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What should I do?!?!?!
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I've been spending quite a bit of free time with my vanilla friends recently and the Saturday just gone proved to be a bit testing.
Firstly after being persuaded to go for a few drinks in the evening. Myself, my friend (who I work with, also let's call him 1), his girlfriend (call her 2) and my friends brother (call him 3) all went to a few bars a couple of towns over. All of them are younger than me but betweeen the ages of 20 to 25.
The night was going well and then the more drink that went into 2 the more 1 was getting annoyed. Now I was acting as bouncer for 2 most of the night, as 1 and 2 kept having little arguments.
So after they had a bigger argument, 1 went back to the hotel with 3. I took 2 to one side and we went back about 40mins later.
Now where it gets weird is in the taxi back to their hotel room. 2 sat with her left leg over mine and then started to kiss my neck and cheek. I kept saying "do you think you should do that" or "no, think you've had a bit to drink".
Oh and 2 is smoking hot by the way. However as she's 1's girlfriend and I work with him. I would never do anything to ruin their relationship.
2 kept trying to turn my head for a full on kiss/snog, but I kept saying no. She kept saying "give me a proper kiss".
Where it gets even more uncomfortable, is that she started feeling my crotch and started feeling my dick. I am a man at the end of the day and a very attractive lady is caressing my dick, so of course it's started to get hard.
At this point the taxi pulls up outside the hotel. 2 then proceeds to ask if I'd like to go to the toilets with her. I refuse.
We then go into their room where 2 jumps into bed with 1. 3 is fast asleep on the sofa and I jump into the other bed.
The following morning it's as if nothing happened.
Should I tell my friend what happened or be quiet about it????? |
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over a year ago
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I'd tell him if he's serious about her, if he wants something long term with her he should know. In this case, give her the chance to tell him, if she won't then you do it.
On the other hand if she's just a short term fling, or he's a cheat himself then no, don't bother. |
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He's head over heels for her. They live together and been together for nearly 2 years now and known each other for 6 years.
The thing that gets me, is that she may do that with other people when he's not around. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"He's head over heels for her. They live together and been together for nearly 2 years now and known each other for 6 years.
The thing that gets me, is that she may do that with other people when he's not around."
If you were him, would you want someone to tell you?
That's your answer. |
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Superkinkycouple that's exactly what I initially thought.
I'd want to know, but at the same time. What you don't know won't hurt.
Plus do I want to be the reason that their relay comes to a potential end!?! |
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I'd practice enforcing very clear boundaries, if I was so unable to.
And I'd keep away from situations with the guys girlfriend where respect could be compromised.
There's probably little to say about the taxi journey to your colleague. And I'd not get involved with colleagues relationships or sex. |
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"I would have stuck my cock up her arse and then into her mouth.....or would i? Hmmmmm time for bed
That thought briefly crossed my mind. However I wouldn't do that to a friend."
You wouldn't fuck a friend up the bottom ? |
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By *adrMan
over a year ago
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It was probably her being d*unk that made her behave that way in the taxi, so least said, soonest mended. And it's not your role to anticipate future situations she might (or might not)get into. |
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"It was probably her being d*unk that made her behave that way in the taxi, so least said, soonest mended. And it's not your role to anticipate future situations she might (or might not)get into."
Exactly this. |
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"It was probably her being d*unk that made her behave that way in the taxi, so least said, soonest mended. And it's not your role to anticipate future situations she might (or might not)get into."
100% this! 
Some people love drama. Forget it and move on. |
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Could it be down to the drink, her inhibitions havery been lowered slightly and after the arguments she thought she needed to feel good about herself. You were the logical way to make her fell good about herself. |
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"I wouldn't say anything and the way I've read it, you didn't really do much to discourage her."
I didn't, but what could I really do?
Saying no isn't enough and moving my lips away from her when she's going in for the kiss isn't enough.
No means no right? |
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"I would have stuck my cock up her arse and then into her mouth.....or would i? Hmmmmm time for bed
That thought briefly crossed my mind. However I wouldn't do that to a friend.
You wouldn't fuck a friend up the bottom ?"
In terms of I wouldn't fuck my friends girlfriend unless asked to. |
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"Did you remove her hand from your crotch instantly when in the taxi? To me it sounds like you let this beautiful lady caress you they you got hard?"
I may have let her caress it a bit longer than I should have. But I did move her hand away in the end, just about the time the taxi pulled up to the hotel. |
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"Report to the police, it's sexual assult.
Or put it down to d*unk and emotional and forget it, she probably has."
This is very true. However I'm thinking it's more down to her being d*unk. I'm just wondering whether or not to approach my friend and be honest as he is none the wiser. |
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"It was probably her being d*unk that made her behave that way in the taxi, so least said, soonest mended. And it's not your role to anticipate future situations she might (or might not)get into.
100% this!
Some people love drama. Forget it and move on. "
Just flip the situation and if it was me doing that to her, it would be sexual assault right (as someone pointed out) and I would totally be in the wrong for advancing on her like that. |
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"Did you remove her hand from your crotch instantly when in the taxi? To me it sounds like you let this beautiful lady caress you they you got hard?
I may have let her caress it a bit longer than I should have. But I did move her hand away in the end, just about the time the taxi pulled up to the hotel."
Don't tell him. You didn't stop her. She was pissed. You are both at fault. |
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"It was probably her being d*unk that made her behave that way in the taxi, so least said, soonest mended. And it's not your role to anticipate future situations she might (or might not)get into.
100% this!
Some people love drama. Forget it and move on.
Just flip the situation and if it was me doing that to her, it would be sexual assault right (as someone pointed out) and I would totally be in the wrong for advancing on her like that."
Yeah but your a man so the rules are diffrant.
I would do a 69 with 3, give 2 1 and give 1 1 up his number 2. But I aint ever bin no good at math so Im probbly wrong. |
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"Did you remove her hand from your crotch instantly when in the taxi? To me it sounds like you let this beautiful lady caress you they you got hard?
I may have let her caress it a bit longer than I should have. But I did move her hand away in the end, just about the time the taxi pulled up to the hotel."
Exactly. So you wanted it too. Keep quiet and move on. Stop looking to cause upset unnecessarily. |
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"Did you remove her hand from your crotch instantly when in the taxi? To me it sounds like you let this beautiful lady caress you they you got hard?
I may have let her caress it a bit longer than I should have. But I did move her hand away in the end, just about the time the taxi pulled up to the hotel.
Don't tell him. You didn't stop her. She was pissed. You are both at fault."
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"It was probably her being d*unk that made her behave that way in the taxi, so least said, soonest mended. And it's not your role to anticipate future situations she might (or might not)get into.
100% this!
Some people love drama. Forget it and move on.
Just flip the situation and if it was me doing that to her, it would be sexual assault right (as someone pointed out) and I would totally be in the wrong for advancing on her like that."
You didn't stop her so no, it isn't assault at all. |
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"It was probably her being d*unk that made her behave that way in the taxi, so least said, soonest mended. And it's not your role to anticipate future situations she might (or might not)get into.
100% this!
Some people love drama. Forget it and move on.
Just flip the situation and if it was me doing that to her, it would be sexual assault right (as someone pointed out) and I would totally be in the wrong for advancing on her like that."
She was d*unk, you weren't. I doubt you're a true friend, you're blowing this out of proportion: why?
People do stupid things when d*unk, she probably doesn't remember. Has she ever made moves on you when she was sober? |
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He and his brother walked off and left another man to get his girlfriend home safely when she was clearly incapacitated with drink and that was pissing him off? Doesn't sound like he was too bothered about what she could get up to in that time frame so call it your little bonus for being the gentleman in the situation and say no more. |
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"Oh I dint realise 3 was a bloke. Can I change my answer? "
No, your first answer is the only one you get 
OP an alternative would be to tell 1 he was out of order leaving his d*unk partner in town. Especially after an argument. |
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"It was probably her being d*unk that made her behave that way in the taxi, so least said, soonest mended. And it's not your role to anticipate future situations she might (or might not)get into.
100% this!
Some people love drama. Forget it and move on.
Just flip the situation and if it was me doing that to her, it would be sexual assault right (as someone pointed out) and I would totally be in the wrong for advancing on her like that.
She was d*unk, you weren't. I doubt you're a true friend, you're blowing this out of proportion: why?
People do stupid things when d*unk, she probably doesn't remember. Has she ever made moves on you when she was sober? "
I reckon the OP wants to tell his mate so he dumps the woman then she'll fall for the OP instead.  |
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"It was probably her being d*unk that made her behave that way in the taxi, so least said, soonest mended. And it's not your role to anticipate future situations she might (or might not)get into.
100% this!
Some people love drama. Forget it and move on.
Just flip the situation and if it was me doing that to her, it would be sexual assault right (as someone pointed out) and I would totally be in the wrong for advancing on her like that.
She was d*unk, you weren't. I doubt you're a true friend, you're blowing this out of proportion: why?
People do stupid things when d*unk, she probably doesn't remember. Has she ever made moves on you when she was sober?
I reckon the OP wants to tell his mate so he dumps the woman then she'll fall for the OP instead. "
Unfortunately I'm not like that. He's my friend, she's now becoming a friend and I just put it down to being d*unk. |
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