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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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OK .....
I know this is a swingers site and we all love to share here 
But am I wrong to be put off by a man that is basically fucking / has fucked everyone in my area 
He also plays at clubs at the weekends.
I mean fair play to him- but I'm not sure that I want to be one of the many
Maybe swinging is wrong for me?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree... I feel the same. The old numbers game doesn't do it for me ... I've found not everyone is like that and treats each individual meeting as special  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think you can be self-aware enough (as you obviously are) to understand that they way you feel isn't necessarily logical in a swinging context, but still feel the way you feel. Feeling something isn't wrong. Deciding not to meet someone because of a gut feeling isn't wrong. I quite like meeting unverified men for this very reason. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OK .....
I know this is a swingers site and we all love to share here
But am I wrong to be put off by a man that is basically fucking / has fucked everyone in my area
He also plays at clubs at the weekends.
I mean fair play to him- but I'm not sure that I want to be one of the many
Maybe swinging is wrong for me?
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If he was in my area I'd have blocked him thus removing his chance of adding me to his list 
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"OK .....
I know this is a swingers site and we all love to share here
But am I wrong to be put off by a man that is basically fucking / has fucked everyone in my area
He also plays at clubs at the weekends.
I mean fair play to him- but I'm not sure that I want to be one of the many
Maybe swinging is wrong for me?
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Exclusivity is not a dirty word.. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I think you can be self-aware enough (as you obviously are) to understand that they way you feel isn't necessarily logical in a swinging context, but still feel the way you feel. Feeling something isn't wrong. Deciding not to meet someone because of a gut feeling isn't wrong. I quite like meeting unverified men for this very reason. "
 OP, if you don't want to meet someone and have a strong reaction to whatever, it doesn't mean swinging isn't for you. It just means you understand what you do and don't feel comfortable with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OK .....
I know this is a swingers site and we all love to share here
But am I wrong to be put off by a man that is basically fucking / has fucked everyone in my area
He also plays at clubs at the weekends.
I mean fair play to him- but I'm not sure that I want to be one of the many
Maybe swinging is wrong for me?
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No it doesn't mean swinging is not for you.
YOU set YOUR boundaries, and are perfectly entitled to not want to meet someone you feel that way about.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OK .....
I know this is a swingers site and we all love to share here
But am I wrong to be put off by a man that is basically fucking / has fucked everyone in my area
He also plays at clubs at the weekends.
I mean fair play to him- but I'm not sure that I want to be one of the many
Maybe swinging is wrong for me?
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No. Your not wrong. Your just being honest with how you feel.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You're not wrong to feel like that and I know exactly how you feel OP. Feeling like you're at the end of a long list, even on here - especially on here, due to verifications rubbing your nose in it a bit. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just because you're on a swingers site doesn't mean you can't have doubts about how other people meet.
If anything I'd say it's more important to listen to your instinct and stick to what is right for you regardless of anyone else's opinion.
FWIW....I've felt the same way in the past. |
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I've questioned if swinging is right for me for this reason... I like to have a connection and feel like some effort has been made. I know that's not for everyone of course, but I'm happy to stick to my own boundaries and see what happens I guess
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"OK .....
I know this is a swingers site and we all love to share here
But am I wrong to be put off by a man that is basically fucking / has fucked everyone in my area
He also plays at clubs at the weekends.
I mean fair play to him- but I'm not sure that I want to be one of the many
Maybe swinging is wrong for me?
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I don't want to be a easily forgotten shag among the many but equally I don't want to shag to many that those I do and have shag become forgotten so easily |
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By *aroleBaskinWoman
over a year ago
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"I've questioned if swinging is right for me for this reason... I like to have a connection and feel like some effort has been made. I know that's not for everyone of course, but I'm happy to stick to my own boundaries and see what happens I guess
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I feel exactly the same. I don't feel judgemental about guys with many veris but from the point of view of meeting, I find it intimidating. Maybe it's inexperience on my part. We all have to be comfortable with our choices and that's how it should be. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OK .....
I know this is a swingers site and we all love to share here
But am I wrong to be put off by a man that is basically fucking / has fucked everyone in my area
He also plays at clubs at the weekends.
I mean fair play to him- but I'm not sure that I want to be one of the many
Maybe swinging is wrong for me?
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I feel exactly the same as u. If a guy has a long list of local verifications I'm not interested. I like a guy that has standards too. I also like to meet guys without a verification for this reason lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think you can be self-aware enough (as you obviously are) to understand that they way you feel isn't necessarily logical in a swinging context, but still feel the way you feel. Feeling something isn't wrong. Deciding not to meet someone because of a gut feeling isn't wrong. I quite like meeting unverified men for this very reason.
OP, if you don't want to meet someone and have a strong reaction to whatever, it doesn't mean swinging isn't for you. It just means you understand what you do and don't feel comfortable with."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I might try a conventional dating site
I'm bored of being just a hole!
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I prefer sites without verifications. Then I can be happy in my ignorance- he may have fucked 5 or 5,000 women but I wouldn't know. |
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