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Over a year no veris would you meet?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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If someone has been here over a year with no veris (as in never had any), and asks to meet. I don't believe they're genuine. I never get why they don't delete and start over.
You get the "I've been in a relationship line so not been on".
would you or have you risked a meet with an over a year unverified person? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have met several unverified people and never been disappointed. Been stood up one time, by someone well verified, so I don't hold much stock in it personally. "
But over 12 months of being here and no veris ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have met several unverified people and never been disappointed. Been stood up one time, by someone well verified, so I don't hold much stock in it personally.
But over 12 months of being here and no veris ? "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If someone has been here over a year with no veris (as in never had any), and asks to meet. I don't believe they're genuine. I never get why they don't delete and start over.
You get the "I've been in a relationship line so not been on".
would you or have you risked a meet with an over a year unverified person?"
Been here 3 and no meets  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have met several unverified people and never been disappointed. Been stood up one time, by someone well verified, so I don't hold much stock in it personally.
But over 12 months of being here and no veris ? "
i know someone who doesn't like them and refuses to be verified and won't verify. I don't think it's that big a deal for me. It is for others and we all do things in a way that suits us. I don't question those who put blind faith in someone because they're well verified. .. |
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I would and have in the past and wasn't disappointed
I Chat quite a bit before a meet trust my instincts when it comes to meeting people it's never steered me wrong
It's generally harder for guys to get noticed so I can understand why some are still on here umverified after a year |
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For a single guy, I would imagine that it's not that easy to get a meet and be verified, even after 12 months.
I'm lucky in that I've actually had a real meet and also been verified on cam, but I'm guessing not everyone is so fortunate.
It's a bit of a Catch 22 situation really. You need to get verified to get a meet. So go on, give them a try! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would and have met unveried. I don't think being unverified makes somebody a time waster or a fake. It just means they are unverified. Perhaps if you meet them and you get it on, then there's the problem solved right there!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been on and off here a few times , had veri's before , which you obviously loose when you leave , as a guy on here starting out its really hard to get veris , but it doesn't stop you from being a genuine member who wants to meet , unfortunately this gets clouded by the many members who are the time wasters ..... Still if any one who knows me would like to verif me ...... |
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"I have met several unverified people and never been disappointed. Been stood up one time, by someone well verified, so I don't hold much stock in it personally.
But over 12 months of being here and no veris ? "
Yes,i absolutely would meet someone who has been here for over 12 months with no versions someone said above, I know people who don't have any but are meeting regularly.
The green tick is pretty meaningless. For example, you don't show your verifications or summary, which is absolutely your right, but how do I know if you're meet verified or just here for cam fun? Doesn't prove your reliability. I only show one verification, though I've met more, so would one verification a year make me more reliable than someone with none? It's just not that high on my list of priorities when considering if I'll meet someone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have met several unverified people and never been disappointed. Been stood up one time, by someone well verified, so I don't hold much stock in it personally.
But over 12 months of being here and no veris ? "
It took me over 12 months to get verified. I seek a small group of members, plus the first 2 men I met were not verified, so couldn't verify each other. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The green tick is pretty meaningless. For example, you don't show your verifications or summary, which is absolutely your right, but how do I know if you're meet verified or just here for cam fun? Doesn't prove your reliability. "
My verifications are OFF.
I have reasons for that and I've met a LOT on this profile and my last one.
If someone was serious about meeting but they wanted to see my veris, I'd have no problem whatsoever switching them on for that person.
I can't get my head around why displaying veri's changes anything.
For me, displaying made my life a fucking misery because believe me, there are some proper bitches on here. |
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The green tick is pretty meaningless. For example, you don't show your verifications or summary, which is absolutely your right, but how do I know if you're meet verified or just here for cam fun? Doesn't prove your reliability.
My verifications are OFF.
I have reasons for that and I've met a LOT on this profile and my last one.
If someone was serious about meeting but they wanted to see my veris, I'd have no problem whatsoever switching them on for that person.
I can't get my head around why displaying veri's changes anything.
For me, displaying made my life a fucking misery because believe me, there are some proper bitches on here."
I think maybe you misunderstood what I was saying. Displaying veris doesn't change anything, that's why I'm happy to meet unverified people.
I don't display mine anymore because trust me, men can be jealous bitches too when you get a new one  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We consider every possible meet on a case by case basis - veris or not really aren't an issue.
We prefer to have a chat with the person / persons and decide from there on.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If it was a single guy yes, some guys have a hard time meeting on here it's not always the case of don't want to meet but can't find a meet, I think it's possible to have been here for a year's and not had a meet while still being genuine, sometimes it's just a case of giving them a chance, I would insist on it being close to me though just in case  |
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Verifications aren't the be all and end all. Having previously used vanilla datings sites. Its pretty obvious to suss out time wasters or fakes. Simple things like phone calls or video chats etc..
Common sense really |
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I met someone who had been on fab for over year and no veri's. However I was chatting on kik with him for about a month and then met for a couple of socials before we got down to the naughty stuff ?? So my advice would be to meet for a drink and then judge it from there. Also some people have had verifications but if the person verifying them left fab, then it won't show on their profile...something to bear in mind |
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The green tick is pretty meaningless. For example, you don't show your verifications or summary, which is absolutely your right, but how do I know if you're meet verified or just here for cam fun? Doesn't prove your reliability.
My verifications are OFF.
I have reasons for that and I've met a LOT on this profile and my last one.
If someone was serious about meeting but they wanted to see my veris, I'd have no problem whatsoever switching them on for that person.
I can't get my head around why displaying veri's changes anything.
For me, displaying made my life a fucking misery because believe me, there are some proper bitches on here.
I think maybe you misunderstood what I was saying. Displaying veris doesn't change anything, that's why I'm happy to meet unverified people.
I don't display mine anymore because trust me, men can be jealous bitches too when you get a new one "
Haha so true. I don't get why people get jealous though. We are all here to meet new people and have fun...variety is the spice of life after all! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been on over a year and had a few meets I just choose not to accept veri's . if that's a problem for some then just move on lol"
Can you choose not to accept verificarions? I though you could just choose not to show them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been on over a year and had a few meets I just choose not to accept veri's . if that's a problem for some then just move on lol
Can you choose not to accept verificarions? I though you could just choose not to show them "
just ask politely that I don't want veri's sent and all have been cool with that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If someone has been here over a year with no veris (as in never had any), and asks to meet. I don't believe they're genuine. I never get why they don't delete and start over.
You get the "I've been in a relationship line so not been on".
would you or have you risked a meet with an over a year unverified person?"
Jeez, as if a single guy's lot wasn't hard enough.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd meet newbies with no verifications and have done too.
But no.. all that time and never even a social.. I wouldn't bother even to chat to them "
Same here , we love meeting newbies
But over a year ?
No chance |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah I probably would, but it would be for a drink or a coffee on my lunch break so I wouldn't be going far out of my way if they didn't show. I've only ever been messed about by the well verified.
Verifications are a load of shit anyway if you're using them to gauge reliability. That's one of the reasons I don't show mine - I'd rather meet people who can decide for themselves they want to meet me, not because someone else says they should. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been on over a year and had a few meets I just choose not to accept veri's . if that's a problem for some then just move on lol
Can you choose not to accept verificarions? I though you could just choose not to show them "
I don't get it when I hear someone profess they have meets but are not verified...surely someone likes them lol
I give everyone a chance though, but as mentioned earlier they will jump through my hoops before I arrange anything..I had a couple message me a few days ago, I explained what I need before even going anywhere...the messages stopped like many before. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Possibly. They may have been in a relationship or just looking and plucking up courage to meet.
It could be the same person behind a one year profile and a 3 week profile. Verifications don't prove that someone will turn up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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not really fussed about them,i'll glance and clock if they have them...no interest in reading them...and if there aren't any..well i'd chat further if i wanted to...it becomes very obvious very quickly if there's a clear reason they have none! |
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By *eesideMan
over a year ago
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I've been on hear for over 5 months now and not even come clos to getting a meet of any sort.
And as a lot of people (not all) seem to also have your vue OP how is anyone ment to get a verification if you don't give them a chance in the 1st place ?
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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago
CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly) |
Nearly all of our meets have been within the club scene. 50% of those have been with couples not even on fab. Yes a veri is one way of saying thank you. But neither fab or veris are the be all and end all to swinging.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes, but they will jump through my hoops before I consider washing my cock
please wash your cock. ..it's really cheesy  "
She's right I can smell it from here  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes, but they will jump through my hoops before I consider washing my cock
please wash your cock. ..it's really cheesy
She's right I can smell it from here "
thanks for that! im was just about to bite into stilton on a butter laden cracker!..gone right off it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes, but they will jump through my hoops before I consider washing my cock
please wash your cock. ..it's really cheesy
She's right I can smell it from here
thanks for that! im was just about to bite into stilton on a butter laden cracker!..gone right off it!"
Pass it here then I'm starving |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If someone has been here over a year with no veris (as in never had any), and asks to meet. I don't believe they're genuine. I never get why they don't delete and start over.
You get the "I've been in a relationship line so not been on".
would you or have you risked a meet with an over a year unverified person?"
Just thinking over that.... what difference if they delete and start again? Does that erase the fact they were on for a whole year and couldn't meet? It's the very same person...hasn't changed anything other than what you perceive about them.
To me it makes no difference if they have veries or not. I've had no shows from ladies with veries.... One is on here with over 110 veries. So the veri theory is untenable.....same as shoeing a face pic...It could be theirs but 10 years old. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" dont think its that important ..its easy to set up fake profiles and get verified. "
This unfortunately. I've been asked to verify people without a meet...guys have asked saying they're straight so no need to meet...just verify them lol. I'm sure there are some who have done that. |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
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We would meet somebody who had veris over a year old, come to that we would meet somebody who didn't have any veris at all but we would be much more suspicious and they would have to really prove they were genuine with a phone call before we would agree to it. |
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"If someone has been here over a year with no veris (as in never had any), and asks to meet. I don't believe they're genuine. I never get why they don't delete and start over.
You get the "I've been in a relationship line so not been on".
would you or have you risked a meet with an over a year unverified person?
Just thinking over that.... what difference if they delete and start again? Does that erase the fact they were on for a whole year and couldn't meet? It's the very same person...hasn't changed anything other than what you perceive about them.
To me it makes no difference if they have veries or not. I've had no shows from ladies with veries.... One is on here with over 110 veries. So the veri theory is untenable.....same as shoeing a face pic...It could be theirs but 10 years old."
Lots of people would choose not to meet a 1 year, no veri profile. That is that users choice, as much as someone elses choice to meet and take the chance. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If someone has been here over a year with no veris (as in never had any), and asks to meet. I don't believe they're genuine. I never get why they don't delete and start over.
You get the "I've been in a relationship line so not been on".
would you or have you risked a meet with an over a year unverified person?
Just thinking over that.... what difference if they delete and start again? Does that erase the fact they were on for a whole year and couldn't meet? It's the very same person...hasn't changed anything other than what you perceive about them.
To me it makes no difference if they have veries or not. I've had no shows from ladies with veries.... One is on here with over 110 veries. So the veri theory is untenable.....same as shoeing a face pic...It could be theirs but 10 years old.
Lots of people would choose not to meet a 1 year, no veri profile. That is that users choice, as much as someone elses choice to meet and take the chance."
Isn't that my point....its actually nothing to do with a perceived 'fact'.... that can be changed by deleting and starting again and just ask ur first veri to verify you again. It's all about how we perceive someone. ...not about facts. We live in a post truth age now where truth actually has very little bearing. Even courts now accept known lies as evidence...so how does truth or fact have a bearing anymore than what is submitted and perceived as true. |
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Lots of people would choose not to meet a 1 year, no veri profile. That is that users choice, as much as someone elses choice to meet and take the chance.
Isn't that my point....its actually nothing to do with a perceived 'fact'.... that can be changed by deleting and starting again and just ask ur first veri to verify you again. It's all about how we perceive someone. ...not about facts. We live in a post truth age now where truth actually has very little bearing. Even courts now accept known lies as evidence...so how does truth or fact have a bearing anymore than what is submitted and perceived as true."
A profile without a veri for a year isn't a perception. They've been on a year and not met anyone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lots of people would choose not to meet a 1 year, no veri profile. That is that users choice, as much as someone elses choice to meet and take the chance.
Isn't that my point....its actually nothing to do with a perceived 'fact'.... that can be changed by deleting and starting again and just ask ur first veri to verify you again. It's all about how we perceive someone. ...not about facts. We live in a post truth age now where truth actually has very little bearing. Even courts now accept known lies as evidence...so how does truth or fact have a bearing anymore than what is submitted and perceived as true.
A profile without a veri for a year isn't a perception. They've been on a year and not met anyone."
Think you need to read what I said at onset.... I'm not going try and explain it ...lol. go meet your recently joined recently veried person then lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Only meet those who are verified from meeting others, no matter how long they've been on the site, certainly guys who have been on for over a year are here just for wank fodder. |
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Lots of people would choose not to meet a 1 year, no veri profile. That is that users choice, as much as someone elses choice to meet and take the chance.
Isn't that my point....its actually nothing to do with a perceived 'fact'.... that can be changed by deleting and starting again and just ask ur first veri to verify you again. It's all about how we perceive someone. ...not about facts. We live in a post truth age now where truth actually has very little bearing. Even courts now accept known lies as evidence...so how does truth or fact have a bearing anymore than what is submitted and perceived as true.
A profile without a veri for a year isn't a perception. They've been on a year and not met anyone.
Think you need to read what I said at onset.... I'm not going try and explain it ...lol. go meet your recently joined recently veried person then lol "
Likewise my friend, because you've got me mixed up with the other poster 
Anyway, we've diverted, we'd generally avoid a profile with no veri's after a year.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We've been on here a while now and not had a meet yet.
We are parents so we don't have a lot of spare time and we are also very particular about who we want to share our bodies with.
However, were completely genuine! We will only talk to people who are at least site verified - it takes five minutes so we don't believe there's any excuse not to be.
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"We've been on here a while now and not had a meet yet.
We are parents so we don't have a lot of spare time and we are also very particular about who we want to share our bodies with.
However, were completely genuine! We will only talk to people who are at least site verified - it takes five minutes so we don't believe there's any excuse not to be.
X"
Yep agree with that, site veri and social meet to start is all good, if someone is genuine then surely they wouldn't dismiss a social. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We were on here over a year before meeting anyone, we are real and we just chose to take our time and be 100% sure it's what we wanted.
People can be unverified for many reasons, if they choose not to rush into things or maybe opened account then work, life got in the way. It does not make them any less real.
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"But over 12 months of being here and no veris ? "
I've been on here for years and have met and been verified. However, I don't meet often, and my previous meets have left the site so I can no longer show their verifications. Does that make me suspect? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We only meet verified people.
Works for us so far. "
I totally understand why you only meet verified people, something I do myself. To many newbies are either unsure, fake or think this is a dating site |
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It depends on if we arrange a social first but it would have to be for someone close by. I wouldn't travel too far for someone unverified unless I knew they were genuine (4hrs is my record so far ). |
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"If someone has been here over a year with no veris (as in never had any), and asks to meet. I don't believe they're genuine. I never get why they don't delete and start over.
You get the "I've been in a relationship line so not been on".
would you or have you risked a meet with an over a year unverified person?"
Yes. Verifications aren't the be all and end all. Of I like them and want to fuck them the opinions of others matters very little |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If they have plenty of genuine pictures - especially if they have any recent ones. But also have a well written profile. Then I may consider a meet.
Speaking of verifications, I prefer seeing them displayed as well. I reckon those that tend to have nothing to hide. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Would take each situation as it comes - as others have said veris aren't the be all and end all, sure they give an indication, but then so do a person's profile, their pics and how they come across with messages etc.
At the end of the day as with any meet you are potentially arranging it comes down to personal instinct. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've met a few guys socially that have been unverified for over a year.
I prefer unverified guys if I'm honest. "
You would rather not know what they have been up to? |
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"If someone has been here over a year with no veris (as in never had any), and asks to meet. I don't believe they're genuine. I never get why they don't delete and start over.
You get the "I've been in a relationship line so not been on".
would you or have you risked a meet with an over a year unverified person?"
Nearly every man I've met on here has been unverified.
In seven years not one timewaster or no show. The last one to one meet I had three years ago is snoring beside me! He should be up making me coffee...but I digress.
I meet people who contact me in a way I like. I come to my own decisions. The thought of relying on a total strangers "he licked my pussy for hours" comment to decide whether to meet another stranger for sex is ludicrous to me.
A social meet before playing works for me.
I've dodged many a bullet meeting socially. Out of curiosity I've gone back and read verifications left to those I've turned down for being "off". Surprise, surprise they were glowing.
I think some people will come a cropper if they view the verification system as a fail safe and abandon their own due diligence. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've met a few guys socially that have been unverified for over a year.
I prefer unverified guys if I'm honest.
You would rather not know what they have been up to? "
Yeah would rather not know who they'd been up! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes I would and have done I have been let down from verified users so it's nothing to do with that there are loads of reasons a person can't get verified doesn't instantly make them a time waster |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If someone has been here over a year with no veris (as in never had any), and asks to meet. I don't believe they're genuine. I never get why they don't delete and start over.
You get the "I've been in a relationship line so not been on".
would you or have you risked a meet with an over a year unverified person?"
Yes I would and have
If no one ever met anyone without a veri no one would ever get verified!
Have a social make them come to you con meet somewhere where you're happy to be if they don't turn up. I go for mcdonalds (classy bird me!) If they don't turn up I've had a burger lol x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've met a few guys socially that have been unverified for over a year.
I prefer unverified guys if I'm honest.
You would rather not know what they have been up to?
Yeah would rather not know who they'd been up!"
Haha.I like veris as its more likely they are genuine. |
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Not been a year but as a single guy getting an actual meet let alone a verified one can be a long process. Some of that is simply the ratio of men to women / couples. But if you're actually choosie about who you want to meet and not just desperate for any fuck you can get it takes patience. Doesn't mean your not real or genuine, due to my ink it's pretty obvious I'm real because I don't hide it ... still waiting for the first encounter though |
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By *ola.Woman
over a year ago
Just where I need to be. |
I have met an unverified, no pictures on profile been on over a year. They had joined and then didn't use the site. After a few messages decided to meet. Glad I did. It was the content of his messages that made me meet him, not whether he was verified. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've met un verified people the last time I was on here....like someone said earlier...I didn't make travel arrangements and they came to me! Was worth it in my eyes....
Especially as verified people have given me the run around on here x |
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"I've met un verified people the last time I was on here....like someone said earlier...I didn't make travel arrangements and they came to me! Was worth it in my eyes....
Especially as verified people have given me the run around on here x"
This too, perfectly happy to meet unverified people but if they've been unverified for a significant length of time I would be asking questions. |
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Couldn't agree more
"I've met un verified people the last time I was on here....like someone said earlier...I didn't make travel arrangements and they came to me! Was worth it in my eyes....
Especially as verified people have given me the run around on here x
This too, perfectly happy to meet unverified people but if they've been unverified for a significant length of time I would be asking questions."
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"I have met several unverified people and never been disappointed. Been stood up one time, by someone well verified, so I don't hold much stock in it personally.
But over 12 months of being here and no veris ? "
try being a man, it takes that long to get one reply sometimes!!!!! |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
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Over a year and not visited a club even once? Most club owners will happily verify a single man. Not an excuse that I fall for. And there are so many verified guys so why even bother taking a chance on that one non-verified one |
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over a year ago
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Bit unfair if people are trying to get verified?
People seem to forget it's almost a lottery to find someone that will give them their first meet! Also people might not be that confident or have the time to go to the clubs? |
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"Over a year and not visited a club even once? Most club owners will happily verify a single man. Not an excuse that I fall for. And there are so many verified guys so why even bother taking a chance on that one non-verified one"
Just because yr on fabs doesn't mean you want to visit clubs! |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
"Bit unfair if people are trying to get verified?
People seem to forget it's almost a lottery to find someone that will give them their first meet! Also people might not be that confident or have the time to go to the clubs? "
What is 'unfair' about it? |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
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"Over a year and not visited a club even once? Most club owners will happily verify a single man. Not an excuse that I fall for. And there are so many verified guys so why even bother taking a chance on that one non-verified one
Just because yr on fabs doesn't mean you want to visit clubs!"
Then don't |
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"Over a year and not visited a club even once? Most club owners will happily verify a single man. Not an excuse that I fall for. And there are so many verified guys so why even bother taking a chance on that one non-verified one"
I don't see it as taking a chance. I either want to meet someone or I don't. Verification doesn't play into that.
And I've got zero desire to go to clubs or organised socials either, so if I hadn't chosen to meet from here I'd be unverified too. |
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"Over a year and not visited a club even once? Most club owners will happily verify a single man. Not an excuse that I fall for. And there are so many verified guys so why even bother taking a chance on that one non-verified one
Just because yr on fabs doesn't mean you want to visit clubs!"
True |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Some people take this site too seriously.
I don't think I've met anyone off this site for over a year but when reduced work pressures, location, timing, availability, etc combine with mutual attraction then I will be there, on time, as discussed and as promised.
For some it is a lifestyle, for others it is a pastime and not necessarily our only source of 'fun'. If you find someone you like, pursue it - you might be pleasantly surprised |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
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"Over a year and not visited a club even once? Most club owners will happily verify a single man. Not an excuse that I fall for. And there are so many verified guys so why even bother taking a chance on that one non-verified one
I don't see it as taking a chance. I either want to meet someone or I don't. Verification doesn't play into that.
And I've got zero desire to go to clubs or organised socials either, so if I hadn't chosen to meet from here I'd be unverified too."
That is OK for you
I see it as taking a chance which I do not need to take. Would be different if all the guys on FabS were unverified after a year, who did not want to go to a club or did not even have the time to go to a club |
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Yes.... if the rapport was good I'd be interested enough to meet for a coffee! I've met unverified people before who turned out to be complete gems and have spent many giddy, happy fun-filled times with them since... and likewise I've met well verified people who turned out to be complete disappointments, or worse... nutters! |
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Back in the days before Fab turned in to the general mainstream meat market it is now, we didn't need the verification system, quite the opposite in fact- it was seen as a bad thing. And the strangest thing happened- people seemed to interact better, meet more often and gut instinct with maybe some word of mouth verification in the background was the best indicator of who to take a chance on. I've driven a few hundred miles on the basis of an evenings chat and flirting with never a disappointment.
I generally only come here for the sarcasm these days.
Anyway....as you were, i'm off to polish my rose tinted specs  |
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"I have met an unverified, no pictures on profile been on over a year. They had joined and then didn't use the site. After a few messages decided to meet. Glad I did. It was the content of his messages that made me meet him, not whether he was verified."
Exactly this!
Not everyone even wants a verification! |
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"If someone has been here over a year with no veris (as in never had any), and asks to meet. I don't believe they're genuine. I never get why they don't delete and start over.
You get the "I've been in a relationship line so not been on".
would you or have you risked a meet with an over a year unverified person?"
Like me you mean
Please tell me what risk exactly I would pose? |
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"Bit unfair if people are trying to get verified?
People seem to forget it's almost a lottery to find someone that will give them their first meet! Also people might not be that confident or have the time to go to the clubs? "
Isn't that partly the point ? If the member isn't confident enough or doesn't have time to meet anybody in a year, then why would they be confident enough or have time now? |
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"Bit unfair if people are trying to get verified?
People seem to forget it's almost a lottery to find someone that will give them their first meet! Also people might not be that confident or have the time to go to the clubs?
Isn't that partly the point ? If the member isn't confident enough or doesn't have time to meet anybody in a year, then why would they be confident enough or have time now? "
Confident enough and having time to meet is different to being confident enough and having time to go to clubs. |
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haven't had a meet from fab in like 4 months. lt's mainly due to my recent bad skin and not just taking anything offered. lf that would put someone off me, l would not take it personally OP. |
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"Bit unfair if people are trying to get verified?
People seem to forget it's almost a lottery to find someone that will give them their first meet! Also people might not be that confident or have the time to go to the clubs?
Isn't that partly the point ? If the member isn't confident enough or doesn't have time to meet anybody in a year, then why would they be confident enough or have time now?
Confident enough and having time to meet is different to being confident enough and having time to go to clubs. "
How do you mean? |
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"Bit unfair if people are trying to get verified?
People seem to forget it's almost a lottery to find someone that will give them their first meet! Also people might not be that confident or have the time to go to the clubs?
Isn't that partly the point ? If the member isn't confident enough or doesn't have time to meet anybody in a year, then why would they be confident enough or have time now?
Confident enough and having time to meet is different to being confident enough and having time to go to clubs.
How do you mean?"
I wouldn't be confident enough go to a club on my own. I have been confident enough to meet plenty of people one to one.
I wouldn't have the time to travel, or free time on a weekend evening, to go to a club. I do have the time to meet places that it's easy for me to get to, at other times. |
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"Bit unfair if people are trying to get verified?
People seem to forget it's almost a lottery to find someone that will give them their first meet! Also people might not be that confident or have the time to go to the clubs?
Isn't that partly the point ? If the member isn't confident enough or doesn't have time to meet anybody in a year, then why would they be confident enough or have time now?
Confident enough and having time to meet is different to being confident enough and having time to go to clubs.
How do you mean?
I wouldn't be confident enough go to a club on my own. I have been confident enough to meet plenty of people one to one.
I wouldn't have the time to travel, or free time on a weekend evening, to go to a club. I do have the time to meet places that it's easy for me to get to, at other times. "
If I may add as well... clubs are not foe everyone. I read it all the time...' go to a club...'.
My two club experiences put me off completely. Manchester and Liverpool....and as such won't meet certain type of people nor consider a social either. I'm happy meeting one on one....lot less drama..And you can control who verified you. |
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"Bit unfair if people are trying to get verified?
People seem to forget it's almost a lottery to find someone that will give them their first meet! Also people might not be that confident or have the time to go to the clubs?
Isn't that partly the point ? If the member isn't confident enough or doesn't have time to meet anybody in a year, then why would they be confident enough or have time now?
Confident enough and having time to meet is different to being confident enough and having time to go to clubs.
How do you mean?
I wouldn't be confident enough go to a club on my own. I have been confident enough to meet plenty of people one to one.
I wouldn't have the time to travel, or free time on a weekend evening, to go to a club. I do have the time to meet places that it's easy for me to get to, at other times. "
OK, I see.
Remember, this is an issue that mostly affects single guys. Lots more people will 'take a chance' on a single woman if unverified.
The fact is, a single guy, on a year, no veris will really struggle getting a meet with 90% of other members. But if they want to run their profile like that, that is obviously fine and 100% their choice |
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"Bit unfair if people are trying to get verified?
People seem to forget it's almost a lottery to find someone that will give them their first meet! Also people might not be that confident or have the time to go to the clubs?
Isn't that partly the point ? If the member isn't confident enough or doesn't have time to meet anybody in a year, then why would they be confident enough or have time now?
Confident enough and having time to meet is different to being confident enough and having time to go to clubs.
How do you mean?
I wouldn't be confident enough go to a club on my own. I have been confident enough to meet plenty of people one to one.
I wouldn't have the time to travel, or free time on a weekend evening, to go to a club. I do have the time to meet places that it's easy for me to get to, at other times.
If I may add as well... clubs are not foe everyone. I read it all the time...' go to a club...'.
My two club experiences put me off completely. Manchester and Liverpool....and as such won't meet certain type of people nor consider a social either. I'm happy meeting one on one....lot less drama..And you can control who verified you."
What specifically put you off them? |
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Yes I would meet - it's about the connection with the person. Incidentally, I didn't meet anyone for 12 months while I was recovering from an operation. |
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"Bit unfair if people are trying to get verified?
People seem to forget it's almost a lottery to find someone that will give them their first meet! Also people might not be that confident or have the time to go to the clubs?
Isn't that partly the point ? If the member isn't confident enough or doesn't have time to meet anybody in a year, then why would they be confident enough or have time now?
Confident enough and having time to meet is different to being confident enough and having time to go to clubs.
How do you mean?
I wouldn't be confident enough go to a club on my own. I have been confident enough to meet plenty of people one to one.
I wouldn't have the time to travel, or free time on a weekend evening, to go to a club. I do have the time to meet places that it's easy for me to get to, at other times.
If I may add as well... clubs are not foe everyone. I read it all the time...' go to a club...'.
My two club experiences put me off completely. Manchester and Liverpool....and as such won't meet certain type of people nor consider a social either. I'm happy meeting one on one....lot less drama..And you can control who verified you.
What specifically put you off them? "
Attitude by certain people towards single guys. Felt very much it was expected that I was there to be used as some felt fit....a toy for their pleasure. The fact that I may not have been attracted to someone was irrelevant and frown upon when I politely declined. To then make a big scene about why I didn't find their partner attractive was rather off putting. This happened in both venues. That doesn't make for a fun evening out. As a newbie to the scene at the time it's rather off putting as the others were very obviously regulars and new many other there. One then began to wonder what they then were saying about me to others there.
Put me off completely. Avoid those situations now and only meet one on one. It's much less threatening and potentially less drama.
Sits back now for the onslaught. This is my experience and doesn't mean others share it or have had it....However i suspect that it's not that uncommon having listened and heard others having similar experiences in different venues. What made it harder to swallow was the entry fee I had to pay as a single guy compared to a couple too. |
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Actually we'd be more inclined to avoid a couple that were not verified for a year or more and very inclined to completely avoid a single lady who hadn't been verified for a year or more, after all if you are a real couple or a real single female you shouldn't have any trouble getting a meet if you have the motivation, it's not hard! What's stopping you? Probably the same reason why they will probably pull out of an arranged meet, they are not swingers. Single guys totally different scenario, far harder to get meets... |
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I dont want to meet a lot of people.Rather a few I remember!
2 last year, still meeting all 3 of us with no veris.
If you just want veris might as well write your own |
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"I dont want to meet a lot of people.Rather a few I remember!
2 last year, still meeting all 3 of us with no veris.
If you just want veris might as well write your own"
I don't think most people 'just want veris' . They are useful in proving you are real and meet.
Why not just verify each other? Or are all 3 of you completely unverified? |
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We have found that when trying to organise group meets, people who have no been verified at all and have been on the site over a year, have been time wasters. |
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"Some people take this site too seriously.
I don't think I've met anyone off this site for over a year but when reduced work pressures, location, timing, availability, etc combine with mutual attraction then I will be there, on time, as discussed and as promised.
For some it is a lifestyle, for others it is a pastime and not necessarily our only source of 'fun'. If you find someone you like, pursue it - you might be pleasantly surprised "
Some great people on here, just takes a bit of time to find them |
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Of course. If I liked them enough why wouldn’t I? I only ever meet for a social first anyway.
Most of the people I’ve met have had none or very few and I’ve never had any problems. I’ve never been a fan of verifications. |
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