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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Do you think oral sex should be mutual? I know some people like giving more then receiving and some like receiving more then giving but if ur partner doesn't like giving should u give as well? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Doesn't have to be mutual. If you like giving it but your partner doesn't, why should it stop you from giving? Sex isn't a 'you do, I do' thing....is it? |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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If the guy is honest and up front about not enjoying giving oral I'll consider meeting, but its unlikely to happen. If he waits until we're naked before manufacturing an excuse about why he can't/won't go down on me (and I've heard them all) then he'll be going unblown and probably unfucked too. |
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I'll often sort Hilary out in the oral department and then go about my day without being reciprocated.
Having said that she does the same so we both like to but as said above once we've finished we don't lay back and say "your turn" |
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"Doesnt have to be mutual.. but more considerate and fair
I'd rathe not get blown that get blown feeling that they did it out of a sense of obligation. "
I think you mis understood.. being fair or considerate does mean to oblige... |
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I think it should be mutual but only if both are really into it and doing it because they genuinely want to pleasure their partner. It shouldn't be withheld just because one person is not receiving. That will only cause resentment and potentially harm your sexual relationship. Better to talk about the reasons behind why they wouldn't want to please you in the first place and work from there. Good luck xx (mrs) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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He would have to be bloody amazing in other departments for me to consider being the only one that gives. Not saying it always has to happen but it has to happen. That's assuming they are a partner.
As for meets. If it is stated prior to meeting then fine, otherwise like someone else mentioned, if they decide to make excuses last minute once naked then they'll go without. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Doesnt have to be mutual.. but more considerate and fair"
Disagree, I certainly wouldn't want someone to be doing it because they felt they 'had to' to balance things up. I'd rather they were mature enough to be able to tell me that it's not their thing. I'd respect them far more for that. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Yes. I don't think sex should be a 'I do this for you, you do it for me'. If one person really enjoys receiving and the other says they enjoy giving just to get a meet, that's crappy.
I'd rather people were upfront with me if there was something they particularly didn't enjoy and we can go from there - I don't think anyone should be pressurised into doing something they don't want to. |
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By *eliWoman
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"Yes. I don't think sex should be a 'I do this for you, you do it for me'. If one person really enjoys receiving and the other says they enjoy giving just to get a meet, that's crappy.
I'd rather people were upfront with me if there was something they particularly didn't enjoy and we can go from there - I don't think anyone should be pressurised into doing something they don't want to."
Oops, should be a no in answer to the OP's question! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Like all sex, you find a way that works for you two
There is nothing worse than being expected to go through with something you don't enjoy, just for the sake of someone else
So, do other stuff, that you both enjoy |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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"If the guy is honest and up front about not enjoying giving oral I'll consider meeting, but its unlikely to happen. If he waits until we're naked before manufacturing an excuse about why he can't/won't go down on me (and I've heard them all) then he'll be going unblown and probably unfucked too."
Agreed on a vice versa basis too! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I just do what I want to do. If someone doesn't want to give me oral sex that wouldn't make me withold a blow job as some sort of tit for tat thing, because I only give them because I want to anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I love to give a bj but have to be honest, yet to find anyone who can make me really enjoy oral. So if they don't go down on me that's fine, but there are plenty of other things that they can do instead!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think it should be mutual but only if both are really into it and doing it because they genuinely want to pleasure their partner. It shouldn't be withheld just because one person is not receiving. That will only cause resentment and potentially harm your sexual relationship. Better to talk about the reasons behind why they wouldn't want to please you in the first place and work from there. Good luck xx (mrs)"
I'm happy however it works out but I'm much more into giving and I would rather the person say they don't like giving. I agree dishonesty about it can ruin things for the future sexual relationship. |
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"Doesnt have to be mutual.. but more considerate and fair
Disagree, I certainly wouldn't want someone to be doing it because they felt they 'had to' to balance things up. I'd rather they were mature enough to be able to tell me that it's not their thing. I'd respect them far more for that."
Being considerate is telling the partner its not their thing. I am not referring to the motions to balance the physical |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I love to give a bj but have to be honest, yet to find anyone who can make me really enjoy oral. So if they don't go down on me that's fine, but there are plenty of other things that they can do instead!! "
It's not just me then lol that's good to know lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you think oral sex should be mutual? I know some people like giving more then receiving and some like receiving more then giving but if ur partner doesn't like giving should u give as well?"
Some will, some may not.
Oral sex is purely for enjoyment so if you don't enjoy an aspect then don't do it .
Simples |
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Personally giving and receiving symultaniously is on the top of my to do list but having said that if I was fortunate enough to be in a situation where the issue arose I'd be happy to if I need to abstain. Hint Hint lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I love to give a bj but have to be honest, yet to find anyone who can make me really enjoy oral. So if they don't go down on me that's fine, but there are plenty of other things that they can do instead!!
It's not just me then lol that's good to know lol"
Not at all!! I'd much rather lots of fantastic finger play!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I guess we are lucky as my wife absolutely loves giving , but isn't so keen on receiving . Since I love receiving and don't especially like giving this works out well for both of us .
There are so many ways to satisfy and to be satisfied , so by experimenting and finding mutually enjoyable aspects sex can be enhanced . This would be difficult if ones attitude was all about expecting one back for every one given ! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I guess we are lucky as my wife absolutely loves giving , but isn't so keen on receiving . Since I love receiving and don't especially like giving this works out well for both of us .
There are so many ways to satisfy and to be satisfied , so by experimenting and finding mutually enjoyable aspects sex can be enhanced . This would be difficult if ones attitude was all about expecting one back for every one given !"
im just curious because I've had chats with people who think it's wrong if it's not giving and receiving but I'm fine with not receiving so thought I might be different lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My wife loves giving and she's bloody good at it too. I go down on her, but not as much as she does on me. She is also a genuine swallower, and feels let down if I don't cum in her mouth. |
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"My wife loves giving and she's bloody good at it too. I go down on her, but not as much as she does on me. She is also a genuine swallower, and feels let down if I don't cum in her mouth."
We/I enjoyed watching good day  
But I do really enjoy giving oral to my partner and she loves it as much as I'd do receiving.win win |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'll often sort Hilary out in the oral department and then go about my day without being reciprocated.
Having said that she does the same so we both like to but as said above once we've finished we don't lay back and say "your turn" "
We are the same randy will often make sure ive scratched my itch and never says its your turn now and i have often done the same for him its good to give selflessly x |
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"I'll often sort Hilary out in the oral department and then go about my day without being reciprocated.
Having said that she does the same so we both like to but as said above once we've finished we don't lay back and say "your turn"
We are the same randy will often make sure ive scratched my itch and never says its your turn now and i have often done the same for him its good to give selflessly x"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think it should be mutual but only if both are really into it and doing it because they genuinely want to pleasure their partner. It shouldn't be withheld just because one person is not receiving. That will only cause resentment and potentially harm your sexual relationship. Better to talk about the reasons behind why they wouldn't want to please you in the first place and work from there. Good luck xx (mrs)"
Absolutely this. I had a mental block about performing oral sex on men for years due to personal reasons, thankfully any man I was involved with at the time was understanding and generous. Now I can do it with men I trust so I can give and take. |
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