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The boy/girl friend experience..

By *yldstyle OP Woman over a year ago

A world of my own

So I've been pretty excited about spending the night away with someone. Not for the sex but for all the closeness of snuggling in the middle of the night, sharing a bath, holding hands and kissing as we walk along the beach. The fact I won't be going to sleep alone for the first time in what seems like forever. Sadly due to circumstances this may no longer happen.

For us I like to think we are more then friends with benefits, however I guess it could be argued differently.

However its made me wonder about other single people on here, is this the sort of stuff you would want to do with someone? The boy/girlfriend experience?

Is it something you kinda hope for with people you meet? For example post sex cuddles and pillow talk?

I know for most couples it might seem like an alien concept as you have each other.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Its one of the reasons i am here, to find a good friend to have these sort of experiences with again.

I do miss the closeness, the trust and the fun of being together with some one. But at the moment i am not ready for vanilla dating, too much hassle for little reward most of the time.

Any ladies out there interested...lol.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have enjoyed the more intimate moments of a meet after sex where you just cuddle and stroke and kiss and don't just get dressed and leave sometimes these things are under rated but it is nice so enjoy it op

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By *inglehotchickWoman over a year ago

blackpool

Being single I miss all that kind of stuff yes but I'm not sure I want it from someone off here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I get exactly what you mean. This is why I want to have someone for more than a hook up in my life. That sort of thing happens when you have that connection and level of relaxed.

Unfortunately haven't had that for a while.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So I've been pretty excited about spending the night away with someone. Not for the sex but for all the closeness of snuggling in the middle of the night, sharing a bath, holding hands and kissing as we walk along the beach. The fact I won't be going to sleep alone for the first time in what seems like forever. Sadly due to circumstances this may no longer happen.

For us I like to think we are more then friends with benefits, however I guess it could be argued differently.

However its made me wonder about other single people on here, is this the sort of stuff you would want to do with someone? The boy/girlfriend experience?

Is it something you kinda hope for with people you meet? For example post sex cuddles and pillow talk?

I know for most couples it might seem like an alien concept as you have each other.

"
No I think you are on the wrong site personally and are vulnerable on here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For us I like to think we are more then friends with benefits, however I guess it could be argued differently.

However its made me wonder about other single people on here, is this the sort of stuff you would want to do with someone? The boy/girlfriend experience?

Is it something you kinda hope for with people you meet? For example post sex cuddles and pillow talk?

I know for most couples it might seem like an alien concept as you have each other.

It's something I enjoy when I meet. Prefer the cuddling and kissing after sex and the closeness. Adds to the experience for me. Not for everyone of course. Each to their own

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For us I like to think we are more then friends with benefits, however I guess it could be argued differently.

However its made me wonder about other single people on here, is this the sort of stuff you would want to do with someone? The boy/girlfriend experience?

Is it something you kinda hope for with people you meet? For example post sex cuddles and pillow talk. "

It's something I would hope for...personally....intimacy isn't just about sex...

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By *D835Man over a year ago

London

For us I like to think we are more then friends with benefits, however I guess it could be argued differently.

However its made me wonder about other single people on here, is this the sort of stuff you would want to do with someone? The boy/girlfriend experience?

Is it something you kinda hope for with people you meet? For example post sex cuddles and pillow talk?

I know for most couples it might seem like an alien concept as you have each other.

It's something I enjoy when I meet. Prefer the cuddling and kissing after sex and the closeness. Adds to the experience for me. Not for everyone of course. Each to their own

This

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By *uteLittleGeekWoman over a year ago

Somewhere

I don't really know what cuddles feel

Like anymore . I have been single 6 years and not dated .

For me would be new experience . I like snuggles a lot but to be with someone in the same bed all night long would maybe freak me out .

Would be nice but it's not a lot of those who are willing to take time and get to know someone .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wouldn't use this site to look for that, but yes I love it and miss it and I'd be happy if ever I did get it from a meet here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For us I like to think we are more then friends with benefits, however I guess it could be argued differently.

However its made me wonder about other single people on here, is this the sort of stuff you would want to do with someone? The boy/girlfriend experience?

Is it something you kinda hope for with people you meet? For example post sex cuddles and pillow talk?

I know for most couples it might seem like an alien concept as you have each other.

No I think you are on the wrong site personally and are vulnerable on here. "

Are you only here for fuck and go sex?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Although I don't particularly want hand holding, walks on the beach etc, with some men I get that. Not the beach, as yet, but walking through London and he held my hand; drinking and eating together; spending the night having sex, cuddling and talking. It's not a committed relationship, just two people making the most of their time together.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For us I like to think we are more then friends with benefits, however I guess it could be argued differently.

However its made me wonder about other single people on here, is this the sort of stuff you would want to do with someone? The boy/girlfriend experience?

Is it something you kinda hope for with people you meet? For example post sex cuddles and pillow talk?

I know for most couples it might seem like an alien concept as you have each other.

No I think you are on the wrong site personally and are vulnerable on here.

Are you only here for fuck and go sex? "
Not necessarily just fuck and go, just NSA and that is not what the op is describing to me. It kind of just reinforces my theory that a lot of genuine single ladies (not married already) are here are looking for relationships.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've met a lot of men who like to spend time chatting and cuddling in bed. Without it it's just a cold fuck, and I'm not here for that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am part of a couple but it certainly isn't alien to me.

I remember all those years ago when I was still young I used to love it when I had a one night stand and got all those things you mentioned.

In fact that's how we got together it was after our third time hooking up.

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By *ust PeachyWoman over a year ago

Prestonish

The best meets I've had on fab have provided the ultimate boyfriend/girlfriend experience!

To me that means all the good bits - conversation, giggles, intimacy, mind-blowing sex, closeness etc etc that you get from a 'perfect' relationship - but none of the bullshit that ACTUALLY happens in most relationships!

The fact that I enjoy this idealised version (anyone can be interesting/attractive for one day and night!) doesn't mean I'm ready for a 24/7 'warts and all' relationship!

I think Iworkout explained it well in another thread - on a great meet you get all the best bits but none of the flaws!

Essentially I think that's what many singles, myself included, enjoy about 'great' fab meets - and why we might struggle when we come to seek a real relationship!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I do genuinely miss the closeness of a loving relationship. Waking up next to someone you care for and their face being the first thing you see is the best feeling

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By *s_macWoman over a year ago

Traffic land

"The best meets I've had on fab have provided the ultimate boyfriend/girlfriend experience!

The fact that I enjoy this idealised version (anyone can be interesting/attractive for one day and night!) doesn't mean I'm ready for a 24/7 'warts and all' relationship!

I think Iworkout explained it well in another thread - on a great meet you get all the best bits but none of the flaws!

Essentially I think that's what many singles, myself included, enjoy about 'great' fab meets - and why we might struggle when we come to seek a real relationship! "

I've been thinking about how to respond to this and you've more or less summed it up.

I guess I want the good bits of the company and intimacy, with non of the complications that being in a relationship can bring.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Its one of the reasons i am here, to find a good friend to have these sort of experiences with again.

I do miss the closeness, the trust and the fun of being together with some one. But at the moment i am not ready for vanilla dating, too much hassle for little reward most of the time.

Any ladies out there interested...lol.

I know how you feel mate as I'm pretty much in the same boat

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For us I like to think we are more then friends with benefits, however I guess it could be argued differently.

However its made me wonder about other single people on here, is this the sort of stuff you would want to do with someone? The boy/girlfriend experience?

Is it something you kinda hope for with people you meet? For example post sex cuddles and pillow talk?

I know for most couples it might seem like an alien concept as you have each other.

No I think you are on the wrong site personally and are vulnerable on here.

Are you only here for fuck and go sex? Not necessarily just fuck and go, just NSA and that is not what the op is describing to me. It kind of just reinforces my theory that a lot of genuine single ladies (not married already) are here are looking for relationships. "

I think it's because you see that kind of intimacy as a threat to your singleton life. Scared that it might get serious.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ive never had it and always said i wouldnt want it.

Ive been warming to the idea lately. Ive never been spooned and ive never held hands. Im not likely to have much luck on here though and dont tend to in the vanilla world either. So either way im fucked haha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ive never had it and always said i wouldnt want it.

Don't be so down on yourself I'm sure someone will happily do that with you x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For us I like to think we are more then friends with benefits, however I guess it could be argued differently.

However its made me wonder about other single people on here, is this the sort of stuff you would want to do with someone? The boy/girlfriend experience?

Is it something you kinda hope for with people you meet? For example post sex cuddles and pillow talk?

I know for most couples it might seem like an alien concept as you have each other.

No I think you are on the wrong site personally and are vulnerable on here.

I think it's because you see that kind of intimacy as a threat to your singleton life. Scared that it might get serious. "
No it's because I would want to play with other women being as it's NSA and this would generally hurt the woman who seeks what the op wants. Men will do all that and still go off and fuck other women but women like the op get attached it is a scientific thing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Used to meet a couple regularly a couple of years ago and bed hop overnight.

Spend the whole night in seperate beds after our playtime together with each others respective partner and spoon, cuddle, touch and tease.

Everything but full sex really, was a really strange but very relaxing experience everytime we did it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would be horrified if any of my meets wanted cuddles and pillow talk afterwards.. I'm not even like that with my fella. I'm not a cuddly person at all. That being said I prefer to have a good conversation and a laugh before hand.. but after we're done fucking you can either stay and have a coffee or you can get dressed and fuck off!

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By *acavityMan over a year ago

Redditch

Fun, not fuck-and-go.

I enjoy the social chat before, and if we can cuddle afterwards, (or between??) that's good.

Never had an overnight meet, but wouldn't be against it.

Like the idea of going away for a weekend with someone, for sex and sightseeing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For us I like to think we are more then friends with benefits, however I guess it could be argued differently.

However its made me wonder about other single people on here, is this the sort of stuff you would want to do with someone? The boy/girlfriend experience?

Is it something you kinda hope for with people you meet? For example post sex cuddles and pillow talk?

I know for most couples it might seem like an alien concept as you have each other.

No I think you are on the wrong site personally and are vulnerable on here.

I think it's because you see that kind of intimacy as a threat to your singleton life. Scared that it might get serious. No it's because I would want to play with other women being as it's NSA and this would generally hurt the woman who seeks what the op wants. Men will do all that and still go off and fuck other women but women like the op get attached it is a scientific thing. "

It doesn't hurt me, or some other women I know who do it.

You're mistaking intimacy with love, I think. I can be very intimate and close with a man, all night; leave in the morning and not expect an engagement ring.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For us I like to think we are more then friends with benefits, however I guess it could be argued differently.

However its made me wonder about other single people on here, is this the sort of stuff you would want to do with someone? The boy/girlfriend experience?

Is it something you kinda hope for with people you meet? For example post sex cuddles and pillow talk?

I know for most couples it might seem like an alien concept as you have each other.

No I think you are on the wrong site personally and are vulnerable on here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For us I like to think we are more then friends with benefits, however I guess it could be argued differently.

However its made me wonder about other single people on here, is this the sort of stuff you would want to do with someone? The boy/girlfriend experience?

Is it something you kinda hope for with people you meet? For example post sex cuddles and pillow talk?

I know for most couples it might seem like an alien concept as you have each other.

No I think you are on the wrong site personally and are vulnerable on here.

It doesn't hurt me, or some other women I know who do it.

You're mistaking intimacy with love, I think. I can be very intimate and close with a man, all night; leave in the morning and not expect an engagement ring. "
I never said all women just most, like I'm guessing the op would.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It just sounds so manufactured

I'd want and want it all to come naturally

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It is called the gfe for short and no I dont want a gf, as I am happy being single, but as a one off yes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No to holding hands or romantic walks along the beach. But I do like post sex cuddles and talking, and I like flirting in bars or restaurants first, things that some people would consider too date-like or girlfriend-like.

There are very few people I'm comfortable spending the whole night with though, for me letting someone see my face without makeup is more intimate than just about any physical act.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Being single I miss all that kind of stuff yes but I'm not sure I want it from someone off here"

Saying that though there has been a rare occasion or two where it has happened

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By *yldstyle OP Woman over a year ago

A world of my own

Just to clarify I'm not seeking these experiences here. However I find the concept of fuck and go cold.

If I meet which is rare, I like to not just be an object.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For us I like to think we are more then friends with benefits, however I guess it could be argued differently.

However its made me wonder about other single people on here, is this the sort of stuff you would want to do with someone? The boy/girlfriend experience?

Is it something you kinda hope for with people you meet? For example post sex cuddles and pillow talk?

I know for most couples it might seem like an alien concept as you have each other.

No I think you are on the wrong site personally and are vulnerable on here.

It doesn't hurt me, or some other women I know who do it.

You're mistaking intimacy with love, I think. I can be very intimate and close with a man, all night; leave in the morning and not expect an engagement ring. I never said all women just most, like I'm guessing the op would."

Some may, yes, but how do you know who will and why do you think the OP would?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Being intimate isn't the same as being in love give your head a bang

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For us I like to think we are more then friends with benefits, however I guess it could be argued differently.

However its made me wonder about other single people on here, is this the sort of stuff you would want to do with someone? The boy/girlfriend experience?

Is it something you kinda hope for with people you meet? For example post sex cuddles and pillow talk?

I know for most couples it might seem like an alien concept as you have each other.

No I think you are on the wrong site personally and are vulnerable on here.

It doesn't hurt me, or some other women I know who do it.

Some may, yes, but how do you know who will and why do you think the OP would?

"
Well the op has just clarified she doesn't seek that on here. I know from science and experience.

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By *irtyGirlWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

For us I like to think we are more then friends with benefits, however I guess it could be argued differently.

However its made me wonder about other single people on here, is this the sort of stuff you would want to do with someone? The boy/girlfriend experience?

Is it something you kinda hope for with people you meet? For example post sex cuddles and pillow talk?

I know for most couples it might seem like an alien concept as you have each other.

No I think you are on the wrong site personally and are vulnerable on here.

I think it's because you see that kind of intimacy as a threat to your singleton life. Scared that it might get serious.

No it's because I would want to play with other women being as it's NSA and this would generally hurt the woman who seeks what the op wants. Men will do all that and still go off and fuck other women but women like the op get attached it is a scientific thing. "

Apologies for diving in here but that's utter rubbish. I like my blokes to be secure enough in themselves to show a little thought on a meet and to be comfortable enough to hold my hand or have a cuddle without assuming I'm expecting a ring and a proposal.

One of my most favourite meets ever was on one of the camping trips and the bloke I had made plans had with pitched his tent in the sand dunes away from everyone else and had laid a trail of tealights round the outside of the tent. He came and found me and we went back to his, I was trollied by that point and promptly fell asleep on him but it was quite possibly one of the most romantically lovely swinging experiences. I've seen him numerous times over the years. He knows how to play the game and I haven't hesitated to meet him again and vice versa.

It makes me quite sad that people assume intimacy means more than it needs to. For me, there's no such thing as NSA. There are always strings because that's how I choose to play. I want to like the people I fuck. I want to hang out and have dinner. If I want to fuck and go then I'd go to a club. I do not want a boyfriend or a relationship just cause I want a sleepover.

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By *yldstyle OP Woman over a year ago

A world of my own

For us I like to think we are more then friends with benefits, however I guess it could be argued differently.

However its made me wonder about other single people on here, is this the sort of stuff you would want to do with someone? The boy/girlfriend experience?

Is it something you kinda hope for with people you meet? For example post sex cuddles and pillow talk?

I know for most couples it might seem like an alien concept as you have each other.

No I think you are on the wrong site personally and are vulnerable on here.

I think it's because you see that kind of intimacy as a threat to your singleton life. Scared that it might get serious.

Well said that girl!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've met a lot of men who like to spend time chatting and cuddling in bed. Without it it's just a cold fuck, and I'm not here for that. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For us I like to think we are more then friends with benefits, however I guess it could be argued differently.

However its made me wonder about other single people on here, is this the sort of stuff you would want to do with someone? The boy/girlfriend experience?

Is it something you kinda hope for with people you meet? For example post sex cuddles and pillow talk?

I know for most couples it might seem like an alien concept as you have each other.

No I think you are on the wrong site personally and are vulnerable on here.

I think it's because you see that kind of intimacy as a threat to your singleton life. Scared that it might get serious.

Communication is everything. Being honest and open about what you want is absolutely the way forward so that the OP can find the sort of meets she wants and you can find what works for you. To make such a big judgement that someone shouldn't be here or is vulnerable cause she wants a little intimacy is not only uninformed but it's pretty rude too. "
I wasn't trying to offend the op but in fact help, I just know what a lot of men are like. You see it on here all the time men get labelled 'shiny new fuck chasers' etc it is usually because the woman is hurt in my opinion.

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By *yldstyle OP Woman over a year ago

A world of my own

For us I like to think we are more then friends with benefits, however I guess it could be argued differently.

However its made me wonder about other single people on here, is this the sort of stuff you would want to do with someone? The boy/girlfriend experience?

Is it something you kinda hope for with people you meet? For example post sex cuddles and pillow talk?

I know for most couples it might seem like an alien concept as you have each other.

No I think you are on the wrong site personally and are vulnerable on here. "

Did I state I was on fab looking for this?

Did I ask your opinion on my situation or my supposed vulnerability?

No.

You've taken this completely in the wrong direction.

Fact is some of us like the intimacy as much as the sex. That by no means signals exclusivity or that we will fall in love. In fact from my own experiences in the past its made me even more guarded.

My question really was more to do with is sex on its own satisfying enough?

For me its not. I need a bit more. A good laugh, flirting and yes some spooning! From reading the comments I'm not the only one.

Without those aspects sex would be mechanical and I'd be as well just to get my toys out!

As I also mentioned my situation with this person isn't NSA.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For us I like to think we are more then friends with benefits, however I guess it could be argued differently.

However its made me wonder about other single people on here, is this the sort of stuff you would want to do with someone? The boy/girlfriend experience?

Is it something you kinda hope for with people you meet? For example post sex cuddles and pillow talk?

I know for most couples it might seem like an alien concept as you have each other.

No I think you are on the wrong site personally and are vulnerable on here.

Did I state I was on fab looking for this?

Did I ask your opinion on my situation or my supposed vulnerability?

No.

You've taken this completely in the wrong direction.

Fact is some of us like the intimacy as much as the sex. That by no means signals exclusivity or that we will fall in love. In fact from my own experiences in the past its made me even more guarded.

My question really was more to do with is sex on its own satisfying enough?

For me its not. I need a bit more. A good laugh, flirting and yes some spooning! From reading the comments I'm not the only one.

Without those aspects sex would be mechanical and I'd be as well just to get my toys out!

As I also mentioned my situation with this person isn't NSA.

you go girl x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For us I like to think we are more then friends with benefits, however I guess it could be argued differently.

However its made me wonder about other single people on here, is this the sort of stuff you would want to do with someone? The boy/girlfriend experience?

Is it something you kinda hope for with people you meet? For example post sex cuddles and pillow talk?

I know for most couples it might seem like an alien concept as you have each other.

No I think you are on the wrong site personally and are vulnerable on here.

Did I state I was on fab looking for this?

Did I ask your opinion on my situation or my supposed vulnerability?

No.

You've taken this completely in the wrong direction.

Fact is some of us like the intimacy as much as the sex. That by no means signals exclusivity or that we will fall in love. In fact from my own experiences in the past its made me even more guarded.

My question really was more to do with is sex on its own satisfying enough?

For me its not. I need a bit more. A good laugh, flirting and yes some spooning! From reading the comments I'm not the only one.

Without those aspects sex would be mechanical and I'd be as well just to get my toys out!

As I also mentioned my situation with this person isn't NSA.

"
You posted on an open forum and you should of been more specific then.

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By *yldstyle OP Woman over a year ago

A world of my own

For us I like to think we are more then friends with benefits, however I guess it could be argued differently.

However its made me wonder about other single people on here, is this the sort of stuff you would want to do with someone? The boy/girlfriend experience?

Is it something you kinda hope for with people you meet? For example post sex cuddles and pillow talk?

I know for most couples it might seem like an alien concept as you have each other.

No I think you are on the wrong site personally and are vulnerable on here.

Did I state I was on fab looking for this?

Did I ask your opinion on my situation or my supposed vulnerability?

No.

You've taken this completely in the wrong direction.

Fact is some of us like the intimacy as much as the sex. That by no means signals exclusivity or that we will fall in love. In fact from my own experiences in the past its made me even more guarded.

My question really was more to do with is sex on its own satisfying enough?

For me its not. I need a bit more. A good laugh, flirting and yes some spooning! From reading the comments I'm not the only one.

Without those aspects sex would be mechanical and I'd be as well just to get my toys out!

As I also mentioned my situation with this person isn't NSA.

You posted on an open forum and you should of been more specific then."

I think I was pretty clear in what I was asking.. certainly everyone else seemed to get it!

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By *irtyGirlWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

"I wasn't trying to offend the op but in fact help, I just know what a lot of men are like. You see it on here all the time men get labelled 'shiny new fuck chasers' etc it is usually because the woman is hurt in my opinion."

I'm not saying that there aren't vulnerable people here or indeed men who are utter wankers but I don't think the OP is in either category.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For us I like to think we are more then friends with benefits, however I guess it could be argued differently.

However its made me wonder about other single people on here, is this the sort of stuff you would want to do with someone? The boy/girlfriend experience?

Is it something you kinda hope for with people you meet? For example post sex cuddles and pillow talk?

I know for most couples it might seem like an alien concept as you have each other.

This intimacy before, during and after sex is something I very much look for. It doesn't happen with everyone, but I try and narrow down my meets to ladies I feel I've connected with in this way. Basically, for the time that we're together, I want us both to feel like we are the centre of each others' universe. I want her to feel like at that moment she is the only person I want to be with. And if she makes me believe that about her too, then it's an amazing experience...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For us I like to think we are more then friends with benefits, however I guess it could be argued differently.

However its made me wonder about other single people on here, is this the sort of stuff you would want to do with someone? The boy/girlfriend experience?

Is it something you kinda hope for with people you meet? For example post sex cuddles and pillow talk?

I know for most couples it might seem like an alien concept as you have each other.

No I think you are on the wrong site personally and are vulnerable on here.

Did I state I was on fab looking for this?

Did I ask your opinion on my situation or my supposed vulnerability?

No.

You've taken this completely in the wrong direction.

Fact is some of us like the intimacy as much as the sex. That by no means signals exclusivity or that we will fall in love. In fact from my own experiences in the past its made me even more guarded.

My question really was more to do with is sex on its own satisfying enough?

For me its not. I need a bit more. A good laugh, flirting and yes some spooning! From reading the comments I'm not the only one.

Without those aspects sex would be mechanical and I'd be as well just to get my toys out!

As I also mentioned my situation with this person isn't NSA.

You posted on an open forum and you should of been more specific then.

I think I was pretty clear in what I was asking.. certainly everyone else seemed to get it! "
Well mentioning you weren't looking for it on here would have helped to start with not till half way down the post

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By *yldstyle OP Woman over a year ago

A world of my own

For us I like to think we are more then friends with benefits, however I guess it could be argued differently.

However its made me wonder about other single people on here, is this the sort of stuff you would want to do with someone? The boy/girlfriend experience?

Is it something you kinda hope for with people you meet? For example post sex cuddles and pillow talk?

I know for most couples it might seem like an alien concept as you have each other.

No I think you are on the wrong site personally and are vulnerable on here.

Did I state I was on fab looking for this?

Did I ask your opinion on my situation or my supposed vulnerability?

No.

You've taken this completely in the wrong direction.

Fact is some of us like the intimacy as much as the sex. That by no means signals exclusivity or that we will fall in love. In fact from my own experiences in the past its made me even more guarded.

My question really was more to do with is sex on its own satisfying enough?

For me its not. I need a bit more. A good laugh, flirting and yes some spooning! From reading the comments I'm not the only one.

Without those aspects sex would be mechanical and I'd be as well just to get my toys out!

As I also mentioned my situation with this person isn't NSA.

You posted on an open forum and you should of been more specific then.

I think I was pretty clear in what I was asking.. certainly everyone else seemed to get it! Well mentioning you weren't looking for it on here would have helped to start with not till half way down the post

The part where your comments started to make you look like a bit of a fuckwit

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm not saying that there aren't vulnerable people here or indeed men who are utter wankers but I don't think the OP is in either category.

There's nothing wrong with wanting strings or a cuddle etc. and I'd much rather people were transparent about what they're looking for than say one thing and mean another. I like spades that are spades. "
Yeah I agree, but men will do things they wouldn't do and promise the world at times for sex etc I think most women know this already though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For us I like to think we are more then friends with benefits, however I guess it could be argued differently.

However its made me wonder about other single people on here, is this the sort of stuff you would want to do with someone? The boy/girlfriend experience?

Is it something you kinda hope for with people you meet? For example post sex cuddles and pillow talk?

I know for most couples it might seem like an alien concept as you have each other.

No I think you are on the wrong site personally and are vulnerable on here.

Did I state I was on fab looking for this?

Did I ask your opinion on my situation or my supposed vulnerability?

No.

You've taken this completely in the wrong direction.

Fact is some of us like the intimacy as much as the sex. That by no means signals exclusivity or that we will fall in love. In fact from my own experiences in the past its made me even more guarded.

My question really was more to do with is sex on its own satisfying enough?

For me its not. I need a bit more. A good laugh, flirting and yes some spooning! From reading the comments I'm not the only one.

Without those aspects sex would be mechanical and I'd be as well just to get my toys out!

As I also mentioned my situation with this person isn't NSA.

You posted on an open forum and you should of been more specific then.

The part where your comments started to make you look like a bit of a fuckwit

touch a nerve did I.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For us I like to think we are more then friends with benefits, however I guess it could be argued differently.

However its made me wonder about other single people on here, is this the sort of stuff you would want to do with someone? The boy/girlfriend experience?

Is it something you kinda hope for with people you meet? For example post sex cuddles and pillow talk?

I know for most couples it might seem like an alien concept as you have each other.

No I think you are on the wrong site personally and are vulnerable on here.

I think it's because you see that kind of intimacy as a threat to your singleton life. Scared that it might get serious.

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By *irtyGirlWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

For us I like to think we are more then friends with benefits, however I guess it could be argued differently.

However its made me wonder about other single people on here, is this the sort of stuff you would want to do with someone? The boy/girlfriend experience?

Is it something you kinda hope for with people you meet? For example post sex cuddles and pillow talk?

I know for most couples it might seem like an alien concept as you have each other.

No I think you are on the wrong site personally and are vulnerable on here.

Did I state I was on fab looking for this?

Did I ask your opinion on my situation or my supposed vulnerability?

No.

You've taken this completely in the wrong direction.

Fact is some of us like the intimacy as much as the sex. That by no means signals exclusivity or that we will fall in love. In fact from my own experiences in the past its made me even more guarded.

My question really was more to do with is sex on its own satisfying enough?

For me its not. I need a bit more. A good laugh, flirting and yes some spooning! From reading the comments I'm not the only one.

Without those aspects sex would be mechanical and I'd be as well just to get my toys out!

As I also mentioned my situation with this person isn't NSA.

You posted on an open forum and you should of been more specific then.

The part where your comments started to make you look like a bit of a fuckwit

touch a nerve did I."

Quit while you're ahead

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't tend to sleepover with people I meet on here, it's not something I'm entirely comfortable with doing for mixed reasons.

However, I don't enjoy a fuck & go. I like to chat / laugh over a flirty drink pre sex and then to laugh / chat / eat snacks after sex

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Quit while you're ahead.

Noooo, i love people digging deeper and deeper holes.....lol.

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By *irtyGirlWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

"I don't tend to sleepover with people I meet on here, it's not something I'm entirely comfortable with doing for mixed reasons.

However, I don't enjoy a fuck & go. I like to chat / laugh over a flirty drink pre sex and then to laugh / chat / eat snacks after sex

Fancy a shag?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm not single, and if I were it would probably be different. But as a married woman I have had a number of lovers, in which the relationships are primarily sexually and most certainly NSA, but holding hands and cuddling is very much included. The situation is kept under control because I am happily married. It's also kept under control because there will usually be a couple of months in between meets. My main lover of 2 years who I've met alone and for threesome fun, I would say I am very fond of. But I admit I probably couldn't do this if I were single.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm here for sex, not hand holding walks and pillow chats.

But I'll only meet women who I like, who I can talk to and have a drink with.

But it should be a drink while trying to hide the bag full of fuck toys

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Quit while you're ahead

I don't think he's ahead...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Think someone is reading way too much into this. In turn becoming an arse about it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't tend to sleepover with people I meet on here, it's not something I'm entirely comfortable with doing for mixed reasons.

However, I don't enjoy a fuck & go. I like to chat / laugh over a flirty drink pre sex and then to laugh / chat / eat snacks after sex

Fancy a shag?

what's your go-to snack?

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By *ehind blue eyes38Man over a year ago

Hunstanton

For us I like to think we are more then friends with benefits, however I guess it could be argued differently.

However its made me wonder about other single people on here, is this the sort of stuff you would want to do with someone? The boy/girlfriend experience?

Is it something you kinda hope for with people you meet? For example post sex cuddles and pillow talk?

I know for most couples it might seem like an alien concept as you have each other.

No I think you are on the wrong site personally and are vulnerable on here.

Did I state I was on fab looking for this?

Did I ask your opinion on my situation or my supposed vulnerability?

No.

You've taken this completely in the wrong direction.

Fact is some of us like the intimacy as much as the sex. That by no means signals exclusivity or that we will fall in love. In fact from my own experiences in the past its made me even more guarded.

My question really was more to do with is sex on its own satisfying enough?

For me its not. I need a bit more. A good laugh, flirting and yes some spooning! From reading the comments I'm not the only one.

Without those aspects sex would be mechanical and I'd be as well just to get my toys out!

As I also mentioned my situation with this person isn't NSA.

You posted on an open forum and you should of been more specific then.

The part where your comments started to make you look like a bit of a fuckwit

This

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For us I like to think we are more then friends with benefits, however I guess it could be argued differently.

However its made me wonder about other single people on here, is this the sort of stuff you would want to do with someone? The boy/girlfriend experience?

Is it something you kinda hope for with people you meet? For example post sex cuddles and pillow talk?

I know for most couples it might seem like an alien concept as you have each other.

No I think you are on the wrong site personally and are vulnerable on here.

Did I state I was on fab looking for this?

Did I ask your opinion on my situation or my supposed vulnerability?

No.

You've taken this completely in the wrong direction.

Fact is some of us like the intimacy as much as the sex. That by no means signals exclusivity or that we will fall in love. In fact from my own experiences in the past its made me even more guarded.

My question really was more to do with is sex on its own satisfying enough?

For me its not. I need a bit more. A good laugh, flirting and yes some spooning! From reading the comments I'm not the only one.

Without those aspects sex would be mechanical and I'd be as well just to get my toys out!

As I also mentioned my situation with this person isn't NSA.

You posted on an open forum and you should of been more specific then."

It is clear what the op meant and as a couple from a meet we like all the kissing flirting and lying there after having a chat laugh and body contact with the people we've had fun with. We don't stay over but a bit of intimacy to a meet makes it more fun and human like. To judge and tell someone this site is not for them is wrong. It would be like you being told maybe something like adult work would be more suited for you than fab.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've only had a couple of overnight meets from here, and I tend to chat to people for at least a month before we meet.

Did I hold hands, cuddle, kiss in public, eat out with them? Of course.

Did we enjoy our time together without expecting more, where feelings are concerned? Yep.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If a bloke wants to just do the deed and bugger off then there are other options open to him!!

I like flirting, teasing, laughter, hot sex, maybe more hot sex, a post shag cuddle for at least 3 minutes and some conversation.

If a man is not happy with that then he's not what I'm after and can go elsewhere.

Sex should be fun and sexy. Getting up and just sodding off (unless a pre-arranged super quickie!) is just a one way ticket to making me feel like shit.

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By *yldstyle OP Woman over a year ago

A world of my own

"If a bloke wants to just do the deed and bugger off then there are other options open to him!!

I like flirting, teasing, laughter, hot sex, maybe more hot sex, a post shag cuddle for at least 3 minutes and some conversation.

If a man is not happy with that then he's not what I'm after and can go elsewhere.

Sex should be fun and sexy. Getting up and just sodding off (unless a pre-arranged super quickie!) is just a one way ticket to making me feel like shit."

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By *irtyGirlWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

"I don't tend to sleepover with people I meet on here, it's not something I'm entirely comfortable with doing for mixed reasons.

However, I don't enjoy a fuck & go. I like to chat / laugh over a flirty drink pre sex and then to laugh / chat / eat snacks after sex

Fancy a shag?

what's your go-to snack?"

Probably crisps or pizza.

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By *oward1978Man over a year ago

Rotherham

This isn't something I'd necessarily go looking for from someone on here but I certainly wouldn't say no to it and to be truthful, it is ultimately what I crave more than anything.

Everything the OP describes sounds wonderful to me. It sounds ridiculous but I've never held hands with someone. In fact I've not done a lot of those little things that couples often take for granted. I'd happily incorporate some of that into a meet.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have a few people i do that with already.

Tbh I'd only really look for another fwb if they where local to my as mine all live far away (manchester, london, Cardiff).

Other than that now i just look for nsa/fuck and go really

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By *ancs MinxWoman over a year ago

Burnley

For us I like to think we are more then friends with benefits, however I guess it could be argued differently.

However its made me wonder about other single people on here, is this the sort of stuff you would want to do with someone? The boy/girlfriend experience?

Is it something you kinda hope for with people you meet? For example post sex cuddles and pillow talk?

I know for most couples it might seem like an alien concept as you have each other.

I totally agree and happy to say that I have this with one man I met on here and been happy doing this for about a year now....and both not expecting anythong more than great times when we are together and yes we do meet other people!

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

For us I like to think we are more then friends with benefits, however I guess it could be argued differently.

However its made me wonder about other single people on here, is this the sort of stuff you would want to do with someone? The boy/girlfriend experience?

Is it something you kinda hope for with people you meet? For example post sex cuddles and pillow talk?

Of course yes, I came here simply looking for good sex but I have found a LOT of the gf/bf, fwb experiences too. Even a simple fb on here is often someone I end up going out to gigs with or spending the night cuddlng up with or talking for hours on the phone, and I love long walks and lazy pub visits!

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By *eavenscentitCouple over a year ago

barnstaple

I have two regular meets, who I cuddle and chat to after sex. We know all about eacth others lives. Its kinda nice.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes I love the talking, cuddling and kissing (even hand holding). Sometimes it just feels right to hold their hand or give them a cwtch or a kiss. The people I meet tend to be people that I've built a bit of a friendship up with beforehand, so I guess its a little more acceptable but I wouldnt do that with someone I've barely spoken to.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes I love the talking, cuddling and kissing (even hand holding). Sometimes it just feels right to hold their hand or give them a cwtch or a kiss. The people I meet tend to be people that I've built a bit of a friendship up with beforehand, so I guess its a little more acceptable but I wouldnt do that with someone I've barely spoken to. "

This

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan over a year ago

Coventry

What you describe is generally how I like things with singles (obviously different rules apply in different scenarios and with different types of meet). Intimacy is a big part of it for me. I love the chating, chilling and cuddling part as well as the intense hot parts. Nothing nicer than the feeling of naked skin on skin in an embrace. And I do like to share a nice bath (any suggestions for hotels with large/spa baths welcome). I always spend the night and enjoy the morning thing too (unless not practical). If fact it has been known for me to turn up on a friday and not leave the bedroom till the Sunday morning, I have been kidnapped for the weekend a couple of times (thank goodness for a pack of bacon and dominos pizza delivery). I think the intimacy and chatting part helps breakdown barriers and inhibitions, leading to hotter sex. You can really be free when you feel completely comfortable around someone. Its exciting to share someone mind as well as their body. I don't see why we can't be totally intimate with someone without any commitment? It just feels nice, nurturing and natural to me. But I suppose it depends on mind set?

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By *orum TrollWoman over a year ago

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I'll go one step further and say i do love some people i meet. And, that you can love people without wanting a relationship with them.

I do offer the GFE and dating on my page also.

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I love the boyfriend experience, even if it's just for the few hours that I'm with someone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For us I like to think we are more then friends with benefits, however I guess it could be argued differently.

However its made me wonder about other single people on here, is this the sort of stuff you would want to do with someone? The boy/girlfriend experience?

Is it something you kinda hope for with people you meet? For example post sex cuddles and pillow talk?

I know for most couples it might seem like an alien concept as you have each other.

Most definitely not!

I get cuddles and pillow talk from my men. They don't stay overnight, the longest was 6 hours

I love being single, living alone and more or less having sex on tap

Perfect

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm not saying that there aren't vulnerable people here or indeed men who are utter wankers but I don't think the OP is in either category.

There's nothing wrong with wanting strings or a cuddle etc. and I'd much rather people were transparent about what they're looking for than say one thing and mean another. I like spades that are spades. Yeah I agree, but men will do things they wouldn't do and promise the world at times for sex etc I think most women know this already though."

Are you talking about all men or just from a personal point of view.

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By *D835Man over a year ago

London

For us I like to think we are more then friends with benefits, however I guess it could be argued differently.

However its made me wonder about other single people on here, is this the sort of stuff you would want to do with someone? The boy/girlfriend experience?

Is it something you kinda hope for with people you meet? For example post sex cuddles and pillow talk?

I know for most couples it might seem like an alien concept as you have each other.

No I think you are on the wrong site personally and are vulnerable on here.

I think it's because you see that kind of intimacy as a threat to your singleton life. Scared that it might get serious.

Nice response

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm single and completely with you OP and a few others. I clearly state on my profile I need a connection for it to be fulfilling for me, but that is very different to wanting a BF. What I'm looking for may not be for everyone, so they can click on by. And I don't see why anyone would belittle wanting some warmth in a meet, or I may as well revert back to my inanimate toys

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Being single I miss all that kind of stuff yes but I'm not sure I want it from someone off here"

That's interesting. People off here like you and me are people too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For us I like to think we are more then friends with benefits, however I guess it could be argued differently.

However its made me wonder about other single people on here, is this the sort of stuff you would want to do with someone? The boy/girlfriend experience?

Is it something you kinda hope for with people you meet? For example post sex cuddles and pillow talk?

I know for most couples it might seem like an alien concept as you have each other.

No I think you are on the wrong site personally and are vulnerable on here. "

I definitely disagree with you. This site is for anyone on any level. There are no hard and fast rules for Fabswingers. People are people with emotions. Why live without hope.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Over the years I've done this with a few ladies. One I currently see....but god forbid we would ever call ourselves bf or gf.....

I'm actually going to an engagement party of one such (exish) friend...with a current one....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I wouldn't use this site to look for that, but yes I love it and miss it and I'd be happy if ever I did get it from a meet here."

If ever there was an oxymoron...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For us I like to think we are more then friends with benefits, however I guess it could be argued differently.

However its made me wonder about other single people on here, is this the sort of stuff you would want to do with someone? The boy/girlfriend experience?

Is it something you kinda hope for with people you meet? For example post sex cuddles and pillow talk?

I know for most couples it might seem like an alien concept as you have each other.

No I think you are on the wrong site personally and are vulnerable on here.

It doesn't hurt me, or some other women I know who do it.

You're mistaking intimacy with love, I think. I can be very intimate and close with a man, all night; leave in the morning and not expect an engagement ring. "

I like how you think. I think that's a way of living in the now and enjoying the experience and not looking ahead. When we think of tomorrow, it's a fantasy, and fantasies can spiral out of control.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman over a year ago

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I'm having a sleepover next weekend.

I'm nervous but excited.

Looking forward to cuddles and chatter with wine.

Sometimes it is just what you need.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I get cuddles and pillow talk from my men. They don't stay overnight, the longest was 6 hours

I love being single, living alone and more or less having sex on tap

Perfect

xx"

This is how it should be. Sex with someone you enjoy being with should involve cuddles and pillow talk, it doesn't have to mean you want to get married and live together! I find it quite easy to have intimate, sensual encounters with someone I click with, and then go back to my normal life afterwards.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm single and completely with you OP and a few others. I clearly state on my profile I need a connection for it to be fulfilling for me, but that is very different to wanting a BF. What I'm looking for may not be for everyone, so they can click on by. And I don't see why anyone would belittle wanting some warmth in a meet, or I may as well revert back to my inanimate toys

Here hear x

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By *iamondjoeMan over a year ago

Glastonbury

Just vom

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By *uteLittleGeekWoman over a year ago

Somewhere

Here hear x"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just vom"

What's "vom" hey?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

I have very intimate and warm connections with some meets and could probably have more if I wanted it. It's not usually sharing quiet moments on a beach or walking but can be.

However I'm also rather fond of a huge empty bed, no one hogging my bathroom and many of the sheer bliss qualities of single life.

I'm single so can mix and match, enjoying the variety

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