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By *inaryGuy OP Man
over a year ago
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On the second date, she told me her father committed suicide when she was a baby, her older brother was having psychiatric treatment and her mother had a drink problem. She was fine but I couldn't take the risk. |
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"She opened up to you and you bolted? She took a risk by telling you and is probably better off for it."
OP I hope you never have to see some of the darker sides of life that others do. Cos guessing it's going to be a shock when u have to deal with it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can see where he's coming from. I've had/have mental ill-health and being around it hasn't been easy for my loved ones. I couldn't adequately support another with mental illness as I only just have the energy to manage my own. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"Perhaps she was testing you to see if you could handle her history before getting too involved. She clearly had a lucky escape  "
I don't think thats fair, not everyone can handle every situation that is thrown at them, I think it is better if people are honest and say they are not willing to/ can't.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When my ex in new year 2009 talked to my friend said she likes him and would he meet her he showed me all the messages.
He said he liked her but she was with one of his best friends and wouldn't do that to a friend.
Also she messaging my best mate asking where I was and she bet I was chatting to other women.
I finished her as soon as my friend showed me the messages asking him to meet her.
She blamed it all on my mate obviously.
Just waiting for people to Start calling me a liar as all other posts I say people do.
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"Read a post by a woman on Facebook that said her partner of 24 years won't marry her as she once had a threesome.
They had 4 kids and a house though. Weird. "
I don't get it , so because she had a threesome she wouldn't marry him ? But she's willing to have four kids with him ? Wtf loool |
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"Read a post by a woman on Facebook that said her partner of 24 years won't marry her as she once had a threesome.
They had 4 kids and a house though. Weird.
I don't get it , so because she had a threesome she wouldn't marry him ? But she's willing to have four kids with him ? Wtf loool"
It's him that wont and her that had the threesome. I know! Excuse or what? If that's what it comes to us lot are f*****d!! Haha |
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By *ndigo40Woman
over a year ago
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"On the second date, she told me her father committed suicide when she was a baby, her older brother was having psychiatric treatment and her mother had a drink problem. She was fine but I couldn't take the risk."
Doubt I be telling anyone who I meet for a second date / meet my life history |
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"Read a post by a woman on Facebook that said her partner of 24 years won't marry her as she once had a threesome.
They had 4 kids and a house though. Weird.
I don't get it , so because she had a threesome she wouldn't marry him ? But she's willing to have four kids with him ? Wtf loool
It's him that wont and her that had the threesome. I know! Excuse or what? If that's what it comes to us lot are f*****d!! Haha"
Shit I must be going to hell then |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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"Perhaps she was testing you to see if you could handle her history before getting too involved. She clearly had a lucky escape
I don't think thats fair, not everyone can handle every situation that is thrown at them, I think it is better if people are honest and say they are not willing to/ can't.
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She's possibly experienced people dumping her or whatever in the past after she's opened up about such personal stuff so now does it early on to save her own feelings.
You're right about some people not being able to deal with things like that though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Read a post by a woman on Facebook that said her partner of 24 years won't marry her as she once had a threesome.
They had 4 kids and a house though. Weird. "
More fool her for having 4 kids and getting a house with someone who didn't want to marry her, if marriage was important to her. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sounds like she dodged a bullet there? "
If someone told me that on a second date, before I'd got to know or care about them, I'd politely excuse myself from it too. If those things happened to someone I already loved and cared about, of course I'd stick with it, but to present it all to a virtual stranger I think it's perfectly reasonable for them to want out of the situation. |
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"When my ex in new year 2009 talked to my friend said she likes him and would he meet her he showed me all the messages.
He said he liked her but she was with one of his best friends and wouldn't do that to a friend.
Also she messaging my best mate asking where I was and she bet I was chatting to other women.
I finished her as soon as my friend showed me the messages asking him to meet her.
She blamed it all on my mate obviously.
Just waiting for people to Start calling me a liar as all other posts I say people do.
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i would be just as pissed off with my "mate" because he is most likely just shown you the ones he wants you to see.you said it yourself he said he liked her too.you have no idea of previous or after texts. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can see where he's coming from. I've had/have mental ill-health and being around it hasn't been easy for my loved ones. I couldn't adequately support another with mental illness as I only just have the energy to manage my own. "
Exactly, easy for people to say they would support someone when they've got no experience of it. Plus telling someone your entire family's issues on a second date? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Read a post by a woman on Facebook that said her partner of 24 years won't marry her as she once had a threesome.
They had 4 kids and a house though. Weird.
I don't get it , so because she had a threesome she wouldn't marry him ? But she's willing to have four kids with him ? Wtf loool"
Eh, if marriage was so important she should have insisted on it before getting pregnant. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"She wouldn't want to cut my toe nails ! I couldn't handle that rejection so I dumped her via skype with 'beat it' in the background
Good riddance ! "
You said I had to bite them off  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"She wouldn't want to cut my toe nails ! I couldn't handle that rejection so I dumped her via skype with 'beat it' in the background
Good riddance !
You said I had to bite them off "
Hell yeah! That's my kink ! |
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I was once dating a girl from Chadwell Heath.
It was all going well until my car broke down. I didn't have the finances at the time to fix it and I would have to get two buses to get to her house.
I am not a bus person so I told her the relationship was over. |
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By *tmmCouple
over a year ago
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I can understand that to be honest. Maybe she is getting it out early so as to protect herself from getting hurt later on because let's face it thats quite a bit of baggage and fine though she may be she'll need someone who can support her and not everyone can do that.
Fair play to you for not going along just for a shag as I know a few who would. |
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"I can understand that to be honest. Maybe she is getting it out early so as to protect herself from getting hurt later on because let's face it thats quite a bit of baggage and fine though she may be she'll need someone who can support her and not everyone can do that.
Fair play to you for not going along just for a shag as I know a few who would."
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"When my ex in new year 2009 talked to my friend said she likes him and would he meet her he showed me all the messages.
He said he liked her but she was with one of his best friends and wouldn't do that to a friend.
Also she messaging my best mate asking where I was and she bet I was chatting to other women.
I finished her as soon as my friend showed me the messages asking him to meet her.
She blamed it all on my mate obviously.
Just waiting for people to Start calling me a liar as all other posts I say people do.
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He's no friend either. He's obviously only shown you messages to put her in a bad light. She wasn't communicating with herself, did you see his responses.
If my friends partner hit on me my response would be sharp and swift, he'd be in no doubt he was being disrespectful and inappropriate and I'd let him know if it happened again I'd tell her. There'd be no message trail! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah I dumped some geezer 4 months after we met. He accidentally forget to tell me he was married  "
That's because your so sexy, there was not much blood rushing around the brain. That tends to make us guys forget things. It's not always our fault.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"On the second date, she told me her father committed suicide when she was a baby, her older brother was having psychiatric treatment and her mother had a drink problem. She was fine but I couldn't take the risk."
It was her father who had killed himself a couple of decades ago, her brother who was having psychiatric treatment and her mother who was a dipso....the fact that she was still upright and functional as a human being is a testament to her resilience. Shame you felt unable to stick around to find out what a strong woman you were dating. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's surprising how many people want to know the nitty gritty straight off, though. And will ask the most personal of questions even before they've met you.
Strange how there's that disparity |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Went the cinema on a date she fell asleep half way through the film and started snoring so embarrassing ppl was throwing popcorn at her, she still didn't wake up so in the end I got up and left her there  she never did txt me back lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sounds like she dodged a bullet there?
If someone told me that on a second date, before I'd got to know or care about them, I'd politely excuse myself from it too. If those things happened to someone I already loved and cared about, of course I'd stick with it, but to present it all to a virtual stranger I think it's perfectly reasonable for them to want out of the situation."
she may have had bad experiences with telling people after a while - so 'friends' might have advised her to be straight open and honest from the start - probably never a right way to do this until she meets the right person who will take it however its told |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sounds like she dodged a bullet there?
If someone told me that on a second date, before I'd got to know or care about them, I'd politely excuse myself from it too. If those things happened to someone I already loved and cared about, of course I'd stick with it, but to present it all to a virtual stranger I think it's perfectly reasonable for them to want out of the situation.
she may have had bad experiences with telling people after a while - so 'friends' might have advised her to be straight open and honest from the start - probably never a right way to do this until she meets the right person who will take it however its told "
I think that's key - the "right person" - in this instance she wouldn't have been the right person for me and I wouldn't be the right person for her. So on that basis, yeah it's probably a good move. |
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By *in4sumMan
over a year ago
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"It's surprising how many people want to know the nitty gritty straight off, though. And will ask the most personal of questions even before they've met you.
Strange how there's that disparity "
A full criminal record check can be a lifesaver |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's surprising how many people want to know the nitty gritty straight off, though. And will ask the most personal of questions even before they've met you.
Strange how there's that disparity
A full criminal record check can be a lifesaver "
Unfortunately only valid on the date issued. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I got dumped once cos I didn't throw a bitch fit.
We had a sort of open relationship and anyway he went to dinner with his ex before she left the country. I told him to pack condoms but he assured me it wouldn't happen and was just dinner. Did I believe it? Course not. Fully expected them to have sex and well they did.
When he told me I was just like meh, told u it would happen.
He didn't like my reaction and felt I needed to be heart broken and swear at him and all that crap. I was too laid back in an open relationship for his liking 
I also got dumped for being too fat once. Shit happens. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When she wanted me to alter the music I listened to / liked i knew things were about to end.
I see that as something unique to the person and you can't or shouldn't 'change' that |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I got dumped for not being "black enough" she wanted a yardi, and that's sooo not me, so she gave me my marching orders.
Best part was when I reacted reasonably, and didn't kick up a fuss, she tried to give me a lecture about how I was a traitor to my race, and if I was a "real black man" id of smacked her up the head and told her about herself, I actually laughed as I walked away, I hope she found what she was looking for  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I got dumped once cos I didn't throw a bitch fit.
We had a sort of open relationship and anyway he went to dinner with his ex before she left the country. I told him to pack condoms but he assured me it wouldn't happen and was just dinner. Did I believe it? Course not. Fully expected them to have sex and well they did.
When he told me I was just like meh, told u it would happen.
He didn't like my reaction and felt I needed to be heart broken and swear at him and all that crap. I was too laid back in an open relationship for his liking
I also got dumped for being too fat once. Shit happens. "
can we have a open relationship!! And darlin your fine don't suppose you need me to tell you that either |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I got dumped for not being "black enough" she wanted a yardi, and that's sooo not me, so she gave me my marching orders.
Best part was when I reacted reasonably, and didn't kick up a fuss, she tried to give me a lecture about how I was a traitor to my race, and if I was a "real black man" id of smacked her up the head and told her about herself, I actually laughed as I walked away, I hope she found what she was looking for "
You don't need that shit in your life lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"can we have a open relationship!! And darlin your fine don't suppose you need me to tell you that either "
Well that's not an offer u tend to get on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
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A girl I was seeing went to toilet nude from my bed .
She crossed the landing and I saw something fall to the floor that she quickly picked up and ran to the toilet with.
A small piece of poop had dropped out of her arse on the way to the toilet.
True story
She did actually say afterwards that it was my fault it happened because I had ruined her sphincter muscles with all the anal sex we had.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A girl I was seeing went to toilet nude from my bed .
She crossed the landing and I saw something fall to the floor that she quickly picked up and ran to the toilet with.
A small piece of poop had dropped out of her arse on the way to the toilet.
True story
She did actually say afterwards that it was my fault it happened because I had ruined her sphincter muscles with all the anal sex we had. "
And you dumped her because of that? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A girl I was seeing went to toilet nude from my bed .
She crossed the landing and I saw something fall to the floor that she quickly picked up and ran to the toilet with.
A small piece of poop had dropped out of her arse on the way to the toilet.
True story
She did actually say afterwards that it was my fault it happened because I had ruined her sphincter muscles with all the anal sex we had.
And you dumped her because of that? "
I just didn't fancy her anymore after that
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No quite the same but if I'm chatting or messaging a girl who responds in txt spk it turns me off instantly no matter how attractive she is "
Lol. Wuu2?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Went to cinema with a group of friends and bf, half way through film he started touching up one of our friends next to him, to which I waited to the film to finish as I wanted to see it, well it was Gladiator! Then I dumped him in the carpark!
I've never been dumped |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A girl I was seeing went to toilet nude from my bed .
She crossed the landing and I saw something fall to the floor that she quickly picked up and ran to the toilet with.
A small piece of poop had dropped out of her arse on the way to the toilet.
True story
She did actually say afterwards that it was my fault it happened because I had ruined her sphincter muscles with all the anal sex we had.
And you dumped her because of that? "
if a guy shit on my carpet id dump him too |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A girl I was seeing went to toilet nude from my bed .
She crossed the landing and I saw something fall to the floor that she quickly picked up and ran to the toilet with.
A small piece of poop had dropped out of her arse on the way to the toilet.
True story
She did actually say afterwards that it was my fault it happened because I had ruined her sphincter muscles with all the anal sex we had.
And you dumped her because of that?
if a guy shit on my carpet id dump him too "
So you'd dump him for dumping near you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A girl I was seeing went to toilet nude from my bed .
She crossed the landing and I saw something fall to the floor that she quickly picked up and ran to the toilet with.
A small piece of poop had dropped out of her arse on the way to the toilet.
True story
She did actually say afterwards that it was my fault it happened because I had ruined her sphincter muscles with all the anal sex we had.
And you dumped her because of that?
if a guy shit on my carpet id dump him too "
I don't think she deliberately had a shit on his carpet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I saw my ex the other day actually on the escalator in Tesco's, she was going up, I was going down.
Me: Oh...Hi [name]
Her: You can go fuck yourself.
Thing is...She's kind of sexy when she's like that, it's that inner bitch that attracted me to her in the first place...aha .  |
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By *SPrincessWoman
over a year ago
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"I saw my ex the other day actually on the escalator in Tesco's, she was going up, I was going down.
Me: Oh...Hi [name]
Her: You can go fuck yourself.
Thing is...She's kind of sexy when she's like that, it's that inner bitch that attracted me to her in the first place...aha . "
Haha I like this woman |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I saw my ex the other day actually on the escalator in Tesco's, she was going up, I was going down.
Me: Oh...Hi [name]
Her: You can go fuck yourself.
Thing is...She's kind of sexy when she's like that, it's that inner bitch that attracted me to her in the first place...aha .
Haha I like this woman "
You know what I meannnnnn! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A girl I was seeing went to toilet nude from my bed .
She crossed the landing and I saw something fall to the floor that she quickly picked up and ran to the toilet with.
A small piece of poop had dropped out of her arse on the way to the toilet.
True story
She did actually say afterwards that it was my fault it happened because I had ruined her sphincter muscles with all the anal sex we had.
And you dumped her because of that?
if a guy shit on my carpet id dump him too
I don't think she deliberately had a shit on his carpet "
nah i used to put my dogs out for that kind of behaviour |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I got dumped for grinding my teeth and farting when I sleep......
I dumped a girl I loved once because I was broke ..... she liked the finer things in life and dating me was becoming a chore, she never complained but I saw it in her face... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I got dumped for not being "black enough" she wanted a yardi, and that's sooo not me, so she gave me my marching orders.
Best part was when I reacted reasonably, and didn't kick up a fuss, she tried to give me a lecture about how I was a traitor to my race, and if I was a "real black man" id of smacked her up the head and told her about herself, I actually laughed as I walked away, I hope she found what she was looking for "
It's crazy but there are people like that out there....women that press your buttons and aren't happy until they get a slap as it gives them the excuse they need to play the victim as they're not happy in themselves n the only pleasure they get is from bending the ear of any sap that will listen to their tale of woe.....how hard their life is....how their man batters them n what a bastard he is.....they're like professional victims!
A mates ex wife wasn't happy unless she was the centre of attention n everyone present was listening to her 'problems'....if you had a problem she'd always have to one up you with her 'much worse' problem!
N these non problems could've been easily sorted,but she didn't want solutions as then she would have fuck all to moan about!
For instance she was moaning about her upstairs neighbor (who when she was there she was nice as pie to!)
Whinging about her visiting unannounced n just walking in......"so lock your door",I helpfully suggested!
"But then she chaps the door for ages n won't go away" she said.
"So don't answer it,or tell her you're busy n it's not a good time" I suggested as another solution........"but,but,but!!!" was all I got,there's just no helping somebody that thrives on drama n loves playing the victim!
She told me one of her exes used to batter her n lock her in the cupboard........now obviously that's reprehensible behaviour but I did think to myself......can't say I blame him really! |
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"On the second date, she told me her father committed suicide when she was a baby, her older brother was having psychiatric treatment and her mother had a drink problem. She was fine but I couldn't take the risk."
Risk of what??? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I got dumped for not being "black enough" she wanted a yardi, and that's sooo not me, so she gave me my marching orders.
Best part was when I reacted reasonably, and didn't kick up a fuss, she tried to give me a lecture about how I was a traitor to my race, and if I was a "real black man" id of smacked her up the head and told her about herself, I actually laughed as I walked away, I hope she found what she was looking for "
Curious, was the woman black herself?
Poor misunderstood OP! His date said "I am fine but you can't take the risk", ie a variation of the its-not-you-its-me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I got dumped for not being "black enough" she wanted a yardi, and that's sooo not me, so she gave me my marching orders.
Best part was when I reacted reasonably, and didn't kick up a fuss, she tried to give me a lecture about how I was a traitor to my race, and if I was a "real black man" id of smacked her up the head and told her about herself, I actually laughed as I walked away, I hope she found what she was looking for
Curious, was the woman black herself?
Poor misunderstood OP! His date said "I am fine but you can't take the risk", ie a variation of the its-not-you-its-me."
No she was white, she just had some expectations |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Because some of the girls I work with wear few clothing. I got accused of sleeping with them in back stage areas before and after shows. Said she couldnt handle the attention I sometimes got.
To be fair I see her point but I was not acknowledging the attention that way and I have never got involved with a work colleague.
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