives rise to the need for you to assume that I must be claiming this because I see my own shape as the ideal.

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By *uke olovingmanMan  over a year ago

Gravesend

I never thought I was that attractive.. til I was told by some ladies I've met that they found me so ... I've always tried to be a nice guy .. and do the right thing by others .. but I wouldn't say my opinion of myself affected my behaviour one way or the other

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By *andsonjohnMan  over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

I view myself as ugly but it has never entered my mind in anything I do.

I'm still surprised when I'm turned down and even more when I'm not .

I really just don't care if someone else finds me attractive or not in the grand scheme of what goes on in my head am I attractive is nether here nor there,

I'm me take me or leave I don't really care because what ever happens I will still be me tomorrow and the next day and the day after that . I'm stuck with what nature gave me its kind of a pointless exercise to worry about that if you ask me .

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


" Same applies to men.

Mad isnt it.

Its not rational is it but it happens from as early as birth apparently ?

Maybe Just the way we are wired as a species?

There's a lot of sense in it to be fair.

We ( as a species ) are attracted to symmetrical images. We find Asymmetry ugly. So it's all about balance and health.

It helps us to pick healthy partners to pro create. And to stay away from the unhealthy folk that would harm us especially as a species.

Exactly, just as it's no coincidence that the hourglass female figure is deemed the most attractive - it indicates health and peak fertility.

The slim or bigger women who havent got an hour glass figure are doomed then ??

Just out of curiosity?

Have you got an hour glass figure by any chance?

I was merely pointing out the reality of human preferences - and the science behind it - no different to taller men being the "ideal".

Would you say you have an hourglass figure?

No, my hips are proportionately smaller than my top half.

Would you say that if I did it would render me incapable of accurate perception as to what is the most desired female body shape?

Its because I personally dont agree with the hourglass figure you say is seen as the most attractive?

And wonder how you came up with your conclusion?

Take a look at the women who are regarded as "sexy" ideals. Proportionate curves are the key. Apparently the waist-hip ratio of .8 is the most favoured. Which as I said is indicative of fertility. Google will help you if you want to research it further.

You personally not finding this type attractive neither negates this nor gives rise to the need for you to assume that I must be claiming this because I see my own shape as the ideal."

You mentioned fertility to back up your statement but you were stating attractiveness in the post in question?

I am curious how you came to your conclusion that the hourglass shape is seen as the most attractive body shape?

The attractiveness of someones body shape varies from individual to individual.

And there are massive differences in how people perceive the attractiveness of body shape depending on which country you live in around the world.

So I still wonder how you came up with your conclusion that the most attractive body shape for a woman is hourglass?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


" Same applies to men.

Mad isnt it.

Its not rational is it but it happens from as early as birth apparently ?

Maybe Just the way we are wired as a species?

There's a lot of sense in it to be fair.

We ( as a species ) are attracted to symmetrical images. We find Asymmetry ugly. So it's all about balance and health.

It helps us to pick healthy partners to pro create. And to stay away from the unhealthy folk that would harm us especially as a species.

Exactly, just as it's no coincidence that the hourglass female figure is deemed the most attractive - it indicates health and peak fertility.

The slim or bigger women who havent got an hour glass figure are doomed then ??

Just out of curiosity?

Have you got an hour glass figure by any chance?

I was merely pointing out the reality of human preferences - and the science behind it - no different to taller men being the "ideal".

Would you say you have an hourglass figure?

No, my hips are proportionately smaller than my top half.

Would you say that if I did it would render me incapable of accurate perception as to what is the most desired female body shape?

Its because I personally dont agree with the hourglass figure you say is seen as the most attractive?

And wonder how you came up with your conclusion?

Take a look at the women who are regarded as "sexy" ideals. Proportionate curves are the key. Apparently the waist-hip ratio of .8 is the most favoured. Which as I said is indicative of fertility. Google will help you if you want to research it further.

You personally not finding this type attractive neither negates this nor gives rise to the need for you to assume that I must be claiming this because I see my own shape as the ideal.

You mentioned fertility to back up your statement but you were stating attractiveness in the post in question?

I am curious how you came to your conclusion that the hourglass shape is seen as the most attractive body shape?

The attractiveness of someones body shape varies from individual to individual.

And there are massive differences in how people perceive the attractiveness of body shape depending on which country you live in around the world.

So I still wonder how you came up with your conclusion that the most attractive body shape for a woman is hourglass?"

Since we're in Western culture I've taken the liberty of using those standards, hardly an outrageous thing to do, it's been researched and surveyed - as the internet can easily show you, and researchers conclude it is to do with indicators of fertility - hips widen at puberty, menopausal women thicken at the waist, so a well-defined waist is indicative of fertility. If you want to pretend that this isn't the Western norm of female attractiveness, knock yourself out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


" Same applies to men.

Mad isnt it.

Its not rational is it but it happens from as early as birth apparently ?

Maybe Just the way we are wired as a species?

There's a lot of sense in it to be fair.

We ( as a species ) are attracted to symmetrical images. We find Asymmetry ugly. So it's all about balance and health.

It helps us to pick healthy partners to pro create. And to stay away from the unhealthy folk that would harm us especially as a species.

Exactly, just as it's no coincidence that the hourglass female figure is deemed the most attractive - it indicates health and peak fertility.

The slim or bigger women who havent got an hour glass figure are doomed then ??

Just out of curiosity?

Have you got an hour glass figure by any chance?

I was merely pointing out the reality of human preferences - and the science behind it - no different to taller men being the "ideal".

Would you say you have an hourglass figure?

No, my hips are proportionately smaller than my top half.

Would you say that if I did it would render me incapable of accurate perception as to what is the most desired female body shape?

Its because I personally dont agree with the hourglass figure you say is seen as the most attractive?

And wonder how you came up with your conclusion?

Take a look at the women who are regarded as "sexy" ideals. Proportionate curves are the key. Apparently the waist-hip ratio of .8 is the most favoured. Which as I said is indicative of fertility. Google will help you if you want to research it further.

You personally not finding this type attractive neither negates this nor gives rise to the need for you to assume that I must be claiming this because I see my own shape as the ideal.

You mentioned fertility to back up your statement but you were stating attractiveness in the post in question?

I am curious how you came to your conclusion that the hourglass shape is seen as the most attractive body shape?

The attractiveness of someones body shape varies from individual to individual.

And there are massive differences in how people perceive the attractiveness of body shape depending on which country you live in around the world.

So I still wonder how you came up with your conclusion that the most attractive body shape for a woman is hourglass?

Since we're in Western culture I've taken the liberty of using those standards, hardly an outrageous thing to do, it's been researched and surveyed - as the internet can easily show you, and researchers conclude it is to do with indicators of fertility - hips widen at puberty, menopausal women thicken at the waist, so a well-defined waist is indicative of fertility. If you want to pretend that this isn't the Western norm of female attractiveness, knock yourself out."

I found this extract I pulled off the internet interesting ?

Some of the things that men find attractive include a small level of neuroticism, wearing red, having a balanced mouth, having large eyes, being empathic and agreeable, being self-sacrificing, and being appreciative. This means that many of the traits a man looks for in a woman are actually based on personality, not body. Additionally, research shows that men genetically look for women with the right hip to waist ratio, but they care far more about a woman’s facial attractiveness than the shape of their body overall. So perhaps the cosmetics industry is right, and women should focus on their makeup. Or perhaps it is time for women to start caring more about themselves, and not about what men think they should look like.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Personally, I get treated differently depending on my weight, which makes me realise that no matter how you hold yourself, how attractive you are or what other attributes you have, if you're fat, you're deemed less attractive.

I saw a massive difference in how I was treated when I lost weight.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


" Same applies to men.

Mad isnt it.

Its not rational is it but it happens from as early as birth apparently ?

Maybe Just the way we are wired as a species?

There's a lot of sense in it to be fair.

We ( as a species ) are attracted to symmetrical images. We find Asymmetry ugly. So it's all about balance and health.

It helps us to pick healthy partners to pro create. And to stay away from the unhealthy folk that would harm us especially as a species.

Exactly, just as it's no coincidence that the hourglass female figure is deemed the most attractive - it indicates health and peak fertility.

The slim or bigger women who havent got an hour glass figure are doomed then ??

Just out of curiosity?

Have you got an hour glass figure by any chance?

I was merely pointing out the reality of human preferences - and the science behind it - no different to taller men being the "ideal".

Would you say you have an hourglass figure?

No, my hips are proportionately smaller than my top half.

Would you say that if I did it would render me incapable of accurate perception as to what is the most desired female body shape?

Its because I personally dont agree with the hourglass figure you say is seen as the most attractive?

And wonder how you came up with your conclusion?

Take a look at the women who are regarded as "sexy" ideals. Proportionate curves are the key. Apparently the waist-hip ratio of .8 is the most favoured. Which as I said is indicative of fertility. Google will help you if you want to research it further.

You personally not finding this type attractive neither negates this nor gives rise to the need for you to assume that I must be claiming this because I see my own shape as the ideal.

You mentioned fertility to back up your statement but you were stating attractiveness in the post in question?

I am curious how you came to your conclusion that the hourglass shape is seen as the most attractive body shape?

The attractiveness of someones body shape varies from individual to individual.

And there are massive differences in how people perceive the attractiveness of body shape depending on which country you live in around the world.

So I still wonder how you came up with your conclusion that the most attractive body shape for a woman is hourglass?

Since we're in Western culture I've taken the liberty of using those standards, hardly an outrageous thing to do, it's been researched and surveyed - as the internet can easily show you, and researchers conclude it is to do with indicators of fertility - hips widen at puberty, menopausal women thicken at the waist, so a well-defined waist is indicative of fertility. If you want to pretend that this isn't the Western norm of female attractiveness, knock yourself out.

I found this extract I pulled off the internet interesting ?

Some of the things that men find attractive include a small level of neuroticism, wearing red, having a balanced mouth, having large eyes, being empathic and agreeable, being self-sacrificing, and being appreciative. This means that many of the traits a man looks for in a woman are actually based on personality, not body. Additionally, research shows that men genetically look for women with the right hip to waist ratio, but they care far more about a woman’s facial attractiveness than the shape of their body overall. So perhaps the cosmetics industry is right, and women should focus on their makeup. Or perhaps it is time for women to start caring more about themselves, and not about what men think they should look like."

I do, which is why I don't wear make-up

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"Personally, I get treated differently depending on my weight, which makes me realise that no matter how you hold yourself, how attractive you are or what other attributes you have, if you're fat, you're deemed less attractive.

I saw a massive difference in how I was treated when I lost weight. "

Me too. I was never "fat" as such maybe a few extra pounds thats all.

But when i started running and using a gym and my body shape improved I had way more attention from women than i had previously.

Sad but true

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


" Same applies to men.

Mad isnt it.

Its not rational is it but it happens from as early as birth apparently ?

Maybe Just the way we are wired as a species?

There's a lot of sense in it to be fair.

We ( as a species ) are attracted to symmetrical images. We find Asymmetry ugly. So it's all about balance and health.

It helps us to pick healthy partners to pro create. And to stay away from the unhealthy folk that would harm us especially as a species.

Exactly, just as it's no coincidence that the hourglass female figure is deemed the most attractive - it indicates health and peak fertility.

The slim or bigger women who havent got an hour glass figure are doomed then ??

Just out of curiosity?

Have you got an hour glass figure by any chance?

I was merely pointing out the reality of human preferences - and the science behind it - no different to taller men being the "ideal".

Would you say you have an hourglass figure?

No, my hips are proportionately smaller than my top half.

Would you say that if I did it would render me incapable of accurate perception as to what is the most desired female body shape?

Its because I personally dont agree with the hourglass figure you say is seen as the most attractive?

And wonder how you came up with your conclusion?

Take a look at the women who are regarded as "sexy" ideals. Proportionate curves are the key. Apparently the waist-hip ratio of .8 is the most favoured. Which as I said is indicative of fertility. Google will help you if you want to research it further.

You personally not finding this type attractive neither negates this nor gives rise to the need for you to assume that I must be claiming this because I see my own shape as the ideal.

You mentioned fertility to back up your statement but you were stating attractiveness in the post in question?

I am curious how you came to your conclusion that the hourglass shape is seen as the most attractive body shape?

The attractiveness of someones body shape varies from individual to individual.

And there are massive differences in how people perceive the attractiveness of body shape depending on which country you live in around the world.

So I still wonder how you came up with your conclusion that the most attractive body shape for a woman is hourglass?

Since we're in Western culture I've taken the liberty of using those standards, hardly an outrageous thing to do, it's been researched and surveyed - as the internet can easily show you, and researchers conclude it is to do with indicators of fertility - hips widen at puberty, menopausal women thicken at the waist, so a well-defined waist is indicative of fertility. If you want to pretend that this isn't the Western norm of female attractiveness, knock yourself out.

I found this extract I pulled off the internet interesting ?

Some of the things that men find attractive include a small level of neuroticism, wearing red, having a balanced mouth, having large eyes, being empathic and agreeable, being self-sacrificing, and being appreciative. This means that many of the traits a man looks for in a woman are actually based on personality, not body. Additionally, research shows that men genetically look for women with the right hip to waist ratio, but they care far more about a woman’s facial attractiveness than the shape of their body overall. So perhaps the cosmetics industry is right, and women should focus on their makeup. Or perhaps it is time for women to start caring more about themselves, and not about what men think they should look like.

I do, which is why I don't wear make-up "

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I'm rather plain looking and a common size 14... but due to my job I am outwardly confident and dress appropriately in business attire.. I do get treat differently dressed this way.. I do think it rather silly as it's my work ethic, brains and abilities that ensure my success within my career.. not the fact that I wear nice lingerie or hold ups under my dress.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


" Same applies to men.

Mad isnt it.

Its not rational is it but it happens from as early as birth apparently ?

Maybe Just the way we are wired as a species?

There's a lot of sense in it to be fair.

We ( as a species ) are attracted to symmetrical images. We find Asymmetry ugly. So it's all about balance and health.

It helps us to pick healthy partners to pro create. And to stay away from the unhealthy folk that would harm us especially as a species.

Exactly, just as it's no coincidence that the hourglass female figure is deemed the most attractive - it indicates health and peak fertility.

The slim or bigger women who havent got an hour glass figure are doomed then ??

Just out of curiosity?

Have you got an hour glass figure by any chance?

I was merely pointing out the reality of human preferences - and the science behind it - no different to taller men being the "ideal".

Would you say you have an hourglass figure?

No, my hips are proportionately smaller than my top half.

Would you say that if I did it would render me incapable of accurate perception as to what is the most desired female body shape?

Its because I personally dont agree with the hourglass figure you say is seen as the most attractive?

And wonder how you came up with your conclusion?

Take a look at the women who are regarded as "sexy" ideals. Proportionate curves are the key. Apparently the waist-hip ratio of .8 is the most favoured. Which as I said is indicative of fertility. Google will help you if you want to research it further.

You personally not finding this type attractive neither negates this nor gives rise to the need for you to assume that I must be claiming this because I see my own shape as the ideal.

You mentioned fertility to back up your statement but you were stating attractiveness in the post in question?

I am curious how you came to your conclusion that the hourglass shape is seen as the most attractive body shape?

The attractiveness of someones body shape varies from individual to individual.

And there are massive differences in how people perceive the attractiveness of body shape depending on which country you live in around the world.

So I still wonder how you came up with your conclusion that the most attractive body shape for a woman is hourglass?

Since we're in Western culture I've taken the liberty of using those standards, hardly an outrageous thing to do, it's been researched and surveyed - as the internet can easily show you, and researchers conclude it is to do with indicators of fertility - hips widen at puberty, menopausal women thicken at the waist, so a well-defined waist is indicative of fertility. If you want to pretend that this isn't the Western norm of female attractiveness, knock yourself out.

I found this extract I pulled off the internet interesting ?

Some of the things that men find attractive include a small level of neuroticism, wearing red, having a balanced mouth, having large eyes, being empathic and agreeable, being self-sacrificing, and being appreciative. This means that many of the traits a man looks for in a woman are actually based on personality, not body. Additionally, research shows that men genetically look for women with the right hip to waist ratio, but they care far more about a woman’s facial attractiveness than the shape of their body overall. So perhaps the cosmetics industry is right, and women should focus on their makeup. Or perhaps it is time for women to start caring more about themselves, and not about what men think they should look like."

The 'small level of neuroticism' is interesting. I wonder why that might be appealing.

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By *layfullsamMan  over a year ago

Solihull

Your mindset and determination decide who you are

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


" Same applies to men.

Mad isnt it.

Its not rational is it but it happens from as early as birth apparently ?

Maybe Just the way we are wired as a species?

There's a lot of sense in it to be fair.

We ( as a species ) are attracted to symmetrical images. We find Asymmetry ugly. So it's all about balance and health.

It helps us to pick healthy partners to pro create. And to stay away from the unhealthy folk that would harm us especially as a species.

Exactly, just as it's no coincidence that the hourglass female figure is deemed the most attractive - it indicates health and peak fertility.

The slim or bigger women who havent got an hour glass figure are doomed then ??

Just out of curiosity?

Have you got an hour glass figure by any chance?

I was merely pointing out the reality of human preferences - and the science behind it - no different to taller men being the "ideal".

Would you say you have an hourglass figure?

No, my hips are proportionately smaller than my top half.

Would you say that if I did it would render me incapable of accurate perception as to what is the most desired female body shape?

Its because I personally dont agree with the hourglass figure you say is seen as the most attractive?

And wonder how you came up with your conclusion?

Take a look at the women who are regarded as "sexy" ideals. Proportionate curves are the key. Apparently the waist-hip ratio of .8 is the most favoured. Which as I said is indicative of fertility. Google will help you if you want to research it further.

You personally not finding this type attractive neither negates this nor gives rise to the need for you to assume that I must be claiming this because I see my own shape as the ideal.

You mentioned fertility to back up your statement but you were stating attractiveness in the post in question?

I am curious how you came to your conclusion that the hourglass shape is seen as the most attractive body shape?

The attractiveness of someones body shape varies from individual to individual.

And there are massive differences in how people perceive the attractiveness of body shape depending on which country you live in around the world.

So I still wonder how you came up with your conclusion that the most attractive body shape for a woman is hourglass?

Since we're in Western culture I've taken the liberty of using those standards, hardly an outrageous thing to do, it's been researched and surveyed - as the internet can easily show you, and researchers conclude it is to do with indicators of fertility - hips widen at puberty, menopausal women thicken at the waist, so a well-defined waist is indicative of fertility. If you want to pretend that this isn't the Western norm of female attractiveness, knock yourself out.

I found this extract I pulled off the internet interesting ?

Some of the things that men find attractive include a small level of neuroticism, wearing red, having a balanced mouth, having large eyes, being empathic and agreeable, being self-sacrificing, and being appreciative. This means that many of the traits a man looks for in a woman are actually based on personality, not body. Additionally, research shows that men genetically look for women with the right hip to waist ratio, but they care far more about a woman’s facial attractiveness than the shape of their body overall. So perhaps the cosmetics industry is right, and women should focus on their makeup. Or perhaps it is time for women to start caring more about themselves, and not about what men think they should look like.

The 'small level of neuroticism' is interesting. I wonder why that might be appealing."

Yes I thought that was interesting too?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


" Same applies to men.

Mad isnt it.

Its not rational is it but it happens from as early as birth apparently ?

Maybe Just the way we are wired as a species?

There's a lot of sense in it to be fair.

We ( as a species ) are attracted to symmetrical images. We find Asymmetry ugly. So it's all about balance and health.

It helps us to pick healthy partners to pro create. And to stay away from the unhealthy folk that would harm us especially as a species.

Exactly, just as it's no coincidence that the hourglass female figure is deemed the most attractive - it indicates health and peak fertility.

The slim or bigger women who havent got an hour glass figure are doomed then ??

Just out of curiosity?

Have you got an hour glass figure by any chance?

I was merely pointing out the reality of human preferences - and the science behind it - no different to taller men being the "ideal".

Would you say you have an hourglass figure?

No, my hips are proportionately smaller than my top half.

Would you say that if I did it would render me incapable of accurate perception as to what is the most desired female body shape?

Its because I personally dont agree with the hourglass figure you say is seen as the most attractive?

And wonder how you came up with your conclusion?

Take a look at the women who are regarded as "sexy" ideals. Proportionate curves are the key. Apparently the waist-hip ratio of .8 is the most favoured. Which as I said is indicative of fertility. Google will help you if you want to research it further.

You personally not finding this type attractive neither negates this nor gives rise to the need for you to assume that I must be claiming this because I see my own shape as the ideal.

You mentioned fertility to back up your statement but you were stating attractiveness in the post in question?

I am curious how you came to your conclusion that the hourglass shape is seen as the most attractive body shape?

The attractiveness of someones body shape varies from individual to individual.

And there are massive differences in how people perceive the attractiveness of body shape depending on which country you live in around the world.

So I still wonder how you came up with your conclusion that the most attractive body shape for a woman is hourglass?

Since we're in Western culture I've taken the liberty of using those standards, hardly an outrageous thing to do, it's been researched and surveyed - as the internet can easily show you, and researchers conclude it is to do with indicators of fertility - hips widen at puberty, menopausal women thicken at the waist, so a well-defined waist is indicative of fertility. If you want to pretend that this isn't the Western norm of female attractiveness, knock yourself out.

I found this extract I pulled off the internet interesting ?

Some of the things that men find attractive include a small level of neuroticism, wearing red, having a balanced mouth, having large eyes, being empathic and agreeable, being self-sacrificing, and being appreciative. This means that many of the traits a man looks for in a woman are actually based on personality, not body. Additionally, research shows that men genetically look for women with the right hip to waist ratio, but they care far more about a woman’s facial attractiveness than the shape of their body overall. So perhaps the cosmetics industry is right, and women should focus on their makeup. Or perhaps it is time for women to start caring more about themselves, and not about what men think they should look like.

The 'small level of neuroticism' is interesting. I wonder why that might be appealing."

If you're needy and insecure resulting in a bit of jealousy, it boosts his ego! A fine line of course....

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I'm not sure parents would treat a more "attractive" child differently but certainly the rest of society. I've already been given praise and compliments for how "pretty" I am and I think this has given me more confidence which in turn makes me more attractive (as long as it doesn't edge into narcissism which it sometimes does). However, I have a below average body which pulls down my confidence. I'm also disabled so this really makes me feel "not good enough" too. This doesn't just apply to sexual relationships but my confidence overall, I feel like a lesser human being. Generally feel that those who are slimmer must think badly of me (likely they don't but still how I feel) and therefore not as likely to want to spend time with me. Goodness knows what I'd be like if I was slim - a walking Barbie doll who loves herself too much most likely!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


" Same applies to men.

Mad isnt it.

Its not rational is it but it happens from as early as birth apparently ?

Maybe Just the way we are wired as a species?

There's a lot of sense in it to be fair.

We ( as a species ) are attracted to symmetrical images. We find Asymmetry ugly. So it's all about balance and health.

It helps us to pick healthy partners to pro create. And to stay away from the unhealthy folk that would harm us especially as a species.

Exactly, just as it's no coincidence that the hourglass female figure is deemed the most attractive - it indicates health and peak fertility.

The slim or bigger women who havent got an hour glass figure are doomed then ??

Just out of curiosity?

Have you got an hour glass figure by any chance?

I was merely pointing out the reality of human preferences - and the science behind it - no different to taller men being the "ideal".

Would you say you have an hourglass figure?

No, my hips are proportionately smaller than my top half.

Would you say that if I did it would render me incapable of accurate perception as to what is the most desired female body shape?

Its because I personally dont agree with the hourglass figure you say is seen as the most attractive?

And wonder how you came up with your conclusion?

Take a look at the women who are regarded as "sexy" ideals. Proportionate curves are the key. Apparently the waist-hip ratio of .8 is the most favoured. Which as I said is indicative of fertility. Google will help you if you want to research it further.

You personally not finding this type attractive neither negates this nor gives rise to the need for you to assume that I must be claiming this because I see my own shape as the ideal.

You mentioned fertility to back up your statement but you were stating attractiveness in the post in question?

I am curious how you came to your conclusion that the hourglass shape is seen as the most attractive body shape?

The attractiveness of someones body shape varies from individual to individual.

And there are massive differences in how people perceive the attractiveness of body shape depending on which country you live in around the world.

So I still wonder how you came up with your conclusion that the most attractive body shape for a woman is hourglass?

Since we're in Western culture I've taken the liberty of using those standards, hardly an outrageous thing to do, it's been researched and surveyed - as the internet can easily show you, and researchers conclude it is to do with indicators of fertility - hips widen at puberty, menopausal women thicken at the waist, so a well-defined waist is indicative of fertility. If you want to pretend that this isn't the Western norm of female attractiveness, knock yourself out.

I found this extract I pulled off the internet interesting ?

Some of the things that men find attractive include a small level of neuroticism, wearing red, having a balanced mouth, having large eyes, being empathic and agreeable, being self-sacrificing, and being appreciative. This means that many of the traits a man looks for in a woman are actually based on personality, not body. Additionally, research shows that men genetically look for women with the right hip to waist ratio, but they care far more about a woman’s facial attractiveness than the shape of their body overall. So perhaps the cosmetics industry is right, and women should focus on their makeup. Or perhaps it is time for women to start caring more about themselves, and not about what men think they should look like.

The 'small level of neuroticism' is interesting. I wonder why that might be appealing.

If you're needy and insecure resulting in a bit of jealousy, it boosts his ego! A fine line of course...."

A very fine line.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


" Same applies to men.

Mad isnt it.

Its not rational is it but it happens from as early as birth apparently ?

Maybe Just the way we are wired as a species?

There's a lot of sense in it to be fair.

We ( as a species ) are attracted to symmetrical images. We find Asymmetry ugly. So it's all about balance and health.

It helps us to pick healthy partners to pro create. And to stay away from the unhealthy folk that would harm us especially as a species.

Exactly, just as it's no coincidence that the hourglass female figure is deemed the most attractive - it indicates health and peak fertility.

The slim or bigger women who havent got an hour glass figure are doomed then ??

Just out of curiosity?

Have you got an hour glass figure by any chance?

I was merely pointing out the reality of human preferences - and the science behind it - no different to taller men being the "ideal".

Would you say you have an hourglass figure?

No, my hips are proportionately smaller than my top half.

Would you say that if I did it would render me incapable of accurate perception as to what is the most desired female body shape?

Its because I personally dont agree with the hourglass figure you say is seen as the most attractive?

And wonder how you came up with your conclusion?

Take a look at the women who are regarded as "sexy" ideals. Proportionate curves are the key. Apparently the waist-hip ratio of .8 is the most favoured. Which as I said is indicative of fertility. Google will help you if you want to research it further.

You personally not finding this type attractive neither negates this nor gives rise to the need for you to assume that I must be claiming this because I see my own shape as the ideal.

You mentioned fertility to back up your statement but you were stating attractiveness in the post in question?

I am curious how you came to your conclusion that the hourglass shape is seen as the most attractive body shape?

The attractiveness of someones body shape varies from individual to individual.

And there are massive differences in how people perceive the attractiveness of body shape depending on which country you live in around the world.

So I still wonder how you came up with your conclusion that the most attractive body shape for a woman is hourglass?

Since we're in Western culture I've taken the liberty of using those standards, hardly an outrageous thing to do, it's been researched and surveyed - as the internet can easily show you, and researchers conclude it is to do with indicators of fertility - hips widen at puberty, menopausal women thicken at the waist, so a well-defined waist is indicative of fertility. If you want to pretend that this isn't the Western norm of female attractiveness, knock yourself out.

I found this extract I pulled off the internet interesting ?

Some of the things that men find attractive include a small level of neuroticism, wearing red, having a balanced mouth, having large eyes, being empathic and agreeable, being self-sacrificing, and being appreciative. This means that many of the traits a man looks for in a woman are actually based on personality, not body. Additionally, research shows that men genetically look for women with the right hip to waist ratio, but they care far more about a woman’s facial attractiveness than the shape of their body overall. So perhaps the cosmetics industry is right, and women should focus on their makeup. Or perhaps it is time for women to start caring more about themselves, and not about what men think they should look like.

The 'small level of neuroticism' is interesting. I wonder why that might be appealing.

If you're needy and insecure resulting in a bit of jealousy, it boosts his ego! A fine line of course....

A very fine line. "

True

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

We have more sex, we are more popular, and we get promoted at work. Our salaries are higher. So, yes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"We have more sex, we are more popular, and we get promoted at work. Our salaries are higher. So, yes. "

Lucky you

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"We have more sex, we are more popular, and we get promoted at work. Our salaries are higher. So, yes.

Lucky you "

It does get a bit much at times though, as people assume I am just a hunk of beefcake with no brains. Women just want me for my gym toned body, whereas I want a meaningful dialogue...

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Rich people can make themselves look more attractive by better grooming and possessions.

Intelligence can make some people more attractive to others too.

Some people with unconventional faces can be attractive because of their personality.

If you take both ends of the attractiveness spectrum and gave the bottom end money and the high end were poor, I'm betting the bottom people would get more respect from the general public. "

This is bang on. Wealthier people have access to better health (nutrition, exercise, medical care) and better education (skills&prospects) - then if you still look ugly there's grooming and possessions! Much of mainstream attractiveness is to do with fashioning the body and displaying success. It is a social reckoning, a judgement we all do at face value.

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By *agneto.Man  over a year ago

Bham

Defintely. They're usually spoilt or dull as dishwater. Would still do them though

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Rich people can make themselves look more attractive by better grooming and possessions.

Intelligence can make some people more attractive to others too.

Some people with unconventional faces can be attractive because of their personality.

If you take both ends of the attractiveness spectrum and gave the bottom end money and the high end were poor, I'm betting the bottom people would get more respect from the general public.

This is bang on. Wealthier people have access to better health (nutrition, exercise, medical care) and better education (skills&prospects) - then if you still look ugly there's grooming and possessions! Much of mainstream attractiveness is to do with fashioning the body and displaying success. It is a social reckoning, a judgement we all do at face value."

This is the most sense I've heard in years. Love to you xxx

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By *orum TrollWoman  over a year ago

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suppose it depends on why you want to be attracted to someone as well? i like this theory that i've heard:

people who want to breed for physical appearance, because they think looks are the best chance of survival, will choose aesthetically pleasing partners. tournament species/patiarchial societies do this and the males are larger than the females (tall with more testosterone) and they don't invest a lot in their children as they're hoping their genetic make up will work for them.

people who think having more intelligent children is important tend to look similar as they're equally investing in their kids.

if you're not breeding at all it makes sense you will drop either standard for just sex, which many men say they do that and women say they do not. it also makes sense that if you have it in your head that you could make a baby by having sex (which women risk this more than men).

dunno if it's true but you can explain some things this way.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"

flowers thrown at me as I walk down the street tells me yes

of course attractive people are treated differently

we can be very shallow people here on Earth

Yes I agree.

For all the political correctness and trying to do and say the right thing ?

We are a bunch of shallow twats underneath it all really arnt we ?

not all of us, no

Figuratively speaking as a race I meant "

of course not

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By *orum TrollWoman  over a year ago

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"Rich people can make themselves look more attractive by better grooming and possessions.

Intelligence can make some people more attractive to others too.

Some people with unconventional faces can be attractive because of their personality.

If you take both ends of the attractiveness spectrum and gave the bottom end money and the high end were poor, I'm betting the bottom people would get more respect from the general public.

This is bang on. Wealthier people have access to better health (nutrition, exercise, medical care) and better education (skills&prospects) - then if you still look ugly there's grooming and possessions! Much of mainstream attractiveness is to do with fashioning the body and displaying success. It is a social reckoning, a judgement we all do at face value."

i heard also it come from times when we didn't have a lot of medical knowledge so if people look 'ill' ie: spotty, thin, 'ugly', then they aren't attractive in case they have a disease. and why would you breed with someone who isn't genetically any good coz their babies are likely to be born 'ill' and unable to be treated or just die.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Personality shapes my likelihood of being attracted to someone more than what they look like, even on a site such as this.

I'm deeply attracted to thinkers and creative types and those with a daft but content disposition.

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By *orum TrollWoman  over a year ago

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"Rich people can make themselves look more attractive by better grooming and possessions.

Intelligence can make some people more attractive to others too.

Some people with unconventional faces can be attractive because of their personality.

If you take both ends of the attractiveness spectrum and gave the bottom end money and the high end were poor, I'm betting the bottom people would get more respect from the general public.

This is bang on. Wealthier people have access to better health (nutrition, exercise, medical care) and better education (skills&prospects) - then if you still look ugly there's grooming and possessions! Much of mainstream attractiveness is to do with fashioning the body and displaying success. It is a social reckoning, a judgement we all do at face value.

i heard also it come from times when we didn't have a lot of medical knowledge so if people look 'ill' ie: spotty, thin, 'ugly', then they aren't attractive in case they have a disease. and why would you breed with someone who isn't genetically any good coz their babies are likely to be born 'ill' and unable to be treated or just die."

oh and top of that wealth is a big factor in survival also. and it's why people are more obsessed with looking wealthy instead of creating wealth or intelligence for themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Looks get you everything in life good job good looking partners and basically more oppertunities even if your thick as shit

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"suppose it depends on why you want to be attracted to someone as well? i like this theory that i've heard:

people who want to breed for physical appearance, because they think looks are the best chance of survival, will choose aesthetically pleasing partners. tournament species/patiarchial societies do this and the males are larger than the females (tall with more testosterone) and they don't invest a lot in their children as they're hoping their genetic make up will work for them.

people who think having more intelligent children is important tend to look similar as they're equally investing in their kids.

if you're not breeding at all it makes sense you will drop either standard for just sex, which many men say they do that and women say they do not. it also makes sense that if you have it in your head that you could make a baby by having sex (which women risk this more than men).

dunno if it's true but you can explain some things this way."

I love your posts. You're always really interesting.

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By *orum TrollWoman  over a year ago

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"suppose it depends on why you want to be attracted to someone as well? i like this theory that i've heard:

people who want to breed for physical appearance, because they think looks are the best chance of survival, will choose aesthetically pleasing partners. tournament species/patiarchial societies do this and the males are larger than the females (tall with more testosterone) and they don't invest a lot in their children as they're hoping their genetic make up will work for them.

people who think having more intelligent children is important tend to look similar as they're equally investing in their kids.

if you're not breeding at all it makes sense you will drop either standard for just sex, which many men say they do that and women say they do not. it also makes sense that if you have it in your head that you could make a baby by having sex (which women risk this more than men).

dunno if it's true but you can explain some things this way.

I love your posts. You're always really interesting. "

thanks, i've done a lot of studying.

shame i can't remember the names of any studies but that one i do know Robert Kapolsky promotes it. most of what you read in the media about what effects us physically he has found out by studying monkey species. things like stress causes heart disease he found out by blood testing stressed monkeys.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"definitely.

just the way you present yourself, whether attractive or not, will also change the way people act with you. and there have been loads of studies about that.

"

Very true

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Heres an interesting thought.

Well I thought it was interesting anyway?

Do you think attractive people are treated differently?

Even from birth to adulthood?

Heres an extract I pulled regarding a few points...

Our genes cause genetic mutations forming a 'draft' personality.

During our early upbringing, our parents, teachers and friends treat us differently based on our looks and draft personality.

Once we are older we then form a narrative of our lives based on our experiences growing up, and make decisions consistent with the character we have created.

What do you think?

"

Yes i do think people are treated differently

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I think it definitely does.

For example, a lot think some women get big headed on here because they get attention when they wouldn't get it in the real world. That's what's said by some men, I'm not saying it's true.

For me, it works the opposite.

Because I don't get attention in the real world because I'm not one of life's attractive women, I tend not to believe that men on here are really attracted to me. I'm just a pair of tits and a fanny and that's it. "

I feel the same

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"I think it definitely does.

For example, a lot think some women get big headed on here because they get attention when they wouldn't get it in the real world. That's what's said by some men, I'm not saying it's true.

For me, it works the opposite.

Because I don't get attention in the real world because I'm not one of life's attractive women, I tend not to believe that men on here are really attracted to me. I'm just a pair of tits and a fanny and that's it.

I feel the same "

Thats an awful thing to think.

Im sure you are loved liked and cherished by lots of people who know you

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I think it definitely does.

For example, a lot think some women get big headed on here because they get attention when they wouldn't get it in the real world. That's what's said by some men, I'm not saying it's true.

For me, it works the opposite.

Because I don't get attention in the real world because I'm not one of life's attractive women, I tend not to believe that men on here are really attracted to me. I'm just a pair of tits and a fanny and that's it.

I feel the same

Thats an awful thing to think.

Im sure you are loved liked and cherished by lots of people who know you "

But that's nothing to do with attractiveness

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By *icketysplitsWoman  over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Yes, of course it does.

Those that fit the image of beauty popular at any given time are afforded qualities they may not have. It can be positive but it can also be negative if you feel you can't live up to the expectations people have of you or you can't see yourself the ways others are seeing you

Over the years I have met many people who were classically beautiful/attractive or had the beauty ideals of the day. As they got older and changed they struggled to maintain that popularity, where they hadn't done anything to develop more than an expectation that they would be feted. One woman described becoming invisible.

I know when one of my ex partner's left me for someone who I thought was less attractive than me it felt like a double betrayal at the time (I'm a little more mature now but I think if people are truly honest they will recognise this base feeling).

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"Yes, of course it does.

Those that fit the image of beauty popular at any given time are afforded qualities they may not have. It can be positive but it can also be negative if you feel you can't live up to the expectations people have of you or you can't see yourself the ways others are seeing you

Over the years I have met many people who were classically beautiful/attractive or had the beauty ideals of the day. As they got older and changed they struggled to maintain that popularity, where they hadn't done anything to develop more than an expectation that they would be feted. One woman described becoming invisible.

I know when one of my ex partner's left me for someone who I thought was less attractive than me it felt like a double betrayal at the time (I'm a little more mature now but I think if people are truly honest they will recognise this base feeling).

"

I like your posts Lickety you always seem to speak sense

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I think so, I don't think I'm unattractive but I'm not most people's cup of tea I guess

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I think they get more of a second look than the next person

But I would do that looking at a good looking guy in the street ...give a second look maybe even a third and walk into the lamp post

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

yes,,,

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

being attractive can be a pain in the arse

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"being attractive can be a pain in the arse "

I see what you did there

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"

Personality shapes my likelihood of being attracted to someone more than what they look like, even on a site such as this.

I'm deeply attracted to thinkers and creative types and those with a daft but content disposition.

"

So... when a toothless sweaty hobo with a lovely friendly demeanour sits next to you on the bus you don't feel uncomfortable?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Heres an interesting thought.

Well I thought it was interesting anyway?

Do you think attractive people are treated differently?

Even from birth to adulthood?

Heres an extract I pulled regarding a few points...

Our genes cause genetic mutations forming a 'draft' personality.

During our early upbringing, our parents, teachers and friends treat us differently based on our looks and draft personality.

Once we are older we then form a narrative of our lives based on our experiences growing up, and make decisions consistent with the character we have created.

What do you think?

"

Yes x

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I was once told that the only reason I got work was because I was bald.....I was 32 at the time. I guess baldness can be considered attractive at 32. I hadn't thought of it as a criterion for work before though. My minging looks never got in the way of anything I wanted to do, I guess I made up for it with my twatishness

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I was once told that the only reason I got work was because I was bald.....I was 32 at the time. I guess baldness can be considered attractive at 32. I hadn't thought of it as a criterion for work before though. My minging looks never got in the way of anything I wanted to do, I guess I made up for it with my twatishness "

Love a bald/skinhead man. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder xx

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

It does shape us ,I was bullied at school because I was bigger ..until they realised I could play football and rugby a bit ...it's made me less trusting and dare I say it awkward at times and in certain circles ...but yes everything we go through in life makes and shapes us

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

oh ffs your all so ugly,,why you even responding to this thread ,,lol

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"oh ffs your all so ugly,,why you even responding to this thread ,,lol"

Just so I can come in behind you Mikki, fantastic arse btw

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"

Personality shapes my likelihood of being attracted to someone more than what they look like, even on a site such as this.

I'm deeply attracted to thinkers and creative types and those with a daft but content disposition.

So... when a toothless sweaty hobo with a lovely friendly demeanour sits next to you on the bus you don't feel uncomfortable?"

Am I expected to fuck eveyone I meet?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"

Personality shapes my likelihood of being attracted to someone more than what they look like, even on a site such as this.

I'm deeply attracted to thinkers and creative types and those with a daft but content disposition.

So... when a toothless sweaty hobo with a lovely friendly demeanour sits next to you on the bus you don't feel uncomfortable?

Am I expected to fuck eveyone I meet?

"

Teehee would you be cruising the local busses for potential playmates?

As per OP - our behaviour towards people is different depending on how attractive we assess them to be, and the way we are treated varies depending on same also. This permeates social life, it is not a behaviour solely related to choosing sexual partners. I wasn't suggesting you should be fucking with this imaginary down-and-out, I was curious to know if you'd even tolerate them close to your personal space.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I was once told that the only reason I got work was because I was bald.....I was 32 at the time. I guess baldness can be considered attractive at 32. I hadn't thought of it as a criterion for work before though. My minging looks never got in the way of anything I wanted to do, I guess I made up for it with my twatishness

Love a bald/skinhead man. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder xx"

Bald head, hairy chest and dad bod with a wicked glint in the eyes

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By *inglehotchickWoman  over a year ago

blackpool

I don't know if they do as it always depends on the persons perception of what is attractive

I know I'm not for everyone and vice versa

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