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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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as i agree with some friends of ours comments about the amount of single men allowed into the attic i just thought i might petition them to have a couples only night 1 day a week so thought id put it in the forum to see what kind of support i got if any
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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so many clubs have couple and couple and single female nights..i love the fact the guys have somewhere to go and somewhere where women can find them..
so sorry no, keep it like it is x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"as i agree with some friends of ours comments about the amount of single men allowed into the attic i just thought i might petition them to have a couples only night 1 day a week so thought id put it in the forum to see what kind of support i got if any
awaiting your comments both good and bad"
Go to a different club that caters for your tastes? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i agree with this post
a couples night should on one night a week
we went last weekend and it was nothing more than a cock fest of single men that didnt take no for an answer
ive only been to the club twice but in my opinion its gone downhill sadly  |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"i agree with this post
a couples night should on one night a week
we went last weekend and it was nothing more than a cock fest of single men that didnt take no for an answer
ive only been to the club twice but in my opinion its gone downhill sadly "
great place for gangbangs though and group experiences..keep a club like it and let them fulfill their and other peoples fantasies. its a great place for lots of fun as it is x
other clubs arent like it,too tame and managed. i like its wild kinda style.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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They tried it several times... it was not a success. And they only let one guy in for every woman/ couple I believe..
Not ever really seen it as a problem as plenty of couple only areas and the guys always leave you be if you tell them. And if you get an idiot that doesnt.. the staff are very quick to sort it if you tell them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've never felt like the attic was over run with single men and I've seen a lot of men turned away as they have reached their limit. That said I never feel like there's enough men at any club, but see plenty people complain about there being too many, so thought maybe I just ignore those I'm not interested in so don't acknowledge them.
The attic do normally have a ratio of men to women/couples, you would have been best bringing it up with the staff at the time.
Like stated they have tried a couples night on numerous occasions and it was of no success. There's only so much they can do to try and cater for people's tastes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"saturday it was 4 men to every couple
its fine if you like that
but after kept following us everywhere we had enough and left x"
its not even that on a gg night.
If you tell them they normally go away or tell staff. Its there reputation but id be very surprised if it really was 4 guys to every couple. As we have been wanting lots of guys and had to wait till more couples have been for the guys to be allowed in. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was always led to believe it was a predominantly male club.... for males ..."
nooo it has the adult cinema in the day which is single guy heavy but that's kinda the point.
To be fair we havent been on a evening in a while but have friends that regulary do and they often moan about now the guys are restricted  |
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I've been a few times can't say I've noticed a issue expect like someone else has said not enough single men but I like the fact there is a place to find single guys on a Saturday night so as long as you don't want the couples only on a Saturday I'm fine with it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"not asking to change the club was just asking for 1 night out of 7"
Yes you are asking the club to change. Be it one night or seven. You're asking them to exclude a sector of the scene for your perceived benefit, possibly to the detriment of theirs in the form of reduced revenue. |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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"saturday it was 4 men to every couple
its fine if you like that
but after kept following us everywhere we had enough and left x"
Does this show that couples who say they are going are let downs though rather than too many guys it was too few couples & you cannot at the last minute say they can't come in if they booked..
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I only live 10 mins walk away and have been several times. Only once as a "couple" though, can't say I've noticed loads of blokes stalking couples. If it concerns you OP, have a word with Ron or any other member of staff  |
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Well I was at the attic on Saturday night as a single lady and what others are saying about too many single men and bad behavior has me wondering if we are talking about the same club
There always are a fair few single men but the ratios never seem too far off to me. I thought there was at least 2 couples to every single man last Saturday.
I didn't witness any bad behavior and all the single men I spoke to were very pleasant and respectful. There was one man who seemed very socially awkward and possibly could have made a nuisance of himself but staff were aware of him and keeping a very close eye on him.
The only issue I did see was a d*unken couple who were having a disagreement and staff dealt with it quickly.
I can't comment on other nights - I've only been on Saturdays.
All I can suggest is if you feel that the way the club is run isn't to your liking then maybe you should try somewhere else instead. There are plenty of clubs in the midlands to choose from, I sure you will find one that suits you better.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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ok getting the idea people dont like my post but ill change it then how would people feel if they did it JUST 1 DAY a month surly thats not too much to ask for is it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"ok getting the idea people dont like my post but ill change it then how would people feel if they did it JUST 1 DAY a month surly thats not too much to ask for is it"
do they still have the suggestion box on the bar... as prehaps that would be away. As they will listen to ideas x
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"ok getting the idea people dont like my post but ill change it then how would people feel if they did it JUST 1 DAY a month surly thats not too much to ask for is it"
Well it's no good asking us, try suggesting it to Ron next time you go perhaps  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"ok getting the idea people dont like my post but ill change it then how would people feel if they did it JUST 1 DAY a month surly thats not too much to ask for is it"
It would be the staff you'd need to suggest it too. However, you'd have to get couples to support you in at, as like stated it has been tried before and failed, so knowing the clients will be there will be what the club needs to know. |
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"ok getting the idea people dont like my post but ill change it then how would people feel if they did it JUST 1 DAY a month surly thats not too much to ask for is it"
You could put the suggestion to the club but don't expect anything to change. As has been said by other posters they have tried couples and single ladies only nights before and they were a bit of a failure.
Why would you expect the club to make changes just because it doesn't suit you. The answer is to find a club that does suit your requirements.
It may be that one day a month is too much to ask of the club. As the club is run at the moment they have been busy every saturday night I've attended. If they make the change you want they could loose a lot of customers on that night. To compensate for this they would need to hike the prices for that evening. Would you be happy paying £40-50 per couple instead of the usual £10 just to keep out the single men? |
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By * and BCouple
over a year ago
Durham |
We have been to The Attic 3 or 4 times over the last few months. We have had no problems with the single men who attend. We don't look for single men and all have been very respectful when we have said not interested. The club looks after everyone well and if single guys are reported for stepping out of line they would be asked to leave. On the question by OP, we go to a lot of clubs on couples and single females and love the concept and they are always busy nights, so busy some clubs put these nights on 2 Saturdays a month. We always say however don't try and fix something that's not broken and the Attic seem to get it right with it being so busy and a great buzz. The Attic has become our favourite club |
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We going to the attic soon because they let single guys in on a Saturday as clubs by us it's couples and single women only on a Saturday, as long as the guys respect no and are not to pushy hope it will be a great night |
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By *andJ2227Couple
over a year ago
Swadlincote |
We were there last Saturday and left after an hour or so. We found too many single men there for our liking and will be visiting other clubs from now on. We would be interested in a couples only evening if they were ever to hold one but i doubt they will. |
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"i agree with this post
a couples night should on one night a week
we went last weekend and it was nothing more than a cock fest of single men that didnt take no for an answer
ive only been to the club twice but in my opinion its gone downhill sadly "
If you found the men to be a problem and they wouldn't take no for an answer why did you not report it to staff? They can't do anything about it if they don't know about it!
Each time we've been to the attic it has been a great mix of people, couple and single ladies far outweighing the number of single men.
Op, as has already been suggested, it appears that the attic isn't to your taste so why not look at other alternatives? Is it because you like how cheap the fees are for the attic in comparison to other clubs so want it to change to suit you rather than paying more for a venue that does meet your preferences |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Why do people keep saying if you don't like it go elsewhere we do like it think its a great club but would just like to see a couples night once in a while they do it for greedy girls ( oh yes for the single men again) and they have tv night's so why not couples
Ps I have messaged the attic profile on here and asked them to look and comment but no luck yet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do people keep saying if you don't like it go elsewhere we do like it think its a great club but would just like to see a couples night once in a while they do it for greedy girls ( oh yes for the single men again) and they have tv night's so why not couples
Ps I have messaged the attic profile on here and asked them to look and comment but no luck yet"
Because those nights have worked and brought in the numbers to make the club worth being open for it, whereas the couples night didn't... That would be my guess anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The club has tried couples and single female only events last year after people asked for them. The only problem being those who said they wanted them didn't attend so after a while the night was cancelled .
so we keep all nights mixed now .
Xxx |
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"The club has tried couples and single female only events last year after people asked for them. The only problem being those who said they wanted them didn't attend so after a while the night was cancelled .
so we keep all nights mixed now .
Xxx"
Well put and being a Saturday it's a great place if you want to meet single guys as like we put most clubs are couples only on a Saturday |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The club has tried couples and single female only events last year after people asked for them. The only problem being those who said they wanted them didn't attend so after a while the night was cancelled .
so we keep all nights mixed now .
Xxx"
I remember organising a bi ladies night after people screamed for it.. and I looked like billy no mates lol x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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thank you to all for thier comments and suggestions but i still think given a couple of months notice(so people can plan) a friday or saturday night that was couples only would be a great thing both for the club and its clients yes double the enterance fee i for one would be willing to pay for a night single man free even if was held once every 3 months |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"thank you to all for thier comments and suggestions but i still think given a couple of months notice(so people can plan) a friday or saturday night that was couples only would be a great thing both for the club and its clients yes double the enterance fee i for one would be willing to pay for a night single man free even if was held once every 3 months"
When they done it, it wasn't just a one of and fail, it was something that was ongoing for several months, but never took off.
The attic in my own humble opinion, is more for the diversity within it, in that it allows TVs/TS's/TG's on every night, whereas no other club does (that I know of) as they're seen as the least popular. Therefore the attic is a club that does not discriminate and caters for everyone within the scene. |
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Bloody hell OP you don't give up do you? Even when the club explains why they don't offer what you are demanding it still isn't enough.
They don't do couples only nights and have no plans to. They are not going to change their mind just because you want it 
If you don't like it go to another club. Simple! |
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Nice to see a club allowing single guys in on a Saturday night. So nany clubs where Saturdays are couples only and that's not our thing.
Only been to the Attic once and I think it was a Friday. There were a fair amount of guys there, but not overwhelming vs the couples.
It suited us for our play and the guys were all very resepectful.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Genuine question
Are there any couples only or couples / single fems only clubs that are successful ?
If so, give them a nod here
The OP might like to visit those clubs instead once in a while
It might reduce the need for them to look to change what appears to be a successful business plan to suit the convenience of a few |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i agree with this post
a couples night should on one night a week
we went last weekend and it was nothing more than a cock fest of single men that didnt take no for an answer
ive only been to the club twice but in my opinion its gone downhill sadly
If you found the men to be a problem and they wouldn't take no for an answer why did you not report it to staff? They can't do anything about it if they don't know about it!
Each time we've been to the attic it has been a great mix of people, couple and single ladies far outweighing the number of single men.
Op, as has already been suggested, it appears that the attic isn't to your taste so why not look at other alternatives? Is it because you like how cheap the fees are for the attic in comparison to other clubs so want it to change to suit you rather than paying more for a venue that does meet your preferences "
just seen your comment
and as it was our second time going we didnt know how to go about it
he just followed us around and with the attic being a small area we thought the staff wouldnt do owt so it was easier to leave
as for us trying to change the club it was a suggestion and im sure you understand what one them is???
as for the cheap comment money mite be an issue for you however for us you cant put a price on a good time
we tried the attic because its close to home but as i said in my review we will try other places now as well
hope this clears up your defensive points |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i agree with this post
a couples night should on one night a week
we went last weekend and it was nothing more than a cock fest of single men that didnt take no for an answer
ive only been to the club twice but in my opinion its gone downhill sadly
If you found the men to be a problem and they wouldn't take no for an answer why did you not report it to staff? They can't do anything about it if they don't know about it!
Each time we've been to the attic it has been a great mix of people, couple and single ladies far outweighing the number of single men.
Op, as has already been suggested, it appears that the attic isn't to your taste so why not look at other alternatives? Is it because you like how cheap the fees are for the attic in comparison to other clubs so want it to change to suit you rather than paying more for a venue that does meet your preferences
just seen your comment
and as it was our second time going we didnt know how to go about it
he just followed us around and with the attic being a small area we thought the staff wouldnt do owt so it was easier to leave
as for us trying to change the club it was a suggestion and im sure you understand what one them is???
as for the cheap comment money mite be an issue for you however for us you cant put a price on a good time
we tried the attic because its close to home but as i said in my review we will try other places now as well
hope this clears up your defensive points "
Just wanted to say I agree with your comments a couples night would be good
As a single male I have been disturbed by the way some men act in there respect costs nothing and should always be given
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"Genuine question
Are there any couples only or couples / single fems only clubs that are successful ?
If so, give them a nod here
The OP might like to visit those clubs instead once in a while
It might reduce the need for them to look to change what appears to be a successful business plan to suit the convenience of a few "
I believe liberty elite tried it for a while but after a few months reverted back |
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By *olnpeteCouple
over a year ago
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We went a while ago now and were surrounded by desparate single men wandering around looking for a couple or single female. We know that it's a swingers club but why are so many men let in? I'll tell you why. It's because good old Ron and his squeeze deb get a lot more money from single men who are usually married or attached anyway. Of course they have got their hangers on and apologists but it is sad. |
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"as i agree with some friends of ours comments about the amount of single men allowed into the attic i just thought i might petition them to have a couples only night 1 day a week so thought id put it in the forum to see what kind of support i got if any
awaiting your comments both good and bad"
We are regulars at the Attic, and have never really thought it to be "over-run" with single guys. On the other hand, it only takes one guy (or girl/couple) to be annoying for your night to be ruined.
I don't personally think that the club needs to restrict single guys at any time, but I do think it would be nice if there was a couples only area... Not just one room, but maybe a social area and a couple of play rooms.
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"as i agree with some friends of ours comments about the amount of single men allowed into the attic i just thought i might petition them to have a couples only night 1 day a week so thought id put it in the forum to see what kind of support i got if any
awaiting your comments both good and bad
We are regulars at the Attic, and have never really thought it to be "over-run" with single guys. On the other hand, it only takes one guy (or girl/couple) to be annoying for your night to be ruined.
I don't personally think that the club needs to restrict single guys at any time, but I do think it would be nice if there was a couples only area... Not just one room, but maybe a social area and a couple of play rooms.
Cal"
This is the problem. A club night can be deciphered sometimes purely on who attends. |
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"We went a while ago now and were surrounded by desparate single men wandering around looking for a couple or single female. We know that it's a swingers club but why are so many men let in? I'll tell you why. It's because good old Ron and his squeeze deb get a lot more money from single men who are usually married or attached anyway. Of course they have got their hangers on and apologists but it is sad."
The ratios of men to couples and ladies has been far higher in other clubs that I've visited and they charge much higher prices, allegedly limit male numbers and have a waiting list for male membership.
Even on couple only nights in these clubs there can seem like there is a plethora of men doing the cock conga. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We went a while ago now and were surrounded by desparate single men wandering around looking for a couple or single female. We know that it's a swingers club but why are so many men let in? I'll tell you why. It's because good old Ron and his squeeze deb get a lot more money from single men who are usually married or attached anyway. Of course they have got their hangers on and apologists but it is sad.
The ratios of men to couples and ladies has been far higher in other clubs that I've visited and they charge much higher prices, allegedly limit male numbers and have a waiting list for male membership.
Even on couple only nights in these clubs there can seem like there is a plethora of men doing the cock conga."
I totally agree. Ive had more problems with single guys at chams than ever at the attic..
Yes the attic is single guy friendly and for that reason a lot of couples/ single ladies go that enjoy that. We dont really go to the attic now ( have popped in occassionally) but we do club events every week.. quest..cupids..chams.. jaydees and many more. To be fair the only place I can hand on heart say we havent ever had an incident personally is townhouse.
But what we will say is that attic incidents have been few and far between... and we used to go there a lot ( reasons for not going are no reflection on the club and miss it greatly)
Worst incident ever for me has been at chams both times. Yes it was dealt with but it made me feel uncomfortable and that is no easy thing too accomplish at a club.. oh and I still maintain that women are far worse offenders than guys and thats at any club |
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In my opinion it's a refreshing change to find a club that is non judgemental, inclusive and welcomes everyone.
There are some clubs who ask to see photos first and if you don't meet their ideals on looks, age, size etc then you are refused membership. Others don't welcome tv/ts ladies. And of course we have those who don't permit men on certain nights.
Out there in the club scene there are places which will appeal to all tastes, sometimes we have to travel further to find what we are looking for.
We have other clubs closer to home that we could go to but when we go to a club we are choosing to go to the attic over these because we like the inclusive atmosphere there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We went a while ago now and were surrounded by desparate single men wandering around looking for a couple or single female. We know that it's a swingers club but why are so many men let in? I'll tell you why. It's because good old Ron and his squeeze deb get a lot more money from single men who are usually married or attached anyway. Of course they have got their hangers on and apologists but it is sad."
Why go, if that's what you think?
I wouldn't say they get a lot more money from single men, in comparison to other clubs. But I also wouldn't say they let loads of single men in, I've seen Dave working the door and turning men away as they have reached the limit, due to how many couples and single women are in on said night. I've seen men hovering around outside awaiting a female to see if they can go in as a couple, but the club spot it and refuse entry if the woman says ok.
All clubs charge extra for men as they know men will pay it and bring in the extra income, not just the attic.
I do find that if anyone has a problem with the single men in there then why bother going? I've never had any trouble from a single guy there and only ever at one club, but have had plenty stuff said to me from couples that wouldn't be acceptable from a single male and even club owners treat situations differently depending on who it was, which in my opinion shouldn't be the case. |
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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago
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"as i agree with some friends of ours comments about the amount of single men allowed into the attic i just thought i might petition them to have a couples only night 1 day a week so thought id put it in the forum to see what kind of support i got if any
awaiting your comments both good and bad"
This has been raised before, and to their credit the club did try a couples night only on a Sunday, from what I read the turnout was poor. |
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