Hi op,things do crop up and mean that people have to cancel or rearrange.
If they just didnt turn up you can report them,otherwise it could just be bad timing.
Why not put a meet request up or go to a club so you can still have fun.
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There is more to swinging than just using this site. As others have said, life can often get in the way at the last minute and people have to cancel. Why not get yourselves to a club? Plenty of them close to your location op |
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We are the same in that the little one goes to her grandmas two weekends a month and because of the amount of people that let you down on here that 90% of the time we arrange to meet in a club so that we can still have a fun night regardless of them turning up or not x |
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I had a meet planned last month, it was arranged the evening before with someone I thought I knew quite well. She requested a few things, nothing outrageous, a few nibbles and a bottle of wine, I got that in without question. Id seen her online the afternoon of the meet, didn't wanna bother her so left her be. it was getting later on in the evening and I knew I had a least an hours drive to get to her house so I made my way there checking my FAB messages for a timing to knock on her door.
I arrived in her town and checked again, still no message, but she was online, I eventually messaged her and asked what time I should be there and explained I was just round the corner only to be told she had "Apparently" been ill through the night and would not be meeting 
I asked why she had not messaged to cancel and was told she didn't know how I would take the news so she just left it.
She then asked to re-arrange for two days later, I agreed but deep down knew that was a lie, I didn't bother arranging anything, or preparing I simply messaged again on that evening, she opened the message and deleted it. |
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"I had a meet planned last month, it was arranged the evening before with someone I thought I knew quite well. She requested a few things, nothing outrageous, a few nibbles and a bottle of wine, I got that in without question. Id seen her online the afternoon of the meet, didn't wanna bother her so left her be. it was getting later on in the evening and I knew I had a least an hours drive to get to her house so I made my way there checking my FAB messages for a timing to knock on her door.
I arrived in her town and checked again, still no message, but she was online, I eventually messaged her and asked what time I should be there and explained I was just round the corner only to be told she had "Apparently" been ill through the night and would not be meeting
I asked why she had not messaged to cancel and was told she didn't know how I would take the news so she just left it.
She then asked to re-arrange for two days later, I agreed but deep down knew that was a lie, I didn't bother arranging anything, or preparing I simply messaged again on that evening, she opened the message and deleted it. "
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"I had a meet planned last month, it was arranged the evening before with someone I thought I knew quite well. She requested a few things, nothing outrageous, a few nibbles and a bottle of wine, I got that in without question. Id seen her online the afternoon of the meet, didn't wanna bother her so left her be. it was getting later on in the evening and I knew I had a least an hours drive to get to her house so I made my way there checking my FAB messages for a timing to knock on her door.
I arrived in her town and checked again, still no message, but she was online, I eventually messaged her and asked what time I should be there and explained I was just round the corner only to be told she had "Apparently" been ill through the night and would not be meeting
I asked why she had not messaged to cancel and was told she didn't know how I would take the news so she just left it.
She then asked to re-arrange for two days later, I agreed but deep down knew that was a lie, I didn't bother arranging anything, or preparing I simply messaged again on that evening, she opened the message and deleted it.
Did you enjoy the food and wine?"
 Im not a wine drinker, bur the food was good  |
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"I had a meet planned last month, it was arranged the evening before with someone I thought I knew quite well. She requested a few things, nothing outrageous, a few nibbles and a bottle of wine, I got that in without question. Id seen her online the afternoon of the meet, didn't wanna bother her so left her be. it was getting later on in the evening and I knew I had a least an hours drive to get to her house so I made my way there checking my FAB messages for a timing to knock on her door.
I arrived in her town and checked again, still no message, but she was online, I eventually messaged her and asked what time I should be there and explained I was just round the corner only to be told she had "Apparently" been ill through the night and would not be meeting
I asked why she had not messaged to cancel and was told she didn't know how I would take the news so she just left it.
She then asked to re-arrange for two days later, I agreed but deep down knew that was a lie, I didn't bother arranging anything, or preparing I simply messaged again on that evening, she opened the message and deleted it.
Did you enjoy the food and wine?
Im not a wine drinker, bur the food was good "
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"Unfortunately some people on this site are only looking for the chase
Are the women on the American sites the same as on the English sites then ?
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It really depends on what sites you use and how far you're willing to travel...... I'm in NYC so tinder is crazy here
My buddy has been using religious dating sites and has been killing it... that's a little to extreme for me but it's worth a shot...
He uses one for Christians and one for Jewish girls.... |
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"Unfortunately some people on this site are only looking for the chase
Are the women on the American sites the same as on the English sites then ?
It really depends on what sites you use and how far you're willing to travel...... I'm in NYC so tinder is crazy here
My buddy has been using religious dating sites and has been killing it... that's a little to extreme for me but it's worth a shot...
He uses one for Christians and one for Jewish girls.... "
Are you allowed to say "Christ, you look hot to trot!' in the christian room? |
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"we only get 2 weekends kid free and both of them weekends we have been let down why even be on the site "
i just cant understand why somone would let you down? Just saying.
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"Unfortunately some people on this site are only looking for the chase
Are the women on the American sites the same as on the English sites then ?
It really depends on what sites you use and how far you're willing to travel...... I'm in NYC so tinder is crazy here
My buddy has been using religious dating sites and has been killing it... that's a little to extreme for me but it's worth a shot...
He uses one for Christians and one for Jewish girls....
Are you allowed to say "Christ, you look hot to trot!' in the christian room? "
I don't know but he told me on a first date these women are talking about religion and after a few drinks... they do anal .....  |
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"Unfortunately some people on this site are only looking for the chase
Are the women on the American sites the same as on the English sites then ?
It really depends on what sites you use and how far you're willing to travel...... I'm in NYC so tinder is crazy here
My buddy has been using religious dating sites and has been killing it... that's a little to extreme for me but it's worth a shot...
He uses one for Christians and one for Jewish girls....
Are you allowed to say "Christ, you look hot to trot!' in the christian room?
I don't know but he told me on a first date these women are talking about religion and after a few drinks... they do anal ..... "
You crease me up |
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"we only get 2 weekends kid free and both of them weekends we have been let down why even be on the site "
While it's frustrating does it really matter? If the prospective meet cancels just enjoy the kid free weekends doing something together |
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I spend a lot of time in hotels. I had a couple contact me for mmf. No problem. We srranged to meet at 9:00pm. At 8:30 pm said they were on their way. Never showed. They were on fab all evening.I contacted them, no reply.
I have never let anyone down and it is annoying. I just look for curry buddies. If someone turns up great, if not, I eat in the restaurant/ curry house alone.  |
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"I spend a lot of time in hotels. I had a couple contact me for mmf. No problem. We srranged to meet at 9:00pm. At 8:30 pm said they were on their way. Never showed. They were on fab all evening.I contacted them, no reply.
I have never let anyone down and it is annoying. I just look for curry buddies. If someone turns up great, if not, I eat in the restaurant/ curry house alone. "
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Always have back-up plans - even if it's just to have a well deserved rest. If you do pre-meets first, such as non-sexual, then it can prevent sex meet time being wasted, if the users would have never met in the flesh at all. Having met beforehand isn't a guarantee that the next meet happens - as we see from a guy posting above, who enjoyed his food, but not the wine - but it does allow you to better guage someone's reliability and suitability for your get togethers.
And critique how you've been selecting people. Are there some common denominators, apart from that it's been you ops who have selected? I've met people at clubs and then arranged for follow-on shags on another day - that's an option too. You could post a meet on Fab for being at a club, for example, seeing which Fab people turn-up, even if just for a chat and to arrange something for the next time you're free.
I am especially curious if there's something about these failures that is consistent. When I've had initial contacts that haven't become meets, I've found some patterns about how I've approached it, as well as about them. |
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"I spend a lot of time in hotels. I had a couple contact me for mmf. No problem. We srranged to meet at 9:00pm. At 8:30 pm said they were on their way. Never showed. They were on fab all evening.I contacted them, no reply.
I have never let anyone down and it is annoying. I just look for curry buddies. If someone turns up great, if not, I eat in the restaurant/ curry house alone. thats not great (kat) x"
Not ideal, but a good curry is better than a disappointment. In fact, a curry has never dissapointed. Metsome decent curry buddies though. |
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"I spend a lot of time in hotels. I had a couple contact me for mmf. No problem. We srranged to meet at 9:00pm. At 8:30 pm said they were on their way. Never showed. They were on fab all evening.I contacted them, no reply.
I have never let anyone down and it is annoying. I just look for curry buddies. If someone turns up great, if not, I eat in the restaurant/ curry house alone. thats not great (kat) x
Not ideal, but a good curry is better than a disappointment. In fact, a curry has never dissapointed. Metsome decent curry buddies though. "
curry is good but only mild for me (kat) xx |
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"we only get 2 weekends kid free and both of them weekends we have been let down why even be on the site "
You seem to be doing ok on Wednesdays tho....? |
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