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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Please can someone explain to me why ppl message me saying they want to meet, then either cancel or stop messaging? I really dont get it. Ppl just looking for a confidence boost or wasting time? Whats the point?! So frustrating. Been on a few months now and still not met anyone with the balls to actually show up. |
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"Please can someone explain to me why ppl message me saying they want to meet, then either cancel or stop messaging? I really dont get it. Ppl just looking for a confidence boost or wasting time? Whats the point?! So frustrating. Been on a few months now and still not met anyone with the balls to actually show up."
All part of the game, I'm afraid.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Please can someone explain to me why people who start a post can't just use try the search function to see if the topic they are speaking about hasn't been answered a billion times before?  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Not a game though is it. We just want to actually fulfill our fantasies then were done. Thought would be easier. Big let down really. We do what we say. It seems many dont. |
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"Not a game though is it. We just want to actually fulfill our fantasies then were done. Thought would be easier. Big let down really. We do what we say. It seems many dont."
It's a game to the timewasters. It's why they do it, they love it. Also, if you put NO TIMEWASTERS - do you think it will make potential Ines think "shit, I've been rumbled" or "yippee fresh meat!"? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Please can someone explain to me why people who start a post can't just use try the search function to see if the topic they are speaking about hasn't been answered a billion times before? "
Like most other topics?!?. There'd be nothing to read/chat about.... |
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Personal preferences and the narrowing down of potential choices to meet the former means exploratory chats will result in most new chats not finding a match.
The better a profile helps others to see if you're a good fit for their tastes, the higher your potential success can be. Public photos and good details all support this. |
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"Please can someone explain to me why people who start a post can't just use try the search function to see if the topic they are speaking about hasn't been answered a billion times before? "
Maybe because they are new to the forums and not aware that it's been covered a multitude of times easy enough to pass on by |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Please can someone explain to me why people who start a post can't just use try the search function to see if the topic they are speaking about hasn't been answered a billion times before?
Maybe because they are new to the forums and not aware that it's been covered a multitude of times easy enough to pass on by "
Maybe time for some FAQs sticky post or something like other forums have. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We occasionally have successful meets off Fab but mostly we get our best sessions and make most of our friends by meeting people in clubs. There seem to be loads of people on here who run out of nerve at the last minute. |
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"I think most member have 3 profiles one couple female and male profile to get verified so you would not really know whose real or fake here"
Shit, i must be doing it all wrong - I've only got one account  .
Should i set up a couple more just in case? |
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"I think most member have 3 profiles one couple female and male profile to get verified so you would not really know whose real or fake here"
Utter garbage! If it was true they would need to have one of the accounts genuinely verified in order to fake veris on the others!
We have three profiles, does that make us fake?
No! We have our single profiles as well as this one because we met on here as singles. We both had many meets and veris as singles. When we got together and made a couples profile we had no need to verify ourselves, our friends who we have met at clubs and parties were more than happy to do it for us. |
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"I think most member have 3 profiles one couple female and male profile to get verified so you would not really know whose real or fake here
Utter garbage! If it was true they would need to have one of the accounts genuinely verified in order to fake veris on the others!
We have three profiles, does that make us fake?
No! We have our single profiles as well as this one because we met on here as singles. We both had many meets and veris as singles. When we got together and made a couples profile we had no need to verify ourselves, our friends who we have met at clubs and parties were more than happy to do it for us. "
Well, I don't believe that most people do have 3 profiles, but the principle isn't garbage. A verified single male could set up a female and a couples profile and verify both from his single male profile. That aspect of it is correct. |
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"I think most member have 3 profiles one couple female and male profile to get verified so you would not really know whose real or fake here
Utter garbage! If it was true they would need to have one of the accounts genuinely verified in order to fake veris on the others!
We have three profiles, does that make us fake?
No! We have our single profiles as well as this one because we met on here as singles. We both had many meets and veris as singles. When we got together and made a couples profile we had no need to verify ourselves, our friends who we have met at clubs and parties were more than happy to do it for us.
Well, I don't believe that most people do have 3 profiles, but the principle isn't garbage. A verified single male could set up a female and a couples profile and verify both from his single male profile. That aspect of it is correct."
But not actually physically possible. The site has systems in place to prevent it. For example, if you use the same internet connection with the same IP address it will not accept the veri. Do a forum search for veris not showing and you will see that many people have fallen foul of this safeguard and have asked why their veris haven't worked |
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"Please can someone explain to me why ppl message me saying they want to meet, then either cancel or stop messaging? I really dont get it. Ppl just looking for a confidence boost or wasting time? Whats the point?! So frustrating. Been on a few months now and still not met anyone with the balls to actually show up."
Robntina
Without wishing to sound disrespectful, having just viewed your profile, if I were a single guy I wouldn't assume you to be a genuine couple.
I am not providing a profile review here, just stating that in its current format it is very male centric and that might be a stumbling block for you.
Once they have gotten over that initial hurdle of working out if you a real and the profile isn't just the work of a keyboard wanker, most bi guys will want to share the experience with the both of you (from the initial message), are likely to want to meet with both of you and will have conditions of their own to consider rather than just pandering to yours.
I feel you have a long way to go and your approach may be a little off key.
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You're profile to me is a little unclear as to who you're looking for a guy or a girl a double unicorn couple, no mention of a mf couple. It reads a bit one sided from the male too & not everybody wants bare back. Just our opinion. We put a status up saying how hard it was to get a meet, we were offered one "now" how many people can meet now honestly!! |
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But not actually physically possible. The site has systems in place to prevent it. For example, if you use the same internet connection with the same IP address it will not accept the veri. Do a forum search for veris not showing and you will see that many people have fallen foul of this safeguard and have asked why their veris haven't worked"
Well they can and do. They veri from a different place, wifi hotspot, 3g etc, Also have different email addresses. It happens. |
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But not actually physically possible. The site has systems in place to prevent it. For example, if you use the same internet connection with the same IP address it will not accept the veri. Do a forum search for veris not showing and you will see that many people have fallen foul of this safeguard and have asked why their veris haven't worked
Well they can and do. They veri from a different place, wifi hotspot, 3g etc, Also have different email addresses. It happens."
That all sounds very conspiracy theory!
Lets be real about it, how likely are people going to go to all that trouble? On the very rare occasions that someone does do that when they get caught out admin permanently ban them from the site. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We had this problem 99% of the time on Couples & Singles. In the end, we started the club scene and that's been successful. We moved to this site to join friends who we met in a club.
The usual is beginning to happen here, same old excuses to messages. What we've learnt is not to get into endless messages, a max 4 then leave it. As soon as you get the first excuse, dump messaging to that person or couple.
We reckon over 95% on sites are time wasters.
Stick to clubs. |
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That all sounds very conspiracy theory!
Lets be real about it, how likely are people going to go to all that trouble? On the very rare occasions that someone does do that when they get caught out admin permanently ban them from the site."
Not really. These are the fakes that waste peoples time. God knows why, but they do it. |
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"We had this problem 99% of the time on Couples & Singles. In the end, we started the club scene and that's been successful. We moved to this site to join friends who we met in a club.
The usual is beginning to happen here, same old excuses to messages. What we've learnt is not to get into endless messages, a max 4 then leave it. As soon as you get the first excuse, dump messaging to that person or couple.
We reckon over 95% on sites are time wasters.
Stick to clubs."
you could be 100% right |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A lot of people on here are just fantasists. They get off on all the talk and the idea of a meet but don't actually go through with a meet.
However there are genuine people on here, and when you find them and have fun, it's worth all the effort. You could try attending Fab social events and clubs, it's a good way of meeting more genuine swingers.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People have real lives too.
They may genuinely have to cancel "
I've had to cancel meets before, unfortunately twice with the same couple. Things do happen in real life that are out of your control. I always let people know well ahead though it's possible. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We totally understand people may have to change there plans. The ones I don't understand are the ones that contact you message for a while they ask about a meet they go as far as pushing a date to meet then suddenly stop messaging or the ones that arrange a meet you turn up ask where they are they say there on there way then message saying got car trouble but are getting a taxi but they don't show. What is the point of this. Luckily we've had good meets off here to out way the time wasting |
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That all sounds very conspiracy theory!
Lets be real about it, how likely are people going to go to all that trouble? On the very rare occasions that someone does do that when they get caught out admin permanently ban them from the site.
Not really. These are the fakes that waste peoples time. God knows why, but they do it."
I have been on here for over five years, not encountered one yet! Hubby has been here longer than me and neither has he. Neither of us have had a no show or last minute cancellation.
If you're finding that you're having your time wasted a lot when trying to arrange meets then maybe it's time to change something that you're doing. The common denominator is not the people who are wasting your time, it's you and your selection process. |
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That all sounds very conspiracy theory!
Lets be real about it, how likely are people going to go to all that trouble? On the very rare occasions that someone does do that when they get caught out admin permanently ban them from the site.
Not really. These are the fakes that waste peoples time. God knows why, but they do it.
I have been on here for over five years, not encountered one yet! Hubby has been here longer than me and neither has he. Neither of us have had a no show or last minute cancellation.
If you're finding that you're having your time wasted a lot when trying to arrange meets then maybe it's time to change something that you're doing. The common denominator is not the people who are wasting your time, it's you and your selection process. "
Timewasters and no-shows are one of the biggest complaints on here! It hasn't affected us, as our selection process would out people who did the self-veri thing, and we ignore plenty who appear to have done it. |
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That all sounds very conspiracy theory!
Lets be real about it, how likely are people going to go to all that trouble? On the very rare occasions that someone does do that when they get caught out admin permanently ban them from the site.
Not really. These are the fakes that waste peoples time. God knows why, but they do it.
I have been on here for over five years, not encountered one yet! Hubby has been here longer than me and neither has he. Neither of us have had a no show or last minute cancellation.
If you're finding that you're having your time wasted a lot when trying to arrange meets then maybe it's time to change something that you're doing. The common denominator is not the people who are wasting your time, it's you and your selection process. "
This! 
I've been on the site seven years. In that time I've not encountered one time waster or no show: not one. I've not endured any abuse either.
I'm not one of those females who receive hundreds of messages a day, and I have all the filters I require in place.
If people are constantly having their time wasted they have to take personal responsibility and see what they're doing wrong.
As Einstein said... |
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And let's face facts. Things obviously work well enough the way they are as the owners haven't changed it. Think of that old saying, if it ain't broke then don't try to fix it! If the owners really thought this was a problem they would address it accordingly. No one is forcing any of us to use fab, we do so out of choice. If we don't like how the site is run and moderated then we are free to exercise choice and find a site that does work with our preferences. |
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"And let's face facts. Things obviously work well enough the way they are as the owners haven't changed it. Think of that old saying, if it ain't broke then don't try to fix it! If the owners really thought this was a problem they would address it accordingly. No one is forcing any of us to use fab, we do so out of choice. If we don't like how the site is run and moderated then we are free to exercise choice and find a site that does work with our preferences. "
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"And let's face facts. Things obviously work well enough the way they are as the owners haven't changed it. Think of that old saying, if it ain't broke then don't try to fix it! If the owners really thought this was a problem they would address it accordingly. No one is forcing any of us to use fab, we do so out of choice. If we don't like how the site is run and moderated then we are free to exercise choice and find a site that does work with our preferences. "
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"I think most member have 3 profiles one couple female and male profile to get verified so you would not really know whose real or fake here
Utter garbage! If it was true they would need to have one of the accounts genuinely verified in order to fake veris on the others!
We have three profiles, does that make us fake?
No! We have our single profiles as well as this one because we met on here as singles. We both had many meets and veris as singles. When we got together and made a couples profile we had no need to verify ourselves, our friends who we have met at clubs and parties were more than happy to do it for us.
Well, I don't believe that most people do have 3 profiles, but the principle isn't garbage. A verified single male could set up a female and a couples profile and verify both from his single male profile. That aspect of it is correct.
But not actually physically possible. The site has systems in place to prevent it. For example, if you use the same internet connection with the same IP address it will not accept the veri. Do a forum search for veris not showing and you will see that many people have fallen foul of this safeguard and have asked why their veris haven't worked"
It's a reason not to let users visiting you to have use of your internet connection. Provide b&b but no WiFi. |
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