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By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago
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Why oh why do a lot of you insist on writing crap like "hey" "hey gorgeous", "fancy it? " "what you doing?", "you should let me lick you", "I'm the best you're gonna get" ........as first messages? ?????
I'm not saying write war and peace but if someone has gone to the effort of writing something in their profile at least take time to read it before messaging.
*(Sorry I'm in a grump. ...rant Wednesday) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A little profile reading and something unique to that person helps...
Nice shoes lets fuck doesn't seem to work  "
If a woman send me that, it definitely would work !! I am easy |
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"A little profile reading and something unique to that person helps...
Nice shoes lets fuck doesn't seem to work
If a woman send me that, it definitely would work !! I am easy "
Haha yes but you do have good taste in shoes so it's relevant!  |
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By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"A little profile reading and something unique to that person helps...
Nice shoes lets fuck doesn't seem to work "
When I'm sending the first message I will read a profile and take something interesting or funny from it to send.
I always think in aclub would you just walk uo to someone and say "wannafuck"....I mean you could but probably get a slap or kicked out. |
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By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"How does "gizzashsgyabitch" sound?
Sounds like I'm eating a plum. How about "gizzashagyabitch"?"
I'd just hit delete ....then be on a thread of "why do women just delete" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A little profile reading and something unique to that person helps...
Nice shoes lets fuck doesn't seem to work
When I'm sending the first message I will read a profile and take something interesting or funny from it to send.
I always think in aclub would you just walk uo to someone and say "wannafuck"....I mean you could but probably get a slap or kicked out. "
We are of the same mind then.
I treat fab like being in a bar or a club. Not a sex time. For me it I just a tool for people with similar interests. Manners cost nothing yet get you everything! |
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By *ay19720Man
over a year ago
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From my _iew..I have done just as u said..read profile. And iput in a little quote from it so they know I have read it..but u can write a nice intro and it just gets binned..after about 1000 you write it wears..but I have found the forum gets you chatting better..its more social.
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By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago
the gym and random places |
"A little profile reading and something unique to that person helps...
Nice shoes lets fuck doesn't seem to work
When I'm sending the first message I will read a profile and take something interesting or funny from it to send.
I always think in aclub would you just walk uo to someone and say "wannafuck"....I mean you could but probably get a slap or kicked out.
We are of the same mind then.
I treat fab like being in a bar or a club. Not a sex time. For me it I just a tool for people with similar interests. Manners cost nothing yet get you everything!"
Precisely! We all love sex...If we didn't we wouldn't be here. I think it enables you to get more of the sex you enjoy as opposed ro a random pull with whom there could be no compatability. Nothing worse than meeting someone out, getting on and then when you do get round to it they turn round amd say "I don't do oral" or "I only like missionary" |
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By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Tickles me when we get scousers messaging "what use up to" "
I like the different colloquialisms! Esp if you've chatted a cpl times. It makes the chat a bit more personal in a way |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A little profile reading and something unique to that person helps...
Nice shoes lets fuck doesn't seem to work
When I'm sending the first message I will read a profile and take something interesting or funny from it to send.
I always think in aclub would you just walk uo to someone and say "wannafuck"....I mean you could but probably get a slap or kicked out.
We are of the same mind then.
I treat fab like being in a bar or a club. Not a sex time. For me it I just a tool for people with similar interests. Manners cost nothing yet get you everything!
Precisely! We all love sex...If we didn't we wouldn't be here. I think it enables you to get more of the sex you enjoy as opposed ro a random pull with whom there could be no compatability. Nothing worse than meeting someone out, getting on and then when you do get round to it they turn round amd say "I don't do oral" or "I only like missionary" "
Some of us hardy even get the time to even go out haha, The joys of having to work for a living and being on call x |
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By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago
the gym and random places |
"A little profile reading and something unique to that person helps...
Nice shoes lets fuck doesn't seem to work
When I'm sending the first message I will read a profile and take something interesting or funny from it to send.
I always think in aclub would you just walk uo to someone and say "wannafuck"....I mean you could but probably get a slap or kicked out.
We are of the same mind then.
I treat fab like being in a bar or a club. Not a sex time. For me it I just a tool for people with similar interests. Manners cost nothing yet get you everything!
Precisely! We all love sex...If we didn't we wouldn't be here. I think it enables you to get more of the sex you enjoy as opposed ro a random pull with whom there could be no compatability. Nothing worse than meeting someone out, getting on and then when you do get round to it they turn round amd say "I don't do oral" or "I only like missionary"
Some of us hardy even get the time to even go out haha, The joys of having to work for a living and being on call x"
Work 40 hrs plusnsingle mum so my social venturing out occurs it's incredibly rare. 3 nights out last year. Hardly a rock n roll lifestyle |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A little profile reading and something unique to that person helps...
Nice shoes lets fuck doesn't seem to work
When I'm sending the first message I will read a profile and take something interesting or funny from it to send.
I always think in aclub would you just walk uo to someone and say "wannafuck"....I mean you could but probably get a slap or kicked out.
We are of the same mind then.
I treat fab like being in a bar or a club. Not a sex time. For me it I just a tool for people with similar interests. Manners cost nothing yet get you everything!
Precisely! We all love sex...If we didn't we wouldn't be here. I think it enables you to get more of the sex you enjoy as opposed ro a random pull with whom there could be no compatability. Nothing worse than meeting someone out, getting on and then when you do get round to it they turn round amd say "I don't do oral" or "I only like missionary"
Some of us hardy even get the time to even go out haha, The joys of having to work for a living and being on call x
Work 40 hrs plusnsingle mum so my social venturing out occurs it's incredibly rare. 3 nights out last year. Hardly a rock n roll lifestyle "
Try nearly 60 some weeks and that's days nights and sometimes middle of the night too. Not knowing when you might get to finish and sleep becomes a hobby. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why oh why do a lot of you insist on writing crap like "hey" "hey gorgeous", "fancy it? " "what you doing?", "you should let me lick you", "I'm the best you're gonna get" ........as first messages? ?????
I'm not saying write war and peace but if someone has gone to the effort of writing something in their profile at least take time to read it before messaging.
*(Sorry I'm in a grump. ...rant Wednesday)"
Because sending a generic poorly thought out message like that is way easier than reading a profile and drafting a decent personal message that will probably get ignored anyway. At least I guess that's what many men think.
of course the easy way to stop those messages us bluck single men and do your own searching but where's the fun in that?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Op. do you fancy it?
I fancy jumping on a plane if that's what 'it' infers to! "
We're simple creatures. We like to keep things simple. Short and sweet. |
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By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago
the gym and random places |
"A little profile reading and something unique to that person helps...
Nice shoes lets fuck doesn't seem to work
When I'm sending the first message I will read a profile and take something interesting or funny from it to send.
I always think in aclub would you just walk uo to someone and say "wannafuck"....I mean you could but probably get a slap or kicked out.
We are of the same mind then.
I treat fab like being in a bar or a club. Not a sex time. For me it I just a tool for people with similar interests. Manners cost nothing yet get you everything!
Precisely! We all love sex...If we didn't we wouldn't be here. I think it enables you to get more of the sex you enjoy as opposed ro a random pull with whom there could be no compatability. Nothing worse than meeting someone out, getting on and then when you do get round to it they turn round amd say "I don't do oral" or "I only like missionary"
Some of us hardy even get the time to even go out haha, The joys of having to work for a living and being on call x
Work 40 hrs plusnsingle mum so my social venturing out occurs it's incredibly rare. 3 nights out last year. Hardly a rock n roll lifestyle
Try nearly 60 some weeks and that's days nights and sometimes middle of the night too. Not knowing when you might get to finish and sleep becomes a hobby. "
Yeah I did that for years it's a thankless task and my kids fell out with me. At the end of the day you have to do what's best for you amd your family. I wouldn't do it again as you get no thanks for it...what did you do in life "I worked and didn't have a life"
..no thank you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"From my _iew..I have done just as u said..read profile. And iput in a little quote from it so they know I have read it..but u can write a nice intro and it just gets binned..after about 1000 you write it wears..but I have found the forum gets you chatting better..its more social.
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Right serious question, how do you decide who is worthy of a decent message? We have guys say this to us all the time, I've sent 100's of decent messages and got nowhere so why choose our profile to change?
Do you look at the woman and think she is worth a decent message or she isn't worth a decent message?? Just curious |
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By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Hi OP 
Hope you are well, how about we grab a drink sometime. Maybe I could try and pin you down "
Morning Miss honey!
Would like a drink sometime. Haha Let's see who can pin who |
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By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Why oh why do a lot of you insist on writing crap like "hey" "hey gorgeous", "fancy it? " "what you doing?", "you should let me lick you", "I'm the best you're gonna get" ........as first messages? ?????
I'm not saying write war and peace but if someone has gone to the effort of writing something in their profile at least take time to read it before messaging.
*(Sorry I'm in a grump. ...rant Wednesday)
Because sending a generic poorly thought out message like that is way easier than reading a profile and drafting a decent personal message that will probably get ignored anyway. At least I guess that's what many men think.
of course the easy way to stop those messages us bluck single men and do your own searching but where's the fun in that?
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A poor message reeks of poor intellect or desperation tho. Hence so many get deleted. As I say doesn't have to be war amd peace.
Something simple such as a funny joke or they might have something funny or quite often a tag line if you've read to here quote it . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"From my _iew..I have done just as u said..read profile. And iput in a little quote from it so they know I have read it..but u can write a nice intro and it just gets binned..after about 1000 you write it wears..but I have found the forum gets you chatting better..its more social.
Right serious question, how do you decide who is worthy of a decent message? We have guys say this to us all the time, I've sent 100's of decent messages and got nowhere so why choose our profile to change?
Do you look at the woman and think she is worth a decent message or she isn't worth a decent message?? Just curious"
This is quite an expansive questions and as a single male I take my different factors into consideration.
Preference, history, actually reading the profile, Do I even find them physically attractive, can they hold my interest, Do we seek the same.
Alas this is not an extensive list but yes some thought does do into it before I message or wink |
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"Hi OP
Hope you are well, how about we grab a drink sometime. Maybe I could try and pin you down
Morning Miss honey!
Would like a drink sometime. Haha Let's see who can pin who "
It could turn into a bit of a tussle, I should apologise now if I wrap my thighs around your shoulders |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why oh why do a lot of you insist on writing crap like "hey" "hey gorgeous", "fancy it? " "what you doing?", "you should let me lick you", "I'm the best you're gonna get" ........as first messages? ?????
I'm not saying write war and peace but if someone has gone to the effort of writing something in their profile at least take time to read it before messaging.
*(Sorry I'm in a grump. ...rant Wednesday)"
All I do is introduce myself and say I won't |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why oh why do a lot of you insist on writing crap like "hey" "hey gorgeous", "fancy it? " "what you doing?", "you should let me lick you", "I'm the best you're gonna get" ........as first messages? ?????
I'm not saying write war and peace but if someone has gone to the effort of writing something in their profile at least take time to read it before messaging.
*(Sorry I'm in a grump. ...rant Wednesday)"
You should try to forge a humorous 1st message based on profile text (when you can message them that is.  ) then ask an open question to elicit a non one-word answer. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What would you like them to write before it's deleted without reading? "
I saw somebody's status read similar to ' just had to mass delete my inbox, sorry I didn't read them guys, mail me again'.  .
Why would you, if it will just get deleted?
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"Why oh why do a lot of you insist on writing crap like "hey" "hey gorgeous", "fancy it? " "what you doing?", "you should let me lick you", "I'm the best you're gonna get" ........as first messages? ?????
I'm not saying write war and peace but if someone has gone to the effort of writing something in their profile at least take time to read it before messaging.
*(Sorry I'm in a grump. ...rant Wednesday)
You should try to forge a humorous 1st message based on profile text (when you can message them that is. ) then ask an open question to elicit a non one-word answer."
How about "gizzashagyabitch....or what"? |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Why don't you just block single men and do the searching yourself if it's causing enough frustration to start a thread about it? 'Cause you can't stop men trying however they see fit but you can stop it being a moan.
And then you can have that witty conversation you evidently desire. So win win. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I agree it is hard..I often struggle to say do you fancy a meet.
There are a few people in my fancy a meet list but I am to shy to ask them as not sure
So sometimes I just chat and flirt"
Hopefully you'll bump into them sometime and the sparks fly. |
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By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Hi OP
Hope you are well, how about we grab a drink sometime. Maybe I could try and pin you down
Morning Miss honey!
Would like a drink sometime. Haha Let's see who can pin who
It could turn into a bit of a tussle, I should apologise now if I wrap my thighs around your shoulders "
Oh I like those kinds of apologies! Most mornings should start with them |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"Why oh why do a lot of you insist on writing crap like "hey" "hey gorgeous", "fancy it? " "what you doing?", "you should let me lick you", "I'm the best you're gonna get" ........as first messages? ?????
I'm not saying write war and peace but if someone has gone to the effort of writing something in their profile at least take time to read it before messaging.
*(Sorry I'm in a grump. ...rant Wednesday)"
thank you, that will help me. |
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By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Why don't you just block single men and do the searching yourself if it's causing enough frustration to start a thread about it? 'Cause you can't stop men trying however they see fit but you can stop it being a moan.
And then you can have that witty conversation you evidently desire. So win win."
I hsve done in the past. It seems to be very cyclical on here. Just seems there's little effort put in and all you see are guys moaning on forum or status saying "women don't reply " |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I prefer to start with a short message that leads to a conversation. That leads to to both parties learning a bit about eachother and hopefully more. It works 1/10 times. Haha. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What would you like them to write before it's deleted without reading?
I saw somebody's status read similar to ' just had to mass delete my inbox, sorry I didn't read them guys, mail me again'. .
Why would you, if it will just get deleted?
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Yes. At least then you know that you weren't deleted just because they looked at my profile! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've sent messages out where I've read the profile, made a comment about something within their profile, but it either gets left for it to be auto deleted or they read it, leave it 5 mins then delete, so it's a lose lose situation |
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By *hil39Man
over a year ago
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"Why oh why do a lot of you insist on writing crap like "hey" "hey gorgeous", "fancy it? " "what you doing?", "you should let me lick you", "I'm the best you're gonna get" ........as first messages? ?????
I'm not saying write war and peace but if someone has gone to the effort of writing something in their profile at least take time to read it before messaging.
*(Sorry I'm in a grump. ...rant Wednesday)"
It is always difficult to know what to say with first message, I am always polite and look to see if I can comment on common interests etc, however I'm not the best at writing and it can take me a while so I do try to keep it brief as I would say over eighty per cent of my messages are just deleted with no reply at all. Even if I get a thanks but no thanks at least I felt it was read, lol.  |
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By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"I prefer to start with a short message that leads to a conversation. That leads to to both parties learning a bit about eachother and hopefully more. It works 1/10 times. Haha. "
I don't send huge first messages but I send more than hey |
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By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"I've sent messages out where I've read the profile, made a comment about something within their profile, but it either gets left for it to be auto deleted or they read it, leave it 5 mins then delete, so it's a lose lose situation"
I do have to agree. Women are awful. I've messaged some in the past and ita just deleted. They are pretty rude sometimes |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I just wrote a couple of hundred words to post on this thread, in the form of a well thought out and original response.
But I just deleted it before I posted it because I couldn't be bothered to read it.
Fancy a Fuck?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've sent messages out where I've read the profile, made a comment about something within their profile, but it either gets left for it to be auto deleted or they read it, leave it 5 mins then delete, so it's a lose lose situation
I do have to agree. Women are awful. I've messaged some in the past and ita just deleted. They are pretty rude sometimes "
I still have 6 unopened messages in my sent, I messaged a couple about a social being organised, again read, deleted and ignored. |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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At the same time as hearing ladies say "What's with crap 'Hi' messages" we have others post "Bulk deleted today, unread, sorry" or "I have 300 unread, dunno when I'm going to get time". We also get guys saying "Why do my messages stay unread or get deleted unread?" "I'm fed up with my polite, on target messages getting ignored"..
So, the ladies want the guys to sit & ponder a decent message relative to them as individuals whilst bulk deleting messages thereby treating said male individuals as "Just another cock" (In more ways than one).
The end result for some males is they get the "Its probably going straight in the bin" blues, so they start sending "Hi how's things" as an icebreaker first so as not to waste their time and we are back to the square one.
There is no better adage for everyone on here than "Treat others as you'd want to be treated yourself".
But basically if you don't like the messages, block everyone, grow some, & do the contacting yourself...If you think about it the more women that do this eventually the fewer twats joining there will be as the crap profile no pic merchants would in all likelihood never be messaged and they'd bugger off, soon they wouldn't join in the first place as the site would "Get known" as somewhere where fools fear to tread.
Within a few years we could all be perusing great profiles with sonnets of Shakespearian quality..
Now, Where's that flying pig
Morning by the way..
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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"The last 3 intro messages I got from couples/single females consisted of
1.where u from
2. How was xmas
3. Hey
The rest of you aren't exactly word smiths most of the time  "
Yep, makes me die tbh..
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By (user no longer on site)
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"At the same time as hearing ladies say "What's with crap 'Hi' messages" we have others post "Bulk deleted today, unread, sorry" or "I have 300 unread, dunno when I'm going to get time". We also get guys saying "Why do my messages stay unread or get deleted unread?" "I'm fed up with my polite, on target messages getting ignored"..
So, the ladies want the guys to sit & ponder a decent message relative to them as individuals whilst bulk deleting messages thereby treating said male individuals as "Just another cock" (In more ways than one).
The end result for some males is they get the "Its probably going straight in the bin" blues, so they start sending "Hi how's things" as an icebreaker first so as not to waste their time and we are back to the square one.
There is no better adage for everyone on here than "Treat others as you'd want to be treated yourself".
But basically if you don't like the messages, block everyone, grow some, & do the contacting yourself...If you think about it the more women that do this eventually the fewer twats joining there will be as the crap profile no pic merchants would in all likelihood never be messaged and they'd bugger off, soon they wouldn't join in the first place as the site would "Get known" as somewhere where fools fear to tread.
Within a few years we could all be perusing great profiles with sonnets of Shakespearian quality..
Now, Where's that flying pig
Morning by the way..
S
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Well said, straight to the point!! |
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By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"At the same time as hearing ladies say "What's with crap 'Hi' messages" we have others post "Bulk deleted today, unread, sorry" or "I have 300 unread, dunno when I'm going to get time". We also get guys saying "Why do my messages stay unread or get deleted unread?" "I'm fed up with my polite, on target messages getting ignored"..
So, the ladies want the guys to sit & ponder a decent message relative to them as individuals whilst bulk deleting messages thereby treating said male individuals as "Just another cock" (In more ways than one).
The end result for some males is they get the "Its probably going straight in the bin" blues, so they start sending "Hi how's things" as an icebreaker first so as not to waste their time and we are back to the square one.
There is no better adage for everyone on here than "Treat others as you'd want to be treated yourself".
But basically if you don't like the messages, block everyone, grow some, & do the contacting yourself...If you think about it the more women that do this eventually the fewer twats joining there will be as the crap profile no pic merchants would in all likelihood never be messaged and they'd bugger off, soon they wouldn't join in the first place as the site would "Get known" as somewhere where fools fear to tread.
Within a few years we could all be perusing great profiles with sonnets of Shakespearian quality..
Now, Where's that flying pig
Morning by the way..
S
Morning .....I think you'll find my pair is considerably larger than most. I shouldn't have to block everyone. I do send first messages
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"A little profile reading and something unique to that person helps...
Nice shoes lets fuck doesn't seem to work
When I'm sending the first message I will read a profile and take something interesting or funny from it to send.
I always think in aclub would you just walk uo to someone and say "wannafuck"....I mean you could but probably get a slap or kicked out. "
Well.......
I once asked a guy in a club if he fancied a fuck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love carefully crafting a first message that shows a bit of my personality and titillates the recipient.
If anyone would like a demo, pop me a wink and I'll send you something |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've sent messages out where I've read the profile, made a comment about something within their profile, but it either gets left for it to be auto deleted or they read it, leave it 5 mins then delete, so it's a lose lose situation
I do have to agree. Women are awful. I've messaged some in the past and ita just deleted. They are pretty rude sometimes "
I think deleting a message from someone you're not interested in is considerably less rude than starting a thread slagging off men for the messages they send. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm happy with a short first message. People would be well advised to spend the time putting effort into their photos and profiles because I've looked at that and made my mind up before I've even opened the message.
I don't want some carefully crafted, personalised epic, because if I don't like their profile it's getting deleted. I'm "rude" like that. |
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"At the same time as hearing ladies say "What's with crap 'Hi' messages" we have others post "Bulk deleted today, unread, sorry" or "I have 300 unread, dunno when I'm going to get time". We also get guys saying "Why do my messages stay unread or get deleted unread?" "I'm fed up with my polite, on target messages getting ignored"..
So, the ladies want the guys to sit & ponder a decent message relative to them as individuals whilst bulk deleting messages thereby treating said male individuals as "Just another cock" (In more ways than one).
The end result for some males is they get the "Its probably going straight in the bin" blues, so they start sending "Hi how's things" as an icebreaker first so as not to waste their time and we are back to the square one.
There is no better adage for everyone on here than "Treat others as you'd want to be treated yourself".
But basically if you don't like the messages, block everyone, grow some, & do the contacting yourself...If you think about it the more women that do this eventually the fewer twats joining there will be as the crap profile no pic merchants would in all likelihood never be messaged and they'd bugger off, soon they wouldn't join in the first place as the site would "Get known" as somewhere where fools fear to tread.
Within a few years we could all be perusing great profiles with sonnets of Shakespearian quality..
Now, Where's that flying pig
Morning by the way..
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I came across a very nice posting in a thread I was following, checked out the profile and found we had other things in common. I set about a message to tell them where I think we connect/ed and that I found their profile very intriguing.
As yet it's unread, but I am still currently hopeful, and yet fearful of the day I may get sick of doing that and just go for option b.
Message sender "luv your profile, ya fancy sum bby. Lolz!" and hit [ctrl-A] to send to all in thread.
I dont think I'd like me then |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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"I'm happy with a short first message. People would be well advised to spend the time putting effort into their photos and profiles because I've looked at that and made my mind up before I've even opened the message.
I don't want some carefully crafted, personalised epic, because if I don't like their profile it's getting deleted. I'm "rude" like that."
Completely agree we just say stuff regarding their profile ask them to take a peek at ours if they like then chat..Simple really,
It doesn't work for those that want to be wanted if you know what I mean. The ones that do not want a meet of mutual respect. They want the other party to virtually be on their knees, so they would never stoop to a message saying "Yeah you guys look good, I fancy some of you" because it removes some of their imagined power.
They do exist, we've crossed paths with one or two on here.
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"I'm happy with a short first message. People would be well advised to spend the time putting effort into their photos and profiles because I've looked at that and made my mind up before I've even opened the message.
I don't want some carefully crafted, personalised epic, because if I don't like their profile it's getting deleted. I'm "rude" like that.
Completely agree we just say stuff regarding their profile ask them to take a peek at ours if they like then chat..Simple really,
It doesn't work for those that want to be wanted if you know what I mean. The ones that do not want a meet of mutual respect. They want the other party to virtually be on their knees, so they would never stoop to a message saying "Yeah you guys look good, I fancy some of you" because it removes some of their imagined power.
They do exist, we've crossed paths with one or two on here.
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Interesting... I'm so naive |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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"I'm happy with a short first message. People would be well advised to spend the time putting effort into their photos and profiles because I've looked at that and made my mind up before I've even opened the message.
I don't want some carefully crafted, personalised epic, because if I don't like their profile it's getting deleted. I'm "rude" like that.
Completely agree we just say stuff regarding their profile ask them to take a peek at ours if they like then chat..Simple really,
It doesn't work for those that want to be wanted if you know what I mean. The ones that do not want a meet of mutual respect. They want the other party to virtually be on their knees, so they would never stoop to a message saying "Yeah you guys look good, I fancy some of you" because it removes some of their imagined power.
They do exist, we've crossed paths with one or two on here.
S
Interesting... I'm so naive "
Met one in a club "Oh hi your HmmmMaybe aren't you,you messaged me, why did you not message me again?".
Seriously, i'm not joking..
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It doesn't work for those that want to be wanted if you know what I mean. The ones that do not want a meet of mutual respect. They want the other party to virtually be on their knees, so they would never stoop to a message saying "Yeah you guys look good, I fancy some of you" because it removes some of their imagined power.
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I don't know what you mean? |
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"I'm happy with a short first message. People would be well advised to spend the time putting effort into their photos and profiles because I've looked at that and made my mind up before I've even opened the message.
I don't want some carefully crafted, personalised epic, because if I don't like their profile it's getting deleted. I'm "rude" like that.
Completely agree we just say stuff regarding their profile ask them to take a peek at ours if they like then chat..Simple really,
It doesn't work for those that want to be wanted if you know what I mean. The ones that do not want a meet of mutual respect. They want the other party to virtually be on their knees, so they would never stoop to a message saying "Yeah you guys look good, I fancy some of you" because it removes some of their imagined power.
They do exist, we've crossed paths with one or two on here.
S
Interesting... I'm so naive
Met one in a club "Oh hi your HmmmMaybe aren't you,you messaged me, why did you not message me again?".
Seriously, i'm not joking..
S
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Blimey! I mean I get that not been messaged back feels a bit shit, because it does, so this and I guess a general lack of appreciation of when to take the hint explain a lot. I know I've been guilty of the latter, and sending rubbish messages (retrospective realisation) so apologies if you've been on the receiving end; I think I'm getting the hang of it, but time will tell. |
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"Why oh why do a lot of you insist on writing crap like "hey" "hey gorgeous", "fancy it? " "what you doing?", "you should let me lick you", "I'm the best you're gonna get" ........as first messages? ?????
I'm not saying write war and peace but if someone has gone to the effort of writing something in their profile at least take time to read it before messaging.
*(Sorry I'm in a grump. ...rant Wednesday)"
I tend to take aspects of the profile and include it in a message - or if we've been chatting on the forums, message about that.
It's amazing the amount of times I've sent a message though and someone has replied back "no copy and paste messages" and then blocked... that's funny. |
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"What would you like to start the conversation with? I always start with politeness and if you delete that then no point messing with them anyway "
Hmmmm... how about "Hello fellow member of fab, I notice from your profile you have tits and a vagina" (shows profile interest) "I cordially request that you accept my invitation, to part your legs and allow me to insert my cock into aforementioned vagina, pictures of cock attached" (uses polite words, cock pics must of course be taken over a toilet to provide scale)  |
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"What would you like to start the conversation with? I always start with politeness and if you delete that then no point messing with them anyway
Hmmmm... how about "Hello fellow member of fab, I notice from your profile you have tits and a vagina" (shows profile interest) "I cordially request that you accept my invitation, to part your legs and allow me to insert my cock into aforementioned vagina, pictures of cock attached" (uses polite words, cock pics must of course be taken over a toilet to provide scale) "
Do you really think that would work |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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It doesn't work for those that want to be wanted if you know what I mean. The ones that do not want a meet of mutual respect. They want the other party to virtually be on their knees, so they would never stoop to a message saying "Yeah you guys look good, I fancy some of you" because it removes some of their imagined power.
S
I don't know what you mean? "
Basically there are a few on here that no matter who much they fancied the pants off you they would never say so. So for those our message of, "We like your xyz, sounds good, please take a look at us & of you like have a chat" will fall on deaf ears as even if they did like us they would be relinquishing some of their power by admiring they want us as we want them.
Admittedly we have only come across this twice, once after a good few weeks they messaged us back and we got into a very interesting discussion on it & we still chat now.
The other we bumped into at a club as said on other post.
Basically they will never say they want you, never first message, never open a conversation in a real world situation & it isn't because they have shy type social hangups, it's because to do so would lesson their own feeling of attractiveness, reduce their "power" for want of a better phrase maybe.
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"What would you like to start the conversation with? I always start with politeness and if you delete that then no point messing with them anyway
Hmmmm... how about "Hello fellow member of fab, I notice from your profile you have tits and a vagina" (shows profile interest) "I cordially request that you accept my invitation, to part your legs and allow me to insert my cock into aforementioned vagina, pictures of cock attached" (uses polite words, cock pics must of course be taken over a toilet to provide scale)
Do you really think that would work "
Buyer beware, suggested message may cause undesirable consequences.  or it may work, there are some weird women on here... shit where us the hard hat emoticon..... |
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"Why oh why do a lot of you insist on writing crap like "hey" "hey gorgeous", "fancy it? " "what you doing?", "you should let me lick you", "I'm the best you're gonna get" ........as first messages? ?????
I'm not saying write war and peace but if someone has gone to the effort of writing something in their profile at least take time to read it before messaging.
*(Sorry I'm in a grump. ...rant Wednesday)"
Hey gorgeous, fancy it? |
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"Why oh why do a lot of you insist on writing crap like "hey" "hey gorgeous", "fancy it? " "what you doing?", "you should let me lick you", "I'm the best you're gonna get" ........as first messages? ?????
I'm not saying write war and peace but if someone has gone to the effort of writing something in their profile at least take time to read it before messaging.
*(Sorry I'm in a grump. ...rant Wednesday)"
Conversely, though, if a guy has made a lot of effort writing a well thought out message and I then look at his face pics only to realise I just don't fancy him - I feel really mean and guilty because he's put all that effort in for nothing! 
Hence a few words will do for me - as long as they're not crude and some words have at least two syllables! To be fair it's the profile itself and the pretty pictures I'm more interested in!
If I don't find them attractive it's not happening however amazing the message! Xx |
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I prefer using other features of the site to try and catch the eye, As a guy there seems very little point sending the first message.
I rarely send them anymore as however well thought out and written 99% of the time you don't get a reply and so it's just not an efficient use of time.
I understand women like to receive more considered messages but that's not necessarily the same thing as what works for guys.
If guys are going to message first it's a choice of sending out high volume low quality messages or low volume higher quality messages and they will do whichever they find works best for them.
If going the the low volume higher quality message route then it can work but in my experience its important to have a way of targeting the right profiles. |
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When a man reads my profile, and writes a list of everything on there, it proves he can read.
If a man reads it, thinks he fits the bill and messages hi, fancy a chat, I can look at his profile and decide whether I want to or not.
Occasionally, someone writes a different message that interests me, something unusual, and piques my interest. It still doesn't mean we will meet. |
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"A little profile reading and something unique to that person helps...
Nice shoes lets fuck doesn't seem to work
When I'm sending the first message I will read a profile and take something interesting or funny from it to send.
I always think in aclub would you just walk uo to someone and say "wannafuck"....I mean you could but probably get a slap or kicked out. "
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"I'm happy with a short first message. People would be well advised to spend the time putting effort into their photos and profiles because I've looked at that and made my mind up before I've even opened the message.
I don't want some carefully crafted, personalised epic, because if I don't like their profile it's getting deleted. I'm "rude" like that.
Completely agree we just say stuff regarding their profile ask them to take a peek at ours if they like then chat..Simple really,
It doesn't work for those that want to be wanted if you know what I mean. The ones that do not want a meet of mutual respect. They want the other party to virtually be on their knees, so they would never stoop to a message saying "Yeah you guys look good, I fancy some of you" because it removes some of their imagined power.
They do exist, we've crossed paths with one or two on here.
S
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I can imagine. The messages of fawning adoration type stuff massively put me off but some people must be lapping it up because I get so many of them when my filters are down. |
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1st Messages are a minefield.
There's foolproof formula. People like to be approached in different ways. I'd also like to add that it's not only single males who mess up here. You should see some of the messages I've had from couples in the past. |
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By *ay19720Man
over a year ago
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"From my _iew..I have done just as u said..read profile. And iput in a little quote from it so they know I have read it..but u can write a nice intro and it just gets binned..after about 1000 you write it wears..but I have found the forum gets you chatting better..its more social.
Right serious question, how do you decide who is worthy of a decent message? We have guys say this to us all the time, I've sent 100's of decent messages and got nowhere so why choose our profile to change?
Do you look at the woman and think she is worth a decent message or she isn't worth a decent message?? Just curious"
I always try to engage in convo with ppl in my messages. .I always said a nice one.....I just said after 1000 it waer on you...not that I don't bother....I was just giving a reson as to why some don't bother.......also some cant spell..lol  |
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"Why oh why do a lot of you insist on writing crap like "hey" "hey gorgeous", "fancy it? " "what you doing?", "you should let me lick you", "I'm the best you're gonna get" ........as first messages? ?????
I'm not saying write war and peace but if someone has gone to the effort of writing something in their profile at least take time to read it before messaging.
*(Sorry I'm in a grump. ...rant Wednesday)"
No idea why you're questioning those messages. They work a treat! |
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These days I tend to write a nice long, carefully considered first message, based on a number of points taken from the profile, then delete it before sending to save time! |
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By *arlo82 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Why oh why do a lot of you insist on writing crap like "hey" "hey gorgeous", "fancy it? " "what you doing?", "you should let me lick you", "I'm the best you're gonna get" ........as first messages? ?????
I'm not saying write war and peace but if someone has gone to the effort of writing something in their profile at least take time to read it before messaging.
*(Sorry I'm in a grump. ...rant Wednesday)
Conversely, though, if a guy has made a lot of effort writing a well thought out message and I then look at his face pics only to realise I just don't fancy him - I feel really mean and guilty because he's put all that effort in for nothing!
Hence a few words will do for me - as long as they're not crude and some words have at least two syllables! To be fair it's the profile itself and the pretty pictures I'm more interested in!
If I don't find them attractive it's not happening however amazing the message! Xx"
Oh definitely if there's no attraction then I say thank you for the message and apologise that they aren't for me xx |
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"These days I tend to write a nice long, carefully considered first message, based on a number of points taken from the profile, then delete it before sending to save time!"
Hahaha |
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I've sent a message out to someone in Wales, making a few points out of profile, still unread, but I have seen she is more in forums than reads her messages, so no doubt my message will be missed soon |
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"A little profile reading and something unique to that person helps...
Nice shoes lets fuck doesn't seem to work
When I'm sending the first message I will read a profile and take something interesting or funny from it to send.
I always think in aclub would you just walk uo to someone and say "wannafuck"....I mean you could but probably get a slap or kicked out.
We are of the same mind then.
I treat fab like being in a bar or a club. Not a sex time. For me it I just a tool for people with similar interests. Manners cost nothing yet get you everything!"
If you met someone in a club would you expect the opening gambit to be?
'Hi I can tell you're respectful gentleman of discerning taste and an attractive mixed race, well groomed young man, and I must say you do smell intoxicating.
I see (from the outline) that you are smooth where it matters, cut and around 7 inches in length with a good girth, very nice.
I appreciate just because I've begun talking to you that it doesn't mean you wish to play with me and I can imagine you have a busy hectic work long life and indeed an extensive social life.
You like to travel I guess and would imagine you've spent many a good weekend with people who you've got on well with. Most importantly I bet you have a liking for naughty hotel meets, Am I right?'
Thought not!
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