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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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In any circumstance, can you cut all ties with someone and have no contact or do you find it hard to cuts ties?
Was chatting with a friend about it and said I can be quite cold about that kinda thing and it's a defence mechanism for me personally. If I feel I'm getting too close and too familiar with someone, I pull right back and find it hard to do the small talk thing.
How do others find it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I had/have feelings for the person, I find really difficult to cut ties on my own, except if that person clearly states that I should fuck off, then I am happy to do so |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've never found it that difficult to cut ties with people who I don't want to talk to anymore, whether they are family, friends, or on here. There's usually a reason I would take such a big step and once I have its simple to follow-though.
But then, I've been told I'm a cold person, too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No not at all. I don't have any issues with cutting all ties with someone.
It doesn't make you insensitive. Just someone who doesn't wobdecon what could have been and someone who looks to the future 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find it really hard as I'm not a confrontational person, very easy going. However, lately I've been sticking up for myself a bit more and surrounding myself with people who really care about me and ignoring anybody who upsets me or uses me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I find it really hard as I'm not a confrontational person, very easy going. However, lately I've been sticking up for myself a bit more and surrounding myself with people who really care about me and ignoring anybody who upsets me or uses me. "
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I find it quite easy tbh,cut n old friend off for her gossiping and lies last year.
If I can't trust someone,no point in any form of relationship or friendship.
If i found out someone had lied here ,they would be blocked too.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Cutting ties is a necessary evil.
If you need to, you must.
Usually a last resort, but make sure that's what you want, as sometimes reestablishing them can prove difficult. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Glad it's not just me..
Was beginning to think I'd turned into a heartless cow.
I used to be so soft and give people chance after chance or make excuses for their actions etc.
Now I'm just like "Nope" and they're gone.
I'm sure sometimes it's the wrong decision but I'd rather do it that way then risk getting hurt or made a fool of. |
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
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Silly me!
I saw the thread title, and thought it was about those nice-looking jumpers you see in the shops...only to find that they have those silly holes on the shoulders...'cold shoulder' style 
But really, what is the point of them??  |
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"Glad it's not just me..
Was beginning to think I'd turned into a heartless cow.
I used to be so soft and give people chance after chance or make excuses for their actions etc.
Now I'm just like "Nope" and they're gone.
I'm sure sometimes it's the wrong decision but I'd rather do it that way then risk getting hurt or made a fool of. "
This is totally me now. I have a fight or flight and I'm mostly flight these days. Had my fill of fighting over the years and had enough of it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Silly me!
I saw the thread title, and thought it was about those nice-looking jumpers you see in the shops...only to find that they have those silly holes on the shoulders...'cold shoulder' style
But really, what is the point of them?? "
They're absolutely pointless. I bought a top that had the shoulder holes and it's weird because I feel more exposed in that top than if I was wearing a low cut top??  |
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
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"Silly me!
I saw the thread title, and thought it was about those nice-looking jumpers you see in the shops...only to find that they have those silly holes on the shoulders...'cold shoulder' style
But really, what is the point of them??
They're absolutely pointless. I bought a top that had the shoulder holes and it's weird because I feel more exposed in that top than if I was wearing a low cut top?? "
Especially at this time of year...who wants jumpers with big holes in them??  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In any circumstance, can you cut all ties with someone and have no contact or do you find it hard to cuts ties?
Was chatting with a friend about it and said I can be quite cold about that kinda thing and it's a defence mechanism for me personally. If I feel I'm getting too close and too familiar with someone, I pull right back and find it hard to do the small talk thing.
How do others find it? "
It totally depends on what they did to of upset you, my sister spat in my face and I haven't spoke to her since happened in September last year |
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I've never seen the need to 'cut ties' that I recall, except for couple of stalkery types I had to block.
My ex of 20 years wanted to be friends 'cos he missed me'....that one made me laugh is all  |
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