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Wolf whistle=hate crime .... Discuss

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By *ood will hunting OP Man over a year ago

yeovil

Opinions on this??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's a bit 70's naff really. Does it have a place in modern life? Nah.

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

HateCrime, what a load of fucking pish

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By *irtyGirlWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

"HateCrime, what a load of fucking pish

This!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If anything surely it's an appreciation crime?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hate crime, no. Fucking annoying, sometimes a bit intimidating and should have died a death along with Benny Hill, yes.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If that's a hate crime , I'm never going to risk holding a door open for anyone, ever again...... wars have started for less

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Who says it's hate crime?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's not a hate crime, but it's a bit old fashioned and sexist. I get that more often than not the whistler is trying to be complimentary, but unwanted attention is still unwanted attention. No-one should be made to feel uncomfortable by another person.

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By *ood will hunting OP Man over a year ago

yeovil

It's been on the TV today ???? must add it's not my _iew

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's been on the TV today ???? must add it's not my _iew "

I was watching The Wright Stuff too

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By *ood will hunting OP Man over a year ago

yeovil

"It's not a hate crime, but it's a bit old fashioned and sexist. I get that more often than not the whistler is trying to be complimentary, but unwanted attention is still unwanted attention. No-one should be made to feel uncomfortable by another person. "

Agreed.. Old fashioned maybe but not a bloody hate crime .. What is the world coming too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No, just a pathetic loser with no regard for others.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's a sign of affection

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Opinions on this?? "
It's a compliment, I work in construction there is a woman who runs past the site nearly everyday and gets whistled she smiles and enjoys it or she would choose another route. Shouting out things is different and misogynist.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What about an oi oi? Is that the same?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Opinions on this?? "
harmless and fun imho

Cali

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd be flattered!!!

Lol

Some chicks need to get a life and loosen up if they get upset at a whistle

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By *loppsyWoman over a year ago

marlow

What utter tosh! I would be flattered if I got one x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'd be flattered!!!

Lol

Some chicks need to get a life and loosen up if they get upset at a whistle

I'm not uptight but I don't like it. I'm just not so desperate for attention that I'd be flattered by being whistled at like a dog by some random stranger.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'd be flattered!!!

Lol

Some chicks need to get a life and loosen up if they get upset at a whistle

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's a sign of affection "

Huh? How can you show affection for a complete stranger from afar? Surely its a show of attraction?

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By *unandbuckCouple over a year ago

Sheffield

It was on the news a while back and a big thread about it on here.

I (Mr) would say apply common sense.

i.e If I was driving and a group of women were walking along for a night out dressed up, skimpy outfits, killer heels, I would give an appreciative bip of the car horn. That's just fun.

Same situation, but an attractive woman jogging in lycra shorts and crop top, looking equally sexy, then I wouldn't do it, as that could make her feel vulnerable, and that situation is wrong.

So, for me, keep it sensible and fun, engage brain first.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's a sign of affection

Huh? How can you show affection for a complete stranger from afar? Surely its a show of attraction? "

It's not even that. It's a pathetic need to display their "manliness" to all and sundry born from a misguided belief that the object of their attention will give a shit what they think.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's a form of harassment and intimidation and incredibly crass and utterly twattish behaviour. It's not a hate crime though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's a sign of affection

Huh? How can you show affection for a complete stranger from afar? Surely its a show of attraction?

It's not even that. It's a pathetic need to display their "manliness" to all and sundry born from a misguided belief that the object of their attention will give a shit what they think. "

Not to mention that most are doing it in front of their buddies to "impress" them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's a sign of affection

Huh? How can you show affection for a complete stranger from afar? Surely its a show of attraction?

It's not even that. It's a pathetic need to display their "manliness" to all and sundry born from a misguided belief that the object of their attention will give a shit what they think. "
Believe it or not women like to feel wanted and desired it boosts there confidence. You yourself might not feel the need yourself but you don't speak for all women.

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"It's a sign of affection

Huh? How can you show affection for a complete stranger from afar? Surely its a show of attraction?

It's not even that. It's a pathetic need to display their "manliness" to all and sundry born from a misguided belief that the object of their attention will give a shit what they think. Believe it or not women like to feel wanted and desired it boosts there confidence. You yourself might not feel the need yourself but you don't speak for all women."

Wanted and desired by those they want/desire. I really don't see how some beer bellied builder puffing on a cigarette and shouting 'nice tits caramel' with a wolf whistle is going to boost my confidence. It's a display not real appreciation.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's a sign of affection

Huh? How can you show affection for a complete stranger from afar? Surely its a show of attraction?

It's not even that. It's a pathetic need to display their "manliness" to all and sundry born from a misguided belief that the object of their attention will give a shit what they think. Believe it or not women like to feel wanted and desired it boosts there confidence. You yourself might not feel the need yourself but you don't speak for all women."

Believe it or not, not every woman needs to be "validated" by having unsolicited attention drawn to her by strangers in public.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's a sign of affection

Huh? How can you show affection for a complete stranger from afar? Surely its a show of attraction?

It's not even that. It's a pathetic need to display their "manliness" to all and sundry born from a misguided belief that the object of their attention will give a shit what they think. Believe it or not women like to feel wanted and desired it boosts there confidence. You yourself might not feel the need yourself but you don't speak for all women."

**some** women like to feel wanted...

You don't speak for all/any women either. You'd be surprised how many women couldn't care less whether strangers desire them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's a sign of affection

Huh? How can you show affection for a complete stranger from afar? Surely its a show of attraction?

It's not even that. It's a pathetic need to display their "manliness" to all and sundry born from a misguided belief that the object of their attention will give a shit what they think. Believe it or not women like to feel wanted and desired it boosts there confidence. You yourself might not feel the need yourself but you don't speak for all women.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I quite like the odd wolf whistle..at my age it just makes me smile

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As I said I'd be flattered...

It's a joke nothing more

Harmless fun

I do not need or look for attention

If that's the case why do us chicks put up pics of ourselves on here?

We all know chicks would still get loads of messages without them?

Everyone like to hear..hey...you look nice

Its not an ego thing it's a

Compliment

Christ...folk will be having a go at guys opening doors for women soon

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's a sign of affection

Huh? How can you show affection for a complete stranger from afar? Surely its a show of attraction?

It's not even that. It's a pathetic need to display their "manliness" to all and sundry born from a misguided belief that the object of their attention will give a shit what they think. Believe it or not women like to feel wanted and desired it boosts there confidence. You yourself might not feel the need yourself but you don't speak for all women.

Says the man who most likely isn't on the receiving end of them.

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"It's a sign of affection

Huh? How can you show affection for a complete stranger from afar? Surely its a show of attraction?

It's not even that. It's a pathetic need to display their "manliness" to all and sundry born from a misguided belief that the object of their attention will give a shit what they think. Believe it or not women like to feel wanted and desired it boosts there confidence. You yourself might not feel the need yourself but you don't speak for all women.

It's harmless from your point of _iew. When I'm minding my own business and trying to get shit done, I don't want someone whistling at me. It is more often than not accompanied by words or laughs and nudges from their friends.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's a sign of affection

Huh? How can you show affection for a complete stranger from afar? Surely its a show of attraction?

It's not even that. It's a pathetic need to display their "manliness" to all and sundry born from a misguided belief that the object of their attention will give a shit what they think. Believe it or not women like to feel wanted and desired it boosts there confidence. You yourself might not feel the need yourself but you don't speak for all women.

**some** women like to feel wanted...

You don't speak for all/any women either. You'd be surprised how many women couldn't care less whether strangers desire them. "

*Some* women might be so starved of attention they take pleasure from it but I'm confident enough in myself and my appearance that the opinion of some random dude I'm walking past isn't solicited.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's a sign of affection

Huh? How can you show affection for a complete stranger from afar? Surely its a show of attraction?

It's not even that. It's a pathetic need to display their "manliness" to all and sundry born from a misguided belief that the object of their attention will give a shit what they think. Believe it or not women like to feel wanted and desired it boosts there confidence. You yourself might not feel the need yourself but you don't speak for all women.

**some** women like to feel wanted...

You don't speak for all/any women either. You'd be surprised how many women couldn't care less whether strangers desire them. "
it's like on here you put pics up, strangers might fab them, you have no intention of ever meeting them though. What is the difference?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My fab thread bingo card is primed and ready for the first "it's political correctness gone mad"

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"My fab thread bingo card is primed and ready for the first "it's political correctness gone mad" "

I'm waiting for the f word to appear.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's a sign of affection

Huh? How can you show affection for a complete stranger from afar? Surely its a show of attraction?

It's not even that. It's a pathetic need to display their "manliness" to all and sundry born from a misguided belief that the object of their attention will give a shit what they think. Believe it or not women like to feel wanted and desired it boosts there confidence. You yourself might not feel the need yourself but you don't speak for all women.

**some** women like to feel wanted...

You don't speak for all/any women either. You'd be surprised how many women couldn't care less whether strangers desire them. it's like on here you put pics up, strangers might fab them, you have no intention of ever meeting them though. What is the difference?"

For me, I put pictures up to attract people to my profile because I do want to meet people. I'm inviting the attention to the photos. I'm not inviting attention by just existing, walking down the street so it's unwanted then.

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By *icentiousCouple over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"It's a sign of affection

Huh? How can you show affection for a complete stranger from afar? Surely its a show of attraction?

It's not even that. It's a pathetic need to display their "manliness" to all and sundry born from a misguided belief that the object of their attention will give a shit what they think. Believe it or not women like to feel wanted and desired it boosts there confidence. You yourself might not feel the need yourself but you don't speak for all women.

Says the man who most likely isn't on the receiving end of them. "

Don't know, a group of women can be just as lewd, especially after a drink or two....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Regardless of the rights or wrongs, I'd be less concerned about the sensibilities of anyone born with the good fortune of a beautiful body or face but who then chooses to be offended by an attempted compliment than I would about the feeling encountered by anyone who never gets to experience receiving an appreciative gesture from a stranger.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My fab thread bingo card is primed and ready for the first "it's political correctness gone mad"

I'm waiting for the f word to appear."

That as well

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's a sign of affection

Huh? How can you show affection for a complete stranger from afar? Surely its a show of attraction?

It's not even that. It's a pathetic need to display their "manliness" to all and sundry born from a misguided belief that the object of their attention will give a shit what they think. Believe it or not women like to feel wanted and desired it boosts there confidence. You yourself might not feel the need yourself but you don't speak for all women.

**some** women like to feel wanted...

You don't speak for all/any women either. You'd be surprised how many women couldn't care less whether strangers desire them.

*Some* women might be so starved of attention they take pleasure from it but I'm confident enough in myself and my appearance that the opinion of some random dude I'm walking past isn't solicited. "
yes so it appears but some women have low self esteem that can possibly help it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's a sign of affection

Huh? How can you show affection for a complete stranger from afar? Surely its a show of attraction?

It's not even that. It's a pathetic need to display their "manliness" to all and sundry born from a misguided belief that the object of their attention will give a shit what they think. Believe it or not women like to feel wanted and desired it boosts there confidence. You yourself might not feel the need yourself but you don't speak for all women.

**some** women like to feel wanted...

You don't speak for all/any women either. You'd be surprised how many women couldn't care less whether strangers desire them.

*Some* women might be so starved of attention they take pleasure from it but I'm confident enough in myself and my appearance that the opinion of some random dude I'm walking past isn't solicited.

yes so it appears but some women have low self esteem that can possibly help it. "

Yeah I'm *sure* that's what the men are thinking...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's a sign of affection

Huh? How can you show affection for a complete stranger from afar? Surely its a show of attraction?

It's not even that. It's a pathetic need to display their "manliness" to all and sundry born from a misguided belief that the object of their attention will give a shit what they think. Believe it or not women like to feel wanted and desired it boosts there confidence. You yourself might not feel the need yourself but you don't speak for all women.

**some** women like to feel wanted...

Huge difference. I'm on here to meet people to have sex with. An attraction is required for the sex bit.

I don't have pics like this on Facebook or anywhere else, because I don't need other people to validate my appearance.

I don't need my appearance to be validated by some bloke in the street.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Wolfwhistles....I suppose it's like _iewing somebody on fab with an unwanted message or wink (is it not)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's a sign of affection

Huh? How can you show affection for a complete stranger from afar? Surely its a show of attraction?

It's not even that. It's a pathetic need to display their "manliness" to all and sundry born from a misguided belief that the object of their attention will give a shit what they think. Believe it or not women like to feel wanted and desired it boosts there confidence. You yourself might not feel the need yourself but you don't speak for all women.

Says the man who most likely isn't on the receiving end of them. "
I do pretty well thank you

it's not a thing women do anyway.

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"Regardless of the rights or wrongs, I'd be less concerned about the sensibilities of anyone born with the good fortune of a beautiful body or face but who then chooses to be offended by an attempted compliment than I would about the feeling encountered by anyone who never gets to experience receiving an appreciative gesture from a stranger.....

I don't have a beautiful body or face. I have big tits, a big arse and a small waist - that's why I get them.

I don't see why because I do I should be content because it's better than not getting any wolf whistles?

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By *icked_tongueMan over a year ago

Bolton

"I'd be flattered!!!

Lol

Some chicks need to get a life and loosen up if they get upset at a whistle

Totally agree and you would definitely get a whistle xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't have a beautiful body or face. I have big tits, a big arse and a small waist - that's why I get them.

I don't see why because I do I should be content because it's better than not getting any wolf whistles? "

Apparently you're meant to be grateful

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

a couple of days ago I was stood waiting to cross a busy road, when some guy in a van shouts rather loudly 'phwoarrr I do like a redhead' as he drove past...as there was no one else about I am assuming he meant me...

yes it made me smile, no I didn't feel violated in any way, shape or form...

but I would have preferred a wolf whistle as its less intrusive

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And I'd turn round and say...

Cheers mate

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I find it intimidating but I don't like going out there so I'm usually head down n trying to make myself look as inconspicuous as poss. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't have a beautiful body or face. I have big tits, a big arse and a small waist - that's why I get them.

I don't see why because I do I should be content because it's better than not getting any wolf whistles?

Apparently you're meant to be grateful

Well taking all into account .....I'm going to settle for believing giving a wolf whistle or overreacting to receiving one are equally as clumsy ......

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

I don't have a beautiful body or face. I have big tits, a big arse and a small waist - that's why I get them.

I don't see why because I do I should be content because it's better than not getting any wolf whistles?

Apparently you're meant to be grateful

Well taking all into account .....I'm going to settle for believing giving a wolf whistle or overreacting to receiving one are equally as clumsy ......

Please do. Taking into account the sexual harassment I deal with that accompanies wolf whistles on a frequent basis, I'm going to go with not being grateful for them... (if I add an emoji does that make it less passive aggressive?)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Where is that couple to reply this is another example of feminism destroying society

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

Oh and OP, it's not a hate crime. As much as I dislike them it's not a hate crime. That's just ridiculous.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"And I'd turn round and say...

Cheers mate

That's okay for you, but we don't know what's going on in each individuals life. For all we know, they could be a rape survivor. For all we know, they could be severely agoraphobic and it could have taken all their courage to leave the house. For all we know, they could be on their way to collect a loved ones ashes.

None of us know what is going on in a stranger's life, and we don't have the right to impose our _iews on them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's a sign of affection

Huh? How can you show affection for a complete stranger from afar? Surely its a show of attraction?

It's not even that. It's a pathetic need to display their "manliness" to all and sundry born from a misguided belief that the object of their attention will give a shit what they think. Believe it or not women like to feel wanted and desired it boosts there confidence. You yourself might not feel the need yourself but you don't speak for all women."

Likewise, you don't speak for all men.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't have a beautiful body or face. I have big tits, a big arse and a small waist - that's why I get them.

I don't see why because I do I should be content because it's better than not getting any wolf whistles?

Apparently you're meant to be grateful

Well taking all into account .....I'm going to settle for believing giving a wolf whistle or overreacting to receiving one are equally as clumsy ......

I have more class as to voice my opinion on this crass behaviour to the donor in public in front of his mates.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't have a beautiful body or face. I have big tits, a big arse and a small waist - that's why I get them.

I don't see why because I do I should be content because it's better than not getting any wolf whistles? "

I never said one was better than the other,,,,, I said I would be less concerted about the precious sensibilities of someone who chooses to be offended than someone who lives a life never having received spontaneous adoration...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

*than

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's a sign of affection

Huh? How can you show affection for a complete stranger from afar? Surely its a show of attraction?

It's not even that. It's a pathetic need to display their "manliness" to all and sundry born from a misguided belief that the object of their attention will give a shit what they think. Believe it or not women like to feel wanted and desired it boosts there confidence. You yourself might not feel the need yourself but you don't speak for all women.

Likewise, you don't speak for all men. "
OK white knight I wasn't trying to you.

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"It's a sign of affection

Huh? How can you show affection for a complete stranger from afar? Surely its a show of attraction?

It's not even that. It's a pathetic need to display their "manliness" to all and sundry born from a misguided belief that the object of their attention will give a shit what they think. Believe it or not women like to feel wanted and desired it boosts there confidence. You yourself might not feel the need yourself but you don't speak for all women.

Likewise, you don't speak for all men. "
ive wolf whistled at my lovers before..i dont do it to strangers though..but its like humming the full monty theme tune..its playful,..hate crime thats more like swearing at people, isnt it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's a sign of affection

Huh? How can you show affection for a complete stranger from afar? Surely its a show of attraction?

It's not even that. It's a pathetic need to display their "manliness" to all and sundry born from a misguided belief that the object of their attention will give a shit what they think. Believe it or not women like to feel wanted and desired it boosts there confidence. You yourself might not feel the need yourself but you don't speak for all women.

**some** women like to feel wanted...

This is a sex site? A tiny proportion of the population are on it...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"And I'd turn round and say...

Cheers mate

None of us know what is going on in a stranger's life, and we don't have the right to impose our _iews on them. "
forgive me but you don't know everyone's situation either

Its a whistle ...not a shows yer tits luv

Or a grope

Its a whistle

Needs to be put into perspective

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"And I'd turn round and say...

Cheers mate

None of us know what is going on in a stranger's life, and we don't have the right to impose our _iews on them. forgive me but you don't know everyone's situation either

Its a whistle ...not a shows yer tits luv

Or a grope

Its a whistle

Needs to be put into perspective

Who's perspective though? Exactly.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's a sign of affection

Huh? How can you show affection for a complete stranger from afar? Surely its a show of attraction?

It's not even that. It's a pathetic need to display their "manliness" to all and sundry born from a misguided belief that the object of their attention will give a shit what they think. Believe it or not women like to feel wanted and desired it boosts there confidence. You yourself might not feel the need yourself but you don't speak for all women.

Pretty harmless? So not completely harmless then?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Oh and OP, it's not a hate crime. As much as I dislike them it's not a hate crime. That's just ridiculous. "

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"I never said one was better than the other,,,,, I said I would be less concerted about the precious sensibilities of someone who chooses to be offended than someone who lives a life never having received spontaneous adoration...

Of course you'd consider them 'precious sensibilities' because you've never been on the receiving end as a woman and dealt with the sexual harassment. Spontaneous adoration is an amusing way of putting it though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't have a beautiful body or face. I have big tits, a big arse and a small waist - that's why I get them.

I don't see why because I do I should be content because it's better than not getting any wolf whistles?

Apparently you're meant to be grateful

Well taking all into account .....I'm going to settle for believing giving a wolf whistle or overreacting to receiving one are equally as clumsy ......

You have every right not to be grateful if that is how you feel....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't have a beautiful body or face. I have big tits, a big arse and a small waist - that's why I get them.

I don't see why because I do I should be content because it's better than not getting any wolf whistles?

Apparently you're meant to be grateful

Well taking all into account .....I'm going to settle for believing giving a wolf whistle or overreacting to receiving one are equally as clumsy ......

I don't think saying you think it's pretty lame when directly asked equates to "overreacting". Or my usual response of telling them to fuck off, or just rolling my eyes depending on how combative I'm feeling.

It's also amazing how many of those men making a genuine compliment and expression of attraction and admiration turn out to think I'm a fat bitch when told to fuck off.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"And I'd turn round and say...

Cheers mate

None of us know what is going on in a stranger's life, and we don't have the right to impose our _iews on them. forgive me but you don't know everyone's situation either

Its a whistle ...not a shows yer tits luv

Or a grope

Its a whistle

Needs to be put into perspective

Who's perspective though? Exactly. "

Empathy would be required for that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's a sign of affection

Huh? How can you show affection for a complete stranger from afar? Surely its a show of attraction?

It's not even that. It's a pathetic need to display their "manliness" to all and sundry born from a misguided belief that the object of their attention will give a shit what they think. Believe it or not women like to feel wanted and desired it boosts there confidence. You yourself might not feel the need yourself but you don't speak for all women.

Likewise, you don't speak for all men. OK white knight I wasn't trying to you. "

*yawn*

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"It's a sign of affection

Huh? How can you show affection for a complete stranger from afar? Surely its a show of attraction?

It's not even that. It's a pathetic need to display their "manliness" to all and sundry born from a misguided belief that the object of their attention will give a shit what they think. Believe it or not women like to feel wanted and desired it boosts there confidence. You yourself might not feel the need yourself but you don't speak for all women.

**some** women like to feel wanted...

This is a sex site? A tiny proportion of the population are on it... "
its a swingers site..not a sex site...check the differences...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Opinions on this?? It's a compliment, I work in construction there is a woman who runs past the site nearly everyday and gets whistled she smiles and enjoys it or she would choose another route. Shouting out things is different and misogynist."

Why should she have to alter her route? Maybe her smile is a grimace and she's just refusing to be intimidated by a bunch of guys who have the emotional and mental maturity of a breeze block.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"And I'd turn round and say...

Cheers mate

None of us know what is going on in a stranger's life, and we don't have the right to impose our _iews on them. forgive me but you don't know everyone's situation either

Its a whistle ...not a shows yer tits luv

Or a grope

Its a whistle

Needs to be put into perspective

Who's perspective though? Exactly.

Empathy would be required for that."

You mean my pathetic need for validation about my looks from moronic strangers *isn't* the most important thing in the world?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well unless a guy Wolf whistles and then punches you in the face

Yes completely harmless

Yes some will like it some will hate it and some won't care less

But come on..worse things could happen than some builder giving you a whistle

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's a sign of affection

Huh? How can you show affection for a complete stranger from afar? Surely its a show of attraction?

It's not even that. It's a pathetic need to display their "manliness" to all and sundry born from a misguided belief that the object of their attention will give a shit what they think. Believe it or not women like to feel wanted and desired it boosts there confidence. You yourself might not feel the need yourself but you don't speak for all women.

Pretty harmless? So not completely harmless then? "
yeah because I think most women understand it's just a compliment. Obviously some are getting offended or intimidated so I have to say pretty harmless. I personally think it is completely harmless.

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"I don't think saying you think it's pretty lame when directly asked equates to "overreacting". Or my usual response of telling them to fuck off, or just rolling my eyes depending on how combative I'm feeling.

It's also amazing how many of those men making a genuine compliment and expression of attraction and admiration turn out to think I'm a fat bitch when told to fuck off. "

You put it so much more eloquently than I can.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's a sign of affection

Huh? How can you show affection for a complete stranger from afar? Surely its a show of attraction?

It's not even that. It's a pathetic need to display their "manliness" to all and sundry born from a misguided belief that the object of their attention will give a shit what they think. Believe it or not women like to feel wanted and desired it boosts there confidence. You yourself might not feel the need yourself but you don't speak for all women.

**some** women like to feel wanted...

This is a sex site? A tiny proportion of the population are on it... its a swingers site..not a sex site...check the differences..."

It is a site where people seek sex with others, no?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is the modern world, woman walks past the building site hears a wolf whistle, assumes it's for her and has some reaction somewhere on the scale of pleasure to anger...

Builder high on the scaffolding, didn't see the woman but gave the fit guy in lycra cycling past an appreciative wolf whistle...

No, it is not a hate crime, bit dated, bit foolish, very impersonal, but not worthy of banning.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's a sign of affection

Huh? How can you show affection for a complete stranger from afar? Surely its a show of attraction?

It's not even that. It's a pathetic need to display their "manliness" to all and sundry born from a misguided belief that the object of their attention will give a shit what they think. Believe it or not women like to feel wanted and desired it boosts there confidence. You yourself might not feel the need yourself but you don't speak for all women.

Pretty harmless? So not completely harmless then? yeah because I think most women understand it's just a compliment. Obviously some are getting offended or intimidated so I have to say pretty harmless. I personally think it is completely harmless."

So if you sister/mother/girlfriend walked passed the same building site every day for a month, was whisked at daily and found it upsetting what would you say to her?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well unless a guy Wolf whistles and then punches you in the face

Yes completely harmless

Yes some will like it some will hate it and some won't care less

But come on..worse things could happen than some builder giving you a whistle "

Worse things could happen than getting punched in the face too, (like genocide, perhaps) but it doesn't mean I have to be happy about that either.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"And I'd turn round and say...

Cheers mate

None of us know what is going on in a stranger's life, and we don't have the right to impose our _iews on them. forgive me but you don't know everyone's situation either

Its a whistle ...not a shows yer tits luv

Or a grope

Its a whistle

Needs to be put into perspective

Who's perspective though? Exactly.

Empathy would be required for that.

You mean my pathetic need for validation about my looks from moronic strangers *isn't* the most important thing in the world?

Shocking, isn't it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm glad to have amused you...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why should she have to alter her route? Maybe her smile is a grimace and she's just refusing to be intimidated by a bunch of guys who have the emotional and mental maturity of a breeze block. "
I never said she should alter her route but I imagine if she found it so intimidating or offensive she would. She seems pretty happy to me. Surprising seeing some responses because a lot of women try to get as much attention as possible on here.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman over a year ago

Lyndhurst

"And I'd turn round and say...

Cheers mate

None of us know what is going on in a stranger's life, and we don't have the right to impose our _iews on them. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well unless a guy Wolf whistles and then punches you in the face

Yes completely harmless

Yes some will like it some will hate it and some won't care less

But come on..worse things could happen than some builder giving you a whistle

Worse things could happen than getting punched in the face too, (like genocide, perhaps) but it doesn't mean I have to be happy about that either.

"
Wolf whistle...genocide...

Seriously???

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why should she have to alter her route? Maybe her smile is a grimace and she's just refusing to be intimidated by a bunch of guys who have the emotional and mental maturity of a breeze block. I never said she should alter her route but I imagine if she found it so intimidating or offensive she would. She seems pretty happy to me. Surprising seeing some responses because a lot of women try to get as much attention as possible on here."

As plenty of women have pointed out (you've just chosen to ignore them) there is a world of difference between seeking attention on here where people are specifically inviting attention to themselves and their profiles, and wanting attention when just going about your daily business in the real world. They are not the same thing at all.

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By *irtyGirlWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

Why should she have to alter her route? Maybe her smile is a grimace and she's just refusing to be intimidated by a bunch of guys who have the emotional and mental maturity of a breeze block. I never said she should alter her route but I imagine if she found it so intimidating or offensive she would. She seems pretty happy to me. Surprising seeing some responses because a lot of women try to get as much attention as possible on here."

The 1950's called... they want you back!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why should she have to alter her route? Maybe her smile is a grimace and she's just refusing to be intimidated by a bunch of guys who have the emotional and mental maturity of a breeze block. I never said she should alter her route but I imagine if she found it so intimidating or offensive she would. She seems pretty happy to me. Surprising seeing some responses because a lot of women try to get as much attention as possible on here."

Getting attention on a website where you're looking for sex is entirely different to walking down the road minding your own business.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's a sign of affection

Huh? How can you show affection for a complete stranger from afar? Surely its a show of attraction?

It's not even that. It's a pathetic need to display their "manliness" to all and sundry born from a misguided belief that the object of their attention will give a shit what they think. Believe it or not women like to feel wanted and desired it boosts there confidence. You yourself might not feel the need yourself but you don't speak for all women.

So if you sister/mother/girlfriend walked passed the same building site every day for a month, was whisked at daily and found it upsetting what would you say to her?"
i would say get a grip woman it's a compliment

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well unless a guy Wolf whistles and then punches you in the face

Yes completely harmless

Yes some will like it some will hate it and some won't care less

But come on..worse things could happen than some builder giving you a whistle

Worse things could happen than getting punched in the face too, (like genocide, perhaps) but it doesn't mean I have to be happy about that either.

Wolf whistle...genocide...

Seriously???

Read the words. You're making out like just because you're not getting punched, it's therefore ok. I'm just extrapolating that to make the same argument about being punched. Just because something else is "worse" doesn't mean you have to like it. Was that simple enough?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You're clearly saying that she should alter her route of she doesn't like your actions. Why the fuck should she change it just because you can't control your behaviour.

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"It's a sign of affection

Huh? How can you show affection for a complete stranger from afar? Surely its a show of attraction?

It's not even that. It's a pathetic need to display their "manliness" to all and sundry born from a misguided belief that the object of their attention will give a shit what they think. Believe it or not women like to feel wanted and desired it boosts there confidence. You yourself might not feel the need yourself but you don't speak for all women.

**some** women like to feel wanted...

This is a sex site? A tiny proportion of the population are on it... its a swingers site..not a sex site...check the differences...

It is a site where people seek sex with others, no? "
no. its a site where people communicate about all sorts of things to find out if they would like to meet to see if they get on, socially, sexual activity is totally optional. swingers and this is a swingers site is equally about social encounters and mixing with like minded folk..sexual activity, is a physical expression that if desired by all parties might take place...seeing this place as a sex site often leads to disappointment because so many think that sex is the only goal of everyone here. same as there is a difference between a sex club and a swingers club...too many people dont know the difference and expect the sex rather than understanding swinging as a scene..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Basicaly....in perspective....Fun police out again..grrrrrrrrr

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You're clearly saying that she should alter her route of she doesn't like your actions. Why the fuck should she change it just because you can't control your behaviour. "
no you are mistaken I'm saying if she didn't like it so much she would alter her route I guess. She seems to like it though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well unless a guy Wolf whistles and then punches you in the face

Yes completely harmless

Yes some will like it some will hate it and some won't care less

But come on..worse things could happen than some builder giving you a whistle

Worse things could happen than getting punched in the face too, (like genocide, perhaps) but it doesn't mean I have to be happy about that either.

Wolf whistle...genocide...

Seriously???

Pretty simple

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well unless a guy Wolf whistles and then punches you in the face

Yes completely harmless

Yes some will like it some will hate it and some won't care less

But come on..worse things could happen than some builder giving you a whistle

Worse things could happen than getting punched in the face too, (like genocide, perhaps) but it doesn't mean I have to be happy about that either.

Wolf whistle...genocide...

Seriously???

I never thought someone's language use would make me want to have sex with them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You're clearly saying that she should alter her route of she doesn't like your actions. Why the fuck should she change it just because you can't control your behaviour. no you are mistaken I'm saying if she didn't like it so much she would alter her route I guess. She seems to like it though.

Fuck me, I was right about the breeze block.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Basicaly....in perspective....Fun police out again..grrrrrrrrr

It's only "fun" if both parties are enjoying it, what's so difficult to understand about that?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"She seems to like it" just by not altering her route?

Well that's a fucking disturbing statement if ever I read one. Do you also believe women in short skirts are asking for it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Basicaly....in perspective....Fun police out again..grrrrrrrrr

It's only "fun" if both parties are enjoying it, what's so difficult to understand about that?"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You've gotta love this place...j

This thread has been the most entertaining so far this year...

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"Well unless a guy Wolf whistles and then punches you in the face

Yes completely harmless

Yes some will like it some will hate it and some won't care less

But come on..worse things could happen than some builder giving you a whistle

Worse things could happen than getting punched in the face too, (like genocide, perhaps) but it doesn't mean I have to be happy about that either.

Wolf whistle...genocide...

Seriously???

I never thought someone's language use would make me want to have sex with them

She has that effect, doesn't she?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You're clearly saying that she should alter her route of she doesn't like your actions. Why the fuck should she change it just because you can't control your behaviour. "

Pay attention because it's harmless and she needs to get a grip.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well unless a guy Wolf whistles and then punches you in the face

Yes completely harmless

Yes some will like it some will hate it and some won't care less

But come on..worse things could happen than some builder giving you a whistle

Worse things could happen than getting punched in the face too, (like genocide, perhaps) but it doesn't mean I have to be happy about that either.

Wolf whistle...genocide...

Seriously???

I never thought someone's language use would make me want to have sex with them

She has that effect, doesn't she? "

It was "extrapolate" that got me all

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

BBC survey reckons around half of women like it, half don't.

But certain groups want it banned, so it's now a hate crime in some areas.

War on men.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The police forces that are taking action on street harassment are having to put harassment under the banner of hate crime, because that's how our legislation works.

That doesn't mean that it is as severe as other forms of hate crime, but it is a mild form of harassment, and therefore comes from a place of the disrespect of women. If the men that do it respected women then they wouldn't wolf whistle them.

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"You've gotta love this place...j

This thread has been the most entertaining so far this year...

Of course. Because women expressing their discomfort with wolf whistling is amusing...

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"BBC survey reckons around half of women like it, half don't.

But certain groups want it banned, so it's now a hate crime in some areas.

War on men."

Yay! You showed up! I thought you were a bit late.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"She seems to like it" just by not altering her route?

Well that's a fucking disturbing statement if ever I read one. Do you also believe women in short skirts are asking for it?"
no she seems to like it because she smiles and looks happy like it boosts her ego. She knows it is likely to happen and still chooses to run past.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You've gotta love this place...j

This thread has been the most entertaining so far this year...

Of course. Because women expressing their discomfort with wolf whistling is amusing..."

No ..... its because people are engaging in active and enthusiastic thought exchange ...... simple as that...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i.e If I was driving and a group of women were walking along for a night out dressed up, skimpy outfits, killer heels, I would give an appreciative bip of the car horn. That's just fun.

Actually I don't find that 'fun', I find it a bit intimidating. I'm not dressing up for you. I'm dressing up for me. And I don't want your approval unless I ask for it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The police forces that are taking action on street harassment are having to put harassment under the banner of hate crime, because that's how our legislation works.

If a group of women were whistling at a fit guy ?

Or is that OK?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"She seems to like it" just by not altering her route?

Well that's a fucking disturbing statement if ever I read one. Do you also believe women in short skirts are asking for it? no she seems to like it because she smiles and looks happy like it boosts her ego. She knows it is likely to happen and still chooses to run past."

"She knows it is likely to happen and still chooses to run past" - can't you understand how fucked up that sounds?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"She seems to like it" just by not altering her route?

Maybe she just refuses to be intimidated into altering her choices by a bunch of low life scum.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As I said I'd be flattered...

It's a joke nothing more

Harmless fun

I do not need or look for attention

If that's the case why do us chicks put up pics of ourselves on here?

We all know chicks would still get loads of messages without them?

Everyone like to hear..hey...you look nice

Its not an ego thing it's a

Compliment

Christ...folk will be having a go at guys opening doors for women soon

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The police forces that are taking action on street harassment are having to put harassment under the banner of hate crime, because that's how our legislation works.

If a group of women were whistling at a fit guy ?

Or is that OK?"

No, I don't think it is.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"She seems to like it" just by not altering her route?

"She knows it is likely to happen and still chooses to run past" - can't you understand how fucked up that sounds?"
Maybe to your ultra feminism outlook

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Does seem like some people live to get offended, or it's a failure if they don't find something to be offended about.

I wonder if they get offended by not being offended

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"She seems to like it" just by not altering her route?

"She knows it is likely to happen and still chooses to run past" - can't you understand how fucked up that sounds? Maybe to your ultra feminism outlook"

It's not ultra feminist... your _iew is out of the dark ages.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"She seems to like it" just by not altering her route?

Maybe she just refuses to be intimidated into altering her choices by a bunch of low life scum. "
Why can't you see that she might enjoy it? So builders are low life scum for whistling at an attractive lady I have heard everything now

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"She seems to like it" just by not altering her route?

"She knows it is likely to happen and still chooses to run past" - can't you understand how fucked up that sounds? Maybe to your ultra feminism outlook"

Pssst - Meli, we're only missing one for a full house!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"BBC survey reckons around half of women like it, half don't.

But certain groups want it banned, so it's now a hate crime in some areas.

War on men."

Do you have a link to that source. The figures I've seen are far less equal

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

People actually still do this?

No, it's not a hate crime but the people that do it should be locked up all the same.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Does seem like some people live to get offended, or it's a failure if they don't find something to be offended about.

I wonder if they get offended by not being offended

I think for some, its a vocation ..the professionally offended

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is a lose lose situation, apart from the fact that the Wolf whistle was actually for the guy cycling past in tight lycra.

Women put on bras that push there tits up and out, wear a top the exposes 80% of cleavage, then 50% will be pissed off you looked at their tits, and 50% will be pissed off that you looked them in the eye... best bit is they won't tell you which 50% they are in, and the rules change for the bloke stood next to you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can't whistle

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Does seem like some people live to get offended, or it's a failure if they don't find something to be offended about.

I wonder if they get offended by not being offended

I think for some, its a vocation ..the professionally offended

Except no one has said they're offended.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why should she have to alter her route? Maybe her smile is a grimace and she's just refusing to be intimidated by a bunch of guys who have the emotional and mental maturity of a breeze block. I never said she should alter her route but I imagine if she found it so intimidating or offensive she would. She seems pretty happy to me. Surprising seeing some responses because a lot of women try to get as much attention as possible on here."

For a while the building at the end of my road was having work done on it in the summer.

There are two ends to my road. When I walk to the gym I can walk out of either. One adds about five-ten minutes to the end of my journey.

The building at the end of my road was on the quick way to the gym. There was scaffolding and builders working on it. I walked past there five mornings out of seven to go to the gym. One of the men started wolf-whistling at me.

It made me uncomfortable. I don't like it. I don't want people to do that to me in the street.

I suppose what I could have done was go the way to the gym that takes me longer to walk. But I didn't, instead I put more clothes on. Instead of walking to the spin classes in the summer in lycra leggings or cycling bib shorts, I started wearing thick jogging bottoms and a hoodie over it.

He was persistent. It seemed my 10am class every day coincided with his coffee break. He kept wolf whistling even though I had put shapeless, thick clothes on.

I could have gone the other way. And added ten minutes to my journey one way and then ten minutes back.

But I decided - fuck it. And I phoned the building company. And they were very interested in what I had to say. The next day he wasn't there. In fact he wasn't on that site ever again. And I could go back to wearing what I wanted without being harassed in the street because of the way I looked, wearing practical clothing.

I won't lie, I hope he got sacked. Because I shouldn't have to change my clothes or lose twenty minutes out of my day because someone is unable to control their dick.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The police forces that are taking action on street harassment are having to put harassment under the banner of hate crime, because that's how our legislation works.

If a group of women were whistling at a fit guy ?

Or is that OK?

No, I don't think it is. "
do you honestly think a guy walking g I to a police station reporting a chick Wolf whistling at him would be taken seriously?

I think not

Total double standards

We have all seen groups of females out on the lash whistling and shouting at guys..ffs it happens

Its a whistle!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's a sign of affection

Huh? How can you show affection for a complete stranger from afar? Surely its a show of attraction?

It's not even that. It's a pathetic need to display their "manliness" to all and sundry born from a misguided belief that the object of their attention will give a shit what they think. Believe it or not women like to feel wanted and desired it boosts there confidence. You yourself might not feel the need yourself but you don't speak for all women.

**some** women like to feel wanted...

This is a sex site? A tiny proportion of the population are on it... its a swingers site..not a sex site...check the differences...

It is a site where people seek sex with others, no? no. its a site where people communicate about all sorts of things to find out if they would like to meet to see if they get on, socially, sexual activity is totally optional. swingers and this is a swingers site is equally about social encounters and mixing with like minded folk..sexual activity, is a physical expression that if desired by all parties might take place...seeing this place as a sex site often leads to disappointment because so many think that sex is the only goal of everyone here. same as there is a difference between a sex club and a swingers club...too many people dont know the difference and expect the sex rather than understanding swinging as a scene.."

Here endeth the first lesson! Seriously, I stand corrected and appreciate your explanation

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Does seem like some people live to get offended, or it's a failure if they don't find something to be offended about.

I wonder if they get offended by not being offended

Someone once coined a term on here that made me chuckle..... they described the internet phenomenon of "Competitive outrage"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Have not done that since early 20s but some ladies enjoyed it with a cheecky smile. But some took embarrassed offence. Never with offence intended but appreciation for a sext looking woman but would much rather say it with a smile and save any womans embarrassment.

But hate crime contradictive and OTT.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"BBC survey reckons around half of women like it, half don't.

But certain groups want it banned, so it's now a hate crime in some areas.

War on men.

Do you have a link to that source. The figures I've seen are far less equal"

I'm noticing a slight age split on this thread...so perhaps we'll all start enjoying it when we hit middle age.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

When looking in eyes: they look away so do both

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

""She knows it is likely to happen and still chooses to run past" - can't you understand how fucked up that sounds? Maybe to your ultra feminism outlook

Pssst - Meli, we're only missing one for a full house! "

Oh, good. I was worried this was going to turn into a faf thread.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is a lose lose situation, apart from the fact that the Wolf whistle was actually for the guy cycling past in tight lycra.

I choose my underwear for me. So it's comfortable, works with what I'm wearing on top of it, and looks pretty to me.

Nothing to do with strangers.

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"She seems to like it" just by not altering her route?

"She knows it is likely to happen and still chooses to run past" - can't you understand how fucked up that sounds? Maybe to your ultra feminism outlook"
not all men like gaffa tape, but i usually give them the option....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The police forces that are taking action on street harassment are having to put harassment under the banner of hate crime, because that's how our legislation works.

If a group of women were whistling at a fit guy ?

Or is that OK?

No, I don't think it is. do you honestly think a guy walking g I to a police station reporting a chick Wolf whistling at him would be taken seriously?

I think not

Total double standards

We have all seen groups of females out on the lash whistling and shouting at guys..ffs it happens

Its a whistle!!!"

Based on this thread do you think a "chick" walking into a police station to report someone wolf whistling would be taken seriously either?

Just because women do it too doesn't make it ok.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why should she have to alter her route? Maybe her smile is a grimace and she's just refusing to be intimidated by a bunch of guys who have the emotional and mental maturity of a breeze block. I never said she should alter her route but I imagine if she found it so intimidating or offensive she would. She seems pretty happy to me. Surprising seeing some responses because a lot of women try to get as much attention as possible on here.

For a while the building at the end of my road was having work done on it in the summer.

There are two ends to my road. When I walk to the gym I can walk out of either. One adds about five-ten minutes to the end of my journey.

It made me uncomfortable. I don't like it. I don't want people to do that to me in the street.

He was persistent. It seemed my 10am class every day coincided with his coffee break. He kept wolf whistling even though I had put shapeless, thick clothes on.

I could have gone the other way. And added ten minutes to my journey one way and then ten minutes back.

I won't lie, I hope he got sacked. Because I shouldn't have to change my clothes or lose twenty minutes out of my day because someone is unable to control their dick.

"
you want a guy losing his job because he whistled at you?

I give up lol

Love to have been a fly on the wall when he told his Mrs and 4 kids that 1

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Does seem like some people live to get offended, or it's a failure if they don't find something to be offended about.

I wonder if they get offended by not being offended

I find this offensive!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It was on the news a while back and a big thread about it on here.

I (Mr) would say apply common sense.

i.e If I was driving and a group of women were walking along for a night out dressed up, skimpy outfits, killer heels, I would give an appreciative bip of the car horn. That's just fun.

Same situation, but an attractive woman jogging in lycra shorts and crop top, looking equally sexy, then I wouldn't do it, as that could make her feel vulnerable, and that situation is wrong.

So, for me, keep it sensible and fun, engage brain first."

Agreed

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Does seem like some people live to get offended, or it's a failure if they don't find something to be offended about.

I wonder if they get offended by not being offended

I think for some, its a vocation ..the professionally offended

So true, so true

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is a lose lose situation, apart from the fact that the Wolf whistle was actually for the guy cycling past in tight lycra.

I choose my underwear for me. So it's comfortable, works with what I'm wearing on top of it, and looks pretty to me.

Nothing to do with strangers. "

That should be true of everyone, but do you change the notice / not notice rules depending on the man looking?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't say this often. But what?

Who said this is a crime spurred on through hatred? This is just laughable.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

you want a guy losing his job because he whistled at you?

I give up lol

Love to have been a fly on the wall when he told his Mrs and 4 kids that 1

He should have thought about what he would tell his Mrs and four kids before he decided to comment on my body each day with his wolf whistle.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It was on the news a while back and a big thread about it on here.

I (Mr) would say apply common sense.

i.e If I was driving and a group of women were walking along for a night out dressed up, skimpy outfits, killer heels, I would give an appreciative bip of the car horn. That's just fun.

Same situation, but an attractive woman jogging in lycra shorts and crop top, looking equally sexy, then I wouldn't do it, as that could make her feel vulnerable, and that situation is wrong.

So, for me, keep it sensible and fun, engage brain first.

Agreed

Unfortunately it's the brain engagement thing that seems to cause difficulty

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is a lose lose situation, apart from the fact that the Wolf whistle was actually for the guy cycling past in tight lycra.

I choose my underwear for me. So it's comfortable, works with what I'm wearing on top of it, and looks pretty to me.

Nothing to do with strangers.

That should be true of everyone, but do you change the notice / not notice rules depending on the man looking?"

Not really, it comes down to whether their actions make me feel uncomfortable. You can notice someone has boobs without ogling (or whistling).

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"BBC survey reckons around half of women like it, half don't.

But certain groups want it banned, so it's now a hate crime in some areas.

War on men.

Do you have a link to that source. The figures I've seen are far less equal

I'm noticing a slight age split on this thread...so perhaps we'll all start enjoying it when we hit middle age. "

Nope, I'm 50, my teenage daughter hates it too, in fact it's been going on since she was 14 - comments from adult males while she was wearing her school uniform

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why should she have to alter her route? Maybe her smile is a grimace and she's just refusing to be intimidated by a bunch of guys who have the emotional and mental maturity of a breeze block. I never said she should alter her route but I imagine if she found it so intimidating or offensive she would. She seems pretty happy to me. Surprising seeing some responses because a lot of women try to get as much attention as possible on here.

For a while the building at the end of my road was having work done on it in the summer.

There are two ends to my road. When I walk to the gym I can walk out of either. One adds about five-ten minutes to the end of my journey.

It made me uncomfortable. I don't like it. I don't want people to do that to me in the street.

He was persistent. It seemed my 10am class every day coincided with his coffee break. He kept wolf whistling even though I had put shapeless, thick clothes on.

I could have gone the other way. And added ten minutes to my journey one way and then ten minutes back.

I won't lie, I hope he got sacked. Because I shouldn't have to change my clothes or lose twenty minutes out of my day because someone is unable to control their dick.

you want a guy losing his job because he whistled at you?

I give up lol

Love to have been a fly on the wall when he told his Mrs and 4 kids that 1

Yeah I'd just ignore it and put my earphones on and listen to music

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

you want a guy losing his job because he whistled at you?

I give up lol

Love to have been a fly on the wall when he told his Mrs and 4 kids that 1

He should have thought about what he would tell his Mrs and four kids before he decided to comment on my body each day with his wolf whistle."

Exactly. It was him being unprofessional at work that (maybe) lost him his job. If he'd acted in a professional manner his employers wouldn't have had any issue.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yeah I'd just ignore it and put my earphones on and listen to music"

I did. I could hear it through my headphones. Turning the music up loudly would be dangerous for crossing the road.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"BBC survey reckons around half of women like it, half don't.

But certain groups want it banned, so it's now a hate crime in some areas.

War on men.

Do you have a link to that source. The figures I've seen are far less equal

I'm noticing a slight age split on this thread...so perhaps we'll all start enjoying it when we hit middle age.

Nope, I'm 50, my teenage daughter hates it too, in fact it's been going on since she was 14 - comments from adult males while she was wearing her school uniform

"
that's a whole diffrent thing...underage.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yeah I'd just ignore it and put my earphones on and listen to music

I did. I could hear it through my headphones. Turning the music up loudly would be dangerous for crossing the road."

Bloody hell he had a loud whistle

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"BBC survey reckons around half of women like it, half don't.

But certain groups want it banned, so it's now a hate crime in some areas.

War on men.

Do you have a link to that source. The figures I've seen are far less equal

I'm noticing a slight age split on this thread...so perhaps we'll all start enjoying it when we hit middle age.

Nope, I'm 50, my teenage daughter hates it too, in fact it's been going on since she was 14 - comments from adult males while she was wearing her school uniform

that's a whole diffrent thing...underage."

But again - usual. Certainly when I was at school. Men touching your thigh on the bus to school was normal when I was a kid. Rubbing up a bit close to you on the train. Asking if you'd like to do something with them later.

*Shrug.*

Normal. My friends and I used to discuss it. We couldn't do anything about it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"BBC survey reckons around half of women like it, half don't.

But certain groups want it banned, so it's now a hate crime in some areas.

War on men.

Do you have a link to that source. The figures I've seen are far less equal

I'm noticing a slight age split on this thread...so perhaps we'll all start enjoying it when we hit middle age.

Nope, I'm 50, my teenage daughter hates it too, in fact it's been going on since she was 14 - comments from adult males while she was wearing her school uniform

That is an entirely inappropriate ordeal for any child to be subjected too.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yeah I'd just ignore it and put my earphones on and listen to music

I did. I could hear it through my headphones. Turning the music up loudly would be dangerous for crossing the road.

Bloody hell he had a loud whistle "

I wear hear-through headphones for safety. As I suspect most women do.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yeah I'd just ignore it and put my earphones on and listen to music

I did. I could hear it through my headphones. Turning the music up loudly would be dangerous for crossing the road."

should find him...guy obviously has seriously whistling talent then..Britain's got talent maybe?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My wife regularly gets lewd comments or wolf whistles directed at her when she's out jogging. Usually from men driving by, but sometimes from people in the street. She deals with it in her own way, but she doesn't appreciate it or enjoy it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"BBC survey reckons around half of women like it, half don't.

But certain groups want it banned, so it's now a hate crime in some areas.

War on men.

Do you have a link to that source. The figures I've seen are far less equal

I'm noticing a slight age split on this thread...so perhaps we'll all start enjoying it when we hit middle age.

Nope, I'm 50, my teenage daughter hates it too, in fact it's been going on since she was 14 - comments from adult males while she was wearing her school uniform

that's a whole diffrent thing...underage."

So something I disliked at 14 (which I did, whistles started when I grew tits) I'm supposed to suddenly see as a compliment once I hit 16 and was therefore legal?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

you want a guy losing his job because he whistled at you?

I give up lol

Love to have been a fly on the wall when he told his Mrs and 4 kids that 1

He should have thought about what he would tell his Mrs and four kids before he decided to comment on my body each day with his wolf whistle."
There you go then if the lady who runs past my site was so offended she would complain. Zero complaints so far so maybe she enjoys it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yeah I'd just ignore it and put my earphones on and listen to music

I did. I could hear it through my headphones. Turning the music up loudly would be dangerous for crossing the road.

should find him...guy obviously has seriously whistling talent then..Britain's got talent maybe?"

Hahaha yeah

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My wife regularly gets lewd comments or wolf whistles directed at her when she's out jogging. Usually from men driving by, but sometimes from people in the street. She deals with it in her own way, but she doesn't appreciate it or enjoy it. "

The problem is that you can't do anything about it. I sometimes shout abuse back at them, but that often means that they'll get abusive back towards me. And they're bigger, proberbly faster, and they're the ones that are now wound up...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

you want a guy losing his job because he whistled at you?

I give up lol

Love to have been a fly on the wall when he told his Mrs and 4 kids that 1

He should have thought about what he would tell his Mrs and four kids before he decided to comment on my body each day with his wolf whistle. There you go then if the lady who runs past my site was so offended she would complain. Zero complaints so far so maybe she enjoys it."

Maybe she doesn't realise that she can. Maybe she's too timid to complain. Maybe she's not a bolshy feminist bitch like me who thinks that people should behave appropriately in public. Maybe she thinks it's not worth your time.

Why do you struggle with the idea that most women don't want to hear your opinion on their body?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"BBC survey reckons around half of women like it, half don't.

But certain groups want it banned, so it's now a hate crime in some areas.

War on men.

Do you have a link to that source. The figures I've seen are far less equal

I'm noticing a slight age split on this thread...so perhaps we'll all start enjoying it when we hit middle age.

Nope, I'm 50, my teenage daughter hates it too, in fact it's been going on since she was 14 - comments from adult males while she was wearing her school uniform

that's a whole diffrent thing...underage.

So something I disliked at 14 (which I did, whistles started when I grew tits) I'm supposed to suddenly see as a compliment once I hit 16 and was therefore legal?"
nope...under 16 it's illegal over...it's not

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"BBC survey reckons around half of women like it, half don't.

But certain groups want it banned, so it's now a hate crime in some areas.

War on men.

Do you have a link to that source. The figures I've seen are far less equal

I'm noticing a slight age split on this thread...so perhaps we'll all start enjoying it when we hit middle age.

Nope, I'm 50, my teenage daughter hates it too, in fact it's been going on since she was 14 - comments from adult males while she was wearing her school uniform

that's a whole diffrent thing...underage.

So something I disliked at 14 (which I did, whistles started when I grew tits) I'm supposed to suddenly see as a compliment once I hit 16 and was therefore legal?"

Didn't you know, you became fair game when you hit the age of consent....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"BBC survey reckons around half of women like it, half don't.

But certain groups want it banned, so it's now a hate crime in some areas.

War on men.

Do you have a link to that source. The figures I've seen are far less equal

I'm noticing a slight age split on this thread...so perhaps we'll all start enjoying it when we hit middle age.

Nope, I'm 50, my teenage daughter hates it too, in fact it's been going on since she was 14 - comments from adult males while she was wearing her school uniform

that's a whole diffrent thing...underage.

So something I disliked at 14 (which I did, whistles started when I grew tits) I'm supposed to suddenly see as a compliment once I hit 16 and was therefore legal?

Didn't you know, you became fair game when you hit the age of consent...."

Just for fucks sake - don't wear tight clothes or they'll know that you really, really want sex. All the time. With whoever wants it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not really, it comes down to whether their actions make me feel uncomfortable. You can notice someone has boobs without ogling (or whistling). "

I get that, to be clear, I don't agree with whistles, shouts, car horns or any other atiquated comments on a man or woman, but they happen. I have been told off for not noticing a woman was scantily dressed, and also been told off for noticing the same.

It's a big world, full of people who have no idea what happened to you over breakfast, life is much sweeter if you enjoy the things you enjoy, stop the things that harm you, and ignore minor annoyances...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"BBC survey reckons around half of women like it, half don't.

But certain groups want it banned, so it's now a hate crime in some areas.

War on men.

Do you have a link to that source. The figures I've seen are far less equal

I'm noticing a slight age split on this thread...so perhaps we'll all start enjoying it when we hit middle age.

Nope, I'm 50, my teenage daughter hates it too, in fact it's been going on since she was 14 - comments from adult males while she was wearing her school uniform

that's a whole diffrent thing...underage.

So something I disliked at 14 (which I did, whistles started when I grew tits) I'm supposed to suddenly see as a compliment once I hit 16 and was therefore legal?

Didn't you know, you became fair game when you hit the age of consent....

Just for fucks sake - don't wear tight clothes or they'll know that you really, really want sex. All the time. With whoever wants it."

But of course, and if you turn it down, you're an uptight, ungrateful bitch.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"BBC survey reckons around half of women like it, half don't.

But certain groups want it banned, so it's now a hate crime in some areas.

War on men.

Do you have a link to that source. The figures I've seen are far less equal

I'm noticing a slight age split on this thread...so perhaps we'll all start enjoying it when we hit middle age.

Nope, I'm 50, my teenage daughter hates it too, in fact it's been going on since she was 14 - comments from adult males while she was wearing her school uniform

that's a whole diffrent thing...underage.

So something I disliked at 14 (which I did, whistles started when I grew tits) I'm supposed to suddenly see as a compliment once I hit 16 and was therefore legal?nope...under 16 it's illegal over...it's not "

Oh ok, so it's a compliment because it's not illegal then

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

you want a guy losing his job because he whistled at you?

I give up lol

Love to have been a fly on the wall when he told his Mrs and 4 kids that 1

Why do you struggle with the idea that most women don't want to hear your opinion on their body?"

Or maybe she just doesn't care

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"BBC survey reckons around half of women like it, half don't.

But certain groups want it banned, so it's now a hate crime in some areas.

War on men.

Do you have a link to that source. The figures I've seen are far less equal

I'm noticing a slight age split on this thread...so perhaps we'll all start enjoying it when we hit middle age.

Nope, I'm 50, my teenage daughter hates it too, in fact it's been going on since she was 14 - comments from adult males while she was wearing her school uniform

that's a whole diffrent thing...underage.

So something I disliked at 14 (which I did, whistles started when I grew tits) I'm supposed to suddenly see as a compliment once I hit 16 and was therefore legal?

Didn't you know, you became fair game when you hit the age of consent....

Just for fucks sake - don't wear tight clothes or they'll know that you really, really want sex. All the time. With whoever wants it."

If only we could go back to the "good old days" eh, when women just appreciated the attention and didn't moan so much

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"BBC survey reckons around half of women like it, half don't.

But certain groups want it banned, so it's now a hate crime in some areas.

War on men.

Do you have a link to that source. The figures I've seen are far less equal

I'm noticing a slight age split on this thread...so perhaps we'll all start enjoying it when we hit middle age.

Nope, I'm 50, my teenage daughter hates it too, in fact it's been going on since she was 14 - comments from adult males while she was wearing her school uniform

that's a whole diffrent thing...underage.

So something I disliked at 14 (which I did, whistles started when I grew tits) I'm supposed to suddenly see as a compliment once I hit 16 and was therefore legal?

Didn't you know, you became fair game when you hit the age of consent...."
yip it is..you put on your big girl pants and get a grip of the big bad world

Or...suck it up and enjoy life rather than see everyone against you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

you want a guy losing his job because he whistled at you?

I give up lol

Love to have been a fly on the wall when he told his Mrs and 4 kids that 1

Why do you struggle with the idea that most women don't want to hear your opinion on their body?"
Yeah she definitely isn't like you we have established that. You are saying most women but you don't know that they said about 50/ 50. I don't struggle I understand that feminists probably don't but not every woman is a feminist.

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By *irtyGirlWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

Well I'm sort of glad that the forum filters are alive and well.

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