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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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15 years ago the guy who I have my eldest 2 children with, cheated on me with a good friend of mine, it was an awful time , I walked away with the kids and struggled for a few years getting back on my feet, then I met Mark and have never looked back and couldn't be more happier. I made a comment to my friend that she was welcome to him and that he would cheat on her too. Her reply was, he wont cheat on me hunny, no one would cheat on me I'm perfect. Well she came home last night not feeling well from work to find him in bed with the woman from across the street. I am sitting here with a smile as wide as you could think of and have a lovely warm glowing feeling inside am I bitter or just relishing in the fact Karma has came around  |
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"15 years ago the guy who I have my eldest 2 children with, cheated on me with a good friend of mine, it was an awful time , I walked away with the kids and struggled for a few years getting back on my feet, then I met Mark and have never looked back and couldn't be more happier. I made a comment to my friend that she was welcome to him and that he would cheat on her too. Her reply was, he wont cheat on me hunny, no one would cheat on me I'm perfect. Well she came home last night not feeling well from work to find him in bed with the woman from across the street. I am sitting here with a smile as wide as you could think of and have a lovely warm glowing feeling inside am I bitter or just relishing in the fact Karma has came around "
Good karma has happened.... But its bad karma to gloat  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"15 years ago the guy who I have my eldest 2 children with, cheated on me with a good friend of mine, it was an awful time , I walked away with the kids and struggled for a few years getting back on my feet, then I met Mark and have never looked back and couldn't be more happier. I made a comment to my friend that she was welcome to him and that he would cheat on her too. Her reply was, he wont cheat on me hunny, no one would cheat on me I'm perfect. Well she came home last night not feeling well from work to find him in bed with the woman from across the street. I am sitting here with a smile as wide as you could think of and have a lovely warm glowing feeling inside am I bitter or just relishing in the fact Karma has came around
Good karma has happened.... But its bad karma to gloat "
I'm not gloating , well not in front of them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You're entitled to feel quietly smug given the comment she made about him not cheating, doesn't come across as bitter. Don't gloat tho
You've moved on and found happiness so either way you are a winner |
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A good friend always warns a friend if they are doing something wrong, a great friend picks up the pieces when they are proved right. Take no pleasure in someone's else's hurt just in the fact you were right. Karma is a bitch it might just bite back  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Understandable reaction.
Just don't parade outside her house with a big sign saying
"I told you so little Miss Perfect"
I think that would be over egging it. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What goes around, comes around.
It wasn't just him who hurt you...but her. So in a way your reaction is perfectly natural....please accept a virtual high five! |
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By *D40Couple
over a year ago
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As a woman who has had exactly this done to her i say enjoy with a massive smile.
For the posters who think your wrong i say they are wrong. When a man does this to a woamn its harsh but its so much worse to lose a man & a friend in one foul swoop.
Happiness to you xx
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"You're entitled to feel quietly smug given the comment she made about him not cheating, doesn't come across as bitter. Don't gloat tho
You've moved on and found happiness so either way you are a winner "
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"Understandable reaction.
Just don't parade outside her house with a big sign saying
"I told you so little Miss Perfect"
I think that would be over egging it. puts brush and paints down and gets back to making dinner "
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"15 years ago the guy who I have my eldest 2 children with, cheated on me with a good friend of mine, it was an awful time , I walked away with the kids and struggled for a few years getting back on my feet, then I met Mark and have never looked back and couldn't be more happier. I made a comment to my friend that she was welcome to him and that he would cheat on her too. Her reply was, he wont cheat on me hunny, no one would cheat on me I'm perfect. Well she came home last night not feeling well from work to find him in bed with the woman from across the street. I am sitting here with a smile as wide as you could think of and have a lovely warm glowing feeling inside am I bitter or just relishing in the fact Karma has came around "
In answer to your question: yes you are. |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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"15 years ago the guy who I have my eldest 2 children with, cheated on me with a good friend of mine, it was an awful time , I walked away with the kids and struggled for a few years getting back on my feet, then I met Mark and have never looked back and couldn't be more happier. I made a comment to my friend that she was welcome to him and that he would cheat on her too. Her reply was, he wont cheat on me hunny, no one would cheat on me I'm perfect. Well she came home last night not feeling well from work to find him in bed with the woman from across the street. I am sitting here with a smile as wide as you could think of and have a lovely warm glowing feeling inside am I bitter or just relishing in the fact Karma has came around "
I think you should bear no grudges & offer to take her for a drink to drown her sorrows 
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
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"Understandable reaction.
Just don't parade outside her house with a big sign saying
"I told you so little Miss Perfect"
I think that would be over egging it. "
But if you must, do make certain that it is one of 'em LED signs; energy efficient  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope I don't think you are bitter. I felt the same when I saw an ex online doing the same to his current partner that he did behind my back.
It actually helped me mive on, as I had a rough time the first couple of years after we spilt. |
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"15 years ago the guy who I have my eldest 2 children with, cheated on me with a good friend of mine, it was an awful time , I walked away with the kids and struggled for a few years getting back on my feet, then I met Mark and have never looked back and couldn't be more happier. I made a comment to my friend that she was welcome to him and that he would cheat on her too. Her reply was, he wont cheat on me hunny, no one would cheat on me I'm perfect. Well she came home last night not feeling well from work to find him in bed with the woman from across the street. I am sitting here with a smile as wide as you could think of and have a lovely warm glowing feeling inside am I bitter or just relishing in the fact Karma has came around "
That's not how I understand karma but if it does work like that aren't you going to get caught out by it now?
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"15 years ago the guy who I have my eldest 2 children with, cheated on me with a good friend of mine, it was an awful time , I walked away with the kids and struggled for a few years getting back on my feet, then I met Mark and have never looked back and couldn't be more happier. I made a comment to my friend that she was welcome to him and that he would cheat on her too. Her reply was, he wont cheat on me hunny, no one would cheat on me I'm perfect. Well she came home last night not feeling well from work to find him in bed with the woman from across the street. I am sitting here with a smile as wide as you could think of and have a lovely warm glowing feeling inside am I bitter or just relishing in the fact Karma has came around
That's not how I understand karma but if it does work like that aren't you going to get caught out by it now?
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Karma doesn't exist.
It's entirely made up |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No it's not being bitter, it's being a realist. My ex went off with a young girl 18 months ago, I found out he was cheating on me through most of our marriage. She also thinks he won't cheat on her but I know he will. Will I be the same as you when he does, more than likely but I pity him that he will never find the love that he is seeking. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Karma is one awesome lady. God help me when she catches up with me.
Likewise! One way ticket to hell for me n Strawbs! "
The devil had the best parties anyway |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"15 years ago the guy who I have my eldest 2 children with, cheated on me with a good friend of mine, it was an awful time , I walked away with the kids and struggled for a few years getting back on my feet, then I met Mark and have never looked back and couldn't be more happier. I made a comment to my friend that she was welcome to him and that he would cheat on her too. Her reply was, he wont cheat on me hunny, no one would cheat on me I'm perfect. Well she came home last night not feeling well from work to find him in bed with the woman from across the street. I am sitting here with a smile as wide as you could think of and have a lovely warm glowing feeling inside am I bitter or just relishing in the fact Karma has came around "
Why anybody would have a relationship with anybody that is cheating on their partner to be with them has always been beyond me, surely they must realise that one day they will be in that partners shoes and be being cheated on
She didn't care about you while she was shagging your fella behind your back so gloat away i say |
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"15 years ago the guy who I have my eldest 2 children with, cheated on me with a good friend of mine, it was an awful time , I walked away with the kids and struggled for a few years getting back on my feet, then I met Mark and have never looked back and couldn't be more happier. I made a comment to my friend that she was welcome to him and that he would cheat on her too. Her reply was, he wont cheat on me hunny, no one would cheat on me I'm perfect. Well she came home last night not feeling well from work to find him in bed with the woman from across the street. I am sitting here with a smile as wide as you could think of and have a lovely warm glowing feeling inside am I bitter or just relishing in the fact Karma has came around "
You don't come over as bitter. It seems you left them where they belong years ago.
I think your smile is simply one of recognition and 'what did she expect'.....
There's no point in gloating because people who hurt others in that way don't usually hurt in the same way when it happens to them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just feel satisfied that you knew you were right and that she now feels as you did when she screwed you over with him and leave it there. Your a better person for your experience and as for her claiming she's perfect well anyone who claims to be perfect that's their flaw. The scales of karma have been balanced as far as your concerned so level them level and enjoy life x
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By (user no longer on site)
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"15 years ago the guy who I have my eldest 2 children with, cheated on me with a good friend of mine, it was an awful time , I walked away with the kids and struggled for a few years getting back on my feet, then I met Mark and have never looked back and couldn't be more happier. I made a comment to my friend that she was welcome to him and that he would cheat on her too. Her reply was, he wont cheat on me hunny, no one would cheat on me I'm perfect. Well she came home last night not feeling well from work to find him in bed with the woman from across the street. I am sitting here with a smile as wide as you could think of and have a lovely warm glowing feeling inside am I bitter or just relishing in the fact Karma has came around
That's not how I understand karma but if it does work like that aren't you going to get caught out by it now?
Karma doesn't exist.
It's entirely made up "
Karma is an excellent excercise in statistics.
More people you help the more that are willing to help you or will have heard of your kindness and be influenced towards you.
More you fuck off the more people who will sit smugly by as they watch you head for a fall |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just feel satisfied that you knew you were right and that she now feels as you did when she screwed you over with him and leave it there. Your a better person for your experience and as for her claiming she's perfect well anyone who claims to be perfect that's their flaw. The scales of karma have been balanced as far as your concerned so level them level and enjoy life x
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All this talk of karma going on here where's the down side for the guy? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't refer to it as being bitter, I don't think that's the right term.
My ex cheated on me and I believe he is what I'd refer to as a serial cheater, but I would never gloat at the fact he cheated on his new partner, as I remember how it felt.
For you to know this 15 years down the line would, to me, imply that you still had connections with the lady. So to be smug about it is rather harsh in my opinion.
I don't believe in karma, but what people refer to as karma, I wouldn't say this was the case as your ex is in no worse position. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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They live in the same village as me and my son and daughter go to visit him , I heard the news from them, and the ex is in a far worse position as he left the home we made to move in with her and her kid in her house. She has thrown him out and he is now crashing on my son's couch. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Bitter? Maybe, there does seem to be a little bit of gloating going on, but we're all only human, it's a natural reaction, just don't overdo it and not in front of your kids.
Our emotions are instinctive but our actions are a choice.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Seems a bit harsh relishing in the fact hes hurt someone else when you know how it was when he did it to you..."
But she was the one he cheated on her with.. so is it harsh or is it wishing her just desserts?
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's not really karma, he demonstrated a pattern of behaviour, if he's the type to cheat then its about him not the person he is with.
Your exfriend was being vindictive to say what she said and naive to believe it would be different for her.
It's only natural for you to feel schadenfreude at the turn of events, as she was the source of so much pain to you.
Real karma would of been if she'd of done the dirty on him, because he after all is the one that broke the vows.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's not really karma, he demonstrated a pattern of behaviour, if he's the type to cheat then its about him not the person he is with.
Your exfriend was being vindictive to say what she said and naive to believe it would be different for her.
It's only natural for you to feel schadenfreude at the turn of events, as she was the source of so much pain to you.
Real karma would of been if she'd of done the dirty on him, because he after all is the one that broke the vows.
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Or possibly she wasn't even being vindictive, merely defensive as she always feared the same?
And why direct the bulk of anger at the "other woman", there are only ever two people responsible for the demise of a relationship, the ones in it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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does ot matter what we think? Maybe not, maybe so. The OP wants our opinion. Why? Don't know but i'm sure Freud would have a few thoughts. Personally, i wouldn't give two sh*ts what happened. Unless it affected my kids. If it hasn't, i wouldn't pay attention to gossip. If i had a wee thought as the OP did. So what? Our thoughts and actions are all a part of who we are and what we have experienced in life. So you can't do anything about instinctive responses or thoughts. Personally, i wouldn't dwell on negative thoughts, they poison the heart and soul. Instead, wish them well and be thankful for what you have now. It'll be better for you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"15 years ago the guy who I have my eldest 2 children with, cheated on me with a good friend of mine, it was an awful time , I walked away with the kids and struggled for a few years getting back on my feet, then I met Mark and have never looked back and couldn't be more happier. I made a comment to my friend that she was welcome to him and that he would cheat on her too. Her reply was, he wont cheat on me hunny, no one would cheat on me I'm perfect. Well she came home last night not feeling well from work to find him in bed with the woman from across the street. I am sitting here with a smile as wide as you could think of and have a lovely warm glowing feeling inside am I bitter or just relishing in the fact Karma has came around "
No hun your not bitter.. that is karma at its best...!!!! |
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"15 years ago the guy who I have my eldest 2 children with, cheated on me with a good friend of mine, it was an awful time , I walked away with the kids and struggled for a few years getting back on my feet, then I met Mark and have never looked back and couldn't be more happier. I made a comment to my friend that she was welcome to him and that he would cheat on her too. Her reply was, he wont cheat on me hunny, no one would cheat on me I'm perfect. Well she came home last night not feeling well from work to find him in bed with the woman from across the street. I am sitting here with a smile as wide as you could think of and have a lovely warm glowing feeling inside am I bitter or just relishing in the fact Karma has came around "
I think my reaction would be the same as yours ... anyway her comment to you about her being perfect would be enough for me to actually laugh in her face !
up to you and keep that smile on your face x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's not really karma, he demonstrated a pattern of behaviour, if he's the type to cheat then its about him not the person he is with.
Your exfriend was being vindictive to say what she said and naive to believe it would be different for her.
It's only natural for you to feel schadenfreude at the turn of events, as she was the source of so much pain to you.
Real karma would of been if she'd of done the dirty on him, because he after all is the one that broke the vows.
Or possibly she wasn't even being vindictive, merely defensive as she always feared the same?
And why direct the bulk of anger at the "other woman", there are only ever two people responsible for the demise of a relationship, the ones in it."
Well that's not 100% correct is it, the other woman knew he was in a relationship it's not really cricket to shag your friends husband is it.
I have no doubt he would have found some one else tho. |
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"It's not really karma, he demonstrated a pattern of behaviour, if he's the type to cheat then its about him not the person he is with.
Your exfriend was being vindictive to say what she said and naive to believe it would be different for her.
It's only natural for you to feel schadenfreude at the turn of events, as she was the source of so much pain to you.
Real karma would of been if she'd of done the dirty on him, because he after all is the one that broke the vows.
Or possibly she wasn't even being vindictive, merely defensive as she always feared the same?
And why direct the bulk of anger at the "other woman", there are only ever two people responsible for the demise of a relationship, the ones in it.
Well that's not 100% correct is it, the other woman knew he was in a relationship it's not really cricket to shag your friends husband is it.
I have no doubt he would have found some one else tho. "
That's my point, ultimately the responsibility lies with the person who made the committment. Plenty here who have no problem fucking cheaters on the grounds that it's not their relationship. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's not really karma, he demonstrated a pattern of behaviour, if he's the type to cheat then its about him not the person he is with.
Your exfriend was being vindictive to say what she said and naive to believe it would be different for her.
It's only natural for you to feel schadenfreude at the turn of events, as she was the source of so much pain to you.
Real karma would of been if she'd of done the dirty on him, because he after all is the one that broke the vows.
Or possibly she wasn't even being vindictive, merely defensive as she always feared the same?
And why direct the bulk of anger at the "other woman", there are only ever two people responsible for the demise of a relationship, the ones in it.
Well that's not 100% correct is it, the other woman knew he was in a relationship it's not really cricket to shag your friends husband is it.
I have no doubt he would have found some one else tho.
That's my point, ultimately the responsibility lies with the person who made the committment. Plenty here who have no problem fucking cheaters on the grounds that it's not their relationship."
But you said it's only the people in the relationships fault.
They certainly have 95% of the blame, but it's like me and snacks.
If I have snacks in the house I'll eat them, then I'll feel bad and be remorseful.
But if I don't have snacks in the house I'm fine, the shops just a little too far away to be worth the effort so I carry on regardless.
Now the same might be true of this chap.
If there is a woman right on his doorstep willing to drop her drawers for him he will probably have a go. If she didn't he might not be bothered with the effort. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's not really karma, he demonstrated a pattern of behaviour, if he's the type to cheat then its about him not the person he is with.
Your exfriend was being vindictive to say what she said and naive to believe it would be different for her.
It's only natural for you to feel schadenfreude at the turn of events, as she was the source of so much pain to you.
Real karma would of been if she'd of done the dirty on him, because he after all is the one that broke the vows.
Or possibly she wasn't even being vindictive, merely defensive as she always feared the same?
And why direct the bulk of anger at the "other woman", there are only ever two people responsible for the demise of a relationship, the ones in it.
Well that's not 100% correct is it, the other woman knew he was in a relationship it's not really cricket to shag your friends husband is it.
I have no doubt he would have found some one else tho.
That's my point, ultimately the responsibility lies with the person who made the committment. Plenty here who have no problem fucking cheaters on the grounds that it's not their relationship.
But you said it's only the people in the relationships fault.
They certainly have 95% of the blame, but it's like me and snacks.
If I have snacks in the house I'll eat them, then I'll feel bad and be remorseful.
But if I don't have snacks in the house I'm fine, the shops just a little too far away to be worth the effort so I carry on regardless.
Now the same might be true of this chap.
If there is a woman right on his doorstep willing to drop her drawers for him he will probably have a go. If she didn't he might not be bothered with the effort. "
Nah, sorry, I believe in adults being responsible for their own actions. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's not really karma, he demonstrated a pattern of behaviour, if he's the type to cheat then its about him not the person he is with.
Your exfriend was being vindictive to say what she said and naive to believe it would be different for her.
It's only natural for you to feel schadenfreude at the turn of events, as she was the source of so much pain to you.
Real karma would of been if she'd of done the dirty on him, because he after all is the one that broke the vows.
Or possibly she wasn't even being vindictive, merely defensive as she always feared the same?
And why direct the bulk of anger at the "other woman", there are only ever two people responsible for the demise of a relationship, the ones in it.
Well that's not 100% correct is it, the other woman knew he was in a relationship it's not really cricket to shag your friends husband is it.
I have no doubt he would have found some one else tho.
That's my point, ultimately the responsibility lies with the person who made the committment. Plenty here who have no problem fucking cheaters on the grounds that it's not their relationship.
But you said it's only the people in the relationships fault.
They certainly have 95% of the blame, but it's like me and snacks.
If I have snacks in the house I'll eat them, then I'll feel bad and be remorseful.
But if I don't have snacks in the house I'm fine, the shops just a little too far away to be worth the effort so I carry on regardless.
Now the same might be true of this chap.
If there is a woman right on his doorstep willing to drop her drawers for him he will probably have a go. If she didn't he might not be bothered with the effort.
Nah, sorry, I believe in adults being responsible for their own actions."
Of course they should be, so if you knowingly have sex with a married man that surely you are 50% responsible for an act of adultery.
You said prior to this that the only people to blame were the people in the actual relationship. That's clearly not the case is it. |
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"15 years ago the guy who I have my eldest 2 children with, cheated on me with a good friend of mine, it was an awful time , I walked away with the kids and struggled for a few years getting back on my feet, then I met Mark and have never looked back and couldn't be more happier. I made a comment to my friend that she was welcome to him and that he would cheat on her too. Her reply was, he wont cheat on me hunny, no one would cheat on me I'm perfect. Well she came home last night not feeling well from work to find him in bed with the woman from across the street. I am sitting here with a smile as wide as you could think of and have a lovely warm glowing feeling inside am I bitter or just relishing in the fact Karma has came around "
The majority of people in that situation would feel the same, if they say not they're lying!
My ex cheated on me regularly and I gave him every opportunity to get a grip as we could've had a fantastic life. Unfortunately he felt the grass was greener so I divorced him
18 years later he's alone with many regrets. You gotta love karma xx |
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"15 years ago the guy who I have my eldest 2 children with, cheated on me with a good friend of mine, it was an awful time , I walked away with the kids and struggled for a few years getting back on my feet, then I met Mark and have never looked back and couldn't be more happier. I made a comment to my friend that she was welcome to him and that he would cheat on her too. Her reply was, he wont cheat on me hunny, no one would cheat on me I'm perfect. Well she came home last night not feeling well from work to find him in bed with the woman from across the street. I am sitting here with a smile as wide as you could think of and have a lovely warm glowing feeling inside am I bitter or just relishing in the fact Karma has came around
The majority of people in that situation would feel the same, if they say not they're lying!
My ex cheated on me regularly and I gave him every opportunity to get a grip as we could've had a fantastic life. Unfortunately he felt the grass was greener so I divorced him
18 years later he's alone with many regrets. You gotta love karma xx"
This person hurt you a lot, you moved on and he's miserable of course your going to think serves you right |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe he once again felt negrected ? Maybe the relationship went stale ? People seek effection elsewhere if they are not getting it at home.
Always 2 sides to any argument.
I don't belive in karma, life is just random situations that we have very little control over |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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Karma is when your behaviour in this life affects what you'll be reincarnated as in the next. Buddhism believes that any perceived retribution is just one of those things.
Schadenfreude is a thing though, and can be very satisfying. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's not really karma, he demonstrated a pattern of behaviour, if he's the type to cheat then its about him not the person he is with.
Your exfriend was being vindictive to say what she said and naive to believe it would be different for her.
It's only natural for you to feel schadenfreude at the turn of events, as she was the source of so much pain to you.
Real karma would of been if she'd of done the dirty on him, because he after all is the one that broke the vows.
Or possibly she wasn't even being vindictive, merely defensive as she always feared the same?
And why direct the bulk of anger at the "other woman", there are only ever two people responsible for the demise of a relationship, the ones in it.
Well that's not 100% correct is it, the other woman knew he was in a relationship it's not really cricket to shag your friends husband is it.
I have no doubt he would have found some one else tho.
That's my point, ultimately the responsibility lies with the person who made the committment. Plenty here who have no problem fucking cheaters on the grounds that it's not their relationship.
But you said it's only the people in the relationships fault.
They certainly have 95% of the blame, but it's like me and snacks.
If I have snacks in the house I'll eat them, then I'll feel bad and be remorseful.
But if I don't have snacks in the house I'm fine, the shops just a little too far away to be worth the effort so I carry on regardless.
Now the same might be true of this chap.
If there is a woman right on his doorstep willing to drop her drawers for him he will probably have a go. If she didn't he might not be bothered with the effort.
Nah, sorry, I believe in adults being responsible for their own actions.
Of course they should be, so if you knowingly have sex with a married man that surely you are 50% responsible for an act of adultery.
You said prior to this that the only people to blame were the people in the actual relationship. That's clearly not the case is it."
The decision to cheat lies with the cheater alone, they are the one who made the commitment. "He/she made me do it" starts to sound lame in adolesence.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Maybe he once again felt negrected ? Maybe the relationship went stale ? People seek effection elsewhere if they are not getting it at home.
Always 2 sides to any argument.
I don't belive in karma, life is just random situations that we have very little control over "
Maybe he did, your not wrong about there being two sides. But the other poster said the other woman was blameless. She isn't responsible for the problems in the relationship.
But fucking her mates husband is hardly a good thing is it. |
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"Maybe he once again felt negrected ? Maybe the relationship went stale ? People seek effection elsewhere if they are not getting it at home.
Always 2 sides to any argument.
I don't belive in karma, life is just random situations that we have very little control over
Maybe he did, your not wrong about there being two sides. But the other poster said the other woman was blameless. She isn't responsible for the problems in the relationship.
But fucking her mates husband is hardly a good thing is it. "
Her actions were not good, but she is not his moral conscience, we are each responsible only for ourselves. |
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"Karma is a wonderful thing. People don't have to waste their time on revenge, just sit tight, the time will come.
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Karma is an observation NOT a mystical force
Many bad humans get away with literally murder
Many good humans suffer and die
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Maybe he once again felt negrected ? Maybe the relationship went stale ? People seek effection elsewhere if they are not getting it at home.
Always 2 sides to any argument.
I don't belive in karma, life is just random situations that we have very little control over
Maybe he did, your not wrong about there being two sides. But the other poster said the other woman was blameless. She isn't responsible for the problems in the relationship.
But fucking her mates husband is hardly a good thing is it.
Her actions were not good, but she is not his moral conscience, we are each responsible only for ourselves."
Not if your a parent. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"15 years ago the guy who I have my eldest 2 children with, cheated on me with a good friend of mine, it was an awful time , I walked away with the kids and struggled for a few years getting back on my feet, then I met Mark and have never looked back and couldn't be more happier. I made a comment to my friend that she was welcome to him and that he would cheat on her too. Her reply was, he wont cheat on me hunny, no one would cheat on me I'm perfect. Well she came home last night not feeling well from work to find him in bed with the woman from across the street. I am sitting here with a smile as wide as you could think of and have a lovely warm glowing feeling inside am I bitter or just relishing in the fact Karma has came around
The majority of people in that situation would feel the same, if they say not they're lying!
My ex cheated on me regularly and I gave him every opportunity to get a grip as we could've had a fantastic life. Unfortunately he felt the grass was greener so I divorced him
18 years later he's alone with many regrets. You gotta love karma xx
This person hurt you a lot, you moved on and he's miserable of course your going to think serves you right"
Not bitter tho. I invited him to join the family for Christmas which he did x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"15 years ago the guy who I have my eldest 2 children with, cheated on me with a good friend of mine, it was an awful time , I walked away with the kids and struggled for a few years getting back on my feet, then I met Mark and have never looked back and couldn't be more happier. I made a comment to my friend that she was welcome to him and that he would cheat on her too. Her reply was, he wont cheat on me hunny, no one would cheat on me I'm perfect. Well she came home last night not feeling well from work to find him in bed with the woman from across the street. I am sitting here with a smile as wide as you could think of and have a lovely warm glowing feeling inside am I bitter or just relishing in the fact Karma has came around
No hun your not bitter.. that is karma at its best...!!!! "
Wouldn't karma be the guy getting cheated on? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's not really karma, he demonstrated a pattern of behaviour, if he's the type to cheat then its about him not the person he is with.
Your exfriend was being vindictive to say what she said and naive to believe it would be different for her.
It's only natural for you to feel schadenfreude at the turn of events, as she was the source of so much pain to you.
Real karma would of been if she'd of done the dirty on him, because he after all is the one that broke the vows.
Or possibly she wasn't even being vindictive, merely defensive as she always feared the same?
And why direct the bulk of anger at the "other woman", there are only ever two people responsible for the demise of a relationship, the ones in it.
Well that's not 100% correct is it, the other woman knew he was in a relationship it's not really cricket to shag your friends husband is it.
I have no doubt he would have found some one else tho.
That's my point, ultimately the responsibility lies with the person who made the committment. Plenty here who have no problem fucking cheaters on the grounds that it's not their relationship.
But you said it's only the people in the relationships fault.
They certainly have 95% of the blame, but it's like me and snacks.
If I have snacks in the house I'll eat them, then I'll feel bad and be remorseful.
But if I don't have snacks in the house I'm fine, the shops just a little too far away to be worth the effort so I carry on regardless.
Now the same might be true of this chap.
If there is a woman right on his doorstep willing to drop her drawers for him he will probably have a go. If she didn't he might not be bothered with the effort.
Nah, sorry, I believe in adults being responsible for their own actions.
Of course they should be, so if you knowingly have sex with a married man that surely you are 50% responsible for an act of adultery.
You said prior to this that the only people to blame were the people in the actual relationship. That's clearly not the case is it."
You'd only be responsible if you raped or otherwise coerced the cheater.
Saying "No, I'm married" is not exactly difficult.
But usually cheats let out a big speach about how thier partner is terrible and its not thier fault and convince the person they have the affair with that thier relationship is doomed anyway and they're jist stuck for the kids etx
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By (user no longer on site)
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"15 years ago the guy who I have my eldest 2 children with, cheated on me with a good friend of mine, it was an awful time , I walked away with the kids and struggled for a few years getting back on my feet, then I met Mark and have never looked back and couldn't be more happier. I made a comment to my friend that she was welcome to him and that he would cheat on her too. Her reply was, he wont cheat on me hunny, no one would cheat on me I'm perfect. Well she came home last night not feeling well from work to find him in bed with the woman from across the street. I am sitting here with a smile as wide as you could think of and have a lovely warm glowing feeling inside am I bitter or just relishing in the fact Karma has came around "
Its not bitter to revel in that comeuppance. i'd bask in it like it was the summer sun |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Maybe he once again felt negrected ? Maybe the relationship went stale ? People seek effection elsewhere if they are not getting it at home.
Always 2 sides to any argument.
I don't belive in karma, life is just random situations that we have very little control over
Maybe he did, your not wrong about there being two sides. But the other poster said the other woman was blameless. She isn't responsible for the problems in the relationship.
But fucking her mates husband is hardly a good thing is it.
Her actions were not good, but she is not his moral conscience, we are each responsible only for ourselves.
Not if your a parent. "
Eh, plenty of shit parents who are "faithful". |
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"It's not really karma, he demonstrated a pattern of behaviour, if he's the type to cheat then its about him not the person he is with.
Your exfriend was being vindictive to say what she said and naive to believe it would be different for her.
It's only natural for you to feel schadenfreude at the turn of events, as she was the source of so much pain to you.
Real karma would of been if she'd of done the dirty on him, because he after all is the one that broke the vows.
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Good point. I was call this a measure of 'poetic justice' regardless - it can be mildly enjoyed without too much of a guilty complex IMO. |
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"15 years ago the guy who I have my eldest 2 children with, cheated on me with a good friend of mine, it was an awful time , I walked away with the kids and struggled for a few years getting back on my feet, then I met Mark and have never looked back and couldn't be more happier. I made a comment to my friend that she was welcome to him and that he would cheat on her too. Her reply was, he wont cheat on me hunny, no one would cheat on me I'm perfect. Well she came home last night not feeling well from work to find him in bed with the woman from across the street. I am sitting here with a smile as wide as you could think of and have a lovely warm glowing feeling inside am I bitter or just relishing in the fact Karma has came around
Its not bitter to revel in that comeuppance. i'd bask in it like it was the summer sun "
Doesn't mean it is not bitter. It means you are/would be too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's not really karma, he demonstrated a pattern of behaviour, if he's the type to cheat then its about him not the person he is with.
Your exfriend was being vindictive to say what she said and naive to believe it would be different for her.
It's only natural for you to feel schadenfreude at the turn of events, as she was the source of so much pain to you.
Real karma would of been if she'd of done the dirty on him, because he after all is the one that broke the vows.
Or possibly she wasn't even being vindictive, merely defensive as she always feared the same?
And why direct the bulk of anger at the "other woman", there are only ever two people responsible for the demise of a relationship, the ones in it.
Well that's not 100% correct is it, the other woman knew he was in a relationship it's not really cricket to shag your friends husband is it.
I have no doubt he would have found some one else tho.
That's my point, ultimately the responsibility lies with the person who made the committment. Plenty here who have no problem fucking cheaters on the grounds that it's not their relationship.
But you said it's only the people in the relationships fault.
They certainly have 95% of the blame, but it's like me and snacks.
If I have snacks in the house I'll eat them, then I'll feel bad and be remorseful.
But if I don't have snacks in the house I'm fine, the shops just a little too far away to be worth the effort so I carry on regardless.
Now the same might be true of this chap.
If there is a woman right on his doorstep willing to drop her drawers for him he will probably have a go. If she didn't he might not be bothered with the effort.
Nah, sorry, I believe in adults being responsible for their own actions.
Of course they should be, so if you knowingly have sex with a married man that surely you are 50% responsible for an act of adultery.
You said prior to this that the only people to blame were the people in the actual relationship. That's clearly not the case is it.
You'd only be responsible if you raped or otherwise coerced the cheater.
Saying "No, I'm married" is not exactly difficult.
But usually cheats let out a big speach about how thier partner is terrible and its not thier fault and convince the person they have the affair with that thier relationship is doomed anyway and they're jist stuck for the kids etx
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They do? Damn, I've been missing out by meeting all those married men who told me they were married and then proceeded to tell me nothing whatsoever about their relationship. |
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Same thing happened to the women who was seeing my ex husband befire we parted. She gave him 9 yrs of her life, was desparate to marry him and have kids. He in his true style left her after having an affair for 6 mths. Karma  |
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By *inzi LTV/TS
over a year ago
The Garden of Eden in Beautiful North Wales |
"15 years ago the guy who I have my eldest 2 children with, cheated on me with a good friend of mine, it was an awful time , I walked away with the kids and struggled for a few years getting back on my feet, then I met Mark and have never looked back and couldn't be more happier. I made a comment to my friend that she was welcome to him and that he would cheat on her too. Her reply was, he wont cheat on me hunny, no one would cheat on me I'm perfect. Well she came home last night not feeling well from work to find him in bed with the woman from across the street. I am sitting here with a smile as wide as you could think of and have a lovely warm glowing feeling inside am I bitter or just relishing in the fact Karma has came around "
Don't get bitter hun...
Just get Boddies! |
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"15 years ago the guy who I have my eldest 2 children with, cheated on me with a good friend of mine, it was an awful time , I walked away with the kids and struggled for a few years getting back on my feet, then I met Mark and have never looked back and couldn't be more happier. I made a comment to my friend that she was welcome to him and that he would cheat on her too. Her reply was, he wont cheat on me hunny, no one would cheat on me I'm perfect. Well she came home last night not feeling well from work to find him in bed with the woman from across the street. I am sitting here with a smile as wide as you could think of and have a lovely warm glowing feeling inside am I bitter or just relishing in the fact Karma has came around "
This is what I believe in, eave them to fuck things up far worse than you ever could. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's not really karma, he demonstrated a pattern of behaviour, if he's the type to cheat then its about him not the person he is with.
Your exfriend was being vindictive to say what she said and naive to believe it would be different for her.
It's only natural for you to feel schadenfreude at the turn of events, as she was the source of so much pain to you.
Real karma would of been if she'd of done the dirty on him, because he after all is the one that broke the vows.
Or possibly she wasn't even being vindictive, merely defensive as she always feared the same?
And why direct the bulk of anger at the "other woman", there are only ever two people responsible for the demise of a relationship, the ones in it.
Well that's not 100% correct is it, the other woman knew he was in a relationship it's not really cricket to shag your friends husband is it.
I have no doubt he would have found some one else tho.
That's my point, ultimately the responsibility lies with the person who made the committment. Plenty here who have no problem fucking cheaters on the grounds that it's not their relationship.
But you said it's only the people in the relationships fault.
They certainly have 95% of the blame, but it's like me and snacks.
If I have snacks in the house I'll eat them, then I'll feel bad and be remorseful.
But if I don't have snacks in the house I'm fine, the shops just a little too far away to be worth the effort so I carry on regardless.
Now the same might be true of this chap.
If there is a woman right on his doorstep willing to drop her drawers for him he will probably have a go. If she didn't he might not be bothered with the effort.
Nah, sorry, I believe in adults being responsible for their own actions.
Of course they should be, so if you knowingly have sex with a married man that surely you are 50% responsible for an act of adultery.
You said prior to this that the only people to blame were the people in the actual relationship. That's clearly not the case is it.
You'd only be responsible if you raped or otherwise coerced the cheater.
Saying "No, I'm married" is not exactly difficult.
But usually cheats let out a big speach about how thier partner is terrible and its not thier fault and convince the person they have the affair with that thier relationship is doomed anyway and they're jist stuck for the kids etx
They do? Damn, I've been missing out by meeting all those married men who told me they were married and then proceeded to tell me nothing whatsoever about their relationship. "
Dont need to with you though do they? |
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