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"The pressures of this "Hallmark" holiday do seem to bring out the worst in some, we stopped bothering with Valentine's Day quite a few years ago now, prices are hiked up on flowers and restaurants, it's too commercialised now, like Christmas, it's all about the money and not the love. We let the day come and go like any other "Me and my ex hubby used to be like that most we did was get a card as a gesture then spend the day like any other, no big deal | |||
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If you feel like something is missing in your life, or not going well, then having a day devoted to that thing rammed down your throat by every advert and shop you go near will be tough.
If someone had just lost their mum, or found out they couldn't have children, they'd probably find Mother's Day quite difficult, same with Father's Day, and I'm not sure that people would be so dismissive of those feelings, but this is no different. | |||
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"I'm not single but that's never stopped me commenting
If you feel like something is missing in your life, or not going well, then having a day devoted to that thing rammed down your throat by every advert and shop you go near will be tough.
If someone had just lost their mum, or found out they couldn't have children, they'd probably find Mother's Day quite difficult, same with Father's Day, and I'm not sure that people would be so dismissive of those feelings, but this is no different. "See I tried for 10 years and had 18 infant losses before successfully carrying my twins but I never found Mother's Day heartbreaking, I just see that as just another day too, that in many ways as also been over commercialised. If I'd lost my mum I'd miss her everyday no more or less on mothers day | |||
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"It's just another day. Your single for the ready of the year too. That one day shouldn't make a difference. But being alone on Christmas Day can also feel lonely for some too. Your kind of pushed into feeling sad by certain 'celebrations' Funny isn't it? "Yes I find it a little strange really It's seems commercialised so much that you then are the weird one for not being damn miserable for not feeling lonely at those times | |||
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"I'm not single but that's never stopped me commenting
If you feel like something is missing in your life, or not going well, then having a day devoted to that thing rammed down your throat by every advert and shop you go near will be tough.
If someone had just lost their mum, or found out they couldn't have children, they'd probably find Mother's Day quite difficult, same with Father's Day, and I'm not sure that people would be so dismissive of those feelings, but this is no different.
See I tried for 10 years and had 18 infant losses before successfully carrying my twins but I never found Mother's Day heartbreaking, I just see that as just another day too, that in many ways as also been over commercialised. If I'd lost my mum I'd miss her everyday no more or less on mothers day "Well yes, obviously, but I still think having constant reminders of something you're upset about makes it understandable that some people might not like that day. Just because you don't find it heartbreaking doesn't mean someone else isn't suffering and I think feeling like that is perfectly understandable. It's become quite fashionable to sneer at things like Valentine's Day, but I still like getting a card or a bunch of flowers. It doesn't mean he doesn't love me the rest of the year, but I can't bear people who are deliberately too "cool" for stuff like this. | |||
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It is just another day in the grand scheme of things unless you are fooled by the card industry into thinking you must somehow choose this one day to be extra loving to someone rather than loving them all year round (if you have a partner of course) | |||
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"I'm not single but that's never stopped me commenting
If you feel like something is missing in your life, or not going well, then having a day devoted to that thing rammed down your throat by every advert and shop you go near will be tough.
If someone had just lost their mum, or found out they couldn't have children, they'd probably find Mother's Day quite difficult, same with Father's Day, and I'm not sure that people would be so dismissive of those feelings, but this is no different.
See I tried for 10 years and had 18 infant losses before successfully carrying my twins but I never found Mother's Day heartbreaking, I just see that as just another day too, that in many ways as also been over commercialised. If I'd lost my mum I'd miss her everyday no more or less on mothers day
Well yes, obviously, but I still think having constant reminders of something you're upset about makes it understandable that some people might not like that day. Just because you don't find it heartbreaking doesn't mean someone else isn't suffering and I think feeling like that is perfectly understandable.
It's become quite fashionable to sneer at things like Valentine's Day, but I still like getting a card or a bunch of flowers. It doesn't mean he doesn't love me the rest of the year, but I can't bear people who are deliberately too "cool" for stuff like this. "I'm not too cool for it I just don't get the big deal of it The gesture of A bunch of flowers is no more or less meaningful that day than any other | |||
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"I hate Valentine's day, 3 years ago the man I loved married someone else. This year my former FWB who I was having a relationship with has fucked off with someone else. Just rubs it in really, shops full of stuff, adds on TV, it's in magazines I read, VD everywhere. Haven't got a snowflakes chance in Hello of getting Valentine's this year. " Well I'm sorry to hear that But surely you were either FWB or in a romantic relationship? The dynamics of both are completely separate and different They're awful experiences But you're choosing to let the day get to you because of them it doesn't have to unless you let it, of course I realise that's easier said than done | |||
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"My opinion of it is if you need one day in a year to show your partner how you feel, your relationship is fucked. Everyone knows it's all about March 14th... Steak and blow job day " I thought it was 16th March? | |||
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"It's just another day. Your single for the ready of the year too. That one day shouldn't make a difference. But being alone on Christmas Day can also feel lonely for some too. Your kind of pushed into feeling sad by certain 'celebrations' Funny isn't it?
Yes I find it a little strange really
It's seems commercialised so much that you then are the weird one for not being damn miserable for not feeling lonely at those times "It is commercialised. And so is everything, it's up to yourself if you choose to buy into that crap. It doesn't cost me money to be romantic. I'd much rather cuddle under a blanket on a beach on a worm evening with champaign, music and kisses. 
Or try to book a meal paying triple the price and being squashed in to its maximum capacity. No thanks.
But I'm not going to feel sad. It's just another day.
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"We let the day come and go like any other " Same for us too. | |||
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"My opinion of it is if you need one day in a year to show your partner how you feel, your relationship is fucked. Everyone knows it's all about March 14th... Steak and blow job day I thought it was 16th March?" Deffo the 14th as it's a month after valentines day | |||
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"It amazes me how so many can't understand or accept that others can feel differently about something and it can be right too. It's a great life lesson to learn to accept and celebrate and not criticise another's view on something." So that was your example of accepting and celebrating my viewpoint and not critising it then? | |||
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"It's just another day. Your single for the ready of the year too. That one day shouldn't make a difference. But being alone on Christmas Day can also feel lonely for some too. Your kind of pushed into feeling sad by certain 'celebrations' Funny isn't it?
Yes I find it a little strange really
It's seems commercialised so much that you then are the weird one for not being damn miserable for not feeling lonely at those times
It is commercialised. And so is everything, it's up to yourself if you choose to buy into that crap.
It doesn't cost me money to be romantic.
I'd much rather cuddle under a blanket on a beach on a worm evening with champaign, music and kisses.
Or try to book a meal paying triple the price and being squashed in to its maximum capacity. No thanks.
But I'm not going to feel sad. It's just another day.
And I am too cool. It's says in my profile page. "That's really my take it doesn't cost a penny to be romantic and it can. E done at any given time, one specific day makes it no more or less special | |||
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"I have flowers, a card and chocolates delivered here. I get them for my sister, she always hopes they're from the horse doctor. Bless her she's sweet " Love this | |||
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"It amazes me how so many can't understand or accept that others can feel differently about something and it can be right too. It's a great life lesson to learn to accept and celebrate and not criticise another's view on something. So that was your example of accepting and celebrating my viewpoint and not critising it then?" huh? Not sure where you decided that... I was making a general point about how I see the way so many respond. This topic comes up every year and few seem to realise others can see things differently. You obviously seem to take general view points personal then. | |||
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" So if you're single and dreading tomorrow, try not to mope or dwell, remember it's just one day. Keep yourself happy, positive, confident, flirty, and fun and who knows next year your single status could have changed" Plus, think of all the money you saved! | |||
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"It amazes me how so many can't understand or accept that others can feel differently about something and it can be right too. It's a great life lesson to learn to accept and celebrate and not criticise another's view on something. So that was your example of accepting and celebrating my viewpoint and not critising it then? huh? Not sure where you decided that... I was making a general point about how I see the way so many respond. This topic comes up every year and few seem to realise others can see things differently. You obviously seem to take general view points personal then." Nope, it's all good, it just seemed an odd thing to say for someone that's accepting of others views, so i was curious. | |||
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"I miss the romance, but when i had a fella it was never that romantic to be honest so don't think i'm really missing out, i just feel like i am." This is kinda the point I'm making you can choose to let the day make you feel that way or not. I choose not | |||
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" So if you're single and dreading tomorrow, try not to mope or dwell, remember it's just one day. Keep yourself happy, positive, confident, flirty, and fun and who knows next year your single status could have changed Plus, think of all the money you saved! "I would say I know, but I have kids so what's this thing called money you're referring to? | |||
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"I miss the romance, but when i had a fella it was never that romantic to be honest so don't think i'm really missing out, i just feel like i am. This is kinda the point I'm making you can choose to let the day make you feel that way or not. I choose not " I felt it when i worked in a large office in Cardiff. Flower deliveries for co-workers, other displays of lurve. Now i work in a small office with older office staff it's just another day and i can more or less mistake it for another day bar the radio doing soppy messages. | |||
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"I'm going out for dinner...I should find a dress and make an effort shouldn't I? Pjs and take out sounds like a better plan " Comproslmise wear posh silky pjs to the restaurant | |||
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"I miss the romance, but when i had a fella it was never that romantic to be honest so don't think i'm really missing out, i just feel like i am. This is kinda the point I'm making you can choose to let the day make you feel that way or not. I choose not I felt it when i worked in a large office in Cardiff. Flower deliveries for co-workers, other displays of lurve. Now i work in a small office with older office staff it's just another day and i can more or less mistake it for another day bar the radio doing soppy messages. " Interesting how the environment you're in can effect your mid set and perspective on things at times | |||
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"Oh! That reminds me! Thanks..." Need to increase my reservation from 2 to 3 | |||
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"Being single of valentines day isn't the worst thing ever just think the next day all there chocolates are reduced by loads lol. When I was with NY ex we never did anything extravagant to celebrate valentines day. You don't need to its inky another day of the year lol. "
And besides being single means means more likely to get a damn good fucking than being 'made love' to. At this moment in time I know which I'd prefer | |||
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"I have flowers, a card and chocolates delivered here. I get them for my sister, she always hopes they're from the horse doctor. Bless her she's sweet Love this "I'm a good big brother | |||
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"It amazes me how so many can't understand or accept that others can feel differently about something and it can be right too. It's a great life lesson to learn to accept and celebrate and not criticise another's view on something." This is very true, as long as everyone can accept that my view is always the right one  | |||
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" So if you're single and dreading tomorrow, try not to mope or dwell, remember it's just one day. Keep yourself happy, positive, confident, flirty, and fun and who knows next year your single status could have changed Plus, think of all the money you saved!
I would say I know, but I have kids so what's this thing called money you're referring to? "It's this stuff I used to have before I had a Mrs and kids. I'm not too sure I remember exactly what it was or did I just knew I had some very good times when it was about. you don't think it's drugs do you!!!! | |||
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"It amazes me how so many can't understand or accept that others can feel differently about something and it can be right too. It's a great life lesson to learn to accept and celebrate and not criticise another's view on something. This is very true, as long as everyone can accept that my view is always the right one "I don't see that being a problem given the nature of his comment | |||
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"It amazes me how so many can't understand or accept that others can feel differently about something and it can be right too. It's a great life lesson to learn to accept and celebrate and not criticise another's view on something. This is very true, as long as everyone can accept that my view is always the right one "Yes Miss | |||
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 don't really want the man attached to it, I just want the flowers lol | |||
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" So if you're single and dreading tomorrow, try not to mope or dwell, remember it's just one day. Keep yourself happy, positive, confident, flirty, and fun and who knows next year your single status could have changed Plus, think of all the money you saved!
I would say I know, but I have kids so what's this thing called money you're referring to?
It's this stuff I used to have before I had a Mrs and kids. I'm not too sure I remember exactly what it was or did I just knew I had some very good times when it was about. you don't think it's drugs do you!!!! "Oh yes I vaguely remember it now, just vaguely | |||
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"I'm going out for dinner...I should find a dress and make an effort shouldn't I? Pjs and take out sounds like a better plan Comproslmise wear posh silky pjs to the restaurant "I like the way you think. | |||
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"I have flowers, a card and chocolates delivered here. I get them for my sister, she always hopes they're from the horse doctor. Bless her she's sweet Love this
I'm a good big brother "I'll pm you my address for you to send me some too then shall I? | |||
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"Oh! That reminds me! Thanks... Need to increase my reservation from 2 to 3 "No one likes a show off Joseph!!!!!  | |||
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"For me it's a little different. I use Valentine's Day to show my best friend how much I value her. She always gets flowers, chocolates and a card. That doesn't mean she doesn't know how much I appreciate her every day but it's just an excuse really to give her something to make her smile. Going back to OPs point, I love flowers. It's the only thing I get upset by that I don't get a big bunch of flowers and others do don't really want the man attached to it, I just want the flowers lol "Guessing your friend doesn't return the gesture? I'm a twat with flowers! I'm so OCD with them they have to be arranged to my standards immediately after receiving them otherwuse I'm not happy, so it's far more appreciated that people just don't bother buying me them. They can keep the chocolate too it's a better gift that they eat it for me | |||
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"I know what I want tomorrow, and it isn't flowers or chocolates. I want Norwich to beat Newcastle, that would be my perfect Valentine's Day present "Your old romantic you | |||
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"I have flowers, a card and chocolates delivered here. I get them for my sister, she always hopes they're from the horse doctor. Bless her she's sweet Love this
I'm a good big brother
I'll pm you my address for you to send me some too then shall I? "She'll be right pissed of when she finds out that they're from her brother. And not her fancy guy  | |||
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"I have flowers, a card and chocolates delivered here. I get them for my sister, she always hopes they're from the horse doctor. Bless her she's sweet Love this
I'm a good big brother
I'll pm you my address for you to send me some too then shall I?
She'll be right pissed of when she finds out that they're from her brother. And not her fancy guy "How is she going to find out? I think it's lovely. | |||
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"Guessing your friend doesn't return the gesture? I'm a twat with flowers! I'm so OCD with them they have to be arranged to my standards immediately after receiving them otherwuse I'm not happy, so it's far more appreciated that people just don't bother buying me them. They can keep the chocolate too it's a better gift that they eat it for me "Yeah she has never bought me anything on V-day but I don't mind, my birthday is two weeks later and I get spoilt then
But surely when you receive them and put them in a vase you rearrange them to your standards anyway and the way you like it. How is that a bad thing? | |||
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"For me it's just an excuse really to give her something to make her smile. I love my flower. I don't really want the man to gesture. I'm so OCD with receiving it's far more appreciated. it's a better gift that they eat it for me "Well that's how I read it anyway Curvy x | |||
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"Guessing your friend doesn't return the gesture? I'm a twat with flowers! I'm so OCD with them they have to be arranged to my standards immediately after receiving them otherwuse I'm not happy, so it's far more appreciated that people just don't bother buying me them. They can keep the chocolate too it's a better gift that they eat it for me
Yeah she has never bought me anything on V-day but I don't mind, my birthday is two weeks later and I get spoilt then
But surely when you receive them and put them in a vase you rearrange them to your standards anyway and the way you like it. How is that a bad thing? "Once arranged I'm fine but it's getting them to that point I have spent 3 hours once on a £2.99 bouquet and still wasn't happy with it. I'm not ungrateful so I appreciate the gesture but it's not necessary and for me more hassle than it's worth | |||
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"For me it's just an excuse really to give her something to make her smile. I love my flower. I don't really want the man to gesture. I'm so OCD with receiving it's far more appreciated. it's a better gift that they eat it for me
Well that's how I read it anyway Curvy x "It took me 3 reads through to get that But I got there in the end | |||
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" Any thoughts, comments, or just random bollocks around these musing are welcome "My third favourite massacre after Tiananmen Sq and Jonestown. | |||
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"For me it's just an excuse really to give her something to make her smile. I love my flower. I don't really want the man to gesture. I'm so OCD with receiving it's far more appreciated. it's a better gift that they eat it for me
Well that's how I read it anyway Curvy x
It took me 3 reads through to get that
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" Any thoughts, comments, or just random bollocks around these musing are welcome
My third favourite massacre after Tiananmen Sq and Jonestown.
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"For me it's just an excuse really to give her something to make her smile. I love my flower. I don't really want the man to gesture. I'm so OCD with receiving it's far more appreciated. it's a better gift that they eat it for me
Well that's how I read it anyway Curvy x
It took me 3 reads through to get that
But I got there in the end
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" Once arranged I'm fine but it's getting them to that point I have spent 3 hours once on a £2.99 bouquet and still wasn't happy with it. I'm not ungrateful so I appreciate the gesture but it's not necessary and for me more hassle than it's worth " Ouch!!! 3 hours on arranging a bouquet I'd have chucked them away lol | |||
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"The first few I found a bit annoying and sad but this will be my 8th valentines day as a singleton, I'm taking my daughter to Frankie and Bennies tomorrow and I'll get a nice handmade card from her that she's made in school! Week tomorrow is pancake day, I'm looking forward to that! " Sounds like a nice daughter date, far better in my eyes Doing pancakes the Slimming world way doesn't quite do the day justice though | |||
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" Once arranged I'm fine but it's getting them to that point I have spent 3 hours once on a £2.99 bouquet and still wasn't happy with it. I'm not ungrateful so I appreciate the gesture but it's not necessary and for me more hassle than it's worth Ouch!!! 3 hours on arranging a bouquet I'd have chucked them away lol "I did in the end they were annoying me that they doesn't look right Then I felt bad for chucking then As I said they're not worth hassle | |||
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"The pressures of this "Hallmark" holiday do seem to bring out the worst in some, we stopped bothering with Valentine's Day quite a few years ago now, prices are hiked up on flowers and restaurants, it's too commercialised now, like Christmas, it's all about the money and not the love. We let the day come and go like any other "I've jumped on the commercial bandwagon, card bought, chocolates and roses ordered for delivery, restaurant booked. Nothing wrong with that. | |||
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"The first few I found a bit annoying and sad but this will be my 8th valentines day as a singleton, I'm taking my daughter to Frankie and Bennies tomorrow and I'll get a nice handmade card from her that she's made in school! Week tomorrow is pancake day, I'm looking forward to that! " Single? How you could you pooooooossssssiibly be single calling yourself 'Annie Wilkes' on here?
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"The first few I found a bit annoying and sad but this will be my 8th valentines day as a singleton, I'm taking my daughter to Frankie and Bennies tomorrow and I'll get a nice handmade card from her that she's made in school! Week tomorrow is pancake day, I'm looking forward to that! Sounds like a nice daughter date, far better in my eyes Doing pancakes the Slimming world way doesn't quite do the day justice though " I've got some protein pancakes and strawberry flavdrops. It's the making of the pancakes I enjoy, the traditional ones, mine come in a packet! Yeah valentines day is just another day, I'll have work, my daughter has drama class after school, only difference is we'll go out for dinner. | |||
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"I'm not single but that's never stopped me commenting
If you feel like something is missing in your life, or not going well, then having a day devoted to that thing rammed down your throat by every advert and shop you go near will be tough.
If someone had just lost their mum, or found out they couldn't have children, they'd probably find Mother's Day quite difficult, same with Father's Day, and I'm not sure that people would be so dismissive of those feelings, but this is no different.
See I tried for 10 years and had 18 infant losses before successfully carrying my twins but I never found Mother's Day heartbreaking, I just see that as just another day too, that in many ways as also been over commercialised. If I'd lost my mum I'd miss her everyday no more or less on mothers day "My mum died suddenly of a hear attack just before Mother's Day some years ago, (it was so close, I had already bought the card). Although I miss her on other occasions, Mother's Day reminds me of her more than her birthday does, funnily enough. On the other hand, Valentine's Day was pants because my ex never remembered and I also never got anything throughout the year, (not unless he was having a guilty conscience attack about shagging around). I have had years trying to ignore Valentine's Day, but this year is different,now I have got a really great guy who treats me really well all the time. So I am lucky, but I do know how hard it is when the media and everyone else rams Valentine's Day down your throat when you are either single or stuck with a shit of a selfish (ex)husband/partner. | |||
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"Wen I was younger cards etc were sent anonymously by secret admirers, that to me is what it's all about, not to feel under pressure to buy cards and gifts for your other half, that's it the spirit as far as I'm concerned. People buy into the bullshit of not feeling worthy if they don't get anything on valentines day, not me tho, I'm single and quite indifferent to it if truth be told " This is me also I don't need to receive anything to know my worth | |||
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"I totally agree!! Great OP, OP. "I have flashes of genius like this occasionally | |||
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"It never really bothered me when I've been single tbh, it's just another day . Miss" Doesn't bother me when I'm with someone's so I'm not letting it get to me single | |||
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"Valentine's Day has always been a non-event in my life. I've never had a card. Never had a girlfriend or an admirer around Valentine's. I can't say I understand all the palaver. Maybe it would be nice to experience it just once but I can't say it's something I hanker for. Today I'll think about being single. Tomorrow I'll think about being single. Valentine's Day won't make any difference in that regard." There could be some that admires you from afar without your knowledge not everyone is forthcoming or confident about these type of thing things | |||
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"I have flowers, a card and chocolates delivered here. I get them for my sister, she always hopes they're from the horse doctor. Bless her she's sweet Love this
I'm a good big brother
I'll pm you my address for you to send me some too then shall I?
She'll be right pissed of when she finds out that they're from her brother. And not her fancy guy
How is she going to find out? I think it's lovely."I can assure you she has no idea who they're from | |||
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"I'm not single but that's never stopped me commenting
If you feel like something is missing in your life, or not going well, then having a day devoted to that thing rammed down your throat by every advert and shop you go near will be tough.
If someone had just lost their mum, or found out they couldn't have children, they'd probably find Mother's Day quite difficult, same with Father's Day, and I'm not sure that people would be so dismissive of those feelings, but this is no different. " | |||
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"Last year I took my 5 year old daughter out for a Valentines day dinner... she loved it. Bought her a rose and everything. Thought it is worthwhile to show her how to be treated properly. This year we went out a week early as the opportunity arose and had our 'date night' at a local pub with good pizzas and had a candle-lit dinner whilst she discovered how to do long addition and was getting all excited about adding up 5-digit numbers. A very proud daddy. -Matt" That's lovely My dad used to do little "date nights" like that for me and my sister but he also instilled the fact we didn't need those things to be of worth and value which is the more important message | |||
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"Last year I took my 5 year old daughter out for a Valentines day dinner... she loved it. Bought her a rose and everything. Thought it is worthwhile to show her how to be treated properly. This year we went out a week early as the opportunity arose and had our 'date night' at a local pub with good pizzas and had a candle-lit dinner whilst she discovered how to do long addition and was getting all excited about adding up 5-digit numbers. A very proud daddy. -Matt" Good effort sir | |||
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"It's just another day. Your single for the ready of the year too. That one day shouldn't make a difference. But being alone on Christmas Day can also feel lonely for some too. Your kind of pushed into feeling sad by certain 'celebrations' Funny isn't it?
Yes I find it a little strange really
It's seems commercialised so much that you then are the weird one for not being damn miserable for not feeling lonely at those times
It is commercialised. And so is everything, it's up to yourself if you choose to buy into that crap.
It doesn't cost me money to be romantic.
I'd much rather cuddle under a blanket on a beach on a worm evening with champaign, music and kisses.
Or try to book a meal paying triple the price and being squashed in to its maximum capacity. No thanks.
But I'm not going to feel sad. It's just another day.
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"For me it's a little different. I use Valentine's Day to show my best friend how much I value her. She always gets flowers, chocolates and a card. That doesn't mean she doesn't know how much I appreciate her every day but it's just an excuse really to give her something to make her smile. Going back to OPs point, I love flowers. It's the only thing I get upset by that I don't get a big bunch of flowers and others do don't really want the man attached to it, I just want the flowers lol "Damn glad I wentwith cheesecake rather than the flowers then | |||
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"Last 6 years I have a " date night " with my little boy for valentines . More because he makes an effort and make me a card every year .I usually take him out or cook a nice dinner for him . "That's sweet | |||
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"Valentine's Day has always been a non-event in my life. I've never had a card. Never had a girlfriend or an admirer around Valentine's. I can't say I understand all the palaver. Maybe it would be nice to experience it just once but I can't say it's something I hanker for. Today I'll think about being single. Tomorrow I'll think about being single. Valentine's Day won't make any difference in that regard." Such a sad tale. | |||
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"I'm sure St Valentine will be spinning in his grave at the blatant commercialism that now surrounds his feast day.. He is the patron saint of love, young people and happy marriages so what the feck that has to do with saucy poems, chocolates and red roses I have no idea
Bevause to some love isn't worth anything unless you publicly declare it? Perhaps?
I don't see it that way myself personally but they way some go OTT with it, it does make you wonder "you might be right about the public declaration...'whoo look at me, I love my wife/lover/husband/boyfriend (delete as appropriate) and I cant wait for the one day a year when I can tell them!!' does that mean they aren't allowed to tell them on the other 364 days a year? | |||
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"I'm sure St Valentine will be spinning in his grave at the blatant commercialism that now surrounds his feast day.. He is the patron saint of love, young people and happy marriages so what the feck that has to do with saucy poems, chocolates and red roses I have no idea
Bevause to some love isn't worth anything unless you publicly declare it? Perhaps?
I don't see it that way myself personally but they way some go OTT with it, it does make you wonder
you might be right about the public declaration...'whoo look at me, I love my wife/lover/husband/boyfriend (delete as appropriate) and I cant wait for the one day a year when I can tell them!!'
does that mean they aren't allowed to tell them on the other 364 days a year?"You'll have to ask them I like to take the simple approach of doing little things everything throughout the year | |||
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"I'm not single but that's never stopped me commenting
If you feel like something is missing in your life, or not going well, then having a day devoted to that thing rammed down your throat by every advert and shop you go near will be tough.
If someone had just lost their mum, or found out they couldn't have children, they'd probably find Mother's Day quite difficult, same with Father's Day, and I'm not sure that people would be so dismissive of those feelings, but this is no different.
See I tried for 10 years and had 18 infant losses before successfully carrying my twins but I never found Mother's Day heartbreaking, I just see that as just another day too, that in many ways as also been over commercialised. If I'd lost my mum I'd miss her everyday no more or less on mothers day
Well yes, obviously, but I still think having constant reminders of something you're upset about makes it understandable that some people might not like that day. Just because you don't find it heartbreaking doesn't mean someone else isn't suffering and I think feeling like that is perfectly understandable.
It's become quite fashionable to sneer at things like Valentine's Day, but I still like getting a card or a bunch of flowers. It doesn't mean he doesn't love me the rest of the year, but I can't bear people who are deliberately too "cool" for stuff like this.
I'm not too cool for it
I just don't get the big deal of it
The gesture of A bunch of flowers is no more or less meaningful that day than any other
"I'd like gestures anytime of the year, but there is something special about getting something on Valentine's Day. When I was married, we never did anything, and last year i was seeing someone and we still didn't do anything. Call me a romantic (sod it I am!) I want someone to spoil me rotten on Valentine's Day, I'm far too soppy to be hard faced about it. But alas still single and no hint of any romance, so I shall buy myself some chocolates and watch a good old girly film. | |||
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"I'm not single but that's never stopped me commenting
If you feel like something is missing in your life, or not going well, then having a day devoted to that thing rammed down your throat by every advert and shop you go near will be tough.
If someone had just lost their mum, or found out they couldn't have children, they'd probably find Mother's Day quite difficult, same with Father's Day, and I'm not sure that people would be so dismissive of those feelings, but this is no different.
See I tried for 10 years and had 18 infant losses before successfully carrying my twins but I never found Mother's Day heartbreaking, I just see that as just another day too, that in many ways as also been over commercialised. If I'd lost my mum I'd miss her everyday no more or less on mothers day
Well yes, obviously, but I still think having constant reminders of something you're upset about makes it understandable that some people might not like that day. Just because you don't find it heartbreaking doesn't mean someone else isn't suffering and I think feeling like that is perfectly understandable.
It's become quite fashionable to sneer at things like Valentine's Day, but I still like getting a card or a bunch of flowers. It doesn't mean he doesn't love me the rest of the year, but I can't bear people who are deliberately too "cool" for stuff like this.
I'm not too cool for it
I just don't get the big deal of it
The gesture of A bunch of flowers is no more or less meaningful that day than any other
I'd like gestures anytime of the year, but there is something special about getting something on Valentine's Day.
When I was married, we never did anything, and last year i was seeing someone and we still didn't do anything. Call me a romantic (sod it I am!) I want someone to spoil me rotten on Valentine's Day, I'm far too soppy to be hard faced about it. But alas still single and no hint of any romance, so I shall buy myself some chocolates and watch a good old girly film. "I tend to go with a glass of wine and the girlie movie as my gift to me, on a few occasions not just Valentine's Day Thinking Bridget Jones' Baby tomorrow after facing the scales and having a giggle with the girls at SW | |||
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"It's complete Bollocks.. Why not make it a combined day with St pancake day.. That way sales of worthwhile stuff like squirty cream and chocolate and various other bodily friendly sauces will quadruple and it will be far more fun Now this is an idea I can get behind "Well we now know what you're both doing tomorrow | |||
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"I'm sure St Valentine will be spinning in his grave at the blatant commercialism that now surrounds his feast day.. He is the patron saint of love, young people and happy marriages so what the feck that has to do with saucy poems, chocolates and red roses I have no idea
Bevause to some love isn't worth anything unless you publicly declare it? Perhaps?
I don't see it that way myself personally but they way some go OTT with it, it does make you wonder
you might be right about the public declaration...'whoo look at me, I love my wife/lover/husband/boyfriend (delete as appropriate) and I cant wait for the one day a year when I can tell them!!'
does that mean they aren't allowed to tell them on the other 364 days a year?
You'll have to ask them
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"I'm sure St Valentine will be spinning in his grave at the blatant commercialism that now surrounds his feast day.. He is the patron saint of love, young people and happy marriages so what the feck that has to do with saucy poems, chocolates and red roses I have no idea
Bevause to some love isn't worth anything unless you publicly declare it? Perhaps?
I don't see it that way myself personally but they way some go OTT with it, it does make you wonder
you might be right about the public declaration...'whoo look at me, I love my wife/lover/husband/boyfriend (delete as appropriate) and I cant wait for the one day a year when I can tell them!!'
does that mean they aren't allowed to tell them on the other 364 days a year?
You'll have to ask them
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"I'm sure St Valentine will be spinning in his grave at the blatant commercialism that now surrounds his feast day.. He is the patron saint of love, young people and happy marriages so what the feck that has to do with saucy poems, chocolates and red roses I have no idea
Bevause to some love isn't worth anything unless you publicly declare it? Perhaps?
I don't see it that way myself personally but they way some go OTT with it, it does make you wonder
you might be right about the public declaration...'whoo look at me, I love my wife/lover/husband/boyfriend (delete as appropriate) and I cant wait for the one day a year when I can tell them!!'
does that mean they aren't allowed to tell them on the other 364 days a year?
You'll have to ask them
I like to take the simple approach of doing little things everything throughout the year
its a rhetorical question..I don't really want to know
I did guess that just merely highlighting the fact you could ask should you wish to "I don't usually expect anyone to respond to my crap, so this is a novelty for me.. when I post threads I often leave them to get on with it | |||
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"I'm sure St Valentine will be spinning in his grave at the blatant commercialism that now surrounds his feast day.. He is the patron saint of love, young people and happy marriages so what the feck that has to do with saucy poems, chocolates and red roses I have no idea
Bevause to some love isn't worth anything unless you publicly declare it? Perhaps?
I don't see it that way myself personally but they way some go OTT with it, it does make you wonder
you might be right about the public declaration...'whoo look at me, I love my wife/lover/husband/boyfriend (delete as appropriate) and I cant wait for the one day a year when I can tell them!!'
does that mean they aren't allowed to tell them on the other 364 days a year?
You'll have to ask them
I like to take the simple approach of doing little things everything throughout the year
its a rhetorical question..I don't really want to know
I did guess that just merely highlighting the fact you could ask should you wish to
I don't usually expect anyone to respond to my crap, so this is a novelty for me..
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"I think seeing other people appearing to enjoy what you don't have can highlight feelings of loss or absence that are already there but in the background. Personally I have no time for the hyped up commercialism that surrounds Valentine's day but I can see how those relentless adverts might contribute to a person feeling rubbish about their situation." Same for Christmas. If you're on your own seeing happy families everywhere, and your friends are with their families must be awful for some I'd imagine. | |||
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"It's because the insecure smug gits, who bolster their relationship status by feigning sadness for those who don't fit their idea of a happy family unit. Oh and the evil marketing of Hallmark of course
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"It's because the insecure smug gits, who bolster their relationship status by feigning sadness for those who don't fit their idea of a happy family unit. Oh and the evil marketing of Hallmark of course
I do often wonder that it is a matter of insecurity in their relationship the way they shout it about at times
I think it is.
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"It's because the insecure smug gits, who bolster their relationship status by feigning sadness for those who don't fit their idea of a happy family unit. Oh and the evil marketing of Hallmark of course
I do often wonder that it is a matter of insecurity in their relationship the way they shout it about at times
I think it is.
Lamp post pissing on here and lovey dovey posts on Facebook.
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"It's complete Bollocks.. Why not make it a combined day with St pancake day.. That way sales of worthwhile stuff like squirty cream and chocolate and various other bodily friendly sauces will quadruple and it will be far more fun " Despite Shrove Tuesday being the most important February event, you don't see many cards with pancakes on them. The secret is to buy your loved one a valentines card and fold a pancake inside it before sealing the envelop, basically you tick off both key Feb dates in one. The look on your loved ones face as they open the lemony/syrup envelope only to find a mould ridden piece of batter inside...Moonpig are missing a trick here | |||
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"It's complete Bollocks.. Why not make it a combined day with St pancake day.. That way sales of worthwhile stuff like squirty cream and chocolate and various other bodily friendly sauces will quadruple and it will be far more fun Despite Shrove Tuesday being the most important February event, you don't see many cards with pancakes on them. The secret is to buy your loved one a valentines card and fold a pancake inside it before sealing the envelop, basically you tick off both key Feb dates in one. The look on your loved ones face as they open the lemony/syrup envelope only to find a mould ridden piece of batter inside...Moonpig are missing a trick here " | |||
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"It's because the insecure smug gits, who bolster their relationship status by feigning sadness for those who don't fit their idea of a happy family unit. Oh and the evil marketing of Hallmark of course
I do often wonder that it is a matter of insecurity in their relationship the way they shout it about at times
I think it is.
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"It's because the insecure smug gits, who bolster their relationship status by feigning sadness for those who don't fit their idea of a happy family unit. Oh and the evil marketing of Hallmark of course
I do often wonder that it is a matter of insecurity in their relationship the way they shout it about at times
I think it is.
Lamp post pissing on here and lovey dovey posts on Facebook.
I don't see it as much as Facebook but on here it's pretty awful! Stinks of people trying far too hard to be liked, in my opinion.
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"It's because the insecure smug gits, who bolster their relationship status by feigning sadness for those who don't fit their idea of a happy family unit. Oh and the evil marketing of Hallmark of course
I do often wonder that it is a matter of insecurity in their relationship the way they shout it about at times
I think it is.
Lamp post pissing on here and lovey dovey posts on Facebook.
I don't see it as much as Facebook but on here it's pretty awful! Stinks of people trying far too hard to be liked, in my opinion.
Personally think it's an equal balance between the two
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"I'm not single but that's never stopped me commenting
If you feel like something is missing in your life, or not going well, then having a day devoted to that thing rammed down your throat by every advert and shop you go near will be tough.
If someone had just lost their mum, or found out they couldn't have children, they'd probably find Mother's Day quite difficult, same with Father's Day, and I'm not sure that people would be so dismissive of those feelings, but this is no different. "Have to agree with this! I'm actually pretty happy on the whole and not pining for a relationship (though if one comes along then great!) - but there are clearly people out there who are desperately lonely and wanting to love and be loved in return - so tomorrow will feel like an extra reminder that they're single I guess! X | |||
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"This thread seems to have turned from the original question, which was why do some single people find Valentine's Day a difficult day to be single, to a competition over who finds it the most commercialised and pathetic. I don't do cheesy romantic stuff or PDAs on social media, it's really not me at all, but I don't leap to the conclusion that those who do are automatically insecure or in terrible relationships. Maybe they just feel differently to you. Which, to be honest, is the only real answer to the original question as well. Just because you don't feel them doesn't mean that someone else's feelings aren't valid. " Threads have a way or taking off In Different tangents at times That's the beauty of a public forum with a diverse mix of people You can repect people's options without. Need to understand them | |||
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"It's because the insecure smug gits, who bolster their relationship status by feigning sadness for those who don't fit their idea of a happy family unit. Oh and the evil marketing of Hallmark of course
I do often wonder that it is a matter of insecurity in their relationship the way they shout it about at times
I think it is.
Lamp post pissing on here and lovey dovey posts on Facebook.
I don't see it as much as Facebook but on here it's pretty awful! Stinks of people trying far too hard to be liked, in my opinion.
Personally think it's an equal balance between the two
We obviously read/post on very different threads then.
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"The first few I found a bit annoying and sad but this will be my 8th valentines day as a singleton, I'm taking my daughter to Frankie and Bennies tomorrow and I'll get a nice handmade card from her that she's made in school! Week tomorrow is pancake day, I'm looking forward to that! Sounds like a nice daughter date, far better in my eyes Doing pancakes the Slimming world way doesn't quite do the day justice though I've got some protein pancakes and strawberry flavdrops. It's the making of the pancakes I enjoy, the traditional ones, mine come in a packet! Yeah valentines day is just another day, I'll have work, my daughter has drama class after school, only difference is we'll go out for dinner. " Shrove Tuesday is the 28th Feb this year | |||
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"This thread seems to have turned from the original question, which was why do some single people find Valentine's Day a difficult day to be single, to a competition over who finds it the most commercialised and pathetic. I don't do cheesy romantic stuff or PDAs on social media, it's really not me at all, but I don't leap to the conclusion that those who do are automatically insecure or in terrible relationships. Maybe they just feel differently to you. Which, to be honest, is the only real answer to the original question as well. Just because you don't feel them doesn't mean that someone else's feelings aren't valid. Threads have a way or taking off In Different tangents at times That's the beauty of a public forum with a diverse mix of people You can repect people's options without. Need to understand them " Your last sentence is exactly my point. Just because you don't get it, doesn't mean those who feel it are insecure or pathetic or conned into commercialisation or stupid or the myriad of other things that have been implied on this thread. | |||
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"I'm not single but that's never stopped me commenting
If you feel like something is missing in your life, or not going well, then having a day devoted to that thing rammed down your throat by every advert and shop you go near will be tough.
If someone had just lost their mum, or found out they couldn't have children, they'd probably find Mother's Day quite difficult, same with Father's Day, and I'm not sure that people would be so dismissive of those feelings, but this is no different.
Have to agree with this! I'm actually pretty happy on the whole and not pining for a relationship (though if one comes along then great!) - but there are clearly people out there who are desperately lonely and wanting to love and be loved in return - so tomorrow will feel like an extra reminder that they're single I guess! X"I found Christmas more of ram it down your throat time of year (so personally very difficult) than Valentine's Day. On the whole, for most of the posts about being loved up, I enjoy seeing because I know full well when it happens to me, I'll be the same! Haha! I'll openly say I don't like being single, but I'm certainly not going to make others feel bad for being loved up and doing Valentine's Day. Plus I know I'll get stacks of cards tomorrow! | |||
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"This thread seems to have turned from the original question, which was why do some single people find Valentine's Day a difficult day to be single, to a competition over who finds it the most commercialised and pathetic. I don't do cheesy romantic stuff or PDAs on social media, it's really not me at all, but I don't leap to the conclusion that those who do are automatically insecure or in terrible relationships. Maybe they just feel differently to you. Which, to be honest, is the only real answer to the original question as well. Just because you don't feel them doesn't mean that someone else's feelings aren't valid. Threads have a way or taking off In Different tangents at times That's the beauty of a public forum with a diverse mix of people You can repect people's options without. Need to understand them Your last sentence is exactly my point. Just because you don't get it, doesn't mean those who feel it are insecure or pathetic or conned into commercialisation or stupid or the myriad of other things that have been implied on this thread. " Surely though if that's your opinion due to the fact you it's something you don't or are un likely to understand then you have a right to state it | |||
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"This thread seems to have turned from the original question, which was why do some single people find Valentine's Day a difficult day to be single, to a competition over who finds it the most commercialised and pathetic. I don't do cheesy romantic stuff or PDAs on social media, it's really not me at all, but I don't leap to the conclusion that those who do are automatically insecure or in terrible relationships. Maybe they just feel differently to you. Which, to be honest, is the only real answer to the original question as well. Just because you don't feel them doesn't mean that someone else's feelings aren't valid. Threads have a way or taking off In Different tangents at times That's the beauty of a public forum with a diverse mix of people You can repect people's options without. Need to understand them Your last sentence is exactly my point. Just because you don't get it, doesn't mean those who feel it are insecure or pathetic or conned into commercialisation or stupid or the myriad of other things that have been implied on this thread. Surely though if that's your opinion due to the fact you it's something you don't or are un likely to understand then you have a right to state it " Of course you've got a right to state it. I've never said anyone hasn't. I was just observing that most of the thread seemed to read like "I feel X therefore everyone who doesn't is a pathetic/buying into commercialisation/insecure in their relationship". | |||
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"birthdays, christmas (it's just another birthday really), valentines, mother's/father's days, they all mean very little to me. So personally I really don't care if I get anything or not. However, I do realise not everyone in the world has the same view. Therefore, I adjust accordingly, and those people I am involved with that seem to set store by these things get the appropriate level of attention. It's not much effort and if it makes someone happy, that's sort of the point isn't it?" | |||
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"birthdays, christmas (it's just another birthday really), valentines, mother's/father's days, they all mean very little to me. So personally I really don't care if I get anything or not. However, I do realise not everyone in the world has the same view. Therefore, I adjust accordingly, and those people I am involved with that seem to set store by these things get the appropriate level of attention. It's not much effort and if it makes someone happy, that's sort of the point isn't it?" I'd rather have the show of affection all year round than I've it done to the expressed of overkill for a "special" day Surely always making them happy regardless is more important | |||
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"I'm not in the slightest bit arsed by Valentine's Day, when married I'd do my bit , but nothing over the top. The one time I get very introspective is Xmas, moreso when I don't have the kids as we alternate. Just seeing families & couples together shopping etc when I'm shopping alone really does choke me at that time only. "Get you totally on that | |||
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"birthdays, christmas (it's just another birthday really), valentines, mother's/father's days, they all mean very little to me. So personally I really don't care if I get anything or not. However, I do realise not everyone in the world has the same view. Therefore, I adjust accordingly, and those people I am involved with that seem to set store by these things get the appropriate level of attention. It's not much effort and if it makes someone happy, that's sort of the point isn't it? I'd rather have the show of affection all year round than I've it done to the expressed of overkill for a "special" day Surely always making them happy regardless is more important " But you don't have to choose. Just because I'll get a bunch of flowers tomorrow, doesn't mean I won't be shown affection and know I'm loved the rest of the year. | |||
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"birthdays, christmas (it's just another birthday really), valentines, mother's/father's days, they all mean very little to me. So personally I really don't care if I get anything or not. However, I do realise not everyone in the world has the same view. Therefore, I adjust accordingly, and those people I am involved with that seem to set store by these things get the appropriate level of attention. It's not much effort and if it makes someone happy, that's sort of the point isn't it? I'd rather have the show of affection all year round than I've it done to the expressed of overkill for a "special" day Surely always making them happy regardless is more important " making someone happy on a "special" day, does not exclude making them happy other times also. Can't guarantee everyday however, I can be a tosser sometimes. | |||
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"birthdays, christmas (it's just another birthday really), valentines, mother's/father's days, they all mean very little to me. So personally I really don't care if I get anything or not. However, I do realise not everyone in the world has the same view. Therefore, I adjust accordingly, and those people I am involved with that seem to set store by these things get the appropriate level of attention. It's not much effort and if it makes someone happy, that's sort of the point isn't it? I'd rather have the show of affection all year round than I've it done to the expressed of overkill for a "special" day Surely always making them happy regardless is more important But you don't have to choose. Just because I'll get a bunch of flowers tomorrow, doesn't mean I won't be shown affection and know I'm loved the rest of the year. "Exactly. If you are in the right relationship you know and it gets shown. Valentine's Day is a reason to maybe push the boat out a bit more. | |||
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"birthdays, christmas (it's just another birthday really), valentines, mother's/father's days, they all mean very little to me. So personally I really don't care if I get anything or not. However, I do realise not everyone in the world has the same view. Therefore, I adjust accordingly, and those people I am involved with that seem to set store by these things get the appropriate level of attention. It's not much effort and if it makes someone happy, that's sort of the point isn't it? I'd rather have the show of affection all year round than I've it done to the expressed of overkill for a "special" day Surely always making them happy regardless is more important But you don't have to choose. Just because I'll get a bunch of flowers tomorrow, doesn't mean I won't be shown affection and know I'm loved the rest of the year. "but I'm guessing you don't need the flowers or necessarily want them though grateful of them, there are some that do and would nt find value in the day if they don't receive them. I'm curious as to why the public show of affection is needed on those circumstances | |||
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"birthdays, christmas (it's just another birthday really), valentines, mother's/father's days, they all mean very little to me. So personally I really don't care if I get anything or not. However, I do realise not everyone in the world has the same view. Therefore, I adjust accordingly, and those people I am involved with that seem to set store by these things get the appropriate level of attention. It's not much effort and if it makes someone happy, that's sort of the point isn't it? I'd rather have the show of affection all year round than I've it done to the expressed of overkill for a "special" day Surely always making them happy regardless is more important But you don't have to choose. Just because I'll get a bunch of flowers tomorrow, doesn't mean I won't be shown affection and know I'm loved the rest of the year.
Exactly. If you are in the right relationship you know and it gets shown. Valentine's Day is a reason to maybe push the boat out a bit more. "Why though? the boat can pushed out at anytime? And it must me far more romantic if some more spontaneous like that than on a day it's "expected" | |||
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"birthdays, christmas (it's just another birthday really), valentines, mother's/father's days, they all mean very little to me. So personally I really don't care if I get anything or not. However, I do realise not everyone in the world has the same view. Therefore, I adjust accordingly, and those people I am involved with that seem to set store by these things get the appropriate level of attention. It's not much effort and if it makes someone happy, that's sort of the point isn't it? I'd rather have the show of affection all year round than I've it done to the expressed of overkill for a "special" day Surely always making them happy regardless is more important But you don't have to choose. Just because I'll get a bunch of flowers tomorrow, doesn't mean I won't be shown affection and know I'm loved the rest of the year.
but I'm guessing you don't need the flowers or necessarily want them though grateful of them, there are some that do and would nt find value in the day if they don't receive them. I'm curious as to why the public show of affection is needed on those circumstances "It's not "needed". And it's not really "public" either. But it's nice. And if I was single and unhappy about it, yes I probably would feel extra shit seeing others getting those nice gestures when I'm not. By this logic, why do you buy your children Christmas presents? It's just another day, you love them all year round. | |||
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" Exactly. If you are in the right relationship you know and it gets shown. Valentine's Day is a reason to maybe push the boat out a bit more. Why though? the boat can pushed out at anytime? And it must me far more romantic if some more spontaneous like that than on a day it's "expected" " Because it's what we have been taught is the "norm". I was going to say it does no harm, but it probably does from an environmental point of view! | |||
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"birthdays, christmas (it's just another birthday really), valentines, mother's/father's days, they all mean very little to me. So personally I really don't care if I get anything or not. However, I do realise not everyone in the world has the same view. Therefore, I adjust accordingly, and those people I am involved with that seem to set store by these things get the appropriate level of attention. It's not much effort and if it makes someone happy, that's sort of the point isn't it? I'd rather have the show of affection all year round than I've it done to the expressed of overkill for a "special" day Surely always making them happy regardless is more important But you don't have to choose. Just because I'll get a bunch of flowers tomorrow, doesn't mean I won't be shown affection and know I'm loved the rest of the year.
but I'm guessing you don't need the flowers or necessarily want them though grateful of them, there are some that do and would nt find value in the day if they don't receive them. I'm curious as to why the public show of affection is needed on those circumstances
It's not "needed". And it's not really "public" either. But it's nice. And if I was single and unhappy about it, yes I probably would feel extra shit seeing others getting those nice gestures when I'm not.
By this logic, why do you buy your children Christmas presents? It's just another day, you love them all year round. "Their presents cane from relatives this year as it was a particularly financially hard year for me but I injected lots of fun into the day though games and quality time activities etc and I don't believe they felt like they missed anything. But they felt the love and it didn't cost me a thing | |||
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"Gonna get me a juicy Rib-eye steak with pepper corn sauce, mushrooms, chips, the lot & bottle of Moscato
happy Valentine's to my belly"I'm sure it'll thank you | |||
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"birthdays, christmas (it's just another birthday really), valentines, mother's/father's days, they all mean very little to me. So personally I really don't care if I get anything or not. However, I do realise not everyone in the world has the same view. Therefore, I adjust accordingly, and those people I am involved with that seem to set store by these things get the appropriate level of attention. It's not much effort and if it makes someone happy, that's sort of the point isn't it? I'd rather have the show of affection all year round than I've it done to the expressed of overkill for a "special" day Surely always making them happy regardless is more important But you don't have to choose. Just because I'll get a bunch of flowers tomorrow, doesn't mean I won't be shown affection and know I'm loved the rest of the year.
but I'm guessing you don't need the flowers or necessarily want them though grateful of them, there are some that do and would nt find value in the day if they don't receive them. I'm curious as to why the public show of affection is needed on those circumstances
It's not "needed". And it's not really "public" either. But it's nice. And if I was single and unhappy about it, yes I probably would feel extra shit seeing others getting those nice gestures when I'm not.
By this logic, why do you buy your children Christmas presents? It's just another day, you love them all year round.
Their presents cane from relatives this year as it was a particularly financially hard year for me but I injected lots of fun into the day though games and quality time activities etc and I don't believe they felt like they missed anything. But they felt the love and it didn't cost me a thing "But why bother? It's just another day that you've been told by Hallmark that you're supposed to celebrate. Why did you need to make the effort to inject fun into the day more than you do the rest of the year? Why did you want them to feel the love, don't they get that all year round? What would they have missed if you hadn't? After all, you don't need a special day to let your loved ones know you care. | |||
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"birthdays, christmas (it's just another birthday really), valentines, mother's/father's days, they all mean very little to me. So personally I really don't care if I get anything or not. However, I do realise not everyone in the world has the same view. Therefore, I adjust accordingly, and those people I am involved with that seem to set store by these things get the appropriate level of attention. It's not much effort and if it makes someone happy, that's sort of the point isn't it? I'd rather have the show of affection all year round than I've it done to the expressed of overkill for a "special" day Surely always making them happy regardless is more important But you don't have to choose. Just because I'll get a bunch of flowers tomorrow, doesn't mean I won't be shown affection and know I'm loved the rest of the year.
but I'm guessing you don't need the flowers or necessarily want them though grateful of them, there are some that do and would nt find value in the day if they don't receive them. I'm curious as to why the public show of affection is needed on those circumstances
It's not "needed". And it's not really "public" either. But it's nice. And if I was single and unhappy about it, yes I probably would feel extra shit seeing others getting those nice gestures when I'm not.
By this logic, why do you buy your children Christmas presents? It's just another day, you love them all year round.
Their presents cane from relatives this year as it was a particularly financially hard year for me but I injected lots of fun into the day though games and quality time activities etc and I don't believe they felt like they missed anything. But they felt the love and it didn't cost me a thing
But why bother? It's just another day that you've been told by Hallmark that you're supposed to celebrate. Why did you need to make the effort to inject fun into the day more than you do the rest of the year? Why did you want them to feel the love, don't they get that all year round? What would they have missed if you hadn't? After all, you don't need a special day to let your loved ones know you care."No you don't and as you say I do it all year round with them. I just refuse to buy into the commercialism of it all being we've been recondition to think that's the "norm" of those type of days when it isn't. There are better values to teach than the days doesn't mean a damn without a present, which is how some view it . Both Christmas and valentines traditionally aren't about gift giving at all | |||
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"Apparently my present is hidden in the house somewhere "Show off
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"birthdays, christmas (it's just another birthday really), valentines, mother's/father's days, they all mean very little to me. So personally I really don't care if I get anything or not. However, I do realise not everyone in the world has the same view. Therefore, I adjust accordingly, and those people I am involved with that seem to set store by these things get the appropriate level of attention. It's not much effort and if it makes someone happy, that's sort of the point isn't it? I'd rather have the show of affection all year round than I've it done to the expressed of overkill for a "special" day Surely always making them happy regardless is more important But you don't have to choose. Just because I'll get a bunch of flowers tomorrow, doesn't mean I won't be shown affection and know I'm loved the rest of the year.
Exactly. If you are in the right relationship you know and it gets shown. Valentine's Day is a reason to maybe push the boat out a bit more.
Why though? the boat can pushed out at anytime? And it must me far more romantic if some more spontaneous like that than on a day it's "expected" "God you really don't like valentines do you? If someone wants to push the boat out for me on a day when everyone else does, then great (although if they could supply a life jacket). I like gestures and thoughts at anytime of the year, but for me, I like Valentine's Day. We get it, you don't like it being commercial, you want to be treated at other times of the year. As do I, sometimes it's ok to join the masses and say i love it! But as I stated earlier, I'm single, so I won't be getting anything but I don't begrudge the others who do. | |||
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"Single and don't mind Valentine's Day at all. Love the after valentines sales. And treating myself to something "And good bargains they usual are too | |||
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"Single and don't mind Valentine's Day at all. Love the after valentines sales. And treating myself to something "I do love a good sale at any time of the year | |||
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"Single and don't mind Valentine's Day at all. Love the after valentines sales. And treating myself to something "What are you gonna do with 300 teddies holding a love heart? | |||
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"Single and don't mind Valentine's Day at all. Love the after valentines sales. And treating myself to something
I do love a good sale at any time of the year "Did you intend that to sound like you stance on V-Day itself? A sale can be any day of the year, doesn't just have to be on Jan 1st... If you did, it's funny, if you didn't it's still quite funny... ;-) | |||
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"Single and don't mind Valentine's Day at all. Love the after valentines sales. And treating myself to something
I do love a good sale at any time of the year "Me too and to the person on about teddies wasn't planning buying teddies lol | |||
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"Single and don't mind Valentine's Day at all. Love the after valentines sales. And treating myself to something
I do love a good sale at any time of the year
Me too and to the person on about teddies wasn't planning buying teddies lol"The cheap lingerie by any chance? | |||
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"Single and don't mind Valentine's Day at all. Love the after valentines sales. And treating myself to something
I do love a good sale at any time of the year
Me too and to the person on about teddies wasn't planning buying teddies lol
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"Single and don't mind Valentine's Day at all. Love the after valentines sales. And treating myself to something
I do love a good sale at any time of the year
Did you intend that to sound like you stance on V-Day itself? A sale can be any day of the year, doesn't just have to be on Jan 1st...
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"Single on valentines day first time in 17 years. I am not dreading it. I'll stuff my booty in a dress. Get dolled up. And go out. It will be fabulous. Me and my booty will have great fun. Happy with my own company. Celebrate being happy and loving life ". Omg. 17 yr here also. Going to be a weird day tomorrow x | |||
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"Single and don't mind Valentine's Day at all. Love the after valentines sales. And treating myself to something
I do love a good sale at any time of the year
Me too and to the person on about teddies wasn't planning buying teddies lol
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