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That thing you don't know you do
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So, apparently, I have this tone
I have this tone when I am being direct with someone that can be quite aggressive
I don't know I am doing it - I am the least aggressive person I know. I rarely take the huff and am always open to compromise.
The OH has pulled me about it numerous times and so have a couple of colleagues.
Well today I saw it. I saw my Dad to it to a thoroughly lovely sales assistant and, like me, he had absolutely zero perception that his tone had changed.
So, is there anything that you do that you do subconciously and others have pulled you about ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes.
I have a no nonsense serious face.
But somebody pointed out to me that I look at people in their right eye, when I talk seriously.
I asked what they meant.
And since they pointed it out In now very aware of it. 
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Oh and apparently I have very expressive eyebrows when I am pissed off
One colleague calls them my 'cartoon eyebrows' cos she's convinced that when I'm pissed off they actually hover above my head like they do in cartoons  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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My face is very expressive and I roll my eyes a lot. I didn't realise I was quite so easy to read until a colleague pointed it out after a meeting in which I had 'evidently disagreed' with a couple of the points. I do try and hide it now but occasionally I slip up. |
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At work I always like to make things about myself... i.e group discussion could be talking about rude people and I will say well at least I'm not rude. I'm not selfish nor am I vain which I find very odd about myself  |
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"At work I always like to make things about myself... i.e group discussion could be talking about rude people and I will say well at least I'm not rude. I'm not selfish nor am I vain which I find very odd about myself "
I feel like I do it in order to be accepted as I'm the youngest in the office  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People can get very uncomfortable.
Kind of a cross between not knowing if I'm joking or if they are going to be one of those "statistics " you see on crime watch...... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Considering this is called 'things we don't know what we do'...but we all know we do them.
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Only after it has been pointed out to us ... I think that's the crux
It's like I know I talk bollocks when I feel I am meant to give a meaningful response ... and end up waffling on about all kindsa shit
But I was genuinely unaware of the aggressive 'don't fuck with me' tone that I apparently have when being direct with someone |
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"So, apparently, I have this tone
I have this tone when I am being direct with someone that can be quite aggressive
I don't know I am doing it - I am the least aggressive person I know. I rarely take the huff and am always open to compromise.
The OH has pulled me about it numerous times and so have a couple of colleagues.
Well today I saw it. I saw my Dad to it to a thoroughly lovely sales assistant and, like me, he had absolutely zero perception that his tone had changed.
So, is there anything that you do that you do subconciously and others have pulled you about ? "
Male half here had that problem, trick is a big smile, people even miss insults if you say it as you're smiling at them  |
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"I used to put my right hand into my left bra cup and cup my breast when I was concentrating... until someone pointed out that I was doing it in a meeting.  "
I always put my hand down the back of my leggings |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"I used to put my right hand into my left bra cup and cup my breast when I was concentrating... until someone pointed out that I was doing it in a meeting.
I always put my hand down the back of my leggings "
We must be soothing ourselves in some way.
One of my staff team has started to write my put downs on the white board in the office as they are amusing.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There's no way I snore; I've never heard it
Hmmmmmmmm
Ha! 
Evening 
M x
Buona sera come stai?  x
siamo buoni, grazie, voi?"
eccellente! sto molto bene grazie |
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"I twirl my hair around my finger a lot when I am talking apparently. Xxxx
suzi"
I do that. .. and when I met my hot college buddy for a drink after 30 years I suddenly realised I was fondling the stem of my wine glass like mad!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There's no way I snore; I've never heard it
Hmmmmmmmm
Ha!
Evening
M x
Buona sera come stai? x
siamo buoni, grazie, voi?
eccellente! sto molto bene grazie "
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"My face is very expressive and I roll my eyes a lot. I didn't realise I was quite so easy to read until a colleague pointed it out after a meeting in which I had 'evidently disagreed' with a couple of the points. I do try and hide it now but occasionally I slip up."
This is something I also have a problem with (minus eye rolling) so really need to work on getting myself a poker face |
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"I used to put my right hand into my left bra cup and cup my breast when I was concentrating... until someone pointed out that I was doing it in a meeting.
I always put my hand down the back of my leggings
We must be soothing ourselves in some way.
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That makes sense, though it might just be it's warmer? |
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