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A friend to hang out with

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I wish I had a friend who I can hang out with as its depressing being stuck in the same routine day after day. Ever since I got dumped and lost my best friend, I've been trying so hard to be happy and move on but deep down, I'm not happy. I'm depressed and very very lonely. There have been times where I just want to die but I don't want that. Not now, not ever. What I really want is for this pain to end

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By *ce WingerMan over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I'm so sorry to hear that OP, I think everyone, myself included, has dark days, but if you feel it is getting on top of you too much then maybe you should seek some kind of professional advice.

I wish you all the best xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm so sorry to hear that OP, I think everyone, myself included, has dark days, but if you feel it is getting on top of you too much then maybe you should seek some kind of professional advice.

I wish you all the best xx "

I wish I could find some help but I can't find the time or money. Plus with me having aspergers, it's hard for me to tell someone in person

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By *icketysplitsWoman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I'm so sorry to hear that OP, I think everyone, myself included, has dark days, but if you feel it is getting on top of you too much then maybe you should seek some kind of professional advice.

I wish you all the best xx

I wish I could find some help but I can't find the time or money. Plus with me having aspergers, it's hard for me to tell someone in person "

Have you tried online CBT? The evaluations show it can work just as well, and sometimes better, with some people.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm so sorry to hear that OP, I think everyone, myself included, has dark days, but if you feel it is getting on top of you too much then maybe you should seek some kind of professional advice.

I wish you all the best xx

I wish I could find some help but I can't find the time or money. Plus with me having aspergers, it's hard for me to tell someone in person

Have you tried online CBT? The evaluations show it can work just as well, and sometimes better, with some people.

Tried looking and can't anything for it

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By *icketysplitsWoman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I'm so sorry to hear that OP, I think everyone, myself included, has dark days, but if you feel it is getting on top of you too much then maybe you should seek some kind of professional advice.

I wish you all the best xx

I wish I could find some help but I can't find the time or money. Plus with me having aspergers, it's hard for me to tell someone in person

Have you tried online CBT? The evaluations show it can work just as well, and sometimes better, with some people.

Tried looking and can't anything for it"

Look up MoodGym. It's Australian but has good ratings.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm so sorry to hear that OP, I think everyone, myself included, has dark days, but if you feel it is getting on top of you too much then maybe you should seek some kind of professional advice.

I wish you all the best xx

I wish I could find some help but I can't find the time or money. Plus with me having aspergers, it's hard for me to tell someone in person

Have you tried online CBT? The evaluations show it can work just as well, and sometimes better, with some people.

Tried looking and can't anything for it

Look up MoodGym. It's Australian but has good ratings.

I'll have a look at it during the weekend

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

Two things - the connections with others/friends and secondly your mood. If your mood is so low that it's had you assess suicide, I think you should speak to your doctor. They may have a range of options, including free therapy.

Rebuilding your support from friends, including making new ones, can be tougher with Asperger's and it may help being around others who understand you and how it affects you. If there's a local Support group, finding others who have had similar challenges may help you find some strategies or just others who get you.

Go easy on yourself, taking small steps, with low pressure. If your GP helps take care of your emotional wellbeing, other aspects of life may become easier to manage. Take care and good luck!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Two things - the connections with others/friends and secondly your mood. If your mood is so low that it's had you assess suicide, I think you should speak to your doctor. They may have a range of options, including free therapy.

Go easy on yourself, taking small steps, with low pressure. If your GP helps take care of your emotional wellbeing, other aspects of life may become easier to manage. Take care and good luck!"

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Have you considered volunteering or going out to honny groups?

It's a great way to meet people (passively) and you have that shared interest so conversations tend to be less forced.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Have you considered volunteering or going out to honny groups?

It's a great way to meet people (passively) and you have that shared interest so conversations tend to be less forced. "

What are honny groups?

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By *at1sevCouple over a year ago

Manchester

Do you try to go out and make friends?? Virtual life isn't good as real life.. You need to make a move and go outside...

And if you are suffering with depression go to gp. He might suggest Counseling or medicine if you need them.

Try to take things easy, don't put too much pressure on yourself, try to find a hobby, maybe someone with similar interests. Go to the gym or swimming, exercising helps. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I wish I had a friend who I can hang out with as its depressing being stuck in the same routine day after day. Ever since I got dumped and lost my best friend, I've been trying so hard to be happy and move on but deep down, I'm not happy. I'm depressed and very very lonely. There have been times where I just want to die but I don't want that. Not now, not ever. What I really want is for this pain to end

OP my neice has asbergers and life has been hard for her she's a gorgeous 30yr old girl who has no life because her parents shield her from the world. Let your illness be that and not control your life. Go in the chat rooms. South east great room. Make friends there get the confidence to chat and that will make it easier for you. Dnt be a victim. You are a beautiful person always remember that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What are honny groups? "

Oops! HOBBY groups! Damn sausage fingers!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"What are honny groups?

Oops! HOBBY groups! Damn sausage fingers!

Ah ok. No worries. I'm not sure where I'll find them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What are honny groups?

Oops! HOBBY groups! Damn sausage fingers!

Ah ok. No worries. I'm not sure where I'll find them"

Search on the net. If you recall, we had this almost identical convo before you went UNLOS the last time. If you ever want to break the bonds of your condition, you've got to put the effort in to help yourself. There's only so much advice folk can give. In the end, you're the one who has to make the changes.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Great advice. Nameless people on the internet can only help so much. It's YOU who actually has to step out the front door and reintegrate yourself into society.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Go to see your GP. They have a range of treatments to help.

Find local support groups for people with similar conditions.

Go for walks, get out in the real world as that helps lots.

You have to actually make the effort to alter how you feel, people here can offer advice and support but you also have to make an effort to start the process. Yes that can be difficult, can feel impossible but nothing will change unless you make an effort.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm going off your geek threads here. Try picking up tabletop gaming and get out to a gaming club.

From your posts on here your interests would fit perfectly with the type of people who go there

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What are honny groups?

Oops! HOBBY groups! Damn sausage fingers!

Ah ok. No worries. I'm not sure where I'll find them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Have you tried https://www.bigwhitewall.com? Or just type Big White Wall into Google.

It's an online support network for people suffering from anxiety or depression. My GP told me about it.

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