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In dating is there a protocol for sex?
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over a year ago
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Is shagging on the 1st date a no no? I have this theory of wait until the 4th date. But does it make no odds really?
I once got told by a guy I'd shagged on the 3rd date that I'd dropped my knickers too quickly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is shagging on the 1st date a no no? I have this theory of wait until the 4th date. But does it make no odds really?
I once got told by a guy I'd shagged on the 3rd date that I'd dropped my knickers too quickly. "
The younger people I work with the consensus seems to be 1st date is fine, if you plan on having sex at a later date why wait if it's what you both want. |
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"Is shagging on the 1st date a no no? I have this theory of wait until the 4th date. But does it make no odds really?
I once got told by a guy I'd shagged on the 3rd date that I'd dropped my knickers too quickly. "
Whatever is comfortable  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Most of my long term girlfriend's I fucked on first date.
If it feels right it feels right regardless whether its first date or the 7th.
Makes no difference to my opinion of her. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is shagging on the 1st date a no no? I have this theory of wait until the 4th date. But does it make no odds really?
I once got told by a guy I'd shagged on the 3rd date that I'd dropped my knickers too quickly. "
just an excuse to fuck you off without having to explain himself i reckon.
fair amount of guys will lose interest if you haven't had sex by the 3rd date, just go with the flow really. if you want to have sex then do it.
if you want a relationship don't expect to have formed a proper one until you've been together years. |
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I'll go against the grain a little here...
I met a girl when I was younger (21) she put out on the first date, in fact I only met her 3 hours earlier, I had a great night but then ignored all her calls for a month until she finally gave up.
I just couldn't see myself marrying someone like that, at the time I imagined it was the kind of thing she did every weekend (I don't know that to be true though)
3rd date should be fine though, and now I'm older I wouldn't be so judgemental, I'm not proud of how I treated her but it's just the way my brain worked back then, things worked out for me because 2 months later I met my wife.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't know, though I met a guy off a vanilla site and forget it wasn't Fab 
In my defence I always have a social first time. It was his idea, I just forgot to say gosh not yet "
Lucky man... All my socials stay socials  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Years ago I would wait as long as I could. And still was told I put out too soon. Then I was married for years. My new boyfriend met after talking for a few weeks and within a few hours we had sex. He doesn't think any less of me for it we just clicked. |
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"Do what feels right at the time.
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You're right of course, there are no actual rules. And if a guy wants sex then doesn't like you because you did, he's not the kind of guy you're really want anyway |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No if dating i make them wait for it.
Good things come to those who wait. After all, if they wanted instant sex they'd get it elsewhere. If they want love, romance, adventure, and high octane mood swings, then they have to wait to get in my knickers. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That's the one thing I hate about vanilla dating. Investing time in 'dating' until it's considered appropriate to fuck, and then finding out that he's a lousy lover.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Don't overthink things and just go with the flow on what feels right. I don't think there should be rules on this sort of thing as everyone is different.
Also what's the difference as to whether you wait or you don't? There are no guarantees either way that your relationship will work out the way you want it to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Last vanilla relationships for me
Knew her from gym, text a bit, went round to hers one night simpl For sex, we were together two years
Second one, met at a wedding at 2pm, at 10pm we were naked in a field.
Last one, first date was a kiss, second date she spent two days in my bed.
It makes precisely no difference in my mind. Just be yourself and do what feels right |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I was once told by a man friend when i was bemoaning being single that men like the chase, and not necessarily just the gameshow.
If they really take a hankering to a woman then she shouldn't make it easy, they like to know that she doean't drop her draws for "just anyone".
Of course that idea could be old fashioned these days, but would any man on here truly give their honest opinion when they are on here looking for no strings attached fun? I think not.
If a man likes you, and is genuinely interested you as a person, then he will wait. Be it 5 minutes, 5 hours, 5 days or 5 months. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don't overthink things and just go with the flow on what feels right. I don't think there should be rules on this sort of thing as everyone is different.
Also what's the difference as to whether you wait or you don't? There are no guarantees either way that your relationship will work out the way you want it to."
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"I was once told by a man friend when i was bemoaning being single that men like the chase, and not necessarily just the gameshow.
If they really take a hankering to a woman then she shouldn't make it easy, they like to know that she doean't drop her draws for "just anyone".
Of course that idea could be old fashioned these days, but would any man on here truly give their honest opinion when they are on here looking for no strings attached fun? I think not.
If a man likes you, and is genuinely interested you as a person, then he will wait. Be it 5 minutes, 5 hours, 5 days or 5 months. "
I would agree. There is no right/wrong time, apart from when both people are ready.
If it's "real" dating, then that time comes when it comes. For the right person I think I would be willing to wait some time now.
If there's a connection, you want to see what happens. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm not interested in playing games or "holding out" on sex to make a guy think I'm not "easy" - what century is this again?
I wouldn't waste my time dating a man without having made sure he's a good fuck on the first date. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Pretty much all my relationships started as a shag. If I haven't been kissed by the second date I loose interest. The exception was when I dated a guy who turned out to be a virgin. I waited till the 5th date then before I jumped on him haha. |
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