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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Question for people that need some kind of 'emotional attachment' with people they have sex with. I'm thinking of FWB type scenarios - or when you meet people for sex more than once and become friends.
I'm trying to explain this to a male friend but I think 'emotional attachment' sounds too serious. How would you describe it?
- A connection
' A friendship with sex
- Feelings for the person (but non romantic)
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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First thing going that springs to my mind is 'needy', you say it in your OP.
I need a physical attraction to someone I sleep with but not necessarily an emotional one. I guess that might develop over time for some people but for me it will never be anything more than a friendship  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Friendship is as good a word as any I'd say. Just because you're having sex with them doesn't make it any different in the sense of the word friends. Maybe try 'emotional and physical friends'. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My guess is it is an emotional and physical connection in the form of a friend with benefits is what you are looking for...
Then again that might be bollocks |
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By *ndigo40Woman
over a year ago
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"Question for people that need some kind of 'emotional attachment' with people they have sex with. I'm thinking of FWB type scenarios - or when you meet people for sex more than once and become friends.
I'm trying to explain this to a male friend but I think 'emotional attachment' sounds too serious. How would you describe it?
- A connection
' A friendship with sex
- Feelings for the person (but non romantic)
??"
With me I say a connection |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Connection. If its one sided it may be worth not mentioning it too much in case it pushes him away OP.
Take your time and enjoy the fun you're both having not everything needs labels  xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What started off as an arrangement developed into an arrangement between friends after a few years. Sounds a bit nicer than fwb so an arrangement between friends suits me.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Definitely a sexual attraction/connection, I need to actually like the person and want to enjoy SOME time in their company, but that is me "
This too for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Question for people that need some kind of 'emotional attachment' with people they have sex with. I'm thinking of FWB type scenarios - or when you meet people for sex more than once and become friends.
I'm trying to explain this to a male friend but I think 'emotional attachment' sounds too serious. How would you describe it?
- A connection
' A friendship with sex
- Feelings for the person (but non romantic)
??"
are you struggling with the vocabulary to express what you mean or are you trying to dress it up as something else just to make it more appealing? If its the former then just say it as best you can. If they get what you mean and they want the same thing great. .if the latter then that can only lead to both parties getting hurt because the true intent wasn't laid out at the beginning. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Had the pleasure of meeting people that I can both relax and chill out, chat all night and sexually chemistry. All 3 at the same time as well. I'm blessed with people who have come into my life thanks to this site |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"First thing going that springs to my mind is 'needy', you say it in your OP.
I need a physical attraction to someone I sleep with but not necessarily an emotional one. I guess that might develop over time for some people but for me it will never be anything more than a friendship "
I have an emotional attachment to friends i dont now and never have an intention of sleeping with ... they are not mutually exclusive in my opinion |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I personally dont have anyone I can call a regular fb, we'll call on each other from time to time,maybe attend a party/event, or just us hanging out.
I find it a bit weird people committing to any relationship where they effectively meet on set days,every week(via swinging)..
I also dont bother checking up on who my non-regular meets are meeting up with, something I have noticed of many people in FB/FWB scenarios mostly cannot handle.
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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago
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"I personally dont have anyone I can call a regular fb, we'll call on each other from time to time,maybe attend a party/event, or just us hanging out.
I find it a bit weird people committing to any relationship where they effectively meet on set days,every week(via swinging)..
I also dont bother checking up on who my non-regular meets are meeting up with, something I have noticed of many people in FB/FWB scenarios mostly cannot handle.
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You have me hunni  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Question for people that need some kind of 'emotional attachment' with people they have sex with. I'm thinking of FWB type scenarios - or when you meet people for sex more than once and become friends.
I'm trying to explain this to a male friend but I think 'emotional attachment' sounds too serious. How would you describe it?
- A connection
' A friendship with sex
- Feelings for the person (but non romantic)
??
are you struggling with the vocabulary to express what you mean or are you trying to dress it up as something else just to make it more appealing? If its the former then just say it as best you can. If they get what you mean and they want the same thing great. .if the latter then that can only lead to both parties getting hurt because the true intent wasn't laid out at the beginning. "
Great distinction there Ms.
If I understand the OP correctly she wishes for some emotional openness without attachment or commitment. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I personally dont have anyone I can call a regular fb, we'll call on each other from time to time,maybe attend a party/event, or just us hanging out.
I find it a bit weird people committing to any relationship where they effectively meet on set days,every week(via swinging)..
I also dont bother checking up on who my non-regular meets are meeting up with, something I have noticed of many people in FB/FWB scenarios mostly cannot handle.
You have me hunni "
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Funny kinda had a chat like this last night to me,
Friend with benefits is some one you make time to be with,meet up for a drink,a chat, spend time with them
Fuck buddies is just sex, pillow talk,you arrive have sex and go
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"Question for people that need some kind of 'emotional attachment' with people they have sex with. I'm thinking of FWB type scenarios - or when you meet people for sex more than once and become friends.
I'm trying to explain this to a male friend but I think 'emotional attachment' sounds too serious. How would you describe it?
- A connection
' A friendship with sex
- Feelings for the person (but non romantic)
??"
You already did
Friends with benefits
First word friend
Fuck buddy
First word fuck
FWB implies common intetests away from the bedroom that you can enjoy together occasionally and the option of sex
FB the point is to have sex at each meeting even if you include some other social event
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Question for people that need some kind of 'emotional attachment' with people they have sex with. I'm thinking of FWB type scenarios - or when you meet people for sex more than once and become friends.
I'm trying to explain this to a male friend but I think 'emotional attachment' sounds too serious. How would you describe it?
- A connection
' A friendship with sex
- Feelings for the person (but non romantic)
??
You already did
Friends with benefits
First word friend
Fuck buddy
First word fuck
FWB implies common intetests away from the bedroom that you can enjoy together occasionally and the option of sex
FB the point is to have sex at each meeting even if you include some other social event
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This is exactly how i see it but i think many guys think the words are interchangeable |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I want a connection with somebody I'm going to share myself with. I'm going to be intimate with you. I need to like you.
If you don't want to get to know each other, let me know before hand, I'll pass you a rubber cock. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Question for people that need some kind of 'emotional attachment' with people they have sex with. I'm thinking of FWB type scenarios - or when you meet people for sex more than once and become friends.
I'm trying to explain this to a male friend but I think 'emotional attachment' sounds too serious. How would you describe it?
- A connection
' A friendship with sex
- Feelings for the person (but non romantic)
??
are you struggling with the vocabulary to express what you mean or are you trying to dress it up as something else just to make it more appealing? If its the former then just say it as best you can. If they get what you mean and they want the same thing great. .if the latter then that can only lead to both parties getting hurt because the true intent wasn't laid out at the beginning.
Great distinction there Ms.
If I understand the OP correctly she wishes for some emotional openness without attachment or commitment."
Yep. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Question for people that need some kind of 'emotional attachment' with people they have sex with. I'm thinking of FWB type scenarios - or when you meet people for sex more than once and become friends.
I'm trying to explain this to a male friend but I think 'emotional attachment' sounds too serious. How would you describe it?
- A connection
' A friendship with sex
- Feelings for the person (but non romantic)
??"
Just been greedy there had there go let others have fun
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I think I understand.
When I’m with someone I want to fully appreciate them. I want them to appreciate me.
I want to be in the moment, not just having a soulless transaction for that moment.
Otherwise you might as well be fucking a doll.
So I want to for the time we’re together feel like they’re someone I care about and want.
So maybe it’s more about the experience then an attachment.
Yet that doesn’t mean I’m emotionally attached beyond that point. Just appreciating them in that moment. |
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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago
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"I think I understand.
When I’m with someone I want to fully appreciate them. I want them to appreciate me.
I want to be in the moment, not just having a soulless transaction for that moment.
Otherwise you might as well be fucking a doll.
So I want to for the time we’re together feel like they’re someone I care about and want.
So maybe it’s more about the experience then an attachment.
Yet that doesn’t mean I’m emotionally attached beyond that point. Just appreciating them in that moment. "
I think this covers it well to a point. When you include friendship in the mix it moves onto the next level. You are basically treading the tightrope of catching feels. A tightrope I fell off. |
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By *aelawMan
over a year ago
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I have always described it as a "Connection". It does not need to be an emotional connection. I just need to like them usually by having a decent two way conversation. Everyone is different though you can see above which is awesome |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I want a connection with somebody I'm going to share myself with. I'm going to be intimate with you. I need to like you.
If you don't want to get to know each other, let me know before hand, I'll pass you a rubber cock. "
I still stand by this comment. I prefer to get to know someone. A connection is when I ca can relate to the persons needs, care about their feelings as much as mine, and I'm genuinely interested about them. That's as close as I can get to breaking it down. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I want a connection with somebody I'm going to share myself with. I'm going to be intimate with you. I need to like you.
If you don't want to get to know each other, let me know before hand, I'll pass you a rubber cock.
I still stand by this comment. I prefer to get to know someone. A connection is when I ca can relate to the persons needs, care about their feelings as much as mine, and I'm genuinely interested about them. That's as close as I can get to breaking it down. "
Thanks, that sums up what I'm trying to describe. I've been trying to use just 1 or 2 words to describe the whole thing when actually it needs a sentence.
I realise that sounds mad but it makes sense to me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think I understand.
When I’m with someone I want to fully appreciate them. I want them to appreciate me.
I want to be in the moment, not just having a soulless transaction for that moment.
Otherwise you might as well be fucking a doll.
So I want to for the time we’re together feel like they’re someone I care about and want.
So maybe it’s more about the experience then an attachment.
Yet that doesn’t mean I’m emotionally attached beyond that point. Just appreciating them in that moment.
I think this covers it well to a point. When you include friendship in the mix it moves onto the next level. You are basically treading the tightrope of catching feels. A tightrope I fell off. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I want a connection with somebody I'm going to share myself with. I'm going to be intimate with you. I need to like you.
If you don't want to get to know each other, let me know before hand, I'll pass you a rubber cock.
I still stand by this comment. I prefer to get to know someone. A connection is when I ca can relate to the persons needs, care about their feelings as much as mine, and I'm genuinely interested about them. That's as close as I can get to breaking it down.
Thanks, that sums up what I'm trying to describe. I've been trying to use just 1 or 2 words to describe the whole thing when actually it needs a sentence.
I realise that sounds mad but it makes sense to me. "
It does (for me as well as others). A FWB sounds like a pal I fuck, nothing more. A fuck buddy - a buddy....I fuck. NSA - someone I fuck or fucked, all of them sound selfish like that. When I have sex, it's not all about me, where's the descriptive or label that says, I want the other person to enjoy sex with me?
A connection is the best I've heard described. |
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