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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

me and my GF came in this site before as she knew I had done mmf with my ex fiance.

but since being on she has cooled interest.

but last night she was out and left her messenger on her I pad, I kept going off so I had a peek naughty me but curiosity got better of me and I had a look.

I seen she was chatting away to someone at her old work and it was all fine till a seen her say that all the girls fancied him at the work, he went haha don't be silly and my GF said they have a point as you are tidy, and he then said are yiu joking and her reply was I'm beingredients serious.

now that all maybe sounds like nothing but what would others think if it was there girlfriend or boyfriend?

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

I would think that the best thing would be to talk to her. She might have misunderstood where your boundaries lie.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I would think that the best thing would be to talk to her. She might have misunderstood where your boundaries lie."

by reading that what would u think if it was u reading it from your other half? innocent or something in it ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

She was complimenting an old work mate. Hardly a declaration of intent to do anything else.

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By *ilary and DonaldCouple over a year ago

chingford

She may be trying to set up the 3some that you came on here for.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wouldn't have read it, as I don't have that kind of relationship. But you're probably best off talking to her not us.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

and youve never looked at another woman before?

so she admitted she liked the look of someone.. not the crime of the century. Maybe she was just being complimentary and giving the guy a feel good factor

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By *nimalsCouple over a year ago

home

Beingrediants was a great typo

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

"I would think that the best thing would be to talk to her. She might have misunderstood where your boundaries lie.

by reading that what would u think if it was u reading it from your other half? innocent or something in it ?"

My other half isn't yours so what I think is useless to you. However if I felt the need to read his personal communication it would suggest a problem anyway. The thing is our relationship is such that he says outright if he finds a woman attractive and vice versa.

Problems arise in relationships if you aren't able to be honest. Start now by telling her what you read, why you read it and sort it out between yourselves.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To me that sounds like flirtatious banter.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

okay dokie thanks for replies. think Al mention a 3 sum as we discussed a few months back now and hopfully she will be interested again in it.

I only thought it was strange her messages to him as it was when I go to bed was when she messaged.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

"okay dokie thanks for replies. think Al mention a 3 sum as we discussed a few months back now and hopfully she will be interested again in it.

I only thought it was strange her messages to him as it was when I go to bed was when she messaged. "

Telling a colleague he's attractive doesn't mean she will be interested in a threesome. It just means she told a colleague he's attractive.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"To me that sounds like flirtatious banter.

Definitely agree could be something could be nothing but sounds to me like banter if that's all u seen. I'm guessing your more interested to get a threesome going tho. Talk it out see where it leads

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What does she think about you being on here op?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Now if this was a bloke doing the messaging he'd be a cheating scumbag and get rid of him

But it's a woman so it's just a bit of cheeky banter

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"okay dokie thanks for replies. think Al mention a 3 sum as we discussed a few months back now and hopfully she will be interested again in it.

you sound really selfish..

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"okay dokie thanks for replies. think Al mention a 3 sum as we discussed a few months back now and hopfully she will be interested again in it.

I only thought it was strange her messages to him as it was when I go to bed was when she messaged.

Telling a colleague he's attractive doesn't mean she will be interested in a threesome. It just means she told a colleague he's attractive. "

she doesn't work with him anymore she's moved jobs. it was just the way she put it. I think your tidy and I think your really nice believe me.

but as ppl say mite be nothing

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"okay dokie thanks for replies. think Al mention a 3 sum as we discussed a few months back now and hopfully she will be interested again in it.

you sound really selfish..

in what way ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Now if this was a bloke doing the messaging he'd be a cheating scumbag and get rid of him

But it's a woman so it's just a bit of cheeky banter

???? Yeah that sounds a bit right

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"okay dokie thanks for replies. think Al mention a 3 sum as we discussed a few months back now and hopfully she will be interested again in it.

you sound really selfish..

in what way ?"

You'll bring up the 3sum again as its something YOU want to do, if she was interested im sure there would have been hints or efforts to achieve it..

frankly i dont even think she knows about this profile that you have created

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What does she think about you being on here op? "

wondering that too :D

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"okay dokie thanks for replies. think Al mention a 3 sum as we discussed a few months back now and hopfully she will be interested again in it.

you sound really selfish..

in what way ?

You'll bring up the 3sum again as its something YOU want to do, if she was interested im sure there would have been hints or efforts to achieve it..

frankly i dont even think she knows about this profile that you have created"

she knew we set this up as she was reading the messages she was getting..

selfish I dont think I am if she's interested in someone and has the the thoughts of liking someone else then me offering her that she can have best of both worlds ain't me being selfish is it?

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"me and my GF came in this site before as she knew I had done mmf with my ex fiance.

but since being on she has cooled interest.

but last night she was out and left her messenger on her I pad, I kept going off so I had a peek naughty me but curiosity got better of me and I had a look.

now that all maybe sounds like nothing but what would others think if it was there girlfriend or boyfriend?"

I left my tablet at home for two weeks while i was on holiday with friends. When I came back other half said it was pinging and driving him crazy.

I was answering my messages from abroad so if inclined he could have followed my facebook/WhatsApp /Telegraph etc he didn’t touch it, I wouldn't have either as we have boundaries.

You don't, ask yourself why you felt the need to snoop.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

"Now if this was a bloke doing the messaging he'd be a cheating scumbag and get rid of him

But it's a woman so it's just a bit of cheeky banter

probably. For the record my answer would be the same. Nobody ever found out what their partner's intent was by asking strangers on an internet site.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think as it was your gfs fb account you shouldn't have been snooping in the first place...

if you mention anything now she will know you have been looking...

are you one of those possessive types that wants to know everything she is doing?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

"Beingrediants was a great typo"

I liked that too

As for fb, maybe she's trying to get him in with some of the women from her past job place.

As ever, we can only get the relationship query resolved between the two by communication. It would not bother me

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By *ilary and DonaldCouple over a year ago

chingford

"okay dokie thanks for replies. think Al mention a 3 sum as we discussed a few months back now and hopfully she will be interested again in it.

I only thought it was strange her messages to him as it was when I go to bed was when she messaged.

Telling a colleague he's attractive doesn't mean she will be interested in a threesome. It just means she told a colleague he's attractive.

she doesn't work with him anymore she's moved jobs. it was just the way she put it. I think your tidy and I think your really nice believe me.

but as ppl say mite be nothing "

Maybe she just thought he was good at organising his desk.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Complimenting someone and flirting with them is nothing to get wound up about. Reading private messages though, that's really not cool

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It would be naive to think she doesnt find other men or women attractive,for you to be checking up on her there must be issues,communication is the answer

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"okay dokie thanks for replies. think Al mention a 3 sum as we discussed a few months back now and hopfully she will be interested again in it.

I only thought it was strange her messages to him as it was when I go to bed was when she messaged.

Telling a colleague he's attractive doesn't mean she will be interested in a threesome. It just means she told a colleague he's attractive. "
correct, .sounds you only want what you want, stering everything to that one goal and i dont think youll be able to handle it anyway..reading other peoples emails..what does that say about you?

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By *entle giraffeMan over a year ago

Minehead

If you're going to peek you need to be prepared for what you find.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think as it was your gfs fb account you shouldn't have been snooping in the first place...

if you mention anything now she will know you have been looking...

are you one of those possessive types that wants to know everything she is doing?

This is just what I was thinking.

I think that before bringing up the question of a threesome again, you're both going to have a lot of talking to do about trust issues etc and why you felt the need to snoop her facebook account.

I suspect that she may feel a little pissed off about this (but then I don't know her, you do) so using it as an excuse to bring up the subject of threesomes again is going to be incredibly insensitive

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By *unandbuckCouple over a year ago

Sheffield

Op does she use this account with you, as a couple, or do only you come on?

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By *irtyGirlWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

It would be a deal breaker for me that my actual relationship has zero trust.

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By *ammerandthongsCouple over a year ago

Limerick

I'd have a bigger problem that you read my private messages & show you the door.

Amy

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By *retty FolliesCouple (FF) over a year ago

south

"Now if this was a bloke doing the messaging he'd be a cheating scumbag and get rid of him

But it's a woman so it's just a bit of cheeky banter

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By *imetoexplore69Couple over a year ago

Aberdeen

"Now if this was a bloke doing the messaging he'd be a cheating scumbag and get rid of him

But it's a woman so it's just a bit of cheeky banter

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In all fairness, you shouldn't have read the messages in the first place. Everyone is entitled to their own personal space and you have violated that really

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sounds like shes flirting with him.

Whether its just harmless or more I couldn't tell you.

But you know what guys are like?

Any hint of a woman flirting with them and they think they are in with a chance of a fuck.

So whether its harmless or not in her eyes it could be problematic if it continues and he gets the right or wrong idea?

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By *itmanAndHerrCouple over a year ago

st helens

My opinion?

Curiosity killed the cat. You need to let this lie till your jealousy settles. The conversation you've read can be read as innocent or soft flirtation. There's been no real proposition made by either party. If she felt the conversation was worth hiding from you then would she not delete it or close it down rather than leaving it for all to see?

Take a deep breath and put it to the back of your mind. You don't want to confront her about something that could very well be innocent.

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By *imetoexplore69Couple over a year ago

Aberdeen

"Sounds like shes flirting with him.

Whether its just harmless or more I couldn't tell you.

But you know what guys are like?

Any hint of a woman flirting with them and they think they are in with a chance of a fuck.

So whether its harmless or not in her eyes it could be problematic if it continues and he gets the right or wrong idea?

"
this ^^^^

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