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Slightly unusual question for you

By *s Paris OP Woman over a year ago

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Hi everyone I've been reading a lot of the posts and profiles on here lately, where people say they don't kiss on a meet, or they don't give or receive oral, and I saw a few profiles where all the above were mentioned plus where the lady didn't want anyone touching her boobs during foreplay or sex. My question is would you still want to meet these people with all these rules in place? or politely decline? I just don't see much fun in a meeting with all the above left out but respect people's preferences very much so your opinions please and thanks in advance

Ms Paris

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By *ex LutherMan over a year ago

Closer than you think

"Hi everyone I've been reading a lot of the posts and profiles on here lately, where people say they don't kiss on a meet, or they don't give or receive oral, and I saw a few profiles where all the above were mentioned plus where the lady didn't want anyone touching her boobs during foreplay or sex. My question is would you still want to meet these people with all these rules in place? or politely decline? I just don't see much fun in a meeting with all the above left out but respect people's preferences very much so your opinions please and thanks in advance

Ms Paris"

Personally it would put me off completely but I respect their choices although I'm sure it limits the fun...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We wouldn't meet them. We respect their choices but they're not for us.

We're too tactile and sensual to be able to refrain from kisses etc. We're all in when we've got you in our bed.

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By *s Paris OP Woman over a year ago

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Ms Paris

Personally it would put me off completely but I respect their choices although I'm sure it limits the fun..."

Yes my thoughts exactly thank you for your comment

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By *s Paris OP Woman over a year ago

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"We wouldn't meet them. We respect their choices but they're not for us.

We're too tactile and sensual to be able to refrain from kisses etc. We're all in when we've got you in our bed. "

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By *imiUKMan over a year ago

Hereford

No. What a palaver.

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By *ex LutherMan over a year ago

Closer than you think

Ms Paris

Personally it would put me off completely but I respect their choices although I'm sure it limits the fun...

Yes my thoughts exactly thank you for your comment"

You're most welcome, love the latex too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hm. There are people who would meet them and people who wouldn't.

I'm not a huge fan of receiving oral and I have really sensitive boobs so people have to be gentle when they touch them. I still have people asking for meets, so it can't be the end of the world.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We wouldn't meet them. We respect their choices but they're not for us.

We're too tactile and sensual to be able to refrain from kisses etc. We're all in when we've got you in our bed. "

Here here i agree

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hm. There are people who would meet them and people who wouldn't.

I'm not a huge fan of receiving oral and I have really sensitive boobs so people have to be gentle when they touch them. I still have people asking for meets, so it can't be the end of the world. "

But at least you say for them to be gentle and you are rediculously delicious

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ms Paris

Personally it would put me off completely but I respect their choices although I'm sure it limits the fun..."

Totally agree. If that's what they want then that should be respected but there's nothing sensual or particularly sexy if there's no kissing/oral and limited touching.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If a man didn't want to receive oral sex,that would be fine for me but I'd still want kisses, my boobs played with and oral sex performed on me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Life is sometimes just about compromising.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ms Paris"

It's not unusual.

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By *s Paris OP Woman over a year ago

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Absolutely agree with the replies sort of makes it not worthwhile with so many limitations thanks to everyone that replied

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

no, i wouldn't.

i'm not that adventurous until i feel confident on how i can behave with someone, but i'd still expect the basics of sex, affection, and intimacy, and a little more.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm open minded. I need to be with someone who's open minded.

I can accept a no, but guidelines and rules put me off.

Let's relax and see what happens.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple over a year ago

West Wales

For us no intimacy would mean no meet, as for being extra sensitive in areas that can be addressed in chats beforehand ie whether to avoid or be featherlight gentle etc..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wouldn't meet someone who doesn't kiss. I've met men who don't give oral, but I find it's a piss take when they say they keep it for relationships, but want their cock sucked.

I'm not here to compromise or to give charity blow jobs.

So, I'm only meeting people who are open to it all.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To be honest I only meet on my own terms ......

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I don't think I would meet someone who had a whole list of rules and stuff as I'd be constantly thinking "oh shit, have I broken rule 32d?"

and so it wouldn't be very relaxing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wouldn't wish to meet anyone who had a list of rules and do's and dont's. Where's the fun in that.

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By *andsonjohnMan over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

I don’t want to be

One of those easy forgotten fucks

You know

so important to you

so needed by you

so wanted by you

so lusted after by you

Yet mire months later I'm just a vague half forgotten face and memory .

Equally I don’t want any of my fucks to end up that way in my mind ether.

Yes I will mind fuck you

Yes I will be a bastard

Yes I will be a good guy

Yes I will demand it all and take it all

Not because I'm evil not because I don’t care

I will do all these things and much much more because like I said I don’t want to be a fuck easily forgotten easily got over by you ,

nor do I want you to be a fuck easily forgotten or easily got over by me .

So with this statement I say this,

I want it all everything you have sexually , everything you have spiritually to .

does that make me selfish a bad lover no because your forgetting something while I'm taking everything you so I can never forget you ,

I will be giving you everything I have to give to so you can never forget me ether.

so in answer to your question op .if I want it all I'm never going to play with those who fear or for what ever reason cant give me all i desire

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm open minded. I need to be with someone who's open minded.

I can accept a no, but guidelines and rules put me off.

Let's relax and see what happens.

I agree,

Boundaries, and limits, I understand, we all have our dislikes. But it's a no to rules and guidelines.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It would put me off. What's left, a cup of tea and a slice of cake? I can get that at the local cafe.

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I think I'd go for the lady who DID want me to touch her tits rather than the one who didn't. Thems my rules.

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By *quirrelMan over a year ago

East Manchester

If everything us agreed to before the meeting then you know the rules and their expectations. Agreeing to meet someone and then expecting them to ignore their own rules is just plain stupid. (Would you go BB because they changed their minds?)

Kissing is a very intimate thing for some and its reserved for those special people in their lives. Similar problem is oral, some like it but are worried about doing it with a new partner. Working girls don't do it at all without protection because they aren't sure they won't catch something. People are strange, funny, miserable, worrying, generous, shocking and a host of other things, but never surprising. Take each one as they come and never judge. After all, Swinging isn't the most acceptable pastime to lots of people.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes, quite happy to. I'm not keen on most of those things either.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's a long way to tiperrarrryyy!

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple over a year ago

Halifax

We couldnt meet others who don't kiss,feels too cold and its all part of the build up for us.

If we knew before hand and agreed no oral or whatever,that wouldn't be a problem.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No I wouldn't. Any kind of rules put me off to be honest. It puts pressure on me thinking I'm going to break them and annoying someone.

Rather than setting a list of rules I prefer to just see what happens and say at the time if u don't like something.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I find too many rules off putting I like to go with what feels right x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ms Paris"

It depends... I like meeting and just going with the flow. But if a woman says she doesn't want this or that then fine. It depends on the person. If your compatible, then fine, if not then don't meet. Simple as that really. I don't think there's a one gloves fits all - especially on fab lol x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I find too many rules off putting I like to go with what feels right x"

For me it's not what they say... it's how they say it on their profile.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Love to kiss

Love boobs

Love giving oral

But as Yoda once said

A profile on a swinger site does not a swinger make

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Personally it wouldn't be for me, especially the no kissing thing - everyone has their own boundaries and preferences, and those should of course always be respected, even if that means not contacting someone or going ahead with a meet because of them.

Of course if it was a guideline such as "be gentle with my nipples as they're ultra sensitive" that's somewhat different.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In my opinion kissing is very intimate and I can understand why people would rather keep that for themselves or for people they have feelings for.

Having said that, it wouldn't necessarily put me off metting them yet the meet wouldn't have the same outcome.

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

When I first joined fab I was chatting the the lady half of a couple about getting together. She said something along the lines of 'I don't want you to kiss or touch my man in any way and he's only going to fuck me' I asked if they just wanted me to provide tea and snacks!!

If I meet a couple I want it all!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"When I first joined fab I was chatting the the lady half of a couple about getting together. She said something along the lines of 'I don't want you to kiss or touch my man in any way and he's only going to fuck me' I asked if they just wanted me to provide tea and snacks!!

If I meet a couple I want it all!!!

lol

don't forget popcorn etc. Greedy girl wanting it all

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By *cunnylassCouple over a year ago

Exeter

We wouldn't meet them...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Too many rules - I would be bound to forget and get into trouble. In any case, why miss out on the best bits of sensuality and foreplay?

I had a gf who "didn't like oral sex" (giving or receiving). Then she got to know me better and discovered that she really, really enjoyed receiving oral "the way I did it" (can there be another way?) She also began to reciprocate, enjoying my pleasure, sometimes initiating it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ms Paris"

I wouldn't meet someone who didn't want kissing. I wouldn't meet a man who didn't want to fk me.

They are things that I enjoy a lot.

XXX

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If I meet a couple I want it all!!!

Quite a few females like that I think.

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By *imply_SensualMan over a year ago

warrington

It would put me off meeting and I would look for somebody else who was into the same things as me.

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By *rishman75Man over a year ago

Chessington/epsom

Ms Paris"

I would love to kiss you and give you oral xxx

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By *annooWoman over a year ago

Hastings

Hello

i would just like to put it forward as someone who has a lot of donts on my profile....i dont kiss because i dont like how some people kiss and because its the only thing i keep that intimate for me for someone i have feelings for.

i dont give oral because i had a bad experience once where i guy held my head in place and i basically passed out where he would not let me pull away from his cock and basically i gagged to the point of not being able to breath even with the use of my nose-now i have panic attack/real issues with it. so i put on my profile that i dont do it, on the odd occasion i have done one,but at no point did the guy as and at no point did he put his hand near me.

as you all pointed out everyone is here for their own reasons and for some of the reasons stated i have issues doing some things and i have put it clearly on my profile....

ive been on fab for 3 years get over loaded with people wanting to meet and have re met people it has not caused an issue for me

the only time i feel i have had an issue with when people bring it upon themselves to message me in a shitty mannor saying "what the fuck do you do your donts list covers practically everything" when there are so many more things that can be done in foreplay and sex...it can be disheartening...

but im here for fun and that is what i do

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By *mmmMaybeCouple over a year ago

West Wales

If I meet a couple I want it all!!!

I think almost everyone has had contact with those with a host of do's & dont's. We certainly have, the last couple was me not even allowed to play with her, fem/fem only & then he would graciously fuck H..Oh & no pics of him on the profile, not that it would make any difference to our response

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