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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So we had new neighbours about 6 months ago
They are constantly arguing, loudly shouting, bawling, screaming at all hours of day and night to the degree it is now becoming a nuisance and, as like last night, keeping us awake for a good couple of hours
Obviously it is their personal life and whatever they argue about has fuck all to do with us, but it has got to the point where we feel it is having an effect on us and we need to address it in some way.
Hearing people falling out is difficult enough in isolated cases but when it is literally every day it's simply awful
Has anyone else experienced this and, if so, how did you cope with / manage it ?
We don't believe there is any violence, just 'falling out' but obviously we can only go off what we hear.
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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I don't know the best solution - it should be possible to say something, but I tried knocking on the door once because there was booming music at 7am (the same song over an over), only to be told I was just as bad for having noisy sex 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Do they own the house ? Have you tried talking to them, as they may not realise how bad it is. Oh course if you suspect there is any violence you can call the police. It's difficult for them though if neither side will press charges.
If they rent you can speak to the landlord.
It doesn't sound like it will exceed levels for Envionmental Health but you could talk to them. They'll be based within your Local Authority. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My mum had this issue a few years ago except the husband was also beating the shit out of his wife.
You could hear her screams, it was awful. My mum rang the Police every time. Eventually they split up.
You can approach them directly, pop a note through their door and contact the Council. Check local Council website for noise nuisance info. |
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Yeah, I experienced this from a couple of smackheads that used to live in the flat below me. Shouting, screaming at each other, slamming doors at all hours. It went on for hours at a time. I used to turn my music up full blast to try and drown them out when all I wanted was some peace & quiet 
Luckily they have gone now as they owed their dealer about £2000 and I don't think he fancied having his legs broken lol  |
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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago
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Wow that's a difficult one. Sounds like they are having a tough time of it and just aren't happy. Maybe they are not aware of how thin the walls are and that you can hear them. I wouldn't go to the neighbours as that may be interpreted as gossiping. The best course is to talk to them directly if you feel comfortable doing so.
Maybe a casual conversation where you drop in about how thin the walls are. Ask them can they hear you? Its a tough one. My mum however moved several times because of noisy neighbours. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We've had thus eventually they got evicted but it's impossible to deal with without them knowing you've complained so best to speak to them first sometimes knowing others can hear will calm things down |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If they rent you can speak to the landlord.
How?
I've been in that situation and had no idea who the landlord was."
The land registry will say who the owner is |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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Perhaps a polite "Sorry to hear you are not getting on".
I would suggest to him rather than her. The response will be either an admission, a "Mind your own" or "Who told you?" If the latter just say "You did, I hear it through the walls most nights"..
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By *W ChapMan
over a year ago
Swindon |
If it's causing a disturbance at silly o clock you must say something, not about the rowing but the noise...that's just plain inconsiderate.
The row has nothing to do with you (unless violent) the noise etc has everything to do with you....
Had noisy neighbours before and it's awful......  |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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If they rent you can speak to the landlord.
How?
I've been in that situation and had no idea who the landlord was.
The land registry will say who the owner is "
Ta. I didn't realise this was publicly accessible, had only used it at work. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So we had new neighbours about 6 months ago
They are constantly arguing, loudly shouting, bawling, screaming at all hours of day and night to the degree it is now becoming a nuisance and, as like last night, keeping us awake for a good couple of hours
Obviously it is their personal life and whatever they argue about has fuck all to do with us, but it has got to the point where we feel it is having an effect on us and we need to address it in some way.
Hearing people falling out is difficult enough in isolated cases but when it is literally every day it's simply awful
Has anyone else experienced this and, if so, how did you cope with / manage it ?
We don't believe there is any violence, just 'falling out' but obviously we can only go off what we hear.
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Mine have been like this and the walls are very thin here. She recently got rid of him and has now had him back. So all of a sudden it's very quiet well too quiet at the moment. But she usually play her music full blast and it vibrates the walls in my bedroom.
I ended up having a quiet word with her in the end and told her how loud things are. I told her even when she is being normal I can hear everything she is saying privately as if she is in the next room.
At one point after she decided to have a party until 4 in the morning I did buy a new heavy metal cd and play it full blast for 3 hours as I was in a bad mood and feeling really petty. *my stereo is louder than hers*
With nusience in the past I've had to contact the ASBO team through the council. That doesn't matter if you're council or private either. |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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"If it's between 11pm at night and 6am in the morning you are within your rights to make a complaint against them to the council ...
If you so wish "
...and are willing t do it a couple of dozen times before the council send their late night noise measurer round...on the one quiet night you get. It then takes another few dozen complaints before you get taken seriously again.
After which, the council will write them a letter.
(I'm not saying don't do it, btw! Just that it's potentially a long process, and as someone else said, your neighbour will know who it was anyway) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If they rent you can speak to the landlord.
How?
I've been in that situation and had no idea who the landlord was.
The land registry will say who the owner is "
Yes it will. You have to pay a fee but it's not exorbitant. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's hard isn't it, they obviously both have a short fuse so talking to them about the issue might not be the best way to stop the drama. Maybe have a friendly chat to see if you can work out if male or female are in danger. Maybe have a noisyear night and the day after saying you forget how thin the walls are. At my last house I had neighbours who used to shout and scream at their children for hours on end, fortunately I had my drum kit set up and would make a big loud racket everytime they started. They eventually moved out |
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Just go round & tell them to shut the fuck up!!
I find this is the only thing that works with my neighbour's teenager son.
At the end of the day you are entitled to a hut of peace - they might not know you an here so tell them.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If it's between 11pm at night and 6am in the morning you are within your rights to make a complaint against them to the council ...
If you so wish
...and are willing t do it a couple of dozen times before the council send their late night noise measurer round...on the one quiet night you get. It then takes another few dozen complaints before you get taken seriously again.
After which, the council will write them a letter.
(I'm not saying don't do it, btw! Just that it's potentially a long process, and as someone else said, your neighbour will know who it was anyway)"
I've had problems with my next door but 1 neighbour where they were constantly arguing and then he would leave the house and slam the door..
As there are only 3 houses on my street and I'm in the other end I could still hear everything..
I went on out councils website one night and reported it that way..
The next day they phoned me and the same day she sent a letter out..
That was a month ago...and it's been quiet ever since |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have exactly this at the moment, night after night, polite didn't work, just told to fuck off.
The police are only able to tell them to be quiet, nothing else unless violence is involved. The council will ask you to keep a diary, but they also inform your neighbours that you are doing so. In our case they keep quiet for a month then start again.So it goes on! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If they rent you can speak to the landlord.
How?
I've been in that situation and had no idea who the landlord was.
The land registry will say who the owner is
Yes it will. You have to pay a fee but it's not exorbitant. "
Yes I looked at this for neighbours I was having problems with.
Although in the end the threat of contacting the landlord was enough to sort things out |
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"Has anyone else experienced this and, if so, how did you cope with / manage it ? "
Yes, but it was a crack house next door for 8 months.
How did we cope? Badly. Lost a flat mate of 8 yrs and the police, Council &c were fecking useless.
Eventually evicted. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My next door neighbours could argue for Britain it used to drive me crazy, all day and night just constant shouting. It only stopped because the husband died, which was obviously very sad. But now their son visits his mum everyday and they argue even louder   unfortunately I have no advice on what you can do, sorry |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had a problem with my neighbours shagging really loud. Felt like I was sitting on the edge of their bed with them. Couple of times my daughter would sleep in with me and would say what's that noise mam, when all you could hear was the woman moaning/screaming. I used to put the hair dryer on till it stopped. One time I was home in the day and could hear them so I quickly plugged my aux cable in my phone and played the birdy song really loud and with my KEF speakers it was fucking loud it's like yeah shag to the birdy song! The last straw was November time when I was woken up about half 5 in the morning by my daughter asking again what the noise was now I'm a bad sleeper and once I'm asleep don't even dare waking me up, I laid on my bed and started booting the wall with both feet shouting shut the fuck up, by that point my head had gone so I ran downstairs and outside and started booting their front door. Hadn't heard them since though I moved out 2 weeks ago today. They've probably started shagging again now I'm gone.
It's a difficult situation op because they could take it badly and react badly to you. Depends whether you're frightened of them I guess. If it was me I'd go round and tell them to keep it down but do it in a nice way. They can't predict when they're gonna argue, do they have children or do you? I'd say the shouting was loud enough to hear in my house and it's frightening my child. |
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"I had a problem with my neighbours shagging really loud. Felt like I was sitting on the edge of their bed with them. Couple of times my daughter would sleep in with me and would say what's that noise mam, when all you could hear was the woman moaning/screaming. I used to put the hair dryer on till it stopped. One time I was home in the day and could hear them so I quickly plugged my aux cable in my phone and played the birdy song really loud and with my KEF speakers it was fucking loud it's like yeah shag to the birdy song! The last straw was November time when I was woken up about half 5 in the morning by my daughter asking again what the noise was now I'm a bad sleeper and once I'm asleep don't even dare waking me up, I laid on my bed and started booting the wall with both feet shouting shut the fuck up, by that point my head had gone so I ran downstairs and outside and started booting their front door. Hadn't heard them since though I moved out 2 weeks ago today. They've probably started shagging again now I'm gone.
It's a difficult situation op because they could take it badly and react badly to you. Depends whether you're frightened of them I guess. If it was me I'd go round and tell them to keep it down but do it in a nice way. They can't predict when they're gonna argue, do they have children or do you? I'd say the shouting was loud enough to hear in my house and it's frightening my child. "
Is this your neighbour?
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2858802/Woman-noisy-love-making-left-neighbours-fuming-led-30-visits-police-ASBO-TWO-prison-sentences-doesn-t-regret-thing.html |
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"So we had new neighbours about 6 months ago
They are constantly arguing, loudly shouting, bawling, screaming at all hours of day and night to the degree it is now becoming a nuisance and, as like last night, keeping us awake for a good couple of hours
Obviously it is their personal life and whatever they argue about has fuck all to do with us, but it has got to the point where we feel it is having an effect on us and we need to address it in some way.
Hearing people falling out is difficult enough in isolated cases but when it is literally every day it's simply awful
Has anyone else experienced this and, if so, how did you cope with / manage it ?
We don't believe there is any violence, just 'falling out' but obviously we can only go off what we hear.
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bang on the celing and shout shut the fuck up.if this doesn't work bang his front door and shout shut the fuck up.it's genuinly the best thing to do as councils etc are hopeless. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Is this your neighbour?
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2858802/Woman-noisy-love-making-left-neighbours-fuming-led-30-visits-police-ASBO-TWO-prison-sentences-doesn-t-regret-thing.html"
No but I remember that story. It's a difficult one cos it's like you can't dictate when people have sex in their own homes but these new build houses like I was in, semi detached and out bedrooms joining, it's like you should at least try and be considerate. I remember another time on my own my daughter was staying over her nans and I could hear them shagging so I put black hawk down on in my bedroom and had the volume really really loud, like yeah make love to the sweet soothing backdrop of war! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I perhaps should have said, they are not a couple (or at least that's what they have told the landlord)
It is a Dad and his daughter in her late teens.
It does seem like the daughter is the main protagonist, in that you hear her gobbing off first
I have actually wondered if she has some mental health / stability issues, but as I said in the OP it's none of our business.
All I know is it's becoming an issue to tolerate it day in, day out
We have let the landlord know and will see what happens  |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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"If it's between 11pm at night and 6am in the morning you are within your rights to make a complaint against them to the council ...
If you so wish
...and are willing t do it a couple of dozen times before the council send their late night noise measurer round...on the one quiet night you get. It then takes another few dozen complaints before you get taken seriously again.
After which, the council will write them a letter.
(I'm not saying don't do it, btw! Just that it's potentially a long process, and as someone else said, your neighbour will know who it was anyway)
I've had problems with my next door but 1 neighbour where they were constantly arguing and then he would leave the house and slam the door..
As there are only 3 houses on my street and I'm in the other end I could still hear everything..
I went on out councils website one night and reported it that way..
The next day they phoned me and the same day she sent a letter out..
That was a month ago...and it's been quiet ever since "
I stand corrected |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have a noisy neighbours too. He s an inconsiderate prick... I work nights and as I get into bed around 5 am his alarm clock goes of half hour later. It goes off for about half an hour then he gets up and turns his stereo on full blast for the next half hour... it came to a head the other day . I'd been round before to ask him if he could be more considerate. He doesn't work is in his 40s and gets up early to go get a paper and spends rest of the day chilling so he said. I went round yet again and politely informed him if I hear his alarm clock or his stereo once more I will make him eat the fu@king things! 6months with very little sleep can make me nasty lol.... needless to say I've slept well since and not heard a peep out of him lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If it's between 11pm at night and 6am in the morning you are within your rights to make a complaint against them to the council ...
If you so wish "
11-7 here.
Neighbours are now aware and life is quieter..
Still bang front doors and stomp about though!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Living close to people will always be a potential problem. Especially if your day pattern is different.
If you are prepared to lose 3 inches of your room some battons, insulation and new plaster board can make a world of difference. Expensive but incredible is acoustic foam, cheap and pretty good is polystyrene sheets. Consider ripping up the floor and putting Rockwall attic insulation under your bedroom too.
Or assassination is a quicker option |
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